How INTPs can improve their Fe

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[@caesare.j.w.668]

Fe is something I have learned to practice and exercise, thus making it stronger, but it's almost always uncomfortable. And most of the time I find myself kind of forcing and faking emotional reactions, just to be congenial, and so people don't think I'm a psychopath lol.

[@天靈靈地靈靈-l2d]

me too. I hate the felling of hypocrate

[@mattk1124]

I have the same thing..and it’s so hard because it’s a contradiction to the truth which I really strive to

[@TaxingIsThieving]

⁠@@天靈靈地靈靈-l2d What has Hypocrates got to do with it

[@niravsavla9993]

Man ur an intp but ur still explaining emotions! Hats off to u!

[@erinhill9408]

I grew up in a family loaded up with Fe...2 INFJs, an ESFJ, and an ISFJ. As the only NT in the household, I did feel like an alien from another planet on occasion 😂. It was incredibly beneficial though in that it really forced me to develop my Fe - if I hadn't it would've been next to impossible to communicate effectively with my family. Is my comfort zone logic? Yeah, always will be, but being able to pull from my Fe when I need to (not super well, but somewhat decently) at work and in life sometimes feels like a bit of a superpower. So, thanks family 🙂. And agreed; consciously swapping out "I think" with "I feel" is a practice that has been helpful.

[@julie198]

“I feel” statements make me 🤢

[@joshuapowell3526]

I feel statements are either an assumption or an subjective assessment.

[@TaxingIsThieving]

Interesting, my ESTP boss was disciplining me gently yesterday with "I feel you are struggling..." Never heard him say "I feel" before.

[@lisafoster3494]

Me too My Mom was an ESFJ and sister an ENFP and a brother who was a ISFP so I did not fit and my Moms FE was overpowering to me...

[@CognitivePersonality]

In my experience INTPs have an excellent use of Fe, but owing to it's position in the stack tends to exert a more divergent influence. For example, rather than expressing emotion, like you say, such as an Fe-convergent would (ESFJ, ENTP etc), the INTP would be more observant as to the emotions of others instead. Learning to use Fe in a more convergent manner like you describing is fantastic for the type's development!

[@Ignasimp]

What do you mean by using Fe in a convergent manner.

[@CognitivePersonality]

@@Ignasimp I explore the concept in more depth on my channel, but I hope this distinction helps: Convergent - Positive, affects change, active Divergent - Negative, fears consequence, observant

[@lisafoster3494]

Fe is definitely expressed via fears and insecurities of how others see you....

[@letitiadominic2504]

I find that realizing that people are not all logical and feelings are illogical helps. Once this is understood it gets easier to accept people as they are. Also when I used to speak without filtering I came off as harsh and my friends and sister were the type to tell me that it was harsh and and showed me how I could have rephrased my thoughts without hurting another’s feelings. I guess that helped me developed my Fe. Also In college I studied mass communication and that course put me in all sorts of uncomfortable situations with others. I had to mind my words. Apart from that most of my coursework was conducting events with a group of people. I also often took up leadership roles often cause nobody else wanted to,this helped me as well because I had to relay my ideas across to different types of people. So I now know how to communicate with different people. I’m not saying i’m the best at it but I am better now than I was before. I believe that being introspective helps. For example if you get angry then sit in a quiet corner and try to identify what caused that anger. Finally accepting that you’re human and have emotions helps as well. I feel that most INTP’s don’t think they belong and that overtime makes us feel less human and more like a robot so accepting that you’re human that just thinks differently can help as well. I have more tips but the comment is getting to long.

[@CricketRodeo]

I'm learning about "Connection Codes" to try to strengthen Fe (and Fi). They talk about emotions (which every human has) being very valuable to relationships because (1) the human brain is wired to connect deeply with others through emotion. (2) Also, unprocessed (buried) emotions can cause sleep problems and a wide variety of health problems. So they recommend a daily (or more) practice of processing your emotions. The limbic part of the brain has 5 sections, which they further break down into 8 emotions total: Fear, Joy, Anger, Guilt/Shame, Hurt/Sad/Lonely. At least daily, share with someone for 2min the recent times you felt each of those emotions (only 15 seconds each). They need to listen intently and quietly but still audibly (by saying "Oh" or "Awe" or "Wow" or "Really", or whatever), WITHOUT correcting you or trying to fix your problem. Just listening and regarding your emotions. Then you switch and they share their emotions with you for 2min and you're the listener. So it takes 4min each time. Eventually, this will retrain your brain to learn that sharing emotions is not a scary or big deal to avoid. You'll learn to process your emotions in a healthy way with someone (instead of burying them) and to listen to theirs without trying to fix them with logic. The idea is to just follow their emotion and comfort them (or be happy with them), instead of trying to be correct/factual. It's creating healthy neural pathways and also deeper bonds in your relationships. It takes almost a month for neural pathways to solidify in the unconscious so keep it up....same with 13min daily meditation if you're trying to correct any toxic thought patterns (according to Dr. Caroline Leaf). Thank God for neuroplasticity.

[@LV-ow5wv]

Emotions are difficult to adress for us, but when they do hit they are almost uncontrollable. It's either lack of sympathy or breaking out. Being around other emotional people makes me feel extremely uncomfortable, either I respond by being utterly confused, either I get annoyed, or worse sometimes I find it hilarious. Also, it happens to me so often that I say something considering it as an objective truth, without thinking it may hurt someone, and I am just unable to feel sorry for what I've said...

[@joshuapowell3526]

It's difficult in a way. And goes unaddressed, it's not about wanting to not address it but more like, I wasn't given the tools to successfully address said emotion.

[@funnysecksnumber6998]

*Not enough Fe to seduce this ENTP* Me: REEEEEEEEEEE *analyses situation, starts watching this video*

[@crazygeorgelincoln]

All to often I've found them weaponized and used against me. Also chronic depression is not helpful.

[@tilinapple]

crazygeorgelincoln hmmm yes. My parents were emotionally abusive and they would make fun of me when I cried for example. Not very helpful for my Fe

[@kr-666]

I was at homecoming and I was sitting next to my date and this INFJ was playing a game where you try to get a softball into a can or something and we were sitting almost directly behind the can and I had $25 in my pocket and I said “25 bucks to knock me out” and she just kinda looked at me awkward and worried and in my mind I thought oh shit that was a big mistake, and now I can’t stop thinking about it help me.

[@user-or2mb9hh9c]

Me at @6:03: but I think I'm quite empathetic already Also me at @6:16: Oh You look good with this new haircut btw

[@AK-jt7kh]

Has anyone counted the gulps and uhms in this “deep, emotional video”. There’s been quite a few.

[@liquidcryo9065]

Dude! I also did theater as a way to conquer my stage fright. I just got tired of making all the efforts to get a grade, but I would get so nervous that I would take an "F" instead. Christ Jesus is Lord! Maranatha!

[@nachannachle2706]

INTP will improve their Fe by accepting that people are and will always be nonsensical (from a technical perspective), by playing the game when the situation requires it, by distancing themselves as soon as the situation has passed. It is a switch on/off procedure, and that's all there is to it. :)

[@linyenchin6773]

False; people are *of sense(s),* that's how we detect eachother via senses = people are "sensical" as opposed to "nonsensical." Search your feelings(which aren't emotions but simply your senses) and you will know it to be true.

[@nachannachle2706]

@@linyenchin6773 This is what I mean when I say keep it simple when it comes to Human interactions. The more you over-analyse, the less you are able to connect. :)

[@linyenchin6773]

@@nachannachle2706 it's you who are refusing simplicity by pushing generic conflation~obfuscating of truth, disrespecting linguistic integrity, tuning what is to be math, into stupid confusion of fickle, vulgar and obnoxious emotion...

[@Naturenerd1000]

You're right when you're around alot of emotional people you have to learn how to express what you are feeling, be more opened and open your mind up to different perspectives. It helps you understand the world and people alot better. Even yourself. Tone down the cold hard logic and just listen sometimes. Now I sometimes get stuck in these modes of either emotion or the harsh logic of a chess game. There's kind of a tug of war between the two getting in the way of important projects and goals. Emotional regulators always fail or activate at the wrong times. When you know you should be happy or have a better reaction nothing comes out. But when you have been calculating the right steps to complete a goal for several weeks Fe emotional regulators fail rusting out. A flood of emotions can sometimes ruin presentation or make communication suffer; making the goal at higher risk of failing or being delayed. Sometimes doing the right thing and pushing emotions back causes long term emotional regret and pain in the future. I think there is a logical component to emotions, because emotions can prevent you from doing stupid or potentially long term damaging actions before hand that logic by it's self doesn't think about. To put it short an emotion of not to do something saves many peoples' lives and futures everyday. Having a lack of emotions is like an important warning system out of batteries. Luckily INTP's still have emotions it's just not always visible to people on the outside all the time. Perfect logic requires a ballance of emotions and logic to be complete.

[@linyenchin6773]

7:01 "shake the roots of your brain." I would say; *"letting the word play lead the flow of your cognition."* I say wordplay because that's what it is; your swapping "I feel" for "I think" does lead the flow of your cognition via shift through the "cognitive axis" of your "Ti Hero" and "Fe inderior," allowing your "inferior functionk0" to become elevated in "aspiration" as it swings off rotation that lends it momentum as if it were being pushed up in "efficacy" by feeding off your "Ti hero." Or, at least; that's how I see it...!? Sorry for bombing my opinions everywhere!!

[@kyrlics6515]

Youre adorable

[@33Jenesis]

I don’t think my Fe has improved for the past 5 decades. That “my heart’s about to burst” sensation is my constant companion. I am either that or I avoid people and emotionally charged situations (like visiting dying people in hospitals and going to funerals and weddings). I was with a gigging band and now with a barbershop chorus. Singing and performing on stage is the closest I come to express emotions and feelings. Even that, I often feel that I was rather synthetic.

[@rogerhuggettjr.7675]

That is the perfect thing for me. If I'm stressed or bottled up I vent it out by going to youtube and singing my favorite song at the top of my lungs and going from video to video in a stream of consciousness way until I am physically and emotionally spent. The oldies of the 80's from my teen years pack the most power. Beyond that, watching these INTP vids validating how I was made relaxes me that I am exactly what I was created to be.

[@tsu4869]

that's a very complex subject for me. I've come from a toxic family, so I have a lot of trust issues. Even though, Ive tried to open myself a little bit more to one friend that i don't distrust 😅... if it makes any sense 😅😅😅😅

[@lisafoster3494]

I so relate to your talking style...correcting my word usage in the middle of talking, and tripping over my words its so frustrating but with word accuracy being so important as an Intp its just part of what we deal with..if people could just digest our thoughts instead of having to spit out simplistic responses that do not even come close to expressing the complexity of our thoughts...it really does suck!!! Lol

[@WalkingScriptureWithShanna]

I am an ENFP in a relationship with an INTP. We are cognitively aware that I think with my heart and he thinks with his brain. But I still have a brain, and he still has a heart. I just give him time to process things when I start talking about feelings.

[@charity_Y725]

You are adorable 😍 #infj Jazz helps my feelings, boo. 😘

[@kimtopology4257]

As an INTP my Fe is better developed but I will not express my negative emotions in front of people but only when I'm alone I'm pretty sure I'm not alone in this aspect .

[@joshuapowell3526]

I don't have lingering emotions. They're all very fleeting. I had a realization that I was in denial. Right now, that "is "distant. I feel nothing usually. Edit: is instead of feels.

[@mattk1124]

It’s weird because I am very articulate with thoughts and ideas but when it goes to small talk I’m terrible

[@karo7355]

if Fe were a woman, she would be very talkative. Why? Because she doesn't want to listen. Analysing things is too much for her. That's how she covers her weakness. How to exploit Fe? Ask questions and wait for the right answers.

[@linyenchin6773]

4:54"caricteristicol qualities"!?... you pulled an INTJ(making up terms on the fly) but you were looking for *persona.*

[@krithik4907]

0:32 Yup that's true -by an fellow intp

[@lunanor]

Well as an INFJ I don't like to show my emotions to all people still I don't have a problem if they are felt or seen as reactions cuz that's me and if its in my mind its out, no pressure to try hidding them

[@girlblogger3524]

People will consider you "authentic" if you give an immediate emotional response and have a ready explanation for it. If you're not immediately reacting, you're considered fake. We don't emit emotions immediately to just about anything like a lot of people would. We think about the implications involved of the thing or situation, and then the moment passes. If the implications of the thing passes our scrutiny, we will emit the proper response... How are people so blasé with giving their emotions away to just about anything? I wonder if they are the inauthentic ones? However, I may exaggerate emotional feedback to a person I care about or if I'm just trying to be nice. There are special people that can see through this farce. I'm not sure of the personality type but I have been caught numerous times. Here's a thing to consider for improvement, when we speak out, we are offering incomplete thoughts. So an emotional person would assume whatever you said is what you mean. Be mindful of what you say because the other person does not know you do this. Even this comment is an incomplete thought. But it's rude to go back and edit later.

[@lisafoster3494]

That first paragraph is gold! My boyfriend is always pointing this out to me and thinks Im not being real with my expression but this helped me to see what it really is its my feelings have to pass thru my logical framework (Ti), which takes time. It doesnt make my feelings less valid or less authentic its just the time I need before expression can take place... WOW!!!! Thank You for your post!!! Does this make sense to other Intps????

[@heavens.sorrow]

Hello Eric.

[@linyenchin6773]

🎶🌌🎄Merry Christmas 🎄🌌🎶 Ken Carter, you having a good school year so far?

[@heavens.sorrow]

@@linyenchin6773 Yup, school has been good. Thanks for asking. Merry Christmas to you too!

[@EricTheINTP]

Hello Master Karter! I hope the revolutions around the sun are treating you well.

[@heavens.sorrow]

@@EricTheINTP They are, quite well actually.... bit cold tho.

[@hawk6143]

Uhhkks my Fe's acting up lately!!! I think I'll be fine with it under-developed

[@Griet82]

I notice in the comment sections of mtbi videos people comment on the personality types of people they know in their life. For example, i once dated an enfj girl... This is my question- how does anyone know what type anyone else is? Like are there so many people who have studied this so extensively that they can go around just typing other people? Do you have long conversations about mbti types with your loved ones? Do you have your friends take the test? Im kind of joking but also kind of serious here.

[@rogerhuggettjr.7675]

The best way is to find out what the types are of people that are important to you and it helps see how they manifest in others. I talk with my favorite Starbucks baristas who are INFJ and INFP about MBTI a lot and watch videos with my ISFP girlfriend regularly. I have a good friend that is ESFJ as well. Through gaining knowledge I understand that my ex was probably ISFJ which would have tipped me off to incompatibility.

[@WalkingScriptureWithShanna]

Lol do you NOT have conversations with your loved ones about their mbti and other cognitive assessments?

[@usamazahid5641]

Shitttty Fe for me and have same nervous energy as you

[@linyenchin6773]

I don't do singing, especially in public...unless marijuana is in my system. Feeling just the right level of marijuana high (62~72% of max high) lets me remain analytical and still expressive. Sometimes it feels like I am still the regular me of observation~interpretation but simultaneously another variation is flawlessly flowing with the impulses of emotion to; move, say or sing as stimulation for gaining specific output from others in my environment. It, generally(95% o the time) is not awkward but effective, because my flow~timing is enhanced by the high. Although it is to a lesser degree than marijuana Che/Qi; the same augment applies if I properly meditated when I wake that day(effect lasts for at least the first 4 hours or so of my day). Works best if I sandwich sleep with two half-hour sessions of meditation, this also enhances the natural effect that marijuana has on my mind and personality.

[@rionka]

dude this scared me because marijuana even makes my anxiety bigger, haha. but the meditation is very interesting.

[@linyenchin6773]

@@rionka the strain(type of marijuana) is important, maybe the right one for you exists or maybe it was destroyed by big pharma. For you, since you can't employ marijuana; just up the prescribed sandwiching of your sleep cycles with an hour, rather than half-hour sessions. This should not only give you very vivid and restful sleep but keep the calming effect of waking meditation lasting for 12 hours. I mean real meditation, which is just sitting still and relaxing. I prefer having my eyes closed as this enables the "save screen" to eventually pop up in "the mind's eye." You know that small dot of rapidly shifting images which expands as if you are diving into it, expanding until you are at the centre of rapidly fluctuating imagery? Meditation, to me; is just watching that "save screen" while being mindful of your breath and emotion, trying to be centred~stilled or so called "unbiased~detached" as you can be in the flow of your emotions, thoughts, visions and of course your respiration(which must flow without pause while your spine is kept upright as possible). *This practice is is the emotional equivalent to "taking a shit;* leaving you feeling a similar liberation as your mind can set to absorbing and digesting the new input of experience that is the new day. Believe what you will, but never forget the single thing I was born to remind people of; *Giant Robot Lives Matter!!* Note: If you suffer from aphantasia; there is no save screen but you should still gain the acuity of emotions falling into calm coherence of greater concentration, allowing your thoughts and actions to flow more smoothly, more "naturally."

[@rionka]

@@linyenchin6773 meditation techniques look interesting, thank you!

[@TaxingIsThieving]

2:40

[@86PrincessTigerLilly]

Hmmm interesting.... I'll try

[@rionka]

i can understand you. "i feel"... ahaha yes

[@linyenchin6773]

You might be too forceful with feeling the pressure of "being on the spot," that anxiety~fear which is causing you to struggle with words...I can almost feel!my heart emulating your heart rate as I "feel" your "emotion." For this; sandwich your expression(these video recordings) with meditative moments, even if it is just the 7 long n deep breaths method that they teach you in grade school as means to let your anger~frustration go.

[@linyenchin6773]

Standard Method id via gaining Wisdom... via piloting Giant Robots like Gundam!! 🎶🌌🎄🤖Merry Christmas Eric 🤖🎄🌌🎶

[@liilaclalilac]

I going through a though journey in my early adulthood, where I can't, literally, cannot survive if I dont use my Ne and Fe for day to day interaction. And on the off chance I use Ti to observe ppl, I vehemently get "punished". This double edged sword allow me to use Ne-Fe any time I feel like the situation needs it, but its suffocates me to the point I got anxiety attack. Lmao I really really did a good job being a good empath, but at what cost? My sanity?? 😂 p.s If anybody wonder what I did. I sort of working in a caregiving institutions, I used to babysit my nieces and nephews in my free time, community-social worker for 4 years, doing some liason for less educated people...

[@rogerhuggettjr.7675]

Music is the perfect medium for feeling emotion. There are songs I can't help but be moved to tears by (Oxygen by Switchfoot, Better Love by Tim McGraw, Courtesy Of The Red, White and Blue by Toby Keith). It brings me to who I was and how I felt when I hear certain songs from the 80's. Its a way of putting an exclamation point that I am more than a robot when I listen to a lyric that demands an emotional response.

[@user-sr6ki8xo6c]

I'm an INTP but I don't sympathize with Fe at all- but more with Fi. Would I need to fake myself with high amounts of Fe?

[@candicehamilton2770]

I think I'm on the more emotional side of intp and am quite expressive when I'm a little more comfortable but my social skills are... not as great

[@linyenchin6773]

9:01 "spit out" was fine, "spat out" is ok too.

[@天靈靈地靈靈-l2d]

are you in INTP yourself? you look like type 8 in Enneagram.

[@tupacb.2943]

I feel you man. Thanks for sharing. The thing with language - clever

[@2sunalibar]

May be it is good to add, express your emotion generally with good intentions and apologetic backup without having to justify its frequency and abundance. Since our sense of guilt tends to disturb our systematic thinking that is weak and subject to immediate maintenance

[@jessenceq3250]

What a cool topic to cover, and I respect you for doing so. You have great quality content. I'll cerebrally marinate on some tips I could share about Fe development, especially from a more Ti point of view...

[@Epifanut]

there are only a handful of feelings i feel that you will get throughout the day so its probably not the identification that is difficult but more of tracing back to the origin of the emotion and understanding the specifics of it, and i feel that expressing emotions to others in a physical way is something harder to do but which you also have more control over - i guess if expressiveness comes with a sense of losing control over whatever it is you are expressing, which sounds like what you are after, then that is also okay :)

[@prdiludi4432]

I hate these Fe games. Automaton for the rest of my life ✅

[@angelzitos]

well, i'm an entp but my fe is so low lmao is that a sign that i'm a little bit of an intp mixed with entp?

[@DonMrLenny]

thank you for sharing your insights with us :)

[@julie198]

Feelings are fleeting and unreliable.

[@iamkingriot]

I'm an intp and I'm not interested. Best wishes Every true intp

[@CricketRodeo]

Many care to strengthen their weaknesses for the purpose of self-development and Fe/Fi specifically to develop deeper relationships (humans brains are wired for connection through emotions), and to also avoid sleep and health issues that can be caused by unprocessed emotions.

[@encounteringjack5699]

So is Fe the expression of feelings and Fi is the feelings kept in for the self? If so, I see why this is rejected by Eric Strauss over on talking with famous people.

[@linyenchin6773]

Eric is a senile Dumb-Fuck that doesn't get refined cognition via his overuse of marijuana but instead cognitive impairment that's compounded by his old age related cognitive impairment, nothing more. Depth Psychology is also stupidity, especialy MBTI but so too is just basic psychology...so are people as a whole... Anyhow; as for the Dumb-Fuck concept of "cognitive stack" and the distinction between so called "Fi" and so called "Fe" is that one(Fi) generates and structures emotion and the other(Fe) observes and seeks to be bakanced within the ambient flow of emotion that makes up their atmosphere, be it among friends, family, schoolmates, close neighbours, their town~city, province~territory~state~parish. People with so called "Fe" as their top two so called "cognitive functions," are annoyingly stupid in subverting their own desires to kiss up to society at large, they are the extroverted party addicts that whore their souls out while pretending to be "better" than people with the so called "Fi" as their top two "cognitive functions." The so called "Fi" are "lost in dreams" like the "Dreamer" aka INFP who use introspection into the flow of their own emotion to gain deep insight into the flow of cause and effect in and of emotions. This power lets an INFP(where not distracted) see the flow of your life through the lens of your emotional patterns, in the same way that an INTP sees the flow of your life based on your patterns of reasoning. "Fe" looks outward to the emotions of society, "Fi" looks inward to the heart/source of emotion as it generates depths of understanding that "Fe" requires massive amounts of social interaction to finally figured out.-This is the same with so called "Te" and so called "Ti." Do you like to beat around the bush like extraverts do, or see to the heart of a matter?

[@rionka]

yes, kind of. i like this. it mkes sense.

[@encounteringjack5699]

Lin Yen Chin So do you reject the idea of MBTI? you claim to be any particular type or anything? Also Eric is much more capable than you think. He gives reasons for why his model is correct. He also has videos explaining his model. He also makes it clear that he will accept any arguments against his system. Simply stating that he isn’t a psychologist and is too old is not a good enough reason to reject it.

[@encounteringjack5699]

rionka Just because it makes sense doesn’t mean it’s a good model to use. It starts to become confusing and even contradictory. It’s not a good definition.

[@linyenchin6773]

@@encounteringjack5699 oh you missed my point, now I can't correct my annoying slew of typo...not without making an image of dodging or working around your confusion (and it is confusion in your misinterpretation of my expression). *No grievance, complaint, proposition, proclamation, assertion, opinion or statement is ever "an argument." The only reason why the word "argument" exists, is to denote the activity of exchanging thoughts~words between two or more people, it's only meant to be a synonym for "debate" or "discussion" but intellectual dishonesty of "linguistic convenience" had conflated it's meaning to incorrectly incorporate; *rationale.* *You would understand, if you were capable of looking into the nature of words, rather than regurgitating the common use of them.* I am not a common Dumb-Fuck = do not "Te" the "authority" but prefer to think for myself, that's the basis of why I frown on sloppy systems of reasoning~belief, psychology being one of those, means I don't default to the opinions of psycholists.-All this just means; *I didn't claim his lack of being a qualified idiot of ivory towers credentials means his opinion is inferior to such fools(it might actually make his mind more coherent to not be a psychologist).* Reiteration, in common Dumb-Fuck vernacular: Your third paragraph is a straw man, yo! There is no "excuse" for linguistic abuse, not even your intellectual dishonesty~laziness which makes you default to general opinion aka facts.

[@NisLcCrew]

Thank you :)