How Long will a Narcissist's Obsession Last

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[@jalesapowell]

Just my opinion but I do believe part of the obsession is them wondering how come the person that once worshipped them and idolized them and do anything they said now moved on with their life and prospering and happy. The narcissist knows they are defeated because the person in now successful and happy without the narcissist presence and in their heads its like"WHY IS THAT" " Your not suppose to be living your life especially without me! And how dare you be excelling! Thats how some think.So they looking up information on you, keeping tabs etc. Its sickening smh

[@MentalHealness]

I could see that

[@TanyaDavis954]

Same i feel that is my case too

[@peachydandy2570]

If they think they can't get you (mine couldn't for years) they will stay obsessed. If you give them attention, they are already ready to discard you.

[@Rawkstar2210]

The worst part is when the obsession turns to hate. Is that because they can't have you? I get the feeling its the whole if I can't have you no one can thing.

[@deezgex]

Same but i was the one discarded and she was so quickly over me. It went from love to hate frequently and even at times told me right before no matter what i was hers and nothing was gonna change that. But it did

[@deezgex]

One time I actually got told after a discard and going to talk to her that we are still together even if we are not atm and that if we are not together im never suppose to move on. Im hers. It changed real fast

[@qiao_hui_]

OH MY GOD, SAME HERE!

[@beautypablotamarini7315]

Forever. You never know when you'll be usefull again.

[@sumaitahasan1023]

My narc ex stopped obsessing when I was no longer useful to him. So, I guess some narcs aren't actually obsessed with us.

[@marielavu]

No not the ones useing u

[@MentalHealness]

Stay safe

[@sumaitahasan1023]

@@MentalHealness Thank you Lee. Your videos are helping me get a closure I never got.

[@catmann1960]

​@@sumaitahasan1023me too

[@beautypablotamarini7315]

They can only LIKE not LOVE.

[@annascorpio117]

I pray he will leave me alone

[@Paigepensiero]

They are doing this to other ex’s too.

[@Vixinaful]

Yup! The one I have problems with has stalked his ex for 7 years.

[@Fancym80]

So basically I'm stuck for life.. cause he's in another state married for 8 years with another child and still bothering me.. and I've literally been alone for atleast 6 years cause he'll find a way to ruin every relationship i try to have and everyone's answer is but why do you allow it.. we don't allow it... and no one can understand unless they're going thru it or have gone thru it

[@sparklingloveandlight]

Omg, my ex said the same thing, that he will destroy every relationship I have and get me back if he wants to. Lol

[@TanyaDavis954]

It's more prevalent than you would know and are so many men out there.Who've experienced this in their families or their ex partners

[@hadiza1]

Exactly! Words are completely different from actions. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🔥

[@MentalHealness]

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[@DRock-s2z]

Thank you saying the arrest part. Mine would keep coming back. I was a good supply for him. But the last time he threatened to assault me 5 times and to expose private videos of me. I contacted the police. No one is going to threaten to assault me. I did not want him arrested. The police initially contacted him and reminded him of the law after seeing the texts. 2 weeks later the state prosecutor read the police report and decided to press charges. All my support system said I did the right thing and the police and prosector would not have arrested him if he didnt break the law. Ive felt guilty at time but I hope he will finally leave me alone now

[@sweetbubbleteey]

You not only saved yourself, but possibly his next victim! You absolutely did the right thing ❤

[@DRock-s2z]

@ thx. I go back and forth daily about this. This was 2 mo ago when this happened.

[@jalesapowell]

Hi Lee and Everyone! 😊

[@MentalHealness]

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[@najibahlassiter7573]

😅 I ain't never Hid in the bushes and watched anybody y'all 😅 lee you are GOLDEN

[@cathyjennings5580]

Obsession is LUST!!! EMPTY HEARTS. NO EMPATHY or Sympathetic reasoning . Their heart is COLD AS ICE. FULL OF HATE. INTENSE EXCITEMENT ADDICTION.😢😮😢

[@MentalHealness]

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[@Smi1nJax]

I have gone no contact now for a week and he has messaged me now with 4 different phone numbers . Over 300 messages

[@empressb444]

Take them all to the court for a restraining order through court. That's harassment and take it to the police station so they can contact him and warn him of charges

[@betsysimpson318]

Lee is not lying about narcissists forcing themselves inside of your life I’m trying to break up with mine for cheating on me he lives right down the street from me he does things like breaking my window open and everything I’m trying to not call the police on him anymore but i don’t know why my family still letting him inside of the house

[@empressb444]

Do what need to ve done get the law and court involved restraining order through court. Get cameras installed too

[@raq170]

Until you make mistakes, they realize you’re human and they devalue you and abuse you for it.

[@MentalHealness]

💯💯

[@Jewelz90]

Hey Lee! Thanks for being consistent and producing so much useful information. I’m sure it can be draining for you at times and I do hope you also have some for of stress relief in a great and positive way. Thanks again and keep shining! 💖

[@MentalHealness]

🙏🏽♥️

[@TheSugibee]

I got a restraining order on my ex, and he moved to another state so I know I’m safe. Well, I feel safe, he’s left me alone thus far.

[@MentalHealness]

🙏🏽

[@deborah4737]

I keep getting strange calls from Door Dash, and the phone number has an area code from Texas. Who could this be?? The narcissistic. Pathetic!!

[@empressb444]

Time to change ur number

[@NarcissistHex-nf9eq]

I agree with the intensity part., unfortunately for most narcissist it may be forever.

[@cathyjennings5580]

Thanks so much Lee!!! For confirmation. Obsession is a negative energy vibration. Thanks again!!! Do more videos about this topic. Ok?

[@MentalHealness]

You got it!

[@RidinShotgunwithLisha-ky4ss]

It really exhausting. My ex narc just moved to Fl till fhe first. He said "ill see on on Jan 1." Im like hell no you wont. Ugh

[@empressb444]

Go get a restraining order against him through court and make sure u still around your family

[@rsj4192]

From my personal experience it doesn't last long. Once they conquer you they discard you.

[@MentalHealness]

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[@sunmoonstars0369]

From what I've experienced if either you where involved.for several years or more and then the relationship dissolves (whether obsession or lov e) the other scenario is when their.is a strong mutual intense attraction and it never takes off they dont forget.

[@sunmoonstars0369]

The obsession usually is mutual and intense from what I've experienced just as described here. Narcos get bored easily if they are involved for several years with you its because of either true love- their idea of it or obsession

[@sonnenschein553]

The Phantom of the Opera, basically.

[@TM-te5dp]

I agree with the intensity part.

[@KKP20111]

Real Talk! 💯

[@daniellebtovar]

Together when we were younger. Broke up cuz he was extremely jealous. Got back together 24 yrs later. He treated me amazing throughout my pregnancy with our twins. After noticed a change. Checked his phone seen he was talking to his ex. Who was telling him to leave me. At first he stood up for me but then when things got a lil tough he started siding with her. From there all down hill. When I first found out he cheated he cried n said let's get married. I will buy u a ring rn. REALLY!! He thinks this is good timing!! He said, I don't know why I do this, I always mess things up! I stayed for our kids. But kept investigating. Found out he has been with this woman for 15 yrs!! Thru his last 13 yr relationship too. He called her when we fought. She wud come everytime. Telling me too bad I better get use to it shes not going nowhere! On top of that he had another one of 3 yrs who he wud see before work. How often idk. But we talked and she wanted nothing to do with him ever again. Said if he calls me I will call you. She thought we were separated. I've never forgiven cheating. But cause I had 1 yr old autistic twins that I struggled alone with I did. He even told them all he was done with them. But then said I sent the message. At first I thought I was dealing with autism only. But now. Def narcissistic. So cruel and heartless. Told me straight out the other day now he's never getting married. Does not want too. I was so hurt for a while. Thinking how cud someone play with my life like this. I feel like he stole the other half of my life from me that I cud of had with someone else. After saying he wanted all the things I wanted at first. Now I'm broken and not good enuf. But after telling me that finally to my face finally admitting to something. I'm furious. Want him out if my life. I tell him to leave n he won't cuz he has no where to go. But has his new social media accounts he's hiding looking for new supply. Meanwhile talking with his ex BM secretly. Make it clear I NEVER had issues with him talking to her. Then I wud be crazy. But when she started talking about me my kids flirting and telling him he can't talk to them while he's around me. He handled it all great in the beginning. Anyways he's here acting like nothing calling me babe. I've told him stop to leave or be honest as a friend then at least. I want to run away from my own home to get away. I'm glad I finally reached my end tho. This has been the weirdest hardest meanest person I have ever known. This man went from one extreme to the other extreme from jealous to serial cheater. How he don't get u don't play with people's and kids lives like this I don't understand. Yet he has 4,000 followers and people who love him n willing to stand for him. They have no idea who he really is. I'm bad and he's the victim.

[@thaboss8489]

A Baltimore Cowboy eh? 😁 Kidding. Loving your content. 👍🏽

[@danovangrinnell4479]

So true am still being hooverd.

[@MentalHealness]

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[@deha5084]

I am so very upset today. I dumped the narc 2 years ago. We dated for 11 months and I never told him I loved him because how could I? He was a dismissive jerk. There was nothing deep or intense about our relationship. I live in a small town and after a year and a half of being bothered, I finally asked a friend to tell him to leave me alone or we would tell his grown children what he was doing. I had not heard from him since March. I went to the gym today and he was there. He came over to me and said he didnt want trouble, but did I want to go for a walk or some nonsense. I didn't answer or acknowledge, but he saw my face when I turned to use the machine and said, I guess that answers my question. I am so upset that he won't leave me alone. I have terminal cancer, supposedly, although I am still hoping for a miracle. I deserve peace, but I do not know how to get it. I have tried everything. It is pathetic.

[@hadiza1]

Preach!!!

[@MentalHealness]

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[@leogettzz]

Steelers all day!!!

[@MentalHealness]

Noooooo lol. Good game so far

[@juanagutierrez8596]

This isn't normal at all I never dealt with this situation at all yes I agree he isn't normal it's not my fault at all I see it in him he tells me that I have issues he tells me that's my fault that his treating me the way his treating me I don't care about his friends because they are narcissistic they not normal I want to be happy again because that's who I am I'm a happy person loving

[@annascorpio117]

Eagles 💚🦅💚

[@danieladegan8106]

9yrs with my sons dad...finally stopped when he was old enough and now legally I don't have to respond to him..9yrs and that's with him being engaged for 9yrs lol

[@patriciadooley3058]

Tell your son to change teams! Cowboys not doing any good this year 😂😂

[@MentalHealness]

😂

[@johnmchugh4202]

Love your stuff, but just gotta say #SteelersNation 😂. Keep up the great posts, Mental Healness!

[@Zombiemegg410]

Yooooo and you are a Ravens fan? What a fucking bummer of a game yesterday 😭

[@jerseyrepresentative4786]

Obsession another word for trauma bonded for a Narc?? Sounds kinda like the same

[@TanyaDavis954]

Everyone who knows us says he is obsessed with me. To hurt me or try to get me back. We have a child. I feel i was his obsession for the first while but once he seen im not into him anymore due to his actions. Hes turned obsessed to our kid and wants VALIDATION from a child. Im confused can he have both! Will it stop ever 🤔

[@NarcissistHex-nf9eq]

It might never stop unfortunately, but if they find someone else there's a really good chance it might slow down.

[@alethiasingleton3109]

If it's 20 years it's in grain in the brain a Yo it ain't coming out Plus Kids! Nope! 😏😎

[@alethiasingleton3109]

😁🤠

[@alethiasingleton3109]

Hehe that's not nice Ravens / Cowboys

[@sandraleehurst7350]

Go Steelers!

[@jaydaniel1368]

Im a steelers fan mr lee 😮

[@briannaennis876]

My birthday was today!!! First birthday alone… I definitely thought the narcissistic ex would call… don’t know why I was looking forward to her call. 💔I’m in therapy 💔💔

[@MizzzLuna]

... wouldn't be me😂

[@Xen-AM]

Have you ever talked to anyone who’s been stalked but they haven’t been bothered by them for a while? Like, I’ve been stalked for almost 3 years but lately it’s been silent (it went 7.5 months of silence, then he tried to message me from another woman’s account. I ignored and he blocked me😂) and I’m not sure if that means he’s moved on or not.

[@EveIsata]

What's the secret to making them go away and silent? My abuser/narc will not leave me alone at all sickly obsessed with a a lot of power and time on his hand literally I clicked on this video there he is calling like a freak

[@Xen-AM]

@ I just kept ignoring and blocking him. But honestly I don’t think he has stopped stalking me he’s just being quiet and more sneaky about it. I don’t know which one is worse. I feel like the more quiet they are the worse it is honestly but one good thing is that it can give you some room to think and try to protect yourself.

[@Trymepeach]

You're finally a lucky girl after 3 years, rejoice ! Freedom must feel good, it's been a while for me since I've been stalked, hacked and harrassed for 1 year and a half by a narcissist malevolent baby evil clown and his current dejection which apparently is his "woman". Enjoy!

[@Xen-AM]

@@Trymepeach he has been messaging me again unfortunately. Since it’s been this long I don’t think he’ll ever stop.

[@Trymepeach]

@@Xen-AM Just ignore. I can't ignore my stalker because he has hacked my fucking phone and moved nextdoor (I moved out since). So you're a lucky one. They will ruin your life if they can. What I'm I saying? If they can kill u since they can't have u, they might. Don't ever answer him and cut off your geolocalisation. Stalking is for mentally ill people.

[@GracenGrit-k5q]

Ravens??

[@missesbless8862]

Hello I am looking for a private session with you

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[@TheSugibee]

I was about to ask, how you got a Ravens Jersey on w’ Dallas Cowboys star in the back. But u answered it.

[@MentalHealness]

😅😅

[@rossmarlin4947]

Im a old school dolphins fan Dan Marino lol

[@MentalHealness]

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[@Anukii]

Oh god D:

[@bettycarmella1127]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@Lifechangesat50]

The funny thing about narcissists is they think you’re naive. My narc stalks me in more ways than one. No doubt him or one of his flying monkeys are reading this comment!

[@annascorpio117]

Sorry your Ravens lost

[@TatsyanasTravels]

Right but I don’t know them people is the wild part 😂😂😂. Coughs. Tahiz at Publix in Conyers 🫢. Oh, and the group of them posted up outside wherever I go like Envegan in Atlanta 😅.

[@acedegenerate2254]

You look more like derrick henry