How Martial Arts Helps You Build Confidence with ACTION, not thinking

[@dgonzaga17]

I've started watching your videos for about a month before I set a foot in a jiu-jitsu gym. 1 year and a half later and I'm now a blue belt. Time passes fast even if we do nothing about it.

[@hotsauce0606]

That’s awesome brother

[@rickystuart9]

One of the greatest lessons in life right here. Time goes on either way.

[@BarChordA]

2.5 years later and this video has aged well - it was and still is great advice. Not long after this, I transitioned to only training Jiu Jitsu (no shade against Krav Maga, I just realized that I’d rather roll around and competitively hug my bros instead of kicking them in the groin), and I now train about 7-8 hours per week (more if I can). I still listen to the podcast every Monday and follow this channel pretty regularly. There are a lot of great online coaches, but there’s only one Chewy. I appreciate you, man!

[@Chewjitsu]

@@BarChordA appreciate ya bro.

[@bobbydabutcha]

Jiu Jitsu gave me so much confidence in all areas of my life, it's been simply AMAZING how much it has changed my life since training regularly.

[@hotsauce0606]

Man I needed this. Been in a slump without any confidence in my abilities and I resonate with the perspective separating confidence from the outcome, and how expectations make you rigid. I’ve endured and survived a lot of failure in my life and it only makes sense to use that as a strength in knowing whatever situation I get myself in, I can survive as well.

[@bmstylee]

It's always good to hear your perspective. I impersonate a jujitsu practitioner. I'll be faking my way through it tonight.

[@bravotoomuch4218]

Me, too, but I'll be faking it in the morning.

[@metalkicker23]

Mate I just started BJJ this week and absolutely LOVE your videos. Can't thank you enough man. Never give up. You really help people like myself and I appreciate it.

[@Chewjitsu]

Thanks for the comment. Good luck with your training.

[@metalkicker23]

@@Chewjitsu mate im honoured that you saw and replied to my comment. I was listening to your videos as I saw this too 🤣🤣 love you man! Please don't stop!!

[@triocha233]

@@metalkicker23 of course he’s gonna reply to your comment, we don’t wanna get nuked

[@GaryLiseo]

Sounds like you could say confidence is knowing/trusting what you can do. I’m confident in my archery because I’ve put years into it and have shot thousands of arrows. Did it come easy? No. Was it a quick process? No. Am I as good as I’ll ever be? No. I can definitely improve and will with more time. I trust my shooting, so I am therefor confident in my shots. I’ve been training BJJ for less than 2 years, but am hopeful for becoming more confident in it as I learn and refine what I’ve learned

[@Mchurchwell]

This video is what I needed to hear. I’m a 45-year-old extremely active male who recently got into jujitsu. I’m obviously not as fast and have as much endurance as I used to but I do fairly well against others in my highly competitive gym. I wanted to try a tournament but I’m so competitive that I’m afraid to lose. Doing so I might lose the drive to continue. But I think this video helped me realize that I need to have no expectations and just use it as an opportunity to learn to grow and get better at something I love

[@BarChordA]

Bro, if you want to hype yourself up to compete, search The Chewjitsu Podcast for keyword "competition" - there are several episodes with competition as the sole focus. They are full of great insights that really helped me mentally prepare for my first competition. I recommend Episode 58 - "How to Deal with Negative Thoughts, Competition Tips." As for the fear of losing, I believe you can (and will have to) overcome that. Losing is 50% of your possible outcomes for every match, so it's going to happen a fair amount. And while it definitely sucks to lose, losing is extremely useful. It's the easiest way to become acutely aware of a weakness in your game (especially when reviewed with a coach on video), which allows you to then focus on eradicating that weakness. Here's another Chewjitsu Podcast episode about that specifically: Episode 75 - "The Value of Failure." Good luck to you, and I hope you will compete if you think you would enjoy it. If you do, I can almost guarantee it'll make you feel intensely alive like few other things can.

[@rickeymcclaryjr.2350]

I completely agree with this assessment of confidence. Wise words as always Chewy.

[@BarChordA]

Me: “Huh, ‘Expectations vs Confidence,’ that sounds like a question I recently had.” Chewy: “Today we’ve got a question from Jason” Me: 👀 “And so I have been chosen.” Thanks for answering my question, Chewy! You answered it well, and I will try to assimilate that advice. Unfortunately, I sprained my thumb just before the Feb competition in question, but I got a voucher for an upcoming one in April. As Jocko would say, "GOOD, more time to train." By the way, I also submitted the Chewjitsu Podcast Drinking Game a little while back - this video triggers about 14-18 sips, depending on interpretation of word forms.

[@lgran79]

Its so rewarding, bc u hv to work so hard to get the feel for the movement...

[@domeshotdillon1108]

Id like to think competence is confidence. If you're doing these actions and become good with them and competent In said technique. You become confident in your ability to apply said technique.

[@ZakH644]

I don’t do BJJ because there isn’t a school around me, I do boxing. But I love your channel Chewy. Your advice pretty much travels throughout all martial arts.

[@JasonTodd339]

You don't need a school! Just watch a lot and a buddy or 2 to roll or drill with will take u quite far compared to the untrained person

[@skuirrelTV]

Bro some shit goes down around your gym always ambulances 😂

[@Chewjitsu]

There’s an ER right down the road

[@TheWeekendGamerz]

This advice applies to all facets of life.

[@Jose-hd2xy]

This video is GOLD!!!

[@wanderbread4217]

Being humble will boost your confidence and others.

[@xavierrodriguez7078]

I've been thinking about getting into Karate and I've been talking to the Master for a few days now and he's encouraging me to come back next week and watch the class and eventually he wants me to attend the class and I'm going to do it.

[@t-roy13]

Good analogy with the date.

[@upskirtrecruit1086]

winning and more importantly losing is a valuable experience (preferably in a controlled environment/training) for any young man, that's my advice to youngsters. you cant win them all and most problems come from those who don't know how to lose, I said it. Man sharpens man as iron sharpens iron, good work bruh

[@jasonratcliffe3137]

You are a good coach chewy.

[@SalsaBailaProductions]

In the dance world : We say fake it till you make it to generate action… like do it to the best of your ability dont hold back… this advice always worked for me… i guess it doesn’t carry the same signification;)

[@Chewjitsu]

But in the end are you trying to fake confidence or just turn off your brain and let your body move so that action gets momentum going?

[@SalsaBailaProductions]

@@Chewjitsu At the end either or but if you try to fake confidence in dance performance you don't run the risk to get punched in the face ;) Thanks for the awesome video been following you for years now!!!

[@dimapetrov2367]

I don't practice any marshal art right now - but i like your takes on phycology so i watch only talking staff and skip rolling staff.

[@devonmanska5721]

Chewy for president

[@Chewjitsu]

Terrible idea

[@devonmanska5721]

@@Chewjitsu the bar hasn't been high. I believe in you!

[@JustinGarfield1]

I always wanted to improve my confidence. I joined fraternities and everything but just rolling in bjj I feel so much more confident. I even joined toast masters you name it and it wasn't as effective. I would say martial arts is like military. It breaks you down and rebuilds you.

[@gianttigerfilms]

I do Judo but I listen to you all the tims

[@calvinchen928]

I’ve been doing BJJ for three months now and I never really understood how much of a difference confidence makes in the success or failure of a move until now. There were positions that I would get stuck in during my first few weeks of rolling that I can escape from now (like side control) and it’s not necessarily a physical or tactical improvement. It’s more like a mental barrier breaking. Once I know I’m able to do something, I’m not as worried about committing the energy required to do so.

[@haroldlee4037]

"Fake it until you make it," I have always seen as similar to the John Wayne quote "Courage is being scared to death, but saddling up anyway."

[@badassoptic]

BJJ felt similar to my first $100K from online business within 6 months. Long journey, tons of frustration

[@PincheeGabe]

Lmaoooo you’re mad corny for this bro

[@liferider1758]

Well said.

[@theyoungfool.1895]

Don’t fake it, too make it!

[@DanishF]

Having an awesome beard builds confidence too. Coach please do a beard styling tutorial.

[@ospice4612]

Mindset is key 🔑 to the lock 🔐. Get the book mindset by Carol Dweck. Helped me.

[@MinhaFamiliaAQBJJ]

Woooo chewy time

[@kylieminou7775]

"Do everything with the confidence of a six year old wearing a Batman t-shirt"

[@Deathblade]

My 6-year-old son started BJJ classes about six weeks ago, specifically because he REALLY lacks confidence. How long until he starts improving on confidence? Maybe this is a dumb question, but I don't have a martial arts background. He loves the classes, and has been learning some great stuff only in the few weeks he's attended. I'm not rushing him, I'm more curious about what I should be expecting.

[@Chewjitsu]

It’s hard to say. There’s not an exact linear path for someone. But generally speaking as he gains the ability to overcome situations that were too challenging for him previously, he’ll start to gain confidence in his abilities and what’s possible.

[@jeremy41234]

As Jordan Peterson says, there is an implicit threat of violence in every interaction we have especially man to man. Being able to handle conflict goes a long way in having confidence in dealing with people would have intimidated you before. Having a confidence in your self defense ability increases the subconscious place you sit on the competence hierarchy.

[@02au17]

I feel like when he said that, some people tried to turn it against him to make him sound silly but that has always stuck with me and i think it is very true

[@xavier9319]

What if I write how it’s gonna end on paper and put it an envelope, and give it to the judges before the match ? Will it make me rigid like Gordon Ryan? Hahaha love you chewy 💪🏼

[@Chewjitsu]

That’s different. Gordon is on another level than him and us. 😂

[@danielderrick7383]

So I've been doing martial arts for coming on 3 years now and it's done wonders to help my confidence, my little brothers been having a tough time in school but he's not into anything sportsy and dosent like the idea of trying out martial arts. Do you think bjj might be a easier place for him to start rather then a stand up martial art?

[@Sam-tg6ee]

Hmm the take you have (don’t compete if you are just getting smashed in the gym) is an interesting standpoint. I have heard nothing but the opposite from lots of people and coaches. What if you only go against more advanced people, what if you drill techniques all the time? Personally I think that “don’t compete if your getting smashed” is a weird standpoint

[@D_M_T_Experience]

The world would be a much nicer/better place if everyone knew how to properly RNC eachother lol

[@TheOriginalPain18]

Thanks Chewy I needed this for my first kickboxing fight next weekend

[@trains4nothng]

love the video, i also agree that fake it till you make it is not the best advice. i was wondering what your opinion about reading martial arts books and then training solo is. i am in the process of finding a school and starting learning bjj. but i have been an mma and martial art fanatic for my whole life, "training" with conditioning for mma in mind for about 16 years i had a few years i was sick so lets call it 11 years hard dedicated conditioning. i know that this is a very relative question but do you think that having read alot of books about techniques without guidance could actually make me worse than if i was learning from a blank state?

[@Chewjitsu]

Saving for a question

[@trains4nothng]

@@Chewjitsu sorry i was probably unconcise, do you think training from books is bad assuming you will eventually go to a gym?

[@JimLBon]

I always tell my instructor and training partners that I wish there was a pink belt and it was four levels below white. That’s where I’m at. And I’m pretty confident about it.

[@evanfinley2198]

havnt done a competition yet because i can only smash very new people.. i still get enough out of rolling with the people at my gym its enough for me.

[@Garronrom828]

Chewy where’d you get that shirt?

[@theaudiomelon]

I've always hated "Fake it till you make it"

[@MagniMark]

Where did you get that T-Shirt?

[@zdane5524]

A white belt here. A guy in my club gave me his back as a starting position. So, as I was sitting behind him, my hooks in, he tucked his chin in, and grabbed both his collars tightly. I had no idea what to do. Can you give me some advice? Love your work, keep rockin'!

[@robertturner7090]

I like to think I have a pretty right defense for a white belt. What works for the higher belts in this position is often to use a forearm across my forehead to peel my head back and expose the neck. You have a lot of leverage across the top of the head, and even protecting their neck, they are still vulnerable to a RNC across the jawline.

[@zdane5524]

@@robertturner7090 Thanks, brother! I'll try it next time. :)

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[@sebasdavis8081]

How can I write in?

[@NormenBatez]

There's only one competition for Krav Maga.....and that my friend is WAR!

[@rustyshackleford6318]

Hey chewy. Where do I submit questions? Are they just based on the comment section?

[@Chewjitsu]

Email or social media messages are probably the easiest.

[@BarChordA]

The best place to submit questions is from the back, where you can attack them but they have very limited attacks on you. Good luck!

[@etherealessence]

I ain't fakin nothing. I'm the most lethal thing martial arts can produce. I'm a spazzy, submission rippin white belt and I don't have to take crap from no one! >:(

[@diggocombs4548]

Some people think intellectual property is everything 🤷‍♂️

[@Chewjitsu]

huh?

[@bigemoptop9651]

To me I feel like you just didn't understand what "Fake it till you make it" means. To me it means do something without confidence "faking it" and then afterwards you have confidence "making it" which is what you said you preferred lol I know not the point of the video but I thought it was funny because it seemed contrary. Someone let me know if they disagree with the definition of the expression.

[@Chewjitsu]

I know what it means. Problem is. People hear fake it and they think it’s a mindset problem. That they can think themselves into being confident. I get these kind of questions all the time. You can’t. You ignore the feelings of insecurity and just do it anywayZ

[@bigemoptop9651]

@@Chewjitsu thanks for the response I understand where you're coming from. A saying that's similar that I like better is "Have courage until you don't need it" seems like it fits better with Jiu Jitsu. It's all easier said than done though lol have a good day

[@bakekay21]

💯🙌🔥

[@jarotblakemore9661]

First!

[@bravotoomuch4218]

Lucky.

[@maxanderson3733]

Wait if you can’t fake it till ya make it then why do Mcdojos seem to have such great success?

[@Chewjitsu]

Cause they're full of shit and people lack commonsense and enjoy being fooled.

[@AdamAnderson-y2q]

Im confident that i suck

[@FurdgeBJJ]

There’s nothing fake about belief

[@professor_peculiar619]

Missed the Ambalance 😇

[@e-agle]

What’s the intro song?

[@ChrisDoss12]

Martial arts can help your confidence.... UNLESS YOU SUCK!!!

[@jimreily7538]

You keep going until you don't suck. That's what I think.

[@mr.mayhem5438]

I could fake anyting where do you live