How Much Do Looks Really Matter in Relationships?

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[@eyenmathis4824]

I got lucky. My wife wears NO MAKEUP EVER and is absolutely beautiful ...and the personality she has is that of an angel. Been married 21 years

[@JimFrenowsky]

Same, coming up on two years! First kid on the way. Cheers man!

[@bowhunter341]

Age gracefully that is beautiful and that's what I'm embracing. I'm 46 today and my hair is turning gray and I'm so loving it and I don't wear makeup never have. I love me for me and so does my boyfriend 🤗

[@erikasmith8894]

@@bowhunter341 Happy Birthday to you!🥳🎉

[@Leland387]

​@@JimFrenowskyI wish y'all all the happiness and health in the world as well as luck when it's needed. 🎉🎉

[@andrewfossatti4937]

Looks reel you in, personality locks you down. ❤

[@LouisC777]

Exactly

[@lorieakin5771]

Looks attract you, who they are makes you stay.

[@Sarap777]

I do believe physical attraction entangles with chemistry. It’s usually on the forefront that brings people together. Then the foundation can be built on the nature and characteristics of the two people.

[@brendamcalhany4355]

My husband and I have been married for 36 years next month! We have 1 daughter and 1 son, and 5 beautiful granddaughters! He’s my best friend and I’m truly blessed by the Lord to have him!! I love listening to y’all and know you have a lifetime to look forward too!!

[@terencew7716]

Looks are important but a woman's attitude and personality matter more

[@anthonyurgitano2114]

So if a woman is 700 pounds and very ugly but has a great attitude and awesome personality a heart of gold and a great smile you would date/marry her?

[@Dwall44]

As a blind person, no… Looks are not everything.

[@GrosvnerMcaffrey]

But you can feel people's faces so in a way it still does

[@graylon6010]

How did you find the comment section

[@Dwall44]

@@GrosvnerMcaffrey no it really doesn’t. Also, no blind people have ever done the face feeling thing lol. I myself have never done it because I find it extremely strange.

[@Dwall44]

@@graylon6010 A screen reader on my iPhone.

[@stevegonzales527]

Lots, women lie about looks not mattering but it’s a major role next to confidence.

[@jeannettejerez4268]

Looks do matter. Many people say Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and they are right. Love is a decision.

[@bluestripe5682]

Looks do matter, but thats not the only thing that counts.

[@toollady3107]

I think most women have a slanted view of their looks. High school was where most self images ( looks) become the forefront of our lives. In high school and probably until maybe late 20s, looks are the hook to attract opposite sex. For some they never outgrow that mentality, for most as you get older you learn to value the most attractive thing about someone is their heart.

[@donlott7072]

The looks are what pulls you in. After that the personality comes into play.

[@diesel_enduro]

Subbed for Officer & Mrs. Tatum....true American dream of a family! God Bless

[@BrokenDonkey]

Love this. Looks don’t go far at all. Most super model looking couples that are “influencers” etc never last. The foundation is the personality and how they mesh together which creates the absolute most solid foundation for any relationship.

[@Viejitosoyyo]

I literally just had this conversation about Sis. Lol… not married, not a problem. God can use me in other ways other than marriage and children. Life is still good.

Yes and so does the fact people being truthful to reality..

[@BigPete44]

The Tatum’s!! ❤️💪

[@MidwestHome_Hens]

We are approaching 33 years married and I love to say the number!! It’s an accomplishment and young and old people alike are amazed to hear it. It’s not superficial or pointless to say it

[@jeanettelapierre7824]

Looks are only for initial attraction. Then you get to know the person. That is where the love happens or doesn't.

[@RoseReadings]

You are such a lovey couple ❤❤❤❤❤ so genuine

[@robinblankenship117]

Love this! Tatum's rule!

[@stevegonzales527]

You know what’s funny about anniversaries, people make it seem like it’s the most importing thing in the world. But hood dudes when they say “I’m married to the hood” you don’t see them saying “it’s our hood anniversary” 😂

[@user-ks8gp4rv2w]

Poor fellow stumbling on his words..😊On this topic I do believe it has a balance you gotta be attracted to the person 😘we are well ya know😘 however ones insides makes them the most beautiful for the outside vessel may change yet the heart stays the same so look over does your mate make you smile and laugh..can you speak to them without words.for marriage and companship that is a living recording of you..much love.. respect..man you guys send me off on to many thoughts..😂

[@dana-dane]

30 years here for me and hubby. But it does help when ya connect. We knew each other for at least 3 years before we went there. Took timing. We can't even imagine dating today.❤😂😂

[@mattstanford5164]

I'm destined be alone 😔

[@erikasmith8894]

Don't think that sir. I know it's tough out there, but keep the faith and just be yourself. The right woman who will see you and love you for you, God will send to you. Bless you.🙏🏻💯

[@Kiki-fe2le]

If you have the Holy Spirit indwelling you, then you literally can’t be alone. You will also have a new family of believers all over the World.

[@sjsuismylife]

Welcome to the club.

[@sjsuismylife]

​@@Kiki-fe2leyeah.... Even God said "It's not good for man to be alone"

[@Dw_Tek75]

Looks do matter! I haven’t had a date in a long time. Now that i am getting older, it becomes more difficult attract someone.

[@jessisjourney9915]

They’re is a balance. I don’t let my husband see me the way he left me in the morning. my motto is… if you look well, you feel well.

[@jewdd1989]

Looks might be initially the first thing we think of or look at or are drawn in by but as you develop a relationship and really with anyone we see beyond physical and into who the person really is good or bad. That’s why beautiful ppl on the outside can be hideous in the cases where they’re truly nasty, foul ppl internally. Same vice versa and I think it’s a good thing

[@johnedward8352]

Beauty is subjective but there has to be an attraction physically...

[@tina6651.]

I am 58 years old & have been single for 7 years, I have no idea how to meet someone nowadays at my age.. Dating websites scare me because I watch too much true crime. Lol

[@timallen3166]

And 99.99% of women you meet have unreasonable preferences that have to be met before considering dating. For modern women, a man has to be over 6 feet tall, make 6 figures a year, has to have multiple savings plans for retirement...has to have a nice house in a nice neighborhood...blah,blah, blah. I got all of this. Yet, these same DEMANDING women bring NOTHING to the table and they consider a man is a jerk if he has "preferences" to be met before dating...if dating, he wants monogamy... he's not into "big" women...doesn't want to date a broke woman...not dating someone who has adult kids living with them...not into women with high body counts...not into women with tattoos.

[@tomhahn2633]

New Channel, officer Tatum. Love it. Spread this to the world. Blessings to you and your family.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😊

[@michaelscott5382]

Looks definitely matter but you SHOULD NEVER stay in a relationship for looks. If he/she is crazy, not good for you, has issues, etc… break up. You will not fix that person and the relationship is destined to fail. As painful as it may be, Have the courage to break up.

[@eileencoulter1073]

Tatum Strong 😂

[@eileencoulter1073]

What a great message

[@idreamofparis7233]

Looks might get your foot in the door, but if you have a crap personality that open door won’t last long. I dated guys that were fine, and some that people would consider homely. Usually the homely ones were better people. My husband of 31 yrs is attractive, but out of everyone I’ve dated he is the only one who made me laugh a lot. I joke with him saying the only reason we are still married is because he makes me laugh.

[@AhsetofAtum]

People put too much pressure on forcing things to happen in their lives, when in reality, they only have so much control. Happiness, peace, and love are always there to be found when we let go, live for God, and let him guide our lives. God is good ☀️ "Let Go, and Let God" as they say. Atum, be with you.

[@SaiyanInDisguise]

Since I was a child model when I was younger I want a good-looking girlfriend so my kid isn't born with ugliness they were getting picked on in school personality and character wouldn't be a bad either

[@Ann-um3hd]

I was born with a cleft lip it was fixed but still have a scar to show for it, so it's hard for guys to get past that, so still single

[@ShannonDove-sy7ye]

Come on now, you know that ain't true. Guys don't care about that. If you still single it's because you're too picky. Marry me....I will prove em wrong. Now I offered to marry you, so from now on you can't say "I can't find a husband"

[@Dfort_]

She was pissed 😂😂 but most women say that they care about “personality” more than looks😂😂😂

[@JimFrenowsky]

I was sick of you the first weekend 🤣

[@SeemsViral]

Tatum wife is pretty

[@CarlosXPhone]

Y'all women need to realize that when WE. MEET. YOU. That is how we remember you. Your looks is how we even wake up, and look at you. Sleeping next to your wife, you gotta have a sense of... "I love how beautiful she is." Or, "I am the luckiest man alive." So, the next rung of loving HER... is her personality. Yeah. 🤔

[@stozov2]

I got a face for radio but I'm funny and hung like a horse..So I do well

[@ShannonDove-sy7ye]

Only blue pill people think that looks doesn't matter. Us black pill dude know the truth....looks is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT

[@dbt-dt6zx]

extremely? nah

[@dolly3141]

Devon stack blackpilled or chad blackpilled? Find a nice white woman to have lots of white kids and teach them how amazing we are! Raise some bees as well 🐝

[@thetranscedenceeffect]

got big ears and cleft lip

[@jimmyjamesmichael]

Are my resources exhausted?

[@leonkennedy5862]

I don't wear makeup why should my wife.Inner beauty means way more

[@user-lu9dz8om3j]

Depends on who it is. In my experience, some guys don't seem to care about looks, and thus are married to really ugly wives. It's especially true with guys who are quite successful and could easily have done much better than that. Personally, I think the issue causing this behavior is loyalty. Or relative lack thereof. Let's face it, an ugly girl will not get as many chances to "cheat" as a pretty girl will. Also, I've found that 99.9% of my fellow brothers never matured, emotionally, beyond the, highly insecure, age of 14. 😎🇺🇸

[@gasmith7486]

Brandon I know she’s not drinking and slurring and interrupting you right??? Not becoming at all.

[@williewill1237]

Simp

[@bryantphil5577]

100% you wouldn't look twice at a chick with a 3rd eye and a mustache so let's stop talking shit

[@ArenaRat-xd8fu]

They matter a lot because you pass your genetics onto your children. Sadly good looks grant great benefits in life. If you dont care about your future children then dont worry about looks. Nonetheless personality and beliefs are just as important

[@ShannonDove-sy7ye]

I agree with you, except the part about personality and beliefs

[@ArenaRat-xd8fu]

@@ShannonDove-sy7ye you may be right about personality i suppose, however beliefs are essential. A difference in beliefs most often results in ongoing arguments and pushing of beliefs onto the other person. Being that, it would result in coercion or never-ending argument. If thats what you like then your free to find a partner that can give you that. I do not recommend this for honorable men of strong values. Id rather die alone than be coerced into falsehoods/manipulation. As they say, its better to be alone in the desert than in bad company (paraphrasing)

[@sjsuismylife]

If you're a guy and you say, "Looks don't matter", you're lying. Don't have impossible standards, but you're not happily together with somebody while thinking, "Well, atleast she has that winning personality".....

[@sjsuismylife]

I F-ing HATE when people tell the lie of "If you aren't happy single, you'll never be happy married".... Only married people who don't know how corrosive on your soul it is to be alone say this.

[@magafam4847]

Personality is 1 but can't be busted

[@magafam4847]

Qt least 6 o can find something attractive in most people