How Often Is Intimacy a Right for the Wife? Shaykh Sulaiman al-Ruhaili (حفظه الله)

[@BirdmanFL]

Ya Allah even the way they spoke was so eloquent . May Allah be pleased with them

[@long_one5491]

This is very powerful instruction but it is not just physical intimacy that keeps a wimans chastity.. if a woman never hears one flattering word from her husband she will crave it and seek it elsewhere.. so tell your wife she is beautiful and compliment her it is a kindness that is also obligation

[@BusinessandServices-jb3xi]

Yes complimenting her and showing kindness, appreciation is also important but physical intimacy is one of the strongest things in a marital relationship and it is one of the main things that will uphold the chastity of a partner

[@WhiteGeared]

Source? Did god or prophet said that it's an obligation? 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@Choyasaud28]

@@WhiteGeared Common sense Is drinking water everyday an obligation?

[@WhiteGeared]

@@Choyasaud28 No obligation by religion here. Maybe by biology 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@abdullahchaudhry1709]

@@WhiteGeared no one is saying its an obligation. However, there ahadith that talk about being the best you can be to your wife. The prophet pbuh said, "The best of you are those who are best to their wife."

[@Azothoth827]

I m so proud that i can understand small amounts of it.

[@mahrzylicious]

Mashallah

[@بلال-ه1ب]

Allahuma barik. May Allah make us proficient in the Arabic language. One of the reported instructions Umar wrote to Abū Mūsā Al-Ash’arī and those under his governance during the former’s Caliphate was: “Seek knowledge and understanding of (fiqh) the Sunnah and seek knowledge and understanding of Arabic.” [Ibn Abī Shaybah, Al-Musannaf Vol.6 p126] It is reported that he said: “Learn Arabic, for it strengthens the intelligence and increases one’s noble conduct (al-murū'ah).” [Al-Bayhaqī, Shu’ab Al-Īmān Vol.4 p187] It is also reported that he was once circumambulating the Ka’bah when he heard two men speaking in a language other than Arabic behind him. He turned to them and said: “Find some way to learn Arabic.” [Abd Al-Razzāq Al-San’ānī, Al-Musannaf Vol.5 p496] It is reported that Ubay b. Ka’b - Allāh be pleased with him - said: “Learn Arabic just as you learn to memorize the Qur'ān.” [Ibn Abī Shaybah, Al-Musannaf Vol.7 p150]

[@ubaidu11ah]

Ka'ab Al Asadi,may allah be pleased with him,what an intelligent man

[@Tazz580]

Excellent. Much needed video. Many women experience neglect of this sort.

[@Belfaucet]

Many men too. Women avoiding intimacy

[@prana888]

@@Belfaucet Women avoiding intimacy i believe is more prevalent compared to men avoiding intimacy

[@luzdani11]

@@Belfaucetmen can get another wife, men can easily divorce. Women cannot get another husband, woman do need easily divorce, women are dependent on men for support, men are not

[@Ash-zp9sy]

@@prana888of course men are always the victims 🙄🙄

[@BusinessandServices-jb3xi]

​@@prana888islam has addressed this issue also

[@musafirghayrmaeruf1]

Now go and find me videos detailed like this from other religions! Islam is the only religion that speaks about these matters in detail. This is from the proof of islams truth. Noone who made up a religion would go into such detail.

[@TheOneLogic69]

Who made up the detail? Your God or Humans?

[@masterchief5833]

@@TheOneLogic69 muhammad peace be upon him told us to follow the first three generations. their judgement is held in high regard as it is based solely of the judgement of Allah S.W.T

[@TheOneLogic69]

@@masterchief5833 So Humans then. Thanks.

[@OnePullUpKing]

@@TheOneLogic69No from the words of God which is the Quran and prophetic sayings which is divine inspiration and it has been preserved and authentically past down to the 3 best generations which held the most prominent and knowledgeable scholars.

[@TheOneLogic69]

@@OnePullUpKing Thanks

[@utubebeena]

Alhamdulillah for Islam ❤This is something not much discussed. See how islam values and honours a woman's needs 🥲. Alhamdulillah. 😊

[@Bismillah-ms]

Whoever reads this please pray for health of Rasheed and Sabiha Jazakallah

[@Liam_Forever]

Oh Allah bless the health of Rashid and Sabiha, Ameen.

[@auntiesemite9295]

You don't need others to pray for you. Allah loves the sincere Dua one makes themselves.

[@bagas_ww]

Jazakallahu khairan wa barakallahu fiikum ya akhi

[@ibrahimismail3338]

جزاكم الله خيرا

[@GilesHartop]

This is great faqeeh shaykh ruhayli

[@zerperior]

Whats more important to learn from this is peoples iman at that time, is there anyone today you can think of that fasts everyday and prays night prayers everyday?

[@UmmAfaf]

Exactly. In today’s world the negligence is a result of phone, internet, social media or gaming addiction. 😢

[@Fifi6799]

Forget the night prayers, I don't even know anyone who prays all five prayers on time every single day. Most of us including myself are notorious for missing fajr and missing dhuhr due to work/school. Too many distractions in the world today, sadly, and we've become lazy and weak.

[@zerperior]

@its unfortunate man

[@Ummsalama1234]

Sorry I forgot that the shaykh mentioned the correct opinion which is maintaining chastity.

[@aaffreeen]

Yaa Ukhti, please tell me what does it mean by "maintaining chastity"?

[@bilalomer1675]

​@@aaffreeenmeaning maintaining purity and not falling into sins.

[@Anticlimacticwhale]

​@@bilalomer1675jazakkallah khair

[@faebalina7786]

@@aaffreeenprotecting her from desiring anyone else and maintaining faithfulness in regards to that from what I understand

[@mohammedshoaib-tq6hb]

​​@@faebalina7786 and you are correct in what you understood ... alhumdullilah

[@hooman467]

Jazakallah khair 🤲🏼

[@8noisyddawgs270]

jazakAllah

[@Azothoth827]

it seems like that umar(RA)'s dialect was different ,he said "ma adri" whereas we are taught "la a3rif" in MSA which i think is based upon prophet's dialect(SAW)

[@sportsnewz5608]

Ma Adri is also used in fusha.. Ma in fusha can be to used mean what or as a form of negation. Umar RA and our Prophet Muhammad SAW both spoke the Qureishi Dialect of Maakah and Allah knows best.

[@Azothoth827]

@@sportsnewz5608 yes i know but i meant umar's way was diferent right?because we are taught to say "la a3rif" in fusha which is based on prophet and quran.

[@AdamibnAmro]

Arabic is a vast language akhi there is not one way to say things but many ways. Fusha is more detailed then modern arabi.

[@muhaimin6742]

In hadith Jibreel Tadri is used, ie "you know" أتدري من السائل "Do you know who the questioner is?" In the Arabic language ما is used to negate. In surah Yusuf ما is used to negate وما أنا من المشركين And I am not from the Mushrikeen If ما wasn't here, The meaning would be the complete opposite

[@Jirenblack98]

@@Azothoth827 There isn’t one way to say _“I don’t know”_ in Arabic. Both the Prophet and Umar spoke the same dialect. You can use both _“ma”_ and _“la”_ for negation, as well as _“a’rif”_ and _“adri”_ for _“knowing”._ These words are all found in Quran and Sunnah as well.

[@alikhanuk]

Too many women refuse and use intimacy as a weapon

[@piqueny8872]

You gotta learn more to seduce her romance foreplay This is thee reason why husband wife must have there own marital home asap so they can bond respect have a open communication with one another about there love languages so intimacy comes easily and with respect

[@infj5196]

Only the wicked does that

[@auntiesemite9295]

Astagfirullah. They should be divorced.

[@piqueny8872]

@@auntiesemite9295 if a man is refusing her rights or treats her like he’s buying her during pagan holidays valentines Eid nights his birthday of course she’s gona refuse If he treated her with compassion mercy respect automatically she give him intimacy A white women she Non Muslim when he husbands does housework as his love language she give him physical intimacy

[@erwin5731]

This sheikh is talking about women wanting intimacy

[@Soyodi]

😅😅😅

[@Ummsalama1234]

Can someone explain how this opinion is justice? He has right over her each day because he only has one wife, why would she then have right over him only after every four days? If he would have other wives she shares his rights with other wives. But with one wife it’s not the case.

[@goat2051]

Its because the urge for intimacy is strong in men rather than in women. A woman may be intimate with her husband everyday but (I'm talking about her right of intimacy over him) but it generally is not necessary because they don't have that strong a urge. But then women have hormones both pre and post menstrual cycle that makes them want intimacy and women are often shy to complain when their husbands don't engage with them, therefore it is a right over their husbands.

[@jadedpaladin6685]

Men generally have much more frequent and stronger sexual desire than women. That's how.

[@Ummsalama1234]

@@goat2051 hmm, do you have any proof for this from the Quran and Sunnah and the scholars that she has this lesser right in Islam because of the reason that you mentioned?

[@ahmedaghadi8281]

After every four days ( which is minimum ) is for intimacy. For other things like providing for food, shelter, etc is for every day.

[@wardaomarkhan489]

The right of husband and wife both is to remain chaste. So a husband's right is everyday on his wife and his wife needs his permission for keeping non obligatory fast. So that he keeps himself chaste and doesn't fall into error. Scientifically it is also more difficult for a man to hold his sexual urge compared to woman. A woman has psychological urge, whereas a man has both psychological and physical sexual urge, which is more prominent and obvious than a woman and Allah knows best.