How should you answer 'What are you looking for?'

[@ariakay143]

“Catch it!”👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@roses4me451]

Ladies, DO NOT fall for this trick! When a man asks you: "What type of man/guy are you looking for? He wants you to give him the "playbook" on how he can PRETEND to be what you are looking for. Every woman who answered this question honestly, said they were "fooled, tricked, and played." They will be on their "best behavior" with you just to get "the cookie" and you'll NEVER hear from him again.

[@MaiMcQ]

That is why we don’t give them anything for a really long time, should ween out who is serious and who isn’t. We should be praying on it as well and listening to our intuition.

[@christinamitrovich4972]

This is what I found too. To be honest I am going to start to use what he mentioned in the video.

[@kellyfrancis8999]

@@MaiMcQCookies are usually for dessert. Can we start with an appetizer, move onto an entree then discuss dessert? Relationships are a process and take time to develop. Begin with the nourishing food, save the dessert for later.

[@veronicac.4272]

I really hate that dating has become games and manipulation. I hate that people won’t just open up and be themselves because they’re so jaded. What’s naturally craved can’t even be fully enjoyed because of how broken everyone is.

[@MizzNee796]

Manipulation is 99.99% of the game. Men give love to get sex, women give sex to get love. Get in where you fit in, and stop romanticizing everything.❤

[@veronicac.4272]

@@MizzNee796 definitely not romanticizing anything and just because something is “the norm” doesn’t necessarily make it right. People have a right to want to experience love without the games and manipulation.

[@user-wr3ij3rl7q]

Gurl that's exactly what i was thinking. Everyone is so broken that we can't even get functional relationships nowadays

[@AuthorLHollingsworth]

​@@veronicac.4272I agree. It's the games for me. There are so many people that have been with a guy for a year, and no title. Sad, world 😢

[@toabettertomorrow7949]

@@MizzNee796at some point, you’re too old to be playing games, more specifically mind games. Dating and loving people involve romanticizing things. If you can’t date or love anybody properly, stay to yourself and take your broken azz to therapy😂

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

I answer like Rihanna: "Oh I'm not looking"

[@lavenderangel2655]

😂 lol that was my first thought, "let's start there." 😂

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

@@lavenderangel2655 😂👍

[@madlenj.4644]

exactly what came to my mind "First of all, i´m not lookig for a man". I was asked that as well and i think its a rude question, because someone deems that you are desperately seeking another significant. But i´m not even on one dating plattform. I´m the most single as anyone can be. I´m single AF. But how do you want to explain that to sb. whos phucking aound? Yep. You can´t because then you´ll be told that you must have needs too.

[@AkosuaFire]

Yeah. I like to see how a man moves organically without my input on what i value. Otherwise, he’ll behave according to MY standards and expectations .. and how long can he keep that up if its not his norm,?

[@neechietwentyone]

Some you still tell them and they don’t do it. That’s the sad part 😂

[@katleho-annkk8378]

😂

[@ashleylysius8716]

I be giving them a cheat code and they still fuck it up 😂

[@KeeWebb]

“I’m looking for someone to show me something good new. So I am looking to experience something new.”

[@Hope-qy8dr]

What am I looking for? One word. RESPECT!!! Let's see if you are capable of doing that much, then we can worry about the rest later. Don't tell what you are looking for outside of that because people morph.

[@christinamitrovich4972]

Good video. Going to follow your suggestion. Thank you.

[@SpunkeyMonkeyJess]

In the most warm, positive tone and body language, I simply state I'm looking for marriage. The ones that are not ready for that fall away and the ones that are, ask me what my ring size is. 😅

[@TruthSlayer1]

this is the best answer... this alphabet gang member is teaching you all the wrong tricks... no serious man wants a woman who says she wants to make a "connection" with as many people as possible... that is code word for I wanna be a 304... ain't no man taking a woman with that type of response seriously...

[@brielax4441]

Exactly!!! ❤

[@tinachristine4573]

I'm loving how your subscribers are going up. Good work and great content 🙏🏽

[@samanthasamantha1830]

I love this video! Thank youuu! xx

[@courtnmoopsmama]

Not looking for anything, but I’m open to an organic connection.

[@coilyqueen312]

This is the realist thing youve ever said and you keeo it 💯 at all tims so thats saying a lot! I want you to be who you are and not cosplay the man of my dreams. Whoever peole really are always cones out after they waist your time.

[@charmingcharlie011]

Currently responding to this question with this answer verbatim 🤣pausing the video and all

[@Poodle_Gun]

"Has anyone ever answered that question correctly?"

[@andziagreen4922]

Nope

[@EmmanuellaAgyemang-or5nx]

Yeah, I would similar answer this question like how he did

[@mora_007]

I'll know when I see it....

[@KDbelieves]

TBH, I just say, "I'm looking for my husband."

[@KT-sv6jx]

Yeah 👍 Keep It BROAD, OBSERVE, Catch It 🪝

[@goddesst5405]

Truth 🌟

[@all4Dorian]

I’m not looking for nothing 😊

[@TruthSlayer1]

Ladies as a STRAIGHT MAN, I can tell you you DO NOT want to answer this way... most men will interpret this as "I'm a 304 playing the field" and if he is a marriage minded man he is not looking for a woman who wants to make "connection" with as many men as possible...

[@earlem9771]

Not true unless the woman is a complete stranger. I think this is a great answer in the beginning because she doesn’t yet know what she’s looking for with the person in front of her.

[@TruthSlayer1]

@@earlem9771 do you even listen to yourself or is your IQ too low to even understand what goes on in your own brain? this question usually comes up in the first date when the woman is a complete stranger... smdh...

[@BooDotBoo]

If a man is thinking I'm a garden tool for meeting people and dating just like he is doing, then what does that make him? This stuff is so silly.

[@Machenziethemodel]

It’s crazy how some men label woman crazy but they themselves started off with the Tom foolery. lol. I always say don’t get mad at me because you asked me a question but don’t like the answer.

[@andziagreen4922]

Brilliant advice 👏 I have a question for your next video "What to text or say to a man who is in relationship but keep texting me" and sending photos from his outdoor activities, he didn't let me know he is not single only when I asked him, I also asked if his partner knows that he is texting me, he didn't reply to this so I let him go by saying this looks like he is looking for attention in other women and I hope he is aware it's part of emotional affair and blocked him. I will appreciate your feedback.

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

Oh he knows what he's doing 😂 He's NOT dumb

[@lstockton8468]

You don't text/say anything--you block him like you finally did. Taken men are taken men--period. And they won't be seeking you if they have anything honorable to do with/for you. You should be offended he even tried it--is that what you'd want/accept from him if you caught him??? Block him and move on.

[@wahoo4uva]

@@lstockton8468what they said ⬆️. DON’T text them.

[@cherryb5244]

I would forward everything to her girl/woman.

[@malazkarar1171]

This guy is great and I've seen him hit the mark quite a bit but I'm afraid I don't agree with this take. Truth and being straight forward is the answer %100 of the time. Tell him exactly what you want and ask him to tell you exactly what he wants and let him know you don't play games out of respect. Tell him lying about this question is an instant breakup and mean it. Keep it simple ladies!

[@lstockton8468]

Been there, done that, still single. I'm doing it differently. I'm gonna let him show me what he's about--as well as the other men I'll be dating too. They have to make it to my Olympic platforms. And if they don't, others will. Court me or leave me alone.

[@lavenderangel2655]

​@@lstockton8468exactly. Example, you like chivalry and you tell him that, and that is not a lie. You do not tell him, I like someone who holds the door and walks on the outside of the street, etc. Let him show you who he is and how he shows chivalry or doesn't, to know if you both are a match. It's okay not to be a match with them. Things like that. Because if not that is a way that they have the opportunity to be insincere, love bomb you and misrepresent themselves, using the specific things said to hook you, but then stopping and not really being that person. A lot of people also think that that's what dating is, being as impressive as possible in the dating phase and then relaxing, as opposed to showing your true self to be able connect to your true match.

[@rodericwalter2862]

#Betheobservatory

[@v.m.4453]

Terrible advice. This will just waste your time and the man's time. Ask the other person's goals and values. Fate people with similar values. Abstain from sex until you are sure (try 3 months.) There you go.

[@deirdreoutlaw1578]

Said a lot but nothing at all.. catch it 🤌🏾