HOW THE NARCISSIST PLANS THE DISCARD

How the narcissist plans the discard. The narcissist usually discards people once they have acquired whatever they want from these people. The narcissist uses and abuses people. The narcissist cares about nobody but themselves. The narcissist will move onto a new source of supply or a new relationship at the drop of a hat. The narcissist has no love or empathy within them and they only care about themselves. The discard was planned. The narcissist knows exactly what they are doing and when they want to break any particular relationship. Namaste
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[@Glyn-r]

The discard is your escape from the narcissist, whoever did it.

[@Glyn-r]

@@PurpleTreeHerbs spot on. They don't like people to see them for what they are because of their public persona.

[@RoseKent-uu7rw]

I planned the discard. He has ALWAYS ran when you confront him on his despicable acts, so I confronted him and he ran…I changed phone numbers blocked him on everything and have never spoken to him in 16 months. He is stalking, flying monkeys everywhere. You are so right about supply…I shut all my supply down…just couldn’t feed that false ego of his, so when he started with the excuses for leaving to walk the streets all night , lol,, I was getting prepared for the discard. He was grooming the next supply….i could care less….let her experience his craziness….ive had enough. narcs are absolutely crazy but they are also comical. When you know what they are, they can never get any respect again.

[@marybarrett2002]

I just signed my divorce papers. And I was dumped. I was shocked. But I know he did me me a favor. I went no contact A.S.AP… He never thought I was strong enough to do that . But I did it.. Great video.. I needed to hear this today.. Thank you 😊

[@cc1k435]

Good for you! Keep walking in the other direction, away from all that. We all deserve better, and it's so nice to start realizing that there are still lots of things to look forward to in life. ❤❤

[@Becca-367]

Good on you. They underestimated your resilience, strength and self respect. The best is yet to come. 💜🙏

[@chazbickel4518]

Good on you. The truth will always be your strength ❤

[@cynthiawlaughlin5435]

Sorry that happened but it does. 🙏

[@user-dj8vl2mq2y]

I sign mine in a couple of weeks. Sounds the same as my situation except I have not gone no contact yet, still have to move things out of the house. The narc never thought I would actually file for divorce after he discarded me. Best wishes on your new journey. Andrew speaks the truth each and everyday.

[@Yishai377]

Once the brain fog is gone you'll see what you were truly dealing with. I've been no contact for almost two years now. Never going back.

[@elkebanhart7045]

Me too 👏

[@JH-td4mn]

Me too ☺️. Everything is so so so much better after 2 years.

[@BNyaB]

​@@JH-td4mn 👍👍👍

[@karenzilverberg4699]

Exactly. The strange thing is that the narcissist is actually throwing himself or herself away by throwing away good blessings, opportunities, or situations.

[@kathleencondit1660]

So well said. Thanks.

[@karenzilverberg4699]

@@kathleencondit1660 Thanks.

[@dirtyd491]

Andrew, I just discovered your channel 3 weeks ago. And I can't thank you enough for what your doing for us victims of these evil beings. As a 53 yr old empath to a fault, I'm thankful to God that I caught on to her manipulation after 18 months instead of 18 years. There is no making them happy, they are empty beings without a soul or conscience. I told her more than once that I felt alone in our "relationship". I gave, she took, I recieved absolutely nothing, never a thank you. Looking back, she never hugged her kids or told them she loved them. NEVER in 18 months did the word love come out of her mouth. She had ZERO empathy for anyone but herself. I questioned her and her response was a cold "I suck at showing my feelings". Living with a narcissist is a very lonely feeling, imagine how lonely the narcissist must feel living with themselves!

[@diannemartin7500]

That's the same way my Ex husband was, I'm 53 now and I couldn't have kids but they didn't deserve a Dad like him, I wouldn't dare put them through that hell.

[@annawallace3264]

I understand living with a Narc spouse (51 yrs) (he has been in Assisted Living facility for 3 yrs) is like living an empty life with an empty, evil Narc. Andrew is giving us the truth and helping us to find and have peace.

[@beatlebarb64]

I was discarded 2 years ago today! I was crushed but am healing now! Thanks for your help, Andrew!! After 13 years!

[@chazbickel4518]

❤ 😊

[@elkebanhart7045]

😢 😘

[@hongtruong4576]

Bravos 🙏💐💜🥳

[@georgezajkowski2723]

For many years I tried to better my life. And I hoped that one day I would meet a girl who would brighten my days and warm my nights. Who would be my partner in life through the ups and downs of this daily journey. Then one glorious day I seemed to have found that girl. But all my years of watching Horror Movies never prepared me for living with a narcissist. A true PLAN 9 FROM OUTER SPACE.

[@lggig534]

So sorry!

[@archiehendricks6093]

Their are narcissists out there that are smart but raving idiots. Smart and wise are two different birds.

[@KILL_THE_HIVE_MIND]

Thank God she threw me away. I was staying until the end. Not because i didn't value myself. Because that's why i enter a relationship. I'm a good man. She lost. Big time. And she knows it - with every fibre of her corrupted being.

[@Cowboy19735]

Same here, her loss! My ex-wife was the same way.

[@BG-gr6vc]

Same. It's been six months, I'm back in great shape, my home is clean and calm. I'm doing better than I ever was when I was with her and it took her leaving for me to really snap out of the spell.

[@paulbrouyere1735]

Same here, it’s already five years. Her dog and me keep each other company. Best thing what has happened to me. Don’t stay with dishonest people.

[@johnmcevansoneya1828]

Wow, I'm not alone. I promised to never leave her or dump her as she was always going on about her lack of security. She went full out crazy to depart getting drunk on purpose and crashing her car. Ended up with a DUI but I still supported her until she finally left and dumped herself on her youngest son. We were living in the country, so there was no way she could get to a job. Perfect excuse to run away. 5 months later and I've now gone total non contact and planning on writing about my 11 years of angst that I had with this person. It helps me to evaluate the past by seeing it in black and white. This is my time to heal.

[@KILL_THE_HIVE_MIND]

@@johnmcevansoneya1828 you're Australian aren't you?

[@ez8546]

I am still so shocked as to how orchestrated my discard was.

[@stavokg]

It’s years in the making.

[@Mike_Cosentino]

You are t alone, I could smell it coming from several miles away but I didn’t have the discipline or the resources needed to enforce a healthy boundary. Was still yearning for the golden period until it finally sank in with me that she (the narcissis) can’t be saved- not by her kids, her failed marriages, broken friendships, her well-to-do brother who is a prominent KZbinr with millions of followers to bail her out either every poor life decision she made.

[@777lucifero]

My last one was something out of a movie too. Yea I guess it means they played that story more than once when it's so complex. Probably the same over and over with more details.

[@user-mk8xe5eu9w]

my narcissist literally orchestrated my sexual assault

[@Siegefya]

Same. I took the hoover and didn't know about any of this. Absolutely crushed me... I exited, took the hoover, and she absolutely decimated me on the way out. No real closure either, they never give that.

[@diannemartin7500]

That's EXACTLY the way my Ex abusive husband was, he controlled EVERYTHING, but when I called him out it was hell to pay 🤬. I wasn't allowed to talk to any men and I lost all of my friends but he could make comments about women when they were just walking by and whistle at them, I was never wanted, loved or needed and he even tried to keep me from my family and told me how he was going to kill me. I'm from North Carolina and now I live on my land that my Grandpa gave me in the country in peace but I still suffer from PTSD 🤬

[@carriedillmann4455]

Keep listening and learning 💞

[@shellysawchuk1190]

Mine told me if you ever leave me you and the kids will be out on the street eating out of a dumpster

[@ashshaunts6989]

So sorry ❤hugs

[@kimmie6138]

The ex told me the same thing about killing me, thank God there were no children. He is a very dangerous kind of person. Isolation was his first go to move. Friends and family.

[@TanyaDavis954]

I'm sorry love ❤you are a WARRIOR let God's love embrace U

[@jp-rs6ns]

I fell into the category of being discarded sooner then expected. The narcissist said something to me one night. I immediately put up a strong boundary & he immediately left. The discard was the next day. There had been no arguing, no raised voices. It was what he said & the tone in his voice when he said it. Complete evil. Malicious sneering. Mask off. "And the best thing that ever happened to you was when you exited the relationship.." 💯% agree. I am healed and I 💯% agree. Great video Andrew 🙌. Love your background 🌿 God bless ☀️

[@Thedisgardedoptimist]

Once clarity returns and you crawl your way out of the fog, you will see the disgard is the best thing that could happen... It's the beginning of the rest of your life.. Embrace every day afterwards life gets better 🙏☮️🐬✨

[@joey5816]

😊 I'm loving my new life!! God Bless you ❤

[@sharoneh8929]

Hallelujah I am Free💕✌🏽.

[@nolaparker9574]

I was with someone for four years and put up with poor behavior and then I sold my house to move in with him. Within a year he discarded, and I had nowhere to go. I just tolerated things and he told me to leave.

[@chazbickel4518]

I understand completely. Four years of enduring poor behavior builds up a lot of strength. 😊

[@vinnieo7082]

I ended the relationship however I always knew there was something off but I didn’t want to believe it until I had a lightbulb moment and thought ‘what am I doing tolerating all his lies, cheating, gaslighting and manipulation?’ Get out as soon as there is a red flag, block and remove the toxic monster for your peace and sanity. Thank you Andrew ❤ your video makes perfect sense with honest advice.

[@Roblu-k6u]

Everybody warns you after the first discard, and we won’t see after many more until we are left with nothing.

[@marybarton5651]

The technonarc is misbehaving again, trying to keep me from watching this video... so childish and petty. It reminds me of a petulant child. But I refuse to react. I will NOT crawl into the slime with them 💯

[@hannastrack4310]

never look back amen

[@jhavajoe3792]

The discard was humiliating and I was ashamed of my "failure." Friends and family either felt I failed or something was wrong with me. My head was so filled with fog I couldn't even speak on my own behalf because I had no "behalf" left. Many years later, here came the "You were the love of my life." Too late, I was month's into Andrew's channel. I only concluded- "So the other supply line up couldn't put up with it like I did, eh?" It's very interesting how life can flip around and throw a topsy turvy! "The loser now, will be later to win ..."- Bob Dylan

[@GloriousDesertReigns-dx2gl]

I feel this 💯. I was thinking about Dylan's Don't Think Twice It's Alright 🙏❤️

[@TanyaDavis954]

He came back and told you, that you where the ❤ of his life?? I can't image I'm yrs out and he wants me to fail in every way 😢 then wants to be friends. We share a child he uses our child. It's horrible 😞 i always wished he say that but now I'm certain it would not matter either way at this point. Damage DONE

[@hannastrack4310]

I'm sorry it was that bad I get it it happened to me too

[@marieeakin8534]

@jhavajoe3792 No coincidence you landed on this channel. The injustices of the narc no longer will be the stamps that so many of us here wear. On the contrary...their stuff is getting exposed & should be shouted from the rooftops! Outstanding, brave, real share Joe, Thank You. Karma surely comes a knockin, yes it does! To Dylan because he knew... and to YOU (So sorry you had to go through that) because... I am privileged to be your friend! ☕❤ Great Job 👍💥💥💥

[@jhavajoe3792]

@@marieeakin8534 Big Thanks to you and this community ( we already know this is the ship that Andrew built and all are grateful ). Seriously speaking, post discard, there was no way I had the guts to try to explain my side of the story. I was afraid it'd come across as "whiny" or a blame shifting liar. All these comments from this community loosens up the desire to share openly. It started with Andrew, never loosing his "manliness" and without mincing words telling like it was, is and how it's going to be without the education and wisdom. Wherever you are, Marie, know that people like myself have a feeling of what you've been through ( I know it wasn't a walk in the park to come out of it ) ! We can go back and throw humor around now! 😉🤹‍♀🤾🤽‍♀🤹‍♂☕

[@nnglnd]

Once they realise that you have figured them out there is no going back .

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯💯

[@emanhamdy7039]

Thank you Andrew The spiritual war between the empath & the narcissist is very real The war between Light & darkness The war between good & evil The war between unconditional love & fear We're acting out of love .. they are acting out of fear & denial They will never win & we will never lose Love is the most powerful energy in the whole universe .. no one can compete with our enegy We're spiritual warriors no fucking narcissist can defeat us .. Narcissists are weak; coward & lazy Heal yourself & take your power back

[@michelledale3334]

👍👏💯

[@sharoneh8929]

Well Said. Facts💯💯💯.

[@BNyaB]

👍👍👍

[@jhavajoe3792]

It IS a war. To think all we wanted was peace, but the social landscape has changed ... more users and takers.

[@user-kh4nw8qm4p]

my narcisist made my life hell before i met here i enjoyed swimming running gym after so many months am told i should not be going swimming gym and running after so many years of going on and on i gave up a lot of my exercise routine made me miserable put weight on constantly put down cant do nothing right abused me financially untill i snapped out of the fog 1 evening october 14th 2023 i walked away but got no closure at all stuck in narcisist fog was blamed for ending of relationship and then i found andrews channel changed my life am swimming running gym lost weight finances built up again these parasites prey on the vulnerable and innocent

[@user-md4ts6rg9l]

Yes, premeditated emotional manipulations perpetrated by soulless predators to extract everything from you, and then destroy you for their own bottomless desires. Hard to fathom when you called them "best friend" or "spouse".

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌💜

[@Mercy-hz1hl]

Yes, premeditated indeed!

[@Siegefya]

Yes premeditated. They enter knowing it's not gonna work... They know full well basing an entry in lies usually has one ending. It's unfortunate those people who stay with these narcs the rest of their lives, a shell of themselves living on every whim of the narc, they never get to escape, trapped in the narcissist matrix.

[@18iveyje]

The devaluation I went through was painful, but it led to more clarity than anything else. I ended up in a mental health clinic for suicidal ideations at my rock bottom, but it led to me finding out I was autistic. I’ve had a incredibly wonky last 17 months, but I’m happy to say I not only have a better understanding of others and their toxic tendencies but myself as well. Some things are meant to happen.

[@harlawood9811]

I am lucky. I (a super empath) discarded the covert narcissist before he could dump me. What a nightmare his life was and it was oh poor pitty me about his narcissistic Daughter living with him and her 2 kids that she didn’t want to be a Mother too (according to him). His poor wife he buried into the ground after 30 years brainwashing her to his chaos life and then he had no problem bragging about how he took no sick time off when his wife was dying of cancer and he works for a union making good money and benefits! He literally sucked the life out of her and moved on 3 months after trying to date a coworker. She turned him down and then he came my way on a dating app. So glad I saw thru that BS sooner than later. Thank you for your videos! They truly help! ❤

[@danihannah4493]

I am now well enough to work again. I am not working to please him, he's gone. I am working to regain my bank account and to have peace of mind. Thank you Andrew. God bless.

[@marypalmer1062]

the betrayals that have happened in the past have become the catalysts that have carried me into the metamorphosis that I am going through. never give up. it's here right now...if you want it

[@vanessahawarden9028]

My narcissistic cruel and psychotic husband left me several times and then came back…in the end I planned my escape, after 6 years, and planned it so carefully that he couldn’t find me anywhere. It rocked him to the core that I had taken control

[@aperry4313]

You rock!

[@wendybarton5565]

It took me 30 years to finally decide I had enough . I found out he was cheating on me and I was devastated. It had been going on for a long time as I look back but I was in denial. I was the one who finally did the discard because I served him papers. He never thought I had it in me to do it. It took him over a year to respond to the divorce papers. I went through hell and back believe me as many of you know what it's like. Honestly I don't ever want to see that man again. Both my son and I went no contact! Thank you so much Andrew for doing this video on the discard. I believe now that he was planning it but I beat him to the punch!

[@smartsurvival2605]

I won't be bamboozled again.

[@brittpayne7198]

My narcissist left me in streets of Hollywood when our car broke down. Traveled from east coast. No family or friends. I was on foreign streets for 2 weeks. Sleeping in empty tour busses parked after hours. I'll tell you what...the homeless took me in like family. Narcissist came back and did the rescue trick. And I think still resents me for making it without him.

[@kennethkunz2449]

I hope that you have gotten rid if him!

[@nvaldez2000]

Wow 😢

[@anonymous-ze2ug]

I an close by I would have come got u

[@brittpayne7198]

Nope I was stupid, cuz I'm a big sucker empath! But just yesterday he really made me pay when I fluffed him about having spyware on his phone..he changed bank account password, said he changed title of car into his name , said he slept with my sister, made up false history events that he said I did , gaslighting...then decanter everything and said I'm nuts and that he said none of those things. He went CRAZY...thinking I tapped his phone.

[@XavierP333]

My narcissistic ex-wife discarded me when my health took a hit(due to her constant toxicity, infidelity and hoarding) she discarded her own family when my oldest son was 5 and my youngest son was 3 months of age. I've been raising my two sons by myself ever since. My health is now returning, so is my self esteem ( Thanks to you Andrew) My narcissistic ex-wife looks like she's aging faster than me and deteriorating gracefully. She tried to hoover me already 4 times, and I rejected all her offers. I'm in no contact unless it regards the children, she's not the parent of the year, either. My two sons don't even like being near her. Her car broke down and doesn't have a car. Her car is filled with trash, her house is a mess(like those hoarders you see on TV) I thank God every day and Andrew that I respect truly myself for the very first time in my 38 years of age.

[@hannastrack4310]

one word slut I admire you for taking and raising your children yourself may god guide your steps

[@lindagodwin3680]

I didn't do a payback.... not lowering my principles to that low, low, level.

[@kimmie6138]

I got my revenge, I left the narcissist in my life in an area of the country I was born in so he could not find me, I'm sure he had it rough. Lol. I feel badly for any other woman who falls for him. He's a psychopath for real.

[@jilldowell8346]

Andrew, you will never know how many lives you are helping with your straight-forward and compassionate videos. Thank you for continuing to deliver these life-changing, life-saving messages. You were there on my darkest hour.

[@julierobinette6762]

30 F#$% years. Not that I thought I would but my therapist just told me she felt if I didn't leave when I did, she thought I would commit (insert the "S" word here). He dropped the bomb on me right before my birthday, the next day we found out my cat was going to die and the next day, he asked me if I wanted to have a garage sale. Jezzzzus, let me heal. My friend told me that my life sounded like a country song. My mom always told me if it was a snake it would bite me. I need that curse taken from me too. I only want to hear my voice in my head now. Namaste everyone and I'm here to carry on with you all.

[@Rose-op9nt]

When you stop caring about the toxic person (s) it gets a little bit more easier to stay away and to keep yourself safe. I'm leaving everything behind again so that I don't have to be verbally assaulted again, behind closed doors, when no one else is looking, then he makes himself "look good" in front of others 19:58 I'm so over being abused and reclaiming my dignity and respect for myself and still learning to set clear boundaries.

[@user-yt3qh5po6j]

every sentence you said it is exactly what i have heard from the narc. epscially 'you dont get to tell me what to do, let me live my life', however they will need to have a full control on each action you perform in life.

[@Siegefya]

Yep, narc ex wouldn't take stock or accountability for anything, but I had to not just take accountability for my mistakes but also hers, it was my fault she screwed something up. I couldn't tell her anything, but I was abusive if I told her no, if I set boundaries she'd say I was a bad boyfriend, not husband material, I was always the messed up one never her. She had it all figured out... She did, in a very insidious way, the whole time. Like he says, they know what they are doing. Here's the thing though, they can't help it, it's how they are wired, it's why those of us who been through it with these narcissist can relate to each other's experiences... because certain group of people in this world are really like that and they literally can't stop being like that even the ones who know they are narcs and are fully aware of the disorder, they literally can't stop being like that.

[@JulieShah-in7zz]

Text book relationship Andrew. You describe it perfectly. Certainly heard ' I don't have to tell you what I'm doing and who I'm with ' These games with my life were devastating at the time. Now I'm well down the healing path and so relieved he no longer plays any part in my life. As I say he is dark I am light.....💜

[@kerry_runs]

I was starting to miss her but you helped me to stay strong. Staying on the path, thank you Andrew.

[@MsBrooklyn62]

Believe me, I caught on to what was happening. I had to use reverse psychology to defeat him. By the time he figured it out, he was 2000 miles away from me.

[@GoodVibez510]

It is sickening 🤮

[@superkgal3065]

God bless you here WE LOVE YOU ANDREW !!! YOU ARE AN AMAZING HUMAN BEING - THANK YOU FOR YOUR EXISTENCE !!!

[@sandradmeyer]

I finally blocked him! He came after me in 1999!! He came after me when I was newly divorced from a narc. I'm feel so free and strong! Thank you Andrew!

[@mvbigmagic4048]

It is true what Andrew says. The longer you are out of this narcissist's mouth sounds, the clearer your situation becomes. I am about 6 months out from no-contact (it was a gradual thing, because I kept getting messages from flying monkeys, and I had to block them too......), and I can see how bad my situation really was. And I'm so grateful I found your videos, Andrew. You and Danish Bashir clued me in to what I was up against. I was able to chat with one of my cousins today, and he asked how I'm doing. I was able to say, "I'm doing a lot better," and really mean it. Life is so much better without the narcissist sabotaging my life, constantly. As a side effect of dumping the main narcissist in my life, I've been able to re-assess certain "friendships" as well, and life has been better without them, too! Cleaning house, man. Just cleaning house.

[@JulieShah-in7zz]

It is absolutely true... healing takes time but you become healthier and you gain your freedom...you are brave and beautiful. We all deserve to be cared for with respect and dignity. Narcissists are abusers....no one should have to tolerate that. Keep moving forward you'll get there 💜

[@dorothynegri9924]

Absolutely an exceptional video today. Thank you! 💞

[@AwakenWorld999]

Once boundaries were established, I became that wadded up piece of paper. The signs were all there. TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS...ALWAYS!

[@user-pv3px4nb2m]

Andrew’s fans please gather here 🎉

[@brii6427]

🖐️

[@PassivUser]

👋✋️🖐

[@Yishai377]

👋

[@natqt93]

Andrew is the best ❤❤❤❤

[@collegegirl201418]

andrew is so sweet

[@lailaa6662]

Wonderful and informative video today.. especially towards the end when you go into detail about “thwarting” the narc’s “planned” discard and it happens sooner.. during this time the devaluation gets WORSE and they’ll blame shift regularly and are likely smearing you already too even if not with words but smug looks at the mention of your name.. i feel this right now.. Even if you do everything they want.. they still try to “break the relationship” as you say anyway.. it hurts even if you aren’t trauma bonded or don’t care for them anymore.. when you talk about healing, I feel a part of that may be about re wiring the brain to change the perception of the time of discard i.e. changing the perception of that month, day etc of discard.. easier said than done though.. i laughed when you said we can identify narcs from 10000 km away 😂.. I think you’re right that it’s all planned though especially when they realise they can’t control you as much anymore.. this video helps me a bit with my own plans and reminds me of the truth so THANK YOU ALWAYS💜🪻

[@gratefultobehere]

💖✨🙏

[@lailaa6662]

@@gratefultobehere Sending you a lot of 💜💜💜💜 too grateful. 🥰🥰

[@Thedisgardedoptimist]

G'day Laila, How are you? It definitely gets worse just before the disgard. Devaluation, blame shifting, gaslighting turns into blatant punishment when they are done with you..I had 2 wonderful months pre disgard where the mask was nowhere to be found and silly me put it down to menopause and her "emotional detachment disorder"...It was blatant and hateful...So if it gets to that situation just run... Nothing is worth that sort of treatment..Some (me) had to learn the hard way.. Hope you're doing ok... 🙏☮️🐬✨

[@weronikaasomsson2404]

⚠️❤️Children are going to disappear around the world, then His adult TRUE believers. It is Jesus coming back to pick up His people! Make Him your Saviour! Do not stay for apocalypse!❤️🥹 ⚠️❤️👉We are about to see Russia attacking Germany, Alaska experiencing two devastating earthquakes (magnitude 7.6 and 7.3) and the fall of Freemason Temple in Philadelphia.🙌 👉Only God knows the future. Jesus has now revealed all those details to his prophets right now! 👉CHILDREN will disappear around the world, then His true believers! Jesus promised 2 000y ago that He will come back for everybody who accepted His payment ( His death) for all sins. He will literally pull us out of this world so that we don't have to stay for the Judgment ( the Apocalypse). You can still call out to Him to save you after kids are gone, He will rescue you too❤️ Make sure to make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤️He loves you like crazy! He sees you❤️🥹 What saves us is trust in what He did on the cross: He died for our sins and then defeated the death by rising 3 days later! He made it very simple, He has done it all for us so don't add anything to it! 🙌❤️

[@richardhirst6311]

As usual Andrew - you are so spot on - even to the words you use. My final conversation was on holiday when I simply said ‘I did not sign up for this’ - the next day I was driving her home and she was on her phone texting the new supply. I simply accelerated the discard but now she is back on the dating website using pics of when we were together!!! She will never change , living in her parents spare room at 48 . So very sad

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing..😌💯💜

[@At2069-j9y]

What to do when you just can’t leave the relationship? This relationship made me mentally and physically sick. Now I can’t leave and live by myself. I supported him through his career. Did everything cleaning, cooking, yard work, finances, raised the 2 kids by myself etc… Now I am stuck and ready to totally give up because of the torture. 😢

[@mss80308]

Try to find some support from a local community service agency

[@reginapolo3357]

It has been 6 years since I left my narc husband and as years passed and cleared my mind, the more I am convinced that he was paving the road to do me in and then make it look like self defense. Trust your instincts even when your brain is fogged. P.s. i cut all ties with mutual friends, flying monkies fro both his and my family and it was the best thing I did. I hardly listen to these videos nowdays, and I still do, only because I need to keep recognizing the anomaly for when I get in another relationship. Thank you Andrew

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome..😌💜💯🙏

[@danielchallenger979]

Based on what you said, my narc ex began preparing for the discard around Christmas. The discard began shortly after New Years. The torturous discard finally ended about a week before the 5 year anniversary of the relationship.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌💜

[@user-yn8rd8zs9t]

Thank you Andrew ❤ Moving forward...a little bit at a time is how I'm doing it. It's a long task to get your emotions away from them....to know they are DEFINITELY NOT who we thought they were!! Each day is a new start to move a bit further away ( mentally) from them!

[@Rugbymom]

Another powerful message…realizing I did have to go through it to get to where I am now… but so grateful I’m out… Thank you!

[@liamgardner527]

I was discarded 7 months ago today. I have been watching these videos, but I am lucky to have a friend just tell me the truth, it’s gone. They’re gone. It’s done. I am grateful for you. I have done everything I could, anything I could, but they walked out the door, while I was on an mri table.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome..😌😌💜

[@michellepurcell8703]

So true it is painful and hurtful, but we are better out of it and knowing where our lives are going. Toxic free

[@dontbeadogsbody3564]

Love you Andrew. Thanks for exposing these demons.

[@AnnieSnow467]

Hi Andrew . Happy Saturday . Have a beautiful blessed day. Thank you, Andrew, for sharing g all your knowledge. I've learned so much through your videos . I thank you for that.❤

[@janetbressette631]

Thank you for enlightening me on what a narcissistic relationship is. Not sure how to accept the vocabulary that my life has become. It’s so hurtful and devastating what he did to me, and I hear the phrase @you have to forgive to move on.” I just can’t! How do you forgive every form of abuse there is?! I’m so broken and forgiveness just won’t come to me right now!

[@sharonoverton9897]

I have been out of the narcissist grasp for 35 years and I will never forgive him he literally ruined my life , he used to get my number from flying monkey's but we are in our 70's and they are all dead now .I live alone with my canine companion and trust no one..I am an empathy and draw narcissist to me like a magnet..much to my sorrow..

[@kathleencondit1660]

Likely, just see, if, you ever feel like forgiving some years down the road. Phrases don't always fit. If, we lived in an ideal world, they might. It helped me to change feeling broken to feeling broken open. Take the wording, vocabulary, and phrases that fit your needs at the time. Listen to yourself about how you really feel. Best wishes on your travels down your healing path.

[@the-writerofmyownstory]

I stopped looking at forgiveness as part of the healing. I need to heal and feel safe, comfortable, and strong in my own skin, and I can’t do that with that extra weight of forgiveness that likely won’t come. I think that’s where indifference comes in as the goal. When you become indifferent you no longer care and forgiveness is no longer on the table. Remember narcissists don’t change, so forgiving someone for something they are not sorry for and would do the same thing again if given the chance, doesn’t seem worthy of forgiveness.

[@kathleencondit1660]

@@the-writerofmyownstory I've also thought that forgiveness is an extra heavy burden to hang onto our shoulders when we are trying to heal. Agree, indifference is the goal.

[@the-writerofmyownstory]

@@kathleencondit1660 I’ve been stuck at times thinking I needed to forgive. As soon as I took that piece out of the mix and focused on radical acceptance and learning the tools of boundaries, etc. I picked up the steps on the path to healing.

[@tinarustman8832]

I wasn’t the discarded person-I kicked him to the curb before he could discard me. I think he’s now discarded the supply he had after me. 😂😂😂😂

[@kimr9960]

Thanks Andrew. . I I have learned so much from you. I just wish I would have realized it sooner. I am glad I am a better person the Narc.

[@gingerdent]

I’ve been following your channel for a month but this video really struck a chord. It’s hard to process that every step of my marriage was this narcissistic blueprint carried out exactly as you describe. I see now the year of ghosting was an attempt to have me end our relationship and get be blamed for wanting a divorce. Thank you for helping me lift off my blinders

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome..🙏💯💜

[@talithakoum1965]

I'm just having an illumination. My narc mother and family have planned the discard for all their lifes long ! and mine. lol. Thank you. God bless you.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome..😌💜🙏

[@michelleaunchman9753]

This came at the right time, thank you Andrew. My story is that I adopted my son’s two and I know their mom is something. She had two prior kids before my two that I adopted. I struggled with her in my home. She ended having two more babies after that and not my son’s babies but still using my address because she is homeless. She says I am evil and I’m going to hell. But why because I took her kids in and adopted them? She in my mind is not okay to be around them . I am not the evil one

[@thejessicashow]

Very true, the narcissist in my life said nobody can tell her what to do, “I can do what I want!” She’s an adult that sounds like a child. So embarrassing 🙈 my kids couldn’t believe how she was saying so many mean things! 😮

[@marshat.ordureau3121]

BONJOUR Andrew🌿🌱🌿🌿🌱🌿🙏Sending Sunday blessings to you!! Great information🙏🌿🌱She didn't think I / We could make it !! WE DID & lLiving the BEST LIFE ,,, each day🌿🌿🙏🤗💯🇫🇷

[@steenkristensen6351]

Gå tilbage til tågen igen Nej tak ikke her Andrew, jeg gør lige hvad jeg vil som jeg finder intresant. God dag 🙂👍

[@johnmcevansoneya1828]

Thank you for making this video. It helps hearing and reading that your experiences are not unique.

[@marieeakin8534]

No Contact was my choice..... I had enough of theirs!!! Blessings along the Healing Path. 🌈🎀😘

[@chazbickel4518]

Exactly..... 😊

[@jhavajoe3792]

Excellent! You sound like a fighter jet plane that had all 'after market parts' replaced with the real deal, passed all safety checks with flying colors and ready to rock! 👍👍👍

[@weronikaasomsson2404]

⚠️❤️Children are going to disappear around the world, then His adult TRUE believers. It is Jesus coming back to pick up His people! Make Him your Saviour! Do not stay for apocalypse!❤️🥹 ⚠️❤️👉We are about to see Russia attacking Germany, Alaska experiencing two devastating earthquakes (magnitude 7.6 and 7.3) and the fall of Freemason Temple in Philadelphia.🙌 👉Only God knows the future. Jesus has now revealed all those details to his prophets right now! 👉CHILDREN will disappear around the world, then His true believers! Jesus promised 2 000y ago that He will come back for everybody who accepted His payment ( His death) for all sins. He will literally pull us out of this world so that we don't have to stay for the Judgment ( the Apocalypse). You can still call out to Him to save you after kids are gone, He will rescue you too❤️ Make sure to make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤️He loves you like crazy! He sees you❤️🥹 What saves us is trust in what He did on the cross: He died for our sins and then defeated the death by rising 3 days later! He made it very simple, He has done it all for us so don't add anything to it! 🙌❤️

[@marieeakin8534]

@jhavajoe3792 The emerged soul, flies high! 👍

[@jhavajoe3792]

@@marieeakin8534 That reply didn't fly by me ( no pun intended- this time). The brevity added to making it beautiful and inspiring! 👍👍👍☕

[@herlifenextdoor]

Yep TOTALLY draining 🤦🏻‍♀️ now I know I was discarded after confronting him bout all the lies and how his last text told me he won’t have data after he comes back but I knew he just already secured a new supply that’s why he he ghosted me and didn’t bother to get back 😄

[@LuvableAF]

Wow!! My birthday and not showing up is exactly what he did 4 years in a row!!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌

[@denisesavannah2023]

Hurt people hurt people when you're not healed you will hurt others, which explains why my sister never invites to holidays to her best friend's house. Because she said so many bad things about me sure that's why I am invited to any of the events. We could go out to eat for the holidays not the same I never met her friends. If they knew the healed person they would dump her.

[@steveobaby6048]

Andrew today I got a phone call from my ex and she was saying that her and her mom are not talking to each other I said I'm sorry but you are on your own I am not going to get involved in your drama

[@chanteynk7324]

Well said. Why didn't you block her? She wants you to solve her problems because you are empathetic. Take care of yourself and block her if possible.

[@steveobaby6048]

@@chanteynk7324 I did block her

[@shellysawchuk1190]

Block her she will keep at it because you answered her be careful

[@steveobaby6048]

I already did block her and I deleted her phone number

[@user-iv4gj2qf3j]

Complete no contact is the only way. Thanks to Andrew and his videos and advice I was able to to that.

[@Tahiti_Mae]

Hard truths!

[@LiminalDrag]

Exactly spot on. The discard plan started a couple of years before our 2 narcs set things in motion. Their main currency is emotional supply, but they have used money to manipulate also. One of the nasty little tricks they did was promise to help me financially with the deposit for a house, which was a huge deal for me. They got me built up and excited about finally having my own house, then they took it away without a word. I later realised it was because I wouldn't go along with their planned campaign against my sister at the time. They are my 'parents'. You are so right about them hating when things are peaceful. They'll even tell you this outright. 'I don't want to live in a utopia' is one of mother unit's little catchphrases. I got back at them by using the first little bit of money they actually gave to me to take care of myself in the ways they neglected to do for me as a kid.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing..💜😌🙏🙌

[@maureengreenhalgh822]

100% Ty Andrew for all your work as you already know you are dealing with a extremely complicated subject you are doing what noone else could 🙏🏼💜❤️😊 🌼🌸🌼🌸🌼🌸🌼🌸🌼

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome..😌💜🙌

[@RolandLeaptrott]

Powerful.........and eerily very close to my situation. Well done.

[@carriedillmann4455]

AGAIN THANK YOU!❤️

[@tribalgal1891]

I watched your maybe first video and after that everything became so clear as to why God said give him everything. Ty, Ms Discard and happy after wondering why for 24 yrs.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌💜🙏

[@plainbobnat]

My former husband definitely planned it even though I left him before he did it. He would threaten me with divorce papers, he'd actually got these in a brown envelope and would get them out and show me and I would stop challenging him or calling him out for a bit. It was a way of regaining control. Fortunately before he went all the way through to the discard I had an aha moment - "I don't want to be beholden to this guy for the rest of my life. I can't live like this any longer". I became very underweight through our relationship. But 3 months after I had left the weight went back on. That was enough for me to know I'd done the right thing.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing..💯🙏💜

[@neommutle8033]

❤ WoW , you are so, so spot on Andrew. That is my mother a 100%.

[@mitzi66]

Thank you Andrew, I still need to hear your talks. This is exactly what happened to me. I'm still feeling the stress of his outrageous lies! He was very violent towards me, but he's telling everyone it was the other way round, despite police involvement and photos of injuries. And also the absurdity of it all! But he works in a bar, spends the rest of his life in another, and knows everyone! He has big groups of women hating me 😢, and we live in a small town. H8s new source of supply 8s a woman 27 years older than him, with money, who he has sending me nasty messages full of his outrageous lies. Blocked of course. But hey, I don't have him screaming at me every day, accusing me of a million things I haven't done ❤

[@jennifernewton4637]

Good afternoon Andrew! Looking VERY handsome today, LOVE the shirt! Beautiful scenery there! Don’t get too hot! 🙌🥰🌳🌲🩷💜❤️

[@kevinbushey1879]

That’s what happened to me. I had to break it off, but she was getting ready to dump me anyways, but I couldn’t take any more of her abuse.

[@A.Conrad]

I’m so glad to have this channel

[@LucyFre]

I wander how mutch it's planned and how mutch impulsive. This people are very impulsive. But with covert narcistists you never know...They dont express their emotions. Im waiting for closure my marriage 2 years.

[@Angel-Watcher]

✌️😎👍 That's a big YEP !!! I JUST LOVE BEING AN EDUCATED EMPATH. YOU PUT THAT ON TOP OF A CHOSEN ONE, NOW YOU HAVE A SUPER EMPATH 💚👼🙏 THANKS ANDREW 🍎

[@sadmimikyu8807]

Have a great day too Andrew. I learned something new today and that is that I am stronger than I think. ❤

[@samrainbowman]

Great video. So right

[@DENISEASTUNO-ow1qz]

❤Thank you Andrew ❤

[@paulbrouyere1735]

Energy vampires is a nice way to describe all narcissists. My dog keeps me straight. In my street there is a woman with five dogs. And some growing up kids. Last week she told me my dog has bitten one of her smaller dogs in the ear. I told her my small dog went towards the big one, because he’s always barking and harassing him. The dogs on the other side of the fence are clearly not educated and never leave the property for a walk. One evening she comes up walking to me, saying, hello sir. Hello madam. Your dog has hurt one of my dogs biting him in the ear, look I took a picture. Showing some blood on a dog’s ear. Me: I’m sorry, but my dog didn’t do that, your dogs are trampling over each other when we pass. They are really not educated at all. I was just passing by. Because she couldn’t get a direct admitment of guilt she scolded me for how a dishonest person I am. Today I passed the same part of the road with my little doggy, seeing her dogs were out, I took care my little one couldn’t come anywhere near the fence. The dogs were again trampling over each other and the daughter came out to watch this Vilain with his dog, just passin. She must have heard of the previous story from her mom. Two of the small dogs were really aggressive towards each other in the last corner of their terrain. See that, I replied to the daughter. She replied they all agree amongst each other. But that’s the last I heard of it, because we continued our nice walk to the shopping center. Oh I forgot to tell we have no gate at the garden, I often leave the door open and he likes going say hello to neighbor ladies well spiritually matured. He doesn’t go to the dangerous streets. And when a large dog passes, he barks and stands his ground, but doesn’t pass the borders of the property. Although it’s all open

[@StageIVissoBroadway]

Bless you Andrew. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@user-qh4qk7kv4u]

💯 accurate podcast… Thank you….

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome..😌💜🙏

[@deniselazur8370]

Thank you Andrew!

[@lizzierose007]

He wanted to hang his female "friend " I told him go ahead you no longer have a girlfriend lol. And that was that

[@nickel7065]

True. I beat her to the discard. After finding out about her intentions to cheat and monkey branch (and confronting her about it, discussing it and giving her another chance) six months after our wedding she didn't know I could see her DM:s where she smeared me to her friends and coworkers and told them that she intended to leech on me to "afford" a divorce. Not being interested in being cheated on, being a mental punching bag and an ATM, all in one person, I helped her on her way. Finding out about her use of illicit substances just made the decision easier. Not what she had intended but I had had enough. I hate cheaters, I hate drugs and I strongly dislike being used in return for loyalty and support.

[@andrmayfield1658]

True

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💜😌🙏

[@allisonpayne2097]

It was sad the way he disregarded my feelings once again,Screw him now because I’m free😎

[@Kylie-fc1tw]

WOW…..what an eye opener. You validated my suspicions. Love your daily content. One empath to another. Really like your beautiful smile at the end of the videos. 😊