How to Accept a Compliment, Give One In Return & What Mistakes To Avoid

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00:00 Introduction
Once you start dressing well, you'll notice that people will compliment you more often, it's a good thing. Don't spoil it!
Most people don't know how to take a compliment and as a consequence, they alienate people or even offend them. Not only will they likely never compliment that person again but they may also avoid them or even speak badly about them.
So what started out as something positive turns into something negative, but it doesn't have to be that way. Responding and accepting a compliment is in fact so simple that everyone can do it without practice.
How Not To Reply To A Compliment
01:11 First of all, don’t correct people
01:31 Resist the urge to escape
01:50 Denial
02:11 Deflecting a compliment
02:29 Don’t explain or over-explain
02:54 Don’t brag
03:13 Never cheapen a compliment
03:30 Don’t forfeit
How Do You Accept A Compliment Like A Gentleman?
04:00 Relax
04:30 Observe and reciprocate
04:50 Compliment their actions
Bottom line is, to accept a compliment only requires a smile and a “thank you.” In order to give a great compliment back, you have to pay attention! So whenever you pay a compliment, it’s essential that it’s genuine. Otherwise, your body language and the way you say it will communicate that it’s not true, and then it really backfires on you.
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[@DynamixTV]

Stranger trying to make conversation: "Hey, nice Weather!" Me: "Thanks"

[@ISI.O]

Ladies and gentlemen, we've found God.

[@rileyhertz9564]

forgot the standard, "thanks, you too"

[@Harry-bs1qg]

Pov.. he's Thor

[@marionforge2769]

😂

[@givemechoco9753]

I laughed so hard because this is something that I would do without realizing it

[@constrictum]

I'm a skinny guy. Sometimes I gain a bit of weight and people go: "Hey you look great, looks like you gained some weight!" I respond: "Thanks! You too!" Then they're not so friendly anymore. I'M here to figure what's that all about.

[@huh4346]

constrictum you forgot to smile!

[@jezuzmaximum7510]

Just say 'of course I did darling'

[@userunknown3652]

@Ramy Mohamed it is

[@iggypeters5564]

Jezuz Maximum this is not a tutorial to be Freddie Mercury my love

[@ludwig5069]

constrictum r

[@dufflebaggz990]

“Im trying to get like you bro” the best compliment you can receive

[@josefmilly]

"Nice haircut" "You're welcome, I love you too. Bye." Nailed it

[@icecreamanyone6433]

person: "hey nice hair" me: "thanks, i grew it myself"

[@divyayash5858]

Lol dude

[@umar8673]

Chandler's joke reference

[@artie52]

Haha, that’s actualy is good

[@kristjanojasoo2401]

Fellow chandler here huh😁👍

[@omarkiller2222]

You grew it for me honeytits.

[@iamkAIden]

“Nice shirt” “Thanks my girlfriend broke up with me” *cries uncontrollably*

[@mauriciosolano9342]

Wut

[@momsaccount4033]

@@mauriciosolano9342 What is there to not understand? His girlfriend broke up with him and he started to cry uncontrollably

[@MARS-eb8pt]

😂

[@tipsy8340]

😂😂😂

[@yeshuat1399]

Too close to home...

[@thesenate8268]

In Turkish, we have a saying "O senin gözlerinin güzelliği" which translates to "It is the beauty of your eyes" I think it's a great way to accept a compliment.

[@CalvinsWorldNews]

It's a good way to respond, "You've got good taste. Good eyes too for spotting them, and they're pretty eyes too. What's your name?"

[@nursenaatay]

O senin güzel gören gözlerinin güzelliği☺

[@monsider]

The best way to accept a compliment is by returning the compliment. "How kind you are." "That is very considerate of you." "I appreciate your notice." "I was having a rotten day, thankfully, you have made it better."

[@jackykeeling4885]

"How kind you are" "Thats because you're kind to me"

[@noname-zn1pt]

@@jackykeeling4885 "only because you're such a lovely person"

[@DM-ox4jq]

@@noname-zn1pt Because you loved me first

[@Frankcohle]

I’d say the last one doesn’t belong. Too personal.

[@monsider]

@@Frankcohle I appreciate your comment.

[@Atombender]

"Hey, nice watch!" "It better be, it costs more than your car."

[@jassimkoya]

Lol

[@monicagambino318]

😂

[@PanzerDave]

Second prize, steak knives!

[@worstgamer1162]

Didn't yo daddy pay for that?

[@theliveing]

"Oh, sorry to hear that."

[@IllDawgable]

1. "I like your shirt." 2. "I know." 1. "You know? How?" 2. "You just told me."

[@daruween1398]

mindreader

[@Eric-zr]

Slick asf😂

[@arn3107]

God why

[@irfandy8]

You: 😱 Him: 🤠🙆🙅🤷🙎

[@TheHbt11]

I lost a few brain cells

[@Gottaculat]

I usually give a charming chuckle, smile, and say, "Thanks, I appreciate that!" An anecdote regarding compliments: My grandpa was a true class act; when managing an assembly line and giving clients a tour of the facility, he'd explain what happens at a given station by saying, "this fine gentleman here..." or "this lovely lady here..." followed by what their responsibilities entail. His employees loved him so much they all showed up at his funeral to pay their respects, and said going to work for him was a real pleasure, that he treated them with dignity. I learned a lot from him, as well as my own dad. It's very important to treat people with dignity and courtesy. Respect has to be earned, though. This is an interesting channel, and the first of your videos I've seen. I look forward to picking up tips I may have missed!

[@ssgil7819]

I drastically changed my wardrobe lately and I started getting a lot of compliments and I feel so awkward getting them. Hope this video will help me with that. Keep up the great work🙏

[@nilon5327]

Everything that you will do to try to make it less awkward, will make it more awkward. Learn to accept the fact that people want to give you compliments for your style and learn to feel good about it.

[@jackpresley4537]

First I need to get a compliment.

[@sameeridnani]

Wow!! Nice profile picture..

[@zachcollins7770]

I see you're also a man of good taste.

[@fabioalbert101]

And what a good name!

[@ryan_the_overlord]

you're the sexiest man to ever exist

[@hiteshmaherchandani2883]

I like you a lot jack

[@Yackblaster9000]

Someone: “hey nice belt!” Me: “Thanks...my kids hate it”

[@timurmukushev5734]

😂😂😂

[@justsomeyoutubecommentorwi4378]

Thanks I grew it myself

[@glypharte375]

lol 😂

[@isabellaabolrous1336]

such an underrated comment ;)

[@abcd2222222222222]

my wife hates it

[@ThePianiolist]

As a musician today, I think this is a really important lesson to learn. I have a class called Recital Seminar, where we play in front of a room of people that play the same or similar instruments, depending on the day, you’re also given comments. Sometimes you’re given a comment that’s all compliments and no criticisms, it’s nice but the amount of people who make faces or discredit themselves as opposed to just smiling and saying “thank you” is pretty astonishing. I’ve always found it’s better to smile and say thank you, otherwise the listener starts to second guess themselves, “was I wrong? Maybe it was bad,” then they just start listening for mistakes and short comings in your playing.

[@Maniac-007]

Some suggestions for a reply other than thank you: 1. I appreciate that compliment, it means a lot to me. 2. I’m delighted to hear that, you just made my day/week. 3. I’m glad that you liked it. 4. That is the nicest thing I’ve heard from someone this week/month/year. 5. You just made me feel special, honestly. (Maybe with someone you’ve known for a while).

[@ibealion1]

"I'm glad you liked it..." sounds condescending. I know cause I've said it... of course, that might have just been me.

[@abrenvillanueva8623]

That's cheesy af. Normal person dont talk like that

[@ibealion1]

@@abrenvillanueva8623 "Normal" people are rude.

[@George-iz2ce]

All terrible. Either condescending or needy depending on tone.

[@sonnyh9774]

@@George-iz2ce Could be your windshield needs cleaning... just sayin

[@kiliantreminio]

“Hey, nice suit” “I know”

[@vnqy920]

Kooli O 😂😂😂

[@pavankalyanbs9438]

🤣

[@averyimportantcomment3023]

Bruh I swear I say this all the time and it triggers me so much that I say it.🤣🤣😂

[@vnqy920]

A Very Important Comment fr😂😂

[@LargoLif3]

The guy in the $4000 suit isn’t trying to impress you, who doesn’t make that in 3 months. Come on!!

[@dennisgrandt6385]

"Wow those are nice shoes" "Thanks. They arent really that special but when compared to yours, they do look good"

[@CompassIIDX]

lol.

[@js114]

Bruh XD

[@Joseka]

Oof

[@X3NOSAMA]

Burned their soul alive.exe

[@tigerwong9845]

Double downed

[@DoulosEudoxus]

Read a book with communication tips (helpful book), and this topic was in it. The author recommended not just ending it with "thanks" (can be kind of a conversation stopper), but complimenting them back with even a, "Oh thank you, you're very kind!" kinda thing. Works well!

[@ExhaletheRain]

Underappreciated comment here

[@RemusGT]

@@ExhaletheRain underappreciated reply to a comment

[@ivel17]

@@RemusGT underappreciated reply to a reply to a comment

[@plandl1]

I was in a Big Box store and saw this very pretty lady. I could tell she was married but gave her a compliment like like this. " please forgive me for being so bold, but you are just strikingly beautiful." To which she replied, " Thank you for being so bold, you just made my week!" I walked away knowing she felt better about herself without me pushing an alterior motive.

[@danjbundrick]

I tried to give an honest compliment about someone's mustache, and suddenly she's not my friend anymore. Any advice?

[@dennisgrandt6385]

This deserves more likes 😂

[@eKko0]

double down, tell her it goes well with her beard, lemmie know how it goes

[@edu-kt]

Apologize to her over a couple of flaming sambucas, that would smooth the waters and take care of her unwanted facial hair. (Pro tip: Both sambucas are for her).

[@bullshark7888]

Bruhhh I'm dyingg 😂😂😂😂

[@georgeatlarge]

This sounds like a hairy situation..be cool G😂😂😂😂

[@Newbornvintage18]

Us black guys are great with this "Bruh you lookin fresh" "Nah im trying to get like you bruh"

[@ER-me1ii]

Lol. True. I have a friend whose a very sharp, successful dude. Happens to be a black guy. He’s a nice guy always handing out compliments. Im always like brah I’m just trying to keep up to you and get on your level.

[@whoisdesirtv]

Yep! Never ever denied it. Always turned it on the person. People love talking about themselves.

[@ijp-om2wh]

Facts brother

[@strangepigeon1711]

I like yo cut g

[@mat7083]

@@strangepigeon1711 aight

[@Sharktankgaming]

The fact that society NEEDS videos like these is the problem in and of itself. I agree with everything this video says. The problem is, people don't have enough confidence and self esteem to simply say "thankyou." That should worry us, especially when we can't accept compliments without deflecting. Will share this will all those I know who are insecure 👌

[@Speed001]

Well I'm glad it's here for people that need some help, even if it seems quite condescending.

[@dahn4726]

Parents just took an L when they raised our generation

[@kasiajarzebska3739]

I think it depends on the person and the situacion. An unexpected compliment is sometimes shocking and the response to it in that case may be automatic

[@Milena-ix5mq]

I am a female, but I'm very happy to have found out this channel, as I'm learning a lot😊 Thank you for your hard work and dedication!

[@-Scrapper-]

Nice moustache

[@Milena-ix5mq]

@@-Scrapper- thanks! You should also see my leg hair 😂

[@Joe-po9xn]

"Resist the urge to escape." Thanks. Now I'm stuck in some guy's trunk!

[@kasemite619]

How's it in there? Are you still having Internet access?

[@blessedevil6031]

Maybe he's dead 😳

[@sleepysteev2735]

I'm just imagining a kidnapper who assaults his victims with endless compliments.

[@hewhositsuponfroggychair5722]

He'll steal your money, and after this video, he'll how how to take your breath away too!

[@kingzingo1784]

I think he's the guy who kidnapped you

[@Jp-gc6bh]

“You look great today, they’ve heard that 1000 times it’s generic” in my 9232 days of living I’ve never heard that before.

[@taco3v24]

You look great today

[@BriuwuCh]

you look great today as well.

[@Pmf95k]

@@taco3v24 guys, he still hasn’t “heard” it yet.

[@Tiago_Ferrari]

4:40 there you go men, now you heard it :D

[@unclelumbago5654]

Probably cuz you don’t look great today.

[@ThomasBrandoGreenman]

I've always had a problem with accepting a compliment. This video absolutely helped me. Going to keep these tips in mind the next time. Thank you!

[@snowy8926]

I also like the response that we have in Arabic You can choose from a lot of stuff like “That’s because of your great taste” “Your eyes are the beautiful ones” ( they have beautiful eyes = they see things beautifully”

[@theneedforspeeder9575]

That’s either arrogant or cringe

[@Rig0r_M0rtis]

@@theneedforspeeder9575 It probably works alright in his language and culture.

[@milesbeler3974]

The best response i've ever given was when a nice girl told me she liked my shoes. I turned to her and said "I'll take that from a girl with a great smile." I can't even explain how well that worked, so try it yourselves!

[@CHANGUTHAKUR]

Am gonna use it.

[@xprozombieslayer]

Same thing happened to me but I said thanks I like you're hair not as smooth but she still smiled 😁👍

[@davidbrumby761]

Using that. That was quick thinking my friend.

[@iliasssegame795]

This was better than the entire video

[@MikhaelAhava]

Miles Beler I bet I’ll fail so yeah…

[@adamhaj3890]

"Hey that Cologne smells really good" "Thanks you should see how it tastes" Am I doing this right?

[@bayareasportsfan04]

Yes

[@ananyabarya9356]

You're doing fine bro 😏

[@marionforge2769]

Right

[@LivestockXchange.]

If your cologne is Garlic then yeah😂

[@DanBCooper]

Yep

[@danielstoddart]

You can never go wrong with a simple "Thank you." It admits that the compliment is genuine and doesn't correct the person giving the compliment.

[@TheCatMurgatroyd]

giving strangers compliments is the best thing you can do, cause not only do they feel good "oh wow, I guess I DO look great in this shirt :D" but also YOU feel great cause you got a smile back and just did something good :D this is what being a social animal is all about :P

[@redcubegamer7716]

Waiter :"Enjoy your meal!" Me : "Thanks you too."

[@gabrielperla6731]

RedCube Gamer 😂😂😂

[@RoxheartLollipop]

We all do something like that in our lives.

[@cadecarman6781]

Ups driver : "here is your package" Me: "yeah you too"

[@ankusht1936]

I did this once by mistake , it was very awkward 😂

[@BigBoy-kr2gv]

When I say stuff like that I usually just say “oops!” afterward. It makes the other person laugh or smile usually, and takes away most of the awkwardness.

[@williamdavis5711]

The best complement I ever got was going into a post office. I held the door open for a lady and her child then an older man and he gestured for me to go inside and I told him "after you sir" he smiled and told me "thank you, a true gentleman and a scholar" I said "why thank you sir" then he said "not many of us left" so I told him "what a shame" and he nodded "truly so". I have never felt so darn cool or good after a complement I need to wait till I'm about 60 to tell another young man that one day now.

[@camioso]

Cool story, compliment*

[@kmmediafactory]

Holy cow now that’s truly an experience. Especially in the 21st century

[@anonamemous6865]

Cool

[@mikewiskoski1585]

the phrase is "gentleman and a scholar" typo maybe or you misheard

[@shami4236]

Sounds like a cool dialogue from those old detective movies 😂

[@petrthingsilike8487]

This is the first time ever, since I moved abroad (to London) that finally somebody used the word “tact”. Since I haven’t met anybody in almost 10 years who would understand that word I thought it doesn’t exist in English anymore. Thank you sir! :)

[@furioni333]

I do not get compliments, but it's always nice to be ready for that moment.

[@rbrtgrdn]

"What's your name?" "Sheila" "Oh, hey, that's my dog's name."

[@noluvsouljah]

🤣🤣🤣

[@cabhisek6308]

🤣🤣🤣

[@suplol4893]

🤣🤣🤣

[@amit_drivermarsxlr8_3653]

🤣🤣🤣

[@musicaldoge9412]

🤣🤣🤣

[@alijoyce2169]

-Hey,nice suit. -Thank you. It will help.

[@slendydie1267]

Hey i like your shoes Ty ,me too. I like your compliment

[@Ins0mniacGamer]

I love how genuine this video is

[@I.Z.Phooto]

I like the way you emphasize your words. It makes what you say more meaningful and impactful

[@sifsif2725]

“They think that you’re a geeky, nerdy, awkward kind of person” But what if you are.

[@tylerjohnson3728]

SiF SiF be you

[@abandonedbucharest7704]

Never got a better description of myself

[@thorsten8790]

You can be geeky, awkward and nerdy but still have a presence to you that makes people think you're very sociable and manly. I myself am a roleplaying video game playing nerd, but most people tend to like me and get interested in nerdy things because I make them appear "cool"

[@davidjacobs8558]

what's wrong with being geeky, nerdy and awkward? it's not illegal to be geeky, nerdy and awkward, and it doesn't harm anyone else. people should accept that as is, and be respectful, and not demand changes.

[@ghazalsuna9861]

@@davidjacobs8558 nerds get bullied by jerks that what he meant.thats why it's all wrong and it's not even cool,nerds are weak and can't speak then crys after ending up in a garbage can by bullies...

[@viharsarok]

"Hey, I like your new hearing aids." "Quarter past twelve."

[@jacobdavis7824]

Bro hahaha

[@aidanhunter6195]

Dangggg

[@orionbauer1834]

This had to have been a Twin Peaks scene

[@cainagnascimento]

I laughing so hard lol

[@gggg-hq4td]

"Speech inappropriate"

[@AmberPrince-ig2br]

As a woman who loves an old fashioned gentleman I can assure you that it is hard for a man to "become" one. A gentleman is actually a personality type meaning that he is actually "born" one. It is actually the rarest type of man on earth. He naturally possesses these amazing traits and is very self reflecting and observant of others positive and negative traits. It's almost as if he carefully studies how everyone acts. Then filters out "how to act" and "how not to act" applying the "how to" to himself which is quite amazing. The chances of meeting one is very rare. A gentleman also thinks much like a woman but is very masculine and straight which also makes him both rare and irresistible to women. His mother instills in him "proper" manners and he builds on that as he ages. It was a woman who groomed Clark Gable on his mannerisms for acting. ( He could be a gentleman on screen but was hardly one off ). I feel like some women know how a gentleman should act more than many men do....or maybe it's because I am a straight woman who thinks like a man which is also rare. LOL A gentleman in my opinion would respond to a compliment by simple saying "thank you" or "thank you, you're too kind" in a low and calm tone with a slight smile. Simple. Honest. Cool, calm, and collective.

[@clashdevil2925]

I usually say, thanks thats so nice of you and continue the conversation

[@natelowe6541]

Other person: “I like your shirt!” Me: “Thanks! It likes you too!”

[@doriannamjesnik3007]

ok i gotta use this from now on

[@dennisjungbauer4467]

Love it, was not expecting that! :D

[@ETHANR26]

Lovecraftian horror

[@JM_Tushe]

Yeah, it sounds kind of right.

[@Andyatl2002]

Now this would throw people off

[@visionadhikari8384]

If G-eazy was a gentleman he would look like this guy.

[@siddharthnetam1643]

😂😂😂

[@dainesschisenga4482]

I feel like this guy is from the 1800s

[@Novah]

Basically behind the scenes of ‘I mean it’ 😂

[@tripaloski_6971]

@@Novah Omfg i just made a comment saying exactly this and i see your comment

[@sapientfury6781]

@@dainesschisenga4482 I get a 1920s vibe from him.

[@josephhunt4804]

*Receive compliment* You: "Thanks! I appreciate that" : ) Done.

[@pfv1247]

Thank you. You provide much needed information for those of us who grew up as orphans and had no access to this kind knowledge.

[@cegrowber]

"Nice Car" "Oh you haven't seen my other one." - Batman Begins

[@MiguelMedV]

Sigma Christian Bale 👌🏼🔥💯...

[@Andicus]

**Someone compliments me** Me: **grunts in acknowledgement**

[@befakin]

I can’t stop laughing imagining this

[@Jairjax]

the caveman grunt never fails

[@Armand0333]

My teacher said that I had a nice laptop and I just kinda grunted without thinking

[@coolcatjack7169]

I just LOVE your mammoth pelt Ugbug!

[@aymericbaudet6601]

*caveman sounds coming from behind*

[@hark4e78]

The subtle drumming in the background is the perfect touch to this video.

[@brandonc.9244]

I just say thank you like any sane person

[@tony-777]

“Wow you look great!” “Don’t ever talk to me again.”

[@cadecarman6781]

"Looking sharp today man!" "Get out of my house"

[@HattieMcDanielonaMoon]

@@cadecarman6781 "But dad..." "I said GET OUT."

[@jari2018]

that must have been me

[@nygal1668]

Crush?

[@manhoosnick]

@@cadecarman6781 dafuq

[@chrissosa3723]

"Hey nice haircut" *_"I know, that's why I got it"_*

[@AirMax11031978]

Thank you! It's a periwig.

[@streetkombat6088]

SMH

[@G2Chanakya]

Better reply would be : Thanks. I grew it myself.

[@G2Chanakya]

@The ChadDevil 😂😂😂😂yea. Me giving replies compliments

[@Felix-zy1rc]

4:38 "dont say: you look great today" because they have heard that a thousand times. Hands up if youve heard that a thousand times. I thought so

[@ekk-0914]

Just deflect the compliment. YOU'RE breathtaking

[@amaan6845]

Me as a doctor while a patient is leaving: goodbye! Hope to see you soon.

[@eventhisidistaken]

"me too!...as soon as my eyes heal"

[@FsimulatorX]

Goodbye Docotor, hope we don’t meet in your office again :D

[@d73w80]

No, just say 'see you soon' deadly serious with the utmost confidence.

[@thomanarchos]

I usually give a playful, “Hope I won’t be seeing you too soon!”

[@thomasw.eggers4303]

This is common for doctors to hear, both this and its opposite, "I hope I never see you again." Doctors understand the situation, and they won't be offended with the reply, although they are most likely very tired of hearing it.

[@ejbecker8527]

“Don’t complement physical features” me and the boys at the gym…

[@superkingdestroyer0075]

“Looking big King” “Just trynna be like you King”

[@gabrielvaldes-ramos6980]

Fr🤣

[@psychsteeves4577]

i was thinking the exact same

[@Gabriel-bt7ix]

U mirin brah?

[@saifamer8423]

“Lookin breedable and submissive bro”

[@Codex207]

This channel is so good! It is like i have been waiting for something like this non consciously. Have an amazing day lads!

[@deuvankesar5335]

Funny how I watched this video just yesterday, and got a compliment today after a long time. Thanks 🙏😂

[@Fox-Paw]

As a man here I don't receive compliments that very often, but a while ago I complimented one of my friends who got an awesome looking shirt-pants combo, and fast forwards to now, we give each other a genuine compliment every other day! It is really fun!

[@MrDrProfJMF]

We as men need more of this

[@Fox-Paw]

@@lagunalibre117 Hihihhi, just wait and see

[@vanillaicecreamcheesefries]

that's so sweet

[@revanamell1791]

You're doing it right. Always be sincere. The more compliments you give the easier it gets to see positives in others.

[@jdemarco]

Aw, isn't that the cutest thing everrr...like OMG cuteness overload!...

[@sasukes.6370]

This really helps me because I'm autistic and I want to learn how to mimic a good personality. I am also really guilty of oversharing and infodumping when someone compliments a piece I'm wearing. Edit: I also learned from taking Japanese that it's actually impolite to accept compliments, and you're supposed to reject them politely because it shows humility. It's opposite in the west, where doing so makes the compliment giver feel like they have bad taste.

[@vrota1836]

I'm not autistic as far as I know but I can relate. Also it's tricky to adapt to the situation and the person you're talking to, because by not accepting compliments you could be humble and disrespectful at the same time.

[@elishamaye3376]

If I may, don't change who you are because you're autistic. I know a few people who are (and live with one of them) and I'm here to tell you that you shouldn't mimic a personality, especially if some random people are telling you that's what you should do. March to the beat of your own drum. Don't let the world tell you who to be. Be who you were created to be.

[@MiguelMedV]

I'm autistic too and I used to try to copy likeable personalities to socialise, trust me for all my years of experience, the best thing you can do is to be yourself plus a few very difficult things for people like us: - Relax. - Have confidence in who you are. - Fear not rejection or disapproval. You are who you are, fight for what you believe in, be a warrior and you'll become virtually unstoppable ✌🏼...

[@ancala4140]

Gotta tricky in multicultural setting

[@Andyatl2002]

Masking is something that we do sometimes as neurodivergent and autistic people and it can protect us but it can also hurt us, so don’t overdo it.

[@jdottdeestv8149]

The introduction was on point, scrub well earned.

[@1k1ngst0n]

LOVE the frank commentary in this video!!! so refreshing : )

[@armoredgaming2352]

God I love this guy's insults xD

[@carlblaskowitz7817]

He needs to do another video on when its appropriate to use profanity for emphasis... he has got it mastered.

[@cjm9860]

@@carlblaskowitz7817 when your in an intimate circle only, and only if its already been proven acceptable. Never in public, never at ghe workplace

[@JosecZuniga]

haha this was great!

[@styleformen7535]

Jose

[@glen4723]

Do you like me??

[@stephendeal7492]

Jose I'm part of TMF fam, hello

[@bash6555]

Wait a sec, you actually need guidance on how to be a gentleman !! Guess you are a normal man after all😂😂

[@abudalabashuneba2072]

jose here to learn smh

[@krispyk.1786]

Much thanks- me and a few buds are plannin on wearing tuxes throughout the week and as a the humble guy of the group this video definitely helps out.

[@AsifImran]

So say thank you and compliment them back GENUINELY. Nice, thank you!

[@0p10ids7]

_appreciate it m'lady _*_tips fedora_*

[@arcticgamers123]

4:28 He's wearing a fedora

[@obykanoby2555]

This comment is gold

[@aquaplays3620]

The real chad

[@bruhmoment1835]

*gets shot in the head*

[@dickJohnsonpeter]

Then you have to berate her after that. Most import part, don't forget it.

[@austin16377]

“Dude you’re smart!” Reply: “you’re smart for realizing who’s smart.” “Dude you look good” Reply: you have good taste. “

[@terragaia7092]

Now this is what I call class.

[@flostrasser2994]

@@terragaia7092 that could come over arrogant

[@Muheeb_]

@@flostrasser2994 yeah

[@TVSuchty]

@@flostrasser2994 I kinda like the second one. If your not in a formal situation, you can try it.

[@billpetersen298]

@@flostrasser2994 That’s what I heard.

[@pumpies1920]

Took 4 min for him to respond with a smile and thank you

[@MeTubeERG]

I've been doing all of this automatically since I was a kid, but I was raised with a modicum of good taste. Sven's absolutely right that many, however, absolutely NEED this primer.

[@ek_family]

“Hey that’s a nice watch, does it work?” “Yes it’s supposed to tell plebeians how little time I have for them”

[@phoenixflyz_]

Thanks for the making this old word new to me 🙏🏾

[@anthonywilliams379]

Why would someone ask if the watch works......who carries a broken watch besides will Smith in men in black? Had a cousin ask me at a wedding what I had on a chain in my pocket and I couldn't believe that she didn't put 2 and 2 together that it was a watch

[@uffa00001]

@@anthonywilliams379 You could have had a pince-nez, or a smartphone, or car keys, or a wallet... I saw a guy some days ago with plenty of chains, probably four, going from his shirt to his blue-jeans pockets. I suppose it's a person who has been pickpocketed repeatedly. Although at a wedding I would have bet on a watch for sure.

[@bigdapramirez6157]

@@phoenixflyz_ thank you for buying me a pizza when I was sitting on the side of the road

[@sotb367]

@@uffa00001 isnt it more of an emo culture thing

[@addeadde97]

I just say "I know" to every compliment

[@jol9280]

same tbh

[@vojtechtax9723]

Or reply "So do I" to "I like your ..." type compliment

[@lafete6863]

I just say "I get that all the time" cos I'm cocky like that

[@elsamillerr]

MOOD

[@Spork357]

Yeah me too

[@WatermelonEnthusiast9]

I randomly got recommend this, and i enjoyed every second of it

[@dasse1588]

Sometimes I tell a girl. Hey I like your hair. It reminds me of my grandma. They don't usually talk to me after that.

[@remusgars5928]

Lol

[@Mogamett]

Needs work I think.

[@rileyhertz9564]

lacks, "can I have it?"

[@blainecole5452]

King Gustav of Sweden: "Sir, you are the greatest athlete in the world." Jim Thorpe: "Thanks, King"

[@SDCB754]

Legendary athlete

[@jacobcrawford2744]

I love it, such good information that not everyone may have had access to growing up. Thank you!

[@eratic3510]

Thanks this actually helped during conversations

[@bryanramosacosta5129]

“You have nice eyes man” “Awww shucks” I actually say this

[@wildchicken679]

Bryan Ramos Acosta “Thanks. You have eyes too”

[@SDCB754]

You have nice eyes, man

[@ElectricMan3444]

@Anthony Lavelle Thanks Man you got nice eyes to

[@SDCB754]

@@ElectricMan3444 As do you ;)

[@ElectricMan3444]

@Anthony Lavelle Thanks you!!!!!

[@Ignasimp]

"you look great today" they heart it a thousand times... Do they? I myself don't hear that very often. I think guys don't tend to get complimented very often.

[@natebit7167]

Women hear it all the time, but most guys have never heard this in their entire life

[@sanaljith727]

I have lived for like 21 years and I haven't got a single compliment, but I'll still watch this video just in case.

[@avasquez94]

Great video, love the concept that happens to everyone and some times we don't really act the best way, for me is always a little awkward when someone say something nice about me and the answer that you say it's true, just smile and say thanks, well thanks to you for the video!

[@robdevenney]

I read the comments on a wide range of KZbin videos and by far this guy's channel has the nicest commentators. Good job on the video

[@gentlemansgazette]

Thanks!

[@the21herald]

Because all the commentators are gentlemans :D

[@tiborklein5349]

**tips fedora** M'lady...

[@Figue-]

The Very Angry Maker Actually the comments on meme compilation vidéos are awesome good.

[@MikhaelAhava]

The Very Angry Maker I don’t necessarily agree, it varies video to video of each channel I would assume, I could be wrong.

[@bheinatz1]

This is a surprisingly great and necessary guide. When I first started dressing a little shaper, I think I must have done just about every one of these no-no's at one point or another. My most common was the compliment back, but it got to the point that it felt so forced and disingenuous. When I began to just say, "Thank you!" and give a big, warm smile, I could feel that their reaction was true and warm; they just went out of their way to try to make you feel good, so a warm smile shows them they succeeded and they feel good about it...plus now I don't have to fish for phoney baloney compliments! "Hey, you look really sharp in that suit, man!" "Gee thanks...uh...I really like your sweatsuit?" haha! THANKS GG!

[@gentlemansgazette]

Thanks Ben! We appreciate that you shared your experience with us!

[@eyeheartsushi2212]

Ben Heinatz At first I had a hard time relaxing when being complimented but luckily that was the only no-no. I just started saying "thank you" even though it felt kind of weird not to compliment back or "give something in return."

[@chuckmcveigh1896]

I must admit, I was guilty of the same things...deflecting or making fun of the compliment in a self deprecating fashion, just ingrained in my psyche I guess, great tips and observations..

[@nevermindme4289]

Glad I'm not the only one I as well took some chances and got unexpected compliments and did knew how to respond.. At least now I know

[@hockeyxgamer]

I remember being in the audience one time and this guy on stage called something breathtaking. I told him that he was breathtaking back and he got a good kick out of it

[@nova_steric1749]

I receive a lot of compliments. I usually say "thanks", but often i don't reply at all, and i make things awkward. Once i denied a compliment, and i felt really bad about it. Now i know what to do. thank you.

[@oldwest517]

Amazingly I was never taught how to receive a compliment when I was young. Not sure why, since I was taught good manners and behavior otherwise. It wasn't until I was maybe 15 years old l and got a compliment and basically deflected it as I generally did, and as I was walking away, I heard the man saying to his wife, "can you believe it? he didn't even say thank you." It was a shameful revelation, and I never forgot it for the rest of my life. I didn't neglect to teach my own kids--although I'm sure I accidentally overlooked teaching them some other aspect of good manners. Learning (and practicing) good manners and making people feel comfortable around you is, for most of us, a life-long journey.

[@gentlemansgazette]

Thanks for sharing. :)

[@jose.montojah]

Class is crass. There are other ways to be confortable among each other that won't have us driving the planet to extinction.

[@TheImperfectWriter]

She: You're hot/ You've a hot voice. Me: Coming from the beauty herself, thank you.

[@eventhisidistaken]

The correct response to that kind of complement is, "cool, you're place?"

[@MONICAANICA]

A gracious reply most probably will be: I really needed that compliment😍

[@chitogekirisaki5598]

Not the video we searched up for but the one we all deserved.

[@Hassenboy]

I've never been complimented for dressing up, but I have been criticized multiple times.

[@freepalestine9767]

I know right, that is basically my sister everytime I go out. The last time I have heard a compliment from her was like 3 years ago

[@Floral_Green]

This made me laugh. Sorry.

[@PhantomRenegades94]

My Miami Vice style is controversial among my friends and some fashion figures but I don't care.

[@TahaZabuawala]

Sorry man but i laughed really hard at this 😂

[@rgnk.l1173]

Same here, I don’t receive compliments but when I do, it’s not a compliment, it’s a critique on my clothing style, thanks people 🙄

[@omarsohal926]

The music is just awesome

[@davidbrumby761]

Simple drums. Love it. Thanks for pointing that out

[@samwilson5598]

(jazz music stops)

[@niccolopaganini4268]

@@antoniemitartristanvandrim6898 It's literally just some rhythm played on drums

[@shogunotaku]

Jazz is always manly

[@caprimann87]

there is no music

[@mackellar829]

When I'm complimented I say, "That is nice of you to say, thanks very much."

[@lepesar7422]

Yeah I agree with this guy, a simple thanks is enough

[@latetotheparty7551]

I've never laughed so much at the bluntness in one of these videos. XD

[@nickyblue4866]

Some one else finds the dead panning awesome too. Heh.

[@komickommentator]

"thank you" is without question the best response. nonetheless, I also sometimes say "thank you! that was so kind of you to say!" I believe that is a return compliment that is appropriate although some people might think it belittles the compliment or questions the person's sincerity. thus, it should be said sparingly and (always) sincerely. in certain settings, a gently comical reply helps soften the compliment, especially if it's given in a group setting and sounds like the person is "trying too hard." for example, if the person exuberantly compliments a piece of clothing, I might reply"this old thing?" and then smile and chuckle in a warm and embracing manner. a gentle touching of the person's arm or shoulder helps convey the message to the rest of the group that this person is "ok" even if his comment was a bit awkward.

[@gentlemansgazette]

It's great that truly works for you!

[@bheinatz1]

Dckommentatur S An excellent point!

[@zacharycollins9485]

Smooth moves

[@permachub524]

Very classy, sir. Highly enjoyable. Thanks for the wonderful advice.

[@Chrisdotnorthwich]

I say - thank you I’m glad you like it!

[@ianpaul7895]

I once complemented an executive on his obviously very expensive silk tie. He said, “Thank you! Your tie is [suddenly he realized my tie was trash] . . . tied really well.” I smiled and thanked him in return.