How To Be A Good Husband To Your Wife | Paul Friedman

Do you want to be a good husband to your wife? Watch Paul discuss how you can achieve this and become the ultimate man.
I've talked about this a lot even on Second Saturday which started a support group for men who are going through a divorce and unfortunately, most men wait too long. They go, "Oh, this will work out. She's just going through this blah blah blah", and they wait too long and then they realized that their wife has left them and they're filing for a divorce.
In most cases, it's pretty much too late just because of the way society is set up now and also because of the nature of women. Something happens and if they give their love to someone else that's pretty much over. If they haven't but they're just leaving and I sometimes we have people where the wife is still in the house but she's like past DEFCON 10 and she's letting her husband know occasionally can be saved hopefully that's the case for you. I'm going to give you some bullet points.
Also, if you're asking this question chances are you're past the point of using either of my books which is Breaking the Cycle or Lessons for Happy Marriage, great reviews. They're great useful, really useful marriage books but you're probably passed that point and you need the course for men. In the course for men, I start out with very simple very deep stuff. Number one, you have free will. You're misusing it. You're not using it to put joy into your
marriage.
You have expectations of your wife but not of yourself and that has to change, but one of the biggest problems that I'm going to share with you for men is this. Anger -- men use their anger on their wife so the best way to illustrate why this is screwed up, a friend of mine -- I was a divorce mediator before and a fellow divorce mediator Robert said to me and he used this explanation for children. He used to say, "Imagine you go to an alien planet with two bodyguards and then they turn on each other." He was talking about how it is for
kids when their parents start attacking one another.
I used that and I said, "Imagine you hire a bodyguard," because as a man that's what you are. We're going into the basics of the biology because there are the biology and the spiritual part but you can't ignore either. So biologically, men are the protectors so you or your wife's bodyguard, you're the guy who carries the gun and you get mad at her for some nonsensical stupid little thing which everything is stupid and nonsensical. And you go, "Biatch, you better get your act together." Now you're not doing that but when you go... you might as well be doing that because women are sensitive and she's been trusting you to take care of her so you're turning the tables and you're really upsetting things.
Fortunately, a screwed up as it is where Hollywood has made men into these things
and women there's so much confusion that it doesn't really affect women consciously like then they don't leave you immediately. They should because that is your obligation to protect but they don't because we're all screwed up. But if you want to be a better husband
that's got to go. You cannot be stern with your wife. You cannot show anger. You cannot be angry. There's no reason for anger towards your wife. Anger is a physiological biological
reaction to fear. It's part of the survival instinct. It's not meant to be used in the home. It's meant to be used in the jungles. You're supposed to control it.
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I’m newly married and I already don’t like some of his attitudes. I’m gonna wait and see patiently an year or so if he’s still not acting like a husband I quit

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Good choice, bro.

[@WhyWouldYou821]

I'm a wife and mother of 2. I watched your video on being a better wife to my hubby. Loved it. Only rolled my eyes once lol. Everything else was spot on. I am a little surprised the message for women was a half hour long and the message for men was 7 minutes. But if you think about it, we women talk a bit more and need more clarification most times lol. Makes sense. Keep up the good work sir!

[@Jomarina11]

Yes, I would like a longer piece for men!

[@grenciamars4876]

Underrated and underappreciated wisdom here... wow. ❤ I'm a sensitive man who is calm the majority of the time, but I have deep wounds from watching my mom verbally abuse my father over silly things like making the coffee too weak, misplacing a storage bin, etc. (whether or not he was really at fault, he got it). In my own marriage, this makes it incredibly difficult to stay calm when it feels that my wife is criticizing me. In the past, instead of trying to decide what to do, I'd just use magic thinking and hope someday I'll be absolutely unerring in all my actions and speech and never receive criticism... because that somehow sounded more realistic than working on myself. Maybe that's just how broken I feel sometimes, but regardless, thank you for this video.

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You are very welcome. You can have a great marriage

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Don’t be angry with her. No anger. Change myself to make myself the ultimate man.

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Yes! Anger is not you, don't allow it to invade your sanctuary.

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@@TheMarriageFoundation I’ve tried for two years. I can’t stop getting angry with her. It’s always when she calls me a liar.

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The beggining just described my current situation :(

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thank you 🙏

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@@TheMarriageFoundation no.. thank you. Literally have opened my eyes and I now look back at myself from a complete different perspective. And that can only mean good news

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Thank you.. I needed this message

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The better you do the happier you are and it is my desire to serve men and women with truthful ideas that are empowering.

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I am a newlywed! Just married in Kenya

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This course will help you themarriagefoundation.org/premarital-program/ maybe consider it

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I'm sorry for overstepping my boundaries, please forgive me. This guy gets to the point ❤

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Very insightful. Thank you.

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honored 🙏

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Thanks you helped me realise where I was going wrong

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O h my good lord! Have you been watching me? You were straight talking to me Sir! Truly! I feel like a whole new motivation is coming from understanding exactly what you just said.. stay blessed... and thank you for making that... it helped me!!

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You are right. I hope the right ppl see this. And I’d love to have the book.

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Good Afternoon Paul. I couldn’t have stumbled across this video at a more crucial time in my marriage. I’ll be sure to Subscribe and check your Videos out… THANK YOU 💚

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I am so glad you have found a source of useful info...Blessings!

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Thank you very much for sharing your wonderful thoughts

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Thank you sir

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Thank you

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I'm stuck in a cycle, not on the verge of divorce. The book about breaking the cycle might be helpful for me.

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Thank you 👍

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Thank you

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🙏 thank you

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God bless you sir thank you

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Good job sir👍

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Can be saved, i truly hope so.

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Blessings to you as well...❤❤❤

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Were do I go to ask about my specific situation?

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5:30 My wife will ask me a question then i respond with some snarky arrogant remark, then she bites my head off and im left angry, frustrated and later sad while an hr later she doesnt even remember what i saidb

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Its all her fault?? Get the course for men and turn your life into joy

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Fear an anger Frm lack of her Communicateing.?

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Not really... learn to love unconditionally

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Gain control over your mind so that you are soulmates, not just playmates

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Can I work with you?

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Those who help people see how wonderful is marriage to be as God intended, especially by learning how to master one's mind already works with me.

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Thank you sir