How to Be A High Value Woman That Men Desire | Relationship Advice For Women by Mat Boggs

[@matboggs]

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[@mariettehanekom2109]

I find a man who is not confidant in him self is the man who stares most of the night in his drink and not look at you

[@FollowYourLife]

A high value man is genuine, respectful, does what he says, is kind with people, knows what he wants in life, is goal oriented, is confident, shows his boundaries, doesn't send mixed signals, is conscious about his less attractive character traits and is constantly improving himself.

[@rezotydnic]

Honest, and loyal too.

[@madOHnna]

Wow! I couldn't say it better myself! I would add committed or passionate

[@tracycash6032]

Well said!

[@FollowYourLife]

@Sayin wat a high value man, just like a high value woman, knows that only true commitment will lead to a happy and healthy family. But him constantly searching for a "replacement" speaks only about his deep insecurities and unworthiness.

[@FollowYourLife]

@Sayin wat well, seems that you know it all and I have not the intention to alter your decision. After all it's your life and only you decide what works best for you and what not. In such a crazy world with so many broken values it's not that easy to find the Mr./Mrs. Right, although not impossible. It takes a lot of dating of course (not sleeping around) to understand if a person has all the values and traits you've mentioned. Men have options, women have options. It's a world of choices. And for sure if you want a hight value woman you should be a high value man. And, for what I know, most of the people have narcissistic traits nowadays (the world is messed up), which makes it almost impossible to create a stable relationship, without the fear of being used, judged, criticized, neglected, abused and so on. But if you have a very good radar at picking up these patterns in someone early on then you're lucky to leave an unhealthy situation.

[@ankieberkers8708]

High value man: respectful, responsible, reliable & kind.

[@maurapritchard1336]

A high value man is true to his word and speaks the truth to his partner

[@jessicaward5121]

1. Compatibility over chemistry 2. She doesn't chase but allows the dance 3. She never pretends to be someone else 4. She dates with purpose 5. She gets physical slower 6. She is selective 7. She chooses a man for who he is now

[@Anna_Vorobushek]

A high value man is the one that takes responsibility, always does his best to keep his word and makes you feel safe around him both physically and emotionally

[@laurend5731]

High value women: @2:43 prioritize compatibility over chemistry. @3:57 don’t chase, rather they show interest and invite the dance @5:00 never pretend to be someone else @5:39 date with purpose and aren’t afraid to share that on first date @6:33 tend to get physical slower @7:48 are selective @9:05 choose men based on who they are now not who they might be in the future

[@Sarah-bk4px]

A high value man is genuine, kind, respectful, confident, knows what he wants, sets goals, always encouraging to grow. Has boundaries and respects other’s boundaries

[@dashiajames1882]

I find in a high value man: Authenticity, Determined, Confidence, Chivalry, Respect....knows how to treat a woman 🙂🙂 !!

[@nikkiross128b]

A high value man is someone who gets his shit together no matter what challenging situation he’s currently in, and who is in touch with his emotions. In my opinion it could even be a man who lost everything due to circumstances but the way he will navigate in those circumstances that will make him a high value man.

[@SuperStella1111]

Bingo! And dead right comment. A provider and a protector will always have things going on, outlets, ways of making back money or earning a living. Energy is always around them, even if a financial risk doesn't bear fruit. The trick is identifying that man. Provision and protection: that is the literal floor of what a man MUST provide. But women make a terrible mistake when they imagine that requires a great deal of money. Many low-paid men do everything to support their families, to protect them, to be there for them. High value does not necessarily equal high paid.

[@Sidrakhan1810-t7z]

My man wants to be physically close but I set a boundary I clearly said to him I reserved it for the future....... and he respected that... Thanks, mats your previous video helped me so much

[@fatimajajova9078]

You know, what is sexy on man, its effort, its communication, when the man is able to communicate and when he is not in his ghosting mode...

[@lindageigerChristiandating]

He is genuinely interested in all aspects of me, and isn't threatened or intimidated by any of it. Is supportive and has his own amazing life aspects that he is confident about as well.

[@MQueenOfFire]

A high-valued man is someone who knows what he wants and is aware of what he's doing. He knows how to take the lead and he doesn't give false hopes He is assertive, grounded, and not afraid to be vulnerable. He is open with his emotions, and not afraid to be the masculine energy to the feminine energy.

[@camuyana]

I see value in a man who says he's going to do something and does it. The values and standards that he demonstrates are also what I observe and consider. I find it attractive that a man is accomplished in whatever personal or professional area he endeavors. It's important to me how he treats other people, whether family, friends or strangers, and animals. Know that his goals and desires in a relationship are geared towards a committed relationship, meaning marriage.

[@SabrinaDacosta]

Well I guess you just contradicted yourself by saying there is a “large supply” of women looking for high value men but then mentioned it’s hard to find a good woman. comparing it to finding a needle in a haystack. So there might be a large supply but that’s irrelevant since you are still gong it hard to find a good one

[@mrsdanmiller]

A HVM doesn’t lie, remembers his promises, contributes equally in productive conversation, substantiates opinions with sound reason, recognizes wisdom in seasoned experience, accurately estimates the wealth this woman is willing to offer in committing to him.

[@Alexthompson9]

From your comment is obvious you are a high valued woman. I pray you get all you seek from am man Find a man that can love you so much I love your reply ☺️

[@carline1489]

Authenticity and honesty

[@wonhur885]

Divorce is never the way out, My wife and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser, i wasn't going to let my marriage of 18years crash.

[@wonhur885]

@Rose Allen well not the orthodox way but i was referred by a friend to a spiritual adviser and healer.

[@wonhur885]

@Rose Allen Her name is Shelly Renee White, and she is great at what she does.

[@wonhur885]

@Rose Allen you can look her name up online and you will find all you need.

[@Jawsandabs]

So you both worked it out. Sometimes one party bails

[@observeirene]

High value men: mature, responsible, goal oriented, loving

[@stacybennett4982]

Why can't there be more men like u Mat....u seem like everything a good&respectable women could want...congrats to ur wife for snatching u up...I always love ur advice.

[@rezotydnic]

1. She prioritizes compatibility over chemistry. 2. She doesn't chase but allows the dance. 3. She never pretends to be someone else. 4. She dates with purpose. 5. She gets physical slower. She values what she earns and what she puts effort in. 6. She is selective. Being selective. Sets standards and boundaries. 7. She chooses a man for who he is now, not for his potential.

[@janicehartman2827]

A man which I can have common interest, makes me laugh, great conversation. He must have respect for me and everything important to him. He feels comfortable in hhis own skin, and has complete understanding of who I truly am without judgement

[@life-is-here]

This video offers valuable insights on how to be authentically confident and attract people with that mindset. Definitely worth watching!

[@k9luver701]

I have a pact with a good friend that we will no longer fall in love with potential.

[@Lina26435]

this video came at a time when i needed most. a high value man? knows what he wants and communicates it clearly. i just need to find the courage to set better boundaries when it's time.

[@JustBeingAwesome]

High value man for me: Intelligent, inquisitive, driven, multilingual, avid traveller. Kind, respectful, takes care of those he loves (family, friends, kids) Respects my boundaries and actually asks what feels good to me so he can respect my boundaries. Goes above and beyond to take care of things when life hits him in the face. No victim mentality. Takes care of his body and appearance. Playful, can live a "light" life.

[@rezotydnic]

For me, a high value man, who I have in my life, is honest, open, and loyal. Dedicated to his purpose, goal orientated, and thoughtful.

[@marytalbott9251]

You just answered why my last relationship ended. Thank you. I’ll put these 7 suggestions to work!

[@Woffyshine]

Prioritizing compatibly over chemistry. Authentic and confident. Know my feminine energetic role. Purpose and vision driven. Setting my standards and boundaries.

[@vaughndianewillems8472]

A man who is kind continuously toward me and who wants to protect me.

[@Brookerennyy]

Oh wow I wish someone played me this video when I was in my early 20s!!!! Every word was so powerful! Bookmarking to show my daughter in 15 years lol

[@annaguzman996]

Thank you for this! Yes, value yourself first and the man will value you as well. I believe this information is spot on and aligns with what I have told my 4 daughters. Married over 20 years and received this same advice myself. Thank you for providing such honest and grounded information. Blessings🌺

[@Milycabrera92]

When a man set his boundaries too that’s highly value and attractive ❤

[@reemsaif3105]

Everything you said is true. For me a high value man is someone who knows what he wants, takes the lead, smiles and connects with the woman hes interested in. He could be asking her out or for her number. A confident man gives a woman the feeling that he is bigger and stronger.

[@Geektaard]

This video was just what I needed now! A high value man is a man that is not afraid of commitment, a man who is goal oriented, a man that is comminicative and don’t shy away as soon things get a bit difficult

[@Red_1976]

They are hard to meet!

[@ladyboss2944]

He is consistent, integrity, high morals and values, secure, and believes in God.

[@LearnGermanwithMarzipanfrau]

5:38 Yes, that's what I learned this year. Dating with purpose and just tell what you are looking for right from the start to find the best man.

[@ssgundes1]

Hey Mat! This was great stuff. Thank you. I am doing all except the one at the end. Appreciating him for where he is at now. When I first met the guy I am seeing now we met on a dating site. we texted for a week and then He called and we hit it off. His pics were different from him in real life. He wasn't really being deceptive just didn't post any that he usually looks like. He showed up scruffy and much more obese than his pics. I am a petite 5'2 lady and this guy is about 6'2 and maybe 300 lbs. When we met he discussed his eating issues and said he's changing his bad ways. He walking and says he cutting out sugars. But his eating is not healthy. I have mentioned to him about his need to eat healthy to be healthy. So why do I continue to see him? He's the kindest man I have ever met. He is very generous and helpful. He's attentive. He goes for walks every day but he's eating really unhealthy. We've been dating a month and I really like him but I cant handle his eating habits or his obesity. What should I do? I really like him and have not found anyone that makes me feel like he does in 16 years!! I am 68.

[@raularmas317]

I think eating disorders are extremely tough to overcome because they usually start so early in life so the conditioning of putting fork to mouth is really well-engraved in our minds by the time we are adults. Please be patient with your guy and partially re-enforce his losing weight by being a little more affectionate when he hits a previously set weight loss target. Were I you I would use whatever influence I had with him to suggest that he first deal with/focus on slowing down his consumption of whatever food he eats without worrying about expanding an exercise routine. Priority 2. Suggest he try slowing down his eating by listening to music with a slow tempo while he eats and by writing down everything he eats day by day. Anything to slow the process of consumption and to make him mindful of who is in charge of his body's physical condition. If he hasn't got a full length mirror you might want to provide one for his bathroom door so he can't avoid seeing himself as he truly is (as an adult) sans clothes.

[@andreamuir1959]

Communication is massive for me

[@kimfrederick7710]

Very insightful video and I agree with all your talking points

[@janeadams647]

Matt, I just want to say thank you for all of your videos. I find them so helpful - well, they must have - I've met the man of my dreams! I will you continuing watching your videos, though, to keep reminding me what's important. Thank you again.

[@loriarias1486]

That the man in my life should be authentic, considerate of my time and not afraid to share his feelings about what he is looking for in a relationship and follow through with those ideals.

[@MoiraiScarlet]

For me at least, a high value man/person is someone who put value in their words. Someone who speaks with honesty, authenticity and only make promises if it's something they can and willing to commit to.

[@elenidemetriou714]

When a man respects a woman and when he can be fully trusted

[@annae.9006]

Love, LOVE, L.O.V.E. this video Matt... (I love all your work, but this video in particular is 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻). Much love to you and the family!!

[@Wadadli68]

I like the salsa dance analogy 👏

[@tokaahmed9137]

A high value man has a his point of view of what life meaning , he has high morals , take everything in easy way , i feel safe that he can handle anything and i can relay on him and control the life with passion

[@maryamk2398]

YOUR VIDEOES ARE SHORT AND RIGHT TO THE POINT. I APPRECIATE IT

[@krystavi05]

Mat, a question regarding #2: would it be considered "chasing" for a woman to ask a man to hang out as friends (no pressure, no expectations)? Edit to add: and yes, the woman is romantically interested in the guy

[@MultiAwsomeman12345]

A high value man does what he says he's going to do, is reliable and honest, can communicate openly without, does not put pressure oor hint on a woman to have sex in the initial dating stage. I met a man that I felt attracted and he mentioned that he was dating other wonmen, which is kind of obvious until both men and women decide to be exclusive....later I found out that he was not contacting me cause he said he was consufed and said "he was spending time with them" I replied this " I understand dating variious women can be confusing for you, I think it will be more complicated later on when you try to build emotional attachment with them" and this made him react and came back to me and said he wanted to see me cause among those women I stood up, then we went on a 2nd date, were close, but no sex yet, he was all over then 3rd date was great ! I felt both have amazing connection and attraction! I asked him a bit more about past relationships and share mine which are not negative, I think was a mistake to talk about cause that might have trigger him in thinking that I wanted to be exclusive I just wanted to find more about him etc. We both went on seperate trip for 12 days, after that he gosted me with no explanation. I will not chase him! I am sure he's going out with other women and is not man enough to let me know that he's not interested of needs space. Now....the fact that he mentioned from the 1st date that he will be dating other women at the same time, ( he supposely was honest about it ) somehow this made him in his mind a higher value than me, wondering how I could have best addressed that then. I would really appreciate feedback or an opinion about this narcisist that likes to use women at his disposal. I did set boundaries about being intimate in the early stages and he respected that, goes to make me better that I didn't

[@jbaby283]

A high-value man in my book: ambitious, emotionally stable, protective, growth-focused, goal-focused, visionary, generous, responsible and respectful. Ultimately, he makes me feel safe in every way.

[@reemsaif3105]

I don't have problems being ghosted. My problem is that I get bored from the guy so I leave. Now am committed to owning my happiness ✨️

[@dashiajames1882]

When you're ghosted usually a sign of telling you he not the one for you. Same with rejection. I ghost to but only cuz he's not up to my standards or he just bores me & I feel like I'm wasting my time.

[@raularmas317]

How do I project felt security? By having well-established boundaries that I am willing to defend. By seeking, finding, and practicing my own ways of becoming a fulfilled human being. By internalizing my own locus of control through any number of ways that put me in a mental state of flow. Repeatedly practicing this type of meditation will eventually lead me to replace unhealthy codependency with a healthier interdependent mindset with the discipline to know when to assert myself and when to hold back out of respect for other people's right to choose.

[@debbielightmillercurtisaut9631]

Powerful reminder, I am spot on with these suggestions. For me I know an man is one a higher level based on how he manages disagreements and how he treats others. ❤❤❤

[@MagdoleenRafla]

My top priority of a man is the protective one. That man I will always respect and look up to.

[@Meesha612]

High value man - . Respect every one . Responsibility . Kind / Caring . Authentic . Soft Spoken to opposite sex . Value his time

[@syl668]

I'm intrigued by this Boggs! Thank you 🙏

[@taraelmegreen5527]

A high value man is: 1. Honest 2. Keeps in touch, whether u had sex the first night or not. 3. DOESN'T make rude comments or focus on the phys attribute God gave me 4. WANTS to b with me, asks me what I WANT to do...and thrn I give 3 ideas. 5. Makes the effort to come to me. 6. Speaks respectfully, doesn't dominate the conversation 7. Opens my door 100% of the time and pays... 8. Compliments me on my outffit, hair or some other physical trait, brcause I have worked hard to look good for him. 9. Respects my boundaries, doesn't try to push me further 10. Calls to f/u to see if I enjoyed our date....

[@Alexthompson9]

I pray God bless you with such a man. Amen

[@nataliasolakian7928]

A high value man respects, loves, cherishes, honors, protects in a healthy and balanced way his equal counterpart, his wife.

[@Autumn_jordan]

Integrity- that covers A LOT

[@DrHafsaRizki]

For me, I see a real man through keeping his word yet isn’t also afraid to speak his truth when he is unable to keep the word he’s made. A man who isn’t afraid to say what he expects from his partner from the first day. A man who acknowledges his mistake.

[@Anna_Vorobushek]

Thank you so much for mentioning #5!!!!! It seems nowadays that you're weird if you need a few weeks or months to get used to a person lol

[@Gingerkd1]

What if you don’t have any chemistry with the people you have compatibility with? I can’t seem to find both.

[@hrichards9562]

Eugh me too

[@polishmeow8298]

Matt already discussed this. He told that don't immediately lash off these people. Sometimes chemistry might take a while to be built. Many people in relationships have shared they didn't initially felt the chemistry with their partners. Some may say they felt it right away, some took a while. So try to give it off some time, do a few dates and spend more time together before completely rejecting the idea of this potential relationship. You might miss the opportunity on a great partner with you evaluating everything early on. Also try to consider how they make you feel.

[@Gingerkd1]

@@polishmeow8298 how long are suppose to wait? There is only so much time that you can spend with someone that you’re not at all attracted to before you start dreading it!

[@hrichards9562]

@@polishmeow8298 But you assume that the other person is going to be willing to just go on all these dates too, on the off chance it might become un-platonic one day. That’s sadly just not the reality of modern dating. I met both my ex boyfriends at work, because it’s an environment where you’re both forced to be around each other for an extended time, so it allowed for that chemistry to build. I don’t “immediately lash off” people, but dating apps and other forms of modern dating invariably require immediate chemistry or the simple truth is you won’t be asked on a second date, much less a third, a fourth or a fifth.

[@TheGoldenAgePiscean777]

Go Matt. This was great advice and I really like your unique approach

[@Itspaolatina]

Rob Thomas I mean Matt Boggs, You are the Best!

[@crystaldance5731]

Fantastic video mat perfect timing ❤️😊👍🏻

[@ultravioletspirit]

1. Prioritize compatibility vs chemistry 2. Don't chase , allow to be pursued. Leave space. Show interest but don't pursue 3. Be authentic. Don't try to please. 4. Be honest and says what she wants. Confidently. 5. Get physical slower. Take time before being intimate let him earn you. 6. Be selective. You have choice. You are highly desired. Set your standards and boundaries. No last minute, don't travel to meet anyone. 7. Chose a man for who he is now and no the future potential.

[@joyhartmann9798]

Is true to himself, Makes promises and keeps them, Confident in himself, A born leader as God created him to be, exudes kindness and humanity, be his true self and carry it with pride

[@Prinlu739]

Good information! Cheers 🙃

[@DarlitaStephens]

Even though I am as confident as we come, I admit to making a few mistakes in my dating experiences. I know that I am considered a high value woman because of the men that I know are interested. What makes a man high value to me? Compatibility, how he treats women and others in general, that he likes himself without being egotistical, and altruism.

[@mlu18]

Love the video. Helpful tips.

[@celfilkorean79]

I love your husky voice and content

[@bettycarmella1127]

Preach Matt Boggs🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@lummecelli2297]

This is an awesome video, txs Matt

[@lynn-ve2je]

When he knows what he wants thank you

[@theresealong205]

I’ve been told by men that have confidence in myself and they are intimidated by it. Men don’t even want to ask me out because they don’t feel like I’m approachable. I’ve been alone for 16 years because men don’t want a confident woman. They want to feel like they are in control.

[@krystavi05]

Maybe your confidence is coming off as aggressive. Try being more playful and teasing. Don't dumb yourself down, but don't try to be overtly witty or clever. (Just my $0.02)

[@beatrizbecker3728]

I'm sure Matt has a video about this issue too! Wishing you the best in your love life :)

[@misterx4253]

Thats because your confidence, make some men unconfident.

[@Jazna1]

As a 66-year old widow I'm not likely to need dating advice, but this is interesting information. I value myself now and am so happy with life! I wish I'd been this content with myself 40 years ago. I'd have made much better romantic choices, ha. For instance, you are correct that chemistry is NOT a high priority issue!

[@nicolegibbs9871]

Showing up when he says he will!

[@niag9950]

You Nailed this one!!! Thx, so much…

[@teddyflowers2798]

100% bs

[@RuthDeloora-lv6md]

i love this...this is so right

[@user-sb2wl8zj7f]

A spiritual being having a human experience ...that struck me👍

[@andreabrown4417]

Respectful and honest and trust worthy also Matt?

[@f.t.9889]

I do all of these things, but have unfortunately not attracted the One yet.

[@AKR088]

Because these things are not what we men look for. Dont be fat, 304 and dont try to be a man.

[@aishdesai]

Authentic Grounded Confidence

[@jheavensfaith8801]

Wow super amazing content thanks guys

[@TheElephantInTheRoom12]

I have watched so many videos on dating and relationships on KZbin but always seemed to cringe after hearing the rhetoric, outrageous advice, perspectives or unrealistic viewpoint they espoused. I felt so much peace while watching this one so I just subscribed. Also want to say that I have been questioning whether I was a high value woman and watching numerous videos on how to reach that goal when in fact (not bragging) I literally have every attribute that you described and always have all throughout my dating life. What made me question myself was all the videos on here that focus on high value women and women in general needing to have near perfect physical attributes or a laundry list of other things to bring to the table to meet a man especially a high value one. They were all about what women need to do to keep and capture a man and how women need to constantly cater to or change themselves to meet his standards and preferences to avoid him exploring other options. Those videos began to make me feel like I would never measure up when in fact your description of the high value woman is who I already am and how I view myself as a woman. Thank you!

[@raularmas317]

The problem I see with too-early s*x or intimacy is one of basic trust which "should be" earned over time. If you value yourself you "should be willing" to set the standard or boundary for entry into an act that could potentially bring a new life into the world very high because that child needs both a consistently respectful, giving, and caring Mom and Dad to protect, provide, and lead it by sound modeling of affectionate caring, respectful looking after, generous giving of resources to raise a fully healthy and high-functioning mature adult.

[@lyndamcmullen5506]

Thanks Mat. ❤

[@LovingGod1]

Can you please give tip on marriage as well? Thanks

[@Jesusandme100]

A man that is able to show himself and be vulnerable thta is nothing wrong with, talk about his weaknesses.

[@saraoverwinnaar1277]

Thank you Mat for thé Building up words of Value From thé Netherlands I watch 🇳🇱

[@misterx4253]

Hier nog 1 🇳🇱😊

[@lottevandenheuvel1345]

Child of the most High!😃🙏🏻❤

[@dorisocansey4682]

Thank you

[@katerina3604]

High value man don’t behave like the women would be his main goal, he tends to have other higher passions, hobbies and goals in his life.

[@makristinamacaranas8379]

High value man is that he cares the feelings of a woman understand whats going on something..

[@fayrouzbell591]

though i have watched many of your videos and i still have this question : how can i set boundaries ! like should i go to him and tell him hey! i do not like that and this or how? heeelp guys heelp

[@mlu18]

When situations come up that you aren't comfortable with is the time to have a conversation and set boundaries. When on a second date is a great time to talk about likes and dislikes making sure you guys on the same page..

[@sookibeulah9331]

Practice setting boundaries with friends, family and work colleagues, so you get used to doing it before setting boundaries with a man when you might feel more vulnerable/ that’s there’s more at stake

[@Love_Colorado]

Mat Boggs did a video on setting boundaries in a relationship: kzbin.info/www/bejne/a2KpaYyZYtBohdk

[@sirene7465]

Please check Elliot Scott’s videos. You’ll find all answers there

[@luckam6848]

NO! wait for him to mention it by you doing the same thing or doing something else he told you not to, and then mention it, chances are you already told him and he did it again so do it like this, don't be needy

[@hersheykisseys]

These are all the things I did while meeting people and that was very attractive to my boyfriend!

[@Cookie-wt4uz]

For me the first two things were not true but rest was and still my bf broke up

[@risenshineofficial]

Would you tell your daughter there's nothing hing wrong with sleeping with a guy on the first date? High value and this behavior do not match judging by how wise you are, you know this lol. Ladies, NEVER chase/persue a man, and NEVER give home access to your body before commitment. A high value woman is one word FEMININE 💛🌷

[@Conquissstador]

I am curious, my ex was a successful professional, no materialistic, and during our relationship I didn’t see she looked for attention. She displayed most of the traits described in this video. Except one. She is beautiful and she is naturally a flirtatious woman and according to her past she was (is) promiscuous. When she was single she dated several guys at the same time and opened her legs easily. After 4 months together I found her a text message flittering with another guy and I broke up immediately. Does this only promiscuous/flirting trait in a single woman can make her a low value woman?

[@abcdefghijk8925]

There's something in her past made her promiscuous. Or her value is attached to how many men she can bed. People like her rarely change.

[@lalalax706]

This is all soooo true.