How to be CONFIDENT, POISED and ELEGANT when Speaking | Conversation Mistakes to Avoid

[@TheAccountingAlchemist]

1. Don't fill silence with nervous chatter 2. Stand tall 3. Look people in the eye, don't stare 4. Take your time 5. Don't be a one upper 6. Show a genuine interest in the person 7. Be poised 8. Stop thinking about what the listener might be thinking 9. Use a confident voice 10. Ask purposeful questions

[@joysviolettenjini1728]

Thanks Aisha🙏

[@TheAccountingAlchemist]

@@joysviolettenjini1728 u welcome

[@debrandou8286]

Thanks

[@SAN_DRA813]

Thank you for this!

[@verite367]

Thank you!! You the mvp! 😘🙏🏾

[@missadug]

Here's another tip I use. Look at the eyebrows while speaking with people. They can't tell you're not looking them in the eye. It also conveys confidence because it provides the illusion that you're looking at them in the eye.

[@MissTopDJ007]

This will help me! Thank you for the tip!

[@lindaatieno4894]

God bless you for this💓

[@lucychinweabianulia745]

Thank you so much It will really help me

[@sandrasakala8052]

Thanks alot! I only started listening to you Vivian yesterday, and am so glued to your channel! Am learning alot and realising the many mistakes I have made in many different situations. Contrite this will never happen again! Thanks Vivian ❤

[@femaleroyalty590]

thanks ❤

[@aliciaquintero3568]

Is so refreshing that you promote these attitude and forms, nowadays vulgarity seems to be the norm. English is not my first language, sorry if I did not expressed myself clearly.

[@teddynakayima1088]

In watching from Uganda 🇺🇬 I have never been confident in my life, that was because of my upbringing and the society I grew up in, I was always been looked down on, bullied and nick named but I after watching most of your videos, I’m gaining a little bit of confidence and I must do something about it because it’s still happening in my community to so many young girls!!

[@intergalacticbnb]

Wishing you the best as you embark on your journey!

[@sbella6719]

Wishing you the best 🙏🏾

[@donamtee]

I'm a ugandan too, it's true our society is really bad at lowering people down. but we can make a change

[@teddynakayima1088]

@@donamtee I’m glad someone from Uganda is having the same taste of what I really want, I’m a woman of (elegance from inside me) but after some good years, I will reveal who iam even physically, I think we can get in touch with you mr or mrs or miss .. thanks

[@Flourish_today]

@@teddynakayima1088 I'm also Ugandan. Born in Uganda but grew up in Southern Africa. When I moved back to Uganda in my early adult years, I was also teased and told I was too proper. That society is so toxic but I think it's because of culture combined with poverty. I left Uganda and now at a place where I can be myself. I am very appreciated where I am.

[@FunHavenWithMichelle]

I'm so used to talking fast and caring about what others think of things I say and how I sound. Thank you so much for the great tips. You are a powerful black queen❤

[@angwistephanietv]

Am currently building a brand ,where I talk an mentor so many young people,so this video is you actually talking to me Thank you so much for sharing I appreciate this video

[@IevaKambarovaite]

*You speak so eloquently, with so much grace, but also authority, and your vocabulary is exquisitely rich.* English is not my first language. Even though I've been living in the UK for the last decade and I've written two books in English and not my mother tongue Lithuanian, I think I'll never stop learning. I'm always fascinated when I hear a word I don't know. And you gave me more than one word I had to look up in just one video. Thank you :)

[@WomanOfElegance]

That's so kind of you. Thank you very much

[@katenalondwa5441]

Agreed!!!!

[@aprilgrant1957]

I love discovering new words! It is essential to look up their meaning, so that they are used properly and effectively.

[@lenalarina59]

Yea, she has an amazing accent

[@elizflorence3788]

It's ma problem as well but I believe watching this will help me improve ma self

[@sandrawilliams5647]

When you have a healthy self esteem of yourself and believe in yourself you will do well in life as well as having good manners, my mom always told me manners take you through the world. I love all of the valuable information you bring to your channel. Be blessed.

[@OgemaryNweke]

"There is so much strength in humility" "Stop thinking about what the listeners might be thinking about you", unless you interpret minds, that's too much waste of time. "Don't fill silence with nervous chatter. "Show genuine interest in a person.👏👏🙏🏼❤️

[@shegood7004]

Exactly, I think humility causes people around you to be more comfortable and become more self conscience than conscious of what you are saying. They are often busy comparing themselves to those that are comfortable with themselves and humble.

[@markitonthewallpodcast]

so true!! even the greatest man who ever lived, Jesus Christ showed great humility!!

[@maryakugizibwe2358]

I feel so guilty for all the mistakes I keep making while communicating. Literally every you have mentioned I have done. Thanks for this video.

[@TeeAhhhna]

Yes I always shy away from speaking because I believe I don’t speak elegantly. Thankyou for making this video

[@octaviahicks-braye9859]

Thank you for your teachings. The way we speak and how we dress as women creates our visual image. Your last video touched on how we dress and speak as women, and sometimes it just does not match. As I stated before, many of our environments have taken away our poise and etiquette as women. We have become rough around the edges because of our rough environments and the people we are around. Time to flip the scrip ladies! I find myself drinking tea like soda pop, way too fast. My tea time is my calming time. Working on my posture. Thanks again for your teachings.

[@caroh1873]

You give off such a good vibe. You don’t have a fake smile, too much make up, or look uptight. In other words, you are not trying to prove something. This may seem like a strange comment but this is the first video I am finding that gives me a good impression. Your advice is well phrased, clear, and useful. Thank you!

[@kgirl1019]

I am so happy I found your channel. You have a gift and I am so grateful to you for sharing so much valuable information. You are such a lovely lady. Thank you!

[@qtvadelevadellveronicaadel6575]

Good of you to share these tips. I especially appreciate the reminder to maintain composure when people shout out rude comments or talk with others while you are speaking. Bullies and narcissists of all ages and classes are always ready to mess with people. It's good to know what to do when they try to steal the attention from you. Cheers! Much respect fellow lady. 🙏👏🙂

[@jasmainjasmain2906]

Love the tips! Being an anxious person, will be tough yet some ppl should try not to take everything so personal.

[@catherinegomez1972]

Hello Vivienne, I think confidence makes someone fearless, strong from inside and the best thing one can ever wear. When it comes to being elegant, it is also the most essential thing to talk about. It is really important to handle every matter gracefully. Thanks for teaching us all these things. You are truly an amazing woman☺. The way you speak is really very nice and soothing, and also you are such a beautiful lady😍. Your every posture is very classy, feminine and elegant😌🥰. Again thank you for teaching us these lessons🙏🙂. We all are really grateful to you for helping us so much. ☺🥰

[@EdpiperEjukwa]

First, I like your elocution...you are a genius! A sapiosexual. A teacher scientist. A system growth agent! ...#respect (am in Lagos Nigeria)

[@katerinapavuk6308]

Thanks for the video! Maybe, these peices of advices were not new for me but the more often I hear them, the more I'll be prepared in a critical situation 😀

[@cruelladevil1001]

Such refreshing content. I especially liked the one on speaking eloquently. So many sound as if they just got off of the street corner.

[@Edehuchechukwu-e6t]

Thank you ma'am, i always learn a lot each time i visit your channel. You're a blessing

[@gospelician]

Excellent points. Thank you for your dedication towards sustaining a culture of elegance! 🙏🏾

[@sannyvain7196]

Wow ,This video was extremely informative, almost too perfect. I made a few of these mistakes in the past and listening to you list what I wasn’t aware of in myself is eye opening. Thank you 🙏🏽

[@siennadabrat4595]

Thank you for taking the time to put this together, I have learnt a lot since I discovered your video, Im trying to improve on my Vocabulary, You're such an inspiration, Continue to do what you're doing, women are learning from your lessons

[@anikajoseph6641]

Thank you for sharing this important information...words are power, they can heal, open door for you, make bring out quality you have in you...good karma.Art of concersation is precious.So is carefully listening...knowing when to talk, what is good to say in the situation or is it better to be quiet.You can practise gentle clear talking tone and speed by reading loud at home or listening how they speak in audiobooks.If you are introvert than extrovert dont push yourself to be what you arent.It is not important how much you say and are you talking whole the time.Smiling naturally behaving woman who talks once a while but her words make sense and her voice is pleasing to her matters more.About exercise...consider gentle movements stretching 10-15-20 minutes a day...morning and evening if you have time srength and energy...if not as often you can...for example 5 movements to get better posture gives outer look of confidense.I like to use sunglasses those are giving me more confidense and relax feeling...I choose carefully my time with whom, where and how I want to spend it...of course it not always possible...in unpleasent situation I talk myself motivate myself calm down myself with inner talking...hearing also your own voice sounding peaceful even if you dont feel it inside helps...this videos advice are really great...they work in public, at workplace, studies etc. You can practise it with your family,friends and yourself.But also remember to study your ownself...who you are...be yourself but these manners, habits,skills can help you a lot in life.Blessing for all viewers and lady of elegance in this video...these type of videos are much more educating than many other videos in youtube.

[@angwistephanietv]

Avoid keeping your arms in your pocket, Keep good eye contact, You are a good example of what you actually teach💕

[@leahscavella1957]

Listening from the Bahamas 🇧🇸 very informative

[@womenofwisdominc.3340]

I appreciate your wisdom and your demonstration of confidence, poise and elegance.

[@chevycreezy]

Saved‼️ This a very useful video and I plan to listen over and over in the future! Thank you SO MUCH‼️👏🏼👏🏼💕

[@AmarachiDuru]

I always feel this confidence after watching your videos. Thank you so much.

[@jacquilawrie1598]

There were so many great tips in this video! Thank you for putting it together.

[@berniegumbira2370]

I feel convicted because I'm guilty of most the things you have said. Thank you so much for teaching us how to conduct ourselves as ladies. I've taken notes and I will be taking everything you've said on board. You are beautiful in talking, dressing and in your elegance. You are awe-inspiring my lady😊👒

[@ohsostylish60]

Such an excellent video Vivienne, you have reminded me of a few things I need to work on! I also love how you mentioned that ‘eyes never lie’ it is is so true! Joanne x

[@Wandertheworldwithme]

Thank you for the tips, very valuable. I’ve come a long way in the past couple of years and see this is a lifelong journey.

[@mrslinajackson7775]

Thanks!

[@osaroejii]

This video is beneficial to both ladies and gentlemen. I've gained so much knowledge from you, Ma'am. I sincerely appreciate you for putting this together.

[@joysviolettenjini1728]

Thank you so much Vivinne, you’re an inspiration ❤️

[@nannypoohbear4845]

Hello thank you so much. I am that talkative person who annoys everyone and I honestly do Not know what I’m doing wrong. I’m sure everyone who knows me does but don’t want to say. I am working very hard to become an elegant woman please do more videos like this

[@rosalysmartinez2153]

Great video!🎯 Thank you for teaching and guiding us to be our best version❤️

[@张淑佳-g9u]

The act of cherishing is a virtue. By cherishing your relationships with others, you will be rewarded with sincerity. By cherishing friendship, you will be rewarded with friendship. Cherishing every tree and blade of grass shows you are a compassionate and kind-hearted person. Cherishing the Dharma shows you are a person of great wisdom. Master Jun Hong Lu Words of Wisdom Vol. 5 珍惜是美德。 珍惜别人的感情，你会得到别人的真情; 珍惜友情，你会得到别人的友情; 珍惜一草一木，你是一个慈悲善良的人; 珍惜佛法，你是一个拥有智慧的人。 卢军宏台长佛言佛语（五）

[@jazzygrace7]

Thank you very much for sharing this much needed valuable information. Blessings

[@mselengemdegela3900]

Not only ladies, men too benefit from your incredible, intelligent content! Thanks.

[@pharmclare]

You are definitely well spoken. Avoid preoccupation is important. Very helpful video

[@ednapaulino]

Definitely you are good on what you teach and you have inspired me in so many ways such as improving my English. Thanks, your follower from Angola. I love you

[@marieasangwe4453]

I love this video. Each time I watch Your contents I improve honestly. I feel like I was hearing an elder sister talk to me

[@sosomweendo]

This is a masterpiece! Art is what flows freely from the artist. In that regard, you are gifted. I also find your demeanor invigorating. Thank you for the learning journey. But Vivian did you know, some ladies lack confidence because of the language barrier? English is not our mother tongue but the world centre stage is controlled by a good command of the Queen's language. Sad but true! I subscribed and ready to learn.

[@karinkatallo4753]

I am from Croatia, and I discovered this channell only recently. I wish as well to work on myself in order to become more elegant and classy. These videos help me a lot, but my main struggle is speaking. I stammer and it seems to me that it is almost impossible to get to sound so nice...Anyone has a similar experience? Thank you

[@Thatfork]

I'm a man. But just watching this 1 out of 1 million woman speak feels extremely therapeutic. This would benefit my little sister.

[@thewarroom4230]

This was such a great video, thank you! I've never seen your videos but this one just popped up so I decided to watch. I'm so glad that I did. I needed this refresher. I'm definitely a new subscriber!! Thanks again!!

[@Tchat65]

Congratulations! I was so excited when I got the notification for this video. Welcome Back!

[@God-Essence]

I really appreciate this video and your channel. This is the type of content I’ve been searching for❤

[@snowyskylar8821]

Excellent lessons. All young women should learn these tips.

[@elissarobinson8709]

Thank you so much. I learned a lot. I will use this in my everyday life.

[@Lady3-v5i]

I thoroughly enjoyed this and as always , I’m taking notes. You’re such a gem hon xx

[@ogebaby9951]

Thank you for the teaching, I really appreciate your teaching

[@theveefit]

Thank you very much ! For sharing your knowledge with us all

[@theglobalgifted]

It's very informative. Thanks so much for dishing out value🔥🔥

[@enobongukpongette8428]

I just want to thank you for all the information you give in this video. I've learned a lot and I even shared the with my you niece whom I believe would important lessons also. Thanks once again and keep up the good work.

[@sarahatong8541]

Thank you VV. I take each point helpful to me I will need to improve on my way of speaking. Appreciated 👍

[@lydialal.l.f8382]

That was helpful Miss Vivian , thank you 👍!!

[@ChoiceObayuwana]

Thanks so much Vivienne, for this teaching. more grace

[@elizabethamanyi5072]

Can't get over point number 8...thank you so much!

[@Chahlie]

I must add that a benefit to giving someone your full attention is that you can find out early on whether they are self-obsessed or narcissistic. If they run on and start talking about all the people they have conflict with, you have been forewarned.

[@comfortsevera8330]

I am watching this from Tanzania. You are an inspiration to me

[@wandjicarine1945]

Elegant women are intentional. Love this

[@rubynewby3519]

Yes,very informative, and inspiring.

[@adaobi_elegantfashion]

This was mind opening, thank you Woman of Elegance for this

[@CherishEachDay2023]

Thank you for making these valuable videos. Society is in desperate need of these. Would be amazing to have etiquette classes taught to our children to help create a polite and civilized society. Good work ❤❤❤

[@iampoetminor]

Thank you so much. This is just what I needed. Feeling less uncomfortable about talking to people socially. I've subscribed to the channel and will practice your tips.

[@marvadollison1169]

Thx you for this video, every day is a learning day. There’s always room for corrections, I appreciate you.👍👌

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

Thank you for working so hard and posting amazing content.🌸

[@jacquelinesmith-gaston2071]

Thank you for your helpful words of wisdom. You are always on point! I've learned quite a bit. Thank you.

[@WomanOfElegance]

Thank you, Jacqueline❤

[@kadiazia2206]

Thank you so very much! I've learned a lot since I started watching your videos.

[@awurabee1]

Awesome! These are also great points that help to leave impressive first impressions.

[@catherinemukami4748]

I really love the content you share always.

[@mokgaetjishibambu5928]

Great video Vivianne,it is indeed very informative .

[@drcynthiabmcneill]

This was awesome!!! Thanks for another great video.♥️🙏🏾

[@elizabethmaiyben7726]

Ohhhh how I admire this elegant lady. I will like to be like you one day. I love elegance

[@cjbfire95]

I think Vivienne is such a eloquent name, thank you for sharing!

[@luciemiezi4687]

Thank you Vivienne, I really enjoyed this video. Go ahead!

[@conniemutonga7468]

So worth watching! Thank you V!

[@GloriasAhobrase3Kitchen]

I always learn something new Thanks for sharing. 🙏🏾

[@dhannamangroo3865]

Thank you very much for your guidance and learning Skills this was very informative to me I will indeed put it in to practice 👍😊💖

[@markitonthewallpodcast]

Great tips, confidence is everything!!

[@shalinchantal]

So I’ve been doing things right 👏🏾

[@hanonfalu]

This was fantastic and so informative. 👏 Thank you so much 💓

[@camille3029]

Thank you vivian I will be using all your tips, wish I knew all this when I was younger.

[@mariadionisiodionisio3062]

Thanks for sharing your wonderful talents ... I believe knowledge never make me fat, I’m so grateful to find you with today .God Bless your heart ❤️ ♥️♥️♥️🙏

[@pro369]

A great display, fantastic talk and valuable video. Thanks for sharing

[@heavenluvsrain]

Thank you! Very informative.

[@JeanClaudeCOCO]

These are wonderful tips and they work for both men and women.

[@AdaUnleashed]

Thanks Viv.❤️ Just subscribed. I speak how I shouldn’t when I’m taken unawares.

[@martielarson6733]

I really enjoyed this presentation. Thank you

[@helenparks8082]

Thank you. I appreciate these tips so much. Joined your channel yesterday.and enjoyed your content. Happy to be apart.

[@הילהקובו-ו6ל]

Thank you very much dear Vivian, I enjoy your videos, they are great. Hila from Israel

[@joyamenpryce8979]

Very interesting and informative information on how to develop my speech .

[@delightharriet1711]

You are fabulous Vivienne

[@AminaCeesay]

Waw! You're amazing Vivian❤

[@queenejura379]

Wow. So am an elegant woman after all

[@DB-et4sz]

Thank you for sharing your wisdom! I enjoy watching your VDOs. I’m glad I found you on this platform 🎉😊