How to be CONFIDENT, POISED and ELEGANT when Speaking | Conversation Mistakes to Avoid

This video analyses the deeply entrenched habits you may have developed over the years that hold you back from speaking elegantly. I discuss the techniques and the skills that you should start to develop to allow you to speak confidently and with poise.
The way we converse with others is incredibly important and is a tool that is used to judge. Whether we like it or not, people infer all sorts by the way we speak. This informative video will help you to present yourself in the best light by helping you to speak elegantly and with grace.
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[@nature_is_beautiful02]

1. Don't fill silence with nervous chatter 2. Stand tall 3. Look people in the eye, don't stare 4. Take your time 5. Don't be a one upper 6. Show a genuine interest in the person 7. Be poised 8. Stop thinking about what the listener might be thinking 9. Use a confident voice 10. Ask purposeful questions

[@joysviolettenjini1728]

Thanks Aisha🙏

[@nature_is_beautiful02]

@@joysviolettenjini1728 u welcome

[@debrandou8286]

Thanks

[@SAN_DRA813]

Thank you for this!

[@verite367]

Thank you!! You the mvp! 😘🙏🏾

[@missadug]

Here's another tip I use. Look at the eyebrows while speaking with people. They can't tell you're not looking them in the eye. It also conveys confidence because it provides the illusion that you're looking at them in the eye.

[@MissTopDJ007]

This will help me! Thank you for the tip!

[@lindaatieno4894]

God bless you for this💓

[@lucychinweabianulia745]

Thank you so much It will really help me

[@sandrasakala8052]

Thanks alot! I only started listening to you Vivian yesterday, and am so glued to your channel! Am learning alot and realising the many mistakes I have made in many different situations. Contrite this will never happen again! Thanks Vivian ❤

[@femaleroyalty590]

thanks ❤

[@IevaKambarovaite]

*You speak so eloquently, with so much grace, but also authority, and your vocabulary is exquisitely rich.* English is not my first language. Even though I've been living in the UK for the last decade and I've written two books in English and not my mother tongue Lithuanian, I think I'll never stop learning. I'm always fascinated when I hear a word I don't know. And you gave me more than one word I had to look up in just one video. Thank you :)

[@WomanOfElegance]

That's so kind of you. Thank you very much

[@katenalondwa5441]

Agreed!!!!

[@aprilgrant1957]

I love discovering new words! It is essential to look up their meaning, so that they are used properly and effectively.

[@lenalarina59]

Yea, she has an amazing accent

[@elizflorence3788]

It's ma problem as well but I believe watching this will help me improve ma self

[@angwistephanietv]

Am currently building a brand ,where I talk an mentor so many young people,so this video is you actually talking to me Thank you so much for sharing I appreciate this video

[@OgemaryNweke]

"There is so much strength in humility" "Stop thinking about what the listeners might be thinking about you", unless you interpret minds, that's too much waste of time. "Don't fill silence with nervous chatter. "Show genuine interest in a person.👏👏🙏🏼❤️

[@shegood7004]

Exactly, I think humility causes people around you to be more comfortable and become more self conscience than conscious of what you are saying. They are often busy comparing themselves to those that are comfortable with themselves and humble.

[@markitonthewallpodcast]

so true!! even the greatest man who ever lived, Jesus Christ showed great humility!!

[@catherinegomez1972]

Hello Vivienne, I think confidence makes someone fearless, strong from inside and the best thing one can ever wear. When it comes to being elegant, it is also the most essential thing to talk about. It is really important to handle every matter gracefully. Thanks for teaching us all these things. You are truly an amazing woman☺. The way you speak is really very nice and soothing, and also you are such a beautiful lady😍. Your every posture is very classy, feminine and elegant😌🥰. Again thank you for teaching us these lessons🙏🙂. We all are really grateful to you for helping us so much. ☺🥰

[@maryakugizibwe2358]

I feel so guilty for all the mistakes I keep making while communicating. Literally every you have mentioned I have done. Thanks for this video.

[@leahscavella1957]

Listening from the Bahamas 🇧🇸 very informative

[@sandrawilliams5647]

When you have a healthy self esteem of yourself and believe in yourself you will do well in life as well as having good manners, my mom always told me manners take you through the world. I love all of the valuable information you bring to your channel. Be blessed.

[@caroh1873]

You give off such a good vibe. You don’t have a fake smile, too much make up, or look uptight. In other words, you are not trying to prove something. This may seem like a strange comment but this is the first video I am finding that gives me a good impression. Your advice is well phrased, clear, and useful. Thank you!

[@angwistephanietv]

Avoid keeping your arms in your pocket, Keep good eye contact, You are a good example of what you actually teach💕

[@octaviahicks-braye9859]

Thank you for your teachings. The way we speak and how we dress as women creates our visual image. Your last video touched on how we dress and speak as women, and sometimes it just does not match. As I stated before, many of our environments have taken away our poise and etiquette as women. We have become rough around the edges because of our rough environments and the people we are around. Time to flip the scrip ladies! I find myself drinking tea like soda pop, way too fast. My tea time is my calming time. Working on my posture. Thanks again for your teachings.

[@TeeAhhhna]

Yes I always shy away from speaking because I believe I don’t speak elegantly. Thankyou for making this video

[@qtvadelevadellveronicaadel6575]

Good of you to share these tips. I especially appreciate the reminder to maintain composure when people shout out rude comments or talk with others while you are speaking. Bullies and narcissists of all ages and classes are always ready to mess with people. It's good to know what to do when they try to steal the attention from you. Cheers! Much respect fellow lady. 🙏👏🙂

[@katerinapavuk6308]

Thanks for the video! Maybe, these peices of advices were not new for me but the more often I hear them, the more I'll be prepared in a critical situation 😀

[@kgirl1019]

I am so happy I found your channel. You have a gift and I am so grateful to you for sharing so much valuable information. You are such a lovely lady. Thank you!

[@aliciaquintero3568]

Is so refreshing that you promote these attitude and forms, nowadays vulgarity seems to be the norm. English is not my first language, sorry if I did not expressed myself clearly.

[@AmarachiDuru]

I always feel this confidence after watching your videos. Thank you so much.

[@osaroejii]

This video is beneficial to both ladies and gentlemen. I've gained so much knowledge from you, Ma'am. I sincerely appreciate you for putting this together.

[@sannyvain7196]

Wow ,This video was extremely informative, almost too perfect. I made a few of these mistakes in the past and listening to you list what I wasn’t aware of in myself is eye opening. Thank you 🙏🏽

[@cruelladevil1001]

Such refreshing content. I especially liked the one on speaking eloquently. So many sound as if they just got off of the street corner.

[@jasmainjasmain2906]

Love the tips! Being an anxious person, will be tough yet some ppl should try not to take everything so personal.

[@gospelician]

Excellent points. Thank you for your dedication towards sustaining a culture of elegance! 🙏🏾

[@womenofwisdominc.3340]

I appreciate your wisdom and your demonstration of confidence, poise and elegance.

[@siennadabrat4595]

Thank you for taking the time to put this together, I have learnt a lot since I discovered your video, Im trying to improve on my Vocabulary, You're such an inspiration, Continue to do what you're doing, women are learning from your lessons

[@ohsostylish60]

Such an excellent video Vivienne, you have reminded me of a few things I need to work on! I also love how you mentioned that ‘eyes never lie’ it is is so true! Joanne x

[@karinkatallo4753]

I am from Croatia, and I discovered this channell only recently. I wish as well to work on myself in order to become more elegant and classy. These videos help me a lot, but my main struggle is speaking. I stammer and it seems to me that it is almost impossible to get to sound so nice...Anyone has a similar experience? Thank you

[@EdpiperEjukwa]

First, I like your elocution...you are a genius! A sapiosexual. A teacher scientist. A system growth agent! ...#respect (am in Lagos Nigeria)

[@joysviolettenjini1728]

Thank you so much Vivinne, you’re an inspiration ❤️

[@rosalysmartinez2153]

Great video!🎯 Thank you for teaching and guiding us to be our best version❤️

[@mselengemdegela3900]

Not only ladies, men too benefit from your incredible, intelligent content! Thanks.

[@chevycreezy]

Saved‼️ This a very useful video and I plan to listen over and over in the future! Thank you SO MUCH‼️👏🏼👏🏼💕

[@张淑佳-g9u]

The act of cherishing is a virtue. By cherishing your relationships with others, you will be rewarded with sincerity. By cherishing friendship, you will be rewarded with friendship. Cherishing every tree and blade of grass shows you are a compassionate and kind-hearted person. Cherishing the Dharma shows you are a person of great wisdom. Master Jun Hong Lu Words of Wisdom Vol. 5 珍惜是美德。 珍惜别人的感情，你会得到别人的真情; 珍惜友情，你会得到别人的友情; 珍惜一草一木，你是一个慈悲善良的人; 珍惜佛法，你是一个拥有智慧的人。 卢军宏台长佛言佛语（五）

[@pharmclare]

You are definitely well spoken. Avoid preoccupation is important. Very helpful video

[@Wandertheworldwithme]

Thank you for the tips, very valuable. I’ve come a long way in the past couple of years and see this is a lifelong journey.

[@nannypoohbear4845]

Hello thank you so much. I am that talkative person who annoys everyone and I honestly do Not know what I’m doing wrong. I’m sure everyone who knows me does but don’t want to say. I am working very hard to become an elegant woman please do more videos like this

[@anikajoseph6641]

Thank you for sharing this important information...words are power, they can heal, open door for you, make bring out quality you have in you...good karma.Art of concersation is precious.So is carefully listening...knowing when to talk, what is good to say in the situation or is it better to be quiet.You can practise gentle clear talking tone and speed by reading loud at home or listening how they speak in audiobooks.If you are introvert than extrovert dont push yourself to be what you arent.It is not important how much you say and are you talking whole the time.Smiling naturally behaving woman who talks once a while but her words make sense and her voice is pleasing to her matters more.About exercise...consider gentle movements stretching 10-15-20 minutes a day...morning and evening if you have time srength and energy...if not as often you can...for example 5 movements to get better posture gives outer look of confidense.I like to use sunglasses those are giving me more confidense and relax feeling...I choose carefully my time with whom, where and how I want to spend it...of course it not always possible...in unpleasent situation I talk myself motivate myself calm down myself with inner talking...hearing also your own voice sounding peaceful even if you dont feel it inside helps...this videos advice are really great...they work in public, at workplace, studies etc. You can practise it with your family,friends and yourself.But also remember to study your ownself...who you are...be yourself but these manners, habits,skills can help you a lot in life.Blessing for all viewers and lady of elegance in this video...these type of videos are much more educating than many other videos in youtube.

[@Edehuchechukwu-e6t]

Thank you ma'am, i always learn a lot each time i visit your channel. You're a blessing

[@sosomweendo]

This is a masterpiece! Art is what flows freely from the artist. In that regard, you are gifted. I also find your demeanor invigorating. Thank you for the learning journey. But Vivian did you know, some ladies lack confidence because of the language barrier? English is not our mother tongue but the world centre stage is controlled by a good command of the Queen's language. Sad but true! I subscribed and ready to learn.

[@adaobi_elegantfashion]

This was mind opening, thank you Woman of Elegance for this

[@snowyskylar8821]

Excellent lessons. All young women should learn these tips.

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

Thank you for working so hard and posting amazing content.🌸

[@Chahlie]

I must add that a benefit to giving someone your full attention is that you can find out early on whether they are self-obsessed or narcissistic. If they run on and start talking about all the people they have conflict with, you have been forewarned.

[@GloriasAhobrase3Kitchen]

I always learn something new Thanks for sharing. 🙏🏾

[@Paulman.K]

I'm a man. But just watching this 1 out of 1 million woman speak feels extremely therapeutic. This would benefit my little sister.

[@marieasangwe4453]

I love this video. Each time I watch Your contents I improve honestly. I feel like I was hearing an elder sister talk to me

[@jacquelinesmith-gaston2071]

Thank you for your helpful words of wisdom. You are always on point! I've learned quite a bit. Thank you.

[@WomanOfElegance]

Thank you, Jacqueline❤

[@thewarroom4230]

This was such a great video, thank you! I've never seen your videos but this one just popped up so I decided to watch. I'm so glad that I did. I needed this refresher. I'm definitely a new subscriber!! Thanks again!!

[@theglobalgifted]

It's very informative. Thanks so much for dishing out value🔥🔥

[@God-Essence]

I really appreciate this video and your channel. This is the type of content I’ve been searching for❤

[@marvadollison1169]

Thx you for this video, every day is a learning day. There’s always room for corrections, I appreciate you.👍👌

[@shalinchantal]

So I’ve been doing things right 👏🏾

[@lydialal.l.f8382]

That was helpful Miss Vivian , thank you 👍!!

[@CherishEachDay2023]

Thank you for making these valuable videos. Society is in desperate need of these. Would be amazing to have etiquette classes taught to our children to help create a polite and civilized society. Good work ❤❤❤

[@jazzygrace7]

Thank you very much for sharing this much needed valuable information. Blessings

[@elizabethamanyi5072]

Can't get over point number 8...thank you so much!

[@elissarobinson8709]

Thank you so much. I learned a lot. I will use this in my everyday life.

[@AdaUnleashed]

Thanks Viv.❤️ Just subscribed. I speak how I shouldn’t when I’m taken unawares.

[@ogebaby9951]

Thank you for the teaching, I really appreciate your teaching

[@sarahatong8541]

Thank you VV. I take each point helpful to me I will need to improve on my way of speaking. Appreciated 👍

[@ChoiceObayuwana]

Thanks so much Vivienne, for this teaching. more grace

[@iampoetminor]

Thank you so much. This is just what I needed. Feeling less uncomfortable about talking to people socially. I've subscribed to the channel and will practice your tips.

[@comfortsevera8330]

I am watching this from Tanzania. You are an inspiration to me

[@rubynewby3519]

Yes,very informative, and inspiring.

[@enobongukpongette8428]

I just want to thank you for all the information you give in this video. I've learned a lot and I even shared the with my you niece whom I believe would important lessons also. Thanks once again and keep up the good work.

[@drcynthiabmcneill]

This was awesome!!! Thanks for another great video.♥️🙏🏾

[@markitonthewallpodcast]

Great tips, confidence is everything!!

[@Necky.N]

I have been learning a lot since I joined your channel

[@wandjicarine1945]

Elegant women are intentional. Love this

[@mariadionisiodionisio3062]

Thanks for sharing your wonderful talents ... I believe knowledge never make me fat, I’m so grateful to find you with today .God Bless your heart ❤️ ♥️♥️♥️🙏

[@Tchat65]

Congratulations! I was so excited when I got the notification for this video. Welcome Back!

[@delightharriet1711]

You are fabulous Vivienne

[@ValerieEgbuniwe1]

this is such a helpful video! I've been working on improving my speech and this is a great video.

[@kadiazia2206]

Thank you so very much! I've learned a lot since I started watching your videos.

[@hanonfalu]

This was fantastic and so informative. 👏 Thank you so much 💓

[@cjbfire95]

I think Vivienne is such a eloquent name, thank you for sharing!

[@lioness4447]

Thank you 🌹

[@queenejura379]

Wow. So am an elegant woman after all

[@הילהקובו-ו6ל]

Thank you very much dear Vivian, I enjoy your videos, they are great. Hila from Israel

[@ousmanoubaba2608]

I am from Yaoundé Cameroon I think your video is useful for both women an men thank you

[@catherinemukami4748]

I really love the content you share always.

[@elizabethmaiyben7726]

Ohhhh how I admire this elegant lady. I will like to be like you one day. I love elegance

[@Scranton0]

Being poised and elegant When she is speaking is A very nice quality of hers Qualities of Elegance she has And wearing the best dresses Wearing only her dress does she Going without intimates beneath

[@anubhakapania8398]

very inspirational and motivational

[@dhannamangroo3865]

Thank you very much for your guidance and learning Skills this was very informative to me I will indeed put it in to practice 👍😊💖

[@RhodaK.Kollie]

Thanks for these tips Vivian

[@conniemutonga7468]

So worth watching! Thank you V!

[@JAZMINROODRIGUEZ]

to heard form around the world - about this topic is very lowly. So now from same coach from origin Africa- and mix with wester - occident - I like and haves curios to know more and more.

[@AminaCeesay]

Waw! You're amazing Vivian❤

[@MsAntoinetteCollier]

Thank you for your knowledge. I appreciate your desire to help in this area. I’m so appreciative ❤️

[@BergenholtzChannel]

This is wonderful. I love your channel.

[@cleokarma7818]

Simply Brilliant ❤

[@mightychondria3552]

This woman is very impressive. She’s amazing and absolutely beautiful!

[@deardiary8292]

Honestly I wish you were the First Lady or prime minister because you are just so elegant and you ooze sophistication

[@heavenluvsrain]

Thank you! Very informative.

[@helenparks8082]

Thank you. I appreciate these tips so much. Joined your channel yesterday.and enjoyed your content. Happy to be apart.

[@DORCASDIASRIESMAKINGMEMORIES]

I had seen a similar video on your channel, and so, I was hesitant to watch this. But I'm glad you revisited the topic again. We keep learning more, and I learnt a lot. Thanks so much for the lesson.

[@justinlevyjustin3638]

Waaw,this is so great....much lov from 🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬

[@Elegance33Refine]

😘🌙💕🦋🌸📿Thankyou so very much! Now I know what I need to do and what I need to improve! Starting with me and my family 😘🌙📿📿💕🦋

[@auntypharmacist]

This video is loaded with so many helpful tips! I really needed to hear this Thanks so much for giving value