How To Be More Charismatic

[@CourtneyRyan]

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[@ajtaylor8750]

Charisma is such an easy trait to obtain and a lot of it stems from just living in the moment. Whether you're telling someone a story, cracking jokes, learning more about another person, or even having a deep and meaningful conversation, being present in that moment and fully engaging in it can make you come off as truly charismatic because most people are in their heads 24/7 judging every little thing they do and say.

[@antonboludo8886]

Very true. Staying in the present moment is difficult to achieve. Buddhist Monks amongst others are able to do it. It takes a lot of practice to achieve and maintain it. It is a lifelong way of being.

[@carlosverde-datingtips7001]

I hear ya - AJ! Great tips - by Courtney. And speaking of “Presence…” If you learn to listen to a woman when she’s talking, and you’re able to give her your undivided attention, and actually be “present”’ in the moment with her. Meaning, you’re not thinking about anything else, or what you’re going to say, and you’re just there with her… and at the same time, you’re making a lot of eye contact with her… she’s going to be able to sense all that immediately, and be totally turned on by you! And she won’t be able to stop thinking about you for the rest of the day - and perhaps even night! ;) Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips

[@antonboludo8886]

@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 Yes, always look into her eyes and pay attention to what she is saying. This shows confidence, which she will appreciate.

[@carlosverde-datingtips7001]

@@antonboludo8886 I hear ya! Well said.

[@YuzukiEba]

How is that easy when it's not part of your personality ?

[@dillonc7955]

Gaining charisma really comes with confidence. Just gradually put yourself in situations you wouldn't normally find yourself comfortable in. Eventually very few things will make you uncomfortable and the confidence and positivity will easily be noticed in your speaking.

[@ZAYVERYRARE]

Facts

[@johngonzalez4298]

Very true

[@JohnM...]

Exactly, thank you. No one can develop charisma without first having at least SOME confidence.

[@StuJones-gn7te]

I wonder how I did it. I didn't make any effort at all.

[@DavidMatias79]

I realized Courtney's stuff goes over well because it's coming from an authentic place. She wants to help us be better because she wants her friends to find better partners. She wants happier people enjoying life more. She wants to make the world a better place.

[@CourtneyRyan]

🥺🤍

[@mattleofric1766]

Or a naive place coming from someone who doesn't quite understand psychology or neurology. You can come from a good place, and still be uninformed.

[@DavidMatias79]

@@mattleofric1766 👌

[@michaelangst6078]

She is way too optimistic though.. Having a natural hilarious personality that attracts women is rare, and it cannot be learned. Improving your social skills etc of course can be learned, but you're not going to get women just because you're a good speaker.. Most older single and miserable men can speak well, and it hasn't done shit for their dating life

[@DavidMatias79]

@@michaelangst6078 focus on what you can control. Self-improvements improve your chances. There are no guarantees. I'm an older single and it makes A difference. Being miserable and pessimistic is not a helpful frame.

[@josephstevens9888]

When I was little, my father was the building inspector in the community in which we lived. I would go out with him when he did his inspections. What struck me about my father on the job how he would put the builders and home/property at ease asking them questions about themselves. Also, when he found something wrong at the building site, instead of blatantly pointing out the mistake to the builders, he would gently reminding them that was not correct, and allowed them to correct their mistake. When my Dad left that position, he was replaced by a not-so-diplomatic inspector who clashed with people. Looking back, my Dad gave me a great gift in charisma and how to treat people. Good topic Courtney!

[@undefinedvariable8085]

What kind of questions would he ask? ~ pulls out notepad and pen ~

[@MuscleBandit]

Hey courtney. My late Grandma was ever so enchanting and charismatic, she was genuinely interested and always listened intently, she made me feel like speaking about myself whereby I usually don't! I can see you being the same for everybody in 50yrs time! Cheers from the UK 😌🇬🇧

[@ericmoore9444]

I agree with the points you made. I must say sometimes social groups will reject you on purpose regardless of these good tips. Bullying and social hierarchies are a real thing especially in American culture. I would add for men to not think of yourself as lesser if you don’t fit in a certain group: sometimes people are jerks no matter what.

[@writhracing1642]

Charisma is not so much about getting people to like you, as it is about getting people to like themselves when you’re around..

[@chiefbrody2173]

Agreed, well said.

[@3lmi__319]

i guess I'm more charismatic than i thought, still don't like the hassle of people coming to me with rs problems

[@SingularitySurvivor]

​@@3lmi__319 You're soo much similar to my best friend.. he would often talk about the burden of listening to to the problems of all the people around him just because he is charismatic, and also because there is not many people like him around..

[@qwertyzxccvk]

Love you bro/sis. Well said❤❤

[@johngonzalez4298]

Happy Sunday Courtney! Enjoy your 4th of July weekend 🇺🇸. Being a charismatic person is a powerful tool to have as you'll attract people to be around you and being comfortable under your own skin. I have been told by people that I'm charismatic and it's a good thing to own. You'll bring positive vibes to people

[@mattleofric1766]

You can be the most comfortable person on earth under your own skin. But if you have a hard time projecting personality, you're f*cked.

[@christophercohen418]

When I was younger I thought that I didn’t have the best understanding of how to read people because I had trouble connecting to people. I realized that I had an inaccurate perception of how I was perceived by my peers. That’s something I have actively worked on. Charisma truly is a skill.

[@Courtney-Alice-Gargani]

This is so true. You should be positive and stay around positive people who lift you up instead of tearing you down. Anyone who tears you down is insecure with in themselves. They tear you down and brag about themselves at the same time had a lot of issues.

[@LatimusChadimus]

That is true because, like I tried to teach folks in these videos, you have to get used to talking to anyone and everyone and that makes your personality so magnetic that even those downtrodden feel a little more uplifted after being around you and of course want to be around you more which draws in even more folks which is great for the Improvement of humanity hahaha

[@marcmays48]

Exactly. You have the choice to build others up, or to tear them down. If you (and others) simply leave when the problem children identify themselves, after a while, the smarter ones figure out it's time to change their game plan. And for the dumb ones? Well, as the late great John Wayne put it: "Life is hard. It's harder when you're stupid." 😊

[@LatimusChadimus]

@@marcmays48 🤣🤣💀 John Grains of Truth hahaha

[@joewel8093]

​@@marcmays48 It's expensive as well.

[@48some]

Courtney Ryan thank you for all your hours of research and hard work. I appreciate every video you made many people including me a better version of ourselfs. Keep it up.

[@jahanzebali589]

I NEED YOUR VIDEOS LADY ! THEY ARE SO HELPFUL !

[@martinvenus405]

Your channel is so wholesome and it has helped me in so many ways. Thank you

[@stevew4079]

I think you’re doing a great job of storytelling in videos like this one, so you’re already doing a good job!

[@skullwarrior9023]

you are mind reader...for 7 months i have a youtube playlist named it with courtney ryan where i save your videos and other motivational and human behvaiour kind of videos...you are great in your work 🙏🖖

[@jasonhurst8599]

Your "Dress for Success" tip is SO BANG ON! (Especially the part about making a good first impression). I WISH I had learned/realized this 10 years ago. I was good friends with this woman I met online, and developed strong feelings for her. We had gotten close, bantered, flirted, etc and were about to have our first video chat, and I did not put ANY effort whatsoever into my appearance. I foolishly, and selfishly thought, "If she likes me she SHOULD like me as I am " (even though *I* was the one who wanted HER to like ME.) The video chat was nice, but a few weeks later she told me that she was very disappointed in my lack of effort, and not impressed by her first impression. She pointed out how I had dirty dishes in the background, was wearing an old t-shirt, my hair wasn't combed, etc while she made sure her bedroom was very neat, dressed very nice, had makeup on etc. I felt awful, and so ashamed of not only how I had looked, bit also how right she was, and how I totally disrespected someone I truly love. We're still friends, but that's not the point. As they say, "You never get a second chance to make a first impression." and I blew it BIG TIME!

[@HunkyMan777]

It is a good thing - you learnt from the lesson

[@jasonhurst8599]

@@HunkyMan777 True; just wish I would have learned before my major Faux pas.

[@HunkyMan777]

@@jasonhurst8599 Jason a little clue. Belting yourself up over the mistake does not help you. There are plenty of other good fish in the sea. You say you are still friends with her so maybe try one more time and if not, cut contact and walk away. It is no use staying friends with her if it is not going anywhere. As for me, if a woman does not put out the cookie I cut contact and move on. My time and emotional energy are valuable.

[@jasonhurst8599]

@@HunkyMan777 OMFG I'm not beating myself up; but she means a great deal to me. Also I absolutely DESPISE the saying, "There's plenty of fish in the sea." First off, I am NOT a fisherman; and secondly that would imply I only wanted her for ONE purpose, so if she wasn't willing, or I screwed up, then just go after another possible piece of tail. Cuz that's all that matters, right? 🤬🤬 Sorry if that's not "Alpha" behavior, or whatever, but I actually care FOR, ABOUT, and LOVE this PARTICULAR woman. Which is why I feel so angry at myself. And yes I have looked, and am looking for/at other women; and am not "waiting: for my friend; but IMO it was still very disrespectful of me considering the way I do feel; and I know always will. And just in general. I wasn't raised that way.

[@HunkyMan777]

@@jasonhurst8599 Your choice - no skin off my nose either way

[@nykia31]

Askin open ended questions is a huge one. Especially if you are more introverted. It will diminish the pressure that you might feel in carrying the conversation. It makes people feel like you have a genuine interest in learning about them and hearing what they have to say. People love talking about themselves. Let them.

[@Floorguy1000]

Yet another good video. Confidence + Charm + Engagement = Charisma. A Note: Jennie Jerome (Winston Churchill’s mother) glided through the highest social circles in Great Britain. Once, on consecutive nights, Ms. Jerome dined with England’s premier politicians: Prime Minister Benjamin Disraeli and his chief rival, William Gladstone. When questioned about her impressions of the two men, Ms. Jerome made the following observation: “When I left the dining room after sitting next to Gladstone, I thought he was the cleverest man in England. But when I sat next to Disraeli I left feeling that I was the cleverest woman.”

[@derrickmccann8489]

Thanks for for teaching us on how to be polite Courtney Ryan 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

[@williammalausky5809]

You're insight has helped me progress a lot lately to be a better version or better myself

[@janpauledwarddedios5366]

Great video. Charisma is actually both good and bad but being able to make someone feel seen and heard definitely can be learned.

[@jeffm8206]

Not listening and thinking what they will say next is a huge pet peeve of mine. Thank-you for your videos.

[@geezbekele5753]

Hello it work I can't believe I'm with my love again after so many years of break-up Dr🏃🏃,...,, he do alot of work okay.., and keep to his words and it works within 48hours

[@tommygunn6901]

This will help anyone! And not only that, but it helps me more to become a charismatic, successful, and a driven leader!! Happy 4th of July weekend all!🇺🇸

[@stayhappylittlemermaid]

Thinking will not overcome fear but action will.

[@LatimusChadimus]

Yes because walking with intention, talking with intention, as well as acting with intention will help you with confidence as well as present to the world that you are confident, but getting comfortable talking to anyone and everyone is a great way to become magnetic, or in this case, charismatic. It takes work and action and it is very well worth it

[@stevefreeman6646]

Think of it this way. Frequently your purpose is to take the boring things people say and make them interesting. You do this well during the needed pauses on this channel. From a man who likes a hundred rewrites, I'm fascinated by trying to convey more than two ideas in short punchy formats. It's fun to use short simple words so even kids get a good, uncomplicated story. At the same time connecting with older groups through cloaked metaphor.

[@lucasjansen9611]

Love your content. It’s refreshingly intelligent and genuine. Your voice takes stress away.

[@sebastienporsenna8616]

That's a very stylish outfit Courtney. And great advice in the video on how to be more charismatic. If you dress for success you show up as the best version of yourself. Great way to set an example of practicing what you preach.

[@ytsur549]

This is a good one, as always. You always deliver an awesome message with great advice.

[@andrewking4301]

Thanks Courtney for the content your that wise sister we all need in our lives.

[@akadayana]

Wonderful video. I was just thinking about all the things I changed to be more engaging and I think you covered all of them. You’re very thoughtful, thank you for this video. I will show my daughter this. 😊

[@mattpatus5526]

Someone else already said it but authenticity is so important. It also happens to be why your videos are so great. No fakery. Just be yourself and be confident. If people don't like it, tough luck for them.

[@wiserliving4840]

Awesome advice and appreciate how you break down each topic into what the components are instead of just saying the quality is but not what that is like many others do. That shows you understand your audience may not know what each thing entails as that is most likely the reason they are watching these videos to learn as that is why I do. Thank you very much.

[@gabriel_phx051]

I'm changing the way because of you, thanks for trying to help us, even knowing that most of us are in such a dark place!

[@michaelrespicio5683]

I'm already a storyteller. Currently writing one myself for beginners of Japanese. It's full-fledged, multi-chapter story with character development and the characters in this story are hand-drawn by myself and will be shown on social media for the project. Not to brag or anything but the story's turning out well even though I never studied literature. Just going off what little creative writing experience from high school and imagination. That's it.

[@bobbybluebuckets8937]

I think its easy to be charismatic around people you trust or even in a one on one situation. I think it's harder to do when you are around people you don't necessarily know or feel comfortable around. My personal advice if you want to be charismatic in those unknown situations, you have to have a certain lvl of IDGAF what y'all think, Imma just be me and Imma be the me that's cool and funny around my friends. I think this lvl of charisma takes practice for most people.

[@LatimusChadimus]

Some men do confuse passion with obsession, and women definitely notice that. They love a man who is passionate because consistency&security are something women need from their partner, but also they won't don't want a man that is obsessed with her because that is putting her on the pedestal, whereas someone that is passionate about the relationship is definitely more reimbursed

[@williammalausky5809]

Thanks for that insight and enlightening facts coming from your opinion is very valuable

[@carlosverde-datingtips7001]

Great tips! And speaking of “Presence…” If you learn to listen to a woman when she’s talking, and you’re able to give her your undivided attention, and actually be “present”’ in the moment with her. Meaning, you’re not thinking about anything else, or what you’re going to say, and you’re just there with her… and at the same time, you’re making a lot of eye contact with her… she’s going to be able to sense all that immediately, and be totally turned on by you! And she won’t be able to stop thinking about you for the rest of the day - and perhaps even night! ;) Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips

[@legendbtv]

I LOVE THE CURLS!!!! YESSSS

[@BlairPittams]

Never knew how much I was needed by someone until I found peace without someone

[@LatimusChadimus]

Charisma is definitely something gained when you hit that point in life where you are comfortable talking to anyone and everyone because you become so magnetic that everyone wants to be around you. You should use your research and soothing video styles to do one on captivation! I'm sure many would LOVE that!

[@wtDrake]

Christmas? Lol

[@horsemumbler1]

Merry Christmas 🎄

[@LatimusChadimus]

@@wtDrake thanks for letting me know! That was definitely a talk to text error because obviously smart phones are not as smart as people and my goodness I should have proofread! 🤣🤣🤣🤦

[@marcmays48]

Ideally, in a perfect world, everyone would love you once you're charismatic. However, in actual practice, even politicians (the supposed pros at charisma 🙄), can't bat more than 50% consistently, and they're doing well to get those numbers. I would say, as long as you are well-regarded by the important people in your life, that's all the charisma most of us ever need. Sure, it helps to be more charismatic if you work in sales, are the founder of a company and need other people to buy-in to your ideas, or similar situations. But being genuinely trustworthy is far more important, for building long-term relationships.

[@LatimusChadimus]

@@marcmays48 well we know most of those politicians use it as a mask and it only works in front of people that never remove their blinders

[@BlairPittams]

I never thought how much I have going for me until yesterday. I'm not so much a leader for nobody follows, but I'm surprised how well I do

[@hamadabelmaat4302]

Smooth charisma check ✔️

[@Moneybee665]

There's so much dating advice out there. It's so demoralizing to get rejected and not know what went wrong. It's so hard not to go through that and feel that dating is a waste of time. I regret almost every date I've been on in my adult life and I don't regret a single evening spent alone at home.

[@bobbybluebuckets8937]

The thing about all those dates, you where learning. And learning is not easy. Its even painful sometimes. Good for you for getting out there! It's the people that keep trying that succeed even in the face of adversity! You got this!

[@Laissez-faire402]

​@@bobbybluebuckets8937 He obviously hasn't learned anything.

[@rimbikdas6583]

Charisma=conviction+energy+presentation

[@r3mii-CL]

Warmth and Presence I have practice with. Dressing for success comes natural to me cause I really like to dress well. Metaphors and Storytelling is something I’m currently working on. I have gotten better thanks to comedians, and celebrities like Jamie fox and Kevin hart. They are great story tellers. Also one of my friends who just excels in social situations I learned a lot from him with that. The other two points tho…I really need to work on them

[@JohnnyVichi]

CHARISMA IS THE REAL LIFE SUPER POWER!!!!!

[@williammalausky5809]

Good morning everyone love you Courtney happy 3rd of July here we have a firework show that's put on around 10:00 p.m. or so so that'll be exciting and enjoyable and fun

[@michaelrespicio5683]

Taking the first point about making others feel welcome and that you try to understand them and do understand them, we'll take that and let me ask you: how many international friends do you have? Most Americans don't seem to care where someone is from as long as they speak English and don't seem to care about learning at least a bit of their culture. Now I live in Canada and we also have a diverse population. The difference is that we tend to be more open-minded and even though I'm of Asian background, I've met people from all over. Combining all my time in school, I've met people from Japan, Korea, Spain, Greece, Scandinavia, Germany, Italy, Portugal, Brazil, Mexico, England, Bosnia, South America...I can go on. So you can understand that I've developed a curiosity in other cultures.

[@ssenzalx]

The video i needed without knowing i needed it

[@LatimusChadimus]

And if she does one on captivation haha you'll love it I often talk about being magnetic which is achieved once you become comfortable talking to anyone and everyone. People skills and strong mental fortitude, what they would call game and frame, is definitely the most important to learn because you can only max out your looks so far and of course you shouldn't draw women in with your wealth...so...enjoy these videos!

[@theinsanity3445]

Study Independent Wrestling Promos. Specifically, the promos where the wrestler is talking directly to the crowd. That is a great tip to learn charisma.

[@RizShaukeen]

I was filling up at a service station today. When I pulled my car into the service station, they were selling the regular 91 for $2.02 per liter. I parked my car, lifted the nozzle, but no fuel came. Then I heard the attendant yelling on the PA...customer at pump 15, please put the nozzle back so the system could update. I did that. The system updated. The price jumped to $2.40 per liter! I tried everything to stay calm, stay put and stay charsmatic, but when I went inside to pay, I could not help but be the opposite of everything I intended to be. Life's like that I guess. Then later in my mind, I did say sorry to the attendant...I hope she gets my apologies.

[@lookfeelbehealthy6320]

There's only one thing you missed about having charisma, and that is commanding respect. Everything else was perfect.

[@thecuriousventurer]

Can’t believe you said 3 P’s haha it made me smile cause I have my own version of the 3 P’s that I do my best to abide by: Patience, persistence and Practice! :)

[@CaptainCrimsonCommenter]

First off, great video. Its entry level, which is good. Now regarding the ‘’dress for success’’ some people including myself, love dressing to the nines to most occasions, but dressing it down is more acceptable these days which makes it a bit difficult to look appropriately dressed for casual events for those who enjoy dressing up… But then again, thats just my opinion.

[@davidabarak]

I'm a bit of an extroverted introvert. (Or an introverted extrovert?) Watching videos like these and volunteering as a docent (tour guide) at a popular museum have helped me become more charismatic, and I don't mean that in a pompous way. It's a fun, great feeling to interact openly with people.

[@josephstevens9888]

Recent past Presidents - notably Ronald Reagan and Bill Clinton had the ability to make someone feel they were the most important person in a stadium full of people. Now that is charisma!

[@LostChildOfTime]

A great man once said… “Why should I lie when I can dramatize?” -Tupac

[@geezbekele5753]

Hello it work I can't believe I'm with my love again after so many years of break-up Dr🏃🏃,...,, he do alot of work okay.., and keep to his words and it works within 48hours

[@Razear]

While I think charisma is something that you can learn, it undoubtedly comes easier to extroverts since they tend to have better social skills as extroverts thrive when they're constantly surrounded by others so they have more experience to practice. At the end of the day, it's something that needs to be honed over time, the more you do it, the more compelling you'll be able to convey yourself.

[@terrodar19]

Easy, put on the +5 to charisma ring on just like on a game

[@sam_cs_49er]

Hi Courtney, thanks for share this informative video, and I subscribed 2 days ago and I'm going to watch your channel's videos to quickly catch up on dating topics for my scenario.

[@perhelgeson5734]

Getting out of your cellphone is a great beginning!

[@sms24247777]

thanks courtney

[@BlueSpiceSpace]

Demonstrate presence by being engaged in conversation and ask questions showing you listened. Eliminate self soubt Dress well Passion purpose and positivity Metaphors and Storytelling, mention things you know they will like

[@ericl7842]

Great video Courtney!. Have a great week!

[@Courtney-Alice-Gargani]

There are sometimes when you're interacting with someone when they're talking to you about topics you don't know too much about and it can be hard to respond to them. If a man is talking to me about sports, which I don't know too much about, I don't know what to say sometimes. But if he were to talk about TV Shows, movies, books, managing money, or investing in stocks I can talk about it.

[@marcmays48]

It just depends on the man. Some guys are not interested in watching sports at all, others only moderately so. Some people you just won't connect with, for whatever the reason, and that's perfectly OK.

[@jleano609]

It's not really your fault. If a guy can't connect to emotion when talking to a woman then the conversation is inherently boring for her. What you list is what you have knowledge and emotional investment in - so it's always going to be easier to connect that way. That's just the art of good conversation. You can steer the topics into this area and if he's smart he'll follow. And if he's not, is he the guy for you?

[@abbasarshad7689]

Your voice is soo beautiful 😘 Great topic btw, I learned a lot from this

[@yyysamuel3215]

Stop simping dude

[@abbasarshad7689]

@@yyysamuel3215 Haha I know it looks like that, but I rarely ever give compliments. I’ve been following Courtney for a while and she’s added value to me. She deserves some praise n recognition. Im far from a simp 💪

[@antonioangelocento9855]

Courtney is charismatic !!!!!!!!

[@shmeef279]

wish more people were as based as this woman

[@Supersandwiche]

Have you ever heard of "The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism?" Really eye-opening book

[@MrStrechepants]

Can we just take a second to say how attractive this woman is

[@BALHAM69]

Black outfit today 😊

[@dedeborya9015]

Charisma is a component of Attention / Attraction. If you are attractive - they will find you 'charismatic' If you are average - they will find you loud, bragadoucious, try hard. If you are less than average - they will find you creepy, rude, harassing. Play it as you will.

[@aarav4944]

Your eyes are irresistible 💖

[@SystematicMechanic]

no simping.

[@KC-kp4vh]

Yea. 4:09 hm. Had this issue since I was 6. That was 20 years ago.

[@Tom-px9hd]

I actually find albert einstein,Michael jackson,nikola tesla,lionel messi to be very charismatic.I actually like them because they are very passionate about their work and also they have done extraordinary things in their life.

[@jasonhurst8599]

Great video, and fantastic tips. How do you handle the criticism you might get from friends, and people who have known you for a while, who have been used to you being/acting a certain way (not very outgoing, rather shy, not showing much confidence/assertiveness, etc) suddenly changing; and thinking (or even saying) that you're becoming an A- Hole?

[@jleano609]

Who cares? You're confident and assertive now so....? Either they'll get comfortable with the new you, or they won't. If they don't, their loss. Never let other people hold you back.

[@jasonhurst8599]

@@jleano609 Great answer!

[@7_k265]

This is something I needed. Jack Harlow has amazing charisma but I can’t find a way to be like that.

[@tareqhussein9515]

To all women, stop interacting with liers...stop screwing up good men

[@kellymulderino7156]

what do you do if you have a nice date and after it the woman responds to your texts but doesnt seem that enthused and you feel like you are pulling teeth? do some women just dont care and even if they like a guy they will never be proactive with him cause she knows she already has so many options . this happened to me. had a nice 3 hr call with a woman. we met up had like a 4 hr date. the date itself was nice but she was just quiet and kinda cold at the end of the date. i texted her a couple days after , told her i had fun and asked her about her weekend . she said it was ok and asked about mine but never said it was nice to meet me or even thank me for inviting her or buying her drinks . all my friends keep telling me to be persistent but i hate it when things feel 1 sided.

[@adamteller6685]

How to be more charismatic: -Be extremely good looking -Be 6’2 -Have money -Be funny (subjective) 😂

[@yyysamuel3215]

Facts.

[@captainobvious7165]

Looks like you didn’t watch the video

[@yamildiaz2588]

Courtney can you please react to Charisma on Demand? I think you are going to enjoy this one!

[@Isaiah_writes_360]

Hi Courtney I’ve a question 🙋‍♂️ Is it Best to share boundaries in a relationship mutually before knowing a person? If so How should I handle if I see my woman breaking those boundaries when getting to know her? Or Can I end the relationship if she’s repeatedly disrespectful to them?

[@jleano609]

You can't really list out all the boundaries you have before getting to know a girl. In early dating stages you can only demonstrate, not explicate that you have boundaries in general. If she's half an hour late for a date, leave. If she does something that's not cool, tell her "that wasn't cool, it made me feel XXXXX" and step back. You're not in a proper relationship yet (I hope you realize that) so don't ask for an apology, and don't tell her what she SHOULD be doing, she knows! Or if she doesn't she should be able to figure it out. And if she can't, SHE'S OUT. You don't owe her a relationship or an explanation if she's repeatedly disrespectful in fact you MUST step back. Frame and self respect is EVERYTHING! The only time to lay out boundaries more fully is when she asks for a relationship i.e. to be exclusive. Men, this is super important - it's the woman's ask, never the man's. I don't care how much you like a girl. She has to come to the table first. Why? Because this is where you actually have some power. Ask her, "just so I'm sure, what does a relationship mean to you? That I'm exclusive? That I'm not talking to any other exes or keeping other girls on the back burner? That I make time for you, especially intimacy?" See what I'm doing here? You don't ask the girl for ANYTHING, you ask what she wants from YOU so you can say genuinely YES or NO to her offer, but by implication what is sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander so you are holding her to these standards also BUT YOU NEVER HAVE TO SAY SO! You need to frame things in this way because that way YOU'RE THE PRIZE that she has WON because you're giving up the single life for her. This makes you implicitly more attractive to her. The person of higher value is the one with more to give up in a relationship and she needs that person to be YOU (hypergamy) so frame things in that way. After that, if she oversteps boundaries by say, going out clubbing with girls too often, you simply WITHDRAW ATTENTION. It's the only power you really have over a woman. Then you see what happens. Does she come back to you with better behaviors, or does she repeat them? If things don't improve. NEXT!

[@Isaiah_writes_360]

@@jleano609 Bro 😎 I totally agree with your point 👍 it very insightful👌 I was confused for sometime 🤷‍♂️ thanks for clearing it out 🤗 I appreciate your help in this ✊

[@jleano609]

@@Isaiah_writes_360 Good. The fundamental point is actions speak louder than words, both for her and especially you. You can't verbally negotiate desired behaviors with a woman, or desire itself for that matter. It's unattractive and low value. A valuable mental frame to have with women is to always ask yourself the question "if I had 100 women waiting to date me as well as this girl - how would I act?". Then just do that. If a girl disrespected you, you'd just politely NEXT her and talk to another one. You wouldn't get butthurt, who cares? They're lining up around the block for you. This works because women find this mindset attractive in a guy. Women want guys that other women want, or at least guys who are prepared to walk and go get another girl if they have to. That's basic abundance mindset. If you don't respect yourself she won't respect you. If she doesn't respect you then attraction and love can't happen.

[@Isaiah_writes_360]

@@jleano609 mate your insights are awesome 👌 are you a dating coach? You have great knowledge on this 👍

[@jleano609]

@@Isaiah_writes_360 amateur coach to a group of younger guys, yes. Myself, I'm married almost 30 years and understand the basic fact that the 'game" never ends.

[@rlp4028]

What's up Courtney? Could you please react to Melli Monaco "10 Irresistible traits I find in Men"?

[@TheNamronTV]

Courtney do you still do real estate with John?

[@rustam900]

I get the best charisma when I see the money

[@yyysamuel3215]

When she said “dress for success” Translation: When a tall chad/Tyrone dress nice.

[@remoskins1437]

As an older gentleman I don't think a man has to jump through hoops or attempt to develop a style that he'll soon forget about due to his natural traits. I've seen dirtbags full of tatoos get hot girls. There's no secret formulas. You either connect with someone or you don't. Someone is attracted to you or they're not. Just my opinion from seeing patterns over many decades.

[@MKamalTO]

Love ur Dress 👗

[@ChrisW1019]

Warmth Presence Confidence Dress for success Passion, Purpose, Positivity Metaphors & Storytelling.

[@michaelreid6355]

Hi Courtney. Love your vids. The videos where you ask girls opinions, are they your friends? They pretty much all have the same opinion as each other, and you. Would be nice to hear girls opinions that come from different back grounds and different views on life. Please don’t take offence but you all seem like the same sort of girls. Thanks Mike

[@antonboludo8886]

Justin Trudeau, the current Prime Minister of Canada is tall, dark and handsome. He has natural charisma. His father Pierre Elliot Trudeau was short, bald and not handsome, but had even more natural charisma, mostly due to his Mensa-level intelligence. Pierre Elliot Trudeau wore a fresh rose in the lapel of his suits, Justin wears comical socks to defy the formality of his suits. Both late father and son maintain excellent physical fitness, which a good thing. Justin is good-looking and of average intelligence, both of which he got from his attractive mother Margaret Sinclair. Justin's parents were 30 years apart in age, BTW... Justin was born when his mother was 22 and his father 52. Charisma of course can be learned. I have met Justin Trudeau 4 times before he got into politics. When speaking with him one-on-one, he is an excellent listener. He does not interrupt you. He first listens to what you have to say, then he responds. This is a good quality. At least I have become a good story-teller. I was not born with this ability. I used to be very shy. No longer. I am introverted and always will be, but I am no longer shy. I am multilingual and have been to drama school, so these help with story-telling. I keep clean and dress well, so this is not a problem for me. Do not be a constant whiner. Your friends who know you well will tolerate it for a little while, but then they will also tire of it. Both enthusiasm and negativity are contagious. Just stay positive. Being negative is easy. Staying positive requires more effort, but it is worth it.

[@jleano609]

You do understand that there is a distinct possibility that Justin is not Pierre's son? Rumor has it Fidel Castro and Margaret were lovers.

[@antonboludo8886]

@@jleano609 Yes. We must ascertain whether Fidel carried the recessive gene for blue eyes, which is possible since his father was from Galicia in Northwestern Spain, were blue eyes are fairy common since many people there are of Celtic descent.

[@dannypulliam3157]

As a Black man I used to be terrified to talk to White women. But after listening to you, I gained SO MUCH CONFIDENCE ❤️❤️❤️Now I can suppress my fears and with that, success success success!! Thank You Courtney!!! Your the BEST❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@ricecakeboii94]

Don’t forget to raise your Fallout S.P.E.C.I.A.L. traits. Charisma unlocks a lot of good loot/booty 🤣😂😅

[@albertovillanueva2057]

Yeah it's easy to be charismatic but what good is charisma it doesn't clothe you and it doesn't feed you and it certainly is Hell doesn't bring you any luck in fact all you really need to do is be very cautious and wary

[@LatimusChadimus]

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[@danielnormand8156]

I know it's off subject but I need to know what you think about this. We have been talking to each other and everything seems very positive but she ask me if I had a driver license. I said no. I have decided 7 years ago to not renew my license. Now she wants me to go and renew my license. I basically said no. So now we have a barrier even though we have not met each other because I caught covid so we have to wait to meet. We have been ask a lot of questions and what we found out we are really the same. So now this barrier comes and creating problems and we did say to each other we will talk about it and see where it goes. Am I really doing something wrong about something I do not want to get that driver license.

[@jleano609]

Women like guys with Drivers Licenses, it really that simple. This one certainly does. I don't know why you're getting this far down into the weeds with someone you haven't even met yet but she's probably wanting to meet up but is worried about sustaining a relationship when one of you can't drive. Or she's worried you're reticent about other things also that she considers basic pre-requisites to a relationship. But if it's a big deal for you the flip side is you're just talking so you don't owe her anything. To me the most important thing right now isn't anything about bloody drivers licenses, it's about meeting up and seeing if there is real life attraction before you get into the weeds with things like this.

[@danielnormand8156]

@@jleano609 Yes I agree. We are still talking and we both enjoy each other and when we meet we will see if the attraction is as good as in text. Thank You for taking the time to answer my comment.

[@jleano609]

@@danielnormand8156 ok, but I hope you understand that you really need to be talking less and meeting more. You are just giving this chick free attention right now and being generally unattractive.

[@Couldntbeme420]

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[@CourtneyRyan]

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