5 Ways to Use Charisma for Standout First Impressions

[@ShadeZahrai]

Here are the references to the research for those of you that are interested: Willis, J. & Todorov, A. (2006). First impressions: making up your mind after a 100-ms exposure to a face. Psychol Sci. 2006 Jul;17(7):592-8. doi: 10.1111/j.1467-9280.2006.01750.x. Warmth vs Competence Cuddy, A. J., Fiske, S. T., & Glick, P. (2008). Warmth and competence as universal dimensions of social perception: The stereotype content model and the BIAS map. Advances in experimental social psychology, 40, 61-149. www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0065260107000020 Profile - Smile Oda, R., Yamagata, N., Yabiku, Y., Matsumoto-Oda, A. (2009). Altruism Can Be Assessed Correctly Based on Impression. Hum Nat, 20, 331-341. doi.org/10.1007/s12110-009-9070-8 Pause (3SP) Niebuhr, O., Brem, A., Michalsky, J., & Neitsch, J. (2020). What makes business speakers sound charismatic? A contrastive acoustic-melodic analysis of Steve Jobs and Mark Zuckerberg. Cadernos de Linguistica e Teoria da Literatura, 1(1). doi.org/10.25189/2675-4916.2020.V1.N1.ID272 Montoya, R. M., Horton, R. S., Vevea, J. L., Citkowicz, M., & Lauber, E. A. (2017). A re-examination of the mere exposure effect: The influence of repeated exposure on recognition, familiarity, and liking. Psychological Bulletin, 143(5), 459-498. doi.org/10.1037/bul0000085

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3:07 Warmth competence 4:38 Profile 5:23 3 second pause 6:19 Parallel (something in common) 7:07 proximity

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‘The first impression is the last impression’ This is quite an important lesson. Thank you Shade for diversifying the idea!!!

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it's very interesting. In brief : the focus is on making a strong and positive first impression at work by leveraging your innate charisma. First impressions happen quickly and have a lasting impact on how you are perceived by others. To create a positive first impression, the author suggests following WC and the four Ps: 1-WC - Demonstrate warmth and back it up with competence. People judge you quickly based on how warm and competent you appear. Start with warmth by maintaining eye contact and offering a genuine smile. This makes you appear more approachable and trustworthy. 2-3SP (Three Second Pause) - Pause for three seconds before responding to someone. This creates a more confident and charming atmosphere and avoids interrupting the other person. 3-Commonality - Find something you have in common with the person you are meeting. This can create an instant connection and make the person more likely to remember you. 4-Proximity - Be around the person more, as familiarity can increase liking. This is called the mere exposure effect. Remember to be authentic and true to yourself when making a first impression. Aim for a sincere and engaging conversation that is memorable, rather than trying too hard to impress others.

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Started my first day at KPMG this week as a project manager, I think I covered the warmth competency part without really knowing it. I guess it’s a bit in my nature. I am also quiet keen on proximity and working parallel as in finding common ground. I need to start taking pauses , the three second pause is much required 😂 I tend to talk over people when I get excited! But this video was really helpful me realise I want to maybe work on things I already have in me.

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I have heard a few of these. But the way you brought them altogether into a framework made it really useful. Thank you.

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[@kjbhargava]

This is very useful. You should expand a bit on this and contrast this with interactions with individuals more senior to you (ex: managers, vp's, C suite execs, etc). I agree with this by-in-large when it comes to talking to peers at roughly the same level of seniority, but I don't think it is as effective with senior management. If you disagree, then please also dive into why this is the case. Thanks for the content

[@ShadeZahrai]

Thank you for the suggestion to delve deeper into the topic. The biggest challenge that my husband and I face (we produce these videos together) is having enough time to deep dive into the wide range topics while running our business and my full time PhD work, and ensuring we keep the broad audience happy! You raise a good point regarding how would these 'charisma' habits translate to interacting with more senior colleagues. The principles of charisma are generally universal in human interactions but need to be nuanced with the nature of the relationship, expectations, personality traits, culture etc. Demonstrating high competence most likely takes precedence over rapport when interacting with more senior management. This doesn't mean that 'charisma' should be forgotten. Fundamentally we are still dealing with humans. Everything needs to be applied in context and with wisdom. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and initiating a discussion!

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Non-verbal gestures are tell-tale signs so mannerisms should be practiced or monitored. Great tips, Shadé! Thanks! 🥰🤓😍

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Very good strategies to build first impression. Thanks for sharing. I usually do WC and 2ps when I meet new people but was not aware that they are also backed by research.

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We can go wrong with first impressions though. What if someone is having a bad day. Is it fair to judge someone on first impressions and how we know if they are going through a bad day. Give people the a chance and dont go on that. You never know who somebody truly is by meeting them the first time and you could really miss out on a lot if you do that. We all need grace and we should give that to everyone.

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