5 Ways to Use Charisma for Standout First Impressions

We all know at least one person with that effortless charisma that leaves everyone in the room charmed.
Would you say you’re one of those people that leaves a standout impression?
Most of the professionals I’ve worked would say:
‘No, I’m not… but I’d love to be!”
If you’re nodding right now then chances are you also want to figure out how to exude more charisma, to be more likable and memorable…
And most of all to leave a Standout First Impression.
In this episode, I cover:
• Why first impressions are critical and how they can influence your career,
• How to turn on your charisma to make an outstanding impression when you first meet someone, and
• My WC + 4Ps (5 habits) you can apply to boost your presence and more positively influence those around you.
Research references below:
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Research:
Willis, J. & Todorov, A. (2006). First impressions: making up your mind after a 100-ms exposure to a face. Psychol Sci. 2006 Jul;17(7):592-8. doi: 10.1111/j.1467-9280.2006.01750.x.
Warmth vs Competence
Cuddy, A. J., Fiske, S. T., & Glick, P. (2008). Warmth and competence as universal dimensions of social perception: The stereotype content model and the BIAS map. Advances in experimental social psychology, 40, 61-149.
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Oda, R., Yamagata, N., Yabiku, Y., Matsumoto-Oda, A. (2009). Altruism Can Be Assessed Correctly Based on Impression. Hum Nat, 20, 331-341. doi.org/10.1007/s12110-009-90...
Pause (3SP)
Niebuhr, O., Brem, A., Michalsky, J., & Neitsch, J. (2020). What makes business speakers sound charismatic? A contrastive acoustic-melodic analysis of Steve Jobs and Mark Zuckerberg. Cadernos de Linguistica e Teoria da Literatura, 1(1). doi.org/10.25189/2675-4916.20...
Montoya, R. M., Horton, R. S., Vevea, J. L., Citkowicz, M., & Lauber, E. A. (2017). A re-examination of the mere exposure effect: The influence of repeated exposure on recognition, familiarity, and liking. Psychological Bulletin, 143(5), 459-498. doi.org/10.1037/bul0000085
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Here are the references to the research for those of you that are interested: Willis, J. & Todorov, A. (2006). First impressions: making up your mind after a 100-ms exposure to a face. Psychol Sci. 2006 Jul;17(7):592-8. doi: 10.1111/j.1467-9280.2006.01750.x. Warmth vs Competence Cuddy, A. J., Fiske, S. T., & Glick, P. (2008). Warmth and competence as universal dimensions of social perception: The stereotype content model and the BIAS map. Advances in experimental social psychology, 40, 61-149. www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0065260107000020 Profile - Smile Oda, R., Yamagata, N., Yabiku, Y., Matsumoto-Oda, A. (2009). Altruism Can Be Assessed Correctly Based on Impression. Hum Nat, 20, 331-341. doi.org/10.1007/s12110-009-9070-8 Pause (3SP) Niebuhr, O., Brem, A., Michalsky, J., & Neitsch, J. (2020). What makes business speakers sound charismatic? A contrastive acoustic-melodic analysis of Steve Jobs and Mark Zuckerberg. Cadernos de Linguistica e Teoria da Literatura, 1(1). doi.org/10.25189/2675-4916.2020.V1.N1.ID272 Montoya, R. M., Horton, R. S., Vevea, J. L., Citkowicz, M., & Lauber, E. A. (2017). A re-examination of the mere exposure effect: The influence of repeated exposure on recognition, familiarity, and liking. Psychological Bulletin, 143(5), 459-498. doi.org/10.1037/bul0000085

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Thank you for the suggestion to delve deeper into the topic. The biggest challenge that my husband and I face (we produce these videos together) is having enough time to deep dive into the wide range topics while running our business and my full time PhD work, and ensuring we keep the broad audience happy! You raise a good point regarding how would these 'charisma' habits translate to interacting with more senior colleagues. The principles of charisma are generally universal in human interactions but need to be nuanced with the nature of the relationship, expectations, personality traits, culture etc. Demonstrating high competence most likely takes precedence over rapport when interacting with more senior management. This doesn't mean that 'charisma' should be forgotten. Fundamentally we are still dealing with humans. Everything needs to be applied in context and with wisdom. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and initiating a discussion!

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