How To Be The Most Confident Version Of Yourself

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In today’s video, you’ll learn 4 habits that will let you feel confident in almost any situation.
We’ll do this by analyzing some clips of Jake Gyllenhaal, someone who effortlessly projects a fun confident attitude.
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0:00 - Intro
0:16 - #1: Learn to laugh at yourself
1:48 - #2: Give yourself permission to call out behavior you don't like
3:31 - #3: Be comfortable calling out awkward moments
5:58 - #4: Make your focus in conversation to have fun
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[@Superhero-Motivation]

“I thought that would get a bigger laugh” is such a good one to ease the tension! Having this in mind removes so much stakes from making jokes

[@LilChuunosuke]

That line is SUCH a life hack. I don't know where I learned it, but I inadvertently taught it to myself while trying to learn how to be funny & it works wonders. ESPECIALLY if the person you're talking to does not get self conscious about not laughing. You can really feel the tension in the air just melt away.

[@elperronimo]

Yes but then you make another bad joke and cant say it again

[@LilChuunosuke]

@@elperronimo I'd usually respond to that with either "tough crowd" or "man, I am just NOT funny today" and a laugh, then go on to just boost up other people's jokes instead of making my own.

[@Superhero-Motivation]

@@elperronimo Solution: We gotta be more funny man🤣

[@Halpedersen]

An even better line is, "you're supposed to laugh at that" and widen your eyes at the other person until they laugh uncomfortably, then you just snap out of it like it never happened.

[@aakashailajan]

True confidence comes from within. The way you think of yourself, no matter who you are, if you called yourself, it will definitely show.

[@edofluit6568]

thats just confidence... idk whats the difference between "true" confidence and normal confidence?

[@raidenshat5206]

@@edofluit6568 treat yourself carry yourself like it

[@raidenshat5206]

@@edofluit6568 wear the confidence speak the confidence live the confidence

[@edofluit6568]

@@raidenshat5206 oke I assume you mean this is true confidence, then what is normal confidence?

[@spiroskatsas6888]

Yes. It does not have to do with money, social status or even accomplishments themselves. These are good of course, but come because of the true confidence, as effects.

[@sommer1982official]

Jake definitely has charisma, I find his straightforwardness combined with humor and intelligence refreshing 💛

[@TheLegoShop]

hello

[@PranitPawar]

I read this in his Nightcrawler voice 😄

[@austinmalayil]

1. Learn to laugh at yourself 2. Give yourself permission to call out behavior you don't like 3.Become comfortable calling out behavior you don't like 4. Make your focus in conversation to have fun

[@AxxLAfriku]

I am the most famous man on YouTub! This is not bragging! This is the truth! The truth will set you free, dear aus

[@the1337fleet]

This is already in the description with timestamps

[@markog1999]

Thanks lol

[@tatiana7225]

Number 3 should be number 2, and number 2 is wrong.

[@doomedfromthesmart]

Be comfortable being wrong. Strength is inevitable

[@bettermanchannel770]

Hell yeah. Then correct it

[@Dr_UwU]

Everything they say in this video is true, if you're able to relax yourself and just have fun before going into a conversation it is absolutely going to do wonders for your conversational skills

[@Superhero-Motivation]

#1 Tell the truth in hard situations. Which Jake did in Spider-Man No Way Home, exposing Peter’s identity

[@DanielJohnsonJr]

Spoiler! LOL jk

[@Superhero-Motivation]

@@DanielJohnsonJr 🤣

[@ashvideoer]

🤣🤣

[@jessgarcia4565]

Jake Gyllenhaal does not have charisma, charisma has Jake Gyllenhaal

[@momomono795]

He is one of the top greatest actors with great movie choices yet so underrated

[@6thgraderfriends]

It really doesn't take long to internalize the stuff you teach! I started watching your videos on Thursday, had a conversation at a new job that would have intimidated me on Monday, I crushed it instead! Literally only a few days!

[@rx2316]

Your analysis and decryption of behaviors and how they can improve social skills are so on point. Thanks for the tips

[@tasdiqjubaer37]

0:16 - #1: Learn to laugh at yourself 1:48 - #2: Give yourself permission to call out behavior you don't like 3:31 - #3: Be comfortable calling out awkward moments 5:58 - #4: Make your focus in conversation to have fun

[@ponok.bailey119]

Appreciate this short & sweet summary !! 😄✊🏽

[@tasdiqjubaer37]

@@ponok.bailey119 Thank youu, but I'd like to give credit to the vid description. Not many people read the desc so I thought I'd write it in the comments :)

[@ponok.bailey119]

@@tasdiqjubaer37 Awesome, great honesty ! Really, I barely go through the description section , this helped me so I didn’t have to come back tomorrow and rewatch for the notes, also taught me to pay a bit more attention! Thank you .

[@tasdiqjubaer37]

@@ponok.bailey119 You are welcomee :) You seem a really wholesome person my guy, keep it up!

[@cozycasasmr4510]

Thanks!

[@notequalto5179]

Honestly watching your favorite comedians is a great way to develop humor. Also develops humor that you think is funny in particular and attracts others who like your humor.

[@kamilbidzinski475]

It's blowing my mind, but I came to some of these conclusions on my own, on my road to confidence very recently. "Give yourself permission to call out behavior you don't like" - I used to be afraid of doing that (history of abuse), I would imagine scenarios where the person gets really upset or offended and our relations get worse. But when I started calling people out on behaviors I didn't like - things like being interrupted in conversation - our relations greatly improved. They usually changed their behavior, I felt like I was respected more, I was more comfortable talking to them and more importantly - I started feeling that if something happens that I am not a fan of - I have a tool to change it instead of feeling powerless. It's not that I constantly tell people off, but just doing that a few times gave me A LOT of confidence.

[@Cationna]

Not gonna lie, the point on 7:29 just BLEW MY MIND. That is so true. Of you just trust that you're likeable, that some people will like you, you're not so desperate for everyone to like you, and to prove to yourself your likeability that way. This is so we'll put though, and seems so intuitive (even though it's hard to internalise). Imma write it down on my mirror and repeat it to myself every day because that's an excellent thought lol

[@robertgasparyan9882]

Great video once again. I’d love to see a breakdown of that Nixon-Kennedy presidential debate, the ultimate case study for charisma. It’s great for both exploring charisma and for understanding the extent to which charisma influences people (in this case it was more important than the underlying arguments).

[@mariomateus3551]

This channel keeps improving and improving. And the content has been top notch for a long time. Keep it up guys

[@thechancellor-]

To the *incredible person* seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.

[@av98]

Thank you mate. Good luck to you 👍

[@sabrinacooks]

Thank you 😊

[@Jessi.ca777]

God bless you & yours🙏✝️❤

[@OTRory]

I needed this today. Thank you ❤

[@poni3367]

This video was extremely insightful, definitely gonna come into use and help with self awareness

[@DonaldAMisc]

If you watch him in the Making of Donnie Darko when he was just becoming popular, he was just as playful as he is today. Glad to see Hollywood hasn't changed him a bit!

[@denizsolak7671]

Watching charisma on command after a few months, its always a pleasure

[@AISHALVSMJ]

Idec swifties, I'll always love this man

[@marcusrh20]

I love your videos dude. Have you ever thought about doing one for how to overcome anxiety within a job interview?

[@luvyou-baby]

i subbed this channel i guess long time ago but don’t remember watching any of the videos, im impressed but the helpful tips, great idea giving examples of celebrities in interviews

[@thinkpersonaldevelopment4599]

Thank you. These are really great. It so important for us to grow in our ability to be confident in ourselves. These tips are superb!

[@courtneymilner6062]

Recently got on medication for my ADHD and man… I’m finally at the point in my 23 years that I want to have fun and enjoy life..too bad I have 23 years of awkwardness to undo 😂 I’m finding it easier now and Jake is a big inspiration for me in this way. Can’t wait for what’s next

[@parhamhosseini4474]

Thaaaank uuu for your useful videos 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 They realy help

[@MrAhmed-dx5hw]

I've been waiting so long for a Jake Gyllenhaal video.

[@Zzehra95]

Finally, Jake's here!!!!

[@estacx.]

Thanks , From my heart , all this make sense, You both are awsome ♥️

[@Darkmesna1]

Not only is this useful for practical applications in life. But I find this very useful into writing a charismatic character properly! I have to say, when your charisma is so radiant and contagious that it's oozing off my screen and im laughing along. That's impressive.

[@natkr2329]

I have watched your video for many years in Russians version. But last year I started Learn English so now i can watch original, it's very interesting hear your real voice. Thank you for your work😊

[@syntheticsol]

Talking about a mistake in your distant past isn't always a good idea, it depends to whom you are speaking. You left out that detail, and it's an important one because there are some people who are hell bent at using anything you say against you. You might not have met them yet, so be prepared.

[@kamipat1480]

Can you do more videos about confidence over texting and being charismatic over text without actually seeing the person ?

[@alfredjoseph3052]

Ben this was one of y’all channels best videos

[@angelmiguel3231]

I so glad I found your channel

[@xanthusrose3897]

I swear I have watched every video you've posted like twice or more.

[@krushnakadu2866]

Very very useful Thank u

[@devanshkaj6733]

I think you should make video on Ashton Kutcher. I recently watched “what happens in Vegas” and “two and a half men” so I thought he also have a great personality and some attractive traits, that I’d like you to point out! And I love your videos very much! Great work!

[@frisianwarrior2295]

Brilliant stuff as always. Can you please do a video on how to stop blushing for no reason?

[@mindtheprivacy]

He's incredible

[@kenthemaster]

Having an abundance mindset is a great tip! It's all about the long game, even if you inevitably make a fool of yourself at times. Life is a big experiment anyways, and you wouldn't know your limits if you don't push them!

[@sabrinacooks]

Cant wait to watch this 😊

[@bluegiant13]

Jake and Ryan together remind me of my good friend and I

[@littlevoice_11]

Perhaps you could do a video on confidence in a pandemic e.g. wearing a mask and still communicating confidently plus how to engage effectively on Zoom

[@LuckiER89]

~. Yea just have the confidence to say no to masks and don't wear em. 🤷🏻‍♂️🤣

[@Vivi_9]

@@LuckiER89 selfish stupidity does not equal confidence

[@LuckiER89]

@@Vivi_9 Yuuup good thing freedom is till a thang... 😐 God forbid we make our own choices and think for ourselves huh... 🤦🏻‍♂️🤣

[@Vivi_9]

@@LuckiER89 yes you and everyone else are free to be a selfish moron and be a net negativity for humanity, congratulations for exercising your freedom in the most braindead way possible.

[@jollyroger1009]

One of the best people I've seen at this kind of thing is Graham Norton. Absolute artist at it.

[@Cab895]

great video!!!!!!!!!

[@OfficerQuavers]

Class. I'm far more friendly to chat with than I thought. Easyyyyyy 😂

[@dhairyadave1806]

Nice vid bro

[@djtdawg87]

Hey guys can y'all please, please do a video on James Spader's character of Raymond “Red” Reddington from The Blacklist, i mean not only is he a total badass but he's also super smart and confident and doesn't care what others think of him at all, he would be great to do a video on i think.

[@sancrosanct5070]

Agreed Red is hands down imo one of the best characters to break down. He's character is witty, smart and intimidating. He's the Harvey specter of the criminal underworld

[@notequalto5179]

CU is amazing by the way. It's criminally cheap for the value it gives you.

[@IAMYOU-.]

I actually met Jake at our family Christmas party He and my niece were dating and she brought him for Christmas

[@Phosfit]

I don’t take long to learn from this style of video. I just take the tip + example literally & try it out. Bing bong backflip

[@akakartik]

Legends are still finding that distance rule from thumbnail 😂😂😂😂

[@elperronimo]

Lmao

[@Brandon-tk2rw]

I took courses at charisma university and it was amazing! So many benefits. Recently all of my federal and state charges were dropped. Because all the key witnesses suddenly couldn't remember exactly." Thx charisma university!!!

[@Charles-Pettibone]

Dude, you've got to make some videos based on HBO's Succession. It's made for this channel.

[@najrenchelf2751]

Jake and Ryan act like soulmates - oh my days... :D

[@MrAhmed-dx5hw]

Plz also make a video on kumail nanjiani.

[@PaceWorks]

Refund from witn in the program is genuinely genius 👌 especially if your product is actually good and not alot of waffle like alot of rubbish these days

[@nahidforootan1154]

Hey. Thanks alot for your videos. Ive seen all of them. Would You mind if make more videos about Dwayne Johnson? I know you have two videos about him but he is so charismatic and a complicated person. I really wanna know what made his mind to revolve because I like to change too. Also I want to know how act around my boss who always make me stressed and bully me. Please help me. 😔

[@kingsway731]

I honestly don't know how these videos keep getting recommended to me or why I'm watching them. I don't obsess over stuff like this

[@PlumpProton]

So in its simplest form, don't take yourself and the situation too seriously

[@jeromebedard6973]

Great video, good job! Although I think you should not advertise in the middle of the video, it's kind of annoying. Or at least you should make it quick (like 7 seconds top). I know you're doing that because people tend to leave at the end of your videos when your original advertisment gets played (I do so myself). Maybe if you change that old advertisment clip that's rolling since I don't know when, people would not leave at the end and you wouldn't have to advertise in the middle of the video. What do you think?

[@tirkdiamond]

I didn't expect to not hear Charlie's voice. :P

[@udaysingh-wr2kw]

I would love if you did a 20 min video

[@aleksszukovskis2074]

8:25 Is this factorio music im hearing?

[@HardyBarona07]

Good comeback

[@405OKCShiningOn]

👂💚🤣😆😄💯 Be happy in imperfection. It's freedom!!!!

[@spideyshoaib1588]

Jake ala mysterio❤️

[@Danielshowsandtells]

I don’t wanna be effortlessly charismatic. I wanna be effortlessly myself. Succeeding at that mostly.

[@IsaacJoshi]

*Still blows my mind how we get access to content like this for free... Don't take it for granted*

[@dunnowhat2say566]

He can charm anyone with his self-effacing jokes

[@user-Dumbunny]

Sipping coffee like he's on a late night show.

[@docelephant]

Please do a breakdown on Michael Malice

[@edgelord616]

I personally have a really hard time laughing at myself. Could you make a video on how to do that in the future? Or link me to it if it already exists

[@ianpage2509]

What I do is use a hobby. Being a fan of miniature games I will joke. “I will out roll you any day because I have painted miniatures.”

[@Bilbus7]

When you travel to somewhere far from home, just be weird in public and realize there are no consequences and people really don't care. If anything people respect others who don't give a damn and are willing to be fun/silly without caring. Talk to strangers for practice. That's what I'm doing anyway and finding that it really doesn't matter and it becomes quite easy to laugh at myself.

[@jell._.y]

nice

[@tjp2109]

Sorry to say this isn't always the same with a female. As a female, I can display these same traits and it can look weak and bullies will take advantage of me. There's a fine line with being assertive.

[@egusisoup1826]

Same things applies with men depending on your social standing. Would appreciate a video centering around getting respect from others without being perceived as a “uptight”

[@destinyhntr]

Yes, another issue is these celebrities already have the added bonus of good looks and being famous. Many people will want to talk to them before they even meet them because the "good" impression has already been made. Unfortunately, that's just how it goes.

[@matthewmagaya7079]

You should analyse FIVE HARGREAVES from the umbrella academy

[@bongers4933]

What movie is the one with zac efron popping up at 4:51 ?

[@reidakted4416]

Okay, but can we see Lord of the Rings with Gyllenhaal doing his normal accent? "Alright. Keep your secrets," would have a very different feel.😃

[@waseqk4703]

Charming and charismatic introvert tutorial please - based on Matt Murdock from daredevil

[@waseqk4703]

Can u awesome gentlemen please make a Matt Murdock video from daredevil? On how to be a charismatic introvert that attracts people rather than trying to impress?

[@sabrinacooks]

Not gonna lie Jake Gyllenhaal creeps me out, not sure why 😂

[@shakir4969]

from the Nightcrawler movie?

[@Trilluminati713]

Yeah not a fan

[@sabrinacooks]

@@shakir4969 Nah, I have never seen a single film of his, It's just the way I felt from watching this video 😅

[@seenioritis]

Let’s goooo

[@lakshitpandey1142]

Breakdown of The Vampire diaries and The Originals characters would a great deal....

[@MartineNergaard]

pleease you've got to do andrew garfield. he's so charismatic and humble

[@epictom3423]

Epic

[@TheRagingArcherHD]

Where is Charlie?

[@johnreuelsathyadass6388]

Could u do a video about jack ma and Elon musk

[@nahidforootan1154]

Hey. Could you give me some interesting answer about the "where are you from, how old are you, what's your job"questions.

[@anotheryoutubeaccount5259]

-I'm from x -I'm n years old -I scrub bird poop How else would you answer them?

[@Od4n]

Today, I found that l don't watch through these videos due to my trained habit to change video when the plug comes. Usually, it's at the end of a video. Haha

[@mr.rainbowlovescoffee]

I am the must outstanding guy indoors. But outside I am in for anything 😜😂

[@thefifthGV]

Sometimes I wish I had a studio audience that travelled with me

[@imnobodysbusiness684]

Telling stories about your distance is great but then you have people like my roommate that started questioning my story and calling it lie, the worst guy ever

[@jonathinvazquez7197]

YAy

[@healthandhappiness9495]

Jake is actually clever

[@Kylekrippner]

Hi 👋

[@runcalloptions8578]

What happened to Charlie Hupert? The guy is an awesome presenter. Let's bring him back.

[@shimmyshimmykokobop3773]

CAN U MAKE AN ANALYSIS VIDEO ON JACK HARLOW PLEASEEE

[@nixonsprguy3629]

It's simple. Just be rich af and surround yourself with people who are financially depending on your wealth.

[@xavierdomenico]

Ah yes... **manipulation**

[@nixonsprguy3629]

@@xavierdomenico Ah yes

[@kanyenorth2605]

@@nixonsprguy3629 allot more of that going around than u think 💀

[@nixonsprguy3629]

@@kanyenorth2605 I highly doubt your exact phrasing. Hopefully, you have no idea of how spineless and low I consider our species to be. 😅

[@SkafflerProductions]

Me watching this whit no friend and now Imagining me doing this

[@emiyas_creations]

Wooo