How to Be Single AND Happy!

[@zeal4god402]

The better we are single, the better we will be for our future spouse and children

[@shanelundbohm9269]

Man Anthony, this video really spoke to me as a 38 year old single guy who's been struggling at times. Very helpful stuff...thanks man.

[@mayanavigatinglife4596]

Same same

[@maasobossbabe]

It takes time,use the time to learn more about yourself, until she comes along.

[@frankiegunnz8066]

Same here @ 42 brother!

[@cristianambros6036]

same here at 39 YO

[@stevensantora2976]

Points from the Show: 1. Figure out who you are and where you are going? 2. Take yourself out on dates 3.Take care of your health 4. Surround yourself with healthy people 5. Be financially responsible

[@TT-jc8qg]

Thx

[@anaa03899]

@@janesimmons8201 who ??

[@HawkeyePanther11]

@@janesimmons8201 huh?

[@erynd.9911]

I’m happily divorced , 31 , single mom of 1 son. I desire to get married again some day but I’m not in a rush, i have handed my dating life over to God so it’s in his hands now ! I love taking myself out on dates !! Plus I needed this time to heal and work on myself. I definitely want a husband to compliment me, build with me, and be my best friend. Until that happens I’ll continue to focus on myself , my son, my career, building my brand , and becoming debt free!

[@raeofsunshine9286]

One key to happiness is learning to control your emotions. Enjoy the things and people that make you smile. Learn to stay away from people, places and things that trigger negative emotions. Happiness is good for the mind, body and spirit.

[@juanita8336]

Real talk. This is a great list. I would add one more: stop helping others and neglecting yourself. I'm guilty of that.

[@shereses.3298]

Good for you, gotta take care of YOU first.

[@ladylefteye]

This is a good one. I am guilty of this as well.

[@victorbryan5482]

He said this

[@Eapp1480]

Yup

[@pearlpalace6057]

This is so true. 💯💯

[@tiehnabanks9459]

I have learned to love my own company❤.

[@meemee5660]

I heard someone say that if you don't enjoy your own company then no one else will either.

[@tiehnabanks9459]

@@meemee5660 Exactly!

[@chuckcpass]

It’s important to add years to your life but also to add life to your years.

[@irepthe615]

"If were not growing, it means were dying" That just hit me bruh! This video is 100, good stuff!

[@lovie1541]

Exactly Sir. My point exactly. I've had this conversation with my homegirl who wants to buy a house when she gets married. I said why. If it's on your heart to do now, then do it. I also walked away from an engagement. I'm so grateful for where I am now in my life on a personal and professional level. I love my solo dates and have even traveled solo for a weekend trip. I had a blast! If your single, how do you expect other people to enjoy your company, when you can't enjoy yourself! Speak Sir. Take care and be blessed 🙌

[@lisamccray9079]

First you have to enjoy your self can't always care what other people think

[@Chanel5-q5o]

You better talk about it ! Stop waiting for someone else to make you happy. You’d be surprised at what happens when you go out by yourself

[@TDUBB88]

Im using my single season to become thee best version of myself, thee best dad, friend, brother, son etc. It's my time 💪🙏

[@shareofmoney]

This was really good stuff. Singleness is a moment from God that allows for growth and maturing. As a divorced person, I can better understand that. I still have growing to do but I am definitely striving for better

[@TheKrystolMethod]

Im 35 and single with no kids. Its been very tough as I just stopped dating someone because hes going through and didnt want me. Oh well his loss. Ive been praying on my career. I have 2 completed degrees and ABD for a doctorate with no job in either field. I work in finance and love it, but Im tryinv to find my niche. I find I get bored easy and job hop. Been praying for my purpose with career and praying that God sends me a great Godly man. Right now im taking it 1 day at a time and starting to pay off student loans. Who ever reads this just please keep me in prayer.

[@InspiredUno]

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@a.h.2667]

That guy probably did you a huge favor. He created space for more purpose and clarity in your life and eventually a better partner!

[@robyn905]

I dont even want a relationship right now. I just want some Christian friends :((

[@brittanyadams933]

Yes I want more Christian friends also

[@eunicepotts6378]

I agree with that again. We need to deposit in ourselves, so we can have something to give to others. We can not give what we don't have. All we need to be happy is within us.and not outside.

[@pamelarichards464]

That Part: Accountability and Support ... I love it.

[@courtneybrack8306]

Tell yourself no now while you are single, so you can say yes to your family. I'm writing that down and running with it. That's straight wisdom. Thanks for sharing.

[@qmichelle7837]

Um yeah! It took me 20 years to find Anthony and I’m here for it all! 💜

[@LakeystyannaDashai]

I agree and loved all 5 points‼️ I’m 26 and single and right now as I’m growing as a person in Christ and just focusing on myself & my son you start to learn these things once you self evaluate your own life and see what needs to change if you want better for your life etc! & SN: I ABSOLUTELY love hearing you Anthony speak about God and how you already speak positivity in your current life as a single man and your future life as married man & father‼️ its awesome, keep doing what are you doing in being the best you & helping others & stay blessed 🙏🏾

[@ancientnicholas]

6 years - 2190 days - gone in a matter of minutes and can’t tell you how much I needed this video thank you sir

[@mikea.4477]

Nothing but the truth! 💯💯 So many people don’t see the blessing in singleness. It’s a season that provides so much opportunity for self-growth!

[@pamelacantrell2080]

I wish I would of known all this in my 20s, now at 38 I am trying to become debt free as well as my husband. But I am glad God is leading us the right way now and thanks to people like AO and the Ramsey team we know and strive for a lot more.

[@michaelhulett2298]

I just came out of a 5 1/2 year relationship where I raised and loved 3 children like they were my own flesh and blood. The details of why the relationship ended are no one else’s business, but I will say there was no physical abuse nor infidelity, but the blame lies firmly on me. I put this video on while I was cleaning my single guy apartment and was immediately hooked. When you got to the part about giving your best to everyone but yourself, I broke down crying. Thank God for sending this my way.

[@Shalyse1]

Water is delicious! Healthy eating is fine for me...healthy food is delicious. The working out part is my struggle!

[@Bindi_Marc]

Definitely important to establish happiness in singleness bc if you buy into the notion that happiness and contentment live in marriage you will be disappointed. Then, when you're married and still unhappy you'll think you need a divorce when in reality... happiness/contentment truly is mutually exclusive from marital status. No spouse could ever fill the hole reserved for Jesus.

[@InspiredUno]

Right!!!💯

[@jennifertse9233]

My parents didn’t take me and my bro to Disney either cause they didn’t have money for vacation. I’m financially stable and debt-free and have a travel budget. Congrats on your vision and goals! Thanks for the 5 points.

[@caraanderson4177]

Honestly? As a single lady, I’m working on receiving correction in this season. Submitting to my spiritual authority and learning to ask for prayer, advice, and correction. And asking God to reveal my flesh and grow His spirit.

[@donaanna56]

Being single has helped me to be debt free love it

[@sophia4christ]

Your single season is also the time to get closer to Jesus Christ. The first time you hear from Christ should NOT be when you're asking Him about your choice of your life partner. Jesus Christ speaks to all of His children. Therefore, we need to be able to hear Christ clearly for ourselves. When you become accustomed to hearing Him speak, then you will be able to walk in His perfect will. Good discussion. May God continue to bless and keep you and your team AO.

[@eunicepotts6378]

Yes that's very true. It's only when you know who you are and what God has deposited in that you can be a blessing to others .

[@allysoncarter5139]

I appreciate you, Anthony..."you want a companion, get a dog"...love it!

[@peaceanle]

Agree with everything except the point with water. I love just drinking water by itself. Great video.

[@afterhours7826]

" Become Financially Responsible " that part!

[@IyanaLowe.]

The take yourself out . It’s the best actually it’s soooo peaceful and it makes me feel good about myself at the end of the day . If you cannot chill with yourself sum is wrong 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@Encouraged_with_J]

Come on now! AO is preaching to me today. God made me and gave me an assignment!!! I have to do what I was created to do in this season of singleness! True word!

[@jdls12]

I’m so glad you and John got y’all’s own show. Im so grateful for you guys. Tremendous leaders and true compasses to guide people of all sorts through life.

[@lisamccray9079]

So true you have to take care of yourself nobody else is going to do it 💯

[@shantellej3643]

Live out your daily goals so that you can set yourself up to meet your long term goals. Be content and pray sincerely . Be the best version of yourself. AO .. quality content 👌🏾

[@angelac7837]

Thank you Anthony. I just shared this with my 30 year old daughter. God bless you.

[@KatinaBlue]

"Eating healthy sometimes just sucks." 🤣🤣 I beg to differ Mr. ONeal. There are some really delicious healthy foods out there. But anyhoo, I just stumbled across your show a few weeks ago because of watching your sister and her husband on your show. They were one of my favorite couples on the series "Black Love." I've been watching your episodes since then. I know you're the "money man," but your discussions about being Christian, single and dating have been riveting. Please do more of that sir! Also as a woman who is abstinent (and has been all of her life), and is waiting for marriage, I would love to see you do a show about this to encourage those of us who are doing this. Just some wishful thinking on my part.😊 Anyway, keep inspiring!

[@phoebejones6204]

I feel like this applies to those that are both single and in a relationship. Learning about these aspects when single has actually helped me within my relationship. Myself as well as my partner as a team have been able to focus on these aspects not just as individuals but as a team and creates good communication. 💯

[@TheMzKei]

This is awesome, I’ve been single-ish for some time now but I’m focusing more on me and will be pouring more into my life. I’m looking forward to dating myself and taking ME out to eat without my kids.

[@jilliancordoza7716]

Anthony gives the best answers to psychological issues, even though he is probably not a psychological. He has just good common sense and I love his responses.

[@DC-or9ob]

I needed this bro. 25, engaged 2x and still working on myself. God’s time is not our time. Thank you.

[@gomo8523]

M here in 2021 July....finding myself in the Lord as a single woman...loving this season as i realised after watching your show with the Richardsons...I am still working on my Faith (my walk with the Holyspirit), Finances and Fitness (good eating habits and an a consistent exercise programme). So yeah...m finding myself 😊☺

[@iamtrinajones]

Great video and great steps. Just adding a point that works for me. Don't put your life on pause waiting for your spouse before you live life. You want to go to Italy and its in the budget.....well go to Italy! Let love catch you in motion.

[@mariedesignz1659]

In my single season 36 mother of 1 I’m focused on being a great mother to my daughter, becoming debt free and switching careers into tech! I’m walking in my purpose more each day. And plenty of reading cause I’m a book worm 🐛

[@ChosenDeeDee]

Amazing video AO! I think you touched on this just a little bit, but healing from childhood trauma is so good to do while single too. God has been faithful to me as He healed and restored so many areas that childhood trauma ruined or damaged. 🙏🏾

[@courtneybrack8306]

These are great points! 1-4 definitely need to be continually worked on, I see that daily in my life. But what hits the most for me is #5 and that's my mental fight of discipline, being financially responsible and ready for my future husband and children. Gotta break them generational curses and cycles with finances

[@siobhanrenee2901]

Thank you for talking about this subject. I was feeling defeated today in regards to being single

[@Lovingmylife24]

Good Message. We are Single people that have a purpose to seek and are going somewhere.

[@BrothaRollins]

Thank you 🙏 for sharing your testimony with us as Singles!

[@felicia4603]

I needed to hear this. Thank you so much!!! Every single thing you said is ME. I'm the last person on my list of priorities. I definitely need to change and to do so starting TODAY.

[@Ucheabby]

This video is everything. I just finished praying and stumbled upon this video... (spirit led) Great counsel!!!!!

[@amethystlake]

Thankyou for this video!!! I recently got ghosted on and they announced they were in a relationship two days later and it has affected my trust in people and I started asking myself what's wrong with me? What did I do wrong? But I need to work on myself and stop getting validation of others. I had a good think about my life and I can't drive, I want to better my job, I still share a room in my early 20s because I can't afford to move out... I have alot to do yet in life. I need to do this before anything else. Get my life together so I am confident that I can rely on myself and don't have the need for validation!

[@janelletownsel4254]

Don't take on the responsibility of other people's faults and decisions. Like you said mind your business, mind your heart, mind your spirit. It's not up to you to parent your parents or volunteer your peace for friends who make questionable decisions. You could be getting in the way of their lesson.

[@afterhours7826]

Great message, some thing I'm learning to do, to not take on other people's faults and decisions , thank you for that!

[@royalprincess9499]

100% agree... live love joy taking care of herself be financially equipped spiritual growth ... leave the rest of God he will place that special person in your life

[@ncs737]

SO GOOD! Thanks AO! All your suggestions were great! Being single during this quarantine season has had its up and downs but I'm very grateful for this time to invest more clearly in my goals and my future.

[@jeffvillabroza86]

U not single if u have guy blowin ur back

[@hellosunshine3647]

I loved so many things about this video. I like pepperoni and pineapple pizza too! (Rare🤣🤦🏽‍♀️) You said alot of things and I was saying omg me too! Abstinence.. all of it... I've also walked away from an engagment. It is not only one of the best decisions I ever made.. I realized how horrible he was, and how blind I was.. 🤣 I've been doing solo dates since my 20s lol. I'm in my 30s now, and solo dates will never end for me. Spa days, facials, and massages are life! My future husband will have to deal with it, join me sometimes, or move along because that's bae.🤦🏽‍♀️🤣 I will never understand people who don't love spas lollll. I have also traveled solo, and had the best time of my life. I have finally learned to use my singleness building me and not be so worried about helping others more. I have started a business in my singleness, and possibly looking at buying my first home. I wanted to wait until marriage for a home, but I have finally decided well what if that never comes. I want a home for me, so why not now. But it's rare to find a man who is thinking the same things. Lol love all your other videos. This one is definitely hitting home. I always say when I do get married, I will be able to say I had a great single life that I used wisely. Are you still single? Lol. Good luck on your journey. 🤎

[@allysoncarter5139]

Thank you for praying for the single folks!

[@The_Man8719TwitchTV]

You are here watching this because you DO live yourself 😉 💪 keep it up 💪

[@cynthianobuhlempofu3751]

I would add that you should do things that feed your soul and make you happy

[@johnnydelgado3964]

Dam. This really got through to me deeply. Certain parts hit home. ❤️

[@jeffery1524]

I have never thought of it as a season in life, being single. Just saying that has made me think of being single differently already. No. 2 I have never thought about getting dressed up and taking myself out on a date. I definitely got to try that. Thank you AO and by the way what is wrong with red lobster? I love those biscuits

[@christinekawira5113]

This is good Anthony...especially the one on becoming financially responsible.

[@monkeyqueen6458]

Omg I love you so much I listen to Dave Ramsey and I am 11 by the way I love it when you come on the show

[@zeal4god402]

AMEEEEEEEN, WELL DONE

[@purpleflowerpodcast9215]

Wow the wisdom you are getting 🙌🏾

[@KAydelott7]

Let me just say...hearing that budget part made my skin CRAWL! I’ve learned how to save, but budgetingggg! I know I have to do better. I was also wondering, “why did I stop taking myself out. I used to love that”. We’re in a dang pandemic is why🙄. Lol. But thanks for this. It affirmed me and challenged me

[@brittanynicole117]

@12:30 It's so true, a good therapist will have you crying and seeing everything very different!

[@Therealgiantslayer]

I love how you called out the unhealthy friends. I have had to cut some people & God has replaced them. I have a great tribe. And everyone is not a life enhancement!

[@BT-502]

So glad 😄 and satisfied that I clicked this video. It’s like you’re reading my mind and speaking to me personally. Thank you I REALLY needed to hear this

[@christianrice7447]

Thanks a lot for this! I really wish I had a good group of people around me that were like you.

[@michin08]

"Nice to everyone else but me"...dang, I felt that AO

[@lisamccray9079]

You have to do what is best for you

[@deerinheadlights9784]

Thanks Anthony for this topic. I just started the video and liked it. I don’t even know what the 5 are yet. I love how open you are to have a conversation

[@tiannapearson6176]

Anthony, just wanted to tell you THANK YOU AND YOU ARE AMAZING!! 👏

[@gloriaborjon2561]

I knew I wasn’t the only one with these thoughts and qualities ❤️

[@frankiegunnz8066]

Thank you for this deep topic Anthony. Can you continue doing these kind of topics, especially geared towards us men?....... Thank you, and may God bless you brother!

[@amandanicole9917]

This is like hearing the secrets of my heart and prayers being echoed back to me☺️.

[@amandanicole9917]

“Beloved friend, I pray that you are prospering in every way and that you continually enjoy good health, just as your soul is prospering.” 3 John 2

[@mrsturtevant1]

Thank you AO for being our cheerleader during this rough year and rough season of singleness. Like you said we'll finish strong. God bless!!

[@rosierose7270]

Dinner by myself this weekend... 🤔 & this Friday is my birthday💯 🎀🍰

[@christinehenry3817]

Good afternoon AO, I enjoy your show at all times. However, I would like to inform you that you have an audience above the age of 30 & already have children, and is praying for that husband/wife. Can you touch on some of the same advice/info for the 35-45 age group? Thank you.

[@tawanathompson5498]

Hey Anthony! Thanks for these 5 tips. I would add to get in a relationship with Jesus. Learn how to spend time with him, so that you can bring that same mindset into your marriage.

[@lovefelix1566]

Thank you. Jesus is number 1. You won't know who you are until you find it in Jesus. You can't find you or define you without Christ

[@gingergriffin6190]

I like the 2nd one! Going to start doing that! 🙌🏻❤️

[@cassandrasnow2766]

I needed this so bad, I listened to it twice. Thank you Anthony!

[@alexanderlowe3484]

Right before you said Top Golf I was thinking about my single date there. I had a fun time hitting golf balls by myself

[@Shizz1000]

Eating healthy sometimes just sucks lol 😹. You took the words right out of my mouth. BTW sausage pepperoni and pineapple pizza is my favorite too.

[@Lisa-nt7wt]

I take myself out all the time. It's very relaxing and peaceful for me 😊

[@r.j.lindzee6432]

I'll be 45 yrs old this year and been faithfully single for 10 years. When I say faithfully single, I mean I am not leading anyone on, I am not texting men or giving my phone number to anyone. All I do is go to work and hang out with my 2 kids that I have at home. I don't hang out with any single Christian friends because they still date for the sake of dating because they said they need to put themselves out there to be found but they might be putting themselves out there too much! I know they put their selves in compromising positions and end up making mistakes and I don't agree with it but I might be way over protective myself and they might be right but I just don't want to make any mistakes because I love God too much. I just put my faith in knowing God will send that man regardless but it's been 10 years! I wanted my kids to have a father figure but they're teenagers now so maybe too late.

[@crow-vz5lx]

What if you want to stay single. And not end the season? I've been married. I've dated. I'm way happier being single.

[@everythingtierramonique3219]

Absolutely what needs to be said 💪🏾🔥 Great tips for being single

[@robinwilliams5702]

Great content. I love the message and I love you keep up the good work

[@lidyanaredeemed9848]

Brother Anthony, You rock !! So transparent and inspiring. Keep it real and relevant! Owesome! Thx

[@JohnnyCooks20]

dude ur amazing. love the channel so much good stuff.

[@JohnnyCooks20]

keeping it real

[@a.h.2667]

This video is so inspiring! I grew up seeing my parents arguing over finances. Those sad memories stick with me as motivation to not repeat the cycle of debt when I get married.

[@angelrogers8578]

I'm definitely walking this path currently, thank you for your transparency.

[@eastcoastnews9529]

Ty Anthony sir. God bless u.🙏🏻and your parents ✊🏻🙏🏻

[@ottisbristol9296]

Stumbled across your channel a week ago, must say it’s had a big impact in my life already. I’m from Trinidad 🇹🇹 things are different in my country but I’m applying the principles.

[@lisare6254]

You can do it fellow Trini.

[@cadencewaremusic1259]

I’m the type that can justify any purchase 😅 but your words replayed in my head twice today and it stopped me from purchasing things that I haven’t budgeted for and that really could wait until a later date. Thank you!

[@eunicebediako4986]

Really struggling with #1!!!!! I have an idea but terrified if it doesn't work out.....