How to be your best self in times of crisis | Susan David

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"Life's beauty is inseparable from its fragility," says psychologist Susan David. In a special virtual conversation, she shares wisdom on how to build resilience, courage and joy in the midst of the coronavirus pandemic. Responding to listeners' questions from across the globe, she offers ways to talk to your children about their emotions, keep focus during the crisis and help those working on the front lines. (This virtual conversation is part of the TED Connects series, hosted by head of TED Chris Anderson and current affairs curator Whitney Pennington Rodgers. Recorded March 23, 2020)
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[@nomannoorali]

i love this talk and i have to say i was feeling lonely and cried an hour back and then comes this talk into my news feed loved it

[@michellemajor3412]

It was a really good TedTalk. Your brave to share your feelings. Thank you for sharing.

[@ebbyc1817]

Hang in there noman designs

[@victoriawamukhoma5365]

I am a practicing psychiatrist in Nairobi and I have never had such insightful conversations about our emotions

[@jrose1094]

Hi guys! Be strong 💪🏼 stay positive. Love from Poland 🇵🇱

[@ManishGupta-sb9ef]

Right

[@marywright4934]

Much love from the 🇺🇸

[@zmasbrahim2830]

yes Julia, more love from morocco

[@zmasbrahim2830]

👍

[@jusaiwifi]

I love you

[@katarinajanoskova]

Chris and everyone at TED, thank you so much for organising these chats! There's an avalanche of opinions, facts and misinformation falling on us from all sides. If I've ever worried about being in a bubble and not knowing where to turn, the feeling's definitely been amplified by being closed up at home. You know the brightest minds and I'm so happy I get to listen in depth to their thoughts on what is going on. Chris' questions are always excellent, it's like TED Interview but pandemic special! Thank you and please keep them coming.

[@MikejSackey]

Thanks for sharing, Namaste

[@lindahebb4832]

Thank you for posting

[@pascui3]

Thanks a lot for all this most valuable advices. ❤️❤️❤️

[@Silvertestrun]

Thank you very much!

[@jiboyoseo]

Thank you so much for this

[@belindacalub5519]

Very insightful. Thank you.

[@adrianmedina5727]

This really got me thinking about recognizing our own emotional behavior cues. Recognizing that the feelings of fear and sadness are normal and not a defining character. Understanding your emotions and working through what is needed to adress them is the big takeaway I got from this. I also completely agree that the social media influence is conditions us to reject these normal feelings making it harder for us to come face to face and work them out.

[@osse1n]

Take this opportunity to ponder over where you are and where you want to be in life. Maybe start that online business that you have been dreaming about.

[@marywright4934]

I'm taking time to be grateful for all the good in my life

[@UCannotDefeatMyShmeat]

I’m literally just living, whatever happens happens

[@squeezeslemons]

FTLghost amen to that

[@CabinDweller]

100% I've been doing this for the last week since working home...

[@Shayisbackagain]

So true! that's the first thing I thought about when we were told that we need to quarantine.

[@eunsihaetrio]

Yes. We have to accept the fears in our life because that is the reality. It is OK to get scared. From that, will get our strength from ourselves so that we can still fight the reality of danger. 💪 Fighting! And always pray. God is always there. 🙏

[@KingInasmuch]

THAT'S WHY I LOVE TEDTALKS , THE MOTIVATION,EDUCATION AND INSPIRATION ARE ALL HERE ,THE VIRUS WILL END SOON,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

[@UCannotDefeatMyShmeat]

Notice how regardless of what we say at this point, they’re always going to be correct in their mind having decided we were wrong to begin with. Jesus

[@michaelbasher]

What a lovely mentor for humanity: Susan David

[@VtRD]

She is so wise -this will bring her wisdom to more people.

[@samsardar]

Keep safe everyone 🌹

[@AlessioVanin]

Once I was attending a Laurie Anderson "concert". At some point she said (not literal): "It is totally ok, in these times, to feel sad. What we must try, is to feel sad without being sad." I just wrote it down, and I still bring that simple thought with me.

[@firemanscan]

Fabulous, fabulous, fabulous! Thanks to all involved! Very insightful, it uplifted me at a time when I really needed it, Thank you!

[@reggyreptinall9598]

" Fear nothing but fear itself". The funny thing is we have been in crisis, probably since the dawn of time. Its just now becoming apparent, but its way worse and much better than you or i could ever imagine.

[@AbreTuMente]

Thank you so much for this amazing interview, Chris, Susan and Whitney, you are all wonderful! I love this point: "We are not our emotions, our emotions do not define us."

[@portugalas2006]

Yes you are right madam

[@azdjedi]

This wins the Internet for 2020

[@basemkhourma5163]

Thank you for this great knowledge and Ideas

[@swamification]

Love

[@janearmstrong8832]

Thank you! So incredibly inspiring!

[@scottmears7490]

Science, Self Sufficiency, Satisfaction.

[@Lealea2828]

moving away from our minds into the HEART this was a great talk thank you love to you ALL, I have been searching online the past 2 weeks looking for the wise ones, TRUE leaders who can help lead/guide us into our new chapter of life... thank you

[@markmaxian3669]

keep safe everyone.. stay home to save lives.

[@advertise3606YT]

Okay, yes yes.

[@tammierenee8835]

Excellent guest today. Thanks for this program.

[@victoriawamukhoma5365]

i will definitely try to buy your book

[@Peter_WongVI]

Thank you professor David.

[@juliashearer7842]

Thank you. This is helpful.

[@rbmadgunner]

I promise to myself, one day i am speaking at Tedx Talk and i am feeling proud, empowered and strengthfull by realizing that i have contributed for my life and The whole Human. We are here to serve for us and the human race.

[@pi1810]

I wore a mask to our local market today. The woman who worked there started crying and thanked me. She said that I was the first person to wear a mask, and how upset she is that people don't care enogh to wear a mask around her. Also, because of the mask, we looked deeply into each other's eyes to communicate.

[@pi1810]

I think that wearing a mask shows compassion.

[@revlauramancuso]

Any chance of getting a transcript of this? Very valuable information!

[@barefootinthepark5693]

Well.. I'd love a transcript of this too

[@belindacalub5519]

Thanks! So informative talk!

[@mistyperry5538]

Beautiful and yes so true. I did a meditation on my KZbin on how to uplevel joy in crisis. So important to keep our mindset uplifted!

[@motherlifeworktraining8409]

This was well worth a listen with some great practical advice.

[@jamesmccluskey391]

Accept everything about yourself - I mean everything, You are you and that is the beginning and the end - no apologies, no regrets. Henry Kissinger

[@GLANCEVLOGS]

I LOVE THIS VIDEO . WE WANT MORE ON THIS THANKS FOR SHARING AND HOW TO GET COURAGE

[@laragutierrez4610]

That space between stimulus and response is so important. I needed to hear that.

[@user-xv3rk6qb8n]

Dont be afraid of bad crisis thinking of bad things is bad way to failure. so behave positively to solve your crisis.

[@cristyvargas9769]

Me gustaría q le pusieran subtitulos en español. Por favor. Gracias

[@keenanurock4559]

Don't feel bad about feeling bad

[@OlgaHernandez-zj1rs]

Keenan Urock I am actually feeling bad for having these fears of uncertainty of our reality. Is it really bad that I would like to have discussions about things that we see or hear with my family?

[@addie9222]

My dream is to be so great at something I do that I’ll get invited to a Ted Talks one day

[@ankaicai]

taking note for my future essay, lol

[@t.h.nguyen5193]

Life's beauty is inseparable from fragility!

[@Domiciano1953]

The world is scared, but we will win ✝️👍

[@josephdias7441]

Oh shut up fools

[@laragutierrez4610]

It's essential to just let ourselves feel real emotions right now. Whatever it is, we need to acknowlege that emotion non judgmentally. As Ms. Susan said, those emotions are signposts leading towards valuable self-knowledge and wisdom. We need to be honest with ourselves so we could learn and grow from this collective suffering.

[@OlgaHernandez-zj1rs]

Should I just ignore what’s going on to prevent stress?Is it bad that I want to talk about this crisis? What happens when none of your family wants to discuss it?

[@SuccessBoosterAcademy]

Hey Olga, it’s not bad to talk about your feelings. If your family doesn’t want to discuss the issue, seek help from others, start taking care of yourself. If you need additional support, please let me know. God bless you.

[@wadafik]

36:39 She is right... I need to stop caring about these daily statistical numbers and other news there because they don't really bring me any value and only going to stress me out.

[@mya-game8033]

Love and Compassion is the only real thing. Everything else is a cry of help or healing.

[@Amber-tk8hd]

Crazy watching this now since it is Nov and the election is finally over as well.

[@loritindall]

No kidding! I’m watching it 1 year after the pandemic started, and still reconciling.

[@wirausahawan9337]

not clear i catch up..

[@anonimyss8848]

I'm being tasked to watch this by my employer since my job is having me telework. Is there a summary? lol

[@ebbyc1817]

"We often live our lives as if we're in a never-ending ironman or ironwoman competition..."

[@MotoTrooper]

Just stay inside everybody and we can defeat this invisible enemy

[@workingtravelingover50]

I trust the Lord at this moment of huge crisis.

[@ThePetCafeLady]

Step one: Acknowledge your negative feelings, fears and anxiety *BE HUMAN. TRYING TO HAVE A PERFECT MENTALITY FROM THE ON-SET WILL MAKE YOU CRAY CRAY* let your self feel it, dwell on it and rationalise it for some time. Also you may want to acknowledge that you are getting a bit insane because life ain't normal anymore. Step 2: Once you're done with all the whining, crying, groaning and indulging in the negative feelings... Pick yourself back up and reset. Figure out what you wanna be and want to accomplish within your new discomfort that you have to embrace - the confinements of your own home, with social and economical limitations, and slowly build the new life that you will have to live with. Wether you like it or not, you gotta adapt and flourish with a new set-up you have to live with.

[@SolidSiren]

Thinking "positive" is not about "trying to have a perfect mentality". That misses the point entirely.

[@charleyhullah]

the title of this video doesn't do the profound content any justice

[@UCannotDefeatMyShmeat]

Who needs toilet paper when you have 1/3 of these comments

[@FrancesShear]

I don't know why whenever someone says the phrase, "hoarding toilet paper" it brings to mind in me a scene in which I see f a whole room full of only white toilet paper and that makes me want to laugh instead. For me right now having enough strength and energy to shovel snow and ice off my steps and sidewalk is of utmost importance when needing to have enough energy to once a week go on the bus to do my grocery shopping too. I look forward to getting out of the house to do my own grocery shopping. Same goes for taking the bus to visit my grandchildren. To keep enough fitness and energy to do that I must make a point of going out for a walk at least twice a week and doing my physiotherapy exercises every day after being a passenger in a roll over car accident 10 months ago at almost age 63 with chronic health conditions to begin with. I keep thinking, what about others who have just been in a car accident right now who cannot access physiotherapy treatments now after just being discharged from hospital? Just last Friday while riding the bus I saw the aftermath of 2 serious car accidents. Staying home instead of 'social distancing' alone while driving a car is helping to prevent more car accidents from happening so don't feel the least bit guilty for working at home thorugh Skype or whatever.

[@freetheloaders]

don't you feel like just jumping into the room of toilet paper? hahahahaha!

[@josephdias7441]

Cindy get a life

[@samankarki1600]

Why fight use it to progess for all atleast maybe

[@vicarage2]

If its not a talk, please put it in a different channel

[@MonsterIsABlock]

Simple: Don't travel

[@tee4468]

Two weeks frozen in place, leaving six feet between us, equals an end to the pandemic.

[@bathtub_farter]

That's survival what about progress?

[@mauriciocdiazgarcia7094]

It is interesting that in this video what it is being called "emotional agility" it sounds identical to what any mindfulness program teaches. I wonder if the lady is aware that buddhist and current mindfulness coaches teach this for more than 2 K years -in the case of Buddhist- and for the last 20 years -in the case of secular mindfulness-... I wonder why she felt the need to called something else, maybe she things EA is an all together new appoach to our emotional lives or maybe she needed a new catchy name to be able to sell books and do courses in the over saturated field of mindfulness.

[@michaelplace]

Mauricio C Diaz Garcia it is slightly different than mindfulness. It’s more inquisitive than the premise of mindfulness

[@SolidSiren]

That is exactly what I was thinking while listening to her TED talks. She is describing mindfulness, and the ability to simply sit with yourself, with your own thoughts, and be CONTENT. At peace. To accept the universe instead of fighting it. Which is exactly where you find happiness finally.

[@lucamarcus5763]

Yos

[@goodnews4everhoch10]

29. View

[@josephdias7441]

What Cynthia gets a clue

[@michas2080]

7th+

[@josephdias7441]

Lmao Cynthia

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[@markishbasedgod5251]

Hopefully this will just make our species focus on cleanliness and sanitation better instead of half assing it like we have been. It's about time we had those cool airlocks that scan a laser beam over you that kills all microbes before you walk into a room.

[@Rajo1012]

first idea good. second idea bad. because a human is mostly made up from nonhuman cells. they enable digestion, keep the skin flexible etc. only very few microbes are a problem.

[@markishbasedgod5251]

Rajo1012 Except we take a shower once/twice a day and that kills 99.9% of microbes, do you never take a shower or? I’m talking about a UV light (which we already have, it’s just slow) that might scan your body and kill microbes quickly like as if you just took a shower.

[@JoBernard12oxen]

Any one that refuses to talk about best safe practices while allowing unsick people to continue to work, is feeding the flames of all global control efforts, period.

[@josephdias7441]

Cynthia Marie Aguilar is the nagging queen and a huge liar/ munipulator

[@gen-x-zeke8446]

PARTY AT MY PRIVATE BEACH, while the neighbors watch because their 'sick level' is a bit higher. Not MY PROBLEM!!! COME ON DOWN!! God Bless. *It's a good thing we have all this communication technology and are used to fake emotions and played out expressions, and puppetry.

[@Nounismisation]

This is how you sound if you don't have well written comedy in your culture.

[@rosemaryanthony428]

Unfortunately this is hugely disappointing. I love listening to TED talks because they are well-articulated and/or evidence-based. This is neither. I would love TED to recommend good talks for this period. This is not one of them.

[@NotOfThisWorld567]

"How to be your best self..." all the time. Through the redemption of Jesus Christ is how. We can't make ourselves better, only God's love can do that.

[@crazyprayingmantis5596]

The same God that drowned every baby on the planet, that God?

[@fionafiona1146]

The God 1/3 responsible for the South Korean cases? Admittedly people are always in charge of their own actions but religion (faith based reasoning in general) undermines the research to find best practice.

[@UCannotDefeatMyShmeat]

Okay