👰🏻‍♀️I read 50 books on being a housewife to learn these 10 lessons...

Learning how to be an efficient and successful housewife seems to be an overlooked skill these days. Rarely do I find mothers talking about the mindset and practical steps beyond how to clean and tidy a home that make the biggest impact on your relationships with your husband and children. So I set out with a mission to learn from an older generation of women who weren't distracted with the digital age and whose sole focus was on raising kind and hard working children, having a strong relationship with their husband, and who take their role as care taker as the most important one in life. I learned a TON and wanted to share with you! Honestly, this is just scraping the surface. I also read a lot on marriage...maybe I should do a part 2 on marriage lessons? Let me know!
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[@amberatwood]

I have 3 kids under 3 and the youngest is 2 months. I decided to approach my home as a business and organize my day as such. My mommy "work" uniform I decided was going to be scrubs, they are comfy, light weight and there are lots of pockets which I need for gathering items throughout the day. It has helped a lot to dress for the "work" I'm doing as a busy mom and has helped my mindset.

[@vanessanieves6424]

I love that ! Thx for sharing

[@paigesp0803]

I appreciate you speaking on this when the world is going in the opposite direction 🤍

[@paigesp0803]

Also created to be his helpmeet was the best book to read for my marriage!!

[@Ilovejesus96]

Agree! I loved this book :) read it like a year ago & kinda want to get the book to keep just to watch over it. Also, “The proper care and feeding of husbands” was really good!

[@JessicaMainous]

Man, this content is so refreshing in the world that we’re living in right now 😅 Thank you, Hayleyyyyy!! 🙏🏼 SO good and so needed (for me!) 🙌🏼

[@ashleyestrada2983]

I just loved this video. I definitely have noticed a change in my household when I changed my attitude and stopped nagging. We as mothers need to model the behavior we'd like to see in our family. keep up the great videos 🙏

[@dana2854]

Finally someone who can speak out on this and do it confidently, thank you!!!

[@ashtonpatton7014]

I loved this video! I actually got 5 minutes into it and I was already so inspired that I got up and took my phone downstairs with me to watch the video while I cleaned up the kitchen (that I knew I was leaving a mess for morning me to clean up!) and I’m so glad I did that. I love that you fully admit that these things are not your natural inclination and that you can tend towards procrastination because that is definitely me. I’m working slowly but surely towards better habits so that my family and household as a whole can be happy and healthy ☺️ Your content since you’ve started doing exactly what you want to do with it has been so life giving, please keep it going!! Thank you 🙌🏻

[@MadelieneVanMarter]

This video was extremely helpful and done perfectly! Would you do a video on your everyday routine? Maybe more on your 30min increment schedule?

[@americandreamrevival]

I'm glad it was helpful! Yes I can totally do that, thank you for the suggestion!!

[@brittanymiller4687]

Yes a daily routine of you living out this routine would be so helpful!!! Hayley, I absolutely LOVED this video!!! It is exactly the journey I’ve been on that has felt lonely bc you’re right-it’s rare when you find other women on the same mission and mindset. Thank you ❤️

[@hailieestrada2120]

Getting so much value out of your content! Love these suggestions! And yes, along with some of the other followers, I would love to see more about the 30 minute scheduling and how you implement your daily systems. Thank you so much!

[@kirstenhess9074]

Girl! This is just what I needed. Thank you for being bold and not being afraid to share these helpful tips. Our culture is in great need of this right now. Praying God continues to bless your family! Dying to know where your dress/top is from?! And highly requesting a part 2. ❤️

[@Pocketlint143]

I love every second of this video. YES! I needed this! I love watching the woman you have become, been watching your videos since before your first was born. I’m a stay at home mom of three who homeschools as well! Out of all the videos you’ve made, your newer videos are by far my favorite. Keep being your authentic self ❤ God Bless!

[@TheHuxHouse]

This was incredibly encouraging. As a SAHM of three, I’m at the point of depletion! Thank you so much for making this video! ❤️

[@rebeccalavanture9741]

Thank you so much for reading all those books and giving your top things you learned. To glean that knowledge off of all your hard work reading is something I really appreciate!! I do not have the time or patience to read 50 books!!!’

[@katieweicht4719]

One of my favorite videos you’ve created!! I’d love to see your daily schedule with the 30 minute increments too! Would you ever show your homeschool routine? My daughter is a year younger than your oldest and starting preschool homeschool this year. ❤️

[@americandreamrevival]

in my latest video and thank you!

[@Es24688]

My mom was a SAHM mom / working mom (never a career woman, but several different jobs over the years). My sister and I went to school. She was one of those who did the cleaning, errands, organization, etc. when we were out of the house and figured if we ever had questions about how to do housework beyond the basics, that we would ask. My FIL and MIL ran a business, plus he pastored for a few years, plus my MIL alternated between homeschooling and Christian school for my husband and his 8 siblings. My husband spent a good deal of his childhood with his grandma taking care of her, so his growing up which pretty much an “all hands on deck - just get it done” type of deal. Fast forward, and my husband and I married while I was in college. He works at the family business his father started, and I work there part time plus we homeschool. I say all this to point out that probably very few millennials on down grew up in the “typical” home life, and due to the moms working dynamic, a lot of us were never truly apprenticed in the art of homemaking. That’s why many women yearn to learn domestic skills but feel so out of their element with it.

[@Es24688]

So speaking to your first point about mindset - both my husband and I grew up in Christian families and were at church every time the doors were opened. However, that doesn’t mean biblical homemaking was ever a topic of discussion. In fact, college and careers and not marrying “too young” instead came up quite a bit. I was pushed towards college, so there’s almost a guilt that comes with me not having a career while my sister instead works full time at a job she’s had for about a decade. There’s guilt that I’m letting my family down by not being a very good homemaker because I’m still learning so much. There’s also embarrassment that I never learned so many things or mastered any of it before having children. There is also overwhelm that I’m trying to break the cycle in my family and be a very hands on, homeschooling mother who is training my children (especially my girls) to be more knowledgeable and capable than I was about so many things. It’s also overwhelming to not have an older lady as a mentor because I don’t personally know any ladies who were homemakers or homeschoolers. Everyone in my parents’ generation worked it seems like, so no one is able to teach the young ladies, young wives, and young mothers.

[@Aztecbeauty]

Your happiness glows up your face I am so happy I ran into your video this is stuff I worked on spiritualy and am still trying incorporate alot of these tips ... im a mom of 3 under 3 and I'm blessed to take care of my children while my husband provides!

[@MSTiPPYx3]

Thank you for your honesty even if you get hate! You’re a brave one.

[@MeggieMc0123]

I’ve been loving your videos about being a happy mama and wife! Please share more! You’re such an inspiration!

[@nickischroeder6048]

Thank you for this!!! So refreshing and much needed in todays society. Thank you for being bold and sharing this.

[@amandaf.7693]

I'll be honest, I wasn't sure if I would l be able to relate to this video. I'm a mom of 2 and I work in an office. This video is actually exactly what I needed to hear. I have been having a hard time with ppa and I felt like I was struggling with just keeping up. Thank you for sharing this. And, it's actually nice to hear that your belief in God is helping with your journey, you don't hear it much these days. Thank you Hayley

[@americandreamrevival]

I'm glad you got value!!

[@Midnightlibrary584]

I used to watch your videos when I was pregnant with my first, when u were pregnant with Annabelle! I loved watching you then and I’m so happy to start watching you again because I also have 3 kids close in age and wish to homeschool. I’m getting so much value from your new content, so thank you! Id love for you to go over the 30 min schedule you spoke about in another video and also how being pregnant and having another baby soon affects your homeschooling. Tia❤

[@sarahm340]

I looooove your content lately. This video is so good girl 🥰💖💖

[@americandreamrevival]

Thank you Sarah!!!

[@brimarie8ayala845]

I didn’t know I needed this kind of video until i watched . Im becoming a stay at home mom next month for the first time, wich is a major blessing but I can relate to your video 100%. I’ve never not worked and I really enjoy working so this new role will be an adjustment but I’m so grateful you made this video to give me some really good insight. Thank you! Keep it up

[@RohiniRae]

You’re gonna be great! I was in this exact place once and it took me *years* to finally realize that work was not what was fulfilling me anymore and that raising my babies was what was most important. It felt uncomfortable at first and I kept wanting to go back to work but eventually it all fell j to place and now I never want to go back! I am so happy that home with my family! Especially in today’s climate of the world 💜 good luck 😊

[@brimarie8ayala845]

@@RohiniRae Thanks so much for the encouragement. I think if I have the right perspective when it comes to the role I’ll definitely thrive . After all ,to be able to not have to work, but stay home and really invest in your kids and home is a blessing.

[@charlottesometimes4]

This is one of my favorite videos you've ever done! ❤️ And I've been following you since 2017!

[@AnnaWillemstein]

Thank you very, very much for this video and this type of content. It is helping me. We have a 4 and 2 year old and I’m about to give birth to my next one any day! I’ve been struggling with patience and attitude but I want to be an awesome wife and mom and this video is so helpful for me. Thank you!

[@ambergill2441]

So good!! Thank you for going against the grain and sharing your story!! 💞

[@Leticia_Irene]

Hi, I’m a new subscriber! I’m glad I found your channel as I’m preparing to transition to homeschooling next year God willing. I wish I could give this video many likes. Thanks a lot! I needed it to hear this 🙏🏾

[@kaylanorris8334]

I’ve read 2 out of the ones you’ve listed. The Power of Motherhood and created to be his helpmeet. Those books are AMAZING!!!! Currently going through The Power of Motherhood and it is transforming. Another one I would recommend is “M Is for Mama: A Rebellion Against Mediocre Motherhood”

[@americandreamrevival]

Oh thank you I'll check that one out!! I love to hear what others recommend :)

[@angelahurst1]

I just read m is for Mama's book too and looooved it!

[@nctb23]

I third this! M is for Mama is the best motherhood book I’ve ever read!

[@KDawnn]

I listened to this while I cleaned and it was so refreshing and EVERYTHING I needed to hear as a housewife!👏🏻😍💕

[@kimsaxby2474]

Impressed, your explanation of a mother is just perfect, you say you done things to make things easier for yourself, and if I’m honest, you clearly have good values, but let’s face it, we do what we can! Are we neglecting our kids to give our children the best life??

[@elisabethizzy77]

You are so honest and talk about the hard stuff ! I love it so much. Please never cease that! Also where do you find your feminine dresses and clothes ? It’s such a struggle these days I swear !

[@divinelov3777]

I love this! Im trying my best to become a better housewife and mother. Trying to homeschool my kids and keep the house in order while saving money! Takeout food has been a norm since my third was born (she’s 2 months old). So now I’m trying to get back into the groove of things.

[@brookegraham3823]

This was amazing! I have almost all the book in my cart ready to order! Thank you for speaking against the norm and being vocal about a true biblical housewife!

[@gabbyherrera7]

I loved your video. It was very helpful. Thank you

[@jbm602920]

I love your videos. I’ve been struggling in motherhood and you’re so motivating.

[@juliacarter1280]

The Bible literally says if you spare the rod you spoil the child. It also says a child's heart is bound up in foolishness but the rod of correction will put it far from them. Of course all discipline needs to be balanced and I definitely leave the one up to my husband.

[@khunt84]

This is one of my favorite videos of yours. Thank you for your hard work and openness.

[@janellemargot4376]

I love to hear more about systems you implement

[@americandreamrevival]

Ok yes, thank you!

[@amasasouthard7712]

I seriously loved this video. So many good points to help us be the best moms we can be.

[@alycat9186]

YOU ARE A GEM!!! This was such an AMAZING VIDEO!!!! I keep following you bc you are AUTHENTIC and TRANSPARENT!!! I don’t need “filtered” information, tell me what it’s REALLY LIKE!! 😂 We started our mom journey around the same time, but you’re a little ahead of me, so I find what you’re learning so much to be my own experience as well!!! THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR EXPERIENCE AND WISDOM THAT YOU ARE LEARNING ALONG THE WAY!! ❤️ SUPER HELPFUL TIPS!! Oh yeah! And I also follow you bc you’re hilarious!!! 😂

[@zeazen-achildofgod1073]

Proverbs 13:24- He who withholds his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him diligently. The Scripture does condone child abuse, but it does recommend disciplining your children. Thanks for this video, so informative and helpful.

[@sarahs.4995]

You have absolutely changed and I feel like you’ve matured so much! I remember those days of mom negativity or seeing your children as a burden. Woah! It’s amazing to see this shift in your life!!! Many mom and women need this!

[@twiggy4ya]

I appreciate you speaking on the biblical aspect of home making !

[@erinlovescoffee]

I LOVE “CREATED TO BE HIS HELP MEET”!!!! This video was awesome!

[@Ourjourneytohealth]

I really appreciate you making this video and it was done perfectly. I am a new subbed and I'm loving your videos. This video is helping me keep up with my home since my husband and I are also running a business. I feel the same way you felt when you had a pile of laundry. I'm working on a system that can help me keep up with my home and also our business.

[@leah090187]

I am so proud of you Hayley! You are doing an amazing job! ❤️

[@americandreamrevival]

Thank you so much!!

[@ladybugmom10]

I haven’t watched one of your videos in a very long time, but absolutely loved this one. I remember reading large family logistics years ago. It’s a wonderful book with lots of great advice.

[@Grecia.R]

Thanks a million for these types of videos. Devoted and joyful wives and mothers are making a comeback and its beautiful to see. An even more controversial book about same subject is Ask Your Husband by Stephanie Gordon. It's absolutely blunt and challenging but in a good way.

[@jessygingles30]

Hayley this was great!! Thank you!

[@americandreamrevival]

Thank you so much for watching!

[@MamaJeanMontessoriMusic]

Thanks for sharing what you realized and the book recommendations!

[@shannonhowell8687]

Great video! Seriously so full of rich advice. Did you find any of these books at the library by chance? The large family logistics and happy housewife are so $$$ on Amazon.

[@blessed2bcurly818]

This is SO spot on!!

[@janefarrer2868]

You are an amazing homemaker! Blessings 🙏💞

[@hayleyjg9500]

thank you for your relatable content! anyone have any tips on making schedule fluid so if unexpected things happen we can still stick on time to the schedule

[@ReelinChillinFamilyCrew]

I love this so much.

[@kayleebilger]

Definitely needed to hear this! We have our third on the way and I often wonder how I'm going to manage. I'm trying to get into a good routine before baby gets here.

[@krisleigh2017]

I watch this once a month to remind myself how I strive to be😂

[@kierahein3319]

Very encouraging and helpful video!! Love the 30min schedule idea. Could you share what yours looks like on a typical day with the kids?

[@americandreamrevival]

yes! will do a video on this!

[@krystinhall9950]

Loved this!! Thank you!!!

[@americandreamrevival]

Thank you Krystin!

[@Nikki-ks6wi]

Girl you always post on time!

[@Miriam.hdz.youtube]

I guess I can see how the head 👩🏻 of the home does set the tone.

[@mandypayasa338]

Where do you get your dresses from? They are so cute!

[@Heysaywhatnow]

This is such a good video, thanks Hayley!!

[@raquelgreen4450]

This was so encouraging! Thank you.

[@edencaouette3881]

LOVE Created to be His Helpmeet! Chew the meet, spit out the bones.👏

[@balancedessence2099]

Love all the book recommendations! So helpful!

[@themontezlife845]

This was encouraging! ♥️ thank you!

[@carolv437]

EVERYTHING you have said I am experiencing!!! Everything . I am taking this advice to a t. I just have 2 kids I homeschool and caretaker for my mom who has Alzheimer’s. And I feel like I’m going crazy…but Thank you thank you.

[@sakurarat]

Ok.. but with the first one please be healthy with that one, I have been struggling with always putting others above myself for all my life and it has caused various mental health issues. Just remember that your feelings still matter and feel free to express any concerns with your family

[@ThisMamasHouse]

I just love you so much Hayley 💞

[@brianagleason6433]

Love this! And yes, please do a marriage video!

[@torilawson4229]

Love this so much!

[@AhmawanBaYahawahWaYahawashi]

This video is extremely helpful and i love this content 💕👍🏻

[@godsgirl7201]

Y'all really work good as a team

[@LizzyTwifehomemaker]

Just a quick plug here, I LOVE Created to be HIs Helpmeet! It's a great book and has only ever blessed me and my family. To the person reading my comment who wants to yell at me for saying this, if you don't like everything in the book, then spit out the bones, but give it a shot. She's got a lot of wisdom to share!

[@Cameronlereen]

Thank you for speaking about this!! ✝️ your heart as a mother and wife is so inspiring and such a breath of fresh air in this world today. God bless! 💕

[@countryway1970]

I seriously love this!

[@denisereadstarot]

Not a wife or a mom but for some reason I found all you said fascinating lol

[@kaylee4857]

Very helpful information in this video!

[@godsgirl7201]

& give yourself grace& Mercy❤️

[@rebeccafrancois7267]

I was looking forward to this upload Thank you

[@hilaryruiz5770]

Hi! Can’t wait to watch!! :)

[@americandreamrevival]

Thank you so much!

[@olson5567]

What book would you recommend that talks about the victim mentality??

[@yadiraizarraras9323]

Love all of these tips! 💗

[@TrulyJeebs]

Sooo good!! Super helpful, thx

[@Jasmine-py7rs]

Loved this! I feel like we would be best friends in real life haha

[@Mel-ix9rl]

Thank you so much!!!

[@hhholmes714]

Oof...The fitness part🙈I was doing well and fell off when having my son. Thanks for speaking on these things👍🏼

[@krisleigh2017]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻Love all of this

[@MadisonLoethen]

loved this!

[@Ilovejesus96]

My motto is treat the book like a hotdog! Eat the meat and throw away the bun! My pastor taught me that one. I really liked created to be his helpmeet. 🤗

[@gaudiumrome]

I don't know if you happened to read it but you might like the book Ask Your Husband by Stephanie Gordon (Mrs. Timothy Gordon)

[@kiarose5038]

I loved this video!! Where is your dress from!?

[@nataliehoward697]

Love this!

[@getreadysetgrowwithrefilwe4165]

Awesome video❤

[@Semapho0ore]

Love your content.

[@cindylake2823]

This is sooo good🥰❤️🥰

[@godsgirl7201]

Really good tips

[@Rmezzi2]

I always love your outfits, could you tell us where your outfits are from if possible in future videos?

[@aqqibabs]

When you said controversial book I already knew what it was going to be 😂 not gonna lie, I absolutely hate that book and I am a very Conservative Christian housewife but to each their own!

[@americandreamrevival]

Haha yes not every book is for every person I totally get that! Thanks so much for watching too!

[@Youre_a_peach]

Yes to all of this ✝️❤️👏🏼