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[@NatalieFisher]

So are you good or bad at asking stupid questions? Let me know!

[@theultimatereductionist7592]

I would love to get all the people who say or think: "You can't get a job because you're too old & there's all this age-ism in capitalism, in industry" together with all the motivational speakers who proclaim: "just do it, don't think about what others think" together & force them to come to a universal agreement on whether age-ism is scientifically objectively provably real or not.

[@shahbhavin7334]

I am bad at asking questions😥

[@ToniInSussex]

I loathe bad teachers/trainers at work; the ones who get exasperated when I've got more questions. I don't think I'd put up with it at my age.

[@dophira]

hi Natalie i love ur youtube Channel. I just started work after a long period of time,and this time round my team mates are much younger than me. I'm bad at asking qns im afraid it will make me looks stupid😕but i do want this job and they just want me to take initiative and doing it on my own. what should i do,i just dont want to give up halfway through my job as a new comer 😕

[@iamrakeshjena]

Bad

[@onecoolcat2478]

I love it when managers say " there's no dumb question" - such a patton answer - then in the next sentence they complain you don't get it

[@rachel12127]

So trueeeee

[@airamsg3467]

yeah

[@observer698]

it is very true, the questions you ask show your intelligence, if they are simple and not well thought then you are in trouble.

[@whomadethis616]

@@observer698some of us are just dumb man let us ask questions 😂

[@loulinaz3770]

Exactly! Double standard

[@Frissdas1207]

After 11 years in IT, the thing that works best for me is to say "just to clarify, xyz is what you're wanting, correct? If not, I need you to explain it a different way." I've never had someone get upset at that.

[@ubiquitous9105]

Thank you for the tip!

[@lovelillysingh1230]

That’s a nice tip! Thanks

[@Forthright131]

I agree wholeheartedly. I summarize and paraphrase my understandings to give opportunities for clarification and corrections during those moments. Great advice!! So grateful to read everyone’s comments and be reminded of these valuable tips.

[@vijaymalhotra1733]

No wayyy. I asked my manger similarly last time , he asked me back : are you saying it or asking it? I said: i just wanted clarity. He was then: so you dont know this (still). I said: no i know it, i am just asking.. He: see again say properly Me: ok i got it, ya i know. thank you Mind voice: hell fuckkkk

[@tekarthobbyist9598]

​@@vijaymalhotra1733 😢 this is so me.. it's easier to ask my colleagues to clarify but my boss has no patience, in the 1st times I used to ask and I used to get feedback with a side of trauma.. now it's almost a gag reflex that I don't ask, I just say I have understood

[@wellsfamilylife3623]

I have worked in many places where people purposely withhold information, not only to make you look dumb but to make them look like they are the MVP and the greatest asset in the team. Toxic and almost bullying, like you said - don't stay where these kinds of behaviours occur!

[@NatalieFisher]

Agreed, value yourself enough to know you choose to leave a place like that and can 100% find a place where you are treated the way you treat yourself and others. No one who values themselves stays in a place like that.

[@diana5253]

This is my current situation. Unfortunately, I'm 5 months in to this new job after working in a different department for 8yrs. I love the company so I'm trying to reach the 1yr mark so that I can transfer out of here. So hard though!!! Some days these people just make me wanna quit on the spot but I keep reminding myself this company has been good to me to keep calm. One day at a time.

[@wellsfamilylife3623]

@@diana5253 Thats a really good goal to have. Just make sure you look after your mental wellbeing in the process, it helps to know you've decided not to stay forever! Good luck 🤞🏽

[@jessicas3070]

@@diana5253 Best of luck! My situation resonates with yours however, I am starting the job hunt because I would also like to try and reach the 1 year goal but believe this also isn't valuable when it comes to time...you already have 8 years in a good company so might be worth job hunting and from this case ask your potential new manager MANY QUESTIONS

[@diana5253]

@@jessicas3070 You are right. I had a talking to today by my boss because I am apparently asking the wrong person for help. Excuse me for going to the only nice person in the group that is willing to train me without a hidden agenda. I was told that I need to reach out to my boss (rude, condescending, impatient micro-manager) or to a coworker who is very passive-aggressive, selective of what info he shares with you. Not sure I can manage to tolerate more in the next 6 months.

[@meowwmoeww5441]

UPDATE: I made a comment on this video 2 years ago. I can't believe I made it! I'm still working at the same workplace, and guess what, I got a raise two times. So, hang in there and do your best. Prayer always works.

[@manaetakpodekon8748]

Congratulations !

[@NatalieFisher]

WOW that's so great!! I'm so glad you posted too and it's incredible to see your progress!

[@spacecy]

I've always felt dumb and incompetent and it gets much worse if i am under pressure. I think i need to see a therapist again.

[@NatalieFisher]

You're not dumb at all

[@shenali4717]

Sigh same

[@Angelofloveandhappiness]

Same here!!!!

[@scholasticandegwa7403]

L

[@samkelomdunyelwa7137]

Same

[@maletitep4435]

I use to think that my coworkers are going to get tired of me cause I feel like I ask them a lot of things. Every time a new challenge comes and I have to ask how to do something cause I have no idea, I get anxious and scare. They have always been nice to me, but I can't avoid the feeling. You're video has make me feel better, now I understand asking for help is not as bad as I thought.

[@NatalieFisher]

It's all in the way you think about yourself and then from how you feel and in the WAY you ask for help

[@mau345]

Thats fine, its important to ask and ask and to be honest, in the first place, your company should have trainings for their employees that capacitate them in the first place, but of course there are intricacies not in the manual.

[@itssteven4184]

At least they are being nice at you. My coworkers seems annoyed every time I asked them a lot of questions. Some of them even made fun of me. ☹️

[@sirsagery1200]

Same exact thing I go through at my job, this video indeed has helped out a lot.

[@learnenglishwithhanane2819]

This is my case .... My whole life I'm feeling like this .. to the point I can do nothing in my life ... I really suffer from that.. now I get an opportunity to work in a travelling company and i' afraid to work with a team

[@datafuturelab_ssb4433]

This is most serious problem at workplace and most common... Nobody talks about this... Thank you for great tips....

[@joycet5992]

I always feel dumb when I don't understand something that's been explained to me more than once. I just suffer in silence and become panicky because I don't know what I'm doing. I went through the same thing in math class! I never understood what was taught and would have to wait till I got home to relearn it for myself in order to do my homework. Thank you for this!

[@nischalparajuli9853]

I feel exactly the same ☺️😊😓

[@michaelmemory6938]

Fascinating how this "not asking questions" habit can start early on in life, and people can still suffer this self-doubt in adulthood. Thanks for the reassuring content, Natalie!

[@alyreadsbooks7560]

I started my first job 3 days ago, and I’m really having a hard time. I don’t normally learn things the first time around. Normally, I ask them a few stupid questions, but not too many because I don’t want to bother them. Thank you though for bringing this logic into it.

[@yesicamen699]

Same here. No one learn the first time. I am really smart and do everithing ok. But when I start a new job I always asked stupid question. But that it's ok. It's their problem if their don't understand other human being. I ask them any ways. I need to finish my job. So I ask them many things and if they tell me figure it out on your own. I don't move until they tell me. Because sometimes the questions are really easy to answer and they can tell you easily and save your time.

[@sebastionjunior4125]

Today is my fourth day and i have not been given anything to work and im playing mobile legends game all day man what the fuck is this normal

[@alyreadsbooks7560]

@@sebastionjunior4125 hahaha that actually kinda happened to me at my first internship (I don’t even really count it as a real job). I just didn’t care too much cause it was unpaid 😂 I guess it’s more common than I thought lol

[@coviloku7104]

Thank heavens, I'm not alone.

[@faryalanjum2518]

Yoo don’t worry about it, i am 4 years into my career and still feel stupid the first couple of months in a new job. It’s just the learning pains. New people, new collaborative process, different communication. Also don’t worry about asking for help majority of the people like helping cuz it feels nice to be able to mentor someone even if it’s for something small.

[@RuthieGiggles]

I overthink everything I do and when I get home from work. I was stressed about work related stuff glad I came across this video. I’m glad I’m not the only one who struggles. I forgot to overlook a document and now I’m so stressed and didn’t initial off and now I’m scared of getting in trouble for not signing off a document.. that is dated for a certain day.. the anxiety !!!

[@susux7332]

Same here. It’s really tough to deal with the stress. Even when I’m home, I’m thinking about it. I wish I could just let it go!

[@zacharymaneja1207]

I sometimes get stuck on things like this. It's nice to see I'm not alone

[@itssteven4184]

@@zacharymaneja1207 me too!!

[@yasmin-jm8qj]

I’m on the same boat rn 😂😭

[@muritalaadebanke4962]

I did battle some health challenges made me find it to relate with people and affecting my out pout Always in a state of no confidence at work making me do mistake even while doing what I know best and also making mistake while I speak English

[@fklr-369]

If I had you as a teacher when I was a child I would have been a long ways ahead of the game. Thank you for the positive message.

[@NatalieFisher]

What a nice thing to say!

[@tammymadiou8240]

I am a Registered Nurse whose last job closed after having worked there for 11 years. Although I found a new position, I was surprised at how stupid I felt in my new environment. Your video is very helpful- Thank you.

[@NatalieFisher]

You have a thought in your brain that creates the feeling of stupid, like "I should have known that" For example, Then you feel stupid when you think and believe that. Anyone who thinks that would feel stupid too, not just you. You are not stupid you are just a human having a thought and you chose to accept it was true which created the feeling of stupid. It's optional to think what you want. Choose wisely ! Choose to focus on all the reasons you are 100% capable, which is a long list as well! Glad You found the video helpful!

[@darcycooke2110]

This is the perfect message for me. I am at a new position and my trainer is extremely fast and she will say things like, "I have told you this before" or "we talked about this." So I was feeling mad at myself. Your message has helped me so much. In my 90 day review it was really awesome. So thank you. Also I will continue to ask questions even if they are the SAME questions over and over again. I will try the flattery comments and I am sure it will work because she is very narcissistic.

[@Digitalworldfly]

can i ask you a question how do you feel about recording them video when they answer that way you play it back and watch it but i wonder how would they feel about that or take a picture? what are your opinions on this?

[@Studyhelp01]

Darcy, i feel as if we work at the same place XD

[@jocelyngokul728]

I have told you this before that's what they like to say to make u feel inferior

[@leslieinadress]

Yes! Having this happen too! I told you this before. Well my job didn’t come with SOP. I’m trying to take notes but then there isn’t time to go back through them.

[@Forthright131]

Hi get the same responses from trainers/Managers too. I have started snipping/ screenshooting applications we use to complete tasks while being trained. I tell trainers before we begin that I will be capturing our training to not miss a detail. I’ll downplay my initiative with flattery saying I want to make sure I’m not missing all of their expertise nor misusing their time. I find this buys me time to take the notes I need enough where I can fill in the gaps and reduce my dependency on them. I also keep a list of tasks I was trained on with dates and names so if I am told I was trained on something, I can verify. I’ve noticed some of the trainers can be unintentionally forgetful so this helps me as well as them to make sure we are on track with what I need to know.

[@sharedsecrets1806]

😢 Thank you so much for this video. I started a new job and literally did the exact thing you are speaking about “labeled myself dumb ahead of time because I didn’t get it”

[@dorothywinter5844]

Great video. I don't and won't call myself dumb but I do get frustrated with trainers who are good at their job but hopeless at training. I always take notes which absolutely help me. No good trainer will think it's a stupid way to learn. I have learnt when I've trained people that everyone is different and everyone is only as good as hiw they have been trained. So everyone reading this, I believe you can do anything when you put your mind at rest and just know you are amazing 👏

[@Forthright131]

Exactly. Some trainers have the knowledge but don’t know how to universalize their communication or explain things in various ways. We as learners are only as good as our ability to ask questions and take ownership for our learning. We must remember where there is will, there is a way even if it’s not the same way of the teacher. Always find a way.

[@thekindredstoil]

I actually had a trainer, amazing at her job, gave me a company notepad and company pen, told me since I'm new make note of important details, later tasks etc. but when I actually tried to do that she said, "Can't u just do that in ur head?".

[@believeinnature8930]

Dorothy Winter. I have to understand that not because a teacher, trainer, instructor or boss know their subject or job it means they know how to teach or deliver knowledge!

[@keerthanacv539]

I found all that you said, so relatable! And going through the comments section is comforting...coz I realised I'm not alone😅 Much needed positive push...thanks a lot Natalie😀😀

[@NatalieFisher]

You got it!

[@sougataghosh4101]

Hey I am with you at the same platform.

[@trishakwatra9288]

This video is a gem. I left my old job for the same reason. I lost confidence while learning a new project, my brain froze and stopped accepting new info. I took long yrs gap and am back to a new job. And I realise I am beginning to do the same mistake. So, I wanted to overcome this, and I found this video. And I must say, I m gonna implement it asap!! Thank you so much for such great content!!🙌🙌

[@amycurtis7954]

This comment section feels like a big hug

[@tommyflockman7329]

I still struggle with this every day at my job and in life in general. I'm afraid of asking to explain things again because of social anxiety and looking stupid. Also i'm a visual learner so if i can't imagine or visualise something it can be hard for me to wrap my head around. Everything just has to happen so fast and information gets exchanged so fast and you're just kinda expected to be able to pick up on it right away. I just don't function that way. When i get any piece of information my brain needs time to go trough that very thoroughly. And i can't just write down or record everything all the time. In life you have to be able to think and respond fast and be quik on your feet. But i'm the total oposite. That's why i'm better at writting i think because i can write it over and over again until i have perfected what i wanted to articulate... It's just very exhausting to have to go trough life like that tbh. I feel like a lot of people think that i'm dumb a lot of times And then i'm agh if only i could explain how my brain works but then i'm like Oh wel they don't care and they can't relate , and it 'd probbly be even weirder if you all of a sudden start ranting about stuff like that to justify your lack capability so then i just don't and let them think i'm stupid anyway :)

[@TheTwins-ik5ji]

I wake up with anxiety every morning about going to work and being afraid of doing something stupid.

[@airamsg3467]

@@TheTwins-ik5ji I feel the same way

[@PolarBear-rc4ks]

@@TheTwins-ik5ji quit that job, and find something that isn't like that

[@pieceofpie5402]

i’m literally the same as you, and i’m actually shocked to see someone else going through the exact same thing as me! All this time I thought I was the only one… But, is there anything that has helped you out, or made things easier for you? please let me know

[@Adamjack99]

I love you,we are the same i thought im the only one earth like this.😫

[@FiveisGrace]

This thread is very relatable. I have been in my current role for 5 months. Been with the company for over 4 years. When I asked for help. And didn't get it. I'd hear "We went over this already." Or make passive aggressive remarks. Makes me nervous to asked questions.

[@gangberry1317]

I just wanna thank you for saving my life. That I don’t understand when someone explains to me the first time and I am too afraid to ask again just kills me everday at work

[@ganbatte1260]

How is it now? People already mocking me since i didnt understand what theyre saying. And my boss gave me a super hard project which i know 0% about it :(

[@rintaroy]

I'm feeling relaxed right now, few minutes ago I had a conversation with my senior colleague. Whenever I get new tasks I always call him and discuss how to do it!, even though it's completely my work. He is very kind and patient to explain everything. Sometimes I ask step by step solution for my task even I have 3 yrs of experience, while asking the same I always feel dumb and think my coworker may be thought that how I landed at this career! Who hired her and so on😬😬😬 your video helps me to think in another perspective. Thank you. I'm not dumb anymore I'm just curious to learn 😉

[@Kudos2Ewe]

I’ve always been super insecure about my inability to do math in my head and hearing you say that it’s hard for you too made me feel so much better. ❤

[@NatalieFisher]

lol and I have no shame around it whatsoever. No need! I'm glad that helped

[@itssteven4184]

I know it's been 2 years already. But seriously thanks for making this video. I'm struggling to understand a lot of thing in my new work. I'm so happy that I found your video. Thank you!!!

[@REALkristinnefertiti]

I watched this video this morning b/c I was having an anxiety attack. This video literally helped me through the day. Thanks.

[@NatalieFisher]

I am so glad to hear that. You would also love the podcast there's a lot more helpful content there podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/get-a-6-figure-job-you-love/id1522315419

[@Forthright131]

Keep reminding yourself that you are capable. This way you will feel empowered to ask the questions you need to complete your tasks reducing the negative sentiments about yourself. Your not alone in those feelings. Feeling capable and productive is empowering and fueling. When we experience the opposite, we can become self doubting. What results from self doubting thoughts is the erosion of your self confidence and esteem. You need self confidence and esteem to do the job period. You are capable and confident. The company would have not hired you if they didn’t believe this too.

[@mariannep9202]

​@@Forthright131I love that there are people like you on the internet

[@kiwikiwi2]

Thank you for this. I'm new as a health worker and I've realized it's a very unpredictable job, you never know what situations are gonna come up. I often feel dumb because I don't know how to deal with certain situations and have to ask coworkers for help constantly. This video made me feel better about asking questions. I just have to learn, gain confidence in my abilities and get more experience.

[@ganbatte1260]

How is it now? I feel this now :(

[@viditsaxena1557]

I really needed this. This usually happens at a job that pays you more than what you actually deserve. The expectations of the management are high

[@chrisSea1346]

Thank you for this. I work at a a company with a bunch of smart, sharp people. I feel like I’m the dimwit at times. But I remind myself that I’m here to learn and grow. I outgrew my last role and that’s why I moved up to this one. One day I’ll outgrow this role too.

[@brightestmoments101]

Not gonna lie, this has calmed my anxiety

[@transcendinglife3515]

Just stumbled upon this video here in YT, and I must say it's a gem. Everything you said is so relatable as I am that person who worries so much whether I am asking the right questions or too many questions. Thank you Natalie! 😊

[@teelowonnahoe2924]

I started my job a few weeks ago and everyone there is super advanced and stuff. I get so nervous !! Your video helped a lot, I understand what your saying but I’m sooo nervous I have to go in in 2 hours!!

[@ganbatte1260]

How is it now? I feel this now? I work in a manufacturing company. I just work for 1 month. And my boss alreaxy gave me a super sxary project which i understand only 1% about it :(

[@Forthright131]

I love your feedback. It’s so important to hear this. Especially when you’re working with coworkers that are intentionally uncooperative to assist or clarify what they want done. I hate making assumptions and having conflicting instructions. So grateful I stumbled onto this video.

[@mickeyway326]

I get yelled at constantly just for asking questions. Most jobs around me expect you to get it the first time and if you make mistakes and don’t learn from them that you aren’t adequate for any job. That is what starts that self doubt but even through all the hard work and questions the result becomes practice makes perfect. If I run over something constantly I will get it but me failing those first couple times is nesseswry

[@taylorduvernay9789]

I googled this video today because after the meeting I had with my boss who is a bully I felt so stupid and dumb 😡

[@NatalieFisher]

I hope the video showed you that you can decide that you're not dumb or stupid. Your boss's words are just words, you can decide to disagree with him or her and it would serve you best to disagree :D

[@yoongis.tangerine]

i feel the same. i hate my job lol

[@elim243]

This is their style. They have this in thei description job to make the employees to feel thhis way. Same happens to me, and same to other colleagues.

[@karagraham9764]

I didn’t think I was dumb but instead disagreed with a lot of management methods

[@taylorduvernay9789]

@@karagraham9764 she was a bully.

[@yrraljaime]

My first two days in the operations has been chaotic and I absolutely felt dumb and awkward. What you said really helped to put things in perspective and made me realize how awesome I am. Thank you.

[@NatalieFisher]

That's a great comment ! I'm so glad to hear your take-away from the video !

[@ayushisahu4341]

can we please appreciate her? like how awesome and underrated she is-

[@NatalieFisher]

AWE! Thank you! I will be reading this comment section every time I need a hug! I beleive that all of you here are also awesome and under-rated and I want to help you be seen for the geniuses you really are!

[@daeorte2392]

I totally get what you’re doing here and yes, if we think we’re stupid so will everyone else, so ask questions and get your understanding!

[@dramaqueen5889]

I am at a position where I have to explain and delegate tasks to multiple teammates. I always make sure that I am going slowly.. I am pausing in between to make sure people are getting it. At times people tell me that I am going too slow and that they have understood it. 😁 But I like to make sure everyone understands what is the task and they are not at a place where they have to go to other people to ask about the same stuff I explained to them 😂🤣. Most smart people are upfront that they didn't understand when they don't and ask a lot of questions and ask to repeat multiple times.

[@cjay2658]

I feel so much better after hearing this video because I've always thought I was stupid unfortunately.

[@Noun613]

Nathalie, I just started a new job as a receptionist in long term care, and boy there is a lot to learn! And when I ask questions, I keep getting the use your common sense, and I try to ask questions because I don’t want to make mistakes.

[@NatalieFisher]

Common sense is really someone's opinion, and people can have many different opinions on what "common sense" is. The key is to have your own back here no matter what.

[@supasaunders7390]

Natalie, just discovered you and subscribed. Really appreciate your candor, openness to share your vulnerabilities, and genuine passion to help others- all rare but valuable and respectable character attributes! You are helping more people than you will ever know. ☺️

[@sierratrammell110]

Thank you very much for creating this video! I have experienced feeling stupid when not understanding some information the first time, especially when someone is speaking very fast. I have learned to not let other people's opinions define me and it is okay to ask as many questions as possible until I fully understand what I need to understand. I find that many people who act irritated when they have to explain things again to people, are poor communicators. Instead of working on improving their communication skills, they find it easier to degrade the person on the receiving end. You are also correct when you said that people have strengths and weaknesses and because a person may make a mistake, does not mean that should be labeled as stupid. There is a huge difference between being stupid and being ignorant. If someone makes an innocent mistake, they are simply ignorant and they lack knowledge in a particular area. Everyone to a certain extent is ignorant when comes to certain things. Ignorance does not equal stupidity. If someone makes an innocent mistake or says something wrong, they are ignorant in that subject area, which is okay because have the opportunity to learn from their mistake. Once that person learns from their mistake and they continue to do the same stuff that the now know is wrong, then their behavior becomes stupid. Either way, we are all human and we all make mistakes. What defines us is not our mistakes, but how you grow from our mistakes.

[@NatalieFisher]

Great Comments Sierra, some very good realizations and insights here!

[@sierratrammell110]

Natalie Fisher Thank you!

[@holliedeffenbaugh6566]

So very well said and all these things stated in your comment, are what I had to tell myself and basically retrain my brain to know and believe in order to not be a nervous freaking wreck at work day in and day out. It was debilitating, the anxiety and stress I'd put myself through, in hindsight, was and is absolutely ridiculous. So unnecessary and probably took years off my life because of it LOL (kidding...sort of) I heard once, yeas ago and it struck a cord..."A closed mouth doesn't get fed".. if you don't open your mouth and ask the necessary questions...how the heck will you know how to do certain aspects of your job or how to complete an assignment? You CAN'T and you WON'T...Not without asking the questions you need to ask... and those are different for everyone. If someone is getting annoyed with the amount of questions you're asking...That's THEIR problem... NOT YOURS but I also know it's hard not to take it personally. I've learned to pity and feel bad, if you will, for those folks, because life doesn't change or adhere to different ways because it suits a certain person... So if they're so annoyed at being asked questions pertaining to the exact subject they're speaking on, then they're in for some real hurdles and obstacles in life. Nobody is so out of this world amazing at explaining anything or picking something up the very first time they see it done or have it explained to them... That the person they're talking to won't have at least a few questions...thats incredibly unrealistic and extremely narcissistic (if they do) yes I understand there's a RARE Few that pick something up along in life after they've watched it domonstrated ONCE or had it briefly explained to them...again, that's unrealistic and even then they'll go over it in their heads or even practice, if they can. I used to beat myself up so bad and I'd obsess sometimes for weeks, even months when I had someone get snappy when I'd ask (in their opinion) too many questions...I'm an intelligent individual and I know that... I know how to do so many things pertaining to anything and everything you can imagine, because I've asked questions, sometimes TONS and sometimes not quite a ton BUT I'll ask as many as is necessary for me to understand what I need to know, if that's what it takes... I did eventually start taking notes and I'll say I'm a HUGE note taker and take notes on everything, anything I need throughout the day... Recording on my phone is my go to now, but I've never outgrown the need to ask questions when learning something new and neither will anyone else. "A closed mouth never gets fed"

[@hitomireiki7298]

This actually helps because I feel dumb today for making a dumb mistake at work

[@maddiemartinez1524]

I don't comment on videos frequently but I must say this video is giving me so much clarity and debunking everything of what I thought was true about me. There has been so much anxiety that I've developed through the working experience that I've felt "dumb" or felt like I was "problem-driven" on the number of questions I've asked my employers or have felt they were frustrated with me because I needed more information so that I may perform my work. It was always hard to describe my concerns with friends because they didn't understand how upset this made me feel. But I thank you for providing this quality-content video because it's relieving a lot of my anxiety.

[@NatalieFisher]

Thank you so much for commenting I am very glad that it has helped you. ❤️❤️❤️

[@NatalieFisher]

Madeline, this is a podcast episode that I think will also relieve more of your anxiety podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/interview-superpower-that-everyone-has-but-they-dont/id1522315419?i=1000497758922

[@birb5306]

This works great if you have a boss or colleagues who will explain something more than once. What should I do if I just get told “you should figure it out on your own?”

[@NatalieFisher]

I would apply all of the methods step by step that I outlined in this video to ask for more clarity.

[@yesicamen699]

Same thing is happening to me. They tell me figure it out on your own. It's too hat because I had just two weeks working there and It was my first job as an accountant. So, everithing has been really hard for me 😢

[@srn_2268]

Thank you for this video!! I come back to it regularly.

[@amvasoft]

I literally cried, while watching this video. It was totally relatable. I actually have gone through the exactly same thing. Thank you so much for the encouragement and saving me through this. Lots of love from India!

[@minhazulislam9131]

Asking questions (dumb or intellectual) is the best way to tackle this problem. Thank you so much.

[@NatalieFisher]

Simple & profound comment.

[@kearacanney92]

I know this is an older video but I’m so glad I found this. I love the way you repeat key sentences and reminders and use it in a motivational way that is both informative and direct. Thank you!!

[@yogitagauda4586]

Thank you so much. As a fresher I was struggling a lot and was blaming myself for so. Your video has given me strength and made me understand 💪😭 Thank you so much. My prayers are with you 💗🙏🏻

[@NatalieFisher]

YES to strength, that is a POWERFUL emotion!

[@moeshilleh7665]

Thanks for this. I have just recently started a job as a new grad at a big company and I feel like asking questions is really hard for me. I definitely feel stupid a lot and it definitely shuts me down for a little bit. What I really liked was the fact you said what defines “smart”. Made me really rethink the word. I really thought the word means the ability to process information at a fast pace but that can only get you so far. You need to be “smart” in a lot of other things to be a successful employee in any industry. I wish they taught things like this in school haha. Thanks again really helped 😊

[@NatalieFisher]

Great I'm so glad! YES I am so glad you took that from this video such an important game-changing takeaway!

[@4everOcean]

Best video. Thank you, this came up my feed right on time. Yesterday, my manager wasn't and I couldn't find a transaction for a client . My manager came in today and she showed me and found it right away and said look it's right here (like what's wrong with you) I said oh okay I missed that thanks for showing me. My manager is very quick and knows "it all" . I've been there 2 years. So thank you for this I feel a lot better now.

[@NatalieFisher]

You got it!! Way to not give the manager control over how you feel anymore. That's so empowering what you did you rock and should be extremely proud of that shift!

[@4everOcean]

@@NatalieFisher Thank you so much

[@lonimimeseko]

This video is really relieving me of some of the anxious thoughts I’ve been getting after starting a new job. I always feel dumb for asking my coworker questions because the thought of being irritating or perceived as incompetent is scary to me. But in the end, you’re right. I am responsible for my learning and it is up to me to grasp the information I’m given to do my job effectively even if it means asking multiple questions to master a task. Thank you so much for making this video

[@RockeiraForEver14]

thank you for this video, I'm starting my new job tomorrow and I'm new to the whole thing - it's my first role as a data analyst after uni - and I'm struggling with my anxiety, mostly due to the fear of appearing dumb to my more experienced co-workers. this video was really helpful, I will try to apply your advice. Thanks for telling us we are not dumb for not understanding something the first time

[@thaoanh512]

Omg I thought I’m the only person felt that way .. thanks so much for the vid

[@NatalieFisher]

as you can see from the comments you're not alone

[@phillippaspears]

Thank you I made a stupid mistake at work today and have been kicking myself all day over it. I really needed to hear this today! I feel so much better ❤

[@NatalieFisher]

How human of you!

[@bigbadbillb]

When you're being trained by someone for a new job and they become visibly impatient with you, you have to stand up for yourself and remind them that you're still new and learning things, yet don't be apologetic about it. After all, that person was a "newbie" once.

[@SuperPrabhdeepsingh]

I'm a fresher, starting a new job and feel like I'm just not good enough for such a job. I just feel very anxious to do stuff.

[@kingpuppet5881]

Thank you so much for this. I was a really good and profeicient critical care nurse for 11 years. I started a nurse management job 8 months ago. It is the polar opposite off what I did. It is an office based job. Never did anything like it before. I have so much expected of me as its infection control. So many things to learn. I often feel dumb and stupid because I am not learning at the speed they want me to learn at! I am working so hard and I am picking up as much as I can. I can only learn one thing at a time. I often come home from work now feeling low. My self esteem and confidence has plummeted. Your tips really helped. much respect.

[@alphaAURA9000]

Great way of explaining this, many think being perfect at your job right away is mandatory, but what's mandatory is getting better at your job, and perfection doesn't need improvement, and therefore is not looked for and impossible to find in a healthy, realistic workplace, great video Natalie! Thank you

[@yuh6977]

Thank you so much for this video, it popped into my recommendations right on time. I was having an anxiety attack about not being able to understand the tasks I need to do at work. This video calmed me down so much

[@NatalieFisher]

I'm so glad it helped you !

[@kaleyhobbs]

I so needed to hear this today! Thank you for the pep talk.

[@ashleyash8653]

Thank you soooooooo much for making this video. I've been working as an HR in a hospital for the last 2 months and I'm not familiar with paperwork and documents, so sometimes I forget some tasks 😅, and also forget that I've never seen these documents so I need to be chill, because everything is new to me. In short, I must say, your words helped me a lot to regain my confidence. Our society is like that. The Managers think they have high posts so they can treat everyone the way they want. Anyway, thank you for letting me know how fight for myself. God blesses you.

[@desireebragg4576]

Nothing wrong with probing for more information or clarification. No question is a stupid question. Thanks for your great content!

[@Nati_G]

Thank you💕I'm learning to ask questions even if it seems dumb or too simple. I asked this kind of question just now and information i got turned out to be very important to know. So asking questions guarantees the success at work 😊

[@boldandcourageous4176]

Natalie this video is more valuable than you could ever know!!! I have a job that has so many steps to complete one task they didn't train us well and upper management admits this. They say our training is poor and they are currently working on updating the training tools. Until then I'm constantly learning on the job and having to reach out at least twice to three times a day with questions I'm constantly reading wikis constantly reading articles just to complete my work it leaves me feeling dumb and super stressed. My team captain reminds me that there's a billion things to learn but I hate going to work everyday feeling inadequate.

[@Forthright131]

Keep reminding yourself that your team is already aware of the problems in your departments operations and training and are working to provide a better operating framework. This way you will feel empowered to ask the questions you need to complete your tasks reducing the negative sentiments about yourself. Your not alone in those feelings. Feeling capable and productive is empowering and fueling. When we experience the opposite, we can become self doubting. What results from self doubting thoughts is the erosion of your self confidence and esteem. You need self confidence and esteem to do the job period. You are capable and confident. The company would have not hired you if they didn’t believe this too.

[@streetadventures]

@@Forthright131 Thanks Maxine well said and a beautiful sentiment.

[@ghostpeppered4524]

Summarized notes: 1. When you feel bad for not understanding the first time, I want you to flip it around, and put it back on that other person. Let go of the negative feeling. Embrace a sense of entitlement: you are entitled to questions until you are blue in the face. Challenge them. It doesn't matter who or how good they think they are. They could be an excellent soldier, but a terrible parent and teacher. That's not your fault. This happens most of the time actually. Engineers good at talking to systems, not people. Again, that's not your fault. You must expect this outcome. Be prepared for it. It requires patience from both sides. Everyone is feeling Imposter Syndrome. The more transparent you can be, the more effortlessly we can solve the problem. Nobody is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone. If you aren't making mistakes, you're not trying. But not everyone REPEATS their mistakes. Mistakes serve as learning opportunities. I could lecture you for hours, but at the end of the day, we learn 100x more from our mistakes. Nobody learns to ride the bicycle the first time. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing. Since they're asking you to help them, it's in their best interest to invest the time required so that you CAN be successful. But if you allow them to leave without your understanding, NOW it becomes your fault. NOW you're fated; it's a self-fulling prophecy--you WILL look dumb when you show up to deliver empty-handed, and if you don't try anything new to change your approach, you'll keep on delivering a bad experience consistently, NOW your team WILL think of you as unworthy--BUT ONLY BECAUSE YOU THOUGHT IT FIRST. 2. Use technology to augment your learning speed. For example, I love to record everything. You could use a tape recorder, or ask them to write it down, or present it to you in a different format. 3. Use flattery. "I can see you understand this really well, but as a new person I am struggling. Can you rephrase slowly?"

[@NatalieFisher]

Thank you for these very thorough notes! I know they will be very useful to others . Thank you for adding Value in this way.

[@reshmapriya6192]

Thanks a lot. This meant so much supportive and encouraging me.❤

[@dawnettsPOV]

I just started a new job and I was really feeling insecure because of everything I don't know yet. Also it seems to me I have a coworker making much of the fact that someone may have to explain to me more than once. Your video helped greatly. Thank you!

[@ganbatte1260]

How is it now? I feel it now :(

[@sanaatouzani3085]

Natalie you’re the best! Please continue with this type of work.

[@reacher8042]

Lady, YOU ARE A GODSEND. Thank you so much. I really needed this. Now I feel pumped up and that I can do it

[@janicefernandes7925]

Thanks Nat. I feel much better now. I am not dumb. I can do this.

[@Satsui_No_Hado]

Just want to say I've been in a new role for about 8 months in a financial institution and having never worked as a banker before I have not felt overly confident or competent The majority of the training however was zoom-based and to be fair that is not my learning style I like hands-on and repetition so I just went through that training learned very little and every victory I've won has been hard fought, that being said though this was a great video incredibly helpful thank you for saying what needs to be said You're right if someone used to have something explained to them 50 to 100 times that doesn't make them dumb it just means that's their learning style because once you get it and you've got it you don't need to be explained it anymore then you become one of those competent people and when a new person comes along then you get to help them out and help them through the challenges of being new, great content and now I'm subscribed 👊🔥

[@NatalieFisher]

Totally and you understanding this concept makes YOU a great trainer and a great leader and mentor to help others get results around you which makes you able to provide more value ! Great take-aways

[@Satsui_No_Hado]

@@NatalieFisher hey thank you for taking the time to respond and for the kind words as well That's very good to know for the future and also just watching your video made it a lot better and more palatable as well. I wish you continued success and also will continue to watch and comment on your content , thank you again ! 👊🔥

[@brahmacharicelibacy]

Thank you so much mam. My heart is filled with gratitude towards you ❤.

[@NatalieFisher]

AWE thank you!

[@Jesusisthetruth2]

Thank you so much for this! Its just what I needed to hear this morning ! I have just applied for my dream job and I'm worrying already even though I haven't even got confirmation of an interview yet! 😆 And I don't mind asking questions but I do not like it if somebody makes you feel dumb for asking! People like that are really not useful ! 😒😒

[@juliebegin8851]

Thank you for your information that helped me alot. My second week at my new job will be much better now that i listened to your video 😁

[@poornaayuvaraj1712]

It was much much needed!! Thankyou soo muchhh Natalie and the people in the comment section too for letting me know im not alone in this!!!!

[@mayasajadifar4552]

This was really helpful! Thanks I am generally really bad at asking questions… I always think that answers must be somewhere out there and I can find them myself. In most cases, answers are out there, but the amount of time and energy I could save if I would have asked an expert is simply tremendous!

[@ahmedhal6685]

From the bottom of my heart I really want to thank you, I wish you robust health. You are just amazing. Respect!

[@thiriaye1675]

Thank you so much for this video....this is what i am facing these days on my new job. They want me to figure it out on my own. Now, i know that i need to ask questions till i get what i want! Thank u for ur tips❤

[@NatalieFisher]

You got it!

[@bhushanbansode2492]

I was looking for this sort of video for long time and I am happy now that I have found this video . ❤

[@Neshie22]

This is exactly how I feel! I have put off watchig this video for a few weeks and watched at a perfect time when I had just received feedback from my boss. Thank you very much!

[@NatalieFisher]

I'm so glad!

[@johnmarks714]

What did he say exactly?

[@yoongis.tangerine]

i currently have a boss who makes you feel rlly stupid everytime you ask a question, and its been rlly eating away my motivation. now i have anxiety everytime i have a task that i don't know how to do

[@seandaleporlares1474]

I stumbled upon your video because today is my first day of my new job and to tell you honestly I was having a difficulty to comprehend the explanation of my seniors. Thanks for your encouraging video 😊

[@ganbatte1260]

How is it now? I feel this right now :(

[@sydney1622]

Ugh I wish I could be your friend lol. This video and your kind positive energy has helped me so much with the anxiety I was having. I’m going in for a job interview tomorrow for a receptionist/optometric assistant position. I’ve worked in a restaurant the past two year since getting laid off beginning of Covid from my previous job in an office environment. I’m so nervous that I’ll be too dumb to understand how to do anything. Thinking I’m ‘dumb’ has held me back so much from getting myself out there. Thank you so much. You really are a gen

[@sydney1622]

Gem*

[@lilibethtemario9402]

Thanks Natalie. This can help a lot for someone like me who thinks that I am not as good as others.

[@samiulhauqe4334]

Thank you for this. Really needed somone to explain to me that I'm not stupid. I just don't know enough like they do. Tysm.

[@julesrules78]

I love you! I needed this video! I work at a very stressful job, I'm new and still learning. We have someone that corrects our transactions and what bugs me is we can get everything right, we can do 99 things right, but if I forget to add a period (.) somewhere then we automatically get a 0 for it, not 99% or 95% but 0%. So the way they mark things is you either get 100% or 0, there is no in between. After 2 weeks of getting marked 0 all the time, I became very stressed, and yes I felt stupid but I was also very angry and upset, then I started to cry! I never cry. This job has destroyed my self esteem and makes me miserable. My boyfriend said if they make me cry then they win, don't let it get to you. He is right. And you are right. I know I'm not dumb! I'm just in the wrong job that's all, I have to find a better suited job for me. 😊 Thank you again for making this video! You are so awesome!

[@NatalieFisher]

That's a horrible way to mark someone! SO Demotivating. I agree find a job that supports you and points out what you are doing right! Not what you're doing wrong. I'm glad you realized this.

[@JessicaTorres-ht2zb]

Love your explanation & empathy!

[@anuradhakulkarni7390]

Hi I have joined back lo work in software development after 13 years of gap. I do come across the situations you have talked about. Your video has been very helpful to learn things in better way and contribute my best at work.

[@NatalieFisher]

I'm so happy to help!

[@rulya8894]

you dont know how much this means to me, thank you so much ❤

[@NatalieFisher]

You're welcome 😊 I'm SO Glad it was useful, I LIVE for these comments!

[@akeem1221]

You are exactly talking about me. Just started a new place of work and i dont dare talk, ask, i avoid the boss, i simply feel inferior against my workmates.. Monday mornings are the worst days. Daily i go to work with pain in my stomach. 3months now. No I ain't gonna give up.

[@jenniferouten9560]

I have been at my job for years and I feel that I have to always be on my A-game. This was very helpful! Thanks for sharing 😊

[@robinalexander3032]

As a teacher, these strategies give me many positive talking points to use with students.

[@mariamabdulrahman237]

I feel comfortable when I saw you video and read some of comments below. As I just started a new job and I am struggle.

[@sentiasatransformasi]

wow im so glad i found this video. i also feel dumb n stupid at work n my boss straight up told me that i wasn't asking enough questions n not taking enough initiative to try to understand the things that i should be understanding. thanks a lot i really needed this

[@NatalieFisher]

You got it ❤❤❤❤

[@chilliconn071]

Just what I wanted to hear as I'm starting a new job/position tomorrow and my anxiety is off the scale right now. Will certainly give your website a visit at the earliest opportunity. Thankyou so much.

[@parisryan2012]

Thank you so much this video help me so much I have been feeling so dumb at work I’m around people who use big words and i like when someone explains in a simple way ... also so many ppl ask me to do things all the time I’m always running around I do write things down but I panic that I won’t complete a task or that I will make a mistake

[@queen7123]

My boss told me I seemed confused and meetings I admit this is my 1st big high level job and i’m used to working in environments where the culture is laid back…my boss didn’t like how i may jokingly act confused which was a mistake on my end. There is so much information that sometimes i’m trying to understand everything … she stated she doesn’t like to repeat herself. biggest take away is to record and not believe i’m dumb even before i take on a task. Thank you.