How to Change Tone of Voice

[@alexanderlyon]

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[@saritakamel2497]

I have a problem with my voice It is high.. Always under criticism Sometimes it is annoying to other.. I want change him 😢

[@brandonjimenez902]

Communication Coach Alex Lyon any tips on if your told your tone sound like if I’m on coke you don’t know how Frustrating this is especially since I just started a new job and everyone perceives me already asked this I would appreciate if you got any tips

[@siddhantnaik7232]

It's great to listen you sir but if we have to contact you ,what we should do can you give us your email id or anything something? It might helpful for your followers , they goona share your problems with you.

[@MadolAjakMadol]

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[@PracticalInspiration]

Love how you link tone and mindset together, that's incredibly true and valuable

[@alexanderlyon]

Oh, thanks. It's an important conversation to have and it connects to so much of our growth and maturity.

[@freethinker3083]

Wow! I wasn’t expecting this when I clicked on this. This was great. I sound just like my mother and I hate it. Because she always spoke in a negative, judgmental, Debbie downer type of way. I’ve picked up poor social skills and it makes it hard for people to understand where I am coming from. I’ve been since trying to consciously be aware of how I’m talking or expressing my feelings to people without coming off “fake”. Thank you.

[@alexanderlyon]

I'm glad the video was helpful. Good luck with it!

[@rhrhdrhrehehh9006]

Same here!

[@jayanthr8762]

Same here

[@angelthealchemist22]

Omg I thought I was the only one who struggled with this

[@freethinker3083]

@@angelthealchemist22 You are not alone!

[@Olesia_Kurilo]

I am trying to sound warm and gentle, people think that I am sick or tired ))) LOL

[@alexandraade576]

same hahaha

[@jackievang1906]

Lol tell me about it I got a deep voice which sound like I tired too 😭

[@dhatchayanim]

For me ppl think I'm arrogant and rude 😭 no where it's working and only hatred

[@Blessedibe86]

😂

[@Cocoginger100]

😁😁😁

[@isidoreaerys8745]

I have gotten into the habit of saying everything with a subtle insinuation of irony so much so that I have unintentionally offended people while trying to complement them. It’s not a problem when someone knows me and learns I’m a generally kind caring person. But with insecure strangers it can cause conflicts to erupt out of nowhere.

[@geaninasee4553]

I’ve been struggling to change my tone of voice, but watching your video makes me believe it’s still possible to change my tone of voice. This was such great self help video! I’ll do my best to follow your 3 steps. Really glad I stumbled upon this.

[@alexanderlyon]

Great. I hope it helps.

[@crzygrl8849]

I'm trying to do the same!! 🙏🙏

[@lgdasilva5989]

I work in sales and my coworkers have told me that I sound like I’m a cold/mean person. Sometimes I’ll sound sad/depressed, but the truth is I’m actually a really nice guy and I’m very positive. Thank you for this content 🙏, it helped me with my tone, I sound more confident, my words are strong and I sound like an expert.

[@KomotsukiDZoro]

I used to have the same problem too! When I was younger I came across as tooooo intense, even though I was just trying to be normal. I resolved the issue by consciously speaking softer, and I've never received that critique since. The solution is always conscious actions : )

[@kelsmy]

It’s a conscious choice. Tone can be either a reflection of your true emotions or a projection of a vision and mission. I’m a bilingual speaker. Tone varies depending if you speak your own mother tongue or secondary language, for work or social, under pressure/urgent situation etc. Tone carries your attitude. Be mindful especially now we work from home and engage more virtually.

[@tejaswishetkar4775]

Thanks to your videos I just realized that why others have issues with my tone. Whenever I am in a conflict my tone becomes authoritative and sound angry and rude to others. I didn't understand why it was happening when clearly it was not my intention. But now I realised it comes from fear and need to protect myself so no one can overpower me. Thank you so much. I will try to be mindful and try to think before speaking the way I speak.😊

[@alexanderlyon]

Thank you for sharing your experience. Others will benefit from reading your post.

[@j.r.nvision-imagination77]

I can relate with you on this. Thanks for sharing

[@angeliquew69]

Hi I just read your comment and honestly that's exactly how I come across to people and it's not my intentions to come across aggressive or anything and I just thought to myself maybe there's a program or something that can help change the tone of a person's voice and so I found this video well my question to you and I know this was 3 years ago that you posted this but hopefully you'll see this were you able to make progress and change like the way your tone came out I don't know how I'm trying to ask this question but basically were you able to get good results

[@crzygrl8849]

I'm the same way, came here seeking advice!! Any tips or tricks you've learned along the way?

[@AngelekaL]

I have some mental issues and often I hear that I sound like a robot or flat, and I am so thankful I found your channel! This will help me so much!

[@YourFeminineFrequency]

This is interesting. I am generally anxious and excited and my voice is high and unsteady. I know my breath will help I need to take my meditation presence into social situations. This isn’t going to be easy but it’s time. Thanks 🙏🏽

[@alexanderlyon]

Sounds like you have a direction to go in now. It's not easy. You're right about that. It's darn hard, in fact. But, over time, we can make improvements.

[@SaxandRelax]

LMAO i thought “everyone around me is stupid” “the world is stupid”

[@alexanderlyon]

Revealing! Thanks for sharing, Sax and Relax.

[@morethanjustpretty]

😭 Glad I’m not alone... Explains why my tone is such 🤣🤣 This is an awesome video

[@whatsgoingon6256]

I think the same (most people are stupid),... but my tone is respectful to people I value Anything less is EMOTIONAL ABUSE

[@IdontWatchIsee]

Omg, now i realize why some people have that arrogant tone i hate :)

[@morgantownkiosk]

The people around me are ignorant the world is full of lies. The truth is out there it is something you must seek. I really need this video because now that I know this I have to change the way I feel about it.

[@NocturneSoul]

This is so true and useful. I've been noticing over the years that my tone comes from my mindset, and I've been trying to be conscious of attitudes and habits that I carry with me in orden to try to change the way I talk. This video is so true.

[@millerlaguna2360]

This topic has been formulated with great mindset and great habit. More power to you Coach Alex

[@alexanderlyon]

Thanks, Paul. Glad it was helpful.

[@halavathbhadru8807]

Thank you so much sir I consider what is my fault and why am I not speaking English correctly and Now I check what is going on in my mind thank you so much for your videos ❤

[@sheenap214]

This was a whole life coaching session in the framework of tone and communication. Lol. Laughing, but I'm serious! God bless you!

[@alexanderlyon]

Glad you enjoyed it, Sheena. I would say that you are not wrong. Most tutorials I've seen treat tone a bit superficially but there are some deeper things going on that drive it all.

[@layfusiv4045]

The Problem here in this video is "Self-awareness". And that's my problem. Im just not aware of what i actually doing while people around me aware of it. - My emotion: when im not angry but my face looks like im angry. sometimes people say why im smiling when i dont really smile. - My voice: sometimes i raise my voice in the middle of conversation without knowing it myself. These things become somewhat i cannot control. what a shame!

[@alexanderlyon]

Self awareness is the key. I hope you are able to reflect on what exactly is going on in your mindset in those moments. It might be just a slight change in how you feel that is leading to those nonverbals you describe.

[@bctanzer]

I think this was the video I was looking for. You really honed in on what my problem is. My view of the world around me is impacting my otherwise happy and fulfilling life and marriage.

[@alexanderlyon]

I'm so glad you found it to be helpful. I hope your efforts pay off.

[@languagenextlevel6075]

I love your channel! I'm a neurolanguage coach for English learning and your videos are very helpful to improve my students' communication in a holistic way.

[@alexanderlyon]

Awesome. Pleased to meet you and thanks for the encouragement.

[@የድንግልልጅ-ሠ5ኸ]

Thanks! I'll practice this advice because, I have a big problem with my family specially with my husband & son they always give me a comment but I know if i'm not a good mood & stress out it comes that voice I'll try to fix it.

[@Phoenix-kd1we]

I've been looking for this all my life! Thank you very much!

[@alexanderlyon]

I'm so glad it is helpful for you.

[@sarah-mariebaumgartner6062]

As a parent I needed this video so much! I have a 10yr old with Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder. It causes a super exaggerated fight or flight response to things that most people would not be affected by. For a very long time she would get more and more upset during situations she was in trouble because she felt I was yelling at her. I wasn’t and as she got older she was able to communicate it’s my tone. More specifically it’s my frustrated tone. Before all the haters start in, her brain is wired in a way that won’t change as quickly as I can change my tone. She is neurodiverse in other aspects too. After this video diving deeper, I think it’s also the way I emphasize my sentences. Can’t wait to watch the next video “How to change tone of voice”

[@alexanderlyon]

I'm glad it was helpful, Sarah.

[@Solomon2024]

Although your videos were very informative, I need to bring to your attention a few things you are missing; 1- Tone of voice is basically the result of life experiences. I don't think it's possible to change the tone of voice ( you can if you want to act and not be yourself). 2- Tone of voice formed by our language knowledge, such as terminology and grammar. 3- If the English was your second language then your tone of voice will be totally different from the native speaker ( again, you can change it if you want to gain trust, work opportunity, and personal experience). 4- Every language has its own and primary tone. That also could enforced by cultural influences. Thank you for your video.

[@alexanderlyon]

Good additions, Loveis the Key. Thanks for your point of view.

[@Mo_ahmmedAlam]

Struggling a lot about the way I speak more specifically tone of my voice. 100% of the time I don’t mean to be rude or disrespectful but it’s just my voice people always misunderstood me. Gotta work it. This is really helpful Alex!

[@김천재-c9j]

Thanks a lot for video. I sound like I am angry. Now I understand why. I should not speak when Im angry n frustrated.😵

[@alexanderlyon]

I'm glad the video helped you learn more about yourself.

[@naveenaryal1400]

Wow..!! Lessons for lifetime. And these points are applicable to everything whether you are a leader, speaker, actor, singer. Thanks for this amazing video.

[@noelfisher1829]

No matter when, I must locate the velvety deep relaxed vocal tone I had when I was nine. I founded Geffen Records through my beautiful voice, back then, Dave was in love with my voice. I want it back. And enriching those higher abilities to be non-shrill ever, yet crystalline with the shimmer of bells in the fog!

[@leighredfern9783]

Mind blown ! Thanks so much for this video . I’ve been told numerous times about my tone until now the pieces of the puzzles are connecting . Appreciate your work .

[@alexanderlyon]

Glad it helped.

[@nancewin5693]

Thank you so much for this video Coach Alex. Currently in college what I have realized after many years is that my tone of voice comes off angry and upset all the time. I was super outgoing and friendly but would always find myself being labeled as rude or mean even though I didn’t say things that were such. People would tell me to relax even though I was or would be coming at me when I was just trying to have regular convo. I would be so confused, fell into depression and it’s affected me deeply. I guess what I’m trying to ask is with depression it is very hard to change my mindset, so how can I work more on my tone if my mindset will be changing at a slower pace?

[@alexanderlyon]

Most mental health counseling helps if people stick with it. I obviously am not a medical professional but I have read that depression is not a life-long sentence and therapy works. If I were in your situation, I'd start by talking to a therapist.

[@farwajaved6814]

I am also tired... I become rude when am stressed and I even don't say things that could hurt but my accent is rude unknowingly..what to do

[@MsLOBunnie]

So happy I came across this video. It helped me see I’m on the right track. I looked up the topic as a part of my morning mindfulness practice. It helped me get to the roots of my tone in conversations

[@BBGshop7]

I appreciate the way you explained the things that effect the tone of voice. I had been feeling tense from bad memories. Sensations would just come up anytime something reminds of the past. My heart would start beating fast, and I would feel defensive. Before I know it, my tone has changed; I'm still saying the same words that I would normally say... but the tone carried my message in another direction, and I would be perceived as blunt or harsh sometimes. I think I had gotten so used to texting or writing straightforward messages, and maybe I could be partially speaking how I type as well. I was disappointed in the direction some of my conversations would go because I didn't understand what I said wrong. Edit:TONE truly is key, and I realized that my head has to be in the right place for deeper talks so my tone of voices gives the right message. I am very glad to have a new perspective on the mindset I need to be in to carry on a pleasant conversation. Thank you.

[@alexanderlyon]

I'm so encouraged that the video is helpful for you!

[@johnbartlett2361]

I am constantly told by my wife that I have a certain tone with her. I realize that this is the case and wonder if it is because I am a guilt-driven person and always critical of myself. I wonder if I am projecting my self-critical thoughts onto my wife. I also asked the question, '" My wife is blank." I realize that when she doesn't understand something, how to do something, or hear something that I think she should, I get short. I then ask myself, "Can I be like that?' and the answer is a solid yes. That gives me grace to know that the very thing that I struggle with she does too. Wow! What an insight! Thank you so much for your coaching

[@alexanderlyon]

I'm glad it was helpful, John. Thanks for sharing your experience.

[@sweetee77]

This is an amazing video, Alex. Thank you for sharing. It is essentially taking it back to basics and I myself have noticed how mindset can change projection. Your company and environment will literally define who you are... And thank you for noting that it takes time to implement these changes. This helped me a lot. Keep it up!

[@alexanderlyon]

Glad it was helpful!

[@Morningfame]

Wow, this is deep Alex! So many things that you said made me remember certain situations in my life. For example, I have a friend who takes part in discussions by always asking great questions. Sometimes he even sounds a bit like a psychologist just to give you an idea. I really look up to him in this regards because I am often not calm enough in the inside to hold off my own opinions long enough to have these kinds of conversations as well. After all I really enjoy listening and learning from others this way. :) Cheers, Nico

[@alexanderlyon]

Hi, Nico. Great to see your comment on here. Love your Morningfame tools! Just read your reply email, too. Thank you for your encouragement.

[@Morningfame]

@@alexanderlyon Thanks a lot Alex! Absolutely my pleasure. Your content really intrigued me at first glance so I had to take a closer look. :) Keep up the great work!

[@aoitakumi9081]

I speak softly and people often say I'm very soft spoken. While I was doing practice teaching as an early childhood educator, my mentor mentioned that I have to change my tone by putting energy. I have no idea how to even do that.

[@alexanderlyon]

If I were you, I'd work mostly on speaking a bit more loudly. Usually, an increase in volume will also provide your tone more variety and energy.

[@abdikadiramiin1069]

This gave me a whole new world of how to socialize. Thanks.

[@terrytulipane6916]

How insightful...... but probably emotionally deeper than many individuals want to go to make this change. Not what I was expecting, but exactly what I needed. Thank you!

[@alexanderlyon]

Happy it was helpful, Terry.

[@damirsfist]

I never thought about how we pick up communication habits, the same as trauma. Now that I see it, I cannot unsee it anymore.

[@devilslayer182]

Thanks sir because of you I am helped out I don't know the problem with me but every body told me that you are like this n that I would always be very concerned I thank you from the bottom of my heart may God bless you

[@lotsa2000]

Thank you for this video! I've been told at work by my boss that he doesn't like my communication style through email. Do you have anything that helps with that? I consider myself to be more direct and don't want to obfuscate the important with needles details that may distract. My mother is super, uber direct and even I am uncomfortable with it. Also, this video reminded me of this: And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Keep putting into practice all you learned and received from me-everything you heard from me and saw me doing. Then the God of peace will be with you. Philippians 4:8‭-‬9 NLT Thanks again!

[@alexanderlyon]

Email is easier, I think, because you can edit before you send. I don't have a video on that but I do frequently ask my wife to read important emails for tone to give me feedback so I can revise.

[@blueskies773]

I often read my emails out aloud. Often I will save it as a ‘draft’, leave for 30 minutes or so, then read it again inwardly and out loud. That helps.

[@clfm0711]

I am trying to sound gentle and soften my voice but my friends and classmates told me that i was angry😂

[@rahulsrivastava3234]

Then I guess you should focus on your melody part

[@DWhitney34436]

Same.... And I have resting b**** face so that doesn't help me either 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@msmayfield0735]

Right? I sound like I am speaking in ALL CAPS. 😅

[@Unicorn-up3gn]

@@DWhitney34436 Same! People misunderstood me most of the time

[@adithyanramachandran3936]

Same here.. 😢😢

[@ethnyjane3248]

I like to let coworkers know if I'm struggling with something personal, so they understand it isnt them if my tone slips! ;)

[@alexanderlyon]

Great idea. I've done the same so they know the issue is on my end.

[@石政泰]

I feel like it is more than talking about tone. It talks about you. Tone just delivers you.

[@alexanderlyon]

Well said!

[@ryanreedgibson]

This is a great video! I hope you're still around doing this type of work. After I lost someone, I stayed inside not communicating with anyone for about five years. I finally snapped out of it and am trying to regain my confidence. I do voiceover work now and am trying to get back to where I was about six years ago when I was a public speaker. I never thought it was possible for one to lose their voice and self. I lost both completely. I need them back!

[@alexanderlyon]

Yes, I'm 100% still posting videos. I put out new videos almost every week. I'm glad to hear you're getting your mojo back. I wish you the best with your comeback story.

[@neonblud9595]

I’m definitely a rusher, working on it, and it shows in my tone lol

[@sarahmccollum3694]

I keep being told to sound like 'a person' and I just don't know how to sound like anything other than myself. I specifically searched for your video for this reason. Thanks.

[@samivan9877]

I have a light and calm mindset and it's true my voice is also kinda light but when my mood goes down and my voice gets deeper and indifferent

[@alexanderlyon]

Ah, great insight!

[@evelynsierra2004]

I told my husband all the time you remind me of my brother. Being rude from time to time, in other words he's tone of voice. Jesus I hope I'm not causing it.

[@shethingsd]

Thank you for your instructive videos. I'm a therapist and this is helpful to share with my clients.

[@alexanderlyon]

Hi, Renee. I'm hopeful that the videos will be of some help.

[@shethingsd]

@@alexanderlyon do you have any videos similar to this one about facial expression and body language?

[@mclovin1071]

I love this guy. Where have you been all my life

[@leecorbien7671]

Thank you for your good counsel wherein you have highlighted some of the basic factors that influence verbal expression; especially appreciated how in your video that you literally practiced your own advice.

[@sylvialarrassvoiceleadersh9239]

Thank you for making that insightful connection between the mind and the voice. I am a voice coach in Ottawa and teach this concept to my clients as well. I can see from the comments below that this kind of knowledge is very much needed!

[@alexanderlyon]

Nice to meet you. Thanks for contributing to the discussion.

[@meenalagrawal9864]

I was trying to understand from last few weeks like how to change the tone, and after seeing the video i got my answer. You cannot show off or fake your tone, it has to be from the heart, from the mind, if you change your mindset, tone will automatically change .. So work on mindset and not on tone..

[@alexanderlyon]

Yes. You've got it!

[@shyama5612]

I have found your videos incredibly useful. Please know your work is appreciated and valued. Thank you!

[@josefinthaning770]

Fantastic video! Useful both for understanding myself and others. Thank you, Alex!

[@alexanderlyon]

Glad it was helpful!

[@markinfulleffect4585]

Thanks for the thoughtful insight. Will put it to practice.

[@nancydenver2200]

Thank you for this video. I'm working on rapport building. I'm a super-happy outgoing person, but, I think when I meet new people I get excited and I'm too intense. I'd love to find a video that helps me understand some steps to toning down my enthusiasm. In a culture of over-stressed/over-worked people, I think it might be a turn off.

[@eadiblemanteehee]

Came here wanting to sound less monotone, leaving looking to change my mindset and surroundings. Great vid 👍

[@alexanderlyon]

Awesome, thank you!

[@virtualenvironmentfellowsh6671]

Love this. Very important for anyone wishing to become a journalist.

[@irene1234]

"A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh." Luke 6:45

[@felixlucanus7922]

Thank you for this! I think it is also useful to have someone specific to model yourself on. Any suggestions/examples from our culture, past or present, whose tone of voice is worth striving for?

[@jh5174]

I've been valuing your videos and guidance a great deal. Thank you for providing the skills and inviting the introspection...

[@alexanderlyon]

Glad to help, J H.

[@hajarabdullah5622]

You are my best trainer

[@alexanderlyon]

Thanks, Hajar. I appreciate that. Glad it was ehlpful.

[@mikesmokes5891]

I have an anxiety tone alot of the time and i think i do give that out to alot of people and it makes them anxious

[@gloriakummer5357]

Best explanation ever. I couldn’t figure out why my tone is different. I think I’m a bit too serious and intense, maybe because I run a business and it’s my life. But a person could be feminine still and run a business. I’m too stern with walls up to fight whatever comes my way.

[@paulinegakii7038]

Me too!!!

[@becharamiddleclass921]

Now I understand that the reason behind my deep slow heavy and monotonous voice...because that's how I see the world most of the times... I'm positive only when I'm preaching others but somewhere in my heart i don't follow those preaches myself. And trying to talk to someone like honey just for a particular point of time doesn't impress them... I need to change my overall perspective towards people and the world

[@albertmangubat6541]

Its true! Really works.

[@alexanderlyon]

Awesome! I'm happy it was helpful, Albert.

[@rishbh27]

The best video, deep, love to hear more on this topic., like right tone for any emotion? Some example maybe

[@alexanderlyon]

Great suggestion!

[@jwjjq7735]

Amazing video with eye-opening insights! I realized what I need to change thanks to you

[@alexanderlyon]

I'm glad it was helpful so quickly. I hope it goes well.

[@connectlifehr6366]

This is a great video! You covered a lot of important points in a few, short minutes. You connected a lot of dots and gave people actionable steps forward.

[@alexanderlyon]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@ShineBrightDemi]

This was super helpful man, thank you! God Bless your soul.

[@alexanderlyon]

You're welcome, Raul. God bless you too.

[@imasava3560]

❤❤❤🎉thanks. One of best tips of communications! I just got critisized over my sarcasm by the most sarcastic person I used to grow up with as a kid😅😅😅😂 It's true that we mostly do not realize how we sound like

[@Joealfeo]

Thank you Coach Alex, I really need this. At work my tone seems to come off as irreverent and I have been trying to fix it. I really hope this helps

[@alphamegaradio]

I can't believe I hadn't found THIS one by now, brother. Awesome advice. Real-world application. Very usable. God bless!!

[@alexanderlyon]

Thanks. I appreciate that. And I'm glad it's practical for you.

[@sidclove6788]

Thank you so much for this content. Could you make more videos on this topic, please? I am trying to change my vocal tone while speaking.

[@alexanderlyon]

Hi, Sid. Thank you for your support and I'm glad the videos are helpful. I have no current plans to make more on tone of voice but if I think of more to say, I'll do it.

[@Nkobi22]

Never thought about habits but wow... so true actually!! Thank you so much for affirming that Alex.

[@peitanaden1840]

You have really provided some great insights that are really helpful for more effective and postive communication.

[@souhi1027]

wow bro i really thank to you a lot. when i'm alone or with my friend i always have sweet kind calm tone. they always saying to me you're kind and wise. but when i;m in home or in community my tone is awful! cause i really don't like my family(their tone, how they are unreasonable, all of them are aggressive with no respect and horribly expecting me love them, saying nothing about their bad treats and how they are bad ) or most of the people. and i knew that is the reason of my bad tone. i'm happy you talked about it.

[@OrganizationXIII]

I noticed that Ariana grande and Michael Jackson sometimes sound like they have a deeper voice when watching some of their interviews on KZbin. And in other videos there voices are more high pitched. So I came here to learn why and how they do it.

[@operator5546]

Thanks a lot I never thought that tone can be connected with mindset 🤗🤗

[@MetalArms16212]

Yes a lot of people misunderstand me saying things and think I am mean when I say it. Or when I ask them a question.

[@ElizabetaDante]

I don’t like hearing my sound in the phone audio notes...it’s very alike the sound of the voice of my ex mother, is it possible to change not the mood but the actual sound? 😣

[@alexanderlyon]

Good question but it's not really possible to do that in the short run. You can maybe changes things a little bit over time but our voices are part of our physical development.

[@nellyikuwa1336]

Same bro

[@ninivenava632]

Wow this and the first video have great useful information. I really want to improve my tone of voice as verbal communication is a must when working on the phones. This is the first time I come across your videos, but I really look forward to continue learning from them. I haven't check, but I would like to learn how to work on my accent. English is not my first language and sometimes people remark I have an accent.

[@alexanderlyon]

Glad it was helpful, Ninive.

[@manasakullegowda7669]

Excellent Explanation !!

[@alexanderlyon]

Thank you!

[@Onewayoranother14]

There is a major disconnect between my tone and my mindset. Extreme abuse from childhood to adulthood has caused me to talk like the abusers even when I feel zero negative emotions. When you said it’s like changing an accent I literally said that last night to my spouse. This bothers me greatly that I am not able to articulate a proper tone of what my emotions really are, because it always sounds aggressive and angry.

[@nisebiggs6572]

A person's tone is far more memorable than the words they say.

[@robinlynn898]

Born and raised in Philadelphia,My Philly accent was pretty strong. When I joined the Army, my drill SGTS always called me loud and arrogant. I didnt even realize it. I had a southern gramma who was passive and sweet who always said that I was loud.. Im not an angry person. Why so people always think im angry? I live in Texas now and everyone always asks if im mad... Its so hurtful.

[@cengiz246]

Solution: 4:08 How do I see the world? Most of the people around me are XYZ... Who do you sound like? ( parents maybe). What do the people you grow up with sound like? 6:40 steps

[@persiancatknows4463]

I sound like a clingy dying chicken 😭😭😭 Everyone who hears my voice for the 1st time teases me and eventually laughs at me 😭 I've been trying to change my voice all these years, but it's really hard. It makes me depressed and destroys my self-esteem 😭 All I want is a normal voice, just a regular one 💔 I'm not asking for more 💔 From this day on, October 1, 2021. I will give my very best to follow and do all ur advices. If I will be successful in changing my voice, into a better and more appropriate one. I promise, I will come back on December 31,2021 with a better voice.. Good luck to me 😭

[@alexanderlyon]

I hope it goes well for you. Looking forward to hearing back.

[@joewiiparty4403]

Did.. did It Work?

[@j.r.nvision-imagination77]

You have finally opened the door to my problems. I would so much appreciate if you can share with me someone who can work with me on this. You have just given me a big relief. This is one of the reasons I never liked how I sound when I record myself. I also picked up very bad association with people and I’ve always been asking myself “ what is it that I do that I always push people away. Even my own kids. Please I’m asking you please share with me any other information you might know that I can seek help with this. I’m 56 and I need help with this asap.

[@alexanderlyon]

Thank you for sharing. That takes courage and I applaud you. I can't give really specific advice because I don't know enough, but if it were me, I might talk to a therapist to see if I could get to the root of the issue. As mentioned in the video, a difficult tone is usually just a symptom of the deeper issue that's driving it. These issues are usually hard to get to the bottom of without talking to someone like a therapist who is trained at drilling down a little. I wish you the best and I hope you find the answers you're looking for.

[@ltlt5268]

Thanks for the great videos Alex. Very helpful.

[@sandhyajoy3008]

Really much helpful on how we can fix our communication issues.its not really easy it's very challenging as Weare trying to change our regular habit and what this coach said are the helping aid on how we can change ourselves that's what I see.

[@RoXon007]

Many people say to that when you talk you are like fighting or angry but i say I'm not, I'm just talking. Then a friend mine said to me you have picked this tone from your family,at the time i didnt liked his answer but overtime it makes sense and now you said it also.then how can i remove or change this tone. thank you and God bless you

[@ardent630]

Thanks for the awareness, the first step towards change.

[@alexanderlyon]

Yes, and then be patient with yourself. Changing our tone is a long-term process.

[@angelobronte1452]

I like your content very much. Thanks for the video

[@alexanderlyon]

Thanks, Angelo. I appreciate that. I'm glad the videos are helpful.

[@PrinceJes]

And this advice is free! Wow bless you!

[@alexanderlyon]

Thank you, Massa. Bless you, too!

[@PriyaRajvanshHR]

This is the video exactly I was looking for.

[@islandgirl3330]

I can relate to what you are saying. In order words, one has to do a lot of thinking before speaking. I grew up with a quarrelling aunt. I feel some of it has affected me in the anger department.

[@hossamyasser8651]

Thank you, coach Alexander.

[@barbloft]

Excellent information, thank you! I definitely need to be more mindful of my tone and attitude. I often find myself myself apologizing to people saying, "I didn't mean that the way it sounded..." I know that being more mindful will help dial down my big emotional responses. (Fingers crossed!!)