Expert Marriage Tips You Need to Hear! - How to Choose the Right Person for Marriage?

[@Nemat.akbari]

I married 1 months ago I met the my spouse 1 time and then 3 days later nikah done And we’re still 19 and 20 years old May Allah put barrakah in our marriage and other Muslims also And for one year i used to dua after my payers اللهم ارزقنی جلیسا صالحا O Allah grant me righteous companion

[@OwaisIdreesi-tz1jt]

@@Nemat.akbari Ma sha Allah

[@OwaisIdreesi-tz1jt]

@@Nemat.akbari Smart guy

[@joannabialkowska]

Do you love him or did you fall in love that fast?

[@Shazia-or2vl]

Allahumma Ameen

[@mohammedmiah7554]

@@joannabialkowskalove is something that comes as you know the person, the most important thing is shared values and commitment.

[@mechlion6270]

Best advice: pray two rakats istikhara; and Allah is the best planner (dont forget to do your dua as well ;))

[@jadonmuller1576]

brother i made istikhara and my feelings became negative. are feelings also an indicator of your istikhara?

[@MA-or5wn]

@@jadonmuller1576yes! It could be good/bad feelings or things not going or going well. If your not sure repeat istikhara until your solid about your decision.

[@MA-or5wn]

I recommend praying istikhara for any minor/major decisions to get Allah’s Baraka. If you can’t pray you could just say the prayer orally.

[@ersinemin]

Yes, definitely the direction your heart takes is the right one In sha Allah

[@heenakauser1753]

@@jadonmuller1576yes but stay normal and let the time decide for you. Since you have prayed istekhara Allah will definitely 💯 make the best way possible for you. Either in or out but in any case it will b better for you.

[@nurulsolehah6801]

masyAllah, this is one of the most detailed and comprehensive marriage advice videos i’ve ever found on the internet. i love how syeikh included the daleel from quran and hadith. it’s so enlightening masyAllah

[@OneUmmahh170]

Certainly! Here are the key takeaways from the video: - [<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="0">00:00</a>] 🤔 Understanding oneself is crucial before seeking a spouse. - [<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="217">03:37</a>] 🚫 Marriage doesn't fix pre-existing bad habits. - [<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="435">07:15</a>] 💌 Dating doesn't guarantee a successful marriage. - [<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="680">11:20</a>] 🎯 Look for compatibility rather than perfection in a spouse. - [<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="1065">17:45</a>] 💕 Love is important but not the sole basis for a successful marriage. - [<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="1310">21:50</a>] 🤝 Premarital meetings should prioritize religious commitment and character. - [<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="1510">25:10</a>] 📜 Guidelines for premarital meetings include involving families and avoiding seclusion. - [<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="1745">29:05</a>] 🤔 Quick decisions about potential spouses are often made intuitively. Sure, here are the key takeaways from the chunk of text: - [<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="275">04:35</a>] 🤔 Choose a spouse based on both your heart and circumstances, not just feelings. - [<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="705">11:45</a>] 🙏 Seek family blessings for marriage, unless their criteria are fundamentally incompatible with yours. - [<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="1032">17:12</a>] 🚭 Bad habits don't necessarily change after marriage; careful consideration is needed. - [<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="1610">26:50</a>] 🎨 Getting to know someone before marriage is important, but too much familiarity can diminish attraction. - [<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="1938">32:18</a>] 🍲 Sheikh Yasir Birjah enjoys cooking, specializing in soups and salads at home. - [<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="2365">39:25</a>] 💡 Marriage advice: Focus on love, mercy, and flexibility; accept the journey with its ups and downs.

[@Medicolifeshorts]

Thanks a lot

[@OwaisIdreesi-tz1jt]

Again I was thinking and struggling with marriage consideration. And towards eternity make a video according to my thoughts 😅😅😅

[@sallahudin7544]

Me too ..bro

[@OwaisIdreesi-tz1jt]

@sallahudin7544 Ok let's help each other. Where are you from

[@boblashli7995]

subhanAllah! Here's the same way too🖐🏻 Allah has signs at the perfect of times, everything happens for a reason May Allah SWT guide us & make our way easy Insha'Allah & grant us with who we looking for & beautify them for us in the way he pleased with

[@OwaisIdreesi-tz1jt]

@boblashli7995 Yes dear it is the most important task of person's life. If we get a right partner according to the teachings of Islam then it would be more beneficial than a diamond or gold. May Allah give us Taufeeq to act upon on a right path

[@joannabialkowska]

@@boblashli7995 but how do we know that things happen for a reason and Allah guides us while everything is already kinda written down for us and God knows what we will do?

[@ArifBillahOnGoogle]

First time hearing this shaykh, and I think he knows his stuff. Allahumma Barik.

[@trinitytotawheed]

Beautifully said. JazakAllahu khair for this

[@KJ-zb6xw]

Alhamdulilah for this essential conversation. Jazakum Allahu Khayran Sheikh Yasser and Towards Eternity❤

[@Abdur-rahman-alhamdulillah]

This was a very good Q&A. Mashallah tabarakallah

[@The_reminder-j3h]

Aisha reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, would fast until we said he will never break his fast, and he would not fast until we said he would never fast. I did not see the Prophet complete an entire month of fasting except for Ramadan, and I did not see him complete more voluntary fasts than in the month of Sha’ban. Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 1969 Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi

[@ag135i]

Very useful and practical advice and tips given by the wise gentleman.

[@ryeofoatmeal]

omg engineering student who loves cooking!! 😂 very relatable bcos during my study, when I'm bored or stress, I would just cooking. my roommate even said I always see you in the kitchen, never anywhere else lol

[@Poiusdeen]

Beautifully said ❤ sheikh yasir May ALLAH bless him 🙌 ❤

[@ashachowdhury1780]

Jazakallahu Khairan for this. It was a much-needed lesson for me, particularly. It's like I was looking for something, and Allah knew my heart and presented it to me. May Allah make this channel flourish and bring us educational videos us. Ameen

[@dawah_power]

Islam is a solution to all problems 😊

[@jannahhussain1508]

I found this talk very helpful. May you continue your good work my brother. Ameen.

[@hasby1256]

Barakallahu feek, very interesting video.

[@jxk926]

Please don't get me wrong but I feel intimidated right after I read the thumnails like "what about the imperfect woman looking for the perfect one?" But then I remember "be the best version of you and have faith that Allah is the best planner" 😊

[@nurulsaliah_]

MasyaAllah. Ini sangat bermanfaat. Jazakallah Khayran.

[@juanpAAA2059]

Very good interview!!! Also, I liked the mini animations mashallah!

[@TasmiyaAfrin-b6t]

Best channel❤❤❤. I have learn a lot from here❤❤

[@OwaisIdreesi-tz1jt]

💯 @TasmiyaAfrin 👍-b6t 💯 💯 Agreed 👍💯👍

[@minminoppa4652]

I learned so much, thank you!

[@doukoure3468]

For me i would love to meet a revert, because if she left everything for Allah, that's a good sign. Hope to meet her and support her

[@josezighe8631]

Hey 👋🏾 am a revert but I don’t want to have children of my own

[@doukoure3468]

@josezighe8631 Salamu alykum, JazakAllah sister, wish you all the best in life as revert. I understand that everyone has their own choice, I respect that, for me having children is something deeply important and I want to be honest about that. I wouldn't feel right pretending otherwise. May Allah bless you with happiness and success.

[@josezighe8631]

@ thank you for your honesty. Best wishes. JazakhaAllah khair.

[@doukoure3468]

@@josezighe8631 JazakAllah khayr

[@maj1636]

⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️We really need to start changing our words along with our mentality. Marriage SHOULD include everybody. Not only YOUNG men and women.

[@smilingsue4444]

This.

[@GencSalihi]

The best marriage advise video i have ever seen. May Allah reward you guys for this and may Allah give us righteous companions or better said: may allah place us among the righteous and give us the right companion on our approximate level of everything. Firstly Deen & Akhlaq and seconldly Beauty, education, wealth, life goals etc.

[@chickenbiryani5105]

Thank you very much for this video. It answered all my questions. JazakAllah

[@HuzaifaINTERTENMENT]

Nice to listen to your speech

[@KashanQureshi-e8v]

Marriage become more difficult nowadays

[@PureTawhid1707]

Marriage according to the sunnah is not rlly difficult but its rather people who make it difficult

[@KashanQureshi-e8v]

@PureTawhid1707 I am talking about society makes

[@ibrahimgalal9136]

لقاء جميل شكرا ❤

[@AbuRaihan-i9j]

thanks for Your advice ❤

[@TheCorp8]

Thank you for this video !

[@SitiAisyah-es5ho]

Hope one of her is me 😉🥰🥰☺️May Allah find us the right that we prayed for🙏Ameen ya robal alamin.

[@maryamk.5733]

Thank you very much Sheikh ❤

[@Plantthief-n3p]

Beautiful lecture, Shukran Sheigh. Loved the last insight: When do you know your marriage was beautiful ? Maybe 40 or 50 years later. I'm 55, I've had 3 or 4 friends who lost their spouses. If I look back, all their marriages had upheavals in them. They all said they would choose the same spouse again & would want them as their spouses in Jannah.

[@kubratirgil5836]

Thank you❤❤

[@muhamad14babu]

Alhamudulillah ❤

[@Legacy_of_the_Dawn]

Amazing Podcast

[@saadmohammadjakaria]

Maasha-allah ❤ Alhumdulillah it helps to change my psychology. Tabaraqa-Allah Towards Eternity ❤❤❤

[@afyanamoyo]

MashaAllah TabarkAllah thank you Sheikh for sharing your outstanding wisdom and experience. Some may not have a family member to chaperone initial talks, can also ask a trusted community member & meet at the masjid or another good place as many times as you need inshaAllah.. Agree 100% it's KEY to have a 3rd person present then to protect from shaytan & add barakah from the very start. InshaAllah that helper will get a big reward too.

[@AliRaza-no5mq]

Mashallah best topic I am waiting translate to urdu thank you brother ❤

[@mohame.k5399]

Best advice

[@lailashalaby2298]

Salam aleikum, when it comes to decide if you want a specific person i think that this could help: one night i had a dream where this phrase was told: " when you want to get married, you need to have the intention to be together for the eternity". I think that if we think on the long term, it would be easier to understand if that person is suitable or not.

[@LubnaMasoodlunicorainbow]

Now marriages are very difficult 😢 I am in a rishta group and mothers request for pictures of girls and then reject based on looks. Average looking can’t even get married. They all request for girls of 5’4-5’8 height 😢 I know so many girls who want to get married and have gone into depression because they get rejected based on their looks

[@nafisashaikh3839]

Which country?

[@BlankMind_666]

If they are pious and chaste. Tell them the boy lost her not the other way around if he only saw outer beauty not the inner one

[@LubnaMasoodlunicorainbow]

@@nafisashaikh3839all are Indians but settled in different countries including india.

[@LubnaMasoodlunicorainbow]

@@BlankMind_666obviously, that’s what I say but social media is full of crap where boys are encouraged to choose girls that are beautiful only.

[@tubaqamar3976]

It's been a while. I am at that age to get married. But since the previous 4 years, I compare everyone with this person whom I once met, found most suitable for me. But maybe he did not have the same thoughts about me. I felt stuck all this time since that. Unable to think of anybody else.

[@Rob-Otter]

Nah bro, im not made for this, I will die alone. InShaaAllah saving myself from Jahannam and becoming better and better, day by day. May Allah Azza wa Jal guide all of us!

[@Maya_.._]

Assalamu alikum ❤

[@arynbwr]

Sheikh, you mentioned the emotions and circumstances. If the emotions were there but the circumstances were not should people still get married based on the thought that Allah will provide like in Surah An-Nur? Thank you for your help and guidance

[@BeleniYara-ow2zq]

If can't find a partner you want from your ethnic group, just go look love from other ethnic groups Life is too short don't marry someone you don't love just because he/she is sharing the same culture,language with you etc

[@mohammedmiah7554]

Life is too short to marry for your whims and desires.

[@F35-do7rk]

Appreciated but one thing is missing: how ALLAH’s Apostle (peace be upon him) got married I,e., in most cases He sent someone with the proposal. Or in few cases He directly sent the proposal by Himself (peace be upon Him) )[Ref. Chapter ‘Nikha’ in Nasai].

[@frozankhojazada596]

How about getting married again after two previous marriages failure and your parents don’t want u to get married again, and your really want to be married in order to be protected from fitna and your parents don’t understand that and still wants u to be single bcz two of your marriages failed, what should a person do at this situation?

[@obadaalazrak1037]

Locate the problems that led to those failiures and fix them, be honest with yourself if you have a problem and dont put the blame on others, instead try to fix it

[@other7128]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="1080">18:00</a> - hmm I don't know. I've only met ONE person who I've thought "almost perfect" - the imperfection? *He's not Muslim!* 😂 Maybe I'm misunderstanding, but I feel like the whole "analysis paralysis" does not relate to me - quite the contrary. I have given absolutely awful men (on Muslim matrimony sites) too many chances. I knew they were not a match from the beginning - my gut knew, but they were insistent so I gave them my time and energy. And honestly, I do not feel any desire to get married or have biological children. The problem is people around me keep pressuring me. "It's half your Deen. You must get married and have children" - but I am aromantic, asexual, I have anger management issues, avoidant personality, and I am very lost in life. I do not logically see how marriage is going to fix my issues. I just want Allah to guide me. Marriage (and all the pressures of it) just seems like it'll make things worse! I wish people in my family would understand. Also I should maybe find a Muslima therapist, idk

[@ABDULRHEEM-kr1kr]

Convey message of Islam to all people of the world and to everyone who will come also convey message of Islam to all world leaders.............

[@farahhania1912]

The algorithm masya Allah😊

[@neelamawan6524]

Thank you for this. What about Brother Salman? He says he was oppressed. How come there is no inquiry?

[@yghani1]

What is the name of this learned Sheikh and does he have a web presence? thanks

[@HabeebUnnisa-h8g]

Please dear Muslim friends read this 👇 SubhanAllah 3× Alhamdulillah 3× Lailahaillallah 3× Allah hu akbar 3× Sal-lallahu Ala Muhammad sal-lallahu Alaihi wa sallam 3× Jazak Allah Khair 😊 Allah bless you all 🤲 📌 pin please

[@MR-rk5kv]

Marriage is something difficult to make decision now days. I am married but i am thinking about my sister future, about her marriage life since In my country right of women becaming worsen and worsen.I would her to marry non native muslim.She is 24.Educated. working and has a good ahlaq.But a girls in my country preparing to be maid nor as a good life, sakinah in between spouses.

[@TitiQuiAri]

How If your heart says she is or he is the one, but he or she doesn't choose you😢😢

[@BlankMind_666]

Cope with it and move on. Life is too short for that

[@nazajalal8094]

❤

[@mohammaddoofesh4963]

Musslims at the time of engagement have to agree that the religion should rule their married lives.

[@johntravis7304]

Question: My family is Pakistani. ALL other things equal, if they are against me marrying Muslim from other country like Indonesia/Arabia, how should I approach this situation? salam laykum.

[@isaacshakoor]

"All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a White has no superiority over a Black nor a Black has any superiority over a White except by piety and good action." - muhammad SAW

[@AsmauAbdulNasir]

@@isaacshakoorsure 👍🏽

[@omarbouyafar]

👍👍

[@user-sx9hq7qwert]

We talk to each other too much so we r not satisfied? This is extremely dangerous thinking. It can normalize abuse, whether physical, sexual, verbal, or whatever. By talking to each other, we find out that some things r NOT good or healthy. "Just bc tigers eat meat does NOT mean I have to be dinner." N we need to see the meat-eaters n predators clearly so we can avoid them. Talking to each other is a key part of avoidance: what we don't know can destroy us.

[@fmss6694]

Nowadays ppl are so delusional. No one is perfect, are you perfect? Work on yourself and bring the best version of yourself to the table.

[@yasinoncel]

🇵🇸

[@HoneyKrisp69]

What if I want 4 wives

[@angelosaleh8344]

you're asking the question wrong. The question is: can you support 4 wives? 😂

[@BlankMind_666]

Honestly speaking Are you a billionaire and have 48 hours a day or something? I can't imagine myself having more than 2 if I high ball my capabilities but it'll take a toll if I have kids

[@Geniuschad]

First😂

[@Truthseeker-121]

No such thing as perfect marriage.

[@mozydiaz8296]

what is the connection between video games and bad habits? it's like the shortcuts we took 20 years ago when a bunch of boomers didn't understand what they were seeing, a bunch of boomers who when they were young in the 70s and 80s were also seen as irresponsible and worthless because of the trends of the time, there's nothing wrong with video games as long as you play one to two hours a day and don't spend all your time on them. Also for me the most important thing in marriage is respect.

[@PureTawhid1707]

gaming addictions exist

[@mozydiaz8296]

@@PureTawhid1707 Of course it exists and like all excesses it is bad, excess of food, excess of speed, excess of power, but the image at the beginning of the video just describes the existence of video games as bad by putting it next to that of cigarettes while smoking is 1000x more harmful to health even if you only smoke a quarter of a cigarette a day! It must be said that in our countries we still have this aging mentality that video games are only bad while in other countries it has become a completely normal medium and present in everyone's life. Which is better between a man who is at home in front of his console and with his family or another who hangs around outside and whose gaze does not stop being carried by pretty girls who pass by him.

[@rxspr]

@@mozydiaz8296i personally don’t find the problem with the video game itself but the culture that is built around it. i see these men spending at least 3 hrs a day playing games and they barely spend an hour with the Quran, they know the names of 1000 games but barely know the names of Allah, they cuss and swear while playing the game but don’t use their tongue to spread a good word to other people. All that and the fact that some games create this subconscious unrealistic standard for women’s bodies and normalizing drugs and alchohol. That is the problem. You don’t see this effect for people who are addicted to playing a physical sport or board games.

[@BlankMind_666]

​​@@mozydiaz8296I am a gamer myself. And I know why was it in the video. Becasue most of the time you'll see people getting addicted. Don't give me exceptions. I am talking about most. I have seen women complaining in reddit that their husband play games all day long. Without giving them time.

[@Gurtaj07]

Games are for kids, it show immaturity

[@comsianmz182]

Stop keyboard sound

[@Shinobu2506.]

How to choose the right person? Allah has already written the spouse for us,this is called destiny It’s Allahs job,not ours Unnecessary videos

[@riseyourvibration9669]

I was shocked to learn that Muslims have a real nikah for engagement! They actually get married at the masjid first so they can continue dating in a halal way. Then, if they decide they’re the right match, they go to city hall to make it official. Wow! Anybody here knew about that?

[@seddjel5926]

Not exactly what you are saying, but.. ur close .. yeah

[@pearleunjoo5439]

Guys, why did you invite this man? This is not right. He did so many wrong things to his clients (I won't go into details). May Allah forgive us. There are so many people that you all could invite, yet you choose to bring this man. I'm loosing trust in you.

[@afyanamoyo]

For me, I have only benefitted and seen good from Sh Yasir. May Allah bless him and increase him and his family even further & help us all to deal with any issues in the best of ways Allahummah ameen.

[@pearleunjoo5439]

@afyanamoyo Search "Sh Yasir hypocrisy" & you'll know

[@minminoppa4652]

Well perhaps you should go into details? 😅 You‘re accusing the team saying they invited a bad person, but shouldn‘t you also share the reason? I never saw him before Will all due respect, right now you’re only looking like a hater 😅

[@KM-gi3mc]

Chill. He’s giving good advice.

[@zahoorsheikh6560]

We have look what he is saying despite what he has been in life , everybody has ups & downs in life

[@observationsofayogi]

This genuinely looks like the religion of the nerds I have to say, lol

[@Imnothinglikeyalll]

coming from someone who follows the most irrelevant one 💀🙏

[@BlankMind_666]

Bro how many gods you have again? I lost the count.

[@kubratirgil5836]

Thank you❤❤