"...parents who were physically present, but emotionally absent." Ahh. There it is.
@librimix5 жыл бұрын
Time of the video when that's said?
@InconsistentContent5 жыл бұрын
Same
@Lessenjr5 жыл бұрын
Librimix 2:30 ish
@No_timezone775 жыл бұрын
Relatable
@louharvi5 жыл бұрын
oof that hits hard
@minnesotawelit5 жыл бұрын
Sometimes Anxious people also have hatred for sand
@hexazalea17935 жыл бұрын
can you blame them? its corase its iritating and it get everywhere.
@googleuser12255 жыл бұрын
@@hexazalea1793 ya
@Mr.Voysey5 жыл бұрын
MinnesotaWeLit not soft like your skin ✋🏼
@jebes9090905 жыл бұрын
I recommend moving to the high ground
@CommandoIvan5 жыл бұрын
As someone with an anxious attachment, can confirm. Sand sucks
@bajiraosingham94955 жыл бұрын
I thought I was funny, turns out I'm just avoidant.
@paulbrooks5394 жыл бұрын
I experienced the same thing while watching this video. Here I was thinking I had a great sense of humor! Turns out, I'm just avoidant.
@morrighanwermarn-arnburg73334 жыл бұрын
fearful
@yisun17254 жыл бұрын
chandler
@popularloner52824 жыл бұрын
Facts🤣🤣🤣
@dacrammers25944 жыл бұрын
Hahaha you thought wrong!!
@tysonq71313 жыл бұрын
Reasons to be jealous of Captain America: [ ] Good looks [ ] Manly physique [ ] Super strength [X] Healthy childhood
@30cal233 жыл бұрын
this hit me hard
@Sally-uu3yt3 жыл бұрын
Yo rogers was bullied contantly for his height wtf
@tysonq71313 жыл бұрын
@@Sally-uu3yt I’m going off the video, I don’t watch Marvel movies.
@hj24793 жыл бұрын
@@Sally-uu3yt Yes but he also had bucky to be in his corner. Bucky was a good fighter and a supporting friend and basically a brother to steve. Not everyone has that.
@Maelstrom20773 жыл бұрын
ouch.
@Obi-Wan_Kenobi5 жыл бұрын
I don't have a love style because attachment is against the Jedi Code.
@griever20175 жыл бұрын
Yes you do, remember the Mandalore war just after meeting Qui Gon
@Obi-Wan_Kenobi5 жыл бұрын
@@griever2017 If you are referring to Satine, I am afraid our relationship was greatly exaggerated. To be clear, I was never in love with the Duchess. Love takes time and I only knew her for a bit on Mandalore before I left. Our lives moved in different directions after that. We were friends by that point nothing more.
@prestondoan68935 жыл бұрын
Anyone else read it in Obi-Wans voice😂😂
@aadityamurali185 жыл бұрын
You seem very attached to the high ground though
@jeffrenjr5 жыл бұрын
@@aadityamurali18 👏🏽😂
@twixdakat11355 жыл бұрын
How poetic ... Tony avoids commitment then builds a suit of armor
@comfortablydoomed62805 жыл бұрын
And the Cap’n’s shield...
@twixdakat11355 жыл бұрын
It's securely strapped to his wrist LOL
@jaykelley1035 жыл бұрын
Yeah that's actually really fucking good symbolism. Maybe I haven't been giving these marvel movies enough credit
@diegol58025 жыл бұрын
SUPER FISHER LMAO
@PrincessWhatsername5 жыл бұрын
@@saintsfps5348 for real. I always try to explain to people the actual depth of these characters and their stories and interactions if you look past the Disney campiness. Plus, I think a lot of people skipped around on the movies so they never got the FULL picture that comes when you've actually seen them all and in the order of release. I never cared much about comics but I genuinely want to start reading marvel comics becuase I fell so much in love with all the characters.
@LilSayo4 жыл бұрын
“thankfully the fearful type is extremely rare” *sweating* haha y-yeah very rare
@Aethuviel4 жыл бұрын
He also said 2%, so about 1 in 50.
@Blockheadfun4 жыл бұрын
Welcome to the party pal!
@starsgalaxy1404 жыл бұрын
Hellooo my fellow fearful people!
@thedankmemelord52154 жыл бұрын
Yea, I think that's why I can't form romantic relationships, and why I never have
@hodgindaylon4 жыл бұрын
@JT sounds like you don't know much of what any of them are it's hard to follow poorly punctuated and not very accurate especially if you go by the book
@Youbeentagged3 жыл бұрын
I love how everyone here is either an avoidant or fearful, because the other 2 are busy in their relationships
@HenriettaP3 жыл бұрын
I’m anxious.
@generaldream62063 жыл бұрын
I don't even know why I'm avoidant but I am... I would say my childhood wasn't missing parents and they were emotionally there but WTH
@AryanSingh-fg3oc3 жыл бұрын
I’m a mix of all of them and also a little crazy
@OMGSHEENA3 жыл бұрын
Nah I used to be an anxious but am now much more secure. I'm happily married and watching this while folding laundry 🤣
@missenvi3 жыл бұрын
anxious!
@jarjoevis5 жыл бұрын
Me: Oh i'm for sure avoidant Me: Oh well maybe i'm anxious. Video : Fearful type is the some of the first and second Me: Uh oh
@liighterspoppow51525 жыл бұрын
Haha just literally did the same thing Oh fuck . Conclusion according to video: seek professional help 😐
@sungod11415 жыл бұрын
Joe Jarvis SAME
@pineapplegirl45355 жыл бұрын
Joe Jarvis gahhh ik same now I’m scared
@azraelthecasul48825 жыл бұрын
Well... Shit.
@malvikasaran94545 жыл бұрын
Same. And it’s terrifying.
@HumansOfVR5 жыл бұрын
*_The reason many people in our society are miserable, sick, and highly stressed is because of an unhealthy attachment to things they have no control over. I do animations on personal development stop by if interested_*
@michaeljensen46505 жыл бұрын
Namely Toxic people.
@0815Snickersboy5 жыл бұрын
100% agree A lot of people are blaming their past for their present situation
@davidengvall39025 жыл бұрын
Deep shit right there
@prinstyrio05 жыл бұрын
I never quite realized this a couple of years back, but it's quite true. The friends I've met who's appeared the most destructive and toxic to other people (despite being very nice to me as I've been nice to them), seem to do so when things don't go as they expect it, that they don't have control or get what they want. They get frustrated at things, drink a lot, has depression and gets on the bad side of people, often the topic for behind-the-back gossip. I'm glad I feel I learned early on to never live that way, I came to accept that a lot of attachments I had I couldn't control nor should I. I always preferred being adaptable to rigid and stubborn, as the saying goes "flow like water" and in a way I can welcome change than fear losing the past. There's always bad and good moments, both will come and pass, however small or big they may be, and there's no point in getting stuck chasing happiness nor escaping sadness, both will come and pass, it's best to be content with how things goes and take it from there. Ofcourse you could easily take my words out of context, to see the extreme and bad side in those words, I'm not perfect nor a saint, but I've never had many internal struggles or torments with myself nor felt I've had the same with people around me, which in turn makes me feel better too. I feel there's a merit to that. Being adaptable and bendable doesn't mean you have to be a push over or "wimp", nor that relishing in change means you need to ruin good relationships or get tired of them, as well as it doesn't mean you have to stop striving for happiness or dealing out happinnes. But that's one of the big lessons in life, imo, to find balance within yourself and those around you, take things in moderation and as they come, instead of leaning too much to any extreme or ideal life you think you should have.
@derek91535 жыл бұрын
Correct.
@FlamboyantInsomniac5 жыл бұрын
Avoidant gang, but like, a casual gang, no need to get wierd about it.
@dr.plague68974 жыл бұрын
im avoiding the avoidance gang
@sunleo61614 жыл бұрын
Avoidant and anxious
@WackadoodleMalarkey4 жыл бұрын
What up fam! Cool, cool. Aight ima head out.
@Griffhuth4 жыл бұрын
Macho Supremo sup
@zafiruzoma62344 жыл бұрын
What? Wym don’t be weird!
@solaire70463 жыл бұрын
I'm a hardcore avoidant since like you said my dad wasn't there emotionally, no one talked to me about girls etc. What i did and am doing which is helping me very much is theatre. It really pushes me out of my comfort zone in every way possible and allowed me to actually not be afraid of what other people think of me and acting really is a great way to practice difficult emotions. I highly recommend this to anyone that sees this comment.
@courtneymalkin12253 жыл бұрын
I freaking love theatre and It’s my dream but for so many deep fears inside me don’t gives me possibilty to open up , and it’s not only in the large audience but with every single relationship with person
@solaire70463 жыл бұрын
@@courtneymalkin1225 you need to.. You need to just take that first step... I know you can. For any embarrassment that might occur, you'll be ten times prouder of yourself. Things are always going to be challenging, but at least then you'll have gained confidence as your ally. You CAN do it.
@courtneymalkin12253 жыл бұрын
@@solaire7046 Thank you so much 💜🔆
@dontforget31133 жыл бұрын
@@solaire7046 "Things are always going to be challenging." In other words, you will fundamentally never change your attachment style. Just become better at compensating. We are who we are, my friend, and at some point, it's better to own it and play to the strengths of the avoidant - stability in crisis - than to beg for the acceptance from secure types or vow to become better. There are strengths and weaknesses to every attachment type; honestly, that's the main reason I do not agree with the majority of these personality type assessments on youtube. They all insist that if you're not secure, you need to become secure. But I don't think people should try to change in that sense, I think they should learn what type they are and work within the boundaries of that type to become more balanced. If someone else cannot accept you for who you are, it is not worthwhile to make long-term commitments to them in the first place, because no matter how good things may seem, you will always be living an illusion, and one where you constantly accept the short end of the stick to maintain the status quo of another. To change on an essential level how you connect with others is just not realistic. I believe it is actually impossible, or at the least, supremely unhealthy, because these attachment styles are deeply ingrained by upbringing and cannot be revoked without the annihilation of motivation and all self identity. In my opinion, you are setting yourself up for martyrdom with that kind of thinking, which as I'm sure you're aware is a dangerous predisposition of our type. Throwing yourself headlong into the world of the secure, desperately desiring acknowledgment, is not a sure path to growth. Furthermore, and on a more personal note, I do not think you should be so quick to apologize for your essential nature. There are benefits to be had from regulating carefully one's emotions, after all, and this is a truth other types ignore at their own peril. After all, Stoicism is what keeps the world from collapsing in times of crisis. But, like a warrior in times of peace, avoidants in neurotypical settings must bide their time and energy to await tasks worthy of their ability and benefiting of the ones they love. After all, the secure is already secure, the neurotypical is already typical. Let them be. And let's all just take a moment to remember who beat Thanos. Because I think we all know it wasn't Captain America. It was Tony Stark. Much like that fictional hero, whose distance afforded him time and the perspective necessary to overcome a cosmic threat, real life avoidants, with their similar predispositions to distant, calculating observance and sacrificial exertion develop paradoxically but inevitably a deep affinity for the working of emotion and the power to master and guide empathy, in themselves and in others. Above and beyond, by far, the perspective of a secure, indeed, like channeling the Infinity Stones themselves. For, as children born into bliss, the secure type lacks necessary experience to empathize with those survivors who have battled their way up from the dark depths of neglect. Rather than viewing secure types as the standard of transformation, I view them as children in need of protection and guidance. In other words, secure types are who I fight for, but not who I want to be. It is complicated, and avoidants must learn as much as they teach, much as adults must always be humbled by their children. Because the world needs visionaries to secure peace and to create new order, an order in which all types can thrive and grow. And I believe this is a responsibility, more than any other, that falls to the lot of the avoidant. Nevertheless, even as we monitor emotion and keep it under control, without emotion entirely, we cannot build a firm foundation of resolve to do what must be done. One of my favorite quotes from entertainment comes from Kentaro Miura's Berserk: "The power to be with someone and the power to protect them is not always the same thing." I think the primary difference between avoidance and secure types lies in this statement. Secure types would rather be with the ones they love, to provide for them, to make memories with them, to experience life with them. They will fight to defend their circle, of course, but because of their limited perspective, they sometimes lack the necessary detachment to make sacrifices or to see the bigger picture. Avoidants, by contrast, would rather protect the ones they love, even if that means an inability to be with them. Indeed, in many cases, this is precisely the lesson they had modeled to them by their own parents, who sacrificed their time to have and raise them, even if that ultimately meant they were not able to directly invest in them. Why should that sacrifice be frowned on? Should it not be instead passed forward to the next generation? Avoidants can be vigilant watchers, willing to do what needs to be done to see those they love protected, and I think that is a wonderful thing.
@markmessi90203 жыл бұрын
@@dontforget3113 too long my guy. I'm sure you have a wealth of knowledge on the subject but ppl aren't gonna read that. Thanks for sharing tho
@TryoutAnimations5 жыл бұрын
Thumbnail: Me: Anakin is my favorite avenger
@1COMODIN95 жыл бұрын
@HalaL true...
@zexion3785 жыл бұрын
haha
@taliajung15535 жыл бұрын
Fighting to save the world from the greatest enemy of all: Sand
@paulshaw84465 жыл бұрын
Godly comment man, Genuinely made me laugh.
@polaroidandroidjeff63835 жыл бұрын
Me:Yes
@codymcgrew40155 жыл бұрын
“Based on this knowledge, Which attachment style do you think you are??” “Yes”
@darellarocho57295 жыл бұрын
xD
@franklinlara18315 жыл бұрын
Is there an option for all of the above
@jbaguam805 жыл бұрын
Majority Secure but with occasional Avoidance. Good video on the topics discussed. Ive adopted a life of self reliance and assigning affirmations to conducting my life style in ways that I choose to excell. Continuosly learning, improvement, accepting loss/failure as normal fair to an eventual success, patience, confidence. Took some time to understand but I understand its a continuos development to becoming fulfilled.
@taurusDIVA19795 жыл бұрын
lol you COMPLETELY made my morning with this comment....:-D
@michaelrisner55405 жыл бұрын
Cody McGrew I'm anxious, and fearful
@bryceflanigan46365 жыл бұрын
Me: im not avoidant Also me: stops watching after 2 mins.
@bigboibubba55285 жыл бұрын
Would the threat of losing your soul get you to finish the video? Asking for a friend
@nickspades695 жыл бұрын
@@bigboibubba5528 Most underrated comment award goes to...
@1800betterinblack5 жыл бұрын
bryce Flanigan Lmao
@kkibela5 жыл бұрын
Well that's awkward... Just did same
@GodBlessDJT9775 жыл бұрын
bryce Flanigan 🤣🤣
@SednovaNova3 жыл бұрын
Rule 101: Never tell a significant other you can't live without them even if you are married. Instant relationship decline incoming.
@samualcalnan47743 жыл бұрын
What are the first 100 rules
@SednovaNova3 жыл бұрын
@@samualcalnan4774 101 reference to the term "beginner or introductory"
@samualcalnan47743 жыл бұрын
@@SednovaNova I know I'm just jokin
@m.a.1563 жыл бұрын
It's not unfixable if you said that before
@crazyjoeshorts52563 жыл бұрын
It is ok to say that they complete you, or that they make your life more fulfilled in such a way that they understand they are cherished.But forcing the other party into a position of being the sole source of your happiness is deadly.
@joostvisser85375 жыл бұрын
*describes avoidant* That seems like me *describes anxious* Wait... That also seems like me *describes fearful* Oh for goodness sake
@sak545 жыл бұрын
describes secure Yeah... that's not me
@Happygirlalwaysnomatter5 жыл бұрын
😂😂☠️☠️🤙🏼🤙🏼for real
@SimpleAmadeus5 жыл бұрын
Fearful is a mix of the negative parts of the first two, so that makes sense.
@christinascanlon96775 жыл бұрын
Lol me too
@davidsavage5195 жыл бұрын
Same lmao
@HMMadsen5 жыл бұрын
Wait, so Anakin's creepy and obsessive character was intentional? *MINDBLOWN*
@Ziggerath4 жыл бұрын
bandwagon haters would have you believe otherwise but almost everything in the prequels that people hate on was intentional and has a logic consistent with all the characters and lore.
@CheshireCaddington4 жыл бұрын
@@Ziggerath I will preach Phantom Menace Binks as the best plot twist we never got until I die.
@sanjayraju9884 жыл бұрын
Honest trailers
@spongebobsucks124 жыл бұрын
Prequels werent that bad, only the first one.
@valhar20004 жыл бұрын
There had to be a reason he turned into Darth Vader.
@iisuperstarii73105 жыл бұрын
The fact that you could make this video with examples of unscripted little behaviours shows how good all these actors were at embodying their characters. And as always: great video! Very informative!
@luzpueblalara41285 жыл бұрын
Absolutely :v it seems art it's not that worthless after all :D
@timesmight39225 жыл бұрын
Doesn't look like they acted though
@seigfried36825 жыл бұрын
More like the writters
@RyanlovesTh5 жыл бұрын
@@seigfried3682 Both
@seigfried36825 жыл бұрын
@@RyanlovesTh nah
@endm_3 жыл бұрын
“Tell someone you love them and look them in the eye.” Me: no thank you
@HenriettaP3 жыл бұрын
I love you 😳
@subhradipporel2853 жыл бұрын
@@HenriettaP I love u too
@generaldream62063 жыл бұрын
ive been emotionally aviodant with everyone just so I don't have to say that or express any emotion at all
@netecrivernetecassassins29453 жыл бұрын
@@generaldream6206 👁️💋👁️ I love you
@smcv83653 жыл бұрын
Careful about the expression though, just in case you end up looking confrontational...🤣🤣🤣
@Kenseiblades5 жыл бұрын
This video really just showed me how skilled of an actor Robert Downey Jr really is.
@BREAKENSTEIN5 жыл бұрын
and how well all these characters are written.
@Hey-jw3dm5 жыл бұрын
uh huh
@BlargeMan5 жыл бұрын
@@dwzenix7954 no, but he was extremely well written in The Clone Wars
@nicokaine2505 жыл бұрын
robert is a good actor, but he isnt a real skilled actor, tony stark and robert downey jr share the same personality, so thats why robert can act as good as he does when he portrays him, if you see other movies where is he you will notice that his characters share a LOT of characteristics between them, because he always puts some of his real personality on them. and im not saying its bad, but theres actors that can really forget who they are and give their hundred percent to become their character, and thats what a really skilled actor is
@DragoonCenten4 жыл бұрын
Ivan Cuartas perhaps he isn't pretending
@liz20924 жыл бұрын
"Tell someone how much they mean to you and look them in the eye while you do it." Me: *shudders*
@janus91484 жыл бұрын
Me: *N O P E*
@user-pj3pf7el1o4 жыл бұрын
I just said : n o 👎
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@earthclad68333 жыл бұрын
i was cringing when he said that
@commentingisawasteoftime71953 жыл бұрын
@@dorian_tihi5869 doooooon't
@billytessio63265 жыл бұрын
I'm an anxious type... I don't like sand. It's coarse, rough, and irritating. And it gets everywhere.
@clairemadeinheaven5 жыл бұрын
This is outrageous. It's unfair.
@atom08245 жыл бұрын
😂😂
@flowerbunga25905 жыл бұрын
Hi there, i relate to you alot
@mar10ssj15 жыл бұрын
Fuck Sand.
@Scooby_Nubie5 жыл бұрын
OMFG XD
@Taylor-gz4td3 жыл бұрын
Not gonna lie, the “It’s not your fault” hit me harder every time it was said. I literally cried. I guess I’m a Fearful type...but I also feel like I’m an Avoidant type as well.
@FruityHachi3 жыл бұрын
because fearful attachment is a mix of anxious and avoidant, a person can definitely be on a scale either leaning more towards anxious or leaning more towards avoidant
@gwenmorrowi33213 жыл бұрын
Same
@heikorudiger32583 жыл бұрын
It's like a voice in your head that says: You should know better by now. Don't trust anyone too much ever
@LietSayri3 жыл бұрын
I cried too.
@InRainbows2872 жыл бұрын
Yep. I cried at “It’s not your fault”. I did the same when the professional help I sought said the same thing, I’m 100% a Fearful type due to childhood trauma.
@@Katya_Lastochka well, not really, if the "secure" type (AKA: "normal" people) is even more rare. Although if that's the case, then they're not really "normal" are they? That means the rest of us (the fucked up ones) are the norm! OMG I'm normal! Finally!
@kevincorey44064 жыл бұрын
Oh, dear. When you’re relating a little too much to Anakin Skywalker, a problem, you have.
@shannenlibres23654 жыл бұрын
They're called "niceguys" or "the crazy ex girlfriend"
@hodgindaylon4 жыл бұрын
@@shannenlibres2365 I feel like the term nice guy gets consistently misused. Anakin was obviously a people pleaser and hugely insecure.
@shannenlibres23654 жыл бұрын
@@hodgindaylon what would you call him then? At least in my opinion r/niceguys are anxious ambivalents all the way
@crazytidy24264 жыл бұрын
@@shannenlibres2365 it definitely leads to being a nice guy but not everyone is. I think these sort of people always put their partner on a pedestal and can't handle it when they can't fit the ideal they made for them. It's like idealization but to varying degrees. I used to approach relationships like this but it's really bad once you start feeling insecure because you think they are perfect. It's not fair to your partner or to yourself.
@FranziskavonKarma4 жыл бұрын
@@shannenlibres2365 I certainly wouldn't call Ani a "nice guy"
@denisblack98975 жыл бұрын
So the current culture laughs at secure types and praises avoidants? rip
@cowboy43784 жыл бұрын
I know, all those people joking about being an avoidant. I have some of the avoidant traits and I’ve known this for a while. I’m trying my best to change it, not making it my personality.
@Rinoaeris3 жыл бұрын
This 100%. I don't find it funny at all. I'm a fearful type and would really like to have a proper relationship. Even though I am working on changing it, I'd kill to naturally be a secure type. They're so lucky!
@HenriettaP3 жыл бұрын
And REALLY looks down on anxious types.
@aquilliusranger21373 жыл бұрын
It usually means that the majority that makes fun of secured people tends to be avoidants to their own selves.
@HenriettaP3 жыл бұрын
@@aquilliusranger2137 they particularly despise anxious attachment types. It’s because they are projecting their own fear of abandonment.
@TrashLuvr12343 жыл бұрын
I’m writing a story and I just realized that an anxious type is is in love with an avoidant wow that’s not going to good
@BarryWillBuck3 жыл бұрын
Sounds like my last relationship. I'm slightly anxious but it gets worse with time apart, and she was super avoidant. ...I'm doing myself right at least. I have good hobbies and usually express plenty of individuality.
@finfog45903 жыл бұрын
I’m in this right now.
@theworldofnexttuesday28023 жыл бұрын
By the descriptions in the video, I'm avoidant to the core. The only relationship I ever really had was with an insanely anxious person. She wound up being incredibly abusive to me to try to keep me around, and I put up with it for much longer than I should have - and that relationship lasted all of 10 weeks, give or take a day. It all started because she approached me, I tried to give her a soft no, and then she came back later putting on this emotional crisis that nothing was going well in her life and she was implicitly going to seriously harm herself if just one thing (me) didn't work out. I caved and gave it a try for HER sake, but after about a week or so the novelty of being in my first actual relationship evaporated and I was backed up into a corner by this psycho who would threaten to hurt herself every other day when she didn't have her way and even in some instances came after me physically. The lack of emotional investment on my part is probably the only reason the relationship didn't end in a nuclear detonation when I finally managed to call the breakup. At that point I was so uninvested in the relationship I had become by and large indifferent to whether she actually followed through on her constant threats. It was basically a week of her throwing a fit and me more or less saying "I don't care, go away." The optics were horrible with her acting completely devastated while I just tried to resume my own life without any drama. I lost a lot of friends, but I immediately stopped caring about anyone who sided with her as well. I've lost the taste for even trying to enter relationships after that. I was clearly not cut out for intimacy even taking the abuse out of the picture. I plan to cruise through the bachelor life for the rest of my days. Not that I have a problem with that, I'm just saying I've found priorities in life other than the biological imperative.
@captainfuture28823 жыл бұрын
@@theworldofnexttuesday2802 It looks like she damaged you in the process, but maybe it is better than getting into a relationship and getting divorced with a good chance.
@moisesramos67463 жыл бұрын
@@theworldofnexttuesday2802 Damn, I can't imagine what that relationship put you through. I think you went about it the best way, though. Setting your priorities straight and leaving that hellhole. Do what you want, work on yourself, and you'll come out confident as hell. Give it time.
@spaceaidsman45355 жыл бұрын
I’m literally tony Stark Without the success
@ap3xls3294 жыл бұрын
toxic mindset, work on fixing that make it a more optimistic one
@thatlampsouce61364 жыл бұрын
@@ap3xls329 im tony stark without dang it tony stark your evrthing is great
@blackpanther13204 жыл бұрын
Me too
@mad_titanthanos4 жыл бұрын
@Reinert Zerker Tony Stark is also a fiction genius i.e he doesn't exist.
@xianthegaian40604 жыл бұрын
Then you're Tony Stank 😉. Excelsior
@vallrikstone94205 жыл бұрын
The anxious types are afraid of their connections gaining the high ground.
@Roonasaur4 жыл бұрын
/Please don't let this guy be right, Please don't let this guy be right . . ./
@Dinosaurs_with_laser_guns4 жыл бұрын
What do you mean?
@jeanlucdecoster4 жыл бұрын
moon child Star Wars reference 🤣
@evanhayes58914 жыл бұрын
After they're severely burned? Of course!
@whispy40274 жыл бұрын
This literally makes no sense
@cordelephant5 жыл бұрын
I'm basically equal parts avoidant and anxious. That's my secret cap, I'm always miserable.
@ivymichelle8915 жыл бұрын
That's the fearful type, both anxious and avoidant. I have a sick feeling that's what I am too :(
@TheEmperorAs5 жыл бұрын
@@ivymichelle891 if you want to do something about it, check out Thais Gibbson or Teal Swan on you Tube
@tenuousmite23505 жыл бұрын
I'm the same but I'm it's not bad enough to be considered a fearful type
@alexkilpatrick67765 жыл бұрын
@@ivymichelle891 I feel like I'm 80% avoidant and like 20% anxious. Does this still fall under fearful or just not a perfect of avoidant?
@kristofkovacsRisy5 жыл бұрын
I'm probably the same. Wait... I should know this from past relationships? -_-
@codingsloth52563 жыл бұрын
The "It's not your fault" part made me cry because it reminded me when I finally had someone to just listen to my trauma and not say I'm lying or interrupt me...
@DJHastingsFeverPitch3 жыл бұрын
So true
@jamesklark65623 жыл бұрын
I've been feeling that with this new girl I met, but I also got fears that that her interest in me is waning. Every time I suspect it she somehow turns it around, I wish this didn't feel like such an emotional rollercoaster.
@BlancaEstella4837 Жыл бұрын
@@jamesklark6562 what about now ? Was the girl sincère ?
@Ella_Tetsuya5 жыл бұрын
*Stares at thumbnail* "I am... Iron Man."
@Hi-vf9wx5 жыл бұрын
😂😭
@TheKvltSith5 жыл бұрын
I am the Senate
@sighofrelief34665 жыл бұрын
@@TheKvltSith No you WERE the senate
@jairtrail49215 жыл бұрын
Literally
@exodusgod35055 жыл бұрын
@@sighofrelief3466 HE IS THE SENATE AND HE ALWAYS WILL BE THE SENATE!!!
@heffthehecked4 жыл бұрын
Bruh why tf did the "It's not your fault" maKe me crY toO
@supersupersomething4 жыл бұрын
Same.
@krishaashar3 жыл бұрын
s a m e
@ThePrimith3 жыл бұрын
Did you also identify with the Fearful type, because I sure did. And yeah, I still got the waterworks going.
@Overxpossed3 жыл бұрын
probably because you're too perfeccionist. I felt idientified with that scene but because I'm perfeccionist.
@yuritrasimaco52013 жыл бұрын
Because... I T ' S N O T Y O U R F A U L T ! ! !
@naru2465 жыл бұрын
*explaining avoidant type * Me : *gasps*
@RoninAquila5 жыл бұрын
Naru that has Mr Sakamoto the talking cat (your avatar) down to a tee! 🙂🐱
@hana.18475 жыл бұрын
me: *avoids eye contact*
@edwardburns37813 жыл бұрын
I grew up with a physically absent mother and an emotionally absent father, I've worked on myself and gone from an anxious type to a secure type.
@maplesyrup18053 жыл бұрын
Awesome how
@starRushi3 жыл бұрын
That’s incredible man. It might mean nothing but a stranger on the Internet is looking at what you just said and hope for the same to happen to them lol.
@monkeydetonation3 жыл бұрын
how tho
@masonshields80063 жыл бұрын
For me, it was Jordan Peterson.
@einarasgedraitis45023 жыл бұрын
That's the case for me also, it helped forming clear goals of what i want to achieve in my life and pursuing those goals, i used to rely on other people to make me happy but now i know that i am the one who should make myself happy and when you are fully content with yourself and all of the outcomes with a relationship then you can have a healthy relationship you just need to find the right person and it will all workout
@Berengier8175 жыл бұрын
TIL: Being secure makes you worthy of wielding mjolnir.
@wendyvasion48285 жыл бұрын
*sigh* yes......yes it does.
@MelanieJoules5 жыл бұрын
secure type = no drama = not good for film/ TV. But great for life! 👍💯
@slash66865 жыл бұрын
i was anxious but i frequented some avoidant people in college and step by step i learned to be in the middle, neither anxious, nor avoidant, i became secure and can now stand between the most awful people in my workplace
@Semokada5 жыл бұрын
@@slash6686 I have an anxious style too, I'm happy to hear about someone's improvement.
@magnelloper5 жыл бұрын
It can be good for film as shown by cap. Its harder to pull off, but probably is one of the most interesting character styles when done right also shown by captain america
@placeholder15465 жыл бұрын
It’s fine because the drama can just come from the other lover.
@Overxpossed3 жыл бұрын
that's because your life is more like a yankee comedy in vhs with white background; i'm more like James Cameron before doing Avatar.
@jorisdeclercq16014 жыл бұрын
When you are asking: "Can I be avoidant and anxious at the same time?" Well yes, it is called fearful.
@dorian_tihi58693 жыл бұрын
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@dennisjajablubb99843 жыл бұрын
Fearful gang 4 life!
@lille21603 жыл бұрын
Thanks, I guess I'm fearful (:(:
@datsunlambchops46243 жыл бұрын
Thats my girlfriend. She is a fearful attachment type. It is very difficult. I was a secure type, went through the anxious type, working my way back to secure. You never know what emotional feed back you will get, from day,to day. 7 years, wow.
@ahnrho3 жыл бұрын
Was anticipating that, with some dread.
@phil19213 жыл бұрын
I'm definitely a mix of 1 and 2. I have a very hard time forming relationships. The not looking at people in the eyes hits the bullseye for me. But when I do form a relationship I'm constantly worried that I'm doing something wrong and they'll want to leave. It's a lonely life.
@thawindyking27403 жыл бұрын
I feel that. I'm probably a mix of 2 and 3 due to pretty much experiencing abandonment throughout my life from father, friends, and past loves so I'm constantly feeling like either they don't truly feel that way about me or like "so when are they gonna inevitably leave me?"
@rey_nemaattori3 жыл бұрын
If you're mix of 1 and 2, you're effectively a #3...
@sirpranabR3 жыл бұрын
@@rey_nemaattori good point
@islacasey8393 жыл бұрын
I can hardly look my dad in the eye. He's never been emotionally there for me or my family
@cardinal82005 жыл бұрын
Me watching avoidant type: oh, I relate quite a bit to that, guess everyone has a bit of every type *proceeds to not relate to other types* Me: oh no
@Hey-jw3dm5 жыл бұрын
l o l
@derozerr48564 жыл бұрын
Same here
@CamInAHat5 жыл бұрын
*gasp* That's me!!...oh, wait, never mind. *gasp* That's me!!...oh, wait, never mind. *gasp* That's me!!...oh, wait, never mind. *gasp* That's me!!...oh, wait, never mind.
@purplepepper25035 жыл бұрын
Right? Like, which one are we? XD
@ghostdream42745 жыл бұрын
What my feel like for every videos from him
@TheTwinkiefoot5 жыл бұрын
I think the labels are incredibly fluid. I felt like I had traits of 3 of the 4
@DrDeathpwnsu5 жыл бұрын
Video: Barely begins to explains the first one... Me: Ding ding ding! We have a winner...
@ballislife99245 жыл бұрын
Same. I'm generally acting really similar to Tony.
@DrDeathpwnsu5 жыл бұрын
@@ballislife9924 We like to think we're like Tony Stark. In reality we probably come across as more Squidward Tentacles.
@nickyfandino85295 жыл бұрын
@@DrDeathpwnsu And truer word will never be spoken
@ballislife99245 жыл бұрын
@@DrDeathpwnsu That's probably true
@ht.63155 жыл бұрын
@@DrDeathpwnsu i'm only like tony in all of the fucked up aspects
@The.Greene.Dragon3 жыл бұрын
That damned "it's not your fault" scene gets me EVERY TIME!
@joelpugsley36973 жыл бұрын
It’s not your fault
@CeilinggangAditya2 жыл бұрын
It's not your fault -This is gonna turn into a zombie apocalypse at this point-
@SeanLunny5 жыл бұрын
The way you were conditioned as a child directly impacts how you love and have relationships
@BakaryD5 жыл бұрын
It impacts that and even MORE ! Childhood is so extremely important, that's why good parenthood is very important.
@walkingalive10935 жыл бұрын
Any idea how I can find out or read how my childhood could have impacted the way I love? I understand it has an impact but what impact? And based on what?
@LucidNyte5 жыл бұрын
Who Da Fook Is That Guy Start with just getting a general idea of classical conditioning, then you can go on to Attachment Theory and Erikson's Stages of Psychosocial Development, both are well-established theories in the field of Psychology.
@ptxrant25 жыл бұрын
Yes I too watched the video
@walkingalive10935 жыл бұрын
@@LucidNyte Thank you very much I appreciate it. I will look into those.
@binboda5 жыл бұрын
*Confirmed:* Captain America is the perfect boyfriend (but we knew that already)
@rootstone98835 жыл бұрын
so... avoidant and anxious. Feels discomfort with deep connection but fears the loss of connection. Yup, sounds about right
@JanosGonzales5 жыл бұрын
A 22 catch
@bouncyoink12345 жыл бұрын
That’s fearful
@lauramaria999995 жыл бұрын
I think you mean a catch 22 😂
@__-fm5qv5 жыл бұрын
Hey I think I'm in this picture, I don't like it...
@natvelo5 жыл бұрын
same lmao
@ceciliafetters76223 жыл бұрын
**suddenly realizes why I crushed on Steve Rogers more than the leading men of most romance movies**
@cantthinkofaname50463 жыл бұрын
EMOTIONAL STABILITY IS HOT
@kubapietrzak72783 жыл бұрын
That's great. I think it means you developed right
@catholicfemininity21263 жыл бұрын
I want that, but it's hard to find.
@catholicfemininity21263 жыл бұрын
a secure man that is
@ButiLao445 жыл бұрын
It's 11pm and I was not ready for this kind of self discovery at this time of day.
@Trptychs4 жыл бұрын
Why did I just see this at exactly 11pm
@rinr70524 жыл бұрын
LOL
@hodgindaylon4 жыл бұрын
Hahah right bro 10pm for me.... Now I can't sleep so more self-deprecating videos it is lol
@gayathrisajeev62685 жыл бұрын
I use humour as a defense mechanism ~ chandler bing 😀 905 likes that's the most famous I'll get I guess 😆thanks y'all I feel like a youtuber who hit 10 million
@justchilling7045 жыл бұрын
Same here.
@ronswanson59745 жыл бұрын
Seems to be like me
@justchilling7045 жыл бұрын
Ron Swanson Lol
@Scooby_Nubie5 жыл бұрын
ME TOO
@dstewar5 жыл бұрын
Lol my ex. Specifically "I use sarcasm as a shield"
@hermansjoholm34945 жыл бұрын
Me watching this: - I'm an avoidant. - Sorry meant Anxious - Fearful! I misstyped - Ok I'm all
@TannerWilliam074 жыл бұрын
You're into zodiac astrology stuff aren't you lol
@daisies4dae4 жыл бұрын
you can't be the secure type and the insecure types at the same time
@abelincoln18664 жыл бұрын
@@daisies4dae but I believe you can shift from one to another withing longtime period. I've been in pretty unhealthy relationship with some girl, started as secure, within next 3 years shifted first towards anxious/fearful, had a heartbreaking ending to this relationship (almost like in a "last Christmas I gave you my heart" lol) then for 2 years became kinda avoidant, if I can say that, cuz I've been afraid of any romantic action so to say, and here I am, slowly crawling back to my older self (hopefully), yet, lesson is learned.
@flaw3344 жыл бұрын
Daisy Katz but I am
@hodgindaylon4 жыл бұрын
@@daisies4dae logic and emotions don't always line up and that's where the issue is.
@matthewramroop3 жыл бұрын
This became a therapy session real quick lol
@piggypoo5 жыл бұрын
The nightmare when an anxious type falls in love with an avoidant type.
@sobreaver5 жыл бұрын
Now your talking, life is the sauce of all those chemical elements. Living it doesn't always feels great. But when we need to grow out of ourselves, life happens ;) Enjoy while you still can !
@ArtamStudio5 жыл бұрын
oh hell yes.
@Ambear_5 жыл бұрын
I'm the anxious type...all my best friends are avoidant. They left me and it broke me
@aapp7764 жыл бұрын
Hell yeah damn it
@mariobros78344 жыл бұрын
I think that I am avoidant and all my girlfriends were anxious hahaha But I can say anxious are nightmares for everyone, especially themselves. Hot mess.
@mynamebekaleb77475 жыл бұрын
The moral of the story is be captain America cause he’s legit asf 😏
@Ben10man25 жыл бұрын
Truth
@TheHouseOffice4 жыл бұрын
I always knew I liked him..
@bermymon995 жыл бұрын
I never saw Good Will Hunting but holy crap this was a powerful performance 8:21
@jasonirwin46315 жыл бұрын
"Holy carp that was a powerful preformance" is basically how all of good will hunting plays out.
@r.a.fraley16165 жыл бұрын
I found that part of the video uncomfortable to watch
@hikiwii235 жыл бұрын
Take some time to watch it. Good Will Hunting is a phenomenal movie. 👍🏻
@ampz14665 жыл бұрын
@@r.a.fraley1616 lol. Yup you definitely avoidant.
@singingstars50065 жыл бұрын
The movie is very powerful!
@Ayeohx3 жыл бұрын
Me: "Oh shiz, I'm an anxious type. Wonder how I can fix this." CoC: "Get a fuckin life". huh, okay. i'll do that...
@sirpranabR3 жыл бұрын
clash of clans?
@pearl.85513 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂
@jey79965 жыл бұрын
my boy charlie out there fixing my datinglife once again
@Spider-Rat775 жыл бұрын
I'm definitely an avoidant. I have trouble even telling my family I love them. Getting into a relationship would just be too hard.
@joreau75075 жыл бұрын
Same. It just feels awkward
@sita4875 жыл бұрын
your sun is probably in virgo, or your venus. yes you probably dont know what the hell im saying but google "venus in virgo"
@jokerzai1055 жыл бұрын
ikr but im Capricorn...
@emmanuelpacheco87655 жыл бұрын
Same i never even told anyone that i loved them, even my own mom
@BakaryD5 жыл бұрын
Same
@EvanHBogle5 жыл бұрын
Honestly Cap is like the ideal guy, we should all try to be a little more like Captain America.
@bloodycinephile5 жыл бұрын
He's a fucking liar. Not even Thanos lies.
@LivingInChrysalis5 жыл бұрын
I fell for skinny Steve... and I think Peggy did too
@denisbalcenko30455 жыл бұрын
@@amazingjay3957 this. Looks aren't everything but there is nothing wrong with tryna be presentable to your SO or either a potential love interest you have. We are only human... if someone goes gym they are determined. If someone always looks good they can often be committed since they always take care of themselves etc. Your look says a lot about your character... sorry for getting so deep lol
@LivingInChrysalis5 жыл бұрын
@@amazingjay3957 he was sexy AF
@sooz57035 жыл бұрын
@@LivingInChrysalis Those two were a great match. Both secure.
@benhagstrom21853 жыл бұрын
This is like the 4th video I've see that uses Good Will Hunting as a case study for psychology. I think I need to break down and watch that movie.
@nabinnyc3 жыл бұрын
don't worry. it's not breaking down. it's s truly excellent film. enjoy
@cantthinkofaname50463 жыл бұрын
@@nabinnyc they meant analyze its/ study it
@bekb2933 жыл бұрын
YES IT IS A GREAT MOVIE DO IT
@pearl.85513 жыл бұрын
It’s been 8 months, how was it?
@benhagstrom21853 жыл бұрын
@@pearl.8551 lmao it's on my to do list
@Thatothergamer015 жыл бұрын
Just learned I'm anxious thanks to you. So please don't stop uploading or I'll kms
@Jesszicar5 жыл бұрын
the best comment
@MsBettyRubble5 жыл бұрын
Don't worry. More videos are coming. Your anxiety can fade away. Have you considered making videos? You can release them privately for your eyes only.
@KuhdieBoii5 жыл бұрын
#metoo
@pear1ycur1y835 жыл бұрын
Btw is your name Carlos ?
@brink4425 жыл бұрын
Can you spot the Avoidants in these reply comments?
@Tarodenaro5 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately, i don't have the higher ground in relationships.
@asherpikesgoldenmoralcinem57705 жыл бұрын
Tarodenaro u probs wish u were obi high ground kenobi then
@1993greeksoldier5 жыл бұрын
If you feel you're not doing well as a romantic partner I'd recommend continuing to study on how to be a better partner and reflect on what specifically prevents you from filling that role
@Boomblox58965 жыл бұрын
@@1993greeksoldier This guy was just making a Star Wars meme.
@sobreaver5 жыл бұрын
I personally have always preferred to be under XD
@furyberserk5 жыл бұрын
@@1993greeksoldier I think this comment was worthless. It's inherent to do so, but also gives nothing to help even as a starter.
@kledi38175 жыл бұрын
"You were the one that wanted to win AND I JUST WANTED A SISTER" ~Nebula
@wendyvasion48285 жыл бұрын
Watching Guardians 2 right now! That line was their turning point . Go Nebula!
@Anonymous-iy2qo5 жыл бұрын
That line made me start to love Nebula
@forgetfulstranger5 жыл бұрын
i cried like a baby
@Sigmar_Heldenhammer3 жыл бұрын
My childhood: *raised by a half sister and a pack of dogs while being neglect by our parents* Also me: “what is love?”
@Some_One_One3 жыл бұрын
Also me: "BABY DON'T HURT ME!
@haiguyse3 жыл бұрын
@@Some_One_One no more
@timsickler51253 жыл бұрын
@@Some_One_One nailed it!
@TorquemadaTwist3 жыл бұрын
@@Some_One_One I thought it then had to see if someone wrote it. You made me laugh.
@MoonshineBeforeSunshine3 жыл бұрын
Love is that half sister & them pack of dogs. Even if that love ain't there anymore, that was it. If you still have that platonic love with her, glad that you've still got it. As to romantic love, If such a love exists, it's so rare that it's not worth lookin' for; at least, that is for me.
@federz6665 жыл бұрын
Wat.. I'm all of them. and single. cool.
@jlupus88045 жыл бұрын
If you focus on bettering the relationships you have and building up your character and meeting your needs, the right woman will eventually notice and you can pursue then.
@KapoGearKapogear5 жыл бұрын
It not your fault
@federz6665 жыл бұрын
J Lupus nah dude I’m actually quite happy being single haha. Spent most of my adult life in two different relationships, one ended bad and the other had a friendly, organic ending. Now life is pretty chill :)
@GottfriedLeibnizYT5 жыл бұрын
You made my day.
@vihpol5 жыл бұрын
Sooo bipolar?
@angrysealion22595 жыл бұрын
I feel like I'm somewhere between secure and anxious. I used to be way more of the anxious type, but after I drove a close friend away, I realized how over the top I was being. kinda like how this video said, I got my own hobbies and started making my own happiness and I became more self reliant and less dependant on others for my happiness. after I changed like this, I actually reconnected with that friend and now we're close again, but the friendship is much healthier than before. if you're like the anxious type, try to work on yourself, find a hobby, find happiness for yourself because you deserve it. finding confidence will help you so much, I promise
@carterkimes28605 жыл бұрын
I had to go through a similar discovery to get to where I am now. I’m glad I’m here, and I know the journey isn’t over yet.
@EcthelionOTF5 жыл бұрын
I definitely feel you. I am the same way. I have a lot of anxious tendencies and that disrupted my first relationship. Still working on the whole independent thing. I'm young and I'll get there with time. Best wishes to everyone who reads this and I believe you all can overcome anything you set your mind to
@liamg93345 жыл бұрын
You must also hate sand right?
@she_is_zoe5 жыл бұрын
Awwwe, true. You've got to deliberately choose to change. 😍👌
@angrysealion22595 жыл бұрын
@@liamg9334 yeah... I don't like sand... it's coarse and it's rough and it's irritating and it gets everywhere
@sloop37205 жыл бұрын
The night my brother died when I came to a friend's house, when I started crying I quickly tried to diffuse it with some unrelated joke. I just realized when watching this how severely avoidant that is
@walkingalive10934 жыл бұрын
My condolences. I cannot imagine the pain you must have went through. My brothers are everything for me. Without them I am nothing.
@orestispalampougioukis60434 жыл бұрын
@@walkingalive1093 lol. You really had to remind the guy whose brother died, how important the brotherly bond is? :D
@jacobberry51384 жыл бұрын
Sorry your Bub died. Cry privately. Like a man.
@ishidacoolp4 жыл бұрын
Sorry for your loss @Sloop. Keep your head up and keep moving forward.
@cantthinkofaname50464 жыл бұрын
Orestis Palampougioukis You just perfectly conveyed an avoidant trait, congrats
@MrMinecrafter7203 жыл бұрын
Oh my god I have literally gone through all of these in order throughout my teenage years. I was toxic af as a teen lol
@DieWattefee5 жыл бұрын
I cried so hard during the Will Hunting therapy scene... damn it, i need it too.
@exnihilonihilfit63165 жыл бұрын
Have you watched "In Treatment"?
@ScuffedLife5 жыл бұрын
It's not your fault!
@OdinPlays945 жыл бұрын
Watch Trash Humpers. Same director as Good Will Hunting
@childhoodisthatyou98695 жыл бұрын
Its a great movie
@sakhilepadi35015 жыл бұрын
Oh my goodness. I watched the movie after being fired. I was back home, unemployed and depressed. First time I cried while watching a movie. It definitely struck a nerve.
@-4subscriberswithahammerad5215 жыл бұрын
Me having no girlfriend: Haha that’s nice
@Max_Le_Groom5 жыл бұрын
Cha Cha real smooth.
@piotrkoczwara43705 жыл бұрын
prolly yo father abused u and your mother didn't let you make your own choices
@LISBONKULT5 жыл бұрын
@@Taken1st me asking you how is that possible, how old are you?
@yorbendw50355 жыл бұрын
@@Taken1st I feel you. I'm 22 and discovering the world as well. Good luck and enjoy trying 😁 May the love be with you (and be two-sided of course) 😘 !!
@LISBONKULT5 жыл бұрын
@@Taken1st what about your teenage years?
@HallieEva3 жыл бұрын
One of the pitfalls to being a secure type is that you just are comfortable with both affection but also the absence of the person you feel like whether they're busy or whatever you feel secure but your avoidant or anxiously attached partner they don't feel that way if you're busy or whatever they jump to conclusions.
@zsofiasej3 жыл бұрын
Omg this!!!! Like securely attached types suffer because of the insecurely attached ones. This happens in friendships all the time too.
@cantthinkofaname50463 жыл бұрын
True, which is why people should try to be more knowledgeable of these things for their own well-being
@diabolicjackel89053 жыл бұрын
pretty sure you're right. Working 2 jobs previously to support my driving to see my ex every weekend. So when I was working I wasn't talking as much because ya know, tired. And even tho this was explained a few times she still had the anxious thing going strong. Eventually tells me she is feeling single even tho we are together, so I told her she was then. I was busy at work and cared more for the job (that laid me off not long after) than I did for fixing the relationship. thats the TLDR version lol.
@foyo54973 жыл бұрын
Thats not a pitfall for the secure type, that is a pitfall of the other 3. In life for the most part, how you feel is your responsibility. I fit into the secure type, with a dash of avoidant. If the woman Im with feels uneasy because Im okay when she isnt around(which has happened), then that is HER problem that she has to deal with. Its like if a secure person has to "act" insecure when the other isnt around just to make the other feel better. Thats just being disingenuous to myself. If you are jumping to conclusions, then that is YOUR problem.
@pushkarmahajan20523 жыл бұрын
So trueeee
@RacingSnails645 жыл бұрын
"Craves love but doesn't know how to accept it" oh Nebula 😭 good video
@VladaldTrumptin5 жыл бұрын
Hey :) what film is that?
@kkibela5 жыл бұрын
Only because her dad programmed her to need it from him by denying it..
@piggypoo5 жыл бұрын
WHACKA!
@goldenhd96565 жыл бұрын
How but she died if she did she would of accepted
@cloudnine24504 жыл бұрын
**describes an avoidant person** me: oh my god it’s chandler
@icystorm99684 жыл бұрын
Who is Chandler?
@redacted75554 жыл бұрын
Same!
@mlk._4 жыл бұрын
icy storm from the show friends
@leilanijohnson96644 жыл бұрын
@@icystorm9968 From the show Friends.
@belleville18053 жыл бұрын
Yess I rhought about him too
@aspenryder50915 жыл бұрын
Great. I'm avoidant AND fearful. I've got a lot of work to do. edit: At least I don't hate sand. I can deal with that.
@andir81195 жыл бұрын
Aspen Ryder Same, i think i have ADHD.
@IslandVibez_Virgo3 жыл бұрын
This is so well explored. As someone who is currently in therapy to work through my fearful attachment style, I hv to say that Matt Damon’s performance gave me chills.
@osse1n5 жыл бұрын
*That's why people are so damaged in today's society.* Parents don't have time with their kids, leaving them scarred for life. Look within for answers and face your fears for detachment.
@matthewreid11755 жыл бұрын
How does a little independence scarr someone for life? I'm curious what your perspective is on this, no argument just wanna know what youre trying to say
@foodank_atr8175 жыл бұрын
@@matthewreid1175 because they're left to learn through sources that may not be suitable or provide the best examples, also if you only have yourself to define morality, the base level may be skewed if you have nothing to reference it against.
@CalebMcFarland5 жыл бұрын
Matthew Reid I’m pretty sure he’s talking about neglect not fostering independence.
@qwerty2229995 жыл бұрын
People are not damaged these days, it's all a matter of perspective, and today's prosperity in the western society leads to a narrow perspective on youths perception of evil, terror, grief and so fourth. We don't get much of it, which leads to little things hurting us more than it should. It's in times of great terror or hopelessness that we find the best side of ourselves, and cast aside petty anxiousness in order to pursue our happiness. It's proven that in times of war, people tend to lean on love and all we find good, while in lack thereof, we tend to seek self-sabotage, in an evil absent society. There's much truth in the saying "There can't be no good without evil," because it's all perspective, and if we lose the evil, we fail to see what good is.
@franciscasilva84065 жыл бұрын
Comparing with a century ago, I would say parents give much more time to their kids. Back then if you were rich you were raised by a nanny and if you were poor you were to work to help feed the family.
@rorycarter20375 жыл бұрын
Avoidant is 100% my partner, even when I showed her this she avoided it 😂
@mariobros78344 жыл бұрын
Maybe she is just cheating on you
@eatmyphatphuckingass4 жыл бұрын
@@mariobros7834 yikes
@minicc264 жыл бұрын
yupp my avoidant mothers was like no no i dont want to watch that video
@BethyKable4 жыл бұрын
Rory Carter You and your partner need counseling
@akashhazarika27824 жыл бұрын
I know u r hurt inside.. They aren't avoidant they are just narssistic
@ZANZANMANMAN5 жыл бұрын
obsession can form without knowing a person. they just described bollywood.!
@lyinmyenn5 жыл бұрын
om shanti om 😭
@theindianreviewroast66615 жыл бұрын
Hey, Can you explain that?
@ZANZANMANMAN5 жыл бұрын
@@theindianreviewroast6661 a lot of people in bollywood movies fall insanely deeply in love and have no prior connection especially stalking etc.
@Phaseofftime5 жыл бұрын
@@ZANZANMANMAN Tere Naam 🤣
@khmur30065 жыл бұрын
@@ZANZANMANMAN Maybe that's just bad writing, lazy setup for characters.
@ElffieElix3 жыл бұрын
Me: I'm not an avoidant type Video: tell someone you care about how much they mean to you! Me: y'know, I'm a little bit of an avoidant myself
@domproductions263 жыл бұрын
you mean a lot to me man. This comment resonates with me
@emilyscarpato96095 жыл бұрын
Video: Fearful is the rarest of them all Me: Ok good this can’t be me! *watches him explain fearful* Me: Ok wow that’s me...
@redwingsfan36215 жыл бұрын
I think it’s more common than he claims.
@sarahs.96784 жыл бұрын
Same. 😮
@lucamorgi80644 жыл бұрын
@@redwingsfan3621 Well, I'm currently in therapy and I'm the fearful type, so... I think there might be some connection. Let's hope it's not as common as you seem to think it is
@shannenlibres23654 жыл бұрын
That's so sad, hope you'll be ok
@brooksy3854 жыл бұрын
Actually im fearful too. Even though i want relationships and a mentor figure, i dont open up because im afraid
@Rogersensei935 жыл бұрын
I guess I'm an avoidant and that explains why i like Tony Stark so much
@michellewebb30445 жыл бұрын
And as someone who has dated "avoidant" and married "fearful"... this explains why I hate that character so much. Also, he's sexist AF.
@tomgjgj5 жыл бұрын
I think I'm an avoidant and I dislike him quite a lot. I wanna be Cap, dammit.
@moving.quotes5 жыл бұрын
It's amazing that these characters are so well thought out. This was entirely different dimension that I got to look at after watching this video
@bzleo20035 жыл бұрын
I think I'm anxious but I like Tony Stark because I wish I was avoidant lol.
@LuvTheEars22325 жыл бұрын
SAMMMMEEE for me it also explain why I hate Steve Rogers so much
@k.v.83355 жыл бұрын
I've never seen "the Notebook", only some parts of it but for me it always looked creepy instead of romantic...
@vinodkumaraug5 жыл бұрын
I think that romance movies should focus more on what could possibly happen in real life than these stalker behaviours. Stalking is creepy. Period. Never seen 'The Notebook', never will 😎
@DrAlchem015 жыл бұрын
@@vinodkumaraug The Netflix show 'You' kind of shows this, but it's one of very few examples
@finnorourke48615 жыл бұрын
Yeah it was crazy, I even thought it was too dangerous
@hekimeti16145 жыл бұрын
@@DrAlchem01 I dont think "you" is a very good example of this, because the show does not make any of it romantic. The stalking and the creepiness is not made to seem romantic at all
@crablord79345 жыл бұрын
Eternal Sunshine of Spotless Mind, there you go
@sootsprite83333 жыл бұрын
I’ve found that the reason I dislike hugs is because my parents used to force my siblings and I to “hug it out” after we fought. I would express my feelings and be in an uncomfortable situation but forget my feelings, we had to hug which made the matter even more uncomfortable. Subconsciously my brain was associating hugging with uncomfortability and neglect. That’s why every time I hug somebody it just feels fake, I never received a genuine hug in my childhood. But i’m learning to combat this by slowly including physical touch in deep/intimate moments so I can finally feel that hugging can be a genuine expression of love.
@Toasty_Britches2 жыл бұрын
That's a very good awareness and solution, you're doing admirably.
@walmartbargainbin5 жыл бұрын
Sand is like an abusive ex-boyfriend. Coarse, rough, and irritating, and it gets everywhere.
@thereisnosanctuary61845 жыл бұрын
FBI Builds castles next to the ocean, can become glass ornaments, symbolizes summer, childhood, fun.
@thereisnosanctuary61845 жыл бұрын
Ex-Hate was Love, once.
@thaneros5 жыл бұрын
Long story short childhood is very important and is the building block of adult life.
@viktorthevictor62405 жыл бұрын
Well fuck me then
@perciousmatter70015 жыл бұрын
7
@mikerodrigues98225 жыл бұрын
Which is why I hate myself every time I fail to my son.
@boldone665 жыл бұрын
Fuc-
@city_hippie10175 жыл бұрын
Ahh that's why I'm so fucked up 😂
@victorym7444 жыл бұрын
This made me get over a breakup. I couldn't rationalize my partner's behavior. They both craved and feared attachment and that confused me to no end.
@Debba_Iptum3 жыл бұрын
craved and feared attachment....sound like me....it may not mean much from a stranger but i feel sorry for the pain it caused you bieng with such a person and i hope your next relationship is less confussing
@mikasasukasa44793 жыл бұрын
i got really emotional realizing how much "Fearful" resonated with me
@teharthe3 жыл бұрын
same here bro. Fearful to the bone.
@Arniqua5 жыл бұрын
Wow. I felt intimidated by the explanation of the 'Fearful' type. I start off as an avoidant person, but turn into the Fearful type as the relationship deepens.
@NajCarnage5 жыл бұрын
I ruined my relationship. I didnt realize i was avoiding her after we got serious until it was too late. I felt uncomfortable and didnt understand why, and i regret what i did so much
@brandongreen6295 жыл бұрын
This is LITERALLY me! I couldn’t explain it any better. Whew this video was heavier than I thought it was going to be.
@kkibela5 жыл бұрын
Oh wow.. Was mot expecting this level of being read today.. And on youtube of all things wow
@opelaurora32765 жыл бұрын
that's abusive and you should be alone until you work on that
Now I see why I call my friend "cheesy" when he verbally/non-verbally demonstrates his deep friendship with me or the others. And why uttering simple words attached with emotional value makes me uncomfortable.
@Bunnyxxxb5 жыл бұрын
Pula Ancanan me too, i thought something was wrong with me for a while because I can’t be emotional publically or hug people
@Red_Wright13575 жыл бұрын
"Don't worry man. I'm here for you buddy. That's what good friends are. We lift each other up." *Damnit. I appreciate it but that is just so damn cheesy. We don't have to discuss it
@Banana_hamock5 жыл бұрын
@@Bunnyxxxb same..even eye contact is hard.. I started therapy and even that is very daunting.. but I'm hoping to get a little better
@kylekissack46335 жыл бұрын
I love you🤗 lol
@sobreaver5 жыл бұрын
Exactly, now you understand, by stepping out of your own ego and acknowledging the one of others. ultimately, it's all about this, KNOW THYSELF. Enjoy while you still can XD
@MoarRushPl0x3 жыл бұрын
I became pretty obsessed with someone I hardly knew. It's been 6 years since I've seen her and she is still on my mind daily.
@sharyarc82473 жыл бұрын
Wtf Im having the same issue, its so weird
@user-fo2on3dn1c3 жыл бұрын
Why cant we all just die already..
@Realivangarcia3 жыл бұрын
You need to seek closure. I got over her after 8 years since the beginning of highschool. You need to seek her and really just talk to her one last time. Get it all out of your chest, that’ll set you free.
@MoarRushPl0x3 жыл бұрын
@@Realivangarcia I appreciate your advice and I think you are correct. I have been thinking of what to say to her for awhile now. Thank you for suggesting the healthy thing to do. I don't really have anyone to talk about this with.
@holyromanracist57593 жыл бұрын
Your comment reminds me of myself. I'm sorry if this is a bother, but I have to get this off my chest. I met a girl at a family friend's birthday party once. She's one of the few who showed true interest in me back when I was not confident and insecure(still am to an extent, but hey, I've made serious strides). I was a freshman in highschool, was picked on, and if I wasn't being picked on I was being shunned. This girl was likely slightly older than me as she could drive, and I had just started to think about getting my temporary license. Due to me being an avoidant(might have been a fearful type back then), I couldn't look her in the eyes. Her social advances made me withdraw more into my shell. She didn't leave when I got awkward though. Instead she joined me and my sisters and played foosball and ice hockey with us. When I saw she didn't judge me, I settled in a bit and was able to talk to her, still didn't look her in the eyes much, other than to steal a quick glance here and there. We ended up teaming up against my sisters on foosball. Little mannerisms and awkward interactions still cropped up as we played for a few hours...but she still didn't leave. It was quite obvious she had an interest in me. My sisters, and mother, both commented on it and even the pastor at the church made a comment. It didn't last for long though. Fear started to grip me as we continued to play and eventually when it was time to leave I didn't have the courage to say anything to her. I didn't ask for her number. I didn't ask her name. I didn't ask where she was from. Today, I don't even remember what she looks like, what her voice sounds like, or even her hair color. It doesn't matter really. That's not what I was attracted to. Not the shell. It was *her.* Her kindness was, in my experience, a rare thing. I think she was my soulmate, but maybe I'm just being dramatic. This party happened in the state of Ohio, in a small church with a beaten up white painted gym, and it was about 3-5 years ago. If you're out there and happen to see this, I hope you know I regret everything about that day. I'm still looking for you, and hope I find you some day, even if it's just to talk. I've changed alot. I'm sure you have too. I hope you feel the same way about me, that I feel about you. Sorry for the book, but I feel much better now. TLDR: Hey kind girl, I met 3-5 years ago, I miss you alot.
@lemonyxsugar69985 жыл бұрын
I'm definitely avoidant... whenever my boyfriend tells me he loves me I literally have to take a big breath before I say it back, thing is I do love him, I'm just scared it won't end well
@tigerssjaw4 жыл бұрын
that means your anxious (pre-occupied attachment), you want and enjoy closeness but worry that your partner will discover flaws and faults.
@jakeoswald80174 жыл бұрын
Sara Benavides or they’re avoidant, avoidant act in similar ways. I’m anxious and I have no problem saying I love someone because I believe it makes the connection stronger and lessens the chance of it dissipating
@jakeoswald80174 жыл бұрын
Sara Benavides my girlfriend is avoidant and had a super hard time saying she loved me despite knowing she loves me lots
@ButiLao444 жыл бұрын
I only told people that I loved them a handful of times. Most of them was my host mom when I lived abroad because she unlike my parents was emotionally present, once was during this time abroad when I texted my parents that I love them (they did not reply so I never did it again) and once was to my friend group when I was extremely drunk. So what does that say about me haha...
@cowboy43784 жыл бұрын
Nice
@ejw23544 жыл бұрын
Me, trying to figure out which one I am, while never having been in a romantic relationship of any kind:
@GinkgoBee4 жыл бұрын
Ahh, so that's why I can relate to none
@hehehe7853 жыл бұрын
Ya I can’t relate to any these
@ihopeicanchangethisnamelat71083 жыл бұрын
Me, knowing full well that I’m aroace, trying to figure out which one I am:
@FruityHachi3 жыл бұрын
attachment style isn't just about romantic relationships, it's how you relate to people in any kind of relationship - friendship, family i've never been in a romantic relationship either but i know what my attachment style is
@generaldream62063 жыл бұрын
me seeing the word avoidant and knowing that's me even tho I've never been in a relationship
@samhayes-astrion5 жыл бұрын
_Looks at the thumbnail_ I didn't know Anakin Skywalker was an MCU character.
@jocelynhussey94005 жыл бұрын
Astrion But they are all owned by Disney ;)
@shaymiantewhau30145 жыл бұрын
Good will hunting is also part of the MCU
@VINTAGE19595 жыл бұрын
@@shaymiantewhau3014 lol, in reference to the other comment....Good will hunting is also owned by Disney....
@JeffAndresWilliams3 жыл бұрын
"Anxious is the inverse of avoidant" uuuhhh, but I'm both. Help, I'm confused and afraid! "Fearful combines traits of anxious and avoidant types" Oh thank God, that explains it.
@rafay85165 жыл бұрын
So, Ross Geller is the Anxious type. He has an idealized view of Rachel and is clingy and gets jealous and is paranoid he will lose someone just like he did Carrol.
@rektzvlogs47155 жыл бұрын
Where tf did Ross Geller come from?
@rafay85165 жыл бұрын
@@rektzvlogs4715 Just an observation
@victoriaodegaard15 жыл бұрын
And Chandler is avoidant, using comedy to avoid having to expose his feelings
@denisblack98975 жыл бұрын
Joe is pretty secure
@catchpokemon9045 жыл бұрын
But they were on a break !
@Wimbell935 жыл бұрын
Kind of impressed that Lucas nailed the portrayal of the anxious attachment type. I don't think he ever got credit for that.
@jlupus88045 жыл бұрын
Anakin’s development as a character is one of the few things the prequels did right.
@k.c.87225 жыл бұрын
I guess we just didn’t want to root or feel sorry for a guy like that. Or we thought the great Darth Vader was too macho badass for such an arc
@luzpueblalara41285 жыл бұрын
From the point of view of a drama it's actually great
@loor47535 жыл бұрын
Luz Puebla Lara Force awakens and the last Jedi were so bad now people think the prequels were good
@luzpueblalara41285 жыл бұрын
@@loor4753 I don't really care about the Star Wars saga... I just like the actor and I saw some of his movies
@Bazus054 жыл бұрын
I'm 100% an avoidant type. I have trouble verbally expressing positive emotions. Its gotten so bad that I can only say "I love you" to my parents on certain occasions. While I was growing up, my dad was always busy with work and sometimes travel whilst my mother had to worry about my special needs sister. Neither my Dad or Mom had the time to give me full emotional attention. I know they tried their best, but life is tough, as we all know.
@cristiansaravia44763 жыл бұрын
I just never had parents I live with my grandma and uncle but my grandmother is gotta be the nicest person in the world to me , luv Grandma 👊
@tianarose15493 жыл бұрын
Same!!! My dad is a merchant and was gone a lot overseas and my mom had to take care of my special needs sister as well!!!! Until they got divorced and I had to help all the time
@cristiansaravia44763 жыл бұрын
@@tianarose1549 ya sadly not everyone gets a happy beginning but we still have the choice to get a happy ending by just accepting that we're not the same as everyone else but we can still be happy our own ways
@murray61883 жыл бұрын
its weird because my parents are really emotionally available but for some reason i shut them down every time. i dont remember the last time i said i love you to them directly even though i do.
@cristiansaravia44763 жыл бұрын
@@murray6188 you should cause you never know when the last time your gonna see them
@Barbell_Bolter3 жыл бұрын
Damn I think I’m a fearful type, thank god I don’t take things out on other people, only myself 😪
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