How to Control Your Impulses So You Don't Ruin Your Life

[@adnanazmi.]

- It's important to take action without overthinking it. - Most of our problems come from not controlling our impulses. - Our brain has circuits that control our actions and thoughts, some that make us act and some that stop us from acting. - We can train the circuits that stop us from acting by doing small things that stop us from reacting impulsively. - We don't train the circuits that stop us from acting enough because we're too focused on doing things. - As adults, we often have unstructured time and too much distraction from things like phones. - Focusing for 90 minutes and resisting the urge to do something else can help us train the circuits that stop us from acting impulsively. - Learning to sit still and resist the urge to move is a powerful skill.

[@Origoldklang]

Thank you

[@antbar0200]

Great notes. Thank you!

[@diannehydern]

I was searching for treatment and found this. I'm so happy it doesn't require medication. Thank you again, Dr. Huberman. Also, the comments didn't disappoint. Thanks, Shane, for this interview.

[@istareatmirrors]

It’s a struggle when you’re in a relationship, and you can’t control your impulsiveness. it makes it seem like you’re not trying, or you don’t care, and sometimes it’s hard for my s/o to understand.

[@amberchaba1148]

I’m going to try this! I think it should help a lot. In a sense, saying no to yourself is like being a parent to yourself. Like no you can’t go on your phone all day. I think this is a great technique

[@piercecottingham]

A long, long time ago, before my ptsd spiraled down a dark rabbit hole, I used to be incredibly good at controlling any impulses I had. I was like a Zen monk. Nearly untouchable. I was able to accomplish this feat by completely ignoring my emotions and doing what I felt was more important. I got good at it. However, America has the power to break anybody. Just like they did me

[@chaithrashrihari3047]

I am going to practice this excellent advice (Thanks Dr. Andrew) ! Its indeed going to get me to stay focussed.

[@JamieR]

It works profoundly well when meditating for longer stretches of a time. The mind's always monkeying around, trying to justify why it's ok to stop. After a few weeks or months the mind stops trying as you've become the master. Such a good feeling. Detachment. Can see emotions, thoughts and urges pop up before they arrive and evaluate before actually acting.

[@swapnamondal5726]

When its advice Indians r on top 🤣

[@cnicoll59]

​@@JamieRsounds amazing 😊 and possible lol...

[@The_Sickest_M4]

This is a huge part of why day trading is so difficult. When you talk about veering away from a plan at the gym, there’s almost zero consequence for doing that. When you veer off your trading plan, there can be massive, instant consequences. Immediate feedback and punishment for doing so. So important to be in control of yourself.

[@marketwizard1977]

So true man…it’s so hard to stick to your plan and think in probabilities

[@Momojojo727]

I’m literally here because of that, my impulsiveness is killing me. I have ADHD and I’m sick of making profit and then losing it all bc of how impulsiveness I have. It’s the only thing keeping me from success

[@slinkycrown8757]

stop speculating. read these books if you really want to get good at investing and stop trying to win a fools game. 1) the intelligent investor - benjamin graham 2) the most important thing - howard marks 3) stock market logic - normal g fosback anton kriel was the guy who got me out of this short term thinking. he's really good and his educational content is top tier when it comes to understanding how practicing predicting short term market fluctuations is not only stupid but also impossible to sustain long term. It's something proven statistically. im only writing this comment not to sound smart but to let you know i have been there, i was also into the whole idea of day trading until i discovered anton kriel and actual investing educational literature. good luck.

[@benjamindsouza6736]

I have a similar problem. Vipassana (awareness/insight) meditation has helped me overcome it, & life is now beautiful.

[@hewhoischosen4869]

​@@Momojojo727 same man , i have a very profitable strategy and im at a point where im detached from losses but i just cant focus on trading because it seems boring so i just watch youtube and dont get anything done including trading

[@ThrowDaLobHun23]

i’m a professional bettor and my impulses to revenge bet have been my downfall. I must overcome this

[@Iceman8032X]

Same problem here. How are you doing now bro?

[@ThrowDaLobHun23]

better , I changed my risk management and practicing detachment

[@nicholaskohuch6808]

More examples of no go avtions would be really helpful

[@Famousechoppa]

This really helped me with my life like 100 much love goes to u thanks u 😊❤

[@darwinmolina8531]

thanks for this little things to improve my impulses ! I need to be better

[@explainous]

Someone is watching this video and getting ideas about writing a 300-page self-help book out of this.

[@Iwasaloserbeforethis04]

Me. Bawling my eyes out. In the Middle of my fight because of me and my impulsive actions.

[@DarthOrion]

This is very helpful to me. Going to start this today with goes and no goes. My impulses control so much of my choice and life and I've been lost to stop it. I've been masking who I am for so long I don't even know who I am. I really hate myself and hate the way I think. I'm looking for pity or sympathy to be clear, I just need structure to my life and to know how to say no to myself. Any advice is welcome. I want to be better for myself and my family, they deserve better than me and I hate myself for that.

[@DarthOrion]

I've had success with this, I set the bar a bit lower with 10 but thinking about it does help me recognize things as they are happening. I've lost track of time majorly today. jeez.

[@Musicsoundsbetterwithyou17]

Same shit being in parasympathetic state helps but mostly im just blank on whats happening i’ve been trying to control or not control and everything is not actually working out . If you got any tips would appreciate

[@SpadeSchumacher]

What are some more examples of No-Go responses?

[@billomaticles]

very Zen like immersion. Dr has resilient self rewards system; nice exemplar!

[@MywesternfatherAsianfath-pj4wq]

Thank you

[@dad-ms8mz]

.I had impulsive behaviour to Text my crush repeatedly.. which was making me perceived as a desperate guy. But Contextualising this issue makes me aware and now I have weapon to counter it... Atleast I know my enemy now...❤ Great helpful Video

[@houdannycomedymagic8642]

Very sound advice! Will do. Thanks.

[@Manima108]

How do we determine what is a go and a no go function? Do we merely follow our intuition? For example, let's say our dopamine circuits reinforce reflexive cognitively stimulating behaviours through training, such as reading. Are our no-go functions implicitly "shallow", such as social media scrolling, eating junk food, etc? Or, are they reflexive behaviours which could be those aforementioned shallow behaviours or just reflexive ones which could also be implicily "deep", like reading, or learning a new language?

[@MohamedSherifQ]

Good question. This is why in for example in Islam we believe that doing thing in haste is the action of the devil. And that not all our own thoughts are our own. We have angelic thoughts , thoughts of the self feeling (hunger or anger for example) and devilish inspirations. These devilish thoughts are not ours but just inspirations from the devil. The devil wants to use your feelings against you. That is why islam is all about self-control for the good. And these power will only came with true believe. Having self-control because of truth given true meaning to act meaningful knowing this is a test. And we learn self-control via parenting. And we learn self- control parenting via God. Or via what or who else? If we follow our desires blind we will go only for go. And if we follow the desires of others, you will determine your framework of good and bad via people. While religion gives you the good and bad beforehand, not dependend on the Ghost of the time. But the good and bad always, yesterday, now and tomorrow. every time the same. The self is good but out desires is the weakness the devil use. So we mis-use our given body. By doing corruption to it. And we know for sure we humans can do really bad things to ourselves because of our desires. let alone spiritual. God know ourselves better than we know ourselves. And God is our Master and God gave us teachers to learn to became closer to the self for what we are made for!

[@IliaFloros]

Come on guys we def know what we should be and shouldn't be doing the shouldn't just feel comfortable so it feels like a should function and anything other than fulfilling those impulses feels insane. I'm just getting around now to realizing and taking action into fixing my life and issues better late than never but god damn it feels weird cus I've been living 26 years this way ..

[@twodreamsonehome1900]

You determine it by previous outcomes

[@TeIechubbie]

Very insightful

[@Kampfrattex3]

Thing is when I do a no go action I feel like I’m suppressing myself… and treating myself badly cause I’m denying me something.

[@dejanmarkovic3040]

Well, you are...but not the whole of yourself, but rather just that aspect. Also, your brain isn't perfect. Neither is anybody else's. The reason I say that is because ...well, just because you have the idea to do something, it doesn't mean it's in your best interest. It doesn't even mean you really wanna do it. It might be just a habit. We make a lot of excuses for some of our shtty behaviors...we're good at that. If you're a little hungry, you might say to yourself you're starving, just so you can gorge something fatty or sweet. Also, the internet doesn't help. Everybody's telling us to do whatever tf we want all the fkn time. Nobody does that. Not a spoiled child, nobody...not even other living beings...not even a paramecium. And also, who tf are you to always get to do whatever you want without consequences? I don't mean you personally, but anybody. What exactly did you have in mind whem you made that comment? Can you remember? I'm not tryina lifecoach you, obviously I'm here for a reason :D

[@playertim5753]

Thanks

[@muskduh]

This is great thanks

[@grantfreeman5327]

Thank you so much, it's already ruined my life. Maybe I can turn this into something now

[@Ironfrenzy217]

That's actually huge for my ADHD.

[@Ornate-ln9qh]

I don’t really know if this works for everyone. The No go circuitry can be hard to maintain. It provides no reward only concious effort. If you’re prone to picking up the phone anyway how do you suppose to manage?

[@iyasalqasem4090]

Interesting practices which he says he is trying to do. But can he talk to their efficacy, or are they just experiments he's trying out?

[@timeisntreal]

He's a Doctor in neuroscience and stated based off his knowledge of the wiring of the brain these are the practices he does. It's safe to assume these practices are the most efficient in rewiring ones brain

[@joshellwood6322]

No go my ADHD

[@justinricey5496]

Please teach me 😂

[@Aurosis]

Your disorders are excuses.

[@novadream1184]

Brilliant observation

[@novamanzana2261]

"so you don't ruin your life" is crazy😂😂

[@bessachourouk5697]

رائع ،شكرا

[@tistrya-424]

Try not get goosebumps when listening to your favorite song.

[@PayoneerSele]

1:59

[@PayoneerSele]

5:17

[@lawrencegroves8307]

Mind over matter

[@AJ-me1dg]

This is why in the Orthodox Christian church we fast twice a week.

[@freedom4all418]

that is a very good idea . i haven't explored that solution as of yet but now i definitely will . thanks

[@joannasen5232]

Another Orthodox Christian here - cool to see another!!

[@astronaut1751]

That’s also why Muslims fast the whole month of Ramadan .

[@sagarpokharel70]

But once its a ritual bounded by social proof. Its becomes a go response.

[@mosizz4693]

Wow thats interesting, us muslims also fast twice a week (Mondays and Thursdays) according to the lifestyle of the prophet muhammad pbuh

[@claudio-w9b4x]

Very good. But it still seems like a very limited understanding of meditation, mindfulness, and secular buddhism teachings. Feeling that Hubberman always fumbles and doesn't realize that perhaps 2500 years of practice observing emotions and thoughts has already reached a good level of practical wisdom (metaphysical beliefs completely aside), which could very well deliver him a system and concepts in place of his rebuilding one by one through his studies.

[@justinhersom130]

I agree, I have to wonder if thinks of meditation as a way to escape emotions (as many people do) instead of understanding and observing them in the present.

[@PSEUDObrucelee]

Buddhism is not secular .it is a religion. You ain't a Christian if u practice it .

[@LylasDad]

You have some really good information but communicating that info seems difficult for you and confusing for us.

[@sssutube1]

I realize that i did have a lot of 'no-go' set of practices, which was part of self discipline. So perhaps Dr. Huberman is just using some newer words for the same thing as self-discipline.

[@leahcimual]

indeed alot of this boils down to having self discipline but i think this no-go practice gamifies the monumental task of self discipline into manageable sub-tasks of rejecting simple day to day impulses. essentially, start small and enjoy its knock-on effects

[@tuningsnow]

@@leahcimual yep, it breaks down the discipline practice in actionable tiny actions

[@swapnamondal5726]

Wow

[@katayna_girl8468]

Wait- are the no-goes things you want to do or don’t?

[@A.2.0.2.4-5]

Quit coffee first

[@thisisaidan4278]

Bruh fuck my adhd

[@noway1343]

I dont like this guy. He definitely dosent do what he tells people. The bearded one.

[@ManuChaotica]

Oh that's really clever, ignoring the fire alarm. How huge can a person's ego be in order to brag about a stupidity like that?

[@Nowski2104]

Boy that metaphor really went right over your head didn't it

[@rkr894able]

Go go go = Shorts videos all over the social media -_- wish i could disabled them on KZbin. Key: turn off all thr notifications in ur phone.

[@Nerdraker]

I used to check my phone every morning and then lapse into reading emails. Hated it. Then I put a sock on my phone, now everytime I go to check it I gotta take off the sock. tip: use clean sock

[@rkr894able]

@@Nerdraker Very Unique lol