HOW TO DATE IN MED SCHOOL & RESIDENCY

IS DATING IN MED SCHOOL & RESIDENCY POSSIBLE? Dr. Buck answers a common question from medical school students, residents, nurses, doctors, and surgeons; Can you have a relationship in medicine?
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[@theeyesurgeon1]

The divorce rate in med school and residency had to be close to 80%. My fiancé was asking me last night what I’m going to do when we have kids and I’m on call? I said “I’m going to goto the hospital”

[@edikto33]

didn't your fiancé know your job before you got engaged? what kind of a question is that? jeez

[@Boelle.]

Kyle, I'm not a resident or doctor, but I would have answered the same way.

[@AjitMD]

In some Residency/Fellowship programs, the divorce rate can exceed 100%. The Chief Resident tells that at the interview. It is important to find a partner, in the same field that understands the hard work, hours, etc. Best to have a prenup. Have kids after on of you has finished training, unless there is a lot financial support. Avoid accidental pregnancies. Quite a few suicides, litigation, etc due to careless behavior.

[@billytessio6326]

Step 1: Be good looking Step 2: Be in med school/residency

[@nishthedr]

@x Toaster God x a hahahhahahahah, yours is better plan

[@josephmueller3752]

Step 3: be an incel who reads forums

[@nombla1111]

I think i'll be okay with being single throughout medical school/ residency =) ... The person that I was dating for 5+ years broke up with me during my MCAT prep because I wasn't spending enough time with them. Imagine if we'd stayed together through med school. Forget about it. Definitely find someone that's in a similar field, or is truly committed to you and understands your ambition.

[@Im0nJupiter]

Dude yeah, a similar thing happened to me. My girlfriend and I broke up because of my study/work/hospital internship (unpaid, of course). 3.5 year relationship. It's very very tough to digest, but I know if we couldn't make it through my premed, medical school wasn't in the question. She was a physics major (we started dating in HS), she was ambitious as well, but she didn't get it.

[@jacobl5488]

"Not a lot of dr. Mike's out there" LOL

[@LS-xx8wg]

As a non-medicine individual currently dating a senior internal medicine resident man , here are my thoughts. We started dating at the beginning of his residency and I had a lot of negative feedback from friends saying that it would never work. I agree, that the demand of residency never ceases to impress me. It was a difficult adjustment at first, because even though I consider myself to be understanding there were times when I felt discouraged. But what I can say is that we truly do cherish the time that we do have, whether it be a quick phone call or even meeting him for a quick cup off coffee. I've learned how to be creative when it comes to finding time and doing my best I can to support him. If you truly want eachother it can work but if its an "iffy" relationship it's easy to grow distant .

[@properjaw]

You look like Jamie Lannister

[@caribaez5711]

I will go to nursing school. I would date someone but seriously not playing around. Someone who is in school and have goals. Understanding, Ambitious, loving, and studious person.

[@benukasz]

Your textbooks are your significant other

[@quoc0dile]

don't get paper cuts

[@rochelleb5313]

quoc0dile ooo

[@meganr9637]

You should do a day in the life

[@christophersurnname9967]

I'll do a day in the life baby

[@mathu991]

Christopher Surnname I’m intrigued

[@christophersurnname9967]

Matthew Norrod you seen my other comments on here bro? I’m doing all kinds of shit. Banged an attending.

[@nataliegordon3132]

Im a 4th year medical student and Im finding it way harder than my male colleagues in the dating pool. Guys get more girls because they're doctors, but for girls we're seen as more intimidating. Hopefully I'll have more luck in residency?

[@drbuckparker]

Natalie Gordon totally tru. Hope u find someone amazinnngggg

[@mustafawali4488]

Sorry to say it, but it's because unlike women, men don't care about degrees.

[@lilrabbitcuz]

Or maybe you are intimidating? I don’t know you personally but it seems more and more women have an issue with power. The only guys I know have that issue are ones that were already assholes. It’s hard dating girls that are pushy and demanding. I say this because my experience with good looking smart chicks that carry Dr in front of their name. We aren’t afraid, it’s just hard to find a girl that can balance that and remain sweet

[@sycamoretree2241]

Yeah and also guys want to feel powerful over their girl. some average guy would feel less dominant I guess if he was dating a woman who is a doctor. Not all men are like that though so you’ll be fine

[@mosesyi5523]

Date a rich dude. You deserve it.

[@Animemaniaclover]

I am so distracted by that beautiful backdrop of the mountains through the sunroof Lovely video!

[@westfield90]

The few doctors I know all married other doctors they met during residency since I think both parties know the schedule demands

[@onixtheone]

Be honest and let people know what you want: Hey I’m not looking for a serious relationship or commitment, but I’m down to “Netflix and chill”. OR Hey I’m looking to settle down, (this will be harder to find). Be honest and don’t waste each other’s time

[@naadiyapatel3490]

I think certain nurses would understand. I worked ICU up until June (now in residency I stay home), but I saw how hard the doctors in my unit worked, how they were at the nurse and patient's beckon call. So I understood doctors are first married to medicine and their patient's needs and then married to their spouse. I cannot tell you how many weddings, family events and friend hangouts I attended completely alone, it was hard, but I think a strong spouse would definitely understand. I will say this, I always tell my friends not to marry medical students/medical residents unless the end of residency is coming very soon haha. Great video.

[@Im0nJupiter]

I'm pretty bummed out thinking about my future and med school. I'm a family man type (I was raised without a dad, I really look forward to providing my children a great dad but also the resources to succeed). I don't really know that I have the option for that kind of lifestyle for a very very long time. Very disheartening.

[@bezagebremedhine5102]

True Love is only from God your creator. Cling to Him and pray and the right person by "coincidence " will pop up. Peace beloved

[@Ines_Ella]

I'm in med school , me and a guy who's a year ahead of me are having a crush on each other for 2 years 😂 and we didnt make it official because we're both stuck fighting to survive evil exams 😞💔

[@EllOhhVeeE33]

🤣🤣

[@sunflowers_n_coffee]

lol hey u didnt call us party people dr buck 😂. great video

[@talainsein]

I totally understand where you are coming from. My field is not in the field of medicine but I thank God my best half is so understanding again our fields are totally different. Thank you for sharing your experience. Take care Doc, you are blessed

[@RoliChauhanOfficial]

I didn’t get the last part of this video! We can get fired for dating someone we are working with? What ? To be honest , it was painfully hard to date in medical school !! At the tender age of my early twenties I really craved that while studying depressed notes of biochemistry and anatomy!! But nobody wanted to date me at that time. The guys all wanted that Barbie doll blondie hot chic of the class !! It seriously felt like high school where you have one popular hot girl with all guys after her/them!! Today I look back and I can’t believe I allowed that to make me feel depressed, lonely , unwanted and unsupported !!! Today I don’t need anybody’s support . I love to take care of myself. I wish I had the strength to not be so needy for love , support and affection at that time !! I guess the depressed studying made me feel like that but I should have been stronger . But yeah today I have no problem attracting guys . I have confidence today . I didnt do residency but I am never going to chase any man ever again and put myself in that hurting spot. Heck if I knew there was no love in medical school I would have postponed going to medical school and got married first . We all need love and support in the medical profession . I am still single today but not because I couldn’t find love in medical school !! But seriously medical school dating is horrible. It is painfully nonexistent.

[@KajalP26]

Well don’t really care about the other one you mentioned but There are also not a lot of “Dr Buck “ our there ...

[@lsv99822]

Hi Dr. Parker, I enjoyed the live stream yesterday... people ask some wild stuff man. Lol. Great video today.

[@christophersurnname9967]

Yeah boy that was ME. Your boy right here doing the wildest shit in 3rd yr rotations. It's like real life brazzers up in here dude fuck my life - med school edition. The female attendings just want to be desecrated man, and the young nurses just want my love.

[@maryem8263]

My dating requirements. Step 1: Will date a Doc as long as I get laid. Step 2: Be honest Step 3: Thats all folks! 👍🏻 😂

[@jul059]

“I did a couple nurses”

[@nishthedr]

😂

[@C3yl0]

My bucket relationship goals are: must be a doctor, Med school student or resident & don’t want more children. As a non traditional myself in my way to Med school the last thing I need is a burden. 😂

[@atifjavaid7941]

Just listening to Dr buck makes my day better, pure jokes lol

[@fatonmetehiu3149]

I asked about tracheotomy yesterday at the livestream and you said that a video about it is on its way. I can't wait to see it asap.

[@yoyo-oy7xb]

Can you please talk about doing research while in medical school?

[@Guettchina]

I’m so glad you went on that love show and I was able to find your channel!

[@Rvns556]

Hey Dr. Buck, I was wondering if you could do a video SOLEY about trauma surgery. Including the lifestyle, as well as how it impacts your mental state, yes I know it’s brutal, but you have done it and I am VERY interested in trauma surgery. Thank you for all your videos Dr. they are beyond amazing

[@katiekrupa6608]

Being with a surgeon demands angels patience 😂 Im a teacher, my boyfriend is a surgeon .... Everone Thinks I imagined Him . ... He is always at work... But... Love Him to the Moon , cant imagine a different Man 🤩😍

[@xavi5183]

My man, Im gonna marry a farmer's daughter they'll love you no matter what

[@atifjavaid7941]

Hahahahaaa

[@gregb2195]

Liking the thumbnails Dr. Buck

[@DrAdnan]

It can be done, but it’s rough and you gotta sacrifice your limited free time

[@EllOhhVeeE33]

Oof 😕

[@SmileToday-CryTomorrow]

You can always go to another country if you wanted to practice medicine if things slip up in the career.

[@EllOhhVeeE33]

Thissss

[@smartbeautiful1593]

If you are willing to keep up with YOUR LOOK, I'm willing to COMPROMISE for YOU Dr.Buck ;-)..Love for Seattle.

[@kararodriguez7940]

When married a soldier my family and I never came fist that is something you need to understand it just comes with the job period

[@sonamm1137]

So I (27f) just want on a date after a while with a resident who is a first year in surgery. I initiated the first meet up as well as the second. I’m trying to be as accommodating to his schedule. But he did go to a top ranked school and I was really nervous the first date. I didn’t think it went well which is why I asked him the second time. Part of me is also like am I chasing him?? I asked if he’s interested in a second date and he said he was. Part of me is also like why is he interested in me? Lol I have nothing to offer as much as he did. I am considering pharmacy school.

[@lickinglemons2358]

Dr. Buck is driving past whole mountains in this video?!

[@C3yl0]

I won’t mind to marry a doctor we see each other 2 times per week 😂. I guess that is one of many reasons I’m changing my life career towards medicine 😂

[@uhicanexplain3858]

Lol same here 😂

[@EllOhhVeeE33]

@@uhicanexplain3858 omg 🤣

[@EllOhhVeeE33]

Omg 🤣

[@jonlock5705]

You have great taste in cars. The Macan gts seems like the perfect daily

[@user-vz8ho3ne4f]

self love all day errrdayy 🤯🤯

[@arienetemadfard2059]

hair on point

[@saulgoodman2438]

Don’t hahaha don’t drink and drive but if you do call me 🍻

[@solomongrundy2211]

Short answer: *NO*

[@samuelsmithmed214]

Imagine almost being done with residency and getting booted out for some bs like that, wow.

[@seidyfigueroa3607]

What about when you are in love with your 10 pound poodle and all you do is show him off? That’s a commitment🥳🥳🥳

[@FreeSkillsStyle]

this made me think about the book "house of god"! 10:08 was hilarious

[@cojut]

My doctors in my hospital are all so lovely and friendly and cute, but most of them have girlfriends and the rest are gay and I just become friends with them instead. My colleagues are making fun of me for occasionally fancying one or two of them, but honestly they are literally almost the only men I see as I work more hours then they do! (I totally don't get the things with the hours being a hard thing for doctors, I definitely work more hours then them, I arrive earlier, leave later and work more days than them).

[@christophersurnname9967]

Nothing wrong with crushing on us baby

[@cojut]

@@christophersurnname9967 I suppose not, however it is not particularly sustainable to just have a crush on someone and then they rotate away. It would be really nice to actually be in a relationship sometimes.

[@christophersurnname9967]

@@cojut Before you rotate away express your interest! (ie asking for a number and saying we should stay in touch etc). And during your time with them make it obvious that you think they're cute. You will find that they will respond positively. No guy dislikes when a girl likes them. If you do this I am sure you'll have an ongoing relationship in with one of the Drs in no time.

[@moejoe13]

What do you do that requires you to work more than doctors?

[@cojut]

@@moejoe13 Normally I work on a medical ward as health care assistant starting 08.00-20.30 while the doctors work from around 09.00 to 17.00 (or more like 17.30). Although at times I work in theaters as a theater support worker from 07.30 to around 18.00 depending on how many people there are and if the surgeries are going ahead or not. Not sure how much the doctors work there too be honest, but at least I can tell them that most are not operating towards 6ish and only maybe 1 or 2 theaters will still run at that time.

[@nishanth.f6262]

Are you in a relationship rn?

[@jeangibbons9348]

Really interesting Dr Buck... I'm not in medicine..but am addicted to medical stuff operations the lot..and now healthaly addicted to you and your videos and posts... and your much more good looking and nicer and better hair than doctor mike😊😊😊😘 Sorry Dr Mike but true.. It must be real hard to get a relationship started properly let alone continue one.. Some very lucky lady hopefully will get you one day.. I've bin married for 32 years now so I wish all the love and great things for you... love your sense of humour...your a good man...take care.. 🧔😊😊❤❤

[@JJ-gy1jf]

Hey Buck, great video! What crazy story did you tell those interviews that got you into medicine? a friend of mine got in after saying they were inspired by medical tv shows...

[@nab-rk4ob]

Those vague answers. You know who you are.

[@bonjourangeleyes3215]

Happy Wednesday to you Dr. Buck🌺

[@drose44444]

I completely agree with you on relationship do happen. I'm studying medicine and I have multiple people hooking up in the hospital. One department is trying to ship me with a resident, which I find hilarious.

[@EllOhhVeeE33]

🤣🤣

[@tkeks007]

Lmao, at this point, Dr. Mike is officially cancelled anyways

[@Blonded_ye]

tkeks007 wym lol

[@rushgame5711]

Why

[@majidl1006]

If u want a life don't go to residency, cus u will marry to your work, and obviously u must love it more than anything to continue. So u must know what you want from life first...

[@luissoriano9923]

Just the vid I was waiting for

[@missy7160]

You are an interesting person. However, there are times I watch you and ask myself, "Why are you watching him, Missy?" I mean, your life really relates to nothing in my life. I'm not in medical and never had that desire. I'm a 47-year-old freelance writer who has raised her children alone for about 14 years now. I stay at home. I don't date. And I guess with a few long relationships that failed, I wonder if I will ever date again? I feel that boat sailed around 2006. It's been a long time, and the truth is I don't find myself longing for that type of commitment anymore. I value simple things like poetry, art, listening to birds chirp and solitude. I suppose I'm boring. Maybe I'm waiting for someone special to come to me that will take me as I am. That's what it will take for me to ever consider a relationship again. But, you're fun and I bet your advice does help some people. So, I'll probably keep watching to entertain myself. I always find myself watching on my whimsical days. Lol. Peace. P.S. - Your videos have encouraged me to be more open with my thoughts in a straightforward way instead of just writing them in poems that most people don't have the ability to grasp anyway. That's a good takeaway, right? (giggles)

[@drbuckparker]

awesomeeeee!!! thank u so much!

[@serapf.9768]

Great video! Thank you 😊

[@Johndoe-us8ob]

You could get fired for having a relationship during residency???

[@paris8780]

That's so true, doctors are married to medicine first. 9-6pm work and then work on weekends and oncalls. Dr's not going to have time.

[@jrod8618]

“Wink wink” I know what you’re talking about haha

[@dzikijohnny]

Have the spouse read books about being married to someone in the Military.

[@alisonexe]

He looks like Nikolaj Coster-Waldau

[@hybridlifehealth1912]

Back to the original music, bro

[@ayudewipuspasari6088]

So that is the reason you not married Doc? 😉😉😀

[@ChadboyX]

Can you rev your car for us pleaseee

[@MelikMollaoglu-2004]

I fucking love this guy

[@m.m.574]

CAN I ASK YOU DOC BUCK PARKER - WHAT EXACTLY DO THE SPOUSE NEED TO UNDERSTAND ABOUT PPL IN MED SCHOOL OR RESIDENCY? THAT PPL IN MEDICINE DONT SPEND TIME WITH THEM OR WHAT

[@xlalaladida]

lmao

[@tomare6479]

That the hours for taking care of people is arduous and requires constant discipline, and they need to value the lives and well-being of other people, our patients

[@Im0nJupiter]

Sort of the reason why people decide to go into medicine is because they want to serve a purpose higher than themselves. I would hope to find a spouse that understands my goal and knows that sacrifices we'll have to make to achieve it. It's just how it is. We answered the calling, and now we always will.

[@viciousonthetrack]

This is related to me, my long term girlfriend is about to go into residency and wondering if the relationship will still work in the future

[@dragonflyjones4611]

Smash smash smash

[@landonp.4073]

Wait so a relationship 3 years into residency completely ruined your friends career in medicine? That seems exaggerated

[@drbuckparker]

a special kind of relationship. not exaggerated.

[@mintyp6490]

Too bad...I am mostly attracted to my professors or residents.

[@ryanjarvis6045]

What car do you drive? Do you lease?

[@sunflowers_n_coffee]

ouch lol 😂, but i agree, all the medstudents and drs i see on the ward are all nerdy and weird, guess i see why most female drs or viceversa are single

[@moejoe13]

The reason why female doctors are more "single" than male doctors is because of status. Male doctors will date woman regardless of their job/status. For example ; Female doctors would have a harder time dating male nurses, whereas male doctors do not care about their job and will date them. Women want someone as high achieving and ambitious as them but men care less about that. Men care more about looks. A lot of it is simple biology. Women want the male w/ most resources. Men want the woman with best looks/most fertile.

[@Beit_sitti]

K BinSaud that’s right

[@ekramabdulkhader2739]

U look like dr rhodes in chicago med series

[@Hazydance]

I commented for the encore ;)

[@josephlevie7107]

So Carla and Turk never would have happened? Scrubs lied to me!!

[@seidyfigueroa3607]

Hahahahahaha hahahahah Que chistosito es usted Doctor.

[@hashtag_leiladaviid__2421]

Dr flyguy buck lmfaoo

[@rorisangleotoe8139]

Greys Anatomy

[@dzikijohnny]

WHAT!!!! Grey's Anatomy isn't factual?

[@liorajena]

I'm really learning a lot from watching your vids. Lol

[@Emma-nw2xg]

Nurse(s). Hmm I wonder how many🤣

[@sominlw2387]

Just dont shit where you eat.

[@raymondmills3251]

First