Med School Tips: Dealing With Surgeons Who Are @$$H0L3S!!

[@readersea]

I needed to hear this today.. thank you. I am a nursing student and have been yelled at by older nurses who have been training me. I dont get this type of abusive mentallity toward students, residents, or anyone in training. We are suppose to be caring and compassionate.

[@Citrusfruits50]

readersea just FYI it doesn’t stop with being a student..it will continue in your everyday working environment.. I missed my calling as a librarian 📕

[@jaustmike9001]

I'm a nurse in a hospital and it continues since there's a huge gap of clinical knowledge between student and actual nursing practice. Besides that, Bedside nursing is just not for me. I just don't enjoy the work environment. Lot's of emphasis on heirarcy hence power tripping is the norm and nurses are like the punching bags for patients, senior nurses and doctors. The only thing I like about it is the good rapport that develops between nurses and patients, especially when the ward isn't so busy so you're better abled to tend to their needs. But yeah nursing is a service industry, you are there to serve the patients and the doctors, that is it's nature. Planning on a career change.

[@hawkeyepierce7035]

Unfortunately, our professions eat their young. And they justify it by saying “Well, people’s lives are in your hands.” Which is completely stupid. Doesn’t mean you have to be an asshole to the people you’re training. In fact, screaming at them every 30 seconds might make them more likely to make mistakes.

[@jinsu0504]

its usually those professors who obtained degrees from unknown out of state online colleges who act this way....those who received education from prestigious academies and are willing to make the best nurses they can, take their time in explaining every little thing during lectures and clinicals.... I found the more knowledgeable the professors are the less arrogant....and I have no problems dealing with arrogant rude professors, so long as I am actively learning. I had a professor who would call on me whenever I was looking confused in class and by sheer embarrassment branded materials into my memory..

[@legalfictionnaturalfact3969]

it's all a lie. the rockefellers took over and turned medicine into pharma sales about 100 years ago. since then, so-called medicine has just been pay to play for insecure losers who hate themselves and want to fill that hole with hubris and delusion. those of us who practice real medicine are much harder to find. but the tides and turning and we're seeing more customers over time. yes that's right, customers. bc that's what they are. :)

[@gossippage]

“Just because they’re an asshole doesn’t mean you can’t learn from them” that stuck with me..

[@NarutoHigh160]

Just look at Dr. Cox

[@channelwonnews4322]

You cuss so much... it's inspiring

[@Contortion-dm9pj]

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[@channelwonnews4322]

Anna, so he's not inspiring ?

[@Contortion-dm9pj]

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[@until_its_0v3r97]

Tf is wrong with this comment section ?!😂🤣

[@giselle3062]

That’s crazy! He overreacted? You think? 🤔 That man is awful! Thank you for staying humble and not treating people like that! I was in the military and you get your ass chewed up all day everyday. So glad you didn’t quit, I used to think it was always me but now I now consider other options. Maybe they are having a bad day, it may not even have to do with me. That surgeon was probably under so much pressure and stress but he doesn’t know how to handle it as smoothly.

[@sototototo]

Your stories are priceless. Thanks Dr.

[@SamOwenI]

I think the humiliation and disrespect from senior colleagues and teachers is one of the most painful things about being a medic. I find it helps to give yourself time to recover, get your perspective back, celebrate the good things about the job, find understanding people. The natural response in the moment is to despair and just leave. Who wants to be disrespected when you've worked so hard and so long to do what you do?

[@solomongrundy2211]

Amen

[@krantigouripur5925]

We use to get insulted every alternate day

[@u235u235u235]

once you get past pride, it's not so bad.

[@scientificatheist9381]

Revenge works

[@adorable1122]

I wish someone would tell them about themselves because I’m not a fan with things like that…idc what you have going on learn how to talk about people

[@ThePoonie]

I’ve been a surgical technologist in the military for 8 years now, and my experience working with surgeons has been terrible. Working with a bunch of arrogant, pretentious, “adults” who flip out over the smallest thing. And yes, I already know what your going to say, “their dealing with patients”. And I totally understand a surgeon getting upset with something going wrong. However, that’s not an excuse for a surgeon, who has everything going well in a case, sees that his or her techs are doing everything they can to help and yet still wants to act like an child in a temper tantrum. I could find the cure for cancer, and they would still find something to complain about. At the end of the day, I was not impressed, intimidated, or in awe, I simply learned that this not my career path.

[@ThePoonie]

@@DavidOfTheSouth Navy

[@someguy9900]

@@ThePoonie cool brah

[@MZ-rv1bu]

Sadly the position attracts sociopaths.

[@legalfictionnaturalfact3969]

straight up? those people thought that being called DocTTRuuurrR would fix their self hatred and that they could flex all over everyone and "SHOW THEM" that their little weirdo nerd selves were SUccEssFuLLL!1!! lol. it's pathetic. they are miserable and nothing will ever change that. oh, and they HATE seeing NoTDocTURRSS being truly happy and finding the real success that whitecoats have zero chance at. :)

[@lausdeandl]

What you described is a disruptive physician, who needs a referral to behavior management stat. This behavior puts additional stress on the room, possibly leading to mistakes made. Unacceptable and should not be tolerated. Those days are over.

[@CyclingSJH]

"Those days are over". Thank you. Yes. Exactly. Stupid shit should disappear into history. Medicine is moving too fast and too well for adolescent behavior in the OR.

[@phatkaveh60]

Fuck off. Can't handle the pressure? Leave. I cant take weak people like you.

[@spartalives]

Fuck yeah!!!

[@spartalives]

phatkaveh60 it’s not pressure it’s bullying. That shit ain’t tolerated in any other work environment not even construction. It the knuckle draggers can get that shit right then the egg heads can too.

[@gardenofeden9217]

ubu 9 though it is hard to get humiliated and yelled at it is not bullying. Like Dr. Parker said you are the student and you messed up, and when you mess up and they will probably try to traumatize you not to mess up again and if they didn’t you would probably mess up again (and your mistake might cost a life). Just like kids get punished when they do something bad, doctors do too this teaches there brain to never do that shit again and also take every action they do as seriously as possible. Also pressure teaches you not to panic in accidents or danger. Drill sergeants yell at their private’s because they will learn to be calm under life threatening situations.

[@Planet1ish]

As an IMG, I had a terrible experience with a Gen surgeon while I was at my Sub I as a med student. The moment I greeted him he just refused to shake my hand and told me that my hands were dirty. When I told him which Caribbean med school I was going, he literally asked if it was an online degree. In the OR, he kept pimpimg me with hard surgery questions until I got them wrong just to tell me how stupid I was. The whole experience was a nightmare, but I kept myself professional and stay the entire case with him and at least learn something. I thought that my whole experience was a waste of time. But learning from those hard questions I was pimped on, I was able to correctly answer them with another surgeon. I agree that there are assholes surgeons out there and they shouldn't be educating residents nor med students. But as part of being a physician requires knowing how to deal with different personalities from patients, coworkers and attendings and keep maintaining a good composure and learning something the whole experience. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@alphawolf4252]

I’m actually really enjoying these new stories and they give a true unadulterated view of surgeon life. Looking forward to hear more and keep up the good shit :)

[@drbuckparker]

yesssssssss so glad u like!

[@robinfisher36]

I finally found my way to handle surgeons Behaving Badly. It comes down to total focus what I’m there for, and that is my patient. It’s the only plate in the air that’s mine. And from that solid and clear place, *anything* else - the doctor’s frustration, his or her comments about my mental capacity, competence, education, ancestry, the sarcasm, swearing, and just general hissy fitness of it all - has nothing to do with anything real. It’s just...weather. So I don’t have to defend myself, try to make excuses or placate, or indeed respond at all to anything said about me. Remember in school, once in a while you’d find yourself in a situation where you knew that you were going to have to learn the material in spite of your teacher instead of because of him or her? Sometimes a similar thing happens on the job, and you must care for your patient despite the system or a person who ostensibly has the same goal. And yes, it can be done!

[@Ot-ej5gi]

Sounds heroic, but should not be necessary. No one stuck a foot in front of Michael Jordan when he was running on the court, not even in college or high school. But! it's totally acceptable to do it to the surgeon in training. It's on the conscience of anyone involved who tolerates BS at the risk to the patients. Fatigue kills patients; well, fatigue comes from stress buddy!

[@justadbeer]

That's some funny shit. As the father of a 2nd year anesthesiology resident, I get to hear some of these stories first hand, like how a 70+ year old lady surgeon threw a tray of instruments on the floor in anger when a surgical resident didn't hold a retractor the way she would have done it. Or when the same lady surgeon started in on the anesthesiologist and he looked up at her and stated "You do know that i'm a doctor and not your student right? - and you won't speak to me like that" (because of the table height).

[@malubasic2267]

I love this 😁

[@stevanpupovac3778]

Lady surgeon....

[@stevanpupovac3778]

@Chol Chuol Where I practice, we just call them surgeons...

[@nathmendes24]

@@stevanpupovac3778 that's the way you should call them. Who cares if she's a lady or a man? She's just a disrespectful surgeon, that's what matters

[@elizabethh4855]

Umm...I don't want to be operated on someone that's 70+. That just seems too risky. I'd rather live lol XD

[@simina2138]

You're seriously the coolest doctor ever. I'm in med school right now at Ross University & I really appreciate all your advice and funny stories.

[@drbuckparker]

my new best friendddd!!!!

[@r.w.skinner9900]

@@drbuckparker haha judging by her profile pic I can see why 😂

[@charlotteantibroscience8773]

I'm still hung up on the "You should see my kids. They're all fucked up." 😂😂😂 atleast he knows his impact

[@drbuckparker]

hahahaah. me too.... me too

[@princedoodoo4067]

Man, I got really sucked into your story. Really made me feel like I was in that situation, hell even I got fired up thinking about the situation. Then at the very end, your words of wisdom made it all good. Luckily for me, I have a girlfriend who thinks just the way you do, she told me a story once that some lady was yelling at her and instead of fighting fire with fire she took a deep breath and thought to herself "I don't know what this person has been through, she must have a reason to be this angry at someone she barely knows" then just let it all go... that's the type of stuff I couldn't do, when someone gets pissed at me, I get pissed back!

[@drbuckparker]

It’s hardddd af to do it but learn it and u it will help u tremendously!

[@MZ-rv1bu]

@@drbuckparker Very hard. I have so much respect for the staff including other surgeons and doctors who are calm. Definitely easier for some personality types to deal with staying calm than average person.

[@Tomassino14]

I m a general surgery resident in Italy and your story gives me confidence! Many times as you I thought to quit.. some days are really bad.. but when you don t give up the next day you suddenly think how beautiful is this job, and this “journey” of residency.. thank you !

[@HelloMoto_]

“their IQ is fine” I don’t know why but that made me laugh

[@BoltCRNA]

I came close to touching the sterile field as a first-year anesthesia student and definitely got cussed out and almost thrown out of the room by the CT surgeon. What was going through my mind was similar to what you described. From that day on I've always been very careful when manipulating airway stuff to stay far away from the sterile field borders.

[@drbuckparker]

ahaha oh man they will chew u uP!

[@ccoop3774]

Bolt SRNA, I'm an OR RN and I remember being a newbie. Getting your butt chewed out definitely stays fresh and I never made that mistake again!

[@christopherdowney6055]

I had a similar episode during my OR rotation in paramedic school. It's a lesson you will only have to be taught once.

[@ccoop3774]

Christopher Downey, right?

[@lausdeandl]

CT surgeons are a special kind of jerk. (Did not want to use the a-word, lol)

[@mrsandman3954]

Young Drs..take heart and smile. I learned over 40 yrs ago that the only difference between a surgeon and a puppy is that eventually a puppy stops whining!!

[@selinaleewright5730]

I came across this video at the right time., because I am literally on the verge of giving up and quitting. I'm coming up on a year of being a new pulmonary/cc NP and I can totally relate to how you must have felt...Demoralized, incompetent, stupid , etc... BUT you are right-I have put aside how much I can't stand him (at times) and have taken every opportunity to learn....He has pushed me to a place where I can confidently come up with a plan of care by myself and even pick up the phone and consult a surgeon and not sound like an idiot. Thanks for such good advice.

[@The_Dirty_Dutch]

Your realness will take this channel far my dude! I know it got me hooked, keep being a badass

[@drbuckparker]

awesome thank you!!!!

[@lr1844]

The self-awareness and maturity with which you tackled telling this story was really awe-inspiring, thank you for sharing this insight. As a clinical med student this has helped me to resolve alot of my experiences at the hospital.

[@edkensalexandre7043]

I was looking for a mentor for a long time now. My search has just ended. Thank you for keeping it real Dr P. This channel is priceless. #adulting

[@DocPortland]

I just came across this and this was outstanding. As a psych I can tell you there is a good way to handle this type of situation and a bad way. You did perfectly. Nothing you said would de-escalate him in the middle of his rant. In essence, they have to come to a point to calm themselves down, and once that is done you can then begin to discuss the case in front of you. Just imagine what those workers have to endure everyday with a surgeon like this. It is really extremely abusive and should never be tolerated by administrators - however it is. Great vlog Buck, a lot of people will learn from this.

[@drbuckparker]

thank you so much Jeff!

[@caripage9327]

Thank you for your comment. Good to know that this a good way to handle it. I have a mouth and tend to talk shit right back, I'll try to rethink that before I let my mouth run away with me next time. Haha.

[@leongnikki]

Watching this video has been enlightening to hear your perspective. As a medical device rep, I've encountered a wide spectrum of surgeons - from those who are incredibly polite to the ones who can be quite brusque. It's been an eye-opening experience. Nurses, too, have a range of personalities. Some are exceptional in their care, while others can be more challenging to work with, including those who are quite bossy and outspoken. It's been quite a journey.

[@41kils]

You have such a great brotherly vibe about you. Positive and grounded.

[@jinsu0504]

sounds like every other month for me as working as a nurse... some snotty attending calling me all kind of names when Im simply asking to verify/add/correct some orders or even when presenting patient conditions...and this isn't just from MD's, its also from other fellow senior nurses, patients, other members in the disciplinary team....but eventually respect is mutual and if you take things with gain of salt...they will start treating you with respect as well....but man does it cause some emotional toll if you are as sensitive as i am...lol I do love being in school, as I feel much more respected and appreciated in an academic setting, where I am getting good grades and I am in a position where I am sharing knowledge to other colleagues... to me patient care aspect was always enjoyable, satisfying and fun...it was always getting along with variety of personality colours in the workplace.... one professor always told me, people change where ever you go, but personalities stay the same.... and you NEED each and every one of those personalities to help you grow as a person...

[@jenniferbrod8852]

I just had my 18 Anniversary of working cardiac surgery. I hate when this happens. All the people in the room lose focus when this is going on. Now the nurse is stressed the techs are stressed having to finish out the surgery. Changes the whole atmosphere of the room. Outbursts like that should never be tolerated anymore.

[@jneagles2012]

This video was amazing. Thanks for sharing these important words of wisdom. As an M1 who worked with challenging physicians as a scribe before entering medical school, I worked with abrasive physicians who were under extreme stress- although to a lesser degree than what you described. I think it’s important to remain humble and appreciate that they want the best for their patients, have incredibly high standards as a result, and can take it out on innocent people due to challenging circumstances. Keep up the awesome videos, sir! I’m learning a lot from you.

[@drbuckparker]

Jayme thank you sooo much! So glad these help!

[@Jss098]

This story resonates so much with me. This happened to me when I was on Elective in the US (originally UK medical student), and occurred when I slightly missed the correct mark to cut. Literally the same thoughts of leaving the OR went through my head, but I ended up sticking it out and then talking to him about it afterwards to which he apologized. It's so refreshing to hear it happens to other people! I was so upset because I thought it was only me (the screaming/swearing thing doesn't really happen in the UK, it's more cold cutting words if you piss an attending off). Fantastic video Dr Parker, you've earned a subscriber!

[@evanbennett659]

Really like how you preached at 12:31 about maintaining an optimistic outlook on situations like that, so true, great life lesson!

[@BloodHeresy]

As a second year ODP student, I got torn a new one by a consultant anaesthetist about putting a iGel in, it threw me way off and made me feel like I knew nothing and near to tears! I completely agree. Only thing is, they should feel the same way and have the same respect for you and understand he was in the same situation as you at one point.

[@ajvazquez6298]

My first time watching one of your videos; Im a Surgical Tech Extern at a Level 1 trauma hospital, and I can DEFINITELY understand this. Iv had my fairshare of unpleasant surgeons. But i agree with you, if you can stay focused and not get rattled, you will learn alot from them. Really appreciate a story from the surgeon's side as a student, I feel it could help scrub tech students understand thier surgeons better during difficult clinical rotations.

[@legalfictionnaturalfact3969]

you can learn even more from the un-abusive. the abusive are about to be purged from the profession.

[@emchoe8865]

Just started residency today. I needed this. Thanks for sharing!

[@ivypeiqing3648]

Dr Parker, I enjoy pretty much all your videos, work in the OR as a circulator RN, those vids are fun & helpful to listen/watch & I often listen to them over & over again, pls keep making more 💥💥🙏

[@henrygonzalez618]

Dr. Buck is the best, he's so real about everything.

[@A-kp4se]

Hey Dr.Buck.. I just graduated from medical school and I just love listening to your videos during my evening workouts. i put my phone in my pocket with the earphones in and go about my routine. I am not interested in taking up a general surgery residency but your videos relax me . I love all your stories. You have a wonderful way of vlogging . I see all your vlogs regardless of how relevant or irrelevant they might be to me . Love from India ..:)

[@nickwilliams5697]

I’m a lawyer who practiced med mal defense for a number of years. Almost every surgeon I defended was like your attending. What I have found is that surgeons are typically overworked and exhausted, leading to their bad behavior. But, they’re also terrible communicators and no one in the room feels comfortable saying anything to the surgeon which leads to errors that any person could make.

[@drbuckparker]

Great point Nick!

[@scarred10]

The assholes are like that with or without pressures

[@rydersonthestorm7175]

Just knowing similar experiences occur with alarming frequency is cathartic for me. Great vid!

[@reeltalk8488]

as an older R.N. just starting a new career as a periop nurse, this information was invaluable. Thanks so much Dr. Parker!

[@Snowyness]

Just found your channel, I'm not going into med school but you're stories are very interesting to hear and even people that aren't pursuing med can learn from your advice!

[@xxdavexx23]

Switched to electrical engineering from pre-med. glad I did.

[@NarutoHigh160]

@Ena Bullying, really? Tell that to the Marine Corps.

[@NarutoHigh160]

@Ena It improves mental strength as well as learning because you learn better under pressure, it's not bullying, it's beratement which if the teacher knows what they are doing will be used as a tool to drill information into their brains and the brain will remember never to make that mistake again. If someone can't handle being berated for screwing up then they shouldn't be a doctor because they can't deal with high stress situations. Now I am not standing up for surgeons throwing a instrument tray because a tool was misplaced but if you screw up you should expect to be berated because in the end it will separate the worst from the best, and overall make you a better doctor who can take a hit or a wrench in their plan and still keep going.

[@mirzababar9610]

First of all i want to tell you that im your biggest fan Dr.Buck Parker. You are a real gem, your energy is unmatchable. True inspiration for me & your videos keeps me motivated all the time.

[@Diana-qr5od]

Great advice... not just for those in the medical field but in life in general. We need to humble ourselves & learn from others who have more experience than us.Thank you.

[@smitparikh3969]

How are you so Inspiring every time !!! You have become a mentor to me !!! I guess thanking you will never be enough !!! You are my friend, philosopher, guide, guru and what not !!! Kudos to you !!! Everyday I operate my KZbin solely to check if you have posted a video !!! Your content is priceless !!! Thanks for sharing your invaluable time and content !!!

[@antv8036]

Thanks for the advice Dr. Parker! Now I'll know how to cope the next time an attending rips my confidence out of my chest. Please keep these videos coming. They're great!

[@DrakusEurekus]

Great Video Dr.Buck, as people have said before i think a Vlog would be great, We realize you are busy ,it doesnt have to be anything special

[@drbuckparker]

Vlog is commmminnnnnnggggggg 2018!

[@jreing6923]

That crap happened to me a few times and I got fed up. I quit the hell out of surgery, transferred to internal medicine then went into GI. Best decision of my life.

[@tsubasa123ist]

J R I agree surgery aint for the faint of heart

[@tranformersaddiction]

Insane Person it’s your life lol why would you care if ppl look down on you?

[@hawkeyepierce7035]

Internal medicine attendings can be abusive too. But it’s usually a more passive-aggressive style.

[@savhannadunning6845]

I really enjoy this dude because he’s real as hell. I start premed next year and I watch all of his stuff all of the time now!

[@drbuckparker]

thank you soooo muchhhh!!

[@wesleyvosloo2849]

2nd year general surgery resident in South Africa...really needed to hear this today. Thanks so much!

[@thischarminglife5393]

I'm in school to become a surgical tech and I have heard that the hardest part is having to work with the surgeons. It scares me a little and hope I have tough enough skin!

[@laurengarciabasora]

Same! I need an update, how's it going now?

[@weexuanneo860]

Sounds like Fletcher yelling at Andrew Neiman in the movie Whiplash. Thank you for sharing Dr.

[@PrincePalmUwU]

I noticed he got a car that can drive for him. xD i was like OMG!!!

[@haydenturner601]

Wow you are freaking amazing. Im 21, not to sound like a dork but listening to you talk about the wisdom you have learned is so refreshing. Where i live I'm not around many people that are like you. Liked and subscribed

[@FallouFitness_NattyEdition]

I work as a surgical technologist, so this video really helped me out.

[@SanaKhan-nt9yu]

I can totally relate to this. But I have a very bad habit that when someone talks in a loud voice or says something really rude, my eyes would become teary. And then it's difficult to control. So I try my maximum not to reach that stage but when someone does that I am usually upset for weeks. There are lot of factors that result in such a behaviour, sometimes it's just that they are themselves upset or they don't like you, your colour, your country, the way you look or just the fact that you are a female. It's sad but it's true. We need people who are tolerant to each other and are willing to work despite differences. As doctors we are born to heal, so hurting someone shouldn't be in our dictionary at all.

[@marhabamughal3658]

I really really love your videos because you never sugar coat it and tell us the exact reality and that’s the best part about your videos 😂🤣🥰

[@MichaelSalaA]

3rd Year Resident, good pep talk. Cheers Buck.

[@drbuckparker]

cheers Michael!

[@arthurcuesta6041]

Dude, you're very inspiring. I'm on medschool right now and it seems so fucking hard all the time. Thank you for doing this.

[@suliahthomas130]

It is as simple as don't take offense and don't waste your time because you are a doctor and you don't have time to waste.

[@vivax5323]

I had an experience like this before, but after several hours of yelling and cursing at me, I lost it. People don't need to be assholes to each other. I learn better when there is mutual respect and understanding. I had to report him to the management and all was resolved in a meeting.

[@genesiskravitz8621]

CRNA here. Great video. Seriously. Very informative. Very important.

[@Bill.R.124]

OMG> I was looking for a good video on disruptive behavior (I'm a nursing professor) and this goldmine showed up. You cuss as much as I love to do. You're awesome. Hysterical. I'm trying to figure out how to show this to my students and not offend them because I think the MESSAGE you convey is so important to everyone. Residents/interns are notoriously abused by their seniors and attending and nurses are notoriously abused by physicians (there's actually one study that shows that nurses are the number one perpetrator of disruptive behavior on interns/junior residents, so they're aren't immune to being the bully on the other side). Anyway, thanks for laugh.

[@michaelmeier8909]

What an awesome guy... your advice sounds soooo sincere it's amazing, honestly, thank you man

[@100penguins]

I love this one! We have a saying that "Strict mentor brings out high achiever". Even though his attitude may not be the best... I have high respect for responsible physicians!

[@suras8984]

Being strict and having a toddler tantrum while in a position of authority are very different

[@NarutoHigh160]

@@suras8984 There is a fine line between toddler tantrum and being berated, throwing the instruments I don't understand, but being berated will separate the weak from the strong and make you overall a better doctor, especially in high stress situations.

[@Loveduhmusic]

Don't let assholes ruin your dreams got it Dr.

[@johnharper5437]

Your awesome Buck. Thank you for your perspective and humor.

[@amandalynn6827]

I genuinely feel that because of the way he, the attending, handled that and laughed about it later he was just fucking with you/trying to teach a valuable lesson. If you would have gotten so upset that you stormed out that could have showed that you need help in working with high stress situations. He could then put you in those situations more often to build your tolerance and at the end of the day make you a better surgeon. Just my take on it!

[@BibleandBeer]

I just subscribed. I'm in nurse anesthesia school currently so I appreciate your candor.

[@TheLadybughug]

When I worked tech support (in a call center), one customer I got was a cardiac surgeon. That dufus yelled at me, and called me every name in the book, and kept demanding results NOW. At one point, I was ready to just tell him off, and hang up, when he snarled "you would never make it as a nurse in the OR", my smart mouth replied "well that's a good thing because we are repairing a fricking computer, not a living creature, follow the steps I tell you and we will get it done". Silence, then another barrage of cussing. "Fine wtf do I do now?". I heard my supervisor snort, and giving me a thumbs up, as he was monitoring the call. We eventually fixed his little problem, could not help with the major problem (his attitude), and hung up. I was drained. I will never forget that call, or that guy's lack of manners. Ever. He wasn't just an asshole, he was the whole ass! Years later, when my mom needed a blood hemorrhage on or in her brain repaired, the surgeon, who was the best in the city I lived in, and who was taking care of her, told us he could operate but she had only a 10% chance of making it. My siblings were like nah, negative about giving her that chance. I told them, if it was your sorry ass on that table she would be fighting tooth and nail for that 10%. I turned to the surgeon who was watching, mouth open (😂) and I said, you are operating, and she WILL be given that chance. The sibling who was power of attorney was not present, and he said what about the pow- I interrupted and said, I will deal with any problems, just give me the forms to sign, and do what you do best, please. He straightened up, there was a weird gleam in his eyes, he said, yes miss! With pleasure, shot my other siblings a burning dirty look, and handed me the forms. That surgeon healed the past experience with the asshole, with his composure, kindness, and willingness to try, even if the chances were low. I had no issues with the PA, she would have done the same. My mom passed 4 days later. But I am eternally grateful to that surgeon for trying. 😥 Sorry for the ramble. Be blessed.

[@maryhasaballa4052]

I love your videos. they have such nuggets of wisdom.

[@dida145]

I’m a medical student in my last year in Austria! I like listening to your stories, maybe you should consider doing a podcast for junior doctors or something :D Also it’s so funny how similar experiences can be, even on different continents 🙈

[@avtawf]

You're awesome! Don't stop being the way you are... honestly

[@RoliChauhanOfficial]

This is why I won’t go back into medicine. I sobbed every single day in the hostel. I guess I am too sensitive for medicine. Something needs to be done about this toxic abusive medical work culture . It was too much for me. Nobody has the right to mistreat you like that . This should not be tolerated .

[@henrygonzalez618]

xD Man this is the best story. People don't understand the importance to be exact and precise...

[@nancychang1645]

Good sayings! U have a very genuine personality 👏🏼

[@medic2807]

I work as a ER PA (all by myself, rural area) and former paramedic so I've dealt with my share of cunty docs. Biggest thing I've found is get really good at your basics and intervening in life-threatening situations, giving a coherent, high-yield report, being assertive and energetic. Also, PRE-ROUND your patients, esp. in the unit. If rounds start at 7, get there at 5:30.

[@scarred10]

That's totally irrelevant to their bad behaviour.

[@alyssajones4368]

Lmoa "cunty docs"

[@danielgutierrez9755]

Hi i am just now going into my first year of college and i just wanted to let you know that your channel has really helped me solidify my choice in becoming a surgeon. Thank you very much and keep making awsome funny videos!

[@bonjourangeleyes3215]

GREAT ADVICE Dr. Parker 👨‍⚕️

[@KMartha22]

This is really useful to hear. I am a lawyer and my boss is really not a very nice boss, but I think I have learned from her more than I have learned from anyone else.

[@1MinuteFlipDoc]

Sweet video Dr Buck! Truth! I don't know why that type of behavior is allowed in a modern day professional setting. If it was a judge or pilot, that behavior would be reviewed by a governing organization stat!

[@stevekomorian6145]

Appreciate the insight and advice Dr.Parker!

[@cbessada]

Boy, that made me glad I went to law school instead of med school!

[@tebohomohapi735]

"This should be easy... But often times you miss"🤣🤣🤣

[@danielm.9552]

I love the energy doc. I’m not going in medicine but your vids are very interesting

[@annepino6435]

love your stories. seriously start getting into podcasting so i can listen while driving too!

[@massimobozzi1]

Abuse might be a subconscious form of testing they feel they have the right to administer to see if you really want to do this job.

[@NarutoHigh160]

It's basically testing your willpower and building your mental strength while separating the best from the worst, if you can't handle pressure, how are you supposed to save a gunshot victim or a patient bleeding out on the table?

[@scarred10]

@@NarutoHigh160 it's not a deliberate strategy,these guys are assholes everywhere,spoiled brats.I dont think you understand how learning occurs.

[@arzangsyed8386]

Just discovered your channel and I gotta say... you make me wanna consider surgery instead of medicine somehow lmao. Love your stories Doctor!

[@briobrandon911]

I work with ortho surgeons all the time and I think they are the worst bunch. Always so irritated (some are actually pleasant to work with) and impatient. Most of the time they come in and expect everything ready which they should b but when its not because of circumstance they dont want to hear it. Honestly the best thing to do when dealing with asshole surgeons is to just let them have their fit, in one ear and out the other. ALSO speak your mind (talk back and stand your ground) when you know you are right. Had to do that with some of them and suddenly they became more pleasant...albeit still assholes but tolerable. Lol

[@cyrusvanbeethoven4626]

Dude... Doctor. This video made me subscribe. ^^ Ty. Thanks to you I'm "over promising, and over delivering."

[@drbuckparker]

yesssssss

[@cyrusvanbeethoven4626]

Buck Parker, M.D. You may appreciate this, it pertains to you, and I know you can relate! I've wanted to be a Doctor for as long as I can remember. - I'm a Rad Tech, finished Bachelor's in Radiology in Dec 2016. I paused your video today, picked up the phone, and set an appointment with Texas Tech Med school for next week. I'm going to finish the prerequisites (20-30 left) credit hours starting in January. In the conversation next week, we are going to set up a plan of when I can apply. Hopefully no longer than 2 years!! [Over promising!! NOW WATCH ME DELIVER!! ] Your videos are the equivalent of using the moon as a sling shot for my academic-spaceship! I'm zooming now! :D Ty so much for your transparency; It's given me courage, and motivation. I'll be tuning in, Doc. :)

[@drbuckparker]

This is ammmmaaaaazzzzzinngggggggggggg!!!!!!!

[@cyrusvanbeethoven4626]

Buck Parker, M.D. What did it, was when you said, "I'm 43, and it wasn't until I was 42 that Ifinally made it. (To success, and practicing)" - Well, I'll be the same age. I thought, "Why not me too?!" I'm getting emotional. Ty again Doctor.

[@timeattackdreamer989]

Excellent video. Funny yet insightful.

[@okidokidoc]

Your videos are so compelling!

[@steveobrien7272]

Good life lesson in general...one I've learned through the years.

[@kellyj.goodgoldberger4012]

Absolutely love this. Story is great and the little side details are 💯 love hearing real life situations! As a patient, if I'm not comfortable with the surgeon because they are arrogant, I will go elsewhere. Unfortunately sometimes you don't have the luxury to choose in an emergency.

[@kellyj.goodgoldberger4012]

PS love the scrubs underneath your coat! 😍

[@honestinsky]

Excellent video, thanks for posting, much appreciated : )

[@evomusic1720]

Thank you for being so candid.

[@CALISUPERSPORT]

Crazy story, sometimes I wonder if the mix of stress+egos makes some of these doctors/surgeons test you at best, or overreact like that at worst. I'm kind of unshakable and there's a point where my brain would go "ok how the fuck is this yelling helping us?" lol.

[@samanthaurban7359]

I'm a CV/CTICU nurse, I have helped with an emergent sternotomy at the bedside! Scrubbed in and helped cut those sternal wires....it was NUTS.

[@cds0604]

Can you please make a video about surgeons and their PA.I think there is still an issue of what the surgeon expects the PA to do and what the PA believes they are to do.

[@ccoop3774]

Jennifer Salazar, it depends on the surgeon. I'm not a doc, just a surgical RN. Some docs drop and let their PA close the sub q and skin. Some ortho PAs did a good bit- steroid injections, closed reductions, casting and splinting, etc. I remember one orthopod that had a skilled PA, but he didn't trust him with working solo. That PA left and I don't blame him.

[@MrJecheverrias]

Thanks doc. Great stuff. I think we all can relate to these tales.

[@lexconor8498]

Dude. That Cardio Doc is sitting in a McDonald's parking lot! VINDICATION!