How To Deal With A Teenager Using Drugs

[@lisaochoa4363]

Thank you for putting this video out for families struggling with this epidemic. We appreciate your efforts to help with this issue.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Glitzy Glam, It has been devastating to see what happens in families close to us. Thanks.

[@e.d972]

What do you do with a teenager who doesn't care about anything and is openly talking about wanting to use drugs and not even thinking about quitting drugs?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

E. D, it might be time for some professional intervention. Find out what is available in your area.

[@marksilva2929]

I am dealing with the same thing. Can we get proffesional help but keep it anoymous?

[@jrr239]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV I'm in the UK and having the same problems with my 15 yr old son who now smokes cannabis daily 😭 I'm completely beside myself with stress & anxiety. Tried everything to reach out to, and reason with him. He just says he likes it and isn't going to stop. Our relationship and his school grades are both fast deteriorating. Also hes lost so much weight because he skips meals & wont eat propetly. Then he binge eats when comes down from cannabis. I suspect he makes himself sick afterwards. We have always been so close and I'm devastated by all this - and feel powerless and out of my depth. At 15 its virtually impossible to get a Saturday job here, so if I don't give him £cash to socialise he openly tells me he will be persuaded to deal to get cash 😭 Along with teens his own age, he is mixing with 18+ yr olds on a daily basis who smoke too and are either DD themselves or connected to DD. My son thinks they're all cool and his friends, and doesnt think he's being exploited, but to me, he clearly is. E.g. He was coerced recently by 2 of the so called friends who are 3/4 yrs older than him into doing something v bad for just £10!!! which I cannot repeat on here. He is definitely frightened of retribution as a result of but will not stop mixing with the group. I'm so ashamed of how he is behaving which is not how I've brought him up. But hugely more importantly I am majorly scared for him (& myself) about where all this is leading. Nothing I say or do makes any difference. Unfortunately co-parenting is impossible with my ex-h who is highly abusive to me (& was throughout our marriage), and has never created any boundaries or consequences for our son if there's been bad behaviour. He enables all of this to continue and undermines me at every opportunity. My son knows his father is abusive to me, and a very heavy drinker yet is still manipulative between us. I've spoke to the school who are dire, and was told to stop micromanaging my son!! Spoke to GP when something else bad happened & despite being referred for 'help', that has made zero difference either - and my ex keeps telling me off for seeking help for our son so I cannot win. His method of let him see the light himself is not working and I cannot just stand by and do nothing. Yet he has even been told off on his own for being drunk & disorderly & also with others for ASB by the Police, but doesn't even take that seriously. I'm getting nowhere and it's only getting worse. At my wits end now and it's making me so ill. Please please can anyone offer any advice? I'm in the UK. Thank you for reading this, and any positive advice would be greatly welcomed.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

@@jrr239 Thank you for being a conscious parent and trying to help your son. I really feel for you. We have a free call available for situations that cannot be remedied in the comments. It is for 25 minutes, and will be with one of our Live On Purpose coaches. If you would like to schedule a call, please go here: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall. Best wishes to you.

[@lonelystoner209]

@@jrr239 ur son is jst a spoilt lil 💩 with no rules or boundaries set in place and no strong male role model in his life obviously..cannabis is a medicine maybe ur the problem after all he is self medicating for a reason!!it helps ur appetite that's why he binges after smoking it.he won't be throwing it back up either that is ridiculous tbh..maybe you should go educate urself on the subject instead of watching idiots on here!!

[@samesmail2416]

My daughter is 13, i made her do the test and it comes positive, i am in shock, crying since morning, i decided to bring her to school and pick her up.. Cut off her friends, and put her under supervision..she lies, she hides things, i first found out that she smokes then a friend called to tell me that he saw her with friends smoking weed..she's failing school, she only think about her appearance, i know she may hate me, but am not gonna see her throw herself of the cliff and keep watching

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Good luck, sam Esmail. Hopefully she decides to behave differently very soon and you can get her the resources she desperately needs.

[@gabrielavega6095]

Has it got better ?

[@samesmail2416]

@@gabrielavega6095 no, it's getting worse, now she is asking me to get divorced cause she doesn't like my husband although we had a baby four months ago, and she blames all her failure on me, i honestly can't with her anymore, i was hospitalised because of her, but she didn't care, she only asked if she can have a sleep over while i was in hospital.. It hurts to say that, but i can't wait till she is out, i need my peace

[@julissaloyola1491]

I just found this video. I'm crying because you just gave me hope! Thank you sooo much

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

julissa loyola, so glad to hear.

[@stevewise1656]

Just found out today and my wife is in denial. I’m not angry, I’m concerned. Both parents need to be on the same page. I can’t ignore it nor go along with denial. My spouse doesn’t feel there should be any limits on our son. She buys him everything he wants, so I can’t discipline without blowback in me from both of them.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Steve Wise, Ahhh, such a tough position to be in. I suggest some counseling for the family so you can learn how to work together.

[@foodhi2880]

As a teenager using drugs, he deserves your sympathy. Most of us our trying to self medicate our problems. It’s rare that a truly happy and fulfilled person would turn to drugs. Obviously this isn’t the solution and he needs help but u need to be there for him as he’s probably dealing with shit mentally.

[@Lucky5-13]

I find out my teenager son using drugs he kept laying about it, the problem I have a proof doing it . Please can u help me? I don’t know what to do. He’s getting agressive. And he lost appetite and weight

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

liza smith, you need to see what resources are available where you are at. Talk to a drug counselor or your doctor and get him help.

[@maniebrahimi5508]

“the average american teenager has far more privileged than they deserve” ok boomer

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Mani Ebrahimi, I guess it is what you are comparing it to. Think outside the US.

[@suburbandystopia4130]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV I was doing a research paper for school a lot of the world don’t have the things the average Americans basics needs

[@republicunited2183]

Yes they are.

[@zoulittle8370]

Thank you from the bottom of my heart, you are certainly changing lives. I have surprised my son vaping I am so sad! I have a question, I have been a very angry demanding extremely organised mum however hating my life as I was depressed and sadly I was to strict and harsh with my son,,, is it too late? thank you

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Zou Little, I don't think it is too late. You may need some help, the two of you, in learning to communicate and understand one another. www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.

[@sanbrunofriend5968]

that is a great advice! I took my son’s cell away, so Im going to negotiate with him for a flip phone until he is clean ! yeahhhh!!! wish me well!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I wish you much luck. I hope he is ready to make some changes for the better in his life.

[@storyteller0521]

L punishment I have a second phone I used when they took mine for 4 months

[@gardeningrelaxation]

great video. What are the resources? I need professional help.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

See what is available locally for your teen and if you want coaching, www.achievetodaycoaching.com/paul.

[@guiscorriveau8159]

Hi i just found out my 14 yr old daughter is drinking and vaping, can u pls tell me, do I tell her not to hang around those friends anymore? Cause kids always go behind parents backs anyway. Or can they still hang around with them?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

guis corriveau, there is going to be more than one conversation and if you have trouble with it, schedule a call with one of our team (no cost) to find out the services we offer. We are doing more with teens at Live On Purpose Central. www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.

[@LindyandDevin]

Until the government changes how addiction is dealt with there’s no hope. These kids need help families need them out of the house but still safe and near by this is a complicated medical issue

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

It is a very complicated issue. We need major changes in our society.

[@sunnyphoenix5603]

I just found a video of my daughter vaping .and not sure what to do. I asked her last 2 weeks if she is vaping and she said no.so she lied to me.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Sunny, approach her, tell her you saw a video and need to talk to her.

[@umiba18]

When they avoid doing drug trust or keep on refusing then what would you recommend?

[@hix9306]

Great information

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Glad you liked it

[@sunnyphoenix5603]

I can't take away her phone because she is already lonely as a single child what do you recommend?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Sunny phoenix, what do you control that does not require her cooperation? The cell might be a good answer because she wants to keep it.

[@kassiopeia1232]

Hi Dr. Paul, great topic. Would you consider cigarette smoking an addiction to be "disciplined" just as drug abuse? Thanks! Suzanne

[@louloubelle1330]

kassiopeia123 substance misuse isn’t in no way, shape or form similar to cigarette smoking. Go onto vapour then reduce that the best way to quit. Yes I’m a former addict, and I tried to quit on many different things but vapes is successful, it isn’t the same

[@kassiopeia1232]

Thank you Zakiyah. I'm a former smoker and have quit the addiction 20 years ago. I was just thinking about my 9yo son when he gets into that particular age... I was wondering if I could apply these tips when dealing with smoking...

[@kassiopeia1232]

Zakiyah Good luck with quitting altogether!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

A variety of substances can create addictive patterns. The principles we address here in the video and on the channel can certainly be applied in the case of cigarette smoking. Similar principles could help with overeating, or cutting, or pornography. It doesn't only apply to illegal or illicit drugs. Thanks for watching kassiopeia123 - and for being a conscious parent! DrPaul

[@lilybuth]

kassiopeia123 Zzgt

[@tribefive9357]

Thank you for this guys.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Our pleasure!

[@myAnxiousWorld]

Wish I had parents like you

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

MerlyDev, thanks, I hope you can come together with your parents.

[@myAnxiousWorld]

Thank you

[@MNDASARI10]

Hi I feel my so is using some sort of drug I saw him many times using wape but I feel it is more then that he is 16 after GCSES he is sleeping 22 hours once’s a day he wakes up eats n back to sleep I am sure there is much more going on can you help me .

[@Lucysil1970]

How long do you drug test? I did it for awhile and he was great. Then I stopped and he started up again.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Lucy, thank you for being a conscious, positive parent. In answer to your questions, it varies from child to child. If there is an ongoing problem, perhaps next steps are necessary. Please consider taking advantage of our free 25 minute call with one of our Live On Purpose coaches. We have one particular coach, Blu Robinson that specializes in addiction. Here's the link to schedule the call: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall

[@SubstanceD91]

Depends how old he is and what drugs he's on. If he's just smoking weed and drinking then I would leave him alone since you'll likely drive him away and only make things worse. Any opiates or significant cocaine usage is a huge red flag though and should be dealt with after seeking professional help from a youth drug rehabilitation facility.

[@adamv4951]

@@SubstanceD91 "just" smoking weed and drinking. Really?

[@sunnyphoenix5603]

They always say I don't trust them but how if they always lie to me

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Sunny phoenix, need to explain to them it is like a bank account and when they tell the truth, trust is deposited, when they don't, there is a withdraw and when they are overdrawn, they need to add more deposits.

[@meandmyson5767]

Is it a good idea to watch this video with your son?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

That is up to you, me and my son. It definitely has beneficial content, however you don't want your son to get defensive or angry and run out of the room. Maybe you can prep him for the video before watching it, if that's what you decide to do. Thank you for being a conscious, positive parent for your family.

[@augmentos]

Thanks guys. As an uncle I am very worried.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I am glad you are concerned and there for the teens in your life. You can have a positive impact.

[@eriallas2927]

I want to quit, I want to quit this damn lifestyle but its just so hard

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Eri Allas, it is sooooooo difficult. You can do this, one hour at a time.

[@ieatkidsxd7578]

My parents have disowned me now and I wish they understood why I do drugs

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I wish they did too. Hopefully you can get some help for you and your family.

[@Liz.pierre6904]

Time to find a new family

[@LiLSkittle]

I'm high rn

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Lil Skittle, get some help and hopefully we can have a good conversation.

[@lorry2763]

Thank you!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are welcome, Lorry Ann. Honored to be on your team.

[@ieatkidsxd7578]

They don’t trust me anymore and there vry open with telling me how much they don’t love me now, they r exaggerating the situation and making me look like a proper druggy

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

They are upset and know that if you are choosing to use drugs, then you are not making responsible decisions. They know a little more about what can happen if you choose to use drugs at a young age.

[@oscarjackon77]

Their fed up.

[@zmeya]

Ha lol anyways so * packs another bowl *

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thanks for watching.

[@zmeya]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV no problem

[@oscarjackon77]

We did all of this and it didn't work. We were only taken advantage of more. We grounded and he smoked Marijuana in the room.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Oscar Jackson, you may need some coaching or therapy. Take the next step to get some one on one help. www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.

[@ieatkidsxd7578]

Bro my parents have just found out I’m using drugs, there finna beat me up so much

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I hope not, maybe you need to find somewhere else to live for a while, consider getting treatment.

[@shadowde4dshot195]

Live On Purpose TV its beat or get beaten in this world lmao it is what it is

[@WasephWastar]

@@LiveOnPurposeTVTreatment for what? Lots of drugs are not dangerous at all. Alcohol, in the other hand, is the deadliest one. I still wonder why it's still legal when drugs like dmt and psilocybin mushrooms are illegal.

[@glennalaymon8627]

My daughter has no conscience lies to me and her boyfriend with no feelings doesn't bother her to lie she convinces herself Shea not lying

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Glenna Laymon, I have no idea how old she is but figure out what you control that does not require her cooperation and give her consequences.

[@shadowde4dshot195]

I think my daughter is addicted to krokodil, what should i do?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Shadow De4dshot, how can your daughter be addicted when in your previous comment you said you were 15?

[@shadowde4dshot195]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV oh idk you ask her

[@annmarieparker7045]

What about a teen who is taking mushrooms to avoid a positive drug test.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I don't know enough about that to comment here. Talk to your doctor.

[@sunnyphoenix5603]

Whenever I try to discipline her she gets angry and says that I'm a bitch. She says she loves her and he is a deadbeat that pays no child support.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Sunny, leave the dad out of the discipline and stay focused despite what she says. She is lashing out.

[@BlumkinMaster123]

Bro I’m 15 shooting up can y’all help me?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Firm Strokes, yes, or an addiction counselor might be helpful if you want to quit. Get medical help.

[@BlumkinMaster123]

Live On Purpose TV hi I have a Update. I just started doing cocain and stopped heroin. Cocain is way better and helps me with my emotions

[@ingridugarteche4301]

My son is almost 18 he took his first drink at 17. He’s really loved by my husband and specially me. Recently he shared that he has tried weed and he ditched school for one class! 😮 We always know where he is because he tells us and we have his location on the phone (😅) I know exactly when he ditched because I couldn’t see his location and when I asked he said “that’s weird” now he has confessed🤦🏻‍♀️ I feel happy that he comes clean and tells me but inside I’m dying!! He’s been drinking more and I’m trying hard to inform him of the dangers of drinking at his age and I try not to talk with my emotions but rather with intelligence and compassion! Yes, our culture is toxic and I have cut down my drinking but I can’t help feeling guilty and I’m so worried now since he’s soon graduating and off to college! He’s very responsible and a great student! He said he’s been stressed out with school because he was in marching band, orchestra and all important subjects! I worry so much for him because his too young to be drinking! I told him he’s not allowed to drink until he’s older but he said all his friends drink and the parents are cool… I asked him to please reconsider all the facts and conversations about alcohol and that’s where we’re at now!!! Parenting is not easy!! Thanks for your advice!!❤

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Love him no matter what and even if... Glad you are voice of reason for him. Hopefully he is listening even though it seems he might not be.

[@doug1863]

Thank you !!!!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are welcome, dough1863! Honored to have you at Live On Purpose TV.

[@doug1863]

Live On Purpose TV my niece isn’t a teen but a beautiful sweet young lady, and she is going through hell. She said she used marijuana about three times. But my wife and I believe it’s been about a year. We also don’t believe it’s “legal “ , then medical marijuana either. But this really helped out. Again. Thank you

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

@@doug1863 Best wishes to you, your niece, and your whole family while you go through this.

[@doug1863]

Live On Purpose TV thank you very much. It will pass. We are praying and just going slow with small steps. We are already seeing some encouraging signs. I talked with my niece last week for about 5 hours. It was cordial open and we really enjoyed it. We agreed to meet every two Mondays , just by ourselves. We will all get through this, patience and perseverance and faith in God . Thanks again so very much. I can only imagine what families must be going through with teens on much harder stuff than marijuana. One positive thing about this is, it brought my niece and I closer than we ever been , as well as my wife and I

[@Pepper-rn4hh]

What if this '"teen" is 18 and fast approaching 19 years old. Ran away at 17 because things were not going his way. Then came back home as an "adult" with no other shelter options. Quits his (good paying ) Job two weeks into it because he simply does not want to work. Now stays out until all hours of the night returning home at 2, 3, and 5 o'clock in the morning and takes 14 hour naps. We have zero legal authority over him to put him into treatment. Oh, and he is also stealing from our home.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Pepper 1099, you don't owe him a place to stay. You are o.k. to have rules in your home and if he doesn't want to live by the rules, pay the rent, or whatever, then feel free to show him the door. You have zero legal authority and don't owe him a place to live at 18.

[@Pepper-rn4hh]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you for answering me. This is difficult, but I think that you are right. We have asked him to follow some rules and so far he has not bothered to stick to what we have asked. Again thank you for your response.

[@oscarjackon77]

Same issue. Once they turn 18 there's no help.

[@alexandertorres6526]

D

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thanks for watching.

[@markpalavosvrahotes5575]

No it is not OK to drug test your children. It’s a violation of privacy.