How To Deal With An Angry Spouse? Sadhguru Answers

[@ICEcoldJT]

“Love the person, but give the person total freedom. Love the person, but from the very beginning make it clear that you are not selling your freedom.”💚

[@Gurpreetsinghpreet1]

Freedom is difficult thing to give in relationship

[@diegoruizio5193]

ICEOLDJT

[@X.O.143]

@@Gurpreetsinghpreet1 how so?

[@snikhilkumar1997]

@@Gurpreetsinghpreet1 freedom is love... Relationship is chained.. And don't sense wrong if u r chained... A lion is served best food in a zoo.. And taken care of.. So be free talk to your better halves... Rest all is ok.

[@abhlkp]

Seems all these Jr. Sadhgurus are unmarried.

[@djames5137]

Both the man and the woman should conduct themselves in a manner that is kind and respectful of one another. This makes for a happy and successful marriage. Love is kind.

[@artishahrrt]

The sweetest person outside the home can be the most bitter one inside the home. it is the tragedy. No matter what you do to make him happy, he will find another reason to stay unhappy-angry just with you and may punish you by neglecting you, doing complete opposite things than what you have wished or requested for. It is his strong negative, prejudiced and closed mind set for his spouse. He is blind to see you as a wife, as a mother of his children and as a person. He will try everything in his power to make you unhappy. You can defeat this mentality by changing focus from him to you. you must stay happy. You must stay good person and do good karma. You must stay strongly positive. Mainly you must stay detached from his negativity, prejudiced and closed mind set. Intelligence, affection and empathy brings peace in the family. Ignorance, arrogance and ego brings disaster.

[@reenasarena5662]

Well said👌👏👏

[@ramanaghanakota5264]

👍👍👍

[@mooreycbeyond3770]

Absolutely right

[@drmithiraananda4058]

🙏

[@mandyzepeda5447]

Perfect response

[@curious-abc-xyz]

01:53 never saw sadhguru thinking that much before for speaking on anything else. That gives you an idea how complex the question is.

[@SanPot123]

😀😀

[@shrilathaacharya5107]

If Mr shankar had to find a soln on his own(someone else for thorn part to.someone else n rose part to himself as said by sadguru), why would he ask u sadguru?

[@angshumansarmah6626]

🤣🤣🤣

[@CSL075]

I have watched many many videos of Sadguru. I have been married 18 years. First time I didn't understand what he was getting at. His answer was very cryptic .I did have a sharp tongue and used to make the other person cry , but changed when my mother advised me at the time of my marriage. I understood and always try to make a conscious effort to not hurt anyone through my words. In the process of becoming more spiritual every thing which is irrelevant falls away.(Sadguru mentions this in another video) That is a guarantee. These material feelings and emotions will shed if we adopt righteous way of living. One thing I definitely liked about what he said was for 1 rose with 100 thorns , nourish it and make it grow 100 roses . Yes that is a very good way to improve the thorny situation.

[@tamaleesen2759]

What he meant is, feminine intelligence is not about survival, but instead they have pronounced emotional and subtle intelligence. Now, if in the name of good manners this expression is curbed then our world will be in the loss. This world is all about the masculine, example, survival, order, properness etc. So his message is to allow the feminine to get more expressed. In the bargain all may not be proper or in good behaviour. But he is not propagating bad behaviour or rudeness.

[@bunbun5441]

@@tamaleesen2759 wow 🤩.. Very well put 👍. I too interpreted it that way .. thanks for endorsing

[@GS-ej1jo]

He clearly responded that its upto the husband to make the spouse happy and channel negativity elsewhere..

[@ashwintalapalli7869]

Even I got totally lost in his journey of answering.. Nothing came out of it...

[@abhlkp]

In short he is saying … say sorry when u r guilty and say sorry when ur not guilty.

[@GoldMeditation]

Repeat after me: Thank you for my joy; Thank you for my happiness; Thank you for my success; Thank you for my abundance; Thank you for my wealth; Thank you for my prosperity; Thanks for my health. Repeat every day and the universe will certainly serve you.

[@prasenjeetvishwakarma7903]

It is serving.. what do you want now after this 😇

[@SomoyerGhori]

Why should I repeat after you? I will create my own lines 🙂😃

[@betterapproachtolife.motiv3265]

Even in the dark times .. it is important to be grateful for what you have ... and start from there

[@GoldMeditation]

@@betterapproachtolife.motiv3265 🙏

[@chetnakaushik3780]

Thanks

[@RK-fi7ek]

A capable wife is a crown to her husband yet she must be treated with dignity and respect. She must be recognised for her unselfish deeds for her family. A capable husband is like beautiful necklace for his wife yet he must be treated with sense of understanding and tender love. He must be recognised for his devotion towards family.

[@believedream5562]

Sounds crazy

[@bhubanpradhan]

Non sense

[@lovesocialmedia3198]

A man needs respect not tender love if a man gets respect he sees that as love

[@benstowefubaraibi5168]

Wisdom

[@SEATTLEPOSEIDON32]

What have you been smoking 🚬

[@yeonluv2742]

My physically and mentally abusive dad needs to see this! He has been abusing a Beautiful Goddess he is married to🙏 Thank you sadhguru...

[@inspired4780]

God bless your family❤...everything will be fine one day..much love

[@yeonluv2742]

@@inspired4780 thank you so MUCH 😭🙏💚God bless you and your family too

[@anantvyas2211]

Oh that's bad.

[@indiancanadian2024]

No worries brother think positive and everyone else will be happy soon But you should take a lesson that you have to behave properly with your future spouse Same problem in my home but here my mother has a sharp tongue and she is very annoying and disturbing

[@aghoranand9750]

He is making negative karm...each hurtful word he says will come back to hurt him ..in his next incarnation and there are many other forms of suffering added into this.

[@BeyondResist]

“The greatest discovery of any generation is that a human can alter his life by altering his attitude.” ― William James

[@jacobychad1696]

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[@deangelocesar5666]

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[@treystarling8156]

pp

[@amarendraborah6941]

Relationships thrive on mutual respect, mutual trust, reciprocity, and fellow - feeling !

[@RedLoveShow]

Agreed

[@munterboy9298]

Tell my wife that

[@amarendraborah6941]

I often wonder - why does some people make a mockery of themselves by evolving stories out of nothing ! I very much pity someone's stupidity and abysmally low level of intelligence, although one pretends to be so smart ! Why don't someone take this onerous responsibility on one's safe shoulders so as to ascribe some semblance of authdnicity to it !

[@ashanyasaxena6142]

Women who have sharp tongue because they are neglected by their spouse , by their inlaws, they are being judged. sometimes when spouse fails to understand a woman then what else she can do,,,,, A woman who is treated nicely , prioritised and loved she will become more calm more lovable and more soft. This nobody understands

[@user-li3fe7wh2v]

Hello my dear

[@user-li3fe7wh2v]

Its seems all is okay my friend Am maria the spell caster at your service How's your family, How's your business going How's life really my dear Like to talk about it

[@user-li3fe7wh2v]

Distance its not an excuse my friend Don't say,I have tried bet didn't went well, It's time to let go that pain my dear

[@user-li3fe7wh2v]

Message me on WhatsApp

[@ilikepancakes2368]

On the other hand, some women are never satisfied no matter what you do. No man should waste his time with a woman who can’t even make herself happy.

[@paritoshdutta6644]

Summary ( my opinion) - Focus on the good behavior of your spouse, work on improving/adding other good things in her life (like enroll her in dance/singing class, help her to learn new language, help her to learn new recipes, appreciate her on her good things. In a nutshell work on improving the roses and thrones will automatically become insignificant.

[@sonyratan]

Great 👍👍👍💐 thanks

[@srinivasand4985]

You r 100% correct Sadguruji. This is for all such unfortunate males who r like me got affected & in a swamp(DalDals). I handled in two ways diagonally opposit to each other (only verbal). One way is tell her "If you continue to show your anger like this I have no other alternative except to leave you for ever." You can see a sea of change gradually in her attitude, infact she will start realizing her shortcomings sooner than later. Second you have to be saying regularly "I love you da chellam" you shud be remembering her birthday,anniversary,,festival days & give her gifts (nice saree, golden ornaments) taking her out for dining,picnic, tours etc.) Any ill-health of her,invariably she needs yr kindest attention(certainly no faking), if possible you cook a simple pepper,jeera rasam, rice,with some fried items & try to feed her with your arms around. In general she must b treated gently. Be careful & forget about all her erstwhile love affairs(in case, if any) & be kind to her after all those r due to infatuation. During & after menopause you must b very much supportive. In case of forced marriage with you ask her if she is not comfortable with you,if yes, then you should arrange a counsellor or a council of both parents & settle her with her old acquinttance. Nowhere your violent behaviour shud b shown to her even if you r getting irritated by her words & attitude. Be patient,solve the issue amicably. Violence is the weapon of a weak, pl bear it in mind. At no time you must involve yr friends between your wife & you during arguments, he can betray you by befriending your spouse. Bye friends, please write your feedbacks down the line.

[@geetanjaliadhikari849]

When a woman speaks in anger still she wants good of her partner. Although shes in rage and anger because she gets underestimated, and this happens specially where the woman compromises herself for her partner. So ladies, have a life for yourself, love yourself first.

[@kamaleshwar8902]

Absolutely right

[@BussinTopTens]

Sounds like you need a few Roses 🌹 Darling 🤣🤣🤣

[@shreyashreya1328]

​@@BussinTopTens yes when a man speaks in anger also he wants good of her partner???

[@stevebajada5992]

Speaking of thorns and that is hurting your hand all the time just remove the thorn . if it is stuck in your hand and the pain is unbearable hide your hand and keep it away . In the mean time who placed the thorn will realize that now he is alone and there is no one around to hurt anymore .

[@borys2767]

"You must find another victim for her , and you get the wonderful part of her" LOL, after 30 years of being together and 25 years of marriage I have watched my wife destroy friendships with girlfriends, colleagues at work etc., I always watched from the sidelines, then to realize I was next on her list to be destroy......why did I spend 3/4 of my life with this toxic person?

[@gardener5857]

Perhaps because it has always been convenient to blame her for your issues? Because leveling is so attractive? Hahaha. Now another woman's tongue has answered.

[@sanjaytripathi3535]

Life is all about experiencing sweets & sorrow moments... infact no pain no gain... U are feeling the pain to gain the happiness & prosperity for your future i.e your children 😀.. that's why we all need to compromise here..a tough ball can be played effectively by a skilled batsman..2ndly marriage relationship can't be compared with normal friendship kind of relationship..how to deal with 🔥 use water,ghee or sand options are always with us..be revengeful or being kind is always our options.. 🙏

[@sanjaytripathi3535]

Always feel grateful for happiness been received in other relationship as son or brother.. finally har kisi ko mukammal Jahan nahi milta..kisi ko jamin kisi ko asmaan nahi milta 😀🙏

[@markjonz]

Yes sooner or later the toxic partner will turn on you when they think they’re no longer dependent. Best to have a long engagement or not get married at all

[@raymondtendau2749]

Craving leads to suffering.The only way to be liberated from suffering is to be liberated from Craving.And the only way to be liberated from craving is to train the mind to experience reality as it is.

[@betterapproachtolife.motiv3265]

And to deal with the problem .. rather than run to addictions and quick fixes.. our problems are opportunities

[@prokurbah]

The one reading this You are phenomenal my friend. you are not alone. You are Loved. You are beautiful, we are all connected through our pain, and in our pain we come out stronger. For all of you hurting inside, for all of you wanting to scream, to jump, to cut, to fall, to pull the trigger,- for all of you who can't do it anymore, I'm here and I pray for you. *Hug if needed - take care of yourself and stay safe❤.

[@RABINDRANATHDA19]

Thank you.. well wishes for you and your family..

[@a.jayashreenayak3580]

Thank you dear💫💜Stay blessed😇

[@marikitsy4754]

Thanks i really need to hear this 😔

[@venugopalAnagandula]

For complicated questions, there are no easy answers. Sadguru is very diplomatic when answering these kind of questions.Anyone who watched the video to get any answers, may have been left with even more questions.

[@palesabontle1270]

So true

[@adrianaramirez5217]

Yes

[@srikanthreddyawwsumtheknight]

true

[@arjundass8450]

8.00a.m Tuesday 30th May 2023. Isn't it truly said that one has to prepare one's own dishes if what is on offer isn't agreeable to us.?! One has to customise ones understanding of how to go about solving ones own problems not look for one size fits all!🙏🤝👍👌

[@bhanuindyeah1]

How you deal with this is"not to deal". Go gray rock and find inner peace. Sometimes could be a personality disorder [like BPD, NPD] based on the born and brought up. Read about them, learn about them. But don't think about them, whatever happens find peace. All the best.

[@munterboy9298]

I think my wife has NPD

[@bhanuindyeah1]

@@munterboy9298 You can confirm with there traits and the cycle. Read about NPD and you will know every move of them. There is no treatment for NPD. The best way to handle it is Grey rock method.

[@zephyrdos7622]

The problem is not the spouse but the anger.

[@caranki]

and the thorns in the spouse that results to such negative reaction

[@lodjinsabac3848]

Endless talking is one of the most horrible situations...🌻

[@ilamlirvag]

I recommend reading the book Trilogia Krysthos by Marianna Escribano, where among many other things he gives some tools to raise awareness such as: "Don't fight." "Shake hands with your enemy." "Give what you have to your brother." "Not wishing you could." -Love freedom and give freedom. Never hold a human being from his freedom. "Preserve the planet." "Flee from violence." Never face. "Forgive with love and without rancor." "Humility in your hearts." -Aim for simplicity in demonstrations. -Not stop being unique in your essence. The book contains a lot of information, for example when and how did life begin on the planet and the evolution of being human, also reveals which race we belong and that the project for the human being it is eternal life on the planet and much more.

[@Liuds84]

Do not redirect angriness to another person. It will be hard, but you should have a constructive conversation about how each feels and why. Help her to find the cause of being angry, both of you should find the solution to remove triggers which cause fear and angriness.

[@JawwadRafiq]

Only if, she is agreed to listen and she is agreed to solve the issues with constructive conversations. She cant be logical, and cant discuss logically.

[@snikhilkumar1997]

@@JawwadRafiq true.

[@brianhanes5413]

@@JawwadRafiq ideally a man should avoid being with a woman like that

[@JawwadRafiq]

@@brianhanes5413 yes

[@MM-hk7ym]

What if ur spouse husband doesn't want to talk at all... Shuts u off all the time.. or uses ur conversation and twist it as he can use later.. doesn't really care about you at all.

[@munterboy1744]

How to deal with an angry spouse? RUN AND NEVER LOOK BACK! If they ever disrespect you call them out straight away and if they don't change leave. I had low self esteem my whole life and never stood up for myself against anyone, I always avoided confrontation. After 25 years I an controlling and abusive marriage where my wife would not let me see my family or friends. I left my wife, my kids don't speak to me anymore but all the stress and build up emotional damage is gone. My parents might not be around anymore but I hope they are looking down and happy that I escaped to enjoy the last few years of my life.

[@josephblack5359]

Today I made meditation according to Sadhguru. instructions.I received a message. By Ancaint diety. I'm at the starting point understanding the basic rules of the Universe.Thank You so much - Your Wisdom & Knowledge is far behind perception & immortality. You Are a Bright Light of a Star - Shining upon Darkness & Void.

[@roopaligupta5914]

Might sound silly but couldn't take off my eyes from the serene background ..what a feel😍😍

[@rockyarora2008]

It is most difficult to become a family man/women. Having a satisfactory relationship is most challenging. When we face a difficult person we want to get out of that relation. Becoming a yogi and leaving everything and everyone is an easy solution to let go all your burdens. But not the right way because you choose that life earlier and now want to escape the problems that come with it.

[@rrr5_Finance2]

so whats the solution according to you

[@executiveengineer7641]

Guruji ,If husband and wife have different spiritual levels then their frequency will be different how to solve this..in married life and ..maintaining a good relationship..

[@tranthuytien102]

I dont have a spouse yet. But surprisingly, i can understand every aspects and words he said 🙏🙏🙏 thank you, Sadhguru

[@auselesstv7042]

Clever sadhguru..you had me there again...

[@ranimouf]

Remember one thing. You can never fix an angry sharp tongued woman. So choose wisely!

[@kirisutegomen12]

My advice is to never get married

[@snikhilkumar1997]

U must be happiest person on earth. 🤣🤣🤣

[@snikhilkumar1997]

@@ranimouf have your ever asked about her past... Or what she has been through..??... If u love her or she is somebody help her... Because these things are signs of mental retardation and steps towards depression. Help her make her talk.. Make her cool down.. Don't make situations where she sparks.

[@commentfromnitya]

Short tempered people spoil the life of their spouses. And own life too. Even if you try to focus on yourself, they come anytime & pounce upon you. No remedy for ‘tunakbaaj’ spouse. Not sure how to handle?

[@santoshkarki4269]

For a spiritual seeker, it's a boon to get such spouse. It's a good opportunity to practice with own's ego. When someone abuses us , our ego gets hurt.

[@daleallen6992]

Yes it's a challenge, my husband is like that,l talk with him a lot

[@pritishasharma775]

If you want to see the change, be the change. (from my experience, in this context) 🙏

[@sohni789]

But then even then you dont see the cchange. Its hard to go through and hard to make any decision.... its like stuck in mudd :(

[@reenagohel5033]

I believe every word Sadguru says 🙏🏻

[@deepaksoam1515]

Don't believe anything unless you perceive it totally

[@Noone-gz8li]

@@deepaksoam1515 true

[@Angelcatsun]

Me too !

[@deepaksoam1515]

@Kapish Agarwal all I'm trying is to be receptive rest is my guru's presence

[@basshead5077]

it just takes one relationship to make you or break you....i wonder how people manage to have multiple relationships at once

[@masternobin]

They don't

[@basshead5077]

@@masternobin hahaha

[@luckydave328]

It's easier than expecting the same one to always be nice. Don't put all your eggs in one basket.

[@novisan4809]

They think they have

[@hb3528]

Not when the relationship is sexuqlly based .

[@BeyondResist]

“My name is Celaena Sardothien," she whispered, "and I will not be afraid.” ― Sarah J. Maas

[@RaiseTheWorldProjectNow]

Love this 🙏🏼❤️

[@oqba]

All human misery are caused by the "attachment"

[@Mltms1444]

Agree 100%

[@mikedelferro]

Happy wife, happy life.

[@evelelamayo]

Nah. I rather be happy on my own than sacrifice that to keep the wife happy.

[@manas142]

You know if its the spur of the moment, you must fight and take out the grudges. It builds mutual respect and understanding. If you compromise on this , one side starts dominating and leads to the otherside looking for a way out. Most failed marriages are caused due to this. Fu*k media, take matters into control before you end up alone.

[@cactaceous]

"Happy wife, happy life"?! That is the mind of a servant who thinks that. Both need to meet in the middle to have a happy life. If one has to only give and the other only takes, bitterness will brew. Guaranteed.

[@vendettasfinest7951]

Nah women r trifling !

[@titogfrmda_408]

I wanna see one on how to deal with spouse not getting along with parents

[@harvindersinghharry]

me too bro....i am dealing with the same situation

[@LiraFn]

I wouldn’t say I would phrase the things he’s saying the same but it is good advice in a way. It’s proven that women mature faster than men and we also perform better in school so our way of being can often be more mature. Men can have a hard time speaking about emotions and some men are raised not to be able to have a argument without pissing their pants after 3 second. I think this causes a lot of misunderstandings between certain couples

[@maykhoo5610]

The husband should always try to bring out the best in his wife n vice versa ❤

[@betterapproachtolife.motiv3265]

Agree .. it is about lifting each other up

[@david.walters]

You are such a beautiful being of love and light. Thank you for being here on earth during this powerful transition :) The universe and God love you unconditionally.

[@welovemarbles7191]

Wasn't he accused of murdering his wife or something?

[@commentpost907]

Some people can’t change, sometimes that growth has to come from themselves. Even your kindness shouldn’t suffer such injury to get those roses. Some of them will never bloom.

[@DanielMartinez-ec1in]

I agree

[@netra21daoo]

Good one सद्गुरु.. But you only focussed on women as angry spouse.. It can be other way also right? Please tell us what to do then? Waiting for another great learning from you🙏

[@reenavasnani371]

Let me join you in the queue, I'm also Waiting. .... 😢😢

[@khanhhuyen2876]

My parents need to see this, i hope their endless quarrel will come to an end soon😔

[@RShubham007]

You can watch his videos all life time but Experience is the only parameter to understand this individual.

[@benjaminpowers9448]

The fire smoke is just billowing into his eyes the whole time. What a boss

[@devanwoodruff7289]

Ya, he reeeaallll high. Ohh you meant the campfire..

[@RedLoveShow]

Me and my gf dated for a year in those one year we have always managed to find the worst in us. I realised my mistake and tried changing and did every thing best possible by me for her, but she never saw them. We used to fight a lot and have our differences so much so that we were breaking up every other day. So i finally broke up with her and my life has been peaceful ever since. Now peace is primary than love!!!

[@andrewmair7371]

Hmm 🤔 Very broad, very general…🤷🏻 That is as close to ‘stumped’ as I have observed Mr S…😉 Even he was chuckling at the difficulty of answering that in any definitive way - Everyday life, the universe, the totality of being, & ‘properly functioning’ are one (or several) thing(s)… but the eternally mysterious dynamic between man & woman quite another - Rough translation: ‘You’re on your own son, work it out, go to the heart of it, no blame/no failure, no rationale… give your best, stay on your feet, keep it (very) real, & good luck❗️’ 👍😁 🦆

[@neemagsharma]

I always love to hear him... He makes the problem so easy...

[@vibrantfeeling8298]

Strength is life, weakness is death. - Swami Vivekananda

[@jessevdmeer]

If u think, sadhguru is like some kind of god, he is just a person like u and me, who translates his developed and trained inner voice into human words. Trying to tell us that every person has this inner voice, and we must always keep looking for it, develop and train it, and then share it, like Sadhguru is doing right now. ❤️

[@catherinele1580]

One hundred thorns needs one hundred roses 🌹

[@SomoyerGhori]

Now don't come to the question part..I am very bad at math 😬

[@LoVeInADiUniVerSe]

he said *thorns*

[@catherinele1580]

@@LoVeInADiUniVerSe yes 👍 my spelling is bad lol 😆

[@LoVeInADiUniVerSe]

@@catherinele1580 oh ok.. ha.. i just wanted ta make sure u didnt mishear.. bless...

[@bhoopalsinghRoheria]

First time I have not get direct Answers from Sadhguru 🙏. Sadhguru it's an diplomatic answer. I also have such problems, so how can I unleash her wonderfulness?, how to get roses not thorns everyday 🙏

[@lodjinsabac3848]

You are laghing as never before...What I saw...Great!🌻

[@rishabhmalhotra2415]

For the first time I felt that even sadhguru was thinking and a little afraid of answering this question :D

[@debbiesophia7770]

I just got my ex back

[@debbiesophia7770]

If u need help you can also get from the great wicca who help me

[@debbiesophia7770]

Message him now on WhatsApp

[@debbiesophia7770]

Message him now on WhatsApp

[@JosephKarthic]

Answer: Do not get Married...Seriously its not worth the hassle..your whole life is adjustment and compromise if you get married...please live free till the end...there's more heart aches than happiness overall.

[@homeschoolingwithcoseybrot1130]

The problem is both characters of unsubmissisve attributes and tendencies. Both need to be humble and submissive. Pride and unsubmissisve behavior will lead to separation and anger and lead to violence and speration.

[@skolli143]

Sometimes Sadguru solutions are so vague which are not practical.

[@sumeermehta7727]

How to deal with an angry spouse Me:Give divorce (So simple)😏😏

[@filipinaprobinsyana172]

Me: Aim to winning your spouse more than winning the arguments against your spouse.😊

[@slipguy7371]

Me: destroy everything and anything around the house. Then feel bad about it hours later with a broken hand.

[@pollyzacholl7303]

And do not marry again...since you don't want to put your share of effort into the marriage

[@dairy1994]

its all about space and time for the mind to clear the fog .dont be so crazy

[@MojiAttack]

So...i (the husband) was vacuuming the rooms just now, my wife was in the other room doing something else then she called for me but i wanted to finish hoovering so i said "wait a bit" and i was going to go over in a minute or so. Then all of a sudden she started slamming the drawers and having a go at me. Prior to all this we were happily watching tv together. Love of my life.

[@AmeerUmarproplayer]

He actually said .. nothing can be done deal with it!😵‍💫

[@lindalarsson1436]

Yes deal with it or find her another victim

[@soniadubey4773]

Need to Listen carefully

[@krishnacreation4409]

Sadhguru giving wisdom as Geeta. The another Reincarnation Lord Krishna ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏💖💖💖

[@rishipuran2738]

🙏🏽 this response is for a normal wife. How does one handle a Narcissist spouse?

[@UM-oq2pv]

😂

[@mayagma]

You very carefully remove yourself from the situation.

[@rishipuran2738]

@@mayagma thank you Maya, that’s what I am doing. It’s a very long process however.

[@rishipuran2738]

@Bird Song I wish I could, I have two daughters, I would not leave them even if it takes me to my grave.

[@mayagma]

@@rishipuran2738 saw ur comment below. That u have 2 daughters. I'm one of the 2 daughters of a narcissistic father and a submissive mother who says the same thing you said below. If what u said is 💯 true and your spouse is infact narcissistic, i just hope to God that there are no episodes in the house that are alarming to the children. From experience, i wish my parents had divorced each other amicably but remained friends over the course of life and also for whatever little sense of family we could have had. Both me and my sister have been very much impacted by the episodes at our home. When people in the marriage, both husband and wife does not reflect on their actions and character especially around the children, and doesn't give importance to growth by effective communication and problem solving, trust me the kids will eventually lose faith in the concept of love in general as well as question the love the parents have for them.. if they don't fix these things, they become very alarmingly toxic for each other as well as their children. Hope you both take the right approach as a couple and always realise that your actions are always watched by your kids and one day in future they will always realise and have the intelligence to figure out who is wrong and where.

[@Mltms1444]

يا لطيف It's by thy grace that I feel Your holy name

[@drhashemthinkers8274]

roses with thorns .. what an analogy .. spot on .. I'm impressed .. thank you

[@gretelhance]

Oldie

[@Wendy7496]

This is a good advice thank you.

[@icucode]

If bad behavior (intention) is only socially relevant but not life relevant. Why then practice restraint and good behavior to achieve enlightenment?

[@cynthiad_]

I love this video ❤I am learning so so much from your videos 🙏Thank You ❤

[@Jayesla]

Not really getting answer . Just smiling here and there.

[@y4h374]

Hello Mr Singh, I have a girlfriend and she is such a sweet soul however she gets angry and says hurtful things to me, what can I do. Thank you

[@manyayadav1875]

Love you sadhguru apko koti koti naman....prabhu kripa karo....

[@allcommunitymarriagebureau5179]

sadguru pranam i keep on listening to your videos one thing i have to understand is that you make things simple and give very simple examples to understand a certain problems and your words is definately making life more happier....someday i would love to take some blessings from you

[@Rollingmyeyes0.o]

It’s not just women it’s men too, sometimes I just wanna hit the bar and forget about the freaken negativity 😅

[@quratulain3749]

This is not about surrender,I am worried about my health

[@BrandonClark-StocksPassports]

Divorce them..... That's how you deal with them. Life is too short to stay in a bad relationship.....just breakup and find someone else.

[@neemagsharma]

Divorcing is not the solution... Find the reason & work on it... If still not succeed after many attempts then one can find this solution. There can be many reasons why partner are behaving that way... May be we may have some weakness and to remove it one should understand her/his feelings and reason for it. Direct divorce is like giving up and running from the prblm.

[@inspired4780]

I gave 100% in my marriage but my husband was not ready to give in...he straightaway refused to put efforts..finally divorced him..because i understood that for him something else is more important than me..7 beautiful years ended in 1 day

[@nancysubramaniam2967]

@@inspired4780 I hope you find better things in life and more happiness

[@inspired4780]

@@nancysubramaniam2967 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@jenyurikouth4984]

Good one. Thanks.

[@TashaNyam]

Hahahhahaja omg the question is so funny!!! Sadhguru is right on point that women has sharper tongue hahaha...

[@BalajiRmcr]

I didn't get any satisfying answer for this question. Even satguru cannot answer this question 😃

[@user-li3fe7wh2v]

Hello my dear

[@user-li3fe7wh2v]

Its seems all is okay my friend Am maria the spell caster at your service How's your family, How's your business going How's life really my dear Like to talk about it

[@user-li3fe7wh2v]

Distance its not an excuse my friend Don't say,I have tried bet didn't went well, It's time to let go that pain my dear

[@user-li3fe7wh2v]

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[@Tamu_sushzz]

Saprem Saheb Bandagee Sadhguru Saheb Jee........🙏💐💐💐

[@hughnormus9465]

Sadghuru I think you're the best, I wanna be your friend one day♡

[@sreedhartallapureddy4561]

First time since following saadguru didn’t have a answer to a simple daily problem

[@pollyzacholl7303]

It's not a simple problem, he tries to think before he speaks...which more people should do.

[@murmusciences8264]

Just when your better half starts bursting out ,you must let her shout,burst,cry and whatever drama she starts ,What you should do is just take a walk,or get yourself in another room ,play one round of pubg,or some game for 30 minutes or so ,then ,if she gets calm then speak or reply , otherwise let her increase her blood pressure,its her problem ,donot get indulge.This will make her clear that ,"there is talking between you and her only ,if done calmly ,quitly and peacefully".Once you let this lines get in her head,she will not speak on 8th level ,as you will not be present there to listen.This worked in my married life.possibly will work on yours too. Don't forget to be calm and peaceful,when she bursts out ,just withdraw yourself from that environment.

[@spintroxy5336]

In India, it's almost the opposite.

[@rosies8476]

Genius cannot be learnt. You have to unleash it.

[@dblankenship88]

Sadhguru’s advice on this maybe accurate but if one is a afraid to go home because of their spouse they need to divorce this person.

[@Jennifer-vk4jc]

I can understand that statement and depending on the situation, I could absolutely agree. But maybe that person could take a good look in the mirror to see what they can improve upon. See how they may be causing some of this pain/anger/fear to surface. Be more in tune to her emotions before she ‘blows up.’ She her levels of frustration rise before they crash down onto him. A good wonderful woman doesn’t give up easily. She might still be fighting for the relationship. These emotions could be much better handled/projected in another form other than a sharp tongue but it could also reflect the deep love she has for this relationship. When a woman stops fighting she is finished. She has already given it her all in all they ways she knows how. Sometimes even becoming someone she doesn’t even like (yelling, angry). She has contemplated every aspect of what quitting would do to her and her family. In a way, he could be grateful for her sharp tongue- she may still love him deeply and in a unhealthy way is still trying to make it work. She is clinging on to that one last rose. No couple comes out of therapy without their own individual inner work to do. Maybe if he makes a change within himself or gains a few more emotional tools in his ‘toolbox’ he could really change his situation. Often, a 20 second hug when a women is becoming angry can produce oxytocin and calm both partners providing better ground for these emotionally charged discussions/situations. Just reminding your partner you love them and are on their team. Or asking, ‘how can I help?’ forcing your partner to really stop and think about what they need (verbalize it). Simple changes can lead to big results. Nothing changes if nothing changes. Sometimes we have to be the first to make a change. Take a step to protect that last rose. Just Thoughts Have a great day :-)

[@coolwater55]

I don't really know this situation. One possibility. The man is too chauvinistic and devalue the role the woman provides. She is angry, because he probably walks in the door, wants his meal, tussles the kids hair and watches tv. She will be bathing children, finishing dishes, doing the chores late into the night. He goes to bed wanting some nooky and she wants to bite his head off with his ignorance. There, fixed it. ;)

[@Jennifer-vk4jc]

@Aso Fotida No, of course its not always the mans fault. More thoughts- Unfortunately, men are wired and conditioned to be less emotionally observant/ vulnerable. In today’s age, marriage is less for monetary stability/safety and more for love/growth. Relationships today need less fight/flight and more emotional connectedness. The downfall of practically every relationships takes two people. Whether you are the one pushing boundaries or the one allowing them be pushed. Most women want their emotional needs met but think they can get by without it; it’s okay to sacrifice this. Only to realize later, they can’t and are full of resentment and frustration. Personally, I think for relationships to be more successful in today’s society, men (and some women) should focus on embracing/expressing their emotions more fully and openly. Not an easy task and I have compassion for the difficulty of this (inherently and societally).

[@coolwater55]

@@Jennifer-vk4jc Well articulated! I can empathize with your scenario!

[@shubhangidive3562]

For the first time in his videos. Not convinced or may be I did not understand the solution or what was he trying to convey. Sorry.

[@tammyopines2528]

3:10 we made such women worship worthy ! Means these people decide whom to make worship worthy ! Whole basis of idol worship is flawed !

[@versatileshow7039]

I am getting very angry when something doesn't goes the same I want. How to overcome such situation? Please help 🙏

[@jomama5186]

My great Gramma had a saying house devil, street angel. Nice outwardly, but get home and close the door and watch out ! It's true too

[@ajayarjunk]

What does Sadhguru mean by Never Surrender ?

[@anjalir4967]

He means don't place "good behavior" at a superior level than being brilliant, exuberant, intense, magnetic, etc. There are so many more wonderful qualities that may also come with the package of being "badly behaved". You can't always have them mutually exclusive from each other. Take the package as it comes. Don't try to diminish certain aspects of someone to better suit your needs. Take them as they come. That's a better philosophy to ensure your peace of mind too. Agar pani puri mein thoda mithaas aur thoda theeka pani bhi nahi hota.. to vo sach mein pani puri hai kya?

[@highonlife4719]

my father is so agressive he never talked to me with love anyone here to share his beautiful words with me

[@SouravDas-ti4yk]

Every Rose, Has its Thorn. Just like every night. Has its dawn... ❤️🙏

[@SouravDas-ti4yk]

@Aso Fotida yeah 😁 some Poisons make you alive 🤘🤙

[@itsjustart24]

Very nice listening to you

[@ashutoshtiwari3652]

Really sadguru is a amazing personality and he have a knowledge in every field wether it is related to spirituality or science, I never seen such kind of man that have plethora of information in every field.

[@shrilathaacharya5107]

Did he answer this qn??no he did not

[@metinibrahim6657]

Simply put “ a women can build her house with her words just as she can destroy it” if she doesn’t understand let her go.

[@ajayarjunk]

I didn't understand it fully. What if the woman spouse is a psycho ? There are many cases where the women is abusive. Why should her happiness be more significant than the husband? Why should he nourish her ?

[@mayagma]

It depends upon the situation. Which is obvious.

[@ajayarjunk]

I don't understand how the wife can be wonderful if he s even scared to go home. Seriously 🌝

[@vinodkumarpillai5294]

@@ajayarjunk well said bro. man should not nourish such women and find peace for himself

[@mysteriousbillionaire7349]

Im clashing with people over small reasons? I feel people are lashing out on me over trivial reasons. I get a little bit angry but other people seem to get really angry with me over small things. Even though at time I feel they have said more things than me, I wonder what the reason is.