How to deal with and fix insecurity

[@TheKingTywinLannister]

I like how he talks in this video. Like human to human. I don’t like how he talks like teacher to student on a lot of other videos. You should do more videos like this one. Amazing.

[@danielkim9205]

exactly why i watch this man. no "influencer" type of voice just genuine man talking about what he believes in

[@stephenoverstreet9898]

Going through your videos in no particular order, just whatever speaks to me at the moment. Gotta say, I'm thankful you're out there putting out straight content and not just feeding into the emasculation mentality of this goofy world. Good on you for sharing something that must have been, at one point, so centrally private, but have since learned how to have a healthy outlook on it. Sometimes you can't change your circumstances, but you can ALWAYS change your reaction. Peace.

[@vhollund]

Answer : Do stuff and get skills over time that give you a real sense of confidence. Avoid befriending people who lower your self esteem or has drinking habits

[@mwanichi]

Great video, man. My 79 year old father had a similar situation. Burns in the same area from a pot of boiling water and a stuttering problem. He used basketball to build his confidence. He was so good that he walked on to the UCLA basketball team and played for Johnny Wooden in the early 1960's. He played basketball until he was 75. Thanks for sharing.

[@TheRobbo007]

I had social anxiety, a severe underbite and was taunted and bullied in school . But I had surgery on my jaw and overcame my experiences and insecurities. Now I’m the strong man you see today.

[@ShadowLow25]

This man is so genuine I love his videos DAMN

[@kevinsturges6957]

I can’t tell at all that you ever had a stutter, and your burn scars actually just add to your cool character. Your channel is great for positive advice. Glad I discovered you. Subscribed.

[@douglassmith2055]

Good stuff. We are only here for a short time, so going around insecure is a waste of that precious time.

[@tannerc900]

Whenever I’m in a lower spot with myself, I always come back to this video. You really are an inspiration, especially in this day and age. Young men need your voice.

[@rickboiardimindshiftingaca6975]

Dude, you're like a superhero.....great story

[@Miscellaneos101]

I really enjoy your videos thank you. Self acceptance is so important, I have been alone in this world since I was 8 and have struggled a lot to figure things out and myself especially. It's all in your mind.

[@J94R]

Been watching your videos for a while now, I never thought that you had a stutter. I myself have a stutter, and as you said, facing and accepting yourself for who you are, and changing your perceptions about your insecurities really helps. I still stutter, but not half as bad as I used to, going out there and facing your fears is the only thing that works for people with insecurities no matter what they are. You're setting a great example for lots of people out there, thank you for that!

[@koralite3953]

i was raised fatherless and it was pretty bad.

[@adryannthedefender701]

Your not alone .

[@mohamedfadili8325]

Not alone buddy

[@okcoolshades2203]

Praying for all you guys

[@chasingmypinnacle]

Same.

[@andrewlopson3394]

I just started following your channel...I like your style--very sincere and factual--to the point...I think that you are a very good communicator...good job getting some important stuff out there and helping people...you are an inspiration...keep up the good work.

[@JB007SEXY]

I am a burn victim to and it was a HUGE learning curve to ACCEPT what i was going thru emotionally and Physically. The answer was to move forward and LIVE!! My hole right arm is Toasted way up to my shoulders and back around my shoulder blade, and still my life has been GO GO GO;-)

[@stresslee]

This is why I watch you Rich. You’re the same way I am. Someone who faces their issues head on and learned that crying and complaining does nothing but keep you down. You understand just like I do that this shit is never easy but you didn’t run away from it. You did something about it. Regardless of what people said, regardless of how they looked at you, regardless of all the pain they made you feel you came out on top and said f you to everyone and became what you always wanted to be. A strong confident individual. I respect that. I’m glad I found your content, don’t know if you’ll see this because your video is pretty old but that’s awesome. A lot of your content about women has helped me out tremendously lately. I’ve been becoming the best version of myself and I definitely have to give you credit where it’s due. You definitely got me back on the right path.

[@parkermacneil5523]

Hey Rich, I know you get these comments all the time but just wanted to say. Hearing that from you is seriously impactful. I'm 29, and am in the middle of what I now realize is my own unplugging. The book arrived Saturday and it's nearly done here on Monday June 13th. 2022. Just wanted to say thanks.

[@thatguycalledart6270]

when i'm insecure I have a couple of shots and then I can talk to whoever about whatever.

[@scotturner3178]

Great video. Super important. The secret to overcoming insecurity is to confront and push through anything that makes you feel uncomfortable or embarrassed.

[@edaruggieri4313]

Metal and books definitely have curative properties! Great video and well done!

[@mr.cynical2201]

I was raised without a father, late bloomer because I was born with and entire side of my body being under developed. A lot of emotional neglect and bad decisions on my mother's part really damaged my mental health. But I'm managing. Trying to teach myself the things I should've learned growing up. I didnt have a handle on expressing my thoughts till a few years ago. I'm 23 now and it's difficult, but hard work will eventually pay off

[@RS-nt6wu]

Damn man, the knowledge is in abundance. Love these videos, you better never stop! You always have solid advice my bro!

[@benpham9801]

I have a broken Arm and felt insecure even today. Most of my life people put me down, telling me I can't do things. They say I can't ride motor cycle and I rode motorcycle. They say you can't play basketball and I compete on a basketball team. They say you can't do electrical and now I have my own company. However, the stigma is still there. I still try to prove to there world that I can do anything. Thanks for the uplifting video. Make me realized why I'm doing all this.

[@1gregmoreira]

If people are actually in your life telling you that you’re not good enough to do certain things....at minimum ignore them. That is their own insecurities talking. They’re trying to keep you down on their level. When you start succeeding...it makes them feel threatened. If at all possible, confront them. Let them know that you’re tired of the negativity. If that doesn’t help....consider getting away from them all together. It’s going to be hard to really break free from the insecurities when the people around you are always putting you down. You’d be much better off spending time with people who find you interesting and find your accomplishments interesting

[@festernassociates]

Thats cool man! Congrats overcoming the stutter! I was a metal head and used to sing alot too! I still do some.. and play guitars.. ive found ive become more secure the longer ive stayed sober.. working out.. changing up my style.. Reading is really good for speech! Helped me too. Diggin your channel bro.

[@gabrielalele8603]

Powerful Discussion. Thanks for Sharing.

[@LOSA2016]

Awesome clip. Very motivating based upon reality. Thanks for sharing your highest truth, Richard.

[@Gasconauxolives]

Thank you Richard for this one and for all your other insightfull videos. Embrace and improve yourself, and know that other's judgements are their own insecurities.

[@iroquoisplissken3583]

Scars are pretty metal

[@oooooooooooo2332]

Iroquois Plissken waaay better than tattoos

[@muskokamike127]

Yeah, it's funny. I have more than a few and was sensitive about them when I was younger. Now? Scars are proof that you've done shit. I counted 18 on my left hand one time. This is because I'm a carpenter and hold everything with my left, and work on it with my right. So I started teaching myself to be ambidextrous, to give my left a break lol. Same as scars on my face from fighting. "how'd you get those scars"? Got into a scrap or two, never started them but sure did finish them!

[@feliperodriguez6885]

Awesome advise im 48 and still have issues with my image, thanks it made me feel good about my self.

[@EnoI539]

How does it feel to be 50?

[@feliperodriguez6885]

@@EnoI539 just turned 51no big deal.

[@spot_of_tea53]

Those scars made you. Those scars saved a lot of men. We owe you.

[@robbierocket3110]

Great video Rich. Never stop!

[@jorgeloya6420]

Brother you Speak professionally and look build I would never think you overcame those obstacles.. Lots of will power

[@muskokamike127]

One of the best pieces of advice I heard someone say: the trick is: don't give a shit what anyone thinks of you. YOUR opinion of yourself is the only one that truly matters.

[@ivangratton4034]

Thanks for this rich I would never of thought you were ever insecure..I was like you as a young boy..now I'm completely the opposite.. great advise great channel..Thank Brother

[@diegomiranda7975]

Love your channel and topics dude. Even though I disagree with you on the Vegan diet, i have to say I love your channel...

[@dh12.]

Good video, it's all about baby steps for me but I'm working on it.

[@EntrepreneursInCars]

+Dave h Keep at it

[@sugarfreerecovery4339]

This one is AMAZING!!! You said several things I didn't know I needed to hear

[@mattricko8670]

I fucking love your videos bro you say shit how it is with no sugar coating. I share a similar past, i had speech issues and a learning disability. Its all about loving your self and not give a shit what anyone thinks of you.

[@supersly3211]

Great video man, thanks and peace 🙏🏿

[@tossom89]

Cool sunglasses! Could you share the brand? I would love have them. :) love your channel by the way, that m3 sounds awesome.

[@EntrepreneursInCars]

+Tod Martin Thx, and no idea of the brand, picked them up in Vegas a few yrs ago.

[@collinolguin5772]

Props on doing this man I just started doing push-ups and planks at twenty but I was 280 pounds at around 17 but got to 180 and got content and went back up to 220 but am back at 185 or so and am working towards a six pack appreciate the advice and wisdom if you have any advice on attracting BBWs or Amazon women let me know

[@karl4813]

Thing you mentioned about the ethos - brilliant!

[@Gabriel-icm]

Hey Richard. Just like a lot of men, I didn't grow up with my father and it seems like it doesn't matter the number or quality of things I've acomplish, I still kind of feel a vacuum that definitely ends up into insecurity issues. I'll appreciate your thoughts on this topic. Thanks.

[@MrJimmy3459]

There's 2 types of people, one who will see someone successful like you and hate on you and those who will see you and want to be like you. I want to be like you cause I am able to admit my faults and try to change them, unlike those who hate and try to bring someone like you down to there shitty level

[@larryblair671]

Thank you my brother 🤠

[@barnetthejosh]

That’s a nice cast - makes me feel warm. I used to have really bad eczema. I over compensated for it as I grew and now I’m an alpha stud that women drool over 👍

[@thecatfelix2988]

Thanks that was direct and right on.

[@maxlaguna9712]

Accept yourselves. Whether people do or don't in the end it doesn't really matter.

[@vernefits1953]

Awesome video. Nice shirt

[@jakemaxwell5959]

I have rosacea (skin condition on my face) I don't have the option of hiding it and I'm still very insecure about it. I have lifted weights for years and quite strong but just can't get over this psychological hurdle

[@KingNothing]

Don't know if this will help + it has been one month since you wrote this but here goes: View your scarring simply as BATTLE SCARS... I have some stretch marks on the sides of my stomach and felt rather insecure about them when I was younger. If you haven't already, check out Elliot Hulse here on YT. He also talks a great deal about Becoming the Strongest Version of Yourself! Keep seeking knowledge from those who know more than you do, find some form of exercise that you enjoy. If you don't feel that lifting heavy junk is your thing, then do something else that suits you.

[@abcdefg208]

Thank you so much

[@JasonJayJJ1]

“There is no single disease which causes more psychic trauma, more maladjustment between parents and children, more general insecurity and feelings of inferiority and greater sums of psychic suffering than does acne vulgaris.” -Sulzberger & Zaldems, 1948. When I stumbled across that quote in a newspaper before the internet, it was like a beacon of light to know someone out there knows how I feel. Not to discount your scars & story, but I'd rather have burns than cystic acne in the prime of my teens and twenties. I'd just make up a story to my friends that the burn scars were from you trying to save your friend from a burning building or whatever. Then you play it off as a cool macho thing. Acne is just a reoccurring nightmare of random & uncontrollable disgusting blemishes that are located in the most important area of skin that you will ever present to the world. Acutane does work, but not without a lot of trial & error beforehand. Meanwhile say goodbye to your dating & single life b/c it's hermit life while you wait inside your house for the blemishes to heal using anything & everything you can buy of which none of it really helps. Oh that burning regret of living in my own prison for years & years, not on my worst enemy.

[@mokeeffe500]

Totally agree!

[@yokiweyy4770]

Dude this is so True i almost feel like you read my mind. I'm 33 and still dealing with this thing since i was 11. I'm talking about huge pimples all over my back, chest, legs, ass, and face of course (althought at least it's not that bad on my face anymore). Even now i sometimes have to put a bandaid somewhere on my back because i accidentally pop one of those things during a shower maybe, otherwise i'd leave some small blood stain on my shirt. I always felt like i was some kind of disgusting freak. I still do to a degree. I used to always try to hide it by never showing my upper body because i was so ashamed of this. And nothing any dermatologist gave me ever worked. At some point i thought that i Can't go on with all this shame, so i started to not give a fuck about it anymore. I take off my shirt without a problem nowadays, even though i stll feel a little like a freak. But if i'd listen to this feeling i'd go crazy and would never do things i really enjoy, like going to the beach in summer or going to the gym

[@dananderson4026]

They will call you cocky when you get there and they will call you a loser when your at the bottom

[@muskokamike127]

I had a really bad lisp and it took hours and hours and hours of therapy to get over it. It worked though. I think a lot of guy's insecurities stem from parenting. If your parent instills in you a sense of ability as opposed to criticizing, then you will be more confident. Same as encouragement and praise for accomplishments as opposed to praise for just showing up (like what happens these days with participation ribbons). It also doesn't help to have an older sibling that pounds on you constantly.....mine did and when I "grew up" and started being able to fight back, that's when things started to change with me. I use this joke as a good rule in life: An old bull and a young bull are standing on a hill over looking a herd of cows. The young bull says: why don't we run down there and fuck one of them cows? The old bull says: why don't we WALK down there and fuck them all? The moral is: you don't have to run into a room and dominate it drawing attention to yourself to be confident. It comes from within...some of the most able and confident people I have ever met are the ones who sneak up on you so to speak. They're not the ones who shout, they're the ones who whisper. I've known a TON of guys who outwardly, were the big strong he man lady killers. Women flocked to them. But underneath they were insecure little boys who needed that attention to support their self image. Another good one? Cocky is telling people how great you are, Confidence is showing them.

[@taztaz8781]

We must find the solution to the problem, not deal with it, thanks richard.

[@kikerz4071]

great one.

[@MG-ey8ww]

This channel looks more like a self reflection meditation for you, which you receive positive feedback and support going forward and keeping you focused. That's me read, you drive while talking cuz it makes you relax, you're probably a multi task person, probably love for sports are very high, I would say insecurities are feedback from our brain which we wish to change something.

[@caninho1]

i was born with like 2 fingers on my right hand and i dont know where my insecurity came from. nobody picked up on me cuz of that.. but i always feel insecure to show my hand to children because it might be weird for them to see. ill try to be open about it just to see how they react. i agree brother, everything remains the same, but the wires inside your brains change that make the difference

[@transikk]

Broke my wrist and fractured my other elbow back in october. Surgery and everything Is it to early to go back to deadlifting? Tried yesterday some push up and dips and cant to them, but deadlift would be a different movement what your thoughts?

[@muskokamike127]

Here's another good one: do things you've never done before. When you succeed, or even if you fail, learn from it. I was playing one of those couples games at a party and the question was: what one item would you take with you to a desert island? I said "my leatherman wave" MY gf pointed at me and said "him" Why is that? With his leatherman in a week he'd have built a 2 bedroom condo with indoor plumbing lol

[@adrian3747_]

Thank u bro this helps. I wonder what the scars look like

[@1979Heyjude]

I wish my dad was like you when I was growing up.

[@aidanLVbeats]

18 and have a receding hairline. by far my biggest insecurity, i don’t fear going bald necessarily but at such a young age when i’m about to go to university it is such a burden on my confidence

[@johnolive9477]

Sorry to hear that man. I think everyone struggles with something. For me, it's been body weight and being short. Got made fun of a lot in middle school for it. Don't let it get to you too much. Focus on things that you can do something about - working out, studying, building meaningful friendships, etc. You'll feel much better for it.

[@aidanLVbeats]

@@johnolive9477 cheers mate i appreciate the kind words. yeah i’m definitely gonna try and focus on those other aspects you mentioned but easier said than done when your confidence is so low. still not gonna let it get me down too much though. i wish you well fighting your own insecurities as well man

[@johnolive9477]

@@aidanLVbeats Likewise bro. Best of luck!

[@PCgonemad-ih9pr]

I lost out on so many opportunities in life, simply because I couldn't , speak in public even turned down being best man at my friends wedding. Not good

[@JCREAM01]

Good video!!!! Sick engine.

[@andrewb1986]

It really sounds to me like that you didn't "just get over it" but instead, worked really hard on a specific piece of yourself to counter that insecurity.

[@mikeg1032]

r u fuckin kidding me??? i grew up with a stutter...it completely RUINED me, still stammer over words when im nervous or exited .... got my sub

[@renanlinard7]

God bless bro! Thx for it!

[@bernie6355]

Awesome video.

[@fernwhitaker8122]

is it the angle or is that steering wheel really thick?

[@EntrepreneursInCars]

BMW M cars have thicker wheels

[@poe3man394]

Thanks Man!

[@kerryviens7049]

I hope he makes a video about self loathing/self hatred.

[@realbigugly]

I think Bernie seems a lot less insecure than Trump. The rest of the video is on point!

[@butryk22]

scars are pretty cool, you should of embraced them as a kid and let everyone know you're proud of them

[@imrepalagyi2684]

Criticism doesn't always come from beneath you. The other parts I can agree with, but this is simply not true. For example... You go to see a trainer in a sport, or a teacher, who is absolutley much better/smarter than you at that thing. If they say you do something wrong, would you say "no, I do fine the way I do just now", and then proceed doing the thing wrong? First, you have to hear the criticism, and THEN decide, where it might have come from. Other than that, I enjoyed the video.

[@Authentic_Confidence]

any book for loving yourself and overcoming insecurities that you recommend?

[@dream431ca]

One of the best books I have ever read is called Psycho Cybernetics. Highly recommended for overcoming insecurities and a lot more.

[@mekudu-man3804]

6 pillars of self esteem

[@MohdChowdhury]

Do you have tips on how to deal with rejections? Thanks!

[@EntrepreneursInCars]

+Mohd Chowdhury Just uploaded it

[@MohdChowdhury]

Much appreciated!

[@abalonediver1788]

At 50 most of my life choices have been based avoiding rejection. But u should be called by its other name - FAILURE. Don't be afraid of it. It is truly one of the keys to success. I like to have a soft landing prepared but it isn't always possible.

[@helenamoniqueclarke8135]

Build confidence.💯

[@calvinsvoboda2044]

I took my car to the mechanic the other day and he said " just fix it ". Lol great advise.

[@tomprice3258]

Low frequency engine sounds are annoying. Move the mic or get an EQ. Thanks.

[@rojdancam1676]

Any lazy-eyers?

[@daughteroftheking4492]

Aw I didn't lose my virginity till 19. But there are Jojo oil which is amazing for marks, scars I have a scar on my tummy from surgery. E oil is basic. god made better oils to heal the body naturally. 🙌🙏

[@benjaminodinakaHOODKIZK]

Yes sir Here for the truth :..

[@Bodhidharma1998]

👏👏👏

[@bigslimsanantoniotx6483]

♦️good shit

[@vincentkortatsi4869]

You didn't consider tattoos to cover the scars?

[@EntrepreneursInCars]

Fuck no. My scars are my tatts.

[@vincentkortatsi4869]

Great answer , love it ,much respect!!

[@alimohammond3966]

I was in speech class all my life, later in life ,I was happy I was, cause I found out God can used u, God used Moses and Moses studdard too real bad, !

[@stevewoodson4635]

AND maybe Jeremiah

[@zatiticherry3421]

Cool video, and much truth; you can keep that Donald Chump stuff though. I'll pass,Lol!

[@exelsiominecraftandmore1487]

Remember kids. Orange man bad.

[@zatiticherry3421]

@@exelsiominecraftandmore1487 All politicians bad...

[@28goldenboy]

DO THE WORK

[@reesebobby99]

nice vid

[@vikrampinto]

political correctness comes from insecurities...amen

[@HoffyRS]

Great fuckin video

[@Mgmone614]

nice video i just didnt like the fact that you kept just talking about youre past problems when thousands of people are listening i think they'd rather listen to mainly on how to get over insecurities no matter the situation, tips..

[@outsider8683]

Bald rich is the best rich.

[@mylor1066]

Perfect.

[@calvinsvoboda2044]

I believe all you have done here is talk about yourself and say "just love yourself". I expected something of more substance.

[@chrisg5709]

Love your videos but there's no need to bash Bernie. He's a good man. Hillary is way more politically correct, she panders to identity politics. Bernie just wants to give people healthcare and college. Your videos are spot on though. People have become so pussified and easily offended these days, especially guys.

[@badbeatbilly8997]

Chris Grant Commies ain't cool bro

[@Hawtload]

Step 1: Push ups

[@architk8800]

What about insecurity about getting bald? How to deal with that shit?

[@tomporgy1143]

Silly 🙃! God wants you to be bald 👨‍🦲! Duh 🙄

[@leekuhlman3417]

I was watching your videos and I'm sick of seeing you in a car listening to the background noise Isn't there any other place you can do a video I'm sick of listening to the background noise I'm done