How to deal with family members that disrespect you - toxic family members

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In today's video Dr. Furat Al-Murani discusses how to deal with a toxic family or family feuds.
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[@yassiralmaliki8329]

If you searched for this video I pray that things will get better for you ❤️

[@imaamericangirl1406]

Thank you!

[@ritpep7192]

Amen

[@karenmaxwell3158]

Thank you❤

[@EYRM9]

Forgive in leave it in God’s Hands, believe in Him with all your heart and He will repay: “Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” Romans 12:19-21

[@smaganas]

Thank you.

[@pamchesler242]

I agree with placing boundaries with toxic family members, but the only way that that works is by removing yourself, because when people become verbally abusive, their emotions are extremely heightened and they have absolutely no ability to listen to what you have to say or even be reasonable so when it does happen, I completely remove myself. I do not respond or react and then, however, long it takes everything just dies back down again. The more I take care of myself and the more I set boundaries the more I know that I’m giving myself the love and care I deserve and it’s not important for me to get it from people who are abusive towards me boundaries boundaries, Boundaries and more boundaries are the answer and being being non-reactive… All, are a form of self care and self love…

[@EYRM9]

Forgive in leave it in God’s Hands, believe in Him with all your heart and He will repay: “Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” Romans 12:19-21

[@RobinPoe]

The best solution is to move far away, and don't tell them where you're going. I'm thinking either Alaska or Siberia (I don't like hot weather)

[@EYRM9]

Forgive in leave it in God’s Hands, believe in Him with all your heart and He will repay: “Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” Romans 12:19-21

[@hienienguyen6766]

yes you either ignore them or block all that negative energy out. people don't have time to waste on horrible energy

[@IamaDanish]

4:42 Finally gets to the point of the video.

[@EYRM9]

Forgive in leave it in God’s Hands, believe in Him with all your heart and He will repay: “Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” Romans 12:19-21

[@igordemy]

Well done!

[@EYRM9]

Forgive in leave it in God’s Hands, believe in Him with all your heart and He will repay: “Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” Romans 12:19-21

[@jotheakston2405]

Thank you ❤

[@EYRM9]

Forgive in leave it in God’s Hands, believe in Him with all your heart and He will repay: “Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” Romans 12:19-21

[@InshasChoice]

You lot always say: to have boundaries. Ok, doable, but toxic people tend to exploit said boundaries

[@Th3BigBoy]

This is my problem. I have my boundaries, and they just disregard them. Now what?!

[@brendalg4]

What if there is a family member who treats you bad? On holidays or birthdays the only thing you could do is not go yourself. But that's not fair to you. If you say do the other person that you're not going to come if that person's there, then that's not fair because you're making them decide between the two.

[@supraman160]

I'm in that situation... Exactly I took control of the situation and just said I'm not coming to anymore family reunions just said don't count on me being the eldest anymore. My brother who wanted it ,deals with it. It's been liberating no more Xmas was great no more toxic aggressive dinners. At some point just look out for you. As time goes by I just see I am too different. I have 2 family members who treat me bad 2 others just silent.

[@brendalg4]

@@supraman160 sorry you are going through that. The problem is, I live with my elderly mother. I feel family is using this as a reason they won't come and help.

[@meganreynolds3460]

The thing is my family isn’t toxic it’s just I did something horrible to get back at a ex of mine and it caused my dad and my brother mostly to completely ignore me. Like it’s getting really bad to where I have to lock myself in my room because I feel so unwanted

[@Safestreet]

As a doctor myself, I could of given better advice within a space of 3 minutes. This video is full of so much waffle..

[@brendalg4]

Ok so make it so we can watch