How To Deal With Insecurities - Jocko Willink

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Excerpt from JOCKOPODCAST 225

[@cameron2506]

Insecurity is your mind telling you, you have work to do.

[@matmachina]

you know what?...this is the most spot on comment for me. That really hit home. Thank you!

[@user-yr7sy6ev9v]

Unless it’s something you can’t control, then it’s your brain being stupid

[@jmaxpaine]

jambofi good shit man

[@jeremybrimmer1990]

No

[@luisclarke5890]

Awesome comment

[@coultonharmon2266]

I love how Jockos biggest insecurity is failing a test to get fucking tortured

[@RealAlphaMale69]

lol

[@AshishChauhan-rf5pg]

Echo gives human touch to podcast.

[@ScrappyXGC]

He is a great foil/contrast for Jocko

[@baseballer21and0]

balance is always key

[@nathanrichmondhoag1021]

The podcast has gotten better the LESS Echo has spoken. Make a survey.

[@11123fsd]

Cuz Jocko is lowkey a super human hah

[@hootiehootheblowphish4109]

Part of why I like Echo is that he can give a bit more of the listener's perspective and ask questions that non-military people may have. Though Jocko usually does a good job explaining

[@Westonator5000]

Jocko: I've been insecure once, in BUDS.

[@Partoftheratpack]

😂😂😂😂

[@sol7967]

@@Partoftheratpack it's as if jocko never felt insecure UNTIL he was is the military....sure buddy LOL

[@vicrattlehead5051]

@@sol7967 psst, I'm sure it was a joke

[@fattypark]

"Work ethic eliminates fear"- Michael Jordan

[@user-nu1hy9rj9s]

@W 9797 If you apply that logic to anything that literally frightens you, life would be meaningless. It is work and progress that gives Humans a drive to keep going, regardless of and ready for death itself. We all have an end, it’s what we do until we get there that defines us and our legacy.

[@ji5454]

How?

[@Painted_Owl]

@@user-nu1hy9rj9s it’s a shame they redacted their comment. I’m curious as to what it was

[@giorgikatamadze3048]

Jocko should’ve played thanos.. like without CGI and stuff

[@beast1718]

God is real and earth is not flat

[@angelsrivas9499]

He was but he was too scary

[@rajivpaul9122]

Aside from the joke...the oddly have some similarities

[@d-fens5866]

Jocko Snaps and half of ISIS turns to red mist.

[@thatoneirishkoreaguy]

@@beast1718 Ironic how insecure you come across in your comment on a video that is dealing with insecurities. Give your balls a tug.

[@a2j544]

I've always lived by the rule "If you can't change it embrace it"

[@WhosJellies]

A man of culture, I see!

[@AndreAlessiCastro]

It's like asking "How do you eat an elephant?" - One bite at a time. Gradually expose yourself to the problem, with tiny steps, to whatever level you feel comfortable, until you can take another step forward. Eventually you'll be able to deal with it.

[@andrabook8758]

can we apply this to the pandemic :)? cuz there was more news today on how we just gotta let ppl die and at this point its really. really unnecesary. and at any other point ....yep, it would still just be demented

[@nastychevys]

Thanks Jocko. I lost a tooth due to past drug use, and it has been bugging me a lot. It exposed the last reminder of that part of my life, and it was causing me to retreat away from people, and I have basically quit smiling. Now I am gonna attack the insecurity that losing the tooth caused while I work to make enough money to get implants for the few that I'm sure are soon to follow. People like you, and Jordan Peterson have been a huge help in me getting myself back where I need to be as a person. I quit doing drugs 10 years ago, but spent that 10 years as the same person that was meth'd out just without the drugs. It took Dr. Peterson, yourself, and a few others to help me get my ass in gear, and make something if myself. I have a lot more to do, but I am a far bit better than the person I was yesterday, and I'll be a far bit better tomorrow than I am today. Thank you sir.

[@fullmetalalkami6466]

Well said mate, good luck with everything I know exactly how you are feeling

[@thenorcalkid530]

You got this brother

[@stephenday2342]

Lost 4 teeth to meth. I feel ya bro. Friend lost upper row of teeth. Is what it is. You're still an amazing person with or without that tooth. God bless!

[@Ondemas]

Thank you for your story, wishing you the best of luck, mate.

[@kathyingram3061]

~You could get a flapper fake tooth for now~They arent that expensive?!~They just pop in~

[@squeaiker]

"I failed once. It was terrible." (But then I fixed it.) - Jocko

[@frankenclouds5740]

Dear insecurities, Thank you for giving me something to work on while being stuck at home.

[@CaseyBurnsInvesting]

Attacking your weak points leads to the greatest improvement.

[@crazymacedonianboi]

my temper? 😂😜 I have to control it a lot but if someone starts something then that’s their fault.

[@crazymacedonianboi]

my temper owns them . I already know about it .

[@deviljho4260]

crazymacedonianboi 1903 my brother has a fiery temper also he eventually met someone with an even worse one and hit his skull and rib cage broken.

[@crazymacedonianboi]

yeah? and I got mobbed by ten guys and didn’t get knocked out. but got some stitches and a few staples. my older brother has a worse temper than me and he’s 6’6” and 330 pounds and deceivingly fast . u think I just bother people? I leave people alone as long as they don’t bother me . I’ve never broken one of my bones . not yet . I’m not all trying to prove stuff to people and I’m friendly . but if I’m around certain types I’m not as friendly. I avoid the type to stir up shit and acting tough .

[@crazymacedonianboi]

my entire fam except for my grandpa and grandma all got bad tempers. the women do ...my Tetka ( Macedonian for aunt and I have a million “ Tetkas “ ) carries a pin in her hair that’s like an ice pic but thinner that she got ten years for stabbing some dude with and left him permanently blind in one eye. she’ll kill somebody boi. she’s sneaky too. that guy lost some blood ...let’s put it that way . u don’t gotta come on here telling me something I don’t know. I avoid certain people and places especially now because that’s how I could end up in jail or yeah getting killed.

[@abhisheksarkar1179]

I have noticed that with me, dealing with my insecurities is easier on some days than on others.. what I try to do is ,if it's bothering me,get it out of the way as soon as possible,maybe first thing in the morning. That one disciplined decision sets me up for the whole day...to GET AT IT SOME MORE!

[@Painted_Owl]

I’ve come to discover that whenever I start clicking on Jocko videos for “entertainment”, it’s actually me subconsciously looking for growth. So I listen to that. 5(ish) years ago, I came across Jordan Peterson for the first time and decided to get myself together, and away from the malefic miasma and chaos casted by my family. Now I know who I am- truly- and do, with my best intent, to bring out the best around me. 2 years ago, I was introduced to Jocko, and have gone from a boy raised fatherless, to a married man with a child on the way, and the resolute head of his family. Whether or not people agree with how impactful JBP and Jocko are, they helped guide me towards the change I thought I’d never experience

[@rayfrank5984]

Just came across him pretty recently and I'll say this. When he speaks you can't help but listen .

[@seekndestroy6678]

Acknowledge and own your insecurities! 💪

[@qdllc]

Yes. Great advice and the only effective solution. Insecurity is fear. Fear has to be confronted and managed.

[@rpwzh5403]

@YouQuo2 sorry i'm asking this but do you have one? also it really some serious delimma for small guys!

[@fortyninehike]

Before even watching this, I knew Jocko’s response was to attack it

[@rivalsports6276]

Echo is taking notes for his chicken legs, or as Jocko so kindly put them, getaway sticks.

[@MarineMike77]

I seriously laughed out loud... lol

[@garyharnish2395]

He better hit the squats or the knees give out

[@stub4488]

Lol

[@afcans7301]

Pretty sure echo was a seal so he probably has stronger legs then anyone who has viewed the vid

[@rivalsports6276]

Moto DuBz don’t think he was. But I won’t deny that his legs are about 17 times stronger than mine.

[@caseyburt9569]

Take the insult that makes you insecure and Agree and amplify. For example, “You’re getting kinda fat Tim” Tim responds with “Yeah I thought you knew, I’m six months pregnant” this takes the sting out of the insult and now you don’t have to put up your defensive walls and try to hide your insecurities

[@gokuson4238]

Thanks for the input and love Jocko and Echo! God Bless! Stay strong, stay safe and take care of yourselves! Wishing everyone the best!

[@Wade8769]

So many awesome Jocko videos I made a playlist named "Jocko".

[@ajinkyapawar9665]

Shere

[@ajinkyapawar9665]

Share

[@Ryan-od9sd]

Ditto

[@kdp2575]

I should do that tbf

[@rajivpaul9122]

Alternative title.... Ju jitsu

[@StrengthResurgence]

What I am continually amazed at with Jocko is that out of everything he can use effectively as a weapon with all of his training, he understands that his mindset is the greatest weapon he has. And I love that he’s teaching us to realize the same thing for ourselves.

[@ionseven]

Thanks Jocko and Echo. _Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway_ by Susan Jeffers is also good to add to this. She battled breast cancer most of her life (passed away a few years ago) - and very helpful. Most helpful twice in my life. In readjusting to civilian life after 2 tours overseas of constantly going from 1 to 11 and worried how tactful I "looked" in personal/professional relationships. Then again some years later when all the insecurities about my strength crept up on me after being diagnosed with colon cancer and dealing with years of residual problems after being saved by doctors and 7 surgeries over 4 years of living in hospitals post military service. I have no large intestine now and cancer may still return, but I go on, like all other survivors. She basically says be excited about living and thankful for the fact that you have the chance to face your perceived "dangers" your insecurity and comfort zone try to protect you from and go after breaking that barrier.

[@slysusanoo8110]

I like how these videos are all black and white. Cuts out distractions and keeps you focused on the topic.

[@somethingtodo4945]

Thank you Jocko for helping people get through these crazy times!

[@ZayMan4255]

Hearing Jocko mentioning how he failed , this really she’d light on the saying “we are all human “ , we fail hearing you speak on your failures truly helps me deal with my own personal failures . #GetSome

[@Gerardclaudio]

Jocko Rocks! He is one of the insipirational speaker I look up to! He is also one of those that inspires me to create a youtube channel to reach out to other also!

[@juanstarcole6265]

I JUST STARTED WATCHING THIS CHANNEL AND I LOVE THIS GUY

[@evakoemar4020]

Jocko always makes me feel better

[@aguy559]

Thanks Jocko. You’re right. I’m going to make a list of my insecurities, so I can face them.

[@josefgatti9328]

Always tackle your insecurities, in a way or another. Great advice, as always.

[@daveyt4802]

Dealing with problems head on seems to be the best solutions. Avoiding problems is kicking the can down the road IMO.

[@MP187powerlift]

This video literally changed my life.

[@alfmcstuffjns2080]

My Dad used to tell me all the time. If that asshole can do it, then so can you. It doesnt matter what the task is or what your feelings may be. You arent the first and you definetly wont be the last. Be confident in everything you do. If your wrong, it will be the best learning experience you could ever have.

[@giusepperesponte8077]

I wish jocko would do a video about learning to give yourself credit. I get after it pretty much constantly and I still feel like I could be doing better but I guess that’s a blessing in disguise.

[@13Havoc]

That was super down to earth and real, it’s hard to imagine men of such power and capability being so truthful and kind in a social setting. People often talk pessimistically of technology, there has been so much good though, if you focus on the right information sources, that is:)

[@garyharnish2395]

Makes total sense as a fellow gapped toothed man. It can’t fade the confidence that you know that you have. Nothing takes that away. People can sense confidence.

[@ral819]

You two are awesome. Enjoy hearing about BUD/S. AATW

[@bigmack10]

Jocko's emotional strength level is OVER 9000!!!!!!

[@youtubecommenter37]

Jocko’s podcast is so motivating

[@seanpatrick8936]

Thank you for helping me be a better me!

[@destroyerinazuma96]

I've heard it phrased differently: "competence gives confidence". There are times where insecurities should be reframed. It's not "bad" to feel insecure about idiot reckless friends laughing at you for not taking on offroad ski slopes with them. Anyone taunts you into doing something unnecessarily dangerous - reevaluate how much of a true friend they are. But insecurities born out of inefficiency in some useful tasks/skills or anything you like but suck at - those do deserve your attention. And if you like skiing offroad that's your choice, problems only begin if you hate that thing you're insecure about yet that thing has only anything to do with approval-seeking from other people.

[@Blazerelf]

Laughed so hard on the tooth story

[@916marcos]

This was excellent! Thank you

[@SteadyAimCinema]

jocko is a very wise person

[@es8559]

GOD BLESS you Jocko and Echo for being TRUE PATRIOTS and selfless service to others... THANK YOU! 😔🙏🌻🧡🇺🇲 ☝🏿☝🏾☝️☝🏻☝🏼

[@milesluttrell4855]

We all got insecurity brother. I've seen everything I loved be stripped away based on my lack of discipline, Stupid habits equal weakness Thank you brothers!

[@cavecanem2826]

Jocko one of your Best posts in awhile. Brilliant

[@zombiechris4813]

I laughed so freaking hard at the part about making the gap in your teeth bigger 🤣

[@armorsmith43]

> If they're insecurities you can't control, get it out there As Tyrion Lannister says: armor yourself in it.

[@purplejuice88]

Confidence is built in preparation

[@screenshorts357]

That's a great Jocko type Answer. Practical.

[@Archi891]

Love your podcasts :)

[@Je.rone_]

*great answers and is how i dealt with my own*

[@KFCAdd1ict]

Awesome answer, great examples

[@321cast6]

thanks for this a lot its so useful

[@Elevateyourlife100]

Thank You Much 😊

[@Relappsd]

that "im gonna own them" look was beasty

[@travismack7403]

Insecurity’s don’t matter in the right mindset

[@dawsonsschittcreek5395]

Acknowledging and owning your insecurities only make you stronger and should be apart of your mindset...they are always present - how you handle them forms the person you are.

[@harvestblades]

That has largely been my problem, too critical of myself, and previous mistakes. I have allowed poor health (including poor mental health) to trap me in my own head (too much time to dwell on the past & things I can not change or have limited to no control over), and distract me from staying on my path.

[@TheSuperMerc]

IT'S A MINDSET!

[@bobvanbutselaar]

There's a great TedTalk called “The first 20 hours.,, It is about learning new skills and overcoming struggle thru discipline. Well worth a watch!

[@guz9923]

will watch man

[@juanstarcole6265]

Bob van Butselaar thank I’m gonna check this out

[@JesusPaidItAll]

Thanks for the suggestion. Gonna check it out. 👍

[@carlosgarza1701]

Definitely must thank you. I checked it out and couldn't be more grateful. It was part of the hope I needed to get me started again.

[@bobvanbutselaar]

@@carlosgarza1701 you're welcome, sir.

[@stevepossell1449]

I joined the wrestling team in college. Never wrestled before. Within a month I wrestled varsity, beat out a two time PA state champ for spot. Had to learn how to b insecure. Wish I could go back to how I was at 17. Didn’t know what insecure was ...

[@jeffreymarchi2386]

We finally got a BUDS story!

[@flowleopard893]

Gist of what is being said: Preparation equals confidence.

[@TheCoffeeNut711]

David Goggins said it best; your mind plays tricks on you.

[@pierreolivier7453]

Thank you

[@viktorbabcan4971]

I love how he gives a speech which gives you the impression that he beat all his insecurities and then he asks whether his answer was good 😂

[@EmanualBAvery]

Being insecure made me feel guilty of things that wasn't important.

[@TheZogsvengali]

Tyrion Lannister: Let me give you some advice, bastard. Never forget what you are, the rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor and it can never be used to hurt you.

[@williamjohnson9139]

Awesome answer

[@drewtap]

okay the story about the gap in his teeth is cool as hell

[@diegonayalazo]

Thanks

[@seychellesman1delta]

We all have it but hopefully your strong enough not to get depressed 👍

[@terryoneal9925]

Good Advise!!!!

[@thewaymaker6001]

Not giving a shit generally cures your insecurities!!!!

[@conradmaszka13]

I loved the gap response 😂 I'm still laughing

[@christopherbowers268]

The old “gap in your teeth shit test.” Well done sir.

[@foodbizztalk919]

Echo Charles defo needs to share his bicep workout...

[@kenbuck2293]

Genetics bro

[@nmarrs8539]

Wear your insecurities on you like armor never forget what they are. Then they can never be used against you.

[@Aymn-zl4kl]

Excellent

[@Youtubesuckz976]

Go have fun with your stutter. Thanks jocko!

[@Zenitself]

The girl in the bar is now his wife. Boom, secured.

[@Killllllllatpppakkud]

Why does it sound so funny when Jocko saif he was in a Bar hahaha Can't imagine seeing Jocko in a Bar just ''chilling''

[@crazymacedonianboi]

I bring things up because I’m intelligent and because I’m secure with who I am.

[@mwhitelaw8569]

The old phrase Grab the tiger by the tail Comes to mind

[@nostalgicviewz007]

No better way to have said it. He gave two distinctive motivators for insecurity and the wisdom to deal with them

[@horsefly4400]

Am I the only one that can look at his chin and nothing else? It's majestic

[@aidanodonovan318]

Good morning Jocko

[@redcat9436]

That makes sense. It was good answer.

[@castnerscutthroats9297]

I had a dental hygienist tell me the same thing, Jocko. My reply "No thank you, i like flossing with barbed wire".

[@sterlthepearl1000]

It's better to be prepared and not have an opportunity. Than to have an opportunity, and not be prepared.

[@iamjasonhopkins2852]

Great subject,even the alpha males need to hear this. Loved it. Ownership 💯

[@mat7083]

Hey, aren't you that martial arts guy?

[@iamjasonhopkins2852]

Brandon Baza I wish lol

[@mat7083]

@@iamjasonhopkins2852 Sorry, I mistook you for Ramsey Dewey. Must be the hair lmao

[@DanielVargas-gl9yc]

Great!

[@ThePathOfEudaimonia]

Good, simple advice. Thanks. Can you do something about it? Do it. Something is out of your control? Accept and embrace it. I love it. :-)

[@yoitsrami]

Best way to get over insecurities is to be competitive.

[@shm0ney]

Nice video

[@yessir4757]

I’m insecure with my knees it’s called knock knee where it causes me to walk funny naturally and I have no control over it

[@aaronramsden1657]

Jiu jitsu reminds me alot of drowning, I had a few experiences with almost drowning as a child, and God damn is it terrifying not having oxygen. But BJJ also helps that fear

[@Insaniya.humanity]

Jocko is the kind of guy that when in a job interview gets asked about his weaknesses he answers “I’m a perfectionist”. Jocko, come on, sure you’ve been insecure besides buds. Be human.

[@DmytroSemchuk]

nah, insecurities deal with Jocko!

[@richardprice9730]

Its a difficult one that taking off and putting on scuba gear remember that one but never took my training further , due to my dad's embarrassing take over bid mind you he was probably right , by the time I did it i could do 1 and a half lengths of the Olympic sized pool underwater , mind you i was only 17 at the time . I was a scrawny boy now aged 60 no or few biting teeth left now and a huge gap , I have one big rabbitty tooth left and my right arm scarred and somewhat dysfunctional love my new kettle bell though , orange !. You did the right thing if i hadn't had orthodontic work early on my teeth would have probably been fine but braces and extractions and damaged vasculature probably started it all let alone the fact he wouldn't let me have injections first time I went to the dentist , what a life .. Loved him to bits though "Big Ron ...my old man ....." .God bless