How To Deal With Trust Issues In A Relationship?

[@AuthenticSelfGrowth]

The moment we make someone else responsible for our happiness. We also make them responsible for our unhappiness.

[@rajrao1149]

Now a days, people are happy or unhappy because of other people's actions. They do not know, how to control their own emotions. Emotions are created as part of Chemical process within our body, If you know how to create right chemical combination in the body using meditation - no one can make us unhappy from inside.

[@naren1879]

What?

[@arpitachakrabortyt621]

Plzzz ise hindi mein dab kar ka daliye na ise..

[@Hasounlimited]

Thanks

[@charlesdahmital8095]

Taking responsibility for my own happiness includes not acquiring a deadly std from an unfaithful partner.

[@akshat680]

- When you truly trust a person, either you get a person for life, or a lesson for life. - With unconditional love, there's always risk of getting unconditional hatred.

[@neenaagrawal1122]

There's nothing like truly trusted its like handcuff If you talj of unconditional then why talk of risk .it's not barter

[@damienwarlock]

trusting a woman. that's a good one.

[@akshat680]

@@damienwarlock Depends on the person

[@damienwarlock]

@@akshat680 you must have never been in a realationship. have fun if you ever get there. you will understand what i mean.

[@akshat680]

@@damienwarlock I never fully trust anyone anymore

[@goverdhanpanchal9160]

"If you are unable to intervene, you must just understand you have not earned that closeness"- Sadhguru

[@dannierae23]

This does not cover broken promises or violating boundaries. If you ask someone to not be aggressive to you or use aggressive intimidation tactics towards you at any point, this does not mean you have an "unrealistic expectation". It means that the issue lies within them and them only since they chose those actions.I would love to hear him speak on this.

[@nothumanff5900]

You can’t expect a person to be calm when his or her partner cheating on them.Probably violence gonna happen

[@zacherybutter7349]

This doesn’t cover such situations because Sadhguru isn’t really talking about violent relationships, he’s talking about common everyday things that most people experience in general. Obviously you should leave an abusive relationship, shouldn’t you? You needn’t anyone to tell you that you don’t have to do or be in a situation that threatens your safety or well-being. Furthermore, Sadhguru is not educated on such matters so he won’t talk about it…it’s in his name “sadh” and “guru” meaning uneducated guru.

[@batpoofs6840]

It does cover that. It's unrealistic because that person is not yet evolved enough to be peaceful or true to their word. You are expecting them to act beyond their capability. Instead, realise the reality of that person and just walk away

[@romart03]

@@zacherybutter7349 that was literally the point of the question tho, what if the other betrays your trust, not what you want them to do

[@zacherybutter7349]

@@romart03 I’m pretty sure I answer that. Not sure where you’re confused.

[@ronbocanegra2662]

broken heart's are a part of life! Do we want to be with someone because of their looks(charm) or their great personality? you're not the only one who is impressed with that person. Does that person act flirty around someone else? this is why people need to know each other much better! We Cannot control other people , only ourselves! Real affection is not an invesment! No one OWES us anything, We owe ourselves

[@damngirl7334]

The greatest thing with Sadhguru's answers is the freedom he gives through his answers. He gives fundamental answers, not baby spooned type. It is always upon the listeners on how they answer the remaining confusion through meditation or further taking in of the answer given.

[@zacherybutter7349]

Exactly

[@catherine412-paris2]

"is it's beneficial for them and not for you... let them do it. " Many people with a little bit of tolerance can accept this idea, only if the consequences of the bad behavior only concern the person who made the bad choice. The problem arises when one person, by lying and hiding their behavior, or acting dishonestly, does something that makes both people bear the consequences.

[@girijathesaviour9290]

The whole idea behind it is detachment. You have to detach yourself from potential consequences.

[@GiantxMonster]

"Trust takes years to build, seconds to break, and forever to repair." -A Wise Man

[@nikm7859]

Every time I listen him..Something new happens ..Good change happens...His CLARITY wisdom is like thousands Suns shining simultaneously..Dandvat pranam guruji🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@kanika9995]

Doing what they want for whatever gain they feel are lacking,should not come at the expense of someones pain ,misery and taking advantage of ones vulnerability by being deceptive. The option to exit and leave prior is always there. Cant say I agree on this one.

[@RK-su4hs]

Agree. This lecture is not based on reality. There are some very clever con artists that play on peoples emotions to take advantage of them

[@beerussama6376]

Absolutely agree with you.

[@zacherybutter7349]

At no point does Sadhguru suggest that you allow yourself to be exploited. If you are being obviously exploited or manipulated then you have every right to end that relationship.

[@Vandu._123]

​@@RK-su4hs very true..

[@RK-su4hs]

@@zacherybutter7349 That’s the point…when a good con artist seduces you you don’t even realize it’s happening. For intelligent people like yourself are a prime target. Because intelligent people (as you mentioned) will assume their intelligence protects them. It does Not Con men (& women) play your emotions. Spinning a web of illusion until you let your walls down & they take what they want That’s life

[@manjunathgangadharg7392]

This is the real reason why every individual need to practice yoga. This will help to understand, respect and embrace life around, by being happy and giving happiness.

[@lieutenantcryptus1152]

this 3 min talk totally solved my doubts loved it wow

[@sanathbhandarkar5194]

Thank you Sadhguru for this Guidance. Indeed it is the most convincing explanation ever for this question :-)

[@sheetalverma8940]

What about extramarital affairs?? What about actual betrayal? Still a question, sadguru hasn't answered.

[@suparnamou2007]

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[@rinkeychawla2834]

Yeah that’s what I thought !!! What if they are into all such .! Is it like can any wife let it happen that OK I AM OK DO WHATEVER U Want ?

[@dhananjaypanage2472]

This is where commitment kicks in!

[@obelix7349]

we either leave them or put up with it is left to us, but we should not be bitter about either of those decisions. I think this is what he is trying to say

[@seriouspedo694]

You don't have to say ...you are ok with such issues ....they don't care if you are ok or not .. that's why someone does such things ....you have to see is it okay actually within you ...do you feel happy that your loved one is happy doing such things ...if you're not then leave them as they are ....like they want to ...and go on with life

[@prathameshspai9878]

I like the way Sadhguru hits the core of the problem with great ease. Thank you so much sir..

[@everod6699]

It is not good for me to catch some deadly disease from a partner who betrayed me in worst possible way. Not to mention the cost of medication etc how can you trust after that

[@rasterraster1728]

Ya I developed thyroid problem after wifes first affair and lost my hair. Its not worth the side effects of what they do to you.

[@solidcypher7713]

Number one....you don't give your love away to nobody without a safety mechanism ...like I posted in my Instagram a screenshot from my twitter

[@chetangyala]

Sadhguru ap mahan hai🙏🌺💐🍇

[@nandinipaul]

This is so true and I believe that. Similar kind of answer was given by Swami Vivekananda. But very hard to imply in life. And there the misery starts..

[@samchakriya9634]

I just can’t get why someone moves on with another person so quickly

[@FunkyEspelhoCat]

That song "Plastic Love" by Mariya Takeuchi shows an interesting thought: Most people see it as a game, hence the name of the song.

[@dattlee2461]

Really i wonder how they can move on with another person so quickly

[@peepeepoopoo7181]

@@dattlee2461 more like they wish that they don't want to remember the pain. Some people just wish to not remember that the fact heartbreak happened, so they distract themselves with work, phone, exercise and another partner. When you have a breakup you are at your most vulnerable so it can become very easy to fall in love with another person. But that depends on the person really. If they can't move on, they will constantly linger on the numbing pain of the breakup. So it is preferable to move on.

[@justabir4182]

Don't get. Ignore. It's their life and their choice.

[@dattlee2461]

@@peepeepoopoo7181 moving on is not that easy. But this is the only way for someone who is suffering with pain.

[@nancythakur4185]

Just want to say that... Its of course not fine or ok when someone promises you and you believe on them and then they just don't love you now ... And then they send this video to you and be like its all your fault not theirs. So you did your best and all the best this sad and suffering time will pass too. 🌼🌈

[@solidcypher7713]

Now I have extensive experience with that.....and the results are quite extreme....and detailed

[@porkchawpshandappleshash789]

Love yourself first and more and let your beloved betray all they want and love them from afar.

[@Radha009]

Wow! Every question and ANSWER is an eye opener!

[@pragnayadav]

Actually once Sadguru said that if somebody cheats you, betray you, reject you that's the time to turn invert. Sadguru even said if your loved one dies then somehow that's also rejection. So turn invert and meditate. 🙏🙏🙏

[@renupunjabi9482]

Yes, I have turned invert n enjoying the change, no matter how many rejections happen. I will be shocked now if someone will approve me 😂

[@AquaAngel2101]

renu punjabi 😂😂🤣🤣👍🏻

[@lifeofdarshit]

@@renupunjabi9482 lol😂😂😂

[@thetycoon7368]

🙏🙏🙏

[@amishakhatri3963]

Perfect answer

[@BrajeshKedia]

:)

[@bpinjan]

I Gave like to your Comment just Because u are very Gorgeous Amisha. 😊

[@neerajkumaryadav5622]

Amisha I love you

[@bpinjan]

Yar Amisha Bata do in logo ki hum Committed hai. Nahi toh aur love you ke comments aayenge.

[@SuperJackie1020]

@@bpinjan ok

[@sanketshet8045]

People must understand that 'we' in a relationship is a rare occurrence. Depending on your personalities and how much they match with your partner the frequencies of your 'moments of love' may vary. But you can never be 'together' 100% of the time. Acknowledging this reality helps build deeper love.

[@charlesdahmital8095]

Apparently Sadhguru is unaware of the Aids epidemic or the myriad of other std's. Betrayal comes from the breaking of accepted agreements. Saying that it is because you wanted someone to behave differently infers that there was no agreement in the first place. When I have been betrayed I leave that person to their own life for they are not who I thought they were in the first place.

[@anunathoo7940]

Goodebumps bro.. Right now I am in a situation where my parents don't support me they want to send me away from them,just as Sadhguru said they don't want me to be with my boyfriend because the society won't accept it(for their own benefit) but they won't understand my point of view and my feelings...

[@aditibandewar1649]

Dont be with him one day will come u realise all are right and ur wrong and then u hurt yourself😞

[@aishwaryaduttmishra8091]

''unrealistic expectations" didn't feel need to understand anything more.

[@sanjaykochi96]

PLEASE CHECK THE VOLUME. IT IS TOO LOW. THE ENDING MUSIC BOOMS UP. PLEASE CHECK

[@yolandayolanda3840]

Let them do what they want, ABSOLUTELY, in life you will learn that If you are not willing to accept what they are doing, in time you will make a decision to leave or stay.

[@nagesh1976]

Bang on...I an sure it broke lots of hearts ..

[@edithjoseph7329]

I think he skipped the question. There is betrayal and it hurts. Keeping emotionless is fact of not expecting better from people and that's for robots no thanks.

[@lost4thamoment909]

This has totaly changed my perception on what true love is

[@raginaphalange2177]

His words are great as anything 💫✨but not everyone has that much courage and clearance in their life to interpret this🙂

[@shubham3677]

YOUR EACH LINES ARE MAGICAL !! 🤩🤩 & CHNAGE MY DIRECTION OF MIND IN FEW MINUTES.😍

[@stefanallen2987]

i think sadhguru should speak about this much more often. Because its happening so much nowadays i myself did it which i will never allow to happen again for sure.

[@omnikrauzer4191]

I knew this guy was an unfathomable G when he sat still but his attire sways in the wind inside a building.

[@solidcypher7713]

You basically grow...and grow away from any beloved ...alone forever and OK with that

[@DaughterOfLove17]

It is always easier for people who did not invest in the relationship in anyway to walk away without thinking twice because they have nothing to lose. Some even have the 2nd gf/bf lined up before they break with you.

[@Lenore4Evermore]

1:55 Well said. 🙏

[@bipulbivabmohapatra4673]

It's better to control oneself from falling in love till death

[@reshmi.mohankumar5516]

Dear saduguruji , is there any difference between " i like you" and "I like your character". Can't character makes them to love between well understanding couple?

[@TheAshutosh58]

First be joyful yourself then think about sharing it with other person. If you are the problem yourself how can you fix your partner let alone the world. Applies to those who are in pursuit to make world dominated by one religion or one ideology or one country.

[@ronaldchagoury-africainves968]

"Then you should have been their mother" 😂😂😂😂

[@eliasujalloh3857]

😁😁 funny but true

[@indumathy9447]

Ideal way to be. It will be wonderful if we can be like that really. Thanks Sadhguru 🙏

[@manusda9707]

It pains when we can't become detached to concerns it may be relations nation n of course emotions. How to keep ourselves unaffected by them.

[@renukadevin5181]

Oh Bhagavan you have really cleared my doubt. Thankyou sooooooo much Sadhguru ji.

[@damoTV.damoTV]

Very TRUE! I was blinded by this. THANK YOU!

[@sandhyalinda4915]

Without giving freedom to power of choice there is no love and nethier there is love without correction. ❤

[@lakshmanrao3246]

People do what they want to do, not what you want them to do.. that says it all.

[@shreyakrishna3415]

What Sadhguru is saying is absolutely right..but its very difficult for us humans to follow as we are not perfect. It has also got to do with values and morals..

[@AmitKumar-xx5op]

Woow, This totally changed my way of thinking towards the love

[@Peace4All09]

Look how many men are smiling & agreeing, made me laugh. I am so glad i do not have this problem nor the expectation which leads to sorrow. I am Happy, never mind anyone else 😊

[@SADHGURUUnplugged]

Tq sadhguru ®.....

[@josealison3084]

Escolha a pessoa que também escolheu você, isso resolve 99% dos problemas. Agora, escolher e insistir em alguém que está com você mas não te escolheu realmente, 99% dos problemas não tem solução!

[@diaryofghumantu]

The Words Of Wisdom and the Showers of Blessing

[@Joeywilkins_27]

What if someone lies then steals from you and you can’t remember doing them wrong like that smh had someone do this to me. And I wasn’t ever trying to control them. Guess it is what it is and I’ll try my best to move on

[@debabratadebroy2469]

Yes sir if we love someone that doesn't mean that our partner must do what we allow them to do or whatever we love to do they also do like this. But if we really love someone than we must let them free to do what they love to do and we must not force them to do according to our way and attitude. Gd aftnoon sir

[@camarochronicss1947]

Very painful feeling I hope u guys can keep ur hopes up

[@johnny-qb1ti]

sadghuru is my guardian angel :>

[@rishavsinha3376]

That helped. ☺️ Had to let her go❤️..

[@jayakrushnanayak4306]

This is answer to my all queries..

[@rohanreads]

How can he get it right all the time 😱

[@abdalrahmanmustafa2913]

Thank you all love and respect

[@lathaswamy8665]

Wow sadhguru superb

[@Jaidevajaideva12345]

Sadguru .....u r genious .....t x to all android phones..... because of this I can listen all Ur words clearly under stand what is life and how to go with it

[@SKF358]

Boy, did Saddy miss the mark here. The question is betrayal, when they don't do what they commit to do.

[@XMLMaestro]

Sadhguru is blazeningly fast and always spot on. Amazing and so inspiring Thank you Sadhguru!

[@tamarakennedy4976]

People should behave in a way that is not hateful towards one with which you have closest relationship. Like a sister your best friend a blood cousin...how could that cruel act be good for them or whoevrr they harm?!

[@sairam57544]

Many many thanks a lot guruji.. I must try to follow this ... I must say it will make my relationship better.. I am always in this situation whether to be in a relationship or not Basically I am very scared of myself

[@Sathyanp88]

That laugh at 3:10 actually means a lot.

[@Mucozime]

What if our beloved supports one's enemy ? What about backstabbing ? Isn't this a basic ethic of a person he/she should possess ? I believe your pleasure shouldn't cause pain to others, is this too much of me to expect this ? A person shouldn't put his/her family at stake for their pleasure and happiness.

[@akshaydushyanth9720]

Wow really fantastic🤘knowledge is an treasure man😇

[@aybenizyalcinkaya2652]

Thank you for sharing this 🙏🏻

[@baburajtmv4350]

Pranam sathguru.🙏

[@flevianerako2930]

It's too hard to accept at first when my husband planned for a holiday visit to another country for months secretly without consulting me in his decision Making. I felt too bad but their family members were very happy, I was left broke and a small baby, jobless and frustrated, I came to know my boundaries later

[@CardaStarr09]

I was just looking for some guidance and got a growling 😂 Thank you kind Sir

[@waveshake3441]

This is true. And the fact is love is only one sided. The other can only reciprocate.

[@sharonknapp5015]

Interesting...

[@biologyworkout693]

*काफी देर से उस लड़की को search कर रहा हूं जो सदगुरु की हर video me bolti h guruji aapko Naman😀*

[@snigdhasart5486]

Loved his eye sparkle when he said if I love you...at 1.07😍😄!!! Great guruji, you are so humorous n at the same time a great guide🙏

[@vinyasrai3423]

A very good reply. 👍

[@iammayyurr]

Thank you Sadguru 🙏🏻✨

[@iflexgaming404]

Things are practically and ideally different.

[@mellemel5]

Absolutely awesome. 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

[@Dollarshop]

A wise Teacher.

[@red__406]

But what if the betrayl in some cases means backstabbing , backbitting and isolating ?

[@kanika9995]

Its wrong totally wrong on all levels.

[@nachiketvyawahare2271]

**** this is so true Sadhguru!!!

[@MeghaSadha]

I disagree with his comment about ' you must be the mother to help someone'.. not everyone has one. It's tough to simply give up on a friend going down a path harmful to them..

[@prateikagrawaal]

If u have watched this video properly till the end , you wouldn't have disagreed. Please watch it again.

[@Wellnessfamilygroup]

Excellent Sadhguru. Thanks

[@deepeshchouhan6806]

Very true !thank you for opening my eyes

[@parthasarathidey4925]

what an answer !!! Pranam gurudev

[@sksuma8427]

superb sadhguruji.

[@TonyTony-je8tc]

Well said beautiful idea but still it’s not that practical in real life like what extent we have to guide our kids

[@samarpitachatterjee]

Yes. It's true. I faced the same issue. My bf was cheating me from the starting of the relation till 2 years. When I get to know this I was shattered and very sad. This session or words from Sadhguru helps me alot. Pranam sadhguru.

[@albertsiltal2600]

Estoy acostumbrado... ¿Traición o delitos graves para intentar hacer daño por sentirse mejor de lo poca cosa que son? No voy a hablar... (Tampoco intenté evitarlos pues si esto les evitaba un suicidio... Diós no sé si me lo hubiera perdonado. Supongo que ya es hora de cambiar a otra forma más para la vida exterior ¿No?) ¿Quién estaría con alguien mandón y condicionado? Si me lo pides directamente: Cambio. Además ahora, todas las enormes energías que dedicaba a los demás, me las puedo dedicar a mí... Y me dedico a sentir y a experimentar y dejo el mundo exterior de lado (sea lo que sea que piense la gente de mi vida privada en que nadie se debe meter) Si supieras todo lo que han hecho... Y me da igual que me da lo mismo y no me preocupa en absoluto, pero no toleraré que se lo hagan a otra persona. Nunca. Muchas gracias Sadhguru. 😘

[@albertsiltal2600]

Voy a decir: Tod@s pudieron haber tenido la vida uno en el planeta. Tod@s podrían tener un potencial a más y más infinito. Tod@s podían escoger la salvación y la luz y la verdad. Tod@s podían aspirar a la inmortalidad. Tod@s podían dejarse ser amor divino incondicional. Tod@s podían haber experimentado los más altos placeres y, valga la redundancia, experiencias mágicas a las que no estaban acostumbrad@s. Y con los métodos, relaciones para su facilitación y todo bien explicado que solo tenían que pensar un poco y ponerse en mí piel. Sí: Soy la persona más afortunada del planeta. La n.1 y no lo puedo dudar 😇 y es así, de verdad. (O de las primeras primeras primeras) Y todo es gracias a Diós, pq yo solo tenía que ponerme a mí 😇. Ahora Él me deja vivir en el cielo continuo imperturbable y soy Paz, Serenidad, Amor, Fe, Esperanza, Gracia, y mil dones más que hemos dado y tod@s también han podido obtener según voluntad y nivel de preparación en consciencia... Que yo ya más no haré si no me lo piden y me cansé y lo siento y ya me parece bien dejarlo todo así. Lo único que cambiaría es poder ver a una amiga pq la quiero mucho. Lo siento y perdóname si me lees. Lo siento. Perdóname. Lo siento. Lo siento. Espero estés bien y ya está... Te lloraré a veces. Cuídate.

[@albertsiltal2600]

¿Cuántas iluminaciones se habrán producido recientemente? ¿Cuántas inmensas ganancias en consciencia? ¿Cuánto sentido y espíritu común? Sé que ha sido todo para bien... O por lo menos tienen el ejemplo de la persona más afortunada del planeta. ¿Qué más puedo pedir ni en 40 vidas en una? ¿Todas? "¿No saben que me pertenencen?" 😇 Yo ya descendí para ell@s y ya es definitivo: Me quedo en el cielo y ahí tendrán que llegar para venir a buscarme... Por lo quién haya estado trabajandose intensamente lo tiene mucho más fácil. ¿En qué lugar estarán l@s otr@s? Esa ya no es una pregunta para mí.

[@albertsiltal2600]

🤔 ¿Es posible que la presunta destrucción de su mirada/visión Ego (No la propia_cada persona) sea lo que consideran una traición? En teoría tenía que tener un alcance mundial... (Nada personal). Que el 99,99% de las parejas del mundo hayan visto su ""bajo" "amor""... 🤔 Es normal frente al amor divino e incondicional (¿Qué se esperaban?)

[@albertsiltal2600]

¿A quién propondrías a Premio Nobel de la Paz? (Pregunto) Yo voto: Sadhguru.

[@ravimaru8284]

So true & eye opening advice is this.

[@marya5931]

Listen only way I’m not considering a cheat is if I don’t find out or through a baby! Blessings to all in relationships trying to change there man and blessings to the ones just cool with being happy and taking care of business. 🙏

[@De-tw7by]

Perfect 👍👍