How To DEAL with UNINVITED GUESTS at Your Wedding?! 🤬

[@sarahusmc]

Said no kids and then an Uncle and Aunt brought their teenager when they knew only 30 people were invited. We held our ground and said an absolute NO when all of family pleaded with us. She ended up hanging out in the hotel room. One of my proudest moments standing my ground and setting a boundary.

[@LindaK-v3j]

Good for you!!!

[@sharington-]

I had a guest invite 2 extra people that were clearly not on the invitation. It was very uncomfortable but we just let it go like elsa lol😂.

[@shanaecamille]

Hey Jamie. About you note on be careful to not talk about your wedding on social media. But, what happens if your guest start talking on their own. My mom have been talking to friends of hers (that she didn't invite to my wedding) about my wedding and they now want to come lol. I think even if we brides take your advice, you can't control everyone. So, I'm letting my security handle that 🤣😅😂

[@briannaisa2236]

It honestly doesn’t matter what you do. I put a card saying no kids & only those listed on your RSVP guest list. I listed them & they still tried to add people. People are rude

[@MelodyAcapella]

My wedding is in 3 days and I NEEDED this video! Thanks so much for all your help, from the Master Plan to your KZbin Videos, I couldn't have done it without your channel, so Thank You Jamie! Much love from Missouri! ❤

[@jessklamm]

Yes, so thankful for Jamie! Mine is in three days too… hello from your neighbor in Kansas. 😊Sending you well wishes for your big day. 🤍

[@MelodyAcapella]

@jesslchic You as well! Happy day wedding twin! 😊

[@mlev1111]

SO needed this video. My mother and sister are unfortunately very problematic and wont be invited to my wedding. I'm praying that they wont show up... luckily my fiancé is a police officer and we can get free security just in case. I have no doubt they would show up drunk and cause a scene

[@KerrySomewhere]

I do think it's a cultural thing. I'm getting married in Antigua, Guatemala, and my wedding planner is telling me to be very direct and clear because it is so common for Guatemalans to bring extra people in their families. More than half our guests will be Guatemalan so my fiancé is planning to have a conversation with everyone in their family so they are clear about who is on the invite. It's a lot since we are inviting 240 guests! I just don't know what we are going to do if extra people show up.

[@jgates594]

I hear you! I wanted a small affair, 50ppl and it is swelling to double that🙄 due to my fiance. Our budget is limited as well as the location so I have no idea what we would do if a bunch of un invited showed up. 😮

[@allisonglad5173]

Not Jamie literally forgetting her child! 🤣 All love, I was just laughing so hard! Great video!

[@michellegonzales1462]

We did a destination wedding then a reception in my city several months later over Labor Day weekend. We assumed we wouldn’t have a big turn out but apparently more people were free since they were off on Monday and we actually had around 10 people show up who weren’t invited. We had to move reserved tables and there was not an empty seat in the venue. One in particular cousin, I specifically didn’t send an invite to because I wanted him no where near my event, showed up with his mom who was invited. It’s been 5 years and it still frustrates me to this day he had the nerve to show up and I couldn’t do anything without causing a scene.

[@maxinewilliams3626]

Congratulations on your baby, Jamie! 😍 Great video, as always, thank you so much

[@s.a.4358]

My mother once unknowingly crashed a wedding. It was at a city farm close to where we lived, a place that often did events for families and children. She thought it was an open day or something and walked in, as she had never been but knew of the place. She realised when she was mingling and eating canapés and someone ask her how she knew the couple 😂 😅

[@rebeccagaliher221]

How do you deal with people who rsvp but don’t come? Several of my family members will rsvp and then just not show up. And I’m not talking about a couple family members where things come up and they can’t come. I’m talking about 10+ family members (close cousins). Honestly makes me want to just not invite them. It’s annoying and financially frustrating. Please help!

[@jgates594]

12:59 All that sounds good Jamie, but in this day where now we are creating Wedding Websites 🤷 that has all the wedding info, it can be easier for the un-invited to find out. Often it's from another friend or family member. This un invited person may not be "sloppy" just not invited (we do have limits to keep) and Invited guests do not know who isn't. They may share info or🙀 access with others. I know, you can't fix or predict everything, but it's another thought on how we can limit info so the un-invited isn't privy to it. 🤔

[@miggy90200]

Hi! I'm actually a former bride who was part of Jamie's inaugural monthly call club. Here's the plan we worked out together with the help of my fellow brides in the group.I made two websites: One for people who had an actual physical invitation, and it said DO NOT SHARE this anywhere because we would have a separate site for streaming participants; and a second one for anyone invited to a live stream (it was in late 2021). This plan worked out perfectly because I did not provide the code to the main website online and people had to contact me or my husband directly to get it.

[@jgates594]

@@miggy90200 💡🤗👌🙏📝 Great idea. I will have to incorporate this method. Does this mean the location was not avail. on the invitation? We plan on a small (🫤70ppl) ceremony & cocktail party only. He has a large family & friend base and apparently everywhere he goes someone is telling him they'll be at the wedding🤭. SMH yeahhhhhh, imma have to utilize this. THANKS!

[@mariemichalak8372]

I was going to invite all my cousins and talked about them coming with them, but my fiancé and I realized we don’t have the funds for everyone months later, and our wedding is in 2025. We are just going to have super close family and aunts/uncles. Anyone have any advice on breaking the news to them? I have tons and tons of cousins so I’m lost. And again, we don’t have the funds so we are having a small wedding.

[@matildachalmers]

“we adore your children, but due to venue/budget/licensing constraints we cannot accommodate under 18s (or whatever age you wanna cut off at) at our wedding.” or “while we love your children, this is an adult only event” something along those lines

[@mariemichalak8372]

@@matildachalmers All my cousins are over 19 years old, most are 20’s and 30’s.

[@matildachalmers]

@@mariemichalak8372 ooof that’s rough. maybe just be straight up and tell them? it’s probably better to be transparent than to make up an elaborate excuse and i’m sure they’d understand. you can even offer to have them all over after the wedding for a barbecue or party or something?

[@mariemichalak8372]

@@matildachalmers Thank you!

[@miggy90200]

I would be straightforward and tell them, and if you can at all swing it, perhaps look into streaming some part of the wedding. I have a HUGE family, but did not feel safe having a big wedding at the end of 2021 (even though people were starting to get vaccinated). I hired a (then unknown) company to live stream our ceremony only and it was completely worth the cost. I had more than double the amount of people online and no one felt left out!

[@rosec8101]

I live in Southern Ohio. No one and I mean no one rsvps. Had 300 people at my wedding ceremony. 200 at my reception. Only had 10 people rsvp. Also we have a lot of cash in cards. Like got 1,000 dollars in cash.

[@misslyntheena]

Congratulations on Baby #4 ✨🤍 wishing you and your family all the best

[@alisonsmith7162]

In Australia, if the church service is in a different location to the reception, it's usually fine to rock up to the ceremony, if you don't have an invite to the reception. You just don't go to the reception too.

[@jordansutherland183]

All I’ve done on social media is post me trying on wedding dresses and my childhood neighbors invited themselves to my wedding 😅 thankfully don’t have any details hashed out so I didn’t have those to post as well. I would’ve known to be careful when posting specifics but now I’m trying not to post anything wedding related cause I don’t want to deal with any more of that

[@anitaz4961]

So, what do you guests put in the cards when you live in a country where cheques have been discontinued and are no longer accepted by banks?

[@ke6264]

cash