How to deal with vegan haters

[@GamingFoodie]

If that girl who wrote the letter is reading these comments: it is not about finding another vegan...it is about finding someone who respects you and your decisions. You deserve better. People who threaten to dump you over something that does not harm anyone does not deserve your time.

[@soyouredatingavegan]

agreed!

[@suzybrat2945]

Poor girl. Dump the boyfriend, he sounds like a bully to me.

[@BernsteinOmega]

Once you get out of high school, you'll realize how much jerks from school don't matter anymore.

[@vistagraphsnet]

I became vegan on March 1 2017. I was obese, had high blood pressure and been a diabetic for 14 years (from eating fat).Today June 29, 2017, I no longer have diabetes, no more high blood pressure, my bmi went from 35 (obese) to 29 (overweight). I no longer take any meds and am 202 pounds. There is nothing and no one could ever convince me to eat any animal product or any processed food.

[@lotusblossom30]

Juliana, that is not Love. You deserve better.

[@LAILA269.]

Juliana needs a new boyfriend. Also, i'd suggest she join a few vegan groups in her city (or even online). She shoulden't be ashamed to be vegan, on the contrary, it's the best decision one can make for the planet, animals, and your health.

[@natalitodorova9918]

Alternative Vegan Exactly girl! Stay inspired Juliana!

[@natalitodorova9918]

Minmataro718 Veganism would require supplementation only if the soil of the produce is not nutrient dence just like the "normal" diet where the meat, fish, dairy and eggs are toxic because of the hemicals used to grow them. Veganism is simple and easy if you just make it a priority.

[@natalitodorova9918]

Mauling Why do you believe so? I'd love to hear your opinion.

[@paytonlunsford3300]

It actaly is not good for your health teust mr

[@TeDeeBrown]

Get rid of him. Surround yourself with people that make you feel good.

[@cafeonmars6731]

Juliana we're here for uuuuu and anyone who's doing something like this!

[@anonymouse692]

Let's take "veganism" out of the equation. What if you told him you didn't drink and he kept trying to get you to drink and told everyone so they could make fun of you for it? Not to go too far with this, but what if you told him about a different personal decision you made concerning what you will or will not do with your body and the same thing happened? You probably would know what to do in these situations. The examples may be different, and probably a bit more dire, but the bottom line is that in each instance, including veganism, you introduced "who you are" to someone and the response was ridicule and bullying. You get to decide if those are qualities you want in a boyfriend. Also--what Liz said--teenagers are jerks. They make fun of anything that is "different" so take that into consideration even if they are being the absolute worst! LOL Finally, you ended with "I don't know what to do or say when people ask me why I'm vegan." I think that's worth exploring no matter what your personal ethics are. Why are you doing or not doing something?. Finding out your why makes the "what" sustainable.

[@martianqueen3553]

Juliana, props to you!!! You're saving the planet and caring for animals so way to go!! Awesome of Duncan and Liz for not minimizing a kid's problem and deciding to offer support. Happy to be a fan of y'all : )))))

[@soyouredatingavegan]

gabi!!!! how are you? hope you are well!

[@martianqueen3553]

So You're Dating A Vegan good!! about to start my second year of college then off to culinary school!! congratz on the engagement-marriage-everything lol

[@danielinteriano9753]

Gabi Vallejo she is caring for animals. But what about plants? They are alive too

[@paytonlunsford3300]

Ahh

[@MayraDairyFree]

Having the support of your partner is so important when you choose a life of compassion. Too many people don't understand not only the health benefits of being but also the ethics of it. Great video guys!

[@TrulyTara86]

Juliana, you're young and it's hard to do something that's considered "different". You're doing something that means something to you is important. Stay on course and continue sticking to your beliefs. Boyfriends will come and go. Your ethics and morals are with you for life.

[@amandaschreiber8148]

You rock Juliana!

[@annalohrmann4199]

I like youtubers/creators who have a patreon rather than do a bunch of sponsored videos, because it's a more direct way to support your content. Obviously not all sponsored videos are bad, but some channels get to the point where there's a sponsor message at the beginning of every episode, and it just gets tiring. I'm glad you two are super conscious about which companies you choose to work with for any sponsored videos and i'm also really glad you made a patreon!

[@soyouredatingavegan]

thank you anna, that really means a lot to us. we do not want this channel to be an ad or become slaves to selling products. and love your feedback and support!!!

[@cloieking]

just ordered one! love you guys so much, and plz never stop making videos. you're one of the best, most positive, and funny vegan channels. i love how you're spreading the vegan message

[@soyouredatingavegan]

you are the sweetest, thank you so so much!

[@VokunSiigonis]

Juilanna is great. And your boyfriend doesn't deserve you, if he makes fun of you and doesn't respect you or support you or everything he's doing, you shouldn't stay with him, you deserve someone who loves you and support you and your values, dump him, you'll find someone as compassionate and good as you are, don't worry.

[@kimduarte3723]

Juliana, YOU ARE A ROCKSTAR! I think that you are so courageous to be following your heart and beliefs. I am more than double your age and still get shade thrown at me over my choice to live a compassionate lifestyle. I have found that the people who mock me are doing it out of ignorance and I have to keep reminding myself that I once was ignorance too and didn't understand veganism, although I never made fun of anyone for it. I would say educate yourself more about the vegan lifestyle. This way you will prepared with a clever/quick witted but friendly come back. For instance, I was only vegan for 30 days when Thanksgiving happened. I brought all my own food to our family's dinner. At dessert when everyone was having pumkpin pie, I brought out my vegan pumkpin pie and my cousin yelled across the room, "Oh so you chased down that poor little defenseless pumpkin and kill it". Everyone laughed and I sat down not knowing how to react to that and felt pretty bad. Now that I am 2 years into my veganism and so much more educated I am way more prepared for situations such as that. Now I would have responded with friendly smile and said, "well, seeing that plants don't have a central nervous system, which is something that I believe that I learned back in the 5th grade, I think it's okay that I'm eating this pumpkin." So do your best to shake off the haters and stay strong to your believe. You are doing great and we all got your back here.

[@Badwolf_Babe]

omgosh that first comment breaks my heart, her bf is a jerk

[@RyanHeaney42]

Enthusiastically becoming a patron. You guys are so nice. I found you and have helped greatly in my journey to start eating only plants. Tomorrow marks 30 days and I know you were a big part of how successful I have been so far. Thank you.

[@soyouredatingavegan]

Thank you Ryan! and congrats on your 30 days!!! what an amazing feat!! we really really appreciate your support and are here for you if you need any advice at all!

[@cg-fb9ct]

Ryan Heaney Ryan congratulations and it's almost a year later and are you still vegan?

[@reachtrita]

I agree with Duncan and Liz, and I LOVE the License that they made!!! Love this channel so much!!!

[@RebelwheelsNYCShow]

When I first went vegan - officially and that this was something I was going to commit to, I wrote a little post about in on social media. Not saying "you need to do this to" or "anyone who doesn't do this SUCKS" or what have you. Just a chill post about a new things in my life, which is not uncommon for me to post on social media. And although the post was very chill and basically talked about this is what I have decided to do for my life, some people I knew who were not vegan, became very defensive and was all like "Well, I'm gonna keep eating meat!!" And I was like wow... okay. I didn't say don't. I was just saying what I was doing... so what's up? Why the really intense reaction? And I think maybe it's from an experience they had with another vegan who perhaps was really intense about it, but I think more than not, some people react very strongly to it because it challenges the idea that consuming animals is okay, because that's how we're raised but I am not sure if we totally agree with it. I mean, of course people vary, but I know for myself I was never 100% convinced that that was an accurate statement, but I was also raised that you needed to consume animals to get enough protein and other nutrients. But I think when you become vegan, it proposes the idea that maybe it's not that okay for us to consume animals and there's uncomfortable feeling that rises up in some people, but instead of sitting with that and examining it, a lot of people just feel bad/challenged on a certain level, and then lash out. That being said, even if that is what the boyfriend is going through, still no bueno with the way he is dealing with things and making fun of you for it. That's not cool. Partners don't have to agree on all things, but there needs to be that level of respect in the relationship. THAT being said, one way to answer why you are vegan, that I find can defuse the tension because it's more based on science than ethics, but you can always mention the tidbit that The UN did a study and it showed that the animal agriculture industry is one of the largest contributor's to climate change, and since climate change is no joke, in addition to going there for ethical reasons, you're vegan because it's just more sustainable here is a link to the article: www.theguardian.com/environment/2010/jun/02/un-report-meat-free-diet AND if you want more environmental stats, the documentary Cowspiracy (narrated by Leonardo DiCaprio, so it's mainstream) has lots of really great facts www.cowspiracy.com/facts Hope this helps. Stay awesome

[@renrita8495]

When I was in school, I had a friend who was vegan, and when we were 15-17 years old, I would often challenge her on it, or make jokes about all the vitamin supplements she must have to take. I was kidding around, but I'm sure it didn't feel good for her. Fast forward 2 years, I saw Forks Over Knives and went vegetarian, eventually going vegan 6 months ago. The difference was me educating myself. I think the best thing to do when people ask why you are vegan is to state some simple facts and point them to where they can get more information. If someone tries to make you eat meat, point out that they are treating you the way they are afraid vegans will treat them. If your boyfriend doesn't catch on, end it. You will not regret staying with someone who insisted on being an asshole, I promise

[@batbawls]

Aside from the obviously great content, I want to say that I love your channel's vibe.

[@soyouredatingavegan]

why thank you john smith ;)

[@latriciajones6842]

You two are amazing! Watching your friendly and caring videos makes me happy :-)

[@cafeonmars6731]

Omggg a vegan license

[@janavanrooyen9937]

Oh that license is such an awesome idea! If my daughter was older than 6 months, I would absolutely love to get one for her, :D As soon as she is old enough to understand veganism, she is definitely getting that license x Thank you x

[@veridianroots]

Good for you, Juliana! You can feel good about being more aware of the world and doing something awesome. Never forget that you're not alone

[@agingintobeauty]

I read the comments and I completely agree with dumping the boyfriend. Friends are important BUT nothing is as important as staying true to yourself. Honor who you are & who you strive to be, and the kind of supportive people you want & need in life will start popping up in your world.

[@ShayC143]

Lol drop his ass !! Short and sweet ! Great advice !

[@goodreason6462]

Juliana, it comes down to what you want and what you believe! You will find more solace and a peace of mind living your TRUTH! It's not easy, but in the long term, you will be happier. If someone is judging you for what you do, how you live, or your views on life, you need to ask yourself "Do I want this person in my life in the long term?" Obviously not! Not many people, especially the younger generation are conscious about health/animals and what's going on around them because they are all caught up in trends, media, etc. All true visionaries or people who tried to make the world a better place weren't understood by the masses during their time, and what you are doing now is quite similar! They will hate/judge you now but will see why you did what you did along the lines in several years. Be confident, be bold. You got this!

[@inkynerdart8203]

Being a teenager is tough- it seems even rougher now than when I was one. It gets better. It gets easier. That doesn't make it necessarily easier in the immediate sense, but sometimes it helps to remember that you only have to deal with annoying and immature teenage boys for a while. 🙃 I'm vegan, my partner isn't- but he's really supportive of me and my choices. He only ever eats meat when he's out with friends and I'm not there, we keep a kosher vegan home in deference to me. He happily eats whatever I prepare. Hilariously, he freely admits that after years of eating my BBQ tofu strips, he can't handle eating the animal version- when we first got together he wouldn't even try tofu and ate meat daily. All that to say, you deserve someone who supports you and is nice to you, even if they don't necessarily share your convictions. You're doing a good thing- caring about animals, doing the right thing for the planet, and hopefully making healthy choices for yourself too. (I was largely a fries and hummus vegan as a teenager- until I learned more about having a healthy vegan diet. Heh.) Hang in there!

[@craftlover9702]

Juliana, anyone who is not supportive of your choices is NOT worth your time!! Be strong in your convictions, don't let anyone try to sway you from what you believe it right for you and kick him to the curb!

[@jenerlee]

woohoo! I'm official!! 😁👍 good luck with the channel. ☮️😘

[@soyouredatingavegan]

yay, thanks!

[@tamcon72]

I really appreciated your addressing this as a, uh, mixed marriage[?]; it means more if you get differing perspectives, and I hope Juliana is inspired with confidence by your advice. Good luck with your plans, guys!

[@alleylipford8420]

when I was 14 my best friend turned into a total jerk because I went vegan. She started teasing me and calling me a weirdo and showing me slaughter house videos. the final straw was when she put fried chicken at the bottom of my salad. I was a very poor kid and didn't have money for a replacement lunch. moral of the story is that some people are assholes that don't deserve to call themselves your friend/boyfriend. Solidarity sister

[@agingintobeauty]

I also want to say that reaching out to the vegan community online is genius on your part. Please research "vegan kids" and contact as many as you can. You are not alone in your struggle. People of all ages are struggling with going vegan & having conflict w/friends & family. Talking with vegans your own age is very empowering & will give you confidence to Just. Be. You. Because you are spectacular!

[@TrulyTara86]

I want an official vegan license!

[@jenniferlynn7063]

I feel like you guys are going to such good parents.

[@rachelhayward6530]

You guys deserve so many more views and subscribers you're one of the best vegan channels I've found! I noticed you guys haven't done to many collabs with other vegan you tubers maybe its something to try to do? I love Lauren from Hot for Food and I feel like you guys have similar channel styles!

[@L1VVV]

im definitely PMSing because ive seen this video a million times and im bawling my eyes out listening to liz read the vegan license lmaoooo i love yall

[@meowglab7702]

I love you guys so much!!! Last night I was feeling very alone and disconnected from my family and friends, as I felt a lot of social pressure yesterday towards my diet. This video came just at the right time for me. :)

[@soyouredatingavegan]

aw we love you too! know in your heart that there are many out here just like you and we are all sending you good vibes always

[@NatreWitch]

Im terrified of saying that Im vegan in public or even at work. Everyone at work knows now because we work with food and people are always trying to feed me something new or something they like so it has had to come up. Of course Im around a lot of people that ask questions and try to challenge me on why Im vegan, intentionally waiting until Im on a call or busy waiting tables so it's difficult for me to answer at the time. I also have a manager who blatently makes fun of the meals I bring for my lunch. She's regularly made fun of me in front of coworkere and customers alike saying that I "eat some weird crap", "don't eat anything normal", and regularly stops me in the middle of work, while with customers to ask me "What'd you bring today? I wanna know weird it looks." Some of my family has been supportive because of the high rate of heart disease and diabetes that run in it, others are constantly asking me to eat something nonvegan and then act surprised and offended when I tell them it's not and that I don't feel comfortable eating it (fish, scalloped potatoes, green beans with bacon bits, etc). When Im at a restaurant, I try not to say that Im vegan. I ask for substitutions to some things, almost always get side dishes, ask if it's made with butter, but this area is so small that Im afraid the server will be upset or not know what it means. I've been laughed at in a restaurant before when i asked if they had vegan dessert, this being a more upscale one that I thought might have an option. Being autistic and having trouble reading situations, I usually rely on my SO to tell me if it seems safe to say something. Im usually still uncertain and hesitate until they say it themselves to a server or whoever we talk to. If it's a friend they'll usually tell them that I've received some backlash from people for it and that I usually prefer not to bring it up. Some people are supportive, but I've been the center of attention with it so much and made fun of for it Im afraid to say it most of the time.

[@soyouredatingavegan]

I am so so sorry that you have to deal with an unfriendly work and family environment! Your decision to eat as you do, is your own, and it should not give way to other people mocking you for it. Any kind of casual joking on your diet choices is an attack and it is bullying. Please know that there are many people out here sending you support for yo. What you are doing is such a great thing for the world in so many ways and nothing any of your co-workers could do could even come close to that.

[@NatreWitch]

I appreciate the support. Im lucky to have a supportive community online for my decision, and a SO who's there for me. Juliana honestly needs more support at home than she's getting. Even though Im afraid of saying it out loud where I live, Im proud to be vegan and to make the changes in the world that I do. Im pround to introduce the ideas and facts that I follow as reasons to keep going to others and let them think things over themselves. Im happy for what support I do have from friends and some family, and even their openness to try a couple of vegan foods (though not often without a little bit of fear). I think that even without a lot of the support I have irl I would continue to be vegan, just knowing that Im making a difference for the animals, the environment, and myself.

[@reesescuptn]

Hey, I became one of your patreons. I've never done that before but I love your videos & I need my "vegan license" b/c I'm the only vegan in the family & the only one at the school I teach in too. 😕 Plus I live in east Tennessee & vegans are scarce, BUT that is changing! I have hope!

[@soyouredatingavegan]

ah! we feel so special to be your only patreon receiver!!! your vegan license is on it's way and hope you can find solace in it and in the fact that you are not alone and part of a great and benevolent lifestyle!

[@kerridubbs2]

I would have liked to have heard her explain patreon

[@soyouredatingavegan]

hahaha why thank you kerri! patreon is like kickstarter but not for a particular end goal. it is more like being a patron of the arts for our channel

[@indieconquers]

patreon.zendesk.com/hc/en-us/articles/115002888963-What-is-Patreon-

[@eternamenteamata]

Stories like this move me so much. So much respect for Juliana

[@oliviamalathy]

Juliana, you're soo cool. I wish I would have been this brave at your age. Drop that idiot and you will find someone more caring. I'm proud of you ✨

[@MsJazzyjazz85]

Where is Theo?

[@soyouredatingavegan]

more episodes with Theo coming soon!!

[@anotherdimension2915]

you two are awesome been watching for awhile now and am rooting for you 🙏🏽💪🏼

[@emilyplatt8172]

Wow, she needs to dump him.

[@windwalker4094]

This choked me up. Great response!

[@verityvogel8058]

I LOVE U GUYS!!! Thanks for being awesome on your channel!

[@soyouredatingavegan]

WE LOVE YOU TOO!!!!!

[@alsharp0421]

Are there any cards left? I live in BK and could come and get it. No shipping!

[@soyouredatingavegan]

there are! just donate on our patreon page and we can send it or meet up!

[@dalindav]

Love you two Love your videos. You've been so helpful to me!! I'm new to the vegan world. Appreciate you both 🌻🌞

[@soyouredatingavegan]

Thanks for this nice message Dalinda, it's our favorite thing to hear! We vegans gotta look out for each other :)

[@micmil01]

Juliana, love yourself.

[@natalitodorova9918]

That's awesome!! Thanks for sharing. Very sweet of you!

[@danecobain]

I love how all of the comments are about ditching the douchebag. Jeez, some people. Someone needs to have a talk with that dude before he turns out to be full-on abusive.

[@rxlx6029]

Darling, WE (Vegans) are a lot! you dont need someone that is saying u how to live. Go ahead, leave him. Someone that cannot support u , do not deserve you. Period.

[@lindathompson6678]

I know, I am slow! But, by chance any licenses left????

[@soyouredatingavegan]

there are! if you support us on Patreon, we will get one out to you!

[@faith7562]

how is Theo doing? did he quit? did I miss anything? I love your videos 😊

[@soyouredatingavegan]

he is good, a theo video is coming up next!

[@maraudersvids1718]

When I was vegetarian before I became vegan some annoying boy thought it was funny to throw ham sandwiches at me, I hated it so bad

[@stringbender57]

Dump the boyfriend! What a jerk! 😡

[@jessiekay86]

if you two decide to have kids one day, you’re going to make AMAZING parents

[@bettylanza83]

Juliana, you are such a strong girl. It was very breve to open up. Also a very good idea, I am vegan but my husband is not. I became vegan a little over a year ago, but what has made it easier for me is my husbands support. You need someone like that by your side. If your boyfriend does not respects your lifestyle then you are better off. I wish you the best of luck and don't change who you are or your values for a person that doesn't value your choices.

[@HexusoftheSheep]

He is just dealing with someone he cares about changing their views- by being a bully. Both are true. Sometimes people are having a completely valid struggle, but the way that they express it and work through it is still inappropriate and bullying. Lots of bullies do it because they are working through a struggle.

[@milkman00x]

when i was in high school. as soon as word got out i was eating a vegan diet, all my closest friends decided to fuck with me by inviting me out to lunch with them, and then going to boston market. (even broccoli is drowning in butter). they were eating ham and mashed potatoes in gravy while i only had a cup of water, and they all beleaguered me "what's the matter, vegan, don't you want anything to eat?" i felt completely humiliated. i wish i could say it was just high school, but almost anyone who doesn't understand life without meat at each meal approaches me almost condescendingly, "what do you eat, then? what about protein?" to the question, "if you don't eat meat, what do you eat?" my favorite reply is, "anything else?"

[@AndriPSeay]

Husband is the manager of the patreon. Hopefully he will see this and support at the 5$ a month for that sweet card.

[@MichaelSosebeeSterling]

Andri Seay We supported at $10 my lovely wife.

[@soyouredatingavegan]

y'all are adorable!

[@OrangeOrange006]

Im getting one in september for sure!

I love you guys so so much!!!

[@TheLupitag31]

May be too late but my 9 yr daughter may appriciate a card if still available. Sure always talks about how proud she's a vegan but is hard for her at school.

[@soyouredatingavegan]

We do have more available! If you support us on Patreon we will get one out to you !

[@TheLupitag31]

So You're Dating A Vegan just pledged 😁

[@stefannieuwoudt4782]

i didn't know what a patreon is...

[@CarlosMCruz-es9tm]

Sending love and support out to Juliana, #YouAreNotAlone XOXO

[@livinglife8333]

It's not great from the other side either, I'm not vegan but I'm not eating much meat. I love to find cool recipes that are vegan, when on other pages I've been made out to be evil and vile and I'm the reason the planet is dying etc etc. 😳☹️ I run scared from them because they are so mean and hate filled. I even cried after one nasty reply, I know that's stupid because it's a mean person who has nothing to really do with me but wow. Your channel has given me my fav vegan cheeses, vegan Mayo and other things. Even the cake!!! Thanks for not being mean.

[@healingspiritspodcast]

Thank you!!

[@Strongirlmar]

you guys are the (vegan)cheeznipssss!!

[@soyouredatingavegan]

mmmm yum vegan cheez-its

[@micah8855]

this video was uploaded the day i became a vegan

[@tess9099]

Juliana, I for one am very proud of you, stick to your guns. It's your life, your boyfriend doesn't have to be vegan, but he should support you. Under the circumstances I would find a new boyfriend and a new circle of friends that like you for you. My daughter went through similar obstacles when she went vegan, she now has a very diverse circle of friends that don't care about her eating habits.

[@annak1371]

That girls boyfriend probably thinks she's going to try to get him to stop eating meat. Or he's probably worried that people are going to judge him because of her and then he will be less cool because of it. I've dated guys in high school that were like that for other reasons. I wasn't cool because I was friends with the kids that weren't seen as being cool. I broke up with his stupid closed minded/unkind a$$. Life is way too short for that nonsense.

[@mia2791]

Awwww! I'd like one if you still have some 😍

[@soyouredatingavegan]

we do! on our patreon!

[@cafeonmars6731]

yESSSS SLAY

[@inkedveganmediaandproducti1974]

Great video, keep it up

[@nathanbruner5637]

Point the bf out for me. I'll give him the old 1-2 out back.... Straighten him out a little

[@DreamhopMusic]

ahah :p

[@abbi1349]

Her boyfriend sounds like a bully.

[@TheHarper07]

i want one fun

[@CinderellAspergerSapiophile]

DjuEliAna

[@vladi_vlaplantbasedpipa4713]

lmao, at super secrect ideas

[@danielinteriano9753]

I hate it that vegans say eating meat is murder. Well guess what? Plants are living things too. I mean, do whatever you wanna do. If u are vegan dont judge us for eating meat. If you eat meat dont judge vegans!

[@soyouredatingavegan]

Do you think animals and plants are the same in terms of their ability to suffer?

[@danielinteriano9753]

So You're Dating A Vegan OOOHHH OK well let me kill a baby, but dont worry he wont suffer imma inject him anesthesia.... THAT DOES NOT MATTER LIVING BEINGS ARE EQUAL

[@soyouredatingavegan]

If all living beings are equal, doesn't it follow that killing an animal is as morally unacceptable as killing a human?

[@danielinteriano9753]

So You're Dating A Vegan what about chpping the plants... Its like chopping an arm?

[@JaxHolo]

Someone is the toxic one. Wow, even though it's a living thing it's not equivalent to killing a human being you're just a hater to vegans for their preference. Liz is dating a vegan and she seems fine, so why you must be a bully.