How To Deal With Weight Gain (Family, Friends, BF, Doctors, etc.)

[@StephanieButtermore]

Hey guys! I hope these tips help you if you've undergone any weight gain or physique changes. As you know, I gained 40lbs so I feel like I learned a lot during my own journey. I know this video is a lot of information but I honestly had so much to say! Thank you for always being there for me, especially when I needed you the most, I'm so happy I let you in....you are my people 🙏💋

[@queenbutterfly4888]

you are so pretty! how much weight are you planning to gain?

[@asmallbitchybanana]

Hi Stephanie, i gained a lot too. But im working on my health n physique this year.

[@MeredithElizabeth]

I did too! But i noticed +15lbs my fertility went up. So maybe we were more underweight than our bodied wsnted. Seriously, at my age I'm learning to calm down about how i look. I find wisdom so attractive nowadays.

[@AP-of2ts]

You are beautiful either way!!! Thank you for your videos!!!

[@beatrizaceiton2685]

One tip that helps me is seeing the bigger picture at the end it all be worth it. Have a great Monday.💯🇨🇦💗💖💟❤

[@sabrinaskukalek470]

stephanie looks like she’s glowing. mentally and physically so healthy and vibrant 🥰

[@amberlybonilla3234]

old3nglish “mentally and physically” ! oh and makeup looks great on her :)

[@missmelissalee1858]

Sabrina Skukalek yasssss agree and so positive. 💙

[@lilyazu]

@@old3nglishisboss you can still look glowing, and healthy, and vibrant while wearing makeup

[@emihenry]

yes i love seeing her like this!

[@KarmaHipster313]

She is definitely growing!

[@aleseastahi425]

Who is also here after anorexia and trying not to jump back in ? Thank you, Stephanie. The thing you did is extremely brave. Thanks for helping some of us who struggle regain their strengh

[@agustinaaceto3518]

Me. I've been recovered for two years though, but lately I've been feeling like relapsing and I don't want to.

[@user-yc2nw5rs1i]

Me, too. I’ve been recovering for 7 months or so. It’s been/is extremely difficult and I do miss that life so much but I know it’s unhealthy and not a good place to be. All it did was hurt those close to me-and most of all, my mental, physical, and emotional health. Stay strong guys. We can do this. Let’s beat that bully Ana. :))

[@xmissdaytona]

Same, I feel like shit because of the weight I’ve gain and some of my clothes fit tighter and it makes those ed thoughts strong. Im so glad she posted this video, it helped me realize how much I accomplished during my recovery and I’ve been doing so good that I can’t give up.

[@Eden68161]

I recovered.. But I feel like I'm going to relapse. For me it's fine when a friend gains weight, to me, it they were going from a small to medium their glowing. But when I went from an xs to small in the last two years out of recovery. I couldn't see anything more than a 130 pound elephant. I need to get some help. Again. 🤦

[@underthestarsoverthemoon4259]

Motivates me to keep going.

[@TheRealGuywithoutaMustache]

Gaining weight has a lot of mental repercussions, mostly a loss of self esteem, it's nice to see you help out others with your perspective

[@alwindupal-ag1548]

Dude go to sleep

[@zehranihalozger4010]

Jelalll

[@amandamysong]

Alwin Dupal-ag it was 1pm when he commented this😂

[@ginaluisa._]

HoW are you literally on EVERY video??

[@Stephen-wh7vl]

SIMP!!

[@Evergreenvic]

I check my body at least once a day and I'm honestly sick of the internal judgement. Thanks for making this vid.

[@Mac-dt3iz]

Is it just me or is it kinda rude for everyone to be saying she looks SOO much better now? Like she's always look beautiful

[@tiffanyelainestubbsfarrull2204]

@@brettolson9544 chubby? Its crazy how different cultures view things because that is not chubby in my culture

[@rajaah3412]

Tiffany elaine Stubbs Farrulla same

[@npsck1802]

I don’t think it’s rude. For me as a woman, I see the way she used to be as unhealthy because she lost her period. That is a warning sign right there. I don’t get why women would ever strive to obtain such an unhealthy level of leanness. If you lose your period it’s not only devastating for your reproductive ability but also for your hormonal balance. So I don’t think it’s wrong for people to celebrate her in a state where she looks healthy.

[@gb917]

@@tiffanyelainestubbsfarrull2204 What country are you from. Because the black beauty standard is thick with a tiny waist. This woman is far from that.

[@npsck1802]

Kayla Anderson She said that she lost her period

[@bunnyhunny4417]

I really needed this, I was anorexic & underweight & then developed binge eating disorder & gained 80 pounds. I'm trying my best to be healthy & get down to a healthy weight & not beat myself up for the progress being so slow. Thank you so much for being so honest with your journey sadly that's not too common these days.

[@r5zoeirabr651]

If you had Anorexia,it is in NO WAY binge eating,it is simply the result of restriction,feast eating is your body's response to famine,it is absolutely normal, because your body is trying to end the caloric defiicit you created,it is called extreme hunger and you can go up to eating even 10.000 calories a day for a while,with a history of Anorexia YOU CAN NEVER GO ON A DIET,or you will become anorexic again,you are not fully recovered yet,please watch Alice Oliva,Tabitha Farrar and Kayla rose here on KZbin,it will help you so much!

[@bunnyhunny4417]

@@r5zoeirabr651 I've been diagnosed with binge eating I stopped being anorexic a couple years ago I already am seeing a therapist and psychiatrist and I'm fully aware I'm not recovered, I said I was trying my best.

[@bunnyhunny4417]

@@r5zoeirabr651 But I will definitely check out those youtubers thank you

[@r5zoeirabr651]

@@bunnyhunny4417 Yes,please check them out!99% per cent of the time "binging" is a result of restriction in some kind of way!

[@megkathleen]

Bunny Hunny Being “diagnosed” doesn’t mean you have binge eating disorder. Is your therapist aware of the ways in which the body reacts to famine? Research the Minnesota Starvation Study. If your body didn’t need that food, you would NOT be eating. Period. When your body gets comfortable, it WILL stop the extreme eating naturally and your weight will adjust. - Anorexic for 13 years

[@lifeofsam2401]

I went back to the gym last week for the first time since losing my hair to cancer. Everyone looked at me but I’ve learnt that life is way too short. Do what you love now and don’t judge others because you don’t know what they are going through. I also vlogged my whole journey cx

[@Gabby-od8kf]

Aww I'll be watching that after this vidio...😁😁👍🏻

[@lifeofsam2401]

Gabby Fouche awww thanks Gabby 🥰❤️

[@taylorgreen4695]

You're so strong! Always remember you are beautiful, and don't let the stares try to bring you down. That's amazing!

[@nusratqureshi3297]

u go girl!! 💙

[@hevin4763]

You are always stronger than you think!! Sending my love to you🧡

[@yumnad2280]

I literally haven’t seen people I know for a year because of these fears. Even writing this scares the shit out of me. Stephanie, your work is amazing.

[@maryymendes]

I have been pushing a trip to visit friends because I gained weight and don't want to be judged 😢 I'm so embarrassed of myself.

[@yumnad2280]

Mari Mendes youre not alone sis. These are my close friends and it’s been over a year. I’ve isolated myself from everyone!

[@maryymendes]

@@yumnad2280 it's awful to feel this way. Specially because they're friends. So I feel I can say this feeling is not rational at all.

[@malloryg4251]

I have done the same in the past and it made me more miserable than I've ever been. It only fueled my sadness and made me more insecure. I know it's not easy, but I hope you'll reach out to your friends again. I'm sure they really miss you, and may even feel bad that you cut them out of your life. If my good friend gained a bunch of weight and stopped talking to me, it would break my heart. Also, remember that if your friends truly care about you, then they won't care AT ALL about how you look. I wish you the best!!

[@jessicawilliams5855]

I did the same thing after gaining 70 pounds while pregnant. I didnt even have a baby shower because I was so embarrassed!! After losing 55 pounds of it, I deeply regret putting my life on hold just because of my appearance.

[@JustMe-yt6zb]

You didn't gain weight, you gained health.

[@Sidehustle_chick]

Best comment I have read😭❤️❤️❤️

[@jacobsroom12]

This made me cry. So beautiful.

[@arturius9715]

🤣🤦

[@flatbedladyv2191]

NAH...I PREFER THE HUNGER

[@hannahm2621]

As someone who works in the healthcare field: Weight gain (or loss) can be a symptom for a huge variety of diseases, so don‘t take it personally when a doctor asks about your weight changes. They are generally just trying to look out for you. :)

[@kathlimb]

I know you mean well, but plenty of doctors have no tact about weight, and will suggest weight loss to overweight people as a fix for literally any and every medical issue. A lot won't even look for any other cause of the issue if you are overweight.

[@sinkmagg0t]

@@kathlimb Yes, because being overweight puts extra pressure on your body, and getting rid of it can help you deal with an illness/condition more easily. Sure, doctors can be curt or mean sometimes, but at the end of the day they have a job. If the extra weight can have such a negative impact on your body than it is no longer considered healthy. Then again, if you are struggling with an ED, it's not going to be as easy, and you can't keep avoiding it forever, so I suggest a phyciatrist or working hard with yourself to overcome it.. i know i make it sound simpler than it is but everything in life needs effort. Overcoming an ED/gaining weight/losing weight/admitting you are struggling with an ED/getting help etc. I wish you all the best. You are loved.

[@ishikasinsinwar1642]

Yeah that's mostly the case. But I went to a gynaecologist for my missed period and she asked me about my weight. It was 54 kgs then (height 163cm age 18) and she told me 54 is too heavy and lose weight to get in forties😒....it would be literally underweight for my height but okay .....

[@allier1867]

plus where i live they weight you almost always when you come in for a check up. its just how it is so the doctor can gauge any thing to worry about. #factsoverfeelings

[@AyeKay220]

They use the BMI, which is bogus to begin with.

[@kateelizabeth4090]

Being obsessed with my appearance has caused me to lose out on life experiences for myself such as school, job upgrades, my career, finances etc. Changing my life by putting fitness second has already opened many many many doors for me

[@analegon5739]

Kate Elizabeth your beautiful no matter what enjoy life we only have one☮️💜☮️💜☮️💜

[@Trendy.Tidbits]

Or buy a bike

[@andrewsegura3078]

Good for you Kate! 👍

[@ajones2367]

Weirdly enough, when I first started watching your videos, I idolized how small you were because I wanted what you had. Seeing you gain weight and showing your own struggles has helped me and I’m forever grateful that you showed us your all-in journey.

[@jordiflower]

Aunesty Jones me too!!!

[@ngoanapedikomane4540]

What's crazy to me, as someone that has been watching you for a while, is that at the time you looked good and "healthy". But seeing your "then" pics now is a bit scary because you look sooooo thin, and now ironically, with the weight gain you look so much healthier.

[@2013Tayo]

I have a history of working out and beiNg the “fit girl”. Over the last year and a half I have gained around 15 lbs. I was always depressed about the weight gain, but what made it Worse was when i ran into an old friend i havent seen in 3 years. He said “ Wow you got kinda chunky” and my heart dropped and I became even more self conscious about others noticing it. So now, whenever i see people that I havent seen in A long while ( like classmates from high school) I try to hide from them because I knoww they are thinking that i gained weight. This video has helped me be more confident and to just realize how unimportant my appearance is compared to everything else . Thank you ❤️

[@sasha8616]

Hi there! I went through the exact same thing. I think that’s the issue with meeting people from our past. The friends I made in school when I was “fit” (unhealthily skinny) now only remember me as the girl who gained 40lbs. But my new friends in college just know me as a regular person of healthy weight. I know it sucks but eventually I accepted my new normal body type and realized that if others didn’t accept it too then it’s their own problem. Not mine. Stay strong ❤️

[@wellwhatdoyoubringliam1853]

That's horrible to hear :( I'm glad you've started to realise how wonderful you are. It says nothing about you if someone says things like "you,ve got chubbier" but it says a lot about them who says those things. We easily see what we are afraid of or don't like about ourselves in others but not in ourselves. Hoping you all the best, you got this honey❤️

[@sasha8616]

Well what do you bring Liam Thats honestly the wisest and sweetest thing I’ve heard today. Thank you so much. I really appreciate this ❤️ take care!

[@malloryg4251]

Your friend is a jerk!! It's not that you "got chunky," it's that he's a complete ass who doesn't understand that it's inappropriate to make negative comments about someone's appearance. How would he like it if he was losing his hair, and you were like, "Wow, you're going BALD!!" I doubt he'd like that! LOL

[@nutmalone5527]

@@malloryg4251 well there's nothing you can do about baldness, but you can lose or gain weight, so i dont see how these two can be compared to each other, people will always make comments about your weight, they might sound rude but you dont know their intentions

[@lauraneumark9716]

I lost my period and was told to gain weight. This is such an inspiration for me!

[@ha8236]

me too and I am also going all in. Mentally feel a lot better in myself since I did, as I was extremely underweight.

[@hibaaya2946]

Me too and i gained weight and get my period again but i don t feel good in my body now i want to lose some weight but i do t know what do to

[@lauraneumark9716]

@@hibaaya2946 hi I feel the same way I have ppl telling me (friends) that I already have a great body and should keep it and not gain weight....but all of those doubts are stupid. A healthy body is beautiful and if gaining weight and getting a period back is healthy than that body is more beautiful than the previous. Keep strong and be brave you got this girl.

[@hibaaya2946]

@@lauraneumark9716 thanks sweaty that s mean a lot❤

[@Irgendwer-r5f]

Me too :)

[@ErikTheElectric]

So glad you addressed all of those obstacles, Steph. I feel like (especially in this day and age) the third one is something we'll all continue to struggle with. Regardless, you've done an amazing job with your message and we're all so proud of your progress!

[@msnfiles]

💪

[@platinumgio12344]

Chad Jeff, virgin Erik

[@oppermanfitness]

Hard facts!!

[@KenWang2]

That's why the Carnivore diet is king 👑 . Meat heals.

[@mariliza]

The fact that she put us in the "close" category and not "strangers" made me feel so appriciated and loved... 🥰

[@aurorap.7578]

"The way you look is the least interesting thing about you"

[@mrs_moose3546]

Definitely the most important point. Wish more people got this.

[@user-mb4ig1bq5p]

yet she's been NON STOP posting about her looks for over a year now!!!

[@aurorap.7578]

@@user-mb4ig1bq5p I mean yes but it's been more about the emotional and mental journey she took as she changed physically

[@aurorap.7578]

@Cthulhu I guess the quote should be altered to "the way you look should be the least interesting thing about you" ? What do you think?

[@kirascarlettburned1171]

@@user-mb4ig1bq5p She said it was the least interesting, not the least profitable. As someone who was and still is a fitness influencer, she had built her career on her workouts and physique, which involves showing her body online a lot as work. However, that doesn't define her as a person, and the way her lab coat looks isn't important either: it just is another way she can show, through a picture, that she is a researcher (and she uses her physique to show that she is a fitness influencer). Even now that she has a higher body fat percentage, she is still a fitness influencer, who works out, and uses social media to demonstrate exercises that can make you leaner/slimmer/thicker/generally healthier.

[@SleepyLoaf]

Holding back tears.... I struggle with my weight. I struggle with food. I fear getting "fat" . When you talked about the changes due to weight, in regards to emotion, my obsession over the gym caused me to starve myself and lash out at my husband. I treated him poorly and I'm happy he's still here.... I'm better but I still struggle with my self image

[@ha8236]

You are doing great for realising the issue and putting in the steps to make a change. For me I never feared getting fat but I used food in a punish and reward kind of way. If I didn't achieve what I wanted in the day, I wouldn't eat. I didn't even realise I was doing it until I broke down my behaviour. So for me I had to let this go and just eat more consistently and not put the narrative in my head that I dont deserve to eat. I would lietrally not eat if am having a bad day or if I didn't finished my work to the standard I wanted etc. I kind of realise what I had was an eating disorder. So by going all in (which I am doing now), I have been able to break down thid cycle.

[@juliette7907]

Your body thinks you’re pretty no matter what

[@monicap3403]

Why is fitness about weight? Isn't it about feeling unicorn rainbow heavenly fit?

[@amandaaraujo7615]

I’ve gained weight- from being “slim thick” to THICK it has been hard mentally and emotionally. Seeing your journey is very motivating and comforting !

[@liltish498]

Any tips to gain weight?

[@able5119]

Tisha Yusfaza eat more and lift

[@Kristina-sp9wq]

Did you wanted to gain weight? Because I would be happy to be slim thick

[@liltish498]

@@able5119 Alright, thanks!

[@brothertn708]

Amanda Araujo bájale a las tortillas mija! 😹😹😹

[@meryem2762]

Jeff was definitely right when he said that you seem to be happier now.

[@kahileigh]

I bet he ain't as happy

[@ebonydavenport5037]

I needed this so much! I’ve gained 30 lbs in ~18 months and it’s taken such a toll on my mental. I’m still struggling to get to a stable place and accept my body and meet her where she is. Body positivity is hard af. Thanks for this ❤️

[@MariaCaro95]

It is a privilege to be part of your subscriber base. I love how transparent and kind you are, no matter what you are going through. Thank you Stephanie!

[@hebaasfari8729]

It is sad that society sometimes looks down on people who gain weight and makes them feel less of themselves and praise people who lose the weight. This mentality is so twisted and NO ONE should ever feel ashamed of their body and should feel comfortable having to gain weight if they need to or lose weight without being judged. We really need to grow and it is people like you, Steph, that talk about this that could help others and start a conversation of everyone is beautiful no matter what and there's more to the person and the world than weight.

[@clarakw5571]

amen, HAES

[@billymahonyy]

people don't respect people who gain weight because its just the easy way out. It is difficult to lose weight, not gain weight. People respect people who defeat challenges. stop making excuses to get fat

[@theannoyingfan100]

With al due respect gaining 40lbs of fat is not a healthy way to cope

[@psionicinversion]

depends what it is. going from 400lb's to 600lb's is definitely concerning. stephanie going from bad body fat % as a body building competitor to where she is now completely fine and needed. yet going from now to 400lbs is not good.

[@onlooker4564]

Gotta say Stephanie Buttermore, speaking as a straight female, I think you're currently looking beautiful and luscious! 😁🤗

[@noriii971]

onlooker4564 love the fact that you have to specialize your sexuality;) She definitely is tho!

[@onlooker4564]

@@noriii971 It's my age 😊🤗

[@Talvekuningas]

she looks like a walrus

[@onlooker4564]

@@Talvekuningas Beautiful walrus, if it were true...

[@anirose6807]

lolfailism stop trolling, she’s gorgeous

[@s.c4366]

I've had an eating disorder for the last two years, and now I'm finally weight restored. But I am feeling so big, so fat. I don't know if I'm really looking like that, but I see myself like that. I hope it'll get better some day. Love to everyone who reads this ❤

[@nydiess4998]

Hi! I have anorexia and Ive gained a loooot of weight but trust me you arent fat!! You probably lost muscle mass and fat. Even if you didnt you are beautiful the way you look, dont fall into your old behaviours!! You got this, I believe in you ❤

[@Kikuye]

Generally brain healing and healthier brain patterns START once hitting a healthy weight (for your individual body), and consistent adequate nutrition. So yeah. The first year after that can be the hardest, but generally starts to get easier so long as you are not trying to compensate in some way like compulsive exercise. And of course challenging unhelpful beliefs (like believing you should look a certain way or be a certain weight) and actions.

[@heh4389]

Nydiess hey just letting u know it’s actually not rly a good idea to reassure others they’re not fat or that they’re not gonna “get” fat. because it reinforces the idea that fat is something to be fearful of and bad and it’s just not. it reinforces the idea that “as long as i’m not fat it’s okay”. in eating disorder recovery u have to challenge urself and ask WHY fat is so bad and so scary. it’s also triggering to some, because some people who are recovering or recovered ARE fat. (how do u know OP isn’t fat? if they were itd be really triggering. not everyone with an ED is skinny) it doesn’t make them any more or less disordered. fat is not the same as bad, ugly, mean, or dumb. fat is a neutral descriptor and should be used as one.

[@Wen00.4]

Keep it up I hope you'll get better soon 🔜

[@elizabethhealy6237]

I struggled with anorexia for 7 years and the most important thing that helped me accept my new body was realising that there's no point in fixating on my looks if my brain lies to me about what I look like in the first place.

[@radicedidue9068]

You are so strong and so beautiful. I’m Italian and there are two types of grandmothers: the ones that want you to gain weight and force you to eat (😂) and the ones who are very obsessed with healthy eating. When I was 10 my grandmother decided to tell me that I looked pregnant just because I was a little bit over weigh and from that moment I started feeling so bad about myself and begun developing eating disorders at a very young age. I totally understand your position and I can relate to the fact that hearing some comments by relatives is a lot harder. Stay strong 💪🏼 (sorry 4 my English but I’m Italian ehehe)

[@Louderder]

Okay this is probably the video I needed the most atm 🥰 going from anorexia to gaining more weight than before because of a lot of binge eating have been SO hard, and these video and all the comments just made me realize how we're totally not alone in this

[@inderjitkainth7158]

I think she looks better at this size... super feminine and not fat at all.

[@rain3517]

Inderjit Kainth that’s because she works out. She’s growing muscle. It sucks because people think that she’s eating fatty unhealthy food but she isn’t, she’s looking after her body and she’s making it grow stronger. A lot of people also don’t give a shit about your mental health when you’re skinny it’s like “why are u sad ur skinny stop being sad” and she seemed to try so hard to stay extremely skinny and now she’s looking out for herself and eating enough so her brain is getting fuel and she doesn’t feel so sad anymore, fuck what you look like, she has a healthy mindset and a healthy mindset is the most important thing

[@carolvlogs2042]

Yeah,u r right!

[@des7911]

Angerie Facesu yeah I used to be really underweight and I couldn’t gain at all, Now I’m fucking overweight now I can’t lose. My weight fluctuates drastically and idk what to do 🥺

[@Cheekydr4]

@@des7911 yo-yo dieting could be the reason. If you find yourself drastically changing your eating habits your body is going to find a way to stabilize your weight, which could mean your metabolism has slowed down. If your diet and physical activity hasn't change and you find your body making these changes on it's own, you should definitely check with your doctor.

[@ellinasinay6607]

Anthony Cooney How rude, you think she is fat? She is 👌 PERFECT!

[@lucijazdesic7475]

Okay so im gonna me honest. At first I've been folowing you just for your cheat days because i was dealing with an eating disorder and it was nice to see someone enjoying food when i "couldn't". Anyways,later on i've found myself watching your content on a regular basis and when you started your journey i was so impressed and i really wanted to do that for myself too but I was too scared. Now that i've seen the positive impact it had on you i will try to do something about my eating disorder. You are the reason i realized that gaining weight can be a beautiful thing. Thank you so much and im so happy for you❤

[@kdlf333]

Sending you love🤍 hope you find so much happiness on your journey

[@lucijazdesic7475]

@@kdlf333 Thank you❤

[@sparklejuice]

Same for me @luzz. I did it, it was so worth it. You can do it too.

[@kaylaclay3195]

OMG same

[@courtneyruiz1805]

Girl you’re beautiful. I’m trying to gain weight. A healthy weight for me is around 140. I got very depressed and dropped down to 110. I’m finally back to my healthy weight level of 139. However I want to look like an adult and gain weight. And I think another 20 pounds would look nice on me. I personally think your body looks healthier and better with your weight gain. You even glow differently!!

[@aisharicci6400]

Me too am at 130 and i want to reach 140, i like my face better when it plumper;)

[@Marymackthequeenofwack]

Thank you for making a point about how you feel at a certain weight vs the number in the scale! I'm 5'1 according to weight charts I should top around 115 but I feel better and look better around 125-130. At that weight I fill out nicely and have a very curvy figure.

[@hahahahaBHFSD7]

I love how supportive he is of you, someone like that makes such a beautiful change in your life, reminds me of my wonderful boyfriend's unconditional support. You are inspirational and daring, and you deserve the BEST. ❤

[@shilimousseau5215]

Steph: stop body checking Me: *body checking myself in my mirror* oh...

[@elizabethholloway1949]

me, who body checks at least every 10 mins.. oh

[@kathytr616]

- start journaling - log hunger levels, food, feelingz - get out of ur brain. Step back reflect on your qualities over looks. - stop body checking. - dress on your shape How to deal with close ppl - don’t shut ppl out - if ppl care abt you n make a mean comment. They just misunderstanding. Help them understand them. Talk to them. Give em a chance.

[@candacebacon4011]

Body checking is what I do and I’m ashamed because I have been sad about my body . I feel that I look in the mirror and pin point every little thing from my scars from surgeries to my thighs. Definitely going to try this tip as well as the others. Thank you Stephanie for the video💜

[@SuperwolfIntroMaker]

I’m suffering from anorexia and I’m currently following a meal plan in order to gain weight. This video is so helpful!! Thank you Stephanie you are amazing!❤️❤️

[@moonchild07613]

Fighting💞💞😁😀👍💞

[@Morfeusm]

Good Luck! You got this! 👍🤗💪

[@r5zoeirabr651]

With Anorexia,the idea is to STOP FOLLOWING meal plans,listen to your body and eat to full mental and physical hunger,stop with trying to control it,or it will really set you back in recovery,Tabitha Farrar videos are great for that!

[@joycooper4023]

R5 Zoeira BR That is not the best way for everyone. Some of us need a meal plan or structure until our body signals are fully restored and we can trust them.

[@SuperwolfIntroMaker]

Joy Cooper Yes exactly. I was given a meal plan by my nurse because i need it. Once i am weight restored i’ll try intuitive eating ❤️

[@aonion8742]

I feel like we as viewers sometimes forget that KZbinrs are humans who experience insecurity as well. Thank you for not hiding your vulnerabilities and for sharing the wisdom that you have gained from them, Stephanie.

[@LL-wu5ui]

Yes because they all preach self confidence and self love... you kinda start believing them and forget they are actually lying.

[@lunav.1428]

I'm so thankful for her videos. Her transformation made me way more confident. I'm a kickboxer and I work out almost everyday. I still don't have a sixpack and I felt so bad. Because I didn't have that perfect fysical looks. But then she said you don't have to look like a fit model to be strong and beautiful you just have to be you. And I am so thankful for you Stephanie really you are amazing ❤️❤️❤️

[@ginag8723]

If a doctor notices extreme weight change they should bring it up. It can be a sign of a major problem, and it's their job to address it.

[@ImNotCallingYouALiar]

This might sound harsh to some but people need to stop being so sensitive. Doctors don’t care what you look like! When they bring up your weight or change of weight it’s not to shame you, it’s because of their concern for your health.

[@laurenrobson46]

Just out of sheer curiosity: what do you consider "extreme weight change"?

[@laurenrobson46]

When does it change from "minor weight change" to "extreme weight change"?

[@jenevarider3316]

Lauren Woggon standard is +\- 5% of your body weight per month for at least six months is considered medically extreme.

[@laurenrobson46]

@@jenevarider3316 oh wow okay this is good to know!! Thank you for informing me

[@NatureByKelsi]

Definitely having a great support system is key! It was hard for me to come to terms after gaining 70+ pounds getting to my heaviest. My jeans didn’t fit my oversized shirts were tight and I was sad. My family and boyfriend pushed me through this, now I’ve lost 54 of those pounds and I’m so much happier! Just make sure you are happy🥰🥰 thanks for this video, I know a lot of people need it💓💓

[@3bonyhehe]

Awesome!

[@Iam.AminB_]

You have no idea how much this helped me. It almost brought me to tears honestly. I recently gained weight after transitioning back to eating meat. I’m taking all of these to heart and probably will revisit the video again.

[@nocassing9946]

my recovery journey started in the same time as your all in journey. you have been such an inspiration, and truly make me love myself, above all physical changes. I’m so grateful and proud of you for doing this and for looking after yourself and your health. Thank you so much for all the advice and for sharing every high and low.

[@SuperCandyman76]

I have been severely bulimic for years. This video made me bawl my eyes out. I think this is the first time in my life that I am making a decision to change my way of life. I am so glad I found on KZbin. I am going to treatment in less than a month. I putting my faith in god and your videos. We’re the same height and I am the your starting weight. I am so nervous about gaining weight, but I want my life back. The amount of time and money thinking of weight and food is overwhelming. Thanks for being here right when I needed it. Much love.

[@yogitogi8639]

I’m currently bulking right now. I suffered with anorexia in high school and still suffer from body dysmorphia to this day. It’s hard, I know what I’m doing is a temporary process and it makes me happy feeling stronger, but I was always known as the “skinny girl” or the girl who could eat and not gain a pound- I guess it also comes down to identity- and letting go of the person you once were. Like seasons we are constantly changing- but I’m really happy you uploaded this- there are very few videos that cover this in the fitness industry and I’m really thankful 💖

[@sandrakarmann6040]

Wow i can definitely relate to your comment. I'm suffering from my anorexia and still emotional eating, binge eating, thinking way too much about food and my body. I'm trying to be nicer to myself, I've lost so much time because of all these struggles...

[@yogitogi8639]

Sandra Karmann I’m really glad you realized your eating disorder- it’s a long journey but acceptance is the first big step, you got this 💜

[@Firmly_grasp_it]

Thank you for being you! It took so much courage to do what you did... KZbin and the fitness community needs more people like you! You have changed lives...never let anyone’s opinion of you, stop you from being you..!!

[@madeliefhelmhout1596]

A while ago I was scrolling through my saved pictures on Instagram and came across one of your older posts where you were verrrrry lean. It brought me back to a time in my life where I was beating myself up for not being as lean as you were at the time. Hearing you talk about your weight gain and you being completely okay with it despite the setbacks made me forgive myself for not being as lean. It made me realize that I am me and that's so much more valid than wanting to look like someone else. Thank you for sharing your story. You without a doubt have inspired me and many more viewers. Enjoy the rest of tour journey

[@jeanninesimone705]

I’m really in love with the message of this video. Like, it’s the first time I really realize how much the “why” of a personal journey matters and to what extent it can influence you on such a positive level. Thank you so much for all the videos about your journey.

[@MyMusicChannel88]

It’s incredible how much you care about others by documenting everything. How brave, kind and compassionate both you and Jeff are. The way you guys approach things it has a lot of importance in how this impacts other people going through similar situations.

[@popio753]

Dealing with ED for a lot of my life. Seeing you immerse yourself in this all in process has helped me significant. Going from underweight to overweight to slowly and “safely” going down to a “normal” “healthy” bodyweight has been a journey but I’m glad so many of us aren’t alone. Even saving that I had an ED took yeeeeears...I could never say it out loud. Glad we are all thriving 🥰

[@ArmednotTriggered]

I'm honestly struggling with this. I'm currently fit and I've put on lean muscle mass after a rigorous exercise routine. I'm happy with where I am, but I'm afraid of losing it...And yet, I know that I will at some point. So I'm trying to work on that. It doesn't help that I have a few people in my life who make comments about how skinny I am constantly (because of their own insecurities) and I know that if/when I do gain weight, they will revel in it. I know I need to reevaluate things. Thank you for this video. You look beautiful and do seem happier.

[@yolamoondaughter4660]

You keep wondering why you're nervous still every time you upload a video. Honestly it's really no wonder, you keep posting vulnerable thoughts and aspects in your life. Keep in mind that alone is something you can be so proud of (apart from the great content in general of course) !!

[@marina-wv9hq]

I was anorexic and I recovered an with that I gained weight... this is so an inspiration!! Its really hard to keep eating. I'm really young and I lost my period. Whit my weight my feelings came back. The bad and the good. I really needed that video. Thx

[@donutiagacha8048]

I don’t know why but I cried during this, maybe because I’m so obsessed achieving a small waist and get rid of my jiggly legs/thighs.. I feel like sometime in the future I will relate to this, I’m just glad there’s people like her that explain throughout their journey how they feel and to help others, I appreciate this video 💞

[@EleanorJosefina]

*Me:* I’m really bored wish I had somethi *Stephanie:* Uploads another video *Me:* Thank the lord

[@StephanieButtermore]

Eleanor Josefina 😭😭😭😭😭love you!!!

[@leya3333]

Literally what I just did

[@everythingreny]

OMG that is so true!

[@oppermanfitness]

Eleanor Josefina facts!!

[@Zetany1000]

Watching this has made me realise I still body check. I’ve come from a disordered past 5 years ago and I rarely think of some poses and things I do in the mirror as ‘checking’ because I don’t really judge what I see, I guess I’m just curious. But it’s definitely still not healthy. ‘I got dressed like a normal person’ resonated with me because I don’t think I’ve ever seen my boyfriend or close friends do anything remotely similar 😂 going to make an active effort to stop and also you might’ve convinced me to start journaling 🤓 I’ve been thinking about it for a while now, but I’m going to take the plunge going into my final university exams. Amazing video, I’m SO glad you’re feeling so much better and I have loved watching your journey 🥰

[@marieeeee2135]

I feel the same way. I do it unconsciously, like for example I weigh myself often, but I don't realise that. It is kind of strange how we work😂

[@ariellemerkher4424]

This was really what I needed to hear today. I am a recovering anorexic and unfortunately dealing with severe GI issues which is causing my weight to shoot up. It is really hard to love my body, especially because it seems as if my body is giving up on me. Thank you for such a positive message

[@rhiannalonergan]

I’ve loved watching your all-in journey Stephanie! I changed jobs a few years ago from bar-work to healthcare, and gained weight since then. I bumped into customers I used to serve on a daily basis who commented on my weight and said that I gained a lot, which hurt and annoyed me at the time. I am losing it again now, and while I’m not at my start weight I feel happy with my body and my partner says he prefers me how I am now (much like Jeff) which is always good to hear! Thankyou Steph!

[@ItsAlyBrown]

Stephanie, you are a role model to me. As someone who went through an eating disorder and kept binge eating, hearing your story and watching your journey has really helped me. I do not believe one can ever overcome an ED, however, I do believe that we can convince ourselves to believe that everything will be okay and that we are not alone. Thank you for sharing Stephanie! Much love.

[@kayanatorx3]

I just had a binge episode last night and currently feel disgusting and in need of some emotional support. I always go back to your videos for the reminder that weight and food are not the enemy. thank you as always for being vulnerable and helping us all

[@incogneeto194]

I'm struggling to accept myself for who I am. When I was thin I thought j was fat, after gaining weight back I felt uncomfortable with myself and worried others judged me. Seeing your journey gave me hope that I one day can love myself too. Seeing my scale gives me anxiety and I'm trying to overcome it 😭

[@brookeb1753]

I lost 150 pounds and let me tell you, I NEEDED this video too! Psychologically it is a CONSTANT battle with my mind, mirrors, comparing, body checking, and fear. It’s hard, but even before and during this all-in journey you’ve made me feel comfort and love all the way, even if I don’t know you Steph. I’ll always love and look up to you immensely. Thank you for all that you do! 💜💜

[@samanthaallen7399]

So brave of her to do this in the first place, let alone share it with the world! Hopefully she inspires more women to trust their bodies and realize they are so much more than their appearance!

[@eshwarinaidu9262]

I really needed this. I mean love yourself, don't care what others say, do what Ur heart says is all easy to say but very hard to do. I am currently 190 lbs and as a teenager I really tried hard to lose weight to "fit in" to clothes and to look structured but I didn't not succeed. One thing I want to tell u that I learnt from you is the fact that I should stop giving looks so much importance and lose weight to become healthier and less obese

[@annasmith3109]

This hit home! I've had to gain weight recently as I've continued to fight my eating disorder. It's soooo hard. I've been around this one weight for so long, I feel like people expect that that is my body. So gaining weight, and getting to what is my real weight, has been tough. Especially with the colleagues and other people you talked about. I feel like I'm more self conscious about their opinions, because they don't know why I'm getting a little fluffier.

[@gregallen6100]

Having good support is key. I think satisfaction comes from seeing yourself and being happy with what you see.

[@tarjasavolainen8897]

I honestly love you and your videos so much! I've struggled with anorexia for too many years now and in the past year I've tried to recover and I have gained a lot of weight and especially recently it has been bothering me but watching your videos has made me realize that it's okay to gain weight and I'm much healthier now than I was a year ago. Thank you so much for everything!

[@annaluiza4559]

Baby you have never looked this good, this healthy and this happy before, wishing you the best on your journey ❤️

[@katestedelbauer3564]

Thank you Stephanie. I went through some weight gain in the last year due to a few different circumstances and it's been difficult. But watching your all in journey and how you've learned to accept and love yourself at every stage has been very encouraging to me! You are so real and have become one of my favorite KZbinrs :)

[@crispytomato6373]

Thank you so much for being one of the only fitness youtubers that talks about their problems with food. I’m so proud of you for not giving up. ❤️😁

[@llccreative]

I gained weight over the winter. However, I started going to the gym last month and I feel SO much better. Im down 13 pounds. My significant other loves my thighs but i just want to lose them. Stephanie you are right about "keeping close people close" because they are truly in your life to support you. Nice video!

[@supaguh]

It’s so fitting that you posted this especially after international women’s day. Definitely felt you in that goodbye at the end! Thank you for all your courage and passion!

[@Dreadnaught89]

"give me the 'illusion ' that I have shape" Lmao girl there's no illusion, you DEF have shape.

[@lolalukie713]

your body looks so good now because it looks "at home" now. I don't know if that makes sense at all but it does to me lol

[@megkathleen]

I’m currently 10-15 pounds heavier than I was when I became weight restored due to extreme hunger, and I HATE myself. I HATE the way my body looks, I hate trying on clothes to where I cry, and I hate that I’ve been so hungry but nothing sounds good to me except desserts and pasta and “empty calories.” I’m trying to work out again but I don’t have the energy. My mind is battling itself almost moreso now than it was when I was actively starving myself. It just sucks. You’re so strong 💗

[@lauraseger]

My heart goes out to you. I've been there, and I can't really explain how I've come out the other side. (Still totally messed up mentally, but not completely hating my body anymore.) I don't want to offer you empty platitudes, but please hang in there.

[@leeannpulchny4448]

Megan Kathleen you are a beautiful soul

[@stelinatsoutri6299]

You keep staying strong for yourself and this way you keep empowering us every day. Love you Stephanie!🌹

[@taylarussell4373]

There were a lot of important messages here Stephanie especially regarding people noticing and having your best interests in mind I really needed to hear that 🧡

[@esoteriquefille]

I needed this so bad! I'm currently in recovery from an eating disorder and dealing with weight gain. I've been so focused on how much I'm disliking my body these days. Thank you for reminding me to "remember your why." I'm recovering so I can live my life in freedom and joy, not in restriction and pain. Our bodies are just vessels for the journey and when we look back we will not remember how we looked but what we did, how we felt, and who loved us along the way.

[@hopeunfinished8462]

You are so inspiring! I am recovering from an eating disorder and dealing with the weight gain that comes with recovery. Thank you for sharing your journey. You are beautiful💜

[@Julia-0lszewska]

when I went to see my family they called me too skinny and that I’ve lost too much weight, I did lost 5kg in a month and people were talking about me in school and I became so insecure however I’m on a diet plan now and I’ve been gaining weight but you can’t see it, I struggle to talk to people about it as they don’t know what to say but your videos have really motivated me and helped me ❤️

[@ellenhoulahan8026]

After eating disorder recovery I’ve continued to gradually put on weight. It’s really hard to deal with because people can’t help but notice and this video really helped thank you!xx

[@teganbracewell]

You’re so beautiful and brave. You’re a role model for me and so many others. You seem so happy, even though we all have ups and downs. You’re incredible and kind. Thank you so so so much for sharing your journey with us, it helps so many people

[@TheModezior]

There is nothing more powerful than loving yourself, i gained 20LBS the last 3 years but I’m loving myself more and more, THANKS Stephanie

[@lesliegulmayo3034]

this is so refreshing to watch . having a healthy relationship with food and not restricting a food group and enjoying life. i love this 🥰 life is so short to not enjoy food

[@TheJoanstark]

I need to stop checking my physique every day, this is such a good advice! And also most of the point you made is also helping with other parts of my life - lately I had really big flareup on my face from atopic dermatitis and I was afraid to go outside even in makeup, because I thought that this is so visible and everybody will comment; I was scared to go to work with this, but after this video I am feeling better and will try not to think about anyone's opinion! You are such great inspiration, you looks gorgeous, your body is amazing and every time I am watching you - I have smile on my face :) Thank you for this positivity!

[@majaper7686]

i literally look up to you steph, thank you for being so real, you look absolutely bomb and i support the concept of you chosing your health over anything else 💗

[@riotouslove23]

Thank you so much for this video! I’ve been on my own “all-in” journey for almost five months now and have really struggled with my feelings about my new, heavier body. Your content has been so encouraging to me throughout this process and I’m looking forward to employing for of your tips and tricks for coping 🙂

[@makaylaboren445]

I’ve gained so much weight and have been so self critical, binging, etc. I really appreciate your honesty because I keep telling myself the only way to look beautiful and feel beautiful is to be where you were. I love how you’re saying embrace yourself!

[@bb.bb7]

Is anyone elses face swollen from crying so much?? Thank you thank you thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your journey. Im so happy you're happy and in a good place

[@juliastorrsfinn]

The prevalence of Instagram has led to the crazy phenomenon of women constantly taking selfies in the locker room. It really irks me.

[@veganfitmumma2364]

I admit I've done it If you look on ig These big fitness accounts get big because of putting up picture like that Which I think is wrong Seems a real fitness account goes no where I don't have many followers

[@jasminesowder1914]

I’m so glad you made this video! I particularly related to the part where you talked about your moms reaction to when you started gaining. I have a really hard time talking to my mom about body image and my weight gain with her because she has a really old fashioned view of weight and she’s almost obsessive about monitoring her own weight. I’ve just had to work around it and kind of avoid the subject with her to the point that I refuse to tell her how much I weigh because I know it’s a subject that we won’t ever see eye to eye on.

[@francescanardone4689]

I kinda have to accept it since i live in Milan and can' t leave my house for a Month because of the Corona Virus...ill try to workout at home but i mean im expecting to gain weight anyway. LOVE FROM ITALY

[@danni8321]

First watched this video a couple of months ago, when I was having a hard time dealing with massive weight gain due to BED induced by anxiety and depression + not being able to workout as much as I would’ve liked during quarantine/lockdown. I used to be kinda fit and was working towards a leaner physique before my mental health collapsed so the weight gain was unbearable for me. I felt like all my work has gone down the drain and I felt utterly disgusted and ashamed of my fat and bloated body. Coming back today and realised that mentally I’m at a better place now. I’ve been more accepting towards my new physique and have realised that weight and physique shouldn’t be the things that define me. Haven’t done body checking in a while now and have started to learn to ignore unhelpful judgments from people. Hopefully I’ll eventually be able to be at peace with my own body. Thank you so much Steph for all your videos!! Your all in journey has truly been inspirational 💜💜💜

[@mdas7012]

Thank you, Steph. All your changes I too have experienced and is currently in the process of forgiving myself for being the worst critic towards yes, myself. At least somebody here in KZbin has this content to speak out about women suffering from this chronic narcissistic habit of body checking. Oh my you have no idea how relieved i am to know that I am not alone in this kind of problem. This is so helpful. I have been so fit, so strong I can lift more than college dudes could in the gym, I am very confident I had abs. But I have been through a lot when I reviewed for the Bar exams and then had so many personal and relationship issues I just immediately blew up like a balloon plus I got operated for bilateral ovarian dermoid cyst which really turned everything in my system slow. I cant lift anymore even if one year has passed, i cant jump, run fast, my metabolism got so slow and losing weight was so much harder than I have ever possibly imagined. I got to a point where I would snap at everybody who commented about how huge my weight gain is. Thank you that in this channel I can see comments that are so positive and supportive. I am also very thankful to have a boyfriend who is typically the same as Jeff here. True, stick with people who love you for who you are. I used to be 55kg and shoot up to 75kg and is now 66kg after struggling to have 30minutes exercise at least 4-5x a day and eating veggies and fruits. I used to be able to lose up to 25lbs in a month because I beat myself up just because I care so much of other people's opinion. I love you Steph. You are so beautiful and I am si proud of your progress! We are in this together! Thank you for speaking up for all of us who suffer the same. Michelle from Philippines ♥️🇵🇭🙏

[@paris.t09]

"Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind"

[@lele-ji1hh]

Thank you for this video, I needed this so bad! last month I kept on skipping meals or stop eating so I won’t gain weight and feeling guilty because I ate something “unhealthy”. I realized that this isn’t healthy and I need to fix my relationship with food and my body. I lost my period and I can’t go #2 that much and that is a problem I need to fix because again, that is not healthy. I started to eat my meals and not worry about exercising, I’ll stop exercising until I have a healthy mindset. this week and I gained a little weight and I looked at the mirror and freaked out but this video made me calm down and know that it’s okay. My family loves me and will accept me for me not how my body looks, they want a healthy, happy, normal, old me and that is also helping me eat my full meals. Wish me luck, I GOT THIS !!

[@ihatebears7445]

YOU GOT THIS! :D

[@vivianadiangelo]

I really needed a video like that. I am recovering from anorexia and malnutrition at the same time that I learn to live with my celiac disease. It is difficult to cope with the weight gained, and I still have a lot more to gain. Thank you for being a constant motivation. 💜🥰 (I don't speak English, so I apologize if there are mistakes).

[@shellyrox456]

Hope you get a chance to read this but Stephanie these videos are incredible. I used to watch you long ago when you were super lean and honestly I would strive for that too, even when I felt horrible during the process. Looking at your shredded abs then I was always like how does she do it?!!! Because I felt like I was starving even when my stomach wasn't completely flat. The fitness industry has very limited space for bigger bodies, especially for women. It is crazy because our bodies are made to store extra fat and yet all we see in celebration of "health" is very thin or underweight bodies. It is so refreshing to finally see content about this topic and see someone who has so positively embraced normal, healthy weight gain. You look SO BEAUTIFUL btw. I mean like you said- it isn't even all about that but you are stunning and the extra weight looks incredible on you. I have struggled for years with weight loss/weight gain/body dysmorphia. Thank you for talking so openly about your struggles and victories, it is honestly life changing for many of us out here.

[@shellyrox456]

and I'm so glad you didn't quit KZbin, you don't really see it until people say it but sooo many girls needed to hear this.

[@maggieensley8819]

As a 50 yo woman who is dealing with a changing body and trying to cope with an ED my whole life I very much appreciate you! Whats more important though is the message you are sending to young women who are under an enormous about of pressure to be thin. Women struggle with self love chronically and we need to support one another. Thank you❤️