How to Deal With Workplace Bullying |

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@lrockbr Жыл бұрын

You are helping hundreds of people get through the day. I hope you know just how valuable your words are. Because of your vids, I have felt less isolated, part of a community, and most importantly, hopeful for a brighter future. Blessings~!

@maritzatorres8332 3 ай бұрын

Claire is an Angel on earth ❤ she speaks the truth of this sick society we angels are mixed here with Satan adorers!

@AlexSanchez-cs9fq Жыл бұрын

dont go to hr they dont care i bypass my managers and go to the director or my company works for me but every workplace is different love you work claire there has do be more light shed on workplace bullying

@clairehuntonline Жыл бұрын

Yes, I've spoken at length about how evil HR is. Thank you for your kind words.

@lrockbr Жыл бұрын

HR is the worst! They will take the opportunity to feast on you! Thanksgiving all over again LOL

@maynardbecker4613 Жыл бұрын

Claire. What do you think of the work of Byron Katie?

@thepragmatist 6 ай бұрын

I relate to what you are saying about boundaries. When I assert them quietly and confidently, a contingent of people become extremely angry. I've become used to being the villain. Also, I really dislike the gaslighting statement, "You attract what you put out." While I do believe in being realistically optimistic, I find statements like this to be false platitudes.

@clairehuntonline 6 ай бұрын

Workplace bullying really is one big boundary violation. They have to violate your boundaries in order to extract supply. No matter how nice and professional you try to be, insecure people will always react negatively to boundaries. Healthy people accept boundaries with humility and grace. I have a video on that, too. Toxic positivity is a huge part of the gaslighting of targets of workplace bullying. No, your mind is not magically creating all these toxic people around you. You are not that powerful. Some of the worst bullying actually happens when you are at your best. You attract soul-destroyers who are hellbent on putting out your light.

@thepragmatist 6 ай бұрын

@@clairehuntonline I love this response and I completely agree with you. I would also add that workplace bullies (and people who are trying to siphon your energy) will always do things under the radar so if you react, you will be the one who seems crazy. I believe the term for this is "reactive abuse". It really is a high level of challenge to address this because if you don't do so appropriately (usually by not giving energy in any way to the situation, but this is not always the solution), you are going to be the one who looks unprofessional and crazy. Thanks for all your hard work on your channel.

@thepragmatist 6 ай бұрын

@@clairehuntonline PS - Completely agree with you that healthy people respond to boundaries with humility and grace. That's a great way of putting it.

@Gemisnotmyname 8 ай бұрын

I actually wanna create a workplace based on mainly empaths. My dream is to create a therapeut service for minority youths, and I would love to hire only empaths and create a different work enviorment

@clairehuntonline 8 ай бұрын

Wonderful! That's the best legacy of abuse. Use your experiences to do everything in your power to prevent other people from experiencing the same trauma. Turn garbage into gold. You can't know the light unless you've been in the dark.

@MzImperfectCrys 3 ай бұрын

Oh wow, we’re thinking the same. I am working towards licensure and in the future get my own practice so I can start doing this 😳🤭🫂💕

@ThisIsHumanBrain Жыл бұрын

Claire, I'm a young male in his 30's. I was told that I'd meet my wife in a few years... If I don't and you are still single by then, pls consider my application 😊 Because if you could see the way I see you, you'd fall in love with yourself. Hopefully you just wouldn't become that narc then 😀 There's people like me who would put YOU on a pedestal because you have gained so much wisdom, you are intelligent and very good-looking. You could have all the gray hair in the world, no one can take that beautifully imperfect spirit away from you. People probably rarely told you that out of fear, but if I was one of your former coworkers, I'd be the one willing to quit that job with you, move to the country side, let you abuse me rather than abuse you and love you till I die. You have a lot of courage and I could listen to you talk for hours and hug you for days to try to take on some of that pain away. Not in a perverted way, but really with pure admiration, love and respect for the person that you are. Someone is coming for you, please don't give up. I'll keep you posted and if we don't end up in a relationship in this life, let's consider the next one 🙏

@clairehuntonline Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your kind words. Your comment really made me smile. I think I'm too old for you. I stopped receiving invitations because I know I would be horrible to live with. I'm always busy and never have time for other people. I hope you don't think I'm a narcissist or abusive! I'm not too interested in love at this point because I just like the idea of standing on my own two feet and learning how to meet all of my own emotional needs. If you want love in this life, I'm sure it is there for you. You deserve it.

@thepragmatist 6 ай бұрын

"Duvet dive day sleeping off the pain..." Love this!

@MzImperfectCrys 3 ай бұрын

6:55-7:17 7:58-8:05 9:52-10:03 14:20-15:27 💜15:40-16:30❤ These messages are so heartfelt and I’ve come to that realization. I stopped fighting back like I use to because the resistance I get is so strong and it’s only for a moment of joy.

@thepragmatist 6 ай бұрын

Your sarcastic humor is the best!

@lovelydoll1477 Жыл бұрын

Excellent work as always Claire. I started getting gray hairs at 26. I think the late 20s early 30s for women can be rough, just grounding yourself and finding who you are. Plus societal pressure can be tough. I’m a “late bloomer” in life but I realize I’m not behind, I’m just on MY timeline. The IDEA of marriage sounds good but I’m still unsure. As for workplace bullying, I haven’t been badly bullied in three years. Starting this new job was great and everyone is great virtually. This idea of grinding , savage and being a beast with no sleep is so annoying and toxic, that’s why people are dropping dead at 35 due to heart issues. I’m glad I have a proud father who is not pressuring me and tells me to live on my terms. He accepts that I his daughter is an adult with my own thoughts and opinions. I spoke with my dad if he was ever bullied at work and he said everyday. He worked for 58 years. Started off as a paper boy in the 60s. He said he hated his job and field but he did it because he had to take care of his family. It sucks because the bullies know you can’t quit when you have a family to feed. It’s torture. And yes it is like a daycare with toddlers. The thing is little children in day care can’t hurt you per say like an adult can because their brains are no where near fully developed. There are outliers in kids , but i will continue to believe children are pure and innocent until they get corrupted by the sick and twisted adults in their life. Adults are the most DISGUSTING and judgmental creatures in the world. And I’m sorry for your cats. Speaking of cats, incels and pick mes love to call us single women cat ladies. But the thing is cats and dogs will show more unconditional love and care than any of those idiots could ever show.

@clairehuntonline Жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching, and thank you for your words of encouragement. I'm happy you have such a loving and supportive father. I'm not surprised he was bullied: workplace bullying has always existed, and I have a video about that coming out later. I have five planets retrograde in my chart, so I'm definitely a late bloomer, too. Yes, I was joking that I am the world's worst liberal: an overeducated and morally superior elitist with a cat who never married or had children. I noticed that conservative gasbags are always whingeing about "women with cats." What is their problem with cats? If you don't like cats, you are not a good human.

@je4nette 5 ай бұрын

@@clairehuntonline gasbags don't like cats because cats are good at showing their boundaries. Dogs are sadly often still loyal when abused. They hate women with cats because they can't stand the thought of a lady living in peace without a man.

@melliecrann-gaoth4789 Жыл бұрын

It does help, I’m really, really sorry to hear how allergies given to you came in the way- it’s so much more difficult with those sort of allergies than most people realise. Compassion to you in your loss if your cat, it is a bereavement.

@paddywackyakkaydaddy Жыл бұрын

Thanks!

@clairehuntonline Жыл бұрын

Thank you!!

@thepragmatist 6 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry to hear that you had to re-home your cat 😞

@QGBFH 5 ай бұрын

Stop reading my mind! LOL! 😂 Best story time ever!

@thepragmatist 6 ай бұрын

This is extremely insightful and accurate. Thank you.

@michellescalia2142 6 ай бұрын

Powerful and brave. Great advice too. I’ve instinctively done some of what you suggested during my life struggles. My inner drive for survival…? Thank you so much Claire!

@RPMentorTokyoChannel 4 ай бұрын

One thing I'm curious about is the objective percentage of these people in the world. Commonly I'll hear people say that narcissists are a small percentage of the population. While this may be true, this doesn't acknowledge the fact that most will never be diagnosed. I'm more curious about the percentage of paychopathic, narcissistic, and sadistic people in the world. It's gotten to the point that people have completely dropped out of forming relationships completely to preserve themselves.

@clairehuntonline 4 ай бұрын

I think Dr. Ramani estimated it to be about a quarter of the population. Many people - myself included - have given up on romantic relationships. However, unless you're independently wealthy, you can't just not work. I'm not sure which is worse: marriage or the workplace.

@fayhava3908 Жыл бұрын

Love your videos Claire. Are you reading from a book at all or is this your content. I notice some of your experiences seem to have involved men but my experience of workplace bullying is women to women….they can be so evil and malignant covert narcissists: I’d rather they be argumentative but they’re cunning the way they set you up to fail, create chaos and have all sorts of flying monkeys working for them to isolate the target

@clairehuntonline Жыл бұрын

Thank you. In this video I'm reading from something I wrote for Facebook to commemorate one full year of underemployment after being bullied out of my last full-time job. I've been bullied more by women than by men by a ratio of about two to one, but that is just a recreation of the dynamics in my childhood family of origin, as well as the fact that I typically work in verbal professions (teaching and writing), which are dominated by women. Yes, workplace bullying disproportionately affects women and people of color like everything else. But about half of the people who contact me are men, and I think it's important not to be exclusionary of male victims. I try to avoid genderizing the issue. Workplace bullying truly does not discriminate.

@accidentsafe 5 ай бұрын

EEEK, I have Pluto on my ascendant, 1st house. It's tough. 28 degree Libra rising, 29 degree Libra Pluto. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. People just HATE you and want to suck the energy out of you--your resources, your body, your soul.

@clairehuntonline 5 ай бұрын

Pluto is your power, and people can sense it the minute you enter a room. It's actually fear. People are afraid of you. If you are afraid of something, you either run away or try to neutralize it. They're trying to put down a threat. If people are trying to take your power away from you, it could be that you haven't owned it yet.