How to *finally* be DISCIPLINED (without destroying yourself!)

[@kristenholmes2222]

I love the idea of using devotion instead of discipline. I have recently realized that my laziness is actually avoiding/prolonging a task because of my need for perfection. I have had to learn that done is better than perfection. And my art can grow, it doesn't have to be perfect from the get go.

[@meganambrosy6652]

I love this comment and couldn’t agree with you more! I also find that I put things off because I’m “not ready” or I fear not doing something perfect but just getting started is so much better than not starting at all.

[@Rosonicole]

Same! Feels empowering

[@AnnaBananaRepublic]

The Flylady is someone I follow and I love the idea she had to fight her artistic perfectionism: she intentionally reversed a piece of glass on purpose in her stained glass projects as a signature.

[@qerlee6988]

Accurate!

[@m13rmaid]

😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

[@jennyrahmeh]

My therapist always tells me not to say "I should", but instead "I want to". And it actually makes a big difference!

[@ifgenia]

‘I should’ brings guilt. Guilt brings paralysis. For me even making a checklist for the day of different chores can bring paralysing guilt of being a failure. Now I make a list with no intention of ticking all the boxes. I make some of it and I treat it as an achievement

[@RosyMischief]

Maybe it is best to say, “I will”. ‘Should’ is parent ego, ‘want’ is child ego state, ‘will’ is adult ego state…. that will be $300.

[@estefania101]

Mine too. Instead of I want she told me to say I choose

[@facesbyjoanne]

I try to say “I get to ….”

[@facesbyjoanne]

I ❤️ this! Devotion …perfect! Genius!

[@inesgoncalves5213]

"Devotion". Wow. I'm just in the first minutes of the video and I'm already loving it ❤❤❤

[@JillzGuerin]

Yay so glad!! 🥰

[@TheTamingOfTheShrew]

"The biggest mistake you can make is expecting perfection from yourself every single day. That is not discipline. That is insanity." I laughed out loud. Thank you for the reality check.

[@MargotSergentOfficial]

That one ❤

[@brendabalana1434]

This hit me very hard!!!!

[@Flower4229]

Better Help is not therapy. It’s basically like paying a friend to listen to you. I told the counselor I was having issues with marijuana and she said “I’m not going to write that down” LIKE????? Way to make me feel like shit even more. Why even say that? It was so judgy.

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

Based on everything that I’ve heard, I’m not a fan of Better Help. Nearly ALL of the health insurance plans in the US cover mental health care, so Better Help seems like an expensive option.

[@rg-zr9lx]

Sorry about that, she's crazy or mean

[@bonsyboom4531]

i believe better help is on the boycott list actually

[@EllieofAzeroth]

It helped me to have someone to talk to when i was having a really hard time but it was in fact very expensive so i stopped once i could manage my emotions on my own again. Its not ideal but its a helpful short term tool for some

[@organicrebecca2314]

If you’re on illegal drugs, your insurance might not cover your treatment.

[@emeraldpurple5797]

Take Away: You are not Lazy. Your trauma is blocking you from being disciplined !!!! OPENED MY EYESSS, THANK YOUU

[@shaybee6893]

But I know some people who are literally just LAZY too. Lol

[@biancasinclair.]

Yup.. I've been in freeze response for so long it drives me nuts

[@starrypromise]

​@@biancasinclair.It's so exhausting. I've been in it so long that when i realize I'm still there i get annoyed like really?? 😂

[@biancasinclair.]

@starrypromise I am currently reading Dr Peter Levine's books, and they are mind blowing!! I would definitely invest in "Waking The Tiger" at least. And "The Body Keeps The Score" by Bessel Van Der Kolk. All the best to you. x

[@starrypromise]

​@@biancasinclair.Thanks so much!! Same to you ♡

[@ninjal7588]

My hidden block is that I feel sad and lonely, so when I know I should clean up the kitchen right after using it, I feel like nobody is going to see it anyway because I'm single and all alone in my home. However _I_ will see it and and I really need to love myself and become the best version of myself I want to be, when I have achieved that I will find someone who is just the right match for me. Instead of staying in bad relationships where I am not appreciated, because not even I myself appreciate myself to ask for more.

[@HelloDecember525]

I will pray for you. That you may know, the most important person in any relationship (in the healthy way,) is you. Love yourself. Heal your inner child wounds, or else they can continue manifesting in your life. Journal and speak with God, how can I love myself properly? God can you fill me with your love and guide me? Can you show me what life is about, my purpose? Ask yourself, if you were a little child still, what would you say/ do towards that beautiful little child to let her know you love her (you)? Would you give her a hug, let her know you love her, ask her what she would like to do (even on your birthday as a child.) I think you need to spend some quality time with you, in peace and quiet , i recommend with like instrumental worship music playing, don’t know if you know the Lord but our identity is in Him (He will reveal things to you etc.). May the Holy Spirit interpret, in Jesus name amen. Big hugs in the spirit to you and may God fill your soul, He’s the only safe & everlasting person to fill us. Everyone else is for a season- even our parents, spouses etc they all are born and rarely die at the same time. Fill yourself w everlasting things and all these other things will fall into place, in Jesus name amen. ❤

[@aliciakayartsandcrafts]

Have you thought about doing cleaning content? There are people out there who have made content just by cleaning their home. They’ve made communities because others watch and thank them for showing them how they clean so over time you’ll build a following and it will be like you’re cleaning for tons of people to see your awesome results.

[@honestle8328]

"Discipline is the strongest form of self love. It's ignoring something you want right now for something better later on. Discipline reveals the commitment you have to your dreams especially on days where you don't to."

[@TalkForALiving]

I like when she said discipline is about showing up, not showing up everyday. Especially on those low energy days I like that idea of being kind to yourself.

[@Sophiee.2023]

So grateful I found you. Your videos have helped me a lot ❤️ sending love from Argentina

[@SanctifiedLady]

I had extreme stress as a hospice nurse during Covid, developed fibroids, ended up anemic… hard Covid twice and shingles and burnout. Anemia is a lack of oxygen to the tissues of the body, lack of oxygen to the brain, brain fog, dark circles around the eyes, depression Any effort felt like death warmed over, I couldn’t find my thoughts…. I had to stop everything, look up every condition I had and how to heal them naturally. Thank goodness I didn’t have health insurance because I was no longer working. Took so long to get to today… I can do 20 mins on the treadmill more easily but I’m still exhausted When before Covid I could burn 1200 calories in the gym in 2hrs five days a week This can truly mess with your mind…until you get to the root cause of what’s happening inside you body and realize STRESS is a real killer ❤

[@southerncreationskitchen3392]

Not far into the video but why did the sentence "you can start loving her before she even exists" bring a tear to my eye?

[@veritehunter2191]

This came at the exact right time. I'm delving more into being the "hero" child which had left me to this crippling perfectionism. I have suffered from both the fear of failure and success, because I feel a huge need to control everything. I am literally sitting at my desk breathing into fear for 5 mins before I post things. This reviring doesn't happen over night and I'm learning to be gentle with myself in the process.

[@HelloDecember525]

I highly recommend pastor Robert Clancys playlists, i sometimes would play his midnight warfare prayers playlist and they helped me go to sleep when I had a lot of emotional issues etc haunting my sleep / having a hard time going to sleep for a long period of time. Words really do matter ( I played the playlist super low,) and they gave me peace to sleep. Hope this helps, can play them in the background, while driving etc.

[@ew.3275]

Devotion>discipline fine out what the fear is over whats holding you back your not the same every (maybe make a routine for each day) its not about showing up the same, its about showing up upgrading ur standards=upgrade ur life figure out ur standards. Should Vs Must our childhood sets standards for our adult life -> which we can change change ur standards in how u show urself set rules to give urself the gift of not thinking stop negotiating structure can be a gift Cut out distractions slowly identify as that person

[@inassaddakiri2676]

honestly this is the most powerful motivational video I ever seen(and i seen a looot). thnak you❤

[@saracarlson-kringle]

I love 'devoted'! Another way I've looked at discipline is from the place of 'setting the stage'. At work I was the first there, so I 'set the stage' by turning on all the lights, loading the bakery case, putting money in the registers, turning on the music, getting the coffee brewing, pulling any spent flowers out of the vases and refreshing them, wiping everything down, etc. If someone came in early and let people in before we were officially open, and I wasn't done with all that, I spent the whole day 'catching up' which I hated.

[@jojosdjojoraiki04]

thanks for the advice jillz❤

[@girlt229]

I was hooked as soon as I heard to reframe discipline to devotion. Feels and lives differently in the body. Love this!♥️🙏🏽🙏🏽♥️

[@itsceza]

discipline sounds very masculine energy when devotion sounds more feminine energy haha

[@dee00011]

Procrastination and laziness is such a major struggle for me these days… the state of my room is disgusting.. I don’t think I’m burnt out but I can’t figure out why this has been happening

[@shaybee6893]

Are you depressed?

[@hannahjohnson2898]

What is your screen time like?

[@danac2899]

I used to be like that.I have improved just by doing 1 min clean then 5 min clean after a few days. My goal now is to clean 15 min x 2/day. Small 1min tasks and small steps do have a huge effect. Also I have the rule to put everything back imediately. But like she said in the video, the root cause is psihological/emotional. Think what is causing you distress or sadness? What don't you enjoy in your life? For me it is my relationship with my boss and friends moving away. Wish you best if luck!

[@snowworld1641]

​@@danac2899yes. You are right about the emotional root cause. I cannot figure out mine.

[@melissaleeo]

I bursted into tears when you said the trauma experienced in childhood could make you want to feel small, so you don't get hurt. This is me. This was a fantastic video, thank you.

[@riverhearts]

"maybe if i can just keep us small and still, we won't get hurt" wow... thank you

[@theclassyconsultant.]

Ever since I upgraded my standards, I've been showing up for myself every day and I also started repelling negative people.

[@solisequious]

The concept of devotion over discipline is really unique and it actually gives a lighter feeling about being a better version of yourself, I’ll try it out let you know😊

[@liveandlearnthelife1637]

This video is just everything I have been contemplating my whole life.... 1. Root cause of procrastination, laziness - perfectionism, fear of failure etc. solution - Just show up, that's all what matters 2. Feeling low, mood swings and other PMS signs as a part and parcel of menstrual cycle, which is normal phenomena. Don't be harsh on yourself for what your body goes through. 3. Reframing discipline as devotion. And finally changing your identity and start showing up according to that identify. This is such a chef's kiss video. TYSM for this video❤

[@cherryhazard8002]

The reason a lot of us are lazy or insecure in ourselves is because we didn't hear what you said at the beginning enough, "I'm gonna help you change that".

[@sharanyasatheesh5388]

Jillz you should totally start you own podcast You are so informative Also thanks for the amazing video btw :)

[@elitefemenina]

Why start a podcast when KZbin offers the same thing and more money? 😂

[@brendabalana1434]

@@elitefemeninaTo expand… She can make this easily as a podcast ep.

[@sharanyasatheesh5388]

@@elitefemenina well I prefer listening to information than watching and i really feel that she would make a good podcaster

[@Keep_smiling12]

You got my subscription bro! ..... it wasss soooooo helpfull

[@irisjuria5876]

I love how your dog is always on your background videos❤

[@sarahkirkham]

Yes, he/she is recovering from burn out 🤔😊❤️

[@Natasha-bf6yk]

this is insanely good advice. i watch a lot of self help content and i really struggle with avoidance and doing the hard things and you brought up so many good points and perspectives i haven't heard before. Thank you so much!

[@PerryAnnHancock]

this video was even hard for me to click because I knew it would hit home, but I love your videos SO much and I am glad I watched because it was sooooo true. You are seriously so amazing at what you do and this is such "big sister" advice. Love you Jillz! Thank you for this video

[@noushintaghipour7626]

I almost watched all your videos and I wanna say I really love your PERSONALITY jillz. you really have very good vibes. also I wanna thank you for all your efforts, videos are great💌

[@thecatspajamas1442]

I just discovered your channel last week. I was looking for some videos like this as I am currently in a situation that is taking its toll on me and though I started out with the best of intentions… things have a way of not working out like we planned… 🙃 So, I needed motivation and a fresh outlook! You delivered! I really like the way you put things! I feel like you are here to personally motivate ME. Keep it up Jillz!

[@JillzGuerin]

Glad it was helpful!💕💕

[@fitwithbrittany2706]

Yikes!!! I recently had this realization that some of my biggest issues are from laziness! I’m proud of you for using the word!

[@vl8119]

This video had a valuable message. I truly love how devotion to myself sounds. I feel it adds value, selflove and self respect to the whole self discipline experience rather than feeling like a punishment. Thank you

[@brittanystarr1022]

I LOVE that you mentioned the difference between Should vs MUST because it reminded me of one of the best books I've ever read, "The Crossroads of Should And Must, Find And Follow You Passion" by Elle Luna. Highly recommend! I've been watching your videos all morning, so motivating and I found them at the perfect time in my life, going through a reinvention! Thank you!

[@nehalele08]

At last! I had asked this question probably more than a year ago.. as to how to achieve your fitness goals, stay disciplined and not lose your feminine energy. I can say that i managed to do it quite well on my own.. however clicked immediately when i saw! Thanks!

[@kemsturm606]

Listening to you always makes me feel better and more balanced. Thank you for sharing.

[@movida.lifestyle]

It's very difficult to stick to a specific plan every day.

[@SunlitSisterhood]

I’m honestly so glad I grew up in poverty because it set me up to expect less. She talks about it like it’s a negative thing, but it teaches you so many beneficial skills. Minimalism and deeply understanding needs vs wants was the first one. Then comes learning how to entertain yourself and others on a budget. Lastly I’ve learned how to repair so many things rather than wasting and replacing. Low-waste lifestyle has become such an amazing part of my life thanks to a poor childhood. Now I can budget and travel often because I spend less!

[@MichaelaDeMartino]

Only thing I want to say is “Thank you so much!”❤

[@AbsolutelyThreadful]

I'm going to need you to give us a hair tutorial. Your hair is phenomenal in literally every video.

[@sarahthedreamer]

Doing it for God is helpful too because I know He would want me to do good things for me 💖

[@enfisya]

love the tip with the standard. it’s *my* wish and motive to have a standard, not someone else’s and trying to get there. thank you! 💫

[@k.6160]

500,000 subscribers !! congratulations 👏🎉,!

[@IluwJapan]

Can you make a video on your journey with autoimmune disease? I'm going through it too, would love to hear your story

[@SandyVee0]

Replacing the word discipline with devotion. First time I hear this tip and it’s the BEST one yet.

[@Miyankochan]

I promised myself to meditate every single morning and I'm doing Dr Joe Dispenza's meditation so it's pretty long, like 50mins/day. I skipped a few times in the last half a year and I always beat myself up for it. Cause there are people who "never miss a day" and I just feel like I'm not commited enough? But if you miss 5 times out of 100 let's say, does that mean you are not committed enough? I realized that all my life I was a perfectionist, the good girl who ran herself into the ground multiple times. By the age of 30 I burned myself out at work and there is just a part of me that rebels against perfection. It's like this sabotaging part of me was saying: 'I'm not gonna do 100% from now on, I'm only gonna do 95%" and another part of me judges it as "not good enough". So, discipline is a very tricky subject. I love the idea of reframing it as devotion to yourself. I'm currently reprogramming my mind to believe that 95% IS in fact good enough. That I CAN get the prize even if I miss a few days. It's perfectly enough and not being perfect won't stop my progress.

[@merladyneptune3908]

Love this, Thank you ❤

[@abbygriffith2354]

Wow, I really resonated with this video. I’m currently going through a weight loss journey to reduce my cholesterol and my chances of becoming pre diabetic. People are continuing to tell me over and over again that I’m being too hard on myself and continue to place their advice. I continued to push off working on my diet for years because I didn’t want to do the “wrong things” or didn’t know where to start. I’m realizing that I was procrastinating it bc I didn’t want to fail. Now I’m losing weight and being devoted to my self and diet. The clean environment and reducing distractions are my main roadblocks to making progress.

[@JessicaMillerNashville]

I love all of your advice but I'm so happy you are bringing awareness to the female menstrual cycle and how we are not the same person all month long, so so true!!!

[@LikeTheVik]

Jills Ily you literally changed my life with your videos no cap

[@NiaK24]

3 minutes in and I already know this is the final thing I needed to hear to change my attitude and life. You're doing great with these videos🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿learning so much. Thank you Jillz

[@Mergirl99]

I am currently trying to change my life and specifically my identity and your videos are helping me a lot! And in regards to this one I really loved how you replaced discipline with devotion, genius! Thank you very much Jillz! 💜

[@andreadybvik]

I love the reframing from discipline to devotional! Thank you for that! 💛

[@mphoramathoka5243]

I came across your content yesterday and I must say it resonate with me on a soul level. I love you and look forward to learn more from you 🙏❤️

[@sushmasangwan5214]

I have probably never commented on any vdo but this ........ I'm listening to this vdo on a daily basis and every single word u said is just 🔥. I became more disciplined/ devoted and graceful in my daily life. Thank you May God bless u❤❤❤❤❤

[@Hadjer1916]

You're great 😭 thank you💜

[@JillzGuerin]

❤️

[@poojabahl6217]

hii jiilz !!! extremely grateful for finding your video .

[@theyl0v3ash]

This is the first video I've seen from your channel, and the first video I've seen about being "devoted" that made it much more easier for me to understand what my problem is and how to solve it. I appreciate your work❤

[@lurobu]

The reframing of devotion over discipline is really resonating right now! Continuously showing up in a way that comes from a place of love rather than fear ❤

[@user-yd4yr5hr3s]

You are my absolute prayers answered exactly what I needed you are so amazing in every way I am bin watching your videos and just so thankful for the beautiful soulful blessing that you are such an inspiration like no other sending my love light and good thoughts always ❤️✨

[@Impoweredbyfire]

hi girls, if you live in germany and would like to get to know other likeminded girls let me know! :)

[@Noychooz]

good stuff. you are truly a queen.

[@saramcinerneyhauck]

I was so motivated before cancer and now I feel “lazy and not disciplined” but yet my body has been THRU IT so I loved when you said “your body may be protecting you and keeping you small” because of what I’ve been thru. Remaining my mindset one video at a time. Thank you ❤

[@Anya18]

It is a real art of not being hard on yourself and still be efficient which you have to learn nowadays ! 😄 Thank you for teaching us that ❤

[@Sylvia495862]

Hi Jillz! I love your videos, You really help me with a lot of hard stuff in life. Im so grateful! Thank You so much!!! 💜💜💜

[@JillzGuerin]

Ah you are so welcome!! ❤️

[@MargotSergentOfficial]

Absolument brilliant, and exactly what I needed! Trying to keep the right balance between drive and self-love, and those tools seems spot on!

[@Floglo]

Great video, thanks :) Lmao it's funny cuz I like the idea of discipline more vs devotion sounds like lil more crazy obsessive or emotional haha maybe it's trauma related thing, so funny how we see things, but I guess it's whatever works for you

[@merryOproductions]

Wow, so many amazing and helpful tips! Thank you, Jillz! 🙏 just set my phone to grey scale. 😁👍

[@joeblobyisme3708]

13:13 I like this girl in another state. You’re talking about shoulds versus must, in standards. My standards are I must be financially stable before relationships. Even if I drove to see her. My car could break down any moment. So buying a new car and having money for dates and potentially new clothes for dating is important for me. 17:00 you mention foods you avoided for your autoimmune disease by setting rules. I totally agree with you. I want to eat better but I don’t have the money to stay consistent. We have to set rules to live by.

[@jennifermartinez6780]

I just found you and I LOVE you! The way you lay things out are very digestible! Thank you!

[@GigiNKD]

Great timeless interview. Very excited to see It Ends with Us in theaters. Colleen Hoover is such an inspiration. Thank you!

[@shenz1843]

Wow this video is amazing. The word "Devotion" itself made me relaxed from the bottom of my heart❤️. Thankyou Jillz. You are so amazinggg❤️

[@elinbirgis]

Discipline means punishment in childcare vocabulary doesn’t it? I love changing it to Devoted❤

[@Sky-Child]

Love the change from discipline to devotion. Lovely. On the theme of workouts, I have a five minute daily intense workout that I like to do every day of every week except period week. I then try to change to "movement" and do something gentler like pilates or walking. Really helps

[@Adriana_Ingrid]

Thank you so much! I love your video! , Parenting, devotion and just to the person who is doing things great ❤

[@odrade99]

Devotion. Good point!

[@venusrevive132]

Consistent Creative Imperfect Action -said somebody out there.

[@shrooqrise7275]

just thank you deeply for sharing this knowledge that lit my soul

[@АльфияИсмагилова-ь6ю]

❤

[@Mary-fk6jo]

You deserve millions of subscribers, your videos make me feel lighter

[@chloeburke1225]

I would love to see a video where you describe or elaborate on the term you used about leaning into ‘real rest’ before being able to come back to being motivated and productive again.

[@maddmktsolutions]

Oh My Goodness! I loved this whole video. You make so much sense!

[@toniqh]

I love that you reframed discipline in a way that feels more feminine. ❤

[@Ceejay-yo1vi]

Thank you so much

[@agent23476]

Love u... a girl from fenice,Venice(ITALY)

[@tatsianapiarfilyeva3162]

What kind of outoimmune disease you got? I'm managing mine with a good diet as well 😊

[@loosesnowflake]

Thank you so much, I needed this, you are one of my favourite youtubers, so grateful for finding your channel. Best luck and wishing all the happiness to you this year!

[@SNTanon]

Jillz, this reframe is brilliant! Thank you!!!

[@valerienicole6796]

you've helped me so much. I love how all of your approaches are nurturing and loving. thank you!

[@Shadeydey]

32 weeks pregnant, I am totally embracing my lazy girl era rn 😂😂😂

[@JillzGuerin]

As you should 🙌

[@ashieash46]

I love this!!! Devotion > Discipline

[@amynewton8964]

This was extremely helpful. Thank you ❤

[@DiaryofEndeavorita]

The standard and negotiating one is what I needed, thankyou soo muchhh

[@INGOJACK]

Great subject ma'am "discipline"

[@obsessedwithmissdior6076]

Thank you so much❤

[@Shre-o5k]

Great❤

[@carolmendes2011]

DEVOTION 😍😍😍 yes yes yes - thanks again!

[@summercrush]

Thank you✨

[@thekitchentherapy]

Love u and lottss of good wishes to u .thanks for helping lots if people out there ....u r really doing nicest of the work.keep doing it.or devoted😅