How to Find a Job (That You Care About!) | Career Advice

[@varunkapur5640]

I am not over ambitious like most people today. I just want a job that helps me pay my rent and utilities and doesn’t make me want to kill myself at the end of the day.

[@rentic9854]

Perhaps that's being truly ambitious. Being satisfied with the day to day without resorting to disproportionate dreams to justify the shit

[@deejaydee1578]

@@rentic9854 you're pretty wise. that's exactly it

[@maxresdefault8235]

I am rhymebot. Your comment has 2 rhymes.

[@who_what]

Dr. K does NOT miss. I'm generally very skeptical and critical of "self help" gurus but Dr. K's wisdom combined with his credentials have always resonated with me. It's incredible that he's putting this advice out for free.

[@Frankyroflz]

therapy should be a place to talk to an objective someone who cares to listen and not to acquire knowledge about how to deal with yourself necessarily imo, i feel like the information dr K puts out there should be knowledge thought in schools or at least spread to the public more often...

[@DarkDruid7]

You don't need to use the contraction "but" because Dr. K isn't a self-help guru.

[@gerolori]

the world has done and will do many mistakes, but one thing that for sure is a blessing is that going forward we'll get these priceless lessons for free, in many important topics such as mental health

[@alexrandall8557]

If you like his work, I'd recommend reading some general stoic philosophy. It aligns quite well

[@dahut95]

That's the wonderful thing! Dr. K can afford to give these speeches for "free" because enough people find it useful enough to support him through twitch. He can still support himself while giving his insight to people who may not be able to afford a therapist. Its quite unique that the dr/patient confidentiality barrier is tossed to the side and everyone can sit in a "therapy 101" esque class.

[@liammccarthy9388]

I've always thought that there needs to be more systems in place during education that guide you toward careers you care about at least a little bit. it's such a huge part of people's lives and you feel like it would also be beneficial to the whole of society to have people working in the careers that best suit them.

[@Ceereeal]

exactly, the education system has been in need of a reform for a while now

[@jchemnix1918]

My High School did something like that, but it was a joke. The most I got was one day out of the whole 4 years I was there. We spent an hour on this weird and confusing website to look up jobs, and that was it... I had a plan to become a Astronomer, but after further looking into it when I was in my last few months of High School, I realized how small and competitive the job market is. I then spent the last few months scrambling to think of something that seems to fit me. Thank goodness I was denied by the University I was originally gonna go to, it gave me time to really think about what job that would really fit me, and got proper support for it, as I went to community collage.

[@danporter1176]

The average person switches careers like 7 times with that mentality.

[@SwordWieldingDuck]

Consider one thing - today's possibility of choosing any career path is very luxiourous compared to people of the past - basically people were always forced into 1 profession from birth, aside from some members of aristocracy.

[@ElvenMans]

@@SwordWieldingDuck Okay, but that doesn't really help us solve our problems today.

[@TheXeeman]

I think the fact that many people that comment on these videos always saying "This could not have come at a better time" or "Omg this is so relevant to me right now", means that, No, Dr K is not a mind reader. But the people who post on the subreddit are going through problems that we each can relate to. We are all one and there is a bit of us in all of them. I think it is quite romantic

[@weareallbornmad410]

I love your final sentence! :)

[@alainerookkitsunev5605]

It's scary though how often it happens (content creators uploading something specific you need). For instance: i just booked an appointment to a career psychologist a couple of days ago and now drk uploads this... And this ain't the first time he's done it to me either :D

[@brendon1689]

@@alainerookkitsunev5605 omg yeah ike totally like the planets just aligned or something like literally omg what's your star sign

[@stashfulton]

The algorithm will understand what your interests are such as self-help and career advice and your search history will reflect that. The algorithm will send you videos you are most likely going to watch through fully like this video(i know I am part of this too), hence why this video goes to many people who need this, because the algorithm already knows our likes and dislikes.

[@melinavdw342]

😅

[@JournalingWithNadia]

This could not have come at a better time

[@queltzy8789]

checked my phone exactly after finishing my college essay and BOOM there it is

[@opolyk9231]

exactly what I thought

[@kfactor09]

I'm getting my bachelor's degree in architecture in December and this vid hit me like a truck lmfao

[@shamblestheclown]

same LMFAO i took off work today cause im sick of it

[@JP6193]

EXACTLY

[@clearskycam]

It's hard to find a meaningful career in a system that's against meaning in favor of profit. Not impossible, just extremely difficult and frustrating.

[@destroyerinazuma96]

Exactly. Ages ago, people toiled so that they could simply live, provide for each other, and maybe engage in some creative activities. There wasn't some ludicrous money=respect dogma, or chasing money for its own sake, and meaning was important since without it people couldn't handle working hard and supporting families and each other at the same time. Today (for better and worse) there's too much comfort, too little risk, too much fear of taking risks and a society that's really anti-personal development and pro-conformity. It's possible to survive and aimlessly drift through life while taking antidepressants, without believing in anything.

[@YTBalli]

Dont be such a doomer, find your passion and discover the many creative ways in which you can make it profitable. Beat the "system" by making your skill profitable and readily available to a lot of people!

[@YTBalli]

@Yor Kar THIS

[@jazaniac]

@@YTBalli making your passion profitable turns it into a chore. I loved programming right up until the point where I needed to write code for 40 hours a week or not make rent. Now I fucking hate it. Passions also change, but credentials don’t. Someone who gets an education for tech and ends up hating it a few years in won’t have the ability to just switch to a different field on a whim.

[@jazaniac]

@Yor Kar no it isn’t. I don’t feel like I’m tasting the fruits of my labor when my boss pays me less than he charges the customer for it.

[@nellothetiger8654]

I actually followed my passion and ended up leaving the path. Art, especially drawing always made me happy and excited. So I majored in the game graphic design, studied various types of th digital art. However, what I genuinely love and enjoy becoming a work caused serious issues for me because I started to be judged harshly and got forced to follow a certain market trend. The only thing that brightened up my life lost its light. I eventually couldn't finish the education even though I was literally a year away from the graduation because my depression and anxiety got extremely worse that I literally could not even leave a bed. Since then, for the last decade, I've suffered so much and lived like a loser who has no use in this world. Now I'm about to make another decision for my life, but I'm genuinely scared to follow my passion again because I remember how it worked for me last time.

[@vincentolivieri4468]

How you doing now?

[@xiaodaoputh2548]

I'm 33 and switching careers to art in 2024. I worked a dead end job for 12 years because it brings quick money. but in the end, I felt imprisoned and without purpose. Now learning how jobs work, I'd rather make a career related to what I'm passionate about. At the end of the day, in either paths, I'll end up pleasing clients to get paid, atleast I'm gonna be great with art.

[@vincentolivieri4468]

@@xiaodaoputh2548 go for it!!

[@cassidyburris3998]

In the same boat

[@Thwwwplayer]

You can make content you genuinely want and then make content you'd do for work, my friend does this and he's a Digital artist

[@Stockbrot_]

I don't even want to make a job out of my passions. I just want to find a way to make a liveable income without spending 40+ hours a week working.

[@musicat4am]

If you haven't considered it before, working in healthcare usually pays enough to live on less than full time if you don't have kids.

[@noshititskrae]

If this is a strong enough competing interest, you can make this happen. I wanted to find a career that would fit within 35 hours a week and pay a livable wage, and be white-collar-ish, so that when I told people what I do for work, I would be associated with a certain "class" idea. I was driven largely by the fact that my family is blue collar/unemployed/very poor and had a strong "competing interest" in separating myself from that. That's what drove me through school (which posed significant financial and time-constraint challenges in my life), not a passion or interest for what I was studying. I ended up working in urban planning. I'm not passionate about my job by any means, but it also doesn't make me want to die, lol. I just go to work, do my job, and come home to a paycheck that (mostly) pays my bills, and I'm generally happy to share what I do with strangers at parties. And that's good enough for me, those are all the things I really wanted. You don't have to follow a passion if passion isn't an important "competing interest" for you. If your strongest "competing interest" is to make a livable income on less than 40 hours a week, follow that. Make that your "passion". Find people who do this, hang out with them, talk to them. Like Dr.K says, what is immediately in front of you will seem way more doable than what you don't know or have never seen done.

[@praetentious2925]

This is the comment I’ve been looking for! Right on! Jobs suck I don’t want one.

[@happyarmadillofarm9026]

@@musicat4am I know a PA that works in the medical clinic at a university and only works Fall and Spring semester so basically has a teacher schedule with summers off. He plans all kinds of trips and what not but he does complain about not having his own house and being married with kids so he knows that if he's to go down that road he'd have to work all year round.

[@Wavez0]

@@noshititskrae dude how did you get even a job in that field?! I've been rejected so much after graduation.

[@rieyuki]

Sometimes you are in the right field/career but need a different job elsewhere. You can find yourself hating the career without realizing that the problem is the group of toxic group of people at work or horrible company culture or that the job isn’t particularly rewarding or interesting. The problem is the job, not the career path. It’s important to think about this issue before jumping ship.

[@DeepSeaLugia]

There are a lot of dinosaurs in ed-tech. It is by no means as bad as tech for women, but the dinosaurs are all old tech men & old education women. No innovation only old

[@ivanivan5511]

Exactly. On the other hand, you might be doing a job you don't like that much but your co-workers are nice and have a good time all together so you'll be actually happy in that job.

[@Alex-ln9on]

I agree. I worked with bullies and every day they were making fun of me and being assholes for no reason

[@Mohdzn]

so true, experienced this first hand

[@Breadful1]

Friends of mine and myself believe that work is something that you are at peace with doing consistently, with little burnout, that has some moments to be passionate about it. After observing people from most fields, this seems to be closest to a good mindset than other more idealistic models. I think a lot of humans forget to be grateful for what they already have, and forget or haven't-yet-learned that a big part of happiness is fuelled from within. The workaholic cultures do not help with the idea that you DO NOT want to put your absolute all towards work. Economies can be seen as measurements of how much humans want/appreciate specific things. Let's not forget we greatly appreciate our mental health, and let us not stand for business models that stand for anything less than.

[@praetentious2925]

All jobs suck.

[@sky_jester2559]

On top of giving away this info for free, what I respect Dr. K for so much, is how helps you think of solutions in multiple ways instead of being stuck on a pattern like thought process

[@omars365moments]

Couldn’t have said it better.

[@mofire5674]

Dr.K explains how to figure out what to do with our lives cause society has failed us all in properly educating us how to be well off human beings.

[@bobdunn7003]

We’re not supposed to sit in schools/offices all day staring at computers and phones. Can anyone prepare you for that?

[@Regulus37]

I am not convinced that I can find a job I am passionate about or love doing for the rest of my life. For my entire life thinking about what I am passionate about and see what jobs suit me, I just couldn't find anything. The thing is to me, work is work, work is not meant to be fun and you just do it to get paid. From what I understand and experience, not everyone gets to find a job they love to do because finding what you are passionate about or love doing as a career is pretty damn impossible. It is pretty damn impossible for me because 1) I don't like anything competitive so I want a job where I can get hired easily. 2) I am an introvert so I do not like to deal with customers so the list of jobs I might of like reduces drastically, so my option is so little now 3) Turning a hobby into a job just makes my hobby feels like a chore than a job I love to do. 4) I have absolutely zero passion. It all narrows down to working in a restaurant, it is okay but I am thinking I can find something better but I don't know what that is. I may not find out what that is ever.

[@Dreamz_ps5]

I can relate 100%. And I work in a restaurant too.

[@ColbyJacked]

if cooking is the part that you like about the restaurant then you could aim to be a personal chef. You would only ever have to interact with people that you would get to know and could settle on someone that you're comfortable with and that also respects your privacy while cooking

[@CASH10K]

All that may be true except for that fact that all there’s left is restaurants. You gotta understand my friend that there are nearly infinite ways to make money nowadays. I’m not saying I know of all the ways to make money, but you seriously gotta dig more in different jobs. Restaurants are pretty low paying and high stress, bad combo. There are so many more that might pay the same but you practically sit there all day and do fuck all allowing you to focus more effort into working towards something better while on the job but also off the job because you have the energy to do so

[@danporter1176]

@@ColbyJacked yeah but does he/she actually really like cooking?

[@praetentious2925]

Absolutely agree. All jobs suck.

[@omegashift4212]

I wish I could have seen this video over 5 years ago. No one puts things into perspective quite like you do. I am 33 and only got diagnosed with ADHD this year. I can honestly say your videos have changed my perspective on life and how I see myself. I finally feel like I am moving forward. Thank you.

[@cherrycarrot]

Let's be honest following a passion is a massive luxury afforded to a select few. I can be passionate about all sorts of things but there's so many factors here that are way beyond any single person's control. At the end of the day there will be always people doing the grunt work and some of us will have to cope with that for the rest of our lives

[@VioletEmerald]

"Grunt work" can be paid better with better benefits and kinder bosses and more humane expectations/ways to approach it though, in an ideal world. People shouldn't feel forced to do it for the rest of their life 40 hours a week for next to no pay.

[@tobe.moemeka]

Yeah well this video is obviously ignoring that I think he’s targeting teenagers who r looking to go to college or enter a career but don’t know what to do

[@Memoreism]

Yeah the trust fund babies that can just go to college, get 3 majors, and just live off of their parents' millions are able to just do any of the things they want. Having resources isn't an issue for them.

[@fdvboldhjbfv8791]

Or, you could do what I did. Throw yourself out there, experience the pain and suffering of NOT doing what is right for you, it then becomes a process of elimination. It may take a few career changes but you will learn about yourself along the way. As Jordan Peterson says: "think about what you could be then aim single-mindedly at that". I joined the army because I thought it was the 'noble' and 'honorable' thing to do, turned out it wasn't, it was all about my ego (wanting to look good in a uniform etc.). I noticed that I wasn't like the people I was serving with, I asked 'why?' too much. Along the way I also noticed that I enjoyed listening to people, and I was more concerned with the wellbeing of those around me then just turning my head off and adopting a "soldier mindset". After I discharged (bitter and jaded) I thought "how can I help those who may have also ended up making the same mistake I did?" I put it all together and realised I want to study clinical psych. Studying and being broke sucks, but anything is bearable when you have MEANING and PURPOSE. Now I would have never came to that decision if I had never left the nest in the first place.

[@massacre11]

Great story, good luck man.

[@LennyTheHopeless]

The problem is that realisticly, most careers nowadays require education before going in. At least all the careers I would like to try do...I can't just quit, go back to college, rack up more debt, and try a new one everytime I end up disliking a career... It just feels so unforgiving sometimes. Like you have to know what you wanna be when you grow up before you graduate or ur fucked. My dad tells me stories of him just getting random jobs by chance with no experience or education when he was young. Im envious...Or maybe it's because I was taught literally nothing about college in school idk.

[@fdvboldhjbfv8791]

@@LennyTheHopeless yep, its unforgiving and unfair indeed but this is our lot. Are you in a circumstance where you cant go back to college? (i.e. have a girlfriend/wife, mortgage, children) then I can understand. I can see you're already predicting that whatever you choose will inevitably be wrong, that's not good. Unfortunately you're only choice is to act with courage and get out there and take risks. If you keep changing careers, then keep changing careers, don't expect to get it right straight off the bat, we're not our parents generation.

[@CainSuzuko]

I know a person that joined the army and quit. He told me that he was also always asking "why?"

[@fdvboldhjbfv8791]

@@CainSuzuko yeah it really isn’t the best choice for those types of people. Using big 5 personality theory, I think it is those who are high in openness to experience combined with maybe moderate disagreeableness?

[@kazuo398]

I honestly think you don't always have to turn your passion/hobby into your job. Maybe you want to have low stress job and play d&d with your friends on the weekends just for fun

[@americachillout9386]

You don’t get it. Some people want to play d&d everyday and hate work.

[@itsmenatika]

Almost everyone hates job Especially if you're living paycheck to paycheck

[@blorg7174]

There are some very interesting points chat was making when he was talking. For example, "what happens if you are unable to afford the direction your passion takes you?" is the answer different when you are simply having a hard time pursuing your passion?

[@duck8280]

Being 23 I quit being a "successful" car salesman, and probably wont find a normal job that pays more. Over coming this has been stressful but I know there is more to life than selling cars

[@tuningsnow]

Why

[@thoughtfulluis6202]

@@tuningsnow cause ducks don't drive fam :)

[@tuningsnow]

ThoughtfulLuis true dat, mindful luis

[@Nawwwwwp]

Sales can be a soul eater.

[@duck8280]

@@Nawwwwwp ain’t that the truth, endless cycle that goes month by month

[@jletsgoo]

11:03 competing interest find smth u care abt to overcome 12:10 career good on paper *but* no competing interest to propel u enroll w a purpose, line ur career *behind* ur passion 13:20 what do u gravitate towards? 14:20 take a step back college - have idea further down the line, work back from it why did u 'lose' interest? what buried it?

[@indy2665]

This was a really nice discussion! I guess as an alternative thought process that I went through before starting college, I actually went more down the path of "what am I good at". I explored all the options available to me, weighed all the pros and cons in order to determine if this was something I can make work. I loved drawing since I was child, but while doing my AP studies found that it burnt me out quickly due to the rigorous deadlines. I love video games, but never cared too much about the technical side in depth. Lots of pros and cons to consider, but in the end I found something that worked for me and combined some of my strengths and personal interests. There's still alot more I need to explore throughout my career, but I found this way of thinking has helped me the best, personally.

[@cbandit7715]

What did you choose. Concept art video game drawer?

[@sophiafigueroa2228]

Yes I'd like to know what you chose as well :)

[@bendingbananas6540]

I feel like our inability to decide on what career to choose can also stem form the fear that our passion isnt practical for the real world, like a "therr's no way any one would be interested in that" kind of mindset. I mean, im sure most of us have had parents and grown adults tell us there's no way u could ever make a living out of playing video games or that becoming a full time artist is guaranteed to make u broke. Fairly enough, these judgements arent entirely wrong-- it u really want to succeed in these fields, u're gonna have to go all and show the world just how truly passionate you are about ur thing- but thats when we freeze and think to ourselves that we're not passionate enough and surely we're bound to fail... Its easier to stick to something easy- a job that doesnt require such passion and drive, one thats only there to keep a roof over your head. It's safe cuz its easier but that doesnt mean u will be happy by the end of the day (depending on the job itself as well as the workplace ofc)

[@Huh-exploosion]

Nice pfp

[@krox477]

The problem with that your responsibilities increase as you age once you have kids it's over

[@joppekim]

I feel like my phone is listening in on me and sends it all to Dr.K for him to make a video about it.

[@Anuj-2]

It is

[@ptrcrispy]

The FBI is spying on you but at least they're trying to help you out

[@blinksbill1138]

thank you. Literally so brilliant. I was just crying about this at 3:00am to my mom and not letting her sleep, and of course she didn't have any advise. My upbringing had a lot to do with my narrow thinking and why my interests were buried; from not having an example, and my own dad telling me reasons why pretty much anything I like won't work. I thought the solution was to get away from my family, but living with my boyfriend for the last five years didn't help. Well technically in a way I developed a lot of interests during that time. It feels like I need to awaken the child inside of me that actually had dreams and potential, not this jaded and sad adult mentality that I've gained from witnessing and experiencing so much failure every single day

[@aprendizdelaguitarra]

Here in Spain literally doesn't matter what you study or love, you won't have a job since we have 40%* youth unemployement and the jobs available are very low paid or you have a lot of chances of getting labor exploited :) *Edited and added "%"

[@destroyerinazuma96]

Not to make conspiracy theories, but there's economic evidence that lower unemployment = higher inflation, and the EU is scared shitless of inflation. French politician J-L.Mélenchon argued it's possible to have a decent economy with millions more employed and 5% inflation as long as there are enough goods and services to keep up. Except the top 10% and the older generations really hate the idea of their fortunes and/or savings losing value.

[@praetentious2925]

Becoming the same in USA

[@revan3841]

@@destroyerinazuma96 Yeah, governments should be scared of significant inflation. It leads to social instability. Hyper inflation then leads to the torches and pitchforks coming out.

[@destroyerinazuma96]

@@revan3841 A French presidential candidate theorized that his gvt could keep inflation under control once the stimulus policies allow for enough goods&services offer to match the demand. However, I'm not very confident in ppl claiming that "kay it'll be bad for X years but then it'll be great". Best case scenario, he'd likely need two mandates to pull it off, and that implies a very trusting electorate.

[@revan3841]

@@destroyerinazuma96 the arrogance of governments and economists thinking they can keep this crap under control is nuts. it works until it doesn't. once real interest rates get out of hand because of the debasement of the currency, they no longer control squat.

[@eridan3485]

A lot of us don't do what we want to do, because we can't and we must do what we have to do to stay alive, not being homless etc...

[@Andrew83194]

I lost my motivation for a few years and it wasn’t until I accepted that I changed as a person and I don’t have the same interests that I used to that I quickly found motivation for new things that interest me

[@Koharuie]

this is exactly what I need right now... just got my bachelor's degree in computer science, didn't apply for a master's for this year. I'm taking a year off and seriously questioning wether this is the path I really want to take

[@alphegedinsijohnmojiun2961]

same story here. did genetics and I don't know whether I wanna be stuck in a lab doing experiments for the rest of my life.

[@yagoespinola2841]

You are not alone. I have finished biotechnology almost 3 years ago and still don't know wtf I will going to do.

[@ElvenMans]

Image people who couldn't go to college to study what they wanted, because they couldn't get in. So now they are aimlessly trying to figure out what to do, because low paying shit jobs won't get you nowhere in life. (I just described myself btw..) Maybe i should learn some kind of trade, but figuring out what i want to do seems impossible and i see no point in becoming something i would hate doing, or i'm not interested in doing at all. And it still wouldn't pay that good. Hard to tell in advance how much some job will pay where i live.

[@YeetYeetYe]

Make sure you think wisely. Because I also graduated with a CS degree... and while I don't like the work, I LOVE what it gets me. I am working 100% remote (can work wherever I want) , and only put in about 4-5 hours a day. I'm getting a pretty decent salary too. So it has its benefits

[@MonsterhunterFTWWTF]

Probably you’re not passionate or were willing to immerse yourself in CS. I know plenty of people who did CS as a default major and it can be a really rewarding field if you can put in the time to learn. I was ambivalent to field in the beginning, but I discovered the passion by trying out multiple different sub fields: Data science, ML, full stack, backend, distributed systems, networking, etc. Unless you’ve honestly tried as many options in the field as you can then you cannot make an informed decision on whether it is for you or not. CS is unique in that there’s so many things to learn.

[@shannonjones8877]

He just casually threw in there "had covid the past 2 weeks". Your dedication to what you're doing here is inspiring! Glad you're doing well.

[@Kvh47]

well having covid can be anything from being almost life threatening sick till a small cough.

[@mellowmud3314]

I luckily ended up finding interests that have driven me to pursue projects on the side when two years ago I was burnt out. I'm not making a dime of these as of yet, but what got me to a point where I can stay committed to these projects was by having stepped back and taking a year long break that gave me a new perspective.

[@BruceCarbonLakeriver]

same here. Good luck!

[@TheHetaliafan123]

I've struggled with this for a long time, to the point were I've thought about how there is no meaning being alive if I have to do something that is entirely soul-crushing for the majority of my life. I have tried alot of different jobs (sub teacher, cleaner, hotel breakfast, call center) and everything I end up hating, I don't even wanna leave my house anymore, because interacting with the outside world has become too draining. I'm studying to become a dental assistant and I've already started dreading it even though I've only done practice work. My only interests that I've had in my life is playing games, watching anime, and drawing. I'm sincerely passionate about these things, but I've always had the thought that making any of those into a career is near impossible unless I'm very lucky. But maybe when I finish dental school I can start studying art and improve my skills. Maybe it could go somewhere, maybe not, but I feel like having hope is better than nothing, even if it's Copium. Thanks Dr K.

[@samescourt3801]

Please. Pursue what you have passion for for the love of god. Life is too short to not at least go for it. I’m working towards my passion and my future looks very uncertain, but I am satisfied knowing that my love for something is what comes first and is what will make me happy in the long run.

[@nihilism6226]

ehe You will not make it as a pro gamer unless you have IQ 150 regardless of how hard you train. And even then, you could still do it only till you are 30 when you will get pushed away by a batch of new young geniuses.

[@TheHetaliafan123]

@@nihilism6226 Good thing I’ve never wanted to be a pro gamer then lol.

[@TheHetaliafan123]

@@samescourt3801 Yeah I probably will pursue it, because I would be mad at myself if I never tried. The only thing that worries me is if I fail, because then I really am doomed to an unfulfilled life.

[@praetentious2925]

Jobs suck.

[@rickwoods5274]

You said "you have that end goal in mind" about applying to college, but in previous videos about motivation, you've talked about how goals complicate things, and how we should let go of controlling outcomes and instead focus on controlling actions. I _think_ I know the answer to this discrepancy, but I'd like to hear how you resolve it.

[@100GamesofDeath]

Having end goals is important because when you hit that goal you can be happy and "relax". I believe when you bring up not having goals holding you it's like stupid shit like eat food as a goal and make your bed. Completely needed things but not a "goal" and not something to put yourself down over if you don't complete. Aka I enjoy making my bed and i feel good when it's done but I dont have a goal to make it because I don't wanna forget one day and feel bad, just not care. I hope that kinda cleared it up

[@nicoalcover502]

You can have goals, but you don't have to work thinking about reaching them. Ex: "to have good grades, I have to study". Two ways to study. 1st: "I want an A, so I gotta study" 2nd: "Today I gotta study" The first option leads to attachment. You can have goals to more or less show you the way, but don't get fixated.

[@AnTho98]

Have a goal so you have a direction to work towards, but don’t tie your worth to you reaching that goal, but instead the present moment and the direct actions you can take right now, today, to move in that direction… is how I coalesce those two ideas

[@dash445566]

Goal should be helpful, not a hindrance to you

[@Sergiopoo]

I think the question itself answers the question. "we should let go of controlling outcomes and instead focus on controlling actions". what actions are you going to take if you don't have a goal/objective to guide those actions? if I'm not mistaken in the video about motivation and how goals complicate things Dr. K talks about the "trap" of the way you set goals, nico alcover gave the example of "I want an A, so I gotta study" this I, and I think Dr. K would agree, is a trap goal. The reason is a trap goal is because the objective is to get a result (get an A) which is trying to control the outcome. A goal like "study everyday" for example focuses on actions that would probably give you good/better results and you are not outcome dependent. Notice that the examples he gives in this video are action based objectives, apply to college, graduate from college etc. and the end goal was "support equal rights in developing countries" it is still action based. When you set the goal as "solve equal right in developing countries" then it becomes an outcome dependent goal.

[@gystes_]

This is interesting, but I’m not necessarily sure how practical this advice is. It’s good advice to search for your passions/talents and to try and monetize them, but it’s not always going to be possible. The job/business sectors have all sorts of barriers to entry. Just look at opening your own business for example. Over 95% of businesses close within the first year of operations.

[@jchemnix1918]

Exactly, people who do stocks or businesses are pretty much built on luck or having a very deep understanding in it. That's why I never liked the saying "you can be anything you want to". Im sure any kid would want to be a astronaut, until they realize when they are older it requires a LOT of dedication and work to *possibly* get it.

[@SwordWieldingDuck]

Also sometimes it might be just too late. Or cannot become a professional athlete, even in E-sports, if you are already 30 - at that age, athletes usually retire because they can't compete with younger competitors.

[@myrkflinn4331]

Despite, we should find manageable ways for people to want to work and keep at it. And stay strong and help each other. No pressure.

[@ginge641]

Then get past those barriers.

[@nielsfrederiksen6636]

In addition, there's also another trap. If you successfully turn your passion into a business, you might lose that passion. Not every passion can be monetized in a way that is compatible with a revenue stream. If gaming is your hobby, you might be forced into playing games you have no interest in or a playstyle that you don't enjoy. Turning your passion into a job comes with the risk that you might lose that passion, because doing something for fun is very different than doing it for profit

[@acetrainerarcane1755]

The advice of trying to look at all the possibilities is a perfect bit of advice. I’m 19 years old and want to go into the medical field but as most people my age, we don’t have certification or degrees yet. Because we don’t have certificates or degrees a lot of people start to lean towards retail jobs and jobs that are typically always hiring and easy to get. There’s nothing wrong with those jobs but at the same time there are so many people that complain about being at those jobs since they can be really stressful without much return. In reality though there’s a lot of jobs out there that don’t require any degree or certification, and there’s a lot of resources to help you out there that can help you find these jobs. I ended up becoming a Front Desk Receptionist at a short term physical rehab facility with the use of these resources and I’m learning a lot about the health field with the nurses I work with and the records I deal with. It only a starting point for me but I’m having much more fun here than I would at my old retail job

[@frog6054]

It's depends on where you live. In my country, if you don't have any certification, the only jobs that are available for you is probably a labor factory workers.

[@Mikinaak2023]

Certification is even needed for reception in my City.

[@DELO480]

I'm in the middle of a professional transition period. I've spent 17 years working a stressful job with a decent salary, and I've done well enough to be put in a leadership role. It was a good challenge early on, but as I developed, I found the work no longer satisfying and I lost a lot of motivation. I was on stress leave and I am on a return to work program. My life has been thrown back into chaos, so in trying to re-align things to a more balanced direction, it is important that it's done gradually and sustainably. I do not have a clear direction forward right now, and that's stressful to think about, but I do have my experiences, and I know more now about what things I do value so I can pursue that to... wherever that leads. My point is that you don't need to decide on what exactly that "career" is, if you're like many people and don't know exactly where your passions lie. Note the things you value, then all the things that, on their own, you might not like, won't bother you so much.

[@yianko2090]

I just want to point out that if you feel like nothing interests you and everything in life is boring, I think you should check on your mental health. I am in this situation for years but I stepped out a bit and am making some progress because I decided to take out a big part of my salary to pay for a therapist. I can see things a bit differently now and think it is possible to find something interesting in life.❤️

[@Wakshak321]

My problem is that the few things I actually considered doing with my life, I either have no idea how to even go about it, or if I do try it, I quickly learn that I'm too stupid to actually pursue it further because I struggle too much or have some sort of mental block about it. Everything else that I'm "passionate" about you have a near 0% chance you'll make a living out of it and even if I want to try it, I have to do it all by myself because I tried going to college for one thing but I ended up dropping out because I was struggling too much, the other thing I kept making ads everywhere for but no response or the responses show up but flake out before it could happen, so you just by the nature of it, end up with some dead end job so at least you have something to pay the bills with while you work towards the things you actually want to do but its just not happening for you.

[@tiddlypom2097]

ah this is my life too I've gone some cognitive things going on so I struggle with study and work. But I'm not stupid - and I'm sure you're not either. Have you investigated ADHD and autism? They both can really make you struggle and feel stupid.

[@marreco6347]

I dunno dude, I mean, playing videogames is now, at least, 3 different careers.

[@praetentious2925]

Yeah, all jobs suck and some of us don’t want any jobs or careers. What then?

[@Bashbekersjiw]

@@praetentious2925 i'am in the same position

[@pix3lle375]

For me it was always mental health. Anxiety, depression, addiction, PTSD, eating disorders. I didn't study it because I didn't believe I would be a helpful therapist or I wasn't smart enough to be a doctor. Now I'm trying to turn it around but it takes several years of university where I live to be either a psychologist or a psychiatrist and I'm getting old lol. I'm looking into lesser known jobs related to mental health but if you guys have ideas, I'd love to hear them!

[@inprogress5210]

You could try being a therapist, a life coach, career coach or advisor, or even be a consultant for small business owners

[@ferdbirb]

I really needed this video thank you so much. The tricky part for me is that even if you can find something you're passionate about, it's hard to figure out what concrete steps you need to take in order to make your aspirations a reality, or how to even go about researching what you have to do, especially if you have a more niche interest and don't know where to seek outside help

[@flyingknee23]

This is my problem. People say go where the opportunities are but HOW?! So I’m saving up to relocate to a city out of this small town

[@krox477]

It might not be financed too

[@LaurensHouweling]

I’m scared of cornering myself in, the internet’s got me interested in so many different things and I wanna explore all of them. I feel like I’ll miss out if I just focus on a single thing

[@misslis191]

I feel with you. It's not like I can't find my passion, it's more like there are way too many things to be passionate about and I can't pick just one. Also I really enjoy to explore new things. So I am afraid that if I just focus on one thing I will get bored because of the lack of enthusiasm that comes with novelty. Actually I am not sure if I am even able to commit to just one thing. xD

[@thejakobistable]

this was an insanely useful video. when I think back of how I lost weigt it was also the competing motivation that helped me so much

[@jakfrost2]

Strongly agree. I floundered for years without considering my love of board games could translate into a job. I've been able to get multiple different jobs that use my passion and have been very fulfilling.

[@thomasyang1]

The key is to not be afraid of trial and error, every failure will lead to a better understanding of yourself. Introspection is part of it but we've to execute it too even if we're not 100% sure.

[@existinginaspace8347]

Sometimes that failure ends with you sleeping out of your car for several years.

[@thomasyang1]

@@existinginaspace8347 sure that's one of the possibility. From my experience it's never go big or go homeless.

[@wanderingrandomer]

I will add to the point on "what to do enjoy?" because sometimes, I might enjoy doing something, then fall out of the habit of doing it for ages, and the feeling of enjoyment leaves me: I don't remember that ever I enjoyed it. Sometimes you just gotta grind it out for a while.

[@nezunish-2-824]

Your word describe exactly what I was going through right now. I used to love drawing but for some reason I kinda stop . Looking back at it , I can see why I was feeling depressed two year ago which make thing that I used to enjoy , not enjoyable . Tbh if it weren't for this channel I didn't even know I was depressed because I have 0 knowledge of it at the time .

[@wanderingrandomer]

@JureiTV That's kinda hard to answer for me, because it's either nothing, or a bunch of things, and I swing between then two. Video games, digital art, 3D animation, music kinda, and I got way into conlanging at one point. Mainly I'm passionate about learning new skills: it's where I'm happiest. The only thing I can confidently say I'm an expert in is Pokemon, but I don't think there are many jobs in that.

[@0ihatetrolls01]

@@wanderingrandomer I have adhd and I'm similar, will love something for a week then get so incredibly bored of it for 2 weeks then love something else etc

[@ionair1913]

@@0ihatetrolls01 yeah. I can very much relate to that. I have passion on something this week and next week I have my passion on something else or nothing at all sometimes

[@0ihatetrolls01]

@@ionair1913 makes settling down on anything an impossibility but I've learnt to just enjoy the little things and small treats for myself, a good diet etc, keeps me sane when I get fucking bored of everything I set out to do ahhahaha

[@Mav0585]

I have a potential job coming up, HR business partner, 100% remote, 40hrs/week, $100k. After some of the super stressful corporate roles I’ve held I’m really hoping I can land this for my mental health!

[@DeltaTempest]

How'd it go

[@jimmiddleton2206]

I keep watching videos like these, desperate to find an answer to the question: "But what if I hate my passions?" Nothing I actually enjoy makes the world a better place, or makes enough money to support a family. But every career I've tried that meets the other too criteria makes me feel dead inside. And, honestly, now that I have a family to support, I really think I could be fine working a job I hate for the rest of my life if it provides my kids with a better life. I'm just...kinda terrified that they'll learn from me that they'll need to work jobs they hate too for their own families.

[@Peanuts76]

same, social expectations, and Family opinions are really make me confuse, we just want to make a living and pay the bills, but it depressing at the same time....

[@tanakathecowboy]

this is one of the many reasons for a pay gap between man and women. On average woman are more entitled to take jobs they like, men on the other hand in vast majority end up doing what they hate but pays better for the sake of supporting the familly. Sad stuff.

[@Pharoah2]

The standard path is to do a job you hate but makes stupid money. Then your kids can afford to just do what they like

[@opliko]

@@Pharoah2 Lol well most people work jobs they hate, and also don't make any money

[@Pharoah2]

@@opliko true true. My circle mostly does jobs they dont care about but theyre extremely good at it, so get paid stupid money. Cant have it all in life unfortunately. Find fulfillment outside of work

[@CainSuzuko]

I'm an ISTP and I'm currently taking Human Resources Management. I know it's not for me but I had no choice. I might shift to another course. I don't vibe with dealing with organizational behavior and personnel management. I'm looking for a hands-on career, something that's physically stimulating. I'm interested in figuring out how things work and messing around with it. I would've took Engineering if I was decent at Mathematics.

[@scottjolteon9033]

Would love to hear about this buried interests thing, I felt that really strongly and it's hard for me to figure out where to go now because I'm scared everything I try will only be interesting and engaging for like 2 weeks, then I will lose interest, which is basically what happens usually with everything I'm currently in sound engineering school but I'm quickly losing interest, I've only been there for 6 months and I stopped studying already, it's hard for me to imagine myself working and getting down to do so, and idk what I will do after I get the degree. I've been really interested in sleeping and not confronting other people for the last 3 years so that might explain it though..

[@GreelTheMindRaker]

I've been stuck at the "turning passion into income" part for a year straight now. It's really hard to connect those dots for me. I wish there was a program or something where you could just punch all your passions/interests into it and it spits out options for you. Somebody who's passionate about software and helping people.... please make that and I'll pay you for it.

[@remy2718]

I suppose it depends on how you look at "helping people" (mentally or practically). The first thing that came to mind when I read this was text-to-speech software, which I would absolutely consider to be helping the blind. So a software developer with a focus on "helpful" software, as opposed to developing, e.g. game apps, would be my answer

[@aparna12242]

Well, we do have a software that does exactly that and more now... ChatGPT

[@WishfulThinkingArt]

I went to school as an English major and then onto grad school in creative writing. Needless to say, the path to doing anything meaningful with that education has been hard, and there are times where I regret not having studied something “easier” or “straightforward.” I’ve been a teacher, a freelance writer, and it’s all led to a job in retail that I hate. I’ve tried career counselling to find a better path, but it’s been hard trying to get my foot in the door and it’s starting to feel like a performance. Maybe I just need to work on letting go of any expectations and just do what I want, but it feels like people are waiting on me to do SOMETHING with my life, and I’m scared that I’ll be pushed away. It’s all about wanting to be happy and having something for myself without feeling like I’m performing for other people.

[@Gn3rd]

Something that I also think can help with finding a career as a gamer, is to look at careers related to gaming instead of just the gaming itself. For instance, you could get a career building and fixing computers, get into esports management, or become a network engineer. I've been a computer afficionado for almost my entire life, but working exclusively with computers always seemed to make it a bit of hassle for me, since I'd want to decompress at the end of the day, which is harder when your main interest is a computer. So I became an infrastructure engineer instead. There's also nothing wrong with starting on an actual career path later in life. I was 29 before I found it.

[@captainquartz678]

Hi! Is this related to Civil Engineering?

[@Gn3rd]

@@captainquartz678 No, it's infrastructure in the sense of technology infrastructure. I deal with networks and cloud platforms.

[@DiegoGangWeedBrando]

I’m a autistic N.e.e.t and kind of interested in network engineering. Is it hard? Do I need any special certifications? Is the type of job friendly for someone on the spectrum like me?

[@Gn3rd]

@@DiegoGangWeedBrando It can be pretty hard. The more natural curiosity you have for IT, the easier you're going to find it, I'd say. Still, there's a LOT in it, and the higher you go in terms of certifications, the more technical it'll get. Certifications are a must, and the gold standard is Cisco certifications. To get a job in network engineering, you'd need at least "Cisco Certified Network Associate", which is the second-lowest certification you can get. The step above that, Cisco Certified Network Professional, brings with it more complexity, but it'll also mean a decent pay bump. In terms of the work itself, I'd say it's very spectrum-friendly, since there's not a lot of customer contact after the initial consultation and design phase. You'll also typically have a partner of some kind, so if customer interaction stresses you out, they could probably handle that bit. As far as I know, companies are happy to have people with autism in their IT/network departments, because they have an eye for detail, which is always a boon. In fact, one of the guys in my class was on the spectrum, and he was one of the first ones to get a trainee position. If you'd like an idea of the material you need, check out "CBT Nuggets" on KZbin. They have videos on pretty much everything, including information about the certifications themselves. Good luck!

[@DiegoGangWeedBrando]

@@Gn3rd thank you! I’ll definitely look into it.

[@RomanQrr]

As a person who just started to run DnD for money last week, it's really funny to me that this came out right now. XD

[@JonathanS344]

Hell yeah dude, glad you've found a way to monetize your passion :)

[@hienapple4664]

You might become a Game Designer, someday.

[@SwordWieldingDuck]

How did you do that?

[@JorMFge]

I’m 19 I’ve done granite installation and now I’m doing electrical work . Trades are great I leave my workday satisfied from working with my hands and seeing the progress I’ve made .

[@khill3524]

The trades are a great place to be now. And the wages just keep going up because no one wants to do that kind of work. Anyone interested in this should check out Mike Rowes stuff on KZbin. (Guy from dirty Jobs) Good luck to you!

[@d0pesmoker]

Did you join through a union or get trade certifications from somewhere or something else? Any advice would be appreciated, thank you!

[@JorMFge]

@@d0pesmoker no i just got a job because my friend asked if i wanted to work there. Look for granite companies and see if the installers need help .

[@d0pesmoker]

@@JorMFge thanks for the response!

[@jabronijackpot]

@@khill3524 Trades are a pretty good option these days, although I would urge you to be a bit skeptical of Mike Rowe. He's funded by billionaires (Koch Brothers) to give talking points for their benefit.

[@squidgecanadian6116]

Came out the day after I quit my job, extremely grateful for today! Thank you Dr. K and the healthy gamer team!

[@QuentinH-o9x]

Can’t commend Dr K enough for the help he is providing, mad respect

[@DenKen-fk8de]

* People seem to pick the options that’s available right now rather than thinking about it. This is why they get into a career they don’t like. “I’ll take a convenient store job coz I need money right now, or I just need to get whatever job I can get” * Take a step back of the idea of getting a job or career and ask yourself these questions: - What do I enjoy? - What do I care about? - What do I find interesting? - How can I do this? - How can I make this work? * Thriving for things you care about gives you the ability to tolerate hardships * Competing interest = something you care about. This can help you overcome difficult situations. Align your career to this.

[@latch6974]

An important thing to think about if you don’t know your passion. You can’t figure it out by sitting in your room and thinking about it. You have to try stuff out and create experiences. I learned that just this morning and plan to physically do stuff to learn my interests

[@voreincorporated3056]

What kind of things would you recommend a person try?

[@MarieInternetEatsCake]

Me who got an idea by lying around in my room and thinking about it: 😏

[@jchemnix1918]

I wish my High School better prepared us for this. The most we got was one day out of the whole year, we spent an hour on this weird and confusing website to look up jobs, and that was it... I had a plan to become a Astronomer, but after further looking into it, I realized how small and competitive the job market is. Thank goodness I was denied by the University I was originally gonna go to cuz I was close in Joining the Air Force, it gave me time to really think about what job that would really fit me as I went to community collage.

[@praetentious2925]

High school sucks and so do jobs.

[@jeremyt6459]

This was a really good reminder to get out of that societal pressure that things have to be structured or done a certain way, basically not following external constructs but being driven by that intrinsic desire first and foremost. I think i've recently realized what i really want to do for a career, and that is game development. It took several college dropouts and lots of dabbling in different skills before that though. But now i also realized it'll take me longer than expected to have a chance to break in the industry (several years at least), and unfortunately I've shifted majority of my schedule to learning web development for a more stable job (that generally only takes 1-2 years to learn) while i slowly learn game dev in my spare time. Curious if anyone here has struggled with anything similar (stable job vs dream job).. but any rate thanks to Dr. K to putting out yet another great vid!

[@praetentious2925]

Yes. I had a very good stable job and I quit it to work on music and art. Years later, I’ve had no success, I have no money, no prospects and worry there is no future left for me. However!- do I regret quitting that job and pursuing my passion? No. It may have ruined my life but no I don’t regret it. Isn’t that weird? You will figure out what’s right for you. Good luck.

[@jeremyt6459]

@@praetentious2925 I see, i guess it makes sense since you had the stable job first, glad you ended up fulfilled despite the outcome. I think I'm at a point where just leaving this stagnant house and experiencing many new things is the top priority, rather than getting that dream job as my first "real" job. Thanks for the reply and good luck to you as well!

[@praetentious2925]

@@jeremyt6459 yeah, have fun exploring and going on adventures!

[@teemumiettinen7250]

@@praetentious2925 I think there is nothing wrong with following your passion, because if you didn't you will most likely regret it for the rest of your life.

[@sarahkim4655]

You have changed my perspective on so many topics for the better. I feel that I'm becoming a better version of myself through your videos. Thank you so muchhhh

[@StudioInvisible]

thank you, especially for the passion getting buried part. i seem to chronically get that, either because i struggle pacing myself, focus on failures, compare myself to someone with a clearer career path. and then, so many doubts.

[@phainoaletha8480]

This is exactly what I tell college students in order to be motivated in learning a foreign language. If they do not have it, they must be able to connect it to their passion somehow. How will you use it? How does it fit? Then, it is not taxing and the mind opens up.

[@papercat5192]

Thinking about just passion alone is not a viable strategy for someone starting from scratch or without some domain knowledge. Most of what I am gonna are ideas from the book, "So good they can't ignore you" by Cal Newport, which I recommend anyone here with career struggle to read. Let's use Dr. K as an example, without his monk training in India and subsequent medical training, he would not have provided a rare and valuable enough insights to make HealthyGamer a success. The implication is that passion follows skills of your craft, no the other way around. Compelling careers are rare by nature. if everything can be compelling, then nothing is compelling. Hence, you need something equally compelling in return to get the career that you want. Passion and enthusiasm alone are simply not valuable enough for someone starting from scratch. "I feel like your problem is that you’re trying to judge all things in the abstract before you do them. That’s your tragic mistake.” - Ira Glass

[@CandypunkDragon]

When you start the video skeptical because the only thing that you’re passionate about is being a GM, but of course that’s not a job, and then Dr. K starts talking about professional GMs. My dude, you gave me a new direction in life and some goals.

[@felixthecat2786]

The issue I had was that I wanted to be a singer and a musician as a kid. My mom refused to allow me to perform in any capacity and did not support my desire to do this at all. I attended music school for one semester and quit because i feel forced and pressured to study music education when I really wanted to do performance. Over the years, I have tried to go back towards music performance, but I can't seem to push myself to actually get on stage and sing. I think it's because my mom was so against me performing that it's hard to actually put myself out there. I've also had a lot of people in my life who have been reluctant to support me as well. I'm reaching a point where I am likely "too old" to really go into singing. I'm 34 years old and I know my voice is going to reach a "point of no return" and I've wasted so much time already.

[@TheItVirusGaming]

Thanks! I needed this right now. Graduated college (degree in Economics) last year during pandemic and I’ve been bouncing between low paying, dead end jobs since then. I’ve been drifting for awhile.

[@DBBravo]

I will start my last year of Econ and although I find it very interesting I don't think I want to work on it

[@TheItVirusGaming]

Derrick Burton I totally get that. Honestly I picked my major without much thought into what I wanted to do with it. All I knew was I had AP credit for Micro and Macro economics from high school and that I enjoyed the ideas behind the book and podcast Freakenomics. The Econ major is so open to where it can go that it can easily become overwhelming.

[@prochokepoint994]

Went from engineering to Econ; talk about a struggle. Can do calculus and physics very well with understanding but statistics hellllll nooooo

[@duskshadow25]

The issue is that a lot of people have no interest in wanting to work, and they're only doing it as a mean to pay their bills or they'll probably die from hunger or other external factor. So they basically look at the next option, which is working with less hours and still get paid well. If people had the option to not work and still get paid, most people will take that option. We see that ever since after COVID-19 started, because a lot of people stayed home and got paid and they didn't want to go back to their shitty jobs they hated. Then many companies start to wonder how come they can't find anyone to work. It's because a lot of people hate their jobs, and they only did it as a mean to survive. I can speak this from personal experience that if I had the option to not work and still get paid to pay my bills, I would just chill and enjoy the rest of my life because life is too short to be spending about 40 years of working like a slave and owned by corporates.

[@emonkey28]

im not even joking. i started watching this video thinking to myself, wtf am i going to do with my life. and a few minutes in to the video i get an email letting me know that ive just been accepted to the university ive been wanting to attend for months now. i cant fucking believe it!

[@xuchilbara21392]

the problem is: you think you are interested in a certain career, put 7 years of work into it only to realise, the job is not how you imagined and you wasted a good portion of your youth and energy. now you are older, less energetic and have to find a new career, put years of work in it again only for the economy to crash and making your second career useless AGAIN. its not you that is the problem, its the economy and the labour market

[@anandms973]

@@xuchilbara21392 absolute truth

[@walterbalanche6455]

It’s been two weeke since I started watching these videos and I just wanted to thank you and congratulate you (I guess) for the content you put out there

[@GavinDaGrey]

I think this individual's first mistake is trying to find a career that is "fun". As someone who grew up very poor and struggled my perspective is that you should get a stable job, good growth/prospects, pays well, and that you can TOLERATE. Work is never going to give you this dopamine response in which it will ever be as enjoyable as recreation--- hell, even when u make your favorite recreational activity your job, it tends to not be enjoyable anymore

[@Bashbekersjiw]

what job did u do?

[@KitsCloud]

I don't entirely agree with this. Yes, every job will have tasks that suck. But I enjoyed my time in a specific retail place so much because the people I talked to loved talking about the same things I did, and I loved helping them out.

[@auntienyannyan]

You can find jobs you love. I used to tutor and mentor for a job and I felt so fulfilled. It’s harder…so harder…but never impossible.

[@tobe.moemeka]

Bro I’m so confused like I hear so many people say what he’s saying but I also hear people say what you’re saying. I admire my mom because she works a high paying job that supports our whole family but she’s also so stressed I do NOT want to be like her in that way. I also have no passions to begin with I think besides my friends

[@IsaiahINRI]

I'd say I've always enjoyed comics(and storytelling in general) and philosophy my whole life. Ever since I was little I'd always think about metaphysical concepts and "what if this is how the world worked" and so on. I'd say I've taken a deep interest in politics but I truly only started caring about that when I was 16(I'm 21 now) so I can't say. I've always gravitated towards stories with expansive realistic worlds and something that really challenges your world view. It's hard for me to really tell what is a genuine interest or just a fancy because I have A.D.H.D. so it could just be one of those tangents we're prone to. But I've recently considered going into actually creating my own series as I have several story ideas and a lot to say. And I've always felt art was an incredibly important tool for human growth, which is also very important to me. I'm just afraid it is one of my A.D.H.D. tangents and I'm gonna get bored of the idea after a while even though there are innumerable factors throughout my life that point to this being what I should do(more than I listed). But at the same time, my IQ is rather high(it's in the mid 160s) so I feel I really need to use that to do something not everyone else can. I know writers often have an IQ in the 140s but that isn't exactly necessary. But, while science interests me, it doesn't quite get me going like humanities always have. And I want to improve the human condition in some meaningful way long after I'm dead.

[@mannyfe]

@@IsaiahINRI how are things now?

[@xercespriest]

Damn, this came at a weird time. I literally just discovered, thanks to me finally abandoning my stubbornness and actually getting a help via therapist, that I am experiencing a ton of burnout. Been spending every day since my high school graduation, ten years ago, working dead end jobs following ill advice from the adults in my life. Now I am at a crossroads. Either step into my 30s aimlessly pursuing things and hating myself for it or finally taking a chance and going for something I am passionate about. Balls in my court, I guess.

[@nihilism6226]

EnAre Ah, you are in your 30s now, welcome to the suffering, buddy. Your best years are OVER! Hopefully you didn't waste them or something.

[@igeljaeger]

Good advice, I'll be sure to share this with people who struggle with this. Esp teenagers seem to. I was sort of lucky in a way to start in Tech support and then develop a passion for Open Source and Linux during that career, then building off of my hobbies and turning that into a DevOps Engineering career that I truly enjoy :)

[@SharockoRAZR]

This is actually something I struggle with the most, i really needed this.

[@DirtPoorWargamer]

Nearly every moment spent interacting with others is mentally and emotionally agonizing for me. I’m not passionate about anything. I barely care about anything beyond its ability to distract me from the hell I find myself in. I don’t get any significant satisfaction out of helping others. The idea that someone forced into this life without their consent should be required to earn their keep is utterly insane to me. The only thing I want out of life is to be left alone in a small home until I’m finally allowed to permanently check out. But apparently, that’s too much for someone in constant anguish to ask for.

[@yodge2441]

This, but I never been able to describe it, I want the same exact things but I think the mission of humanity, this planet in any nation or community is to contribute to society and benefit it in some way or some shit. If we all have to participate/contribute, might as well do bare minimum or play the game to achieve so much wealth to make billionaires look stupid. In the end, we just need to be wealth enough to achieve whatever we want right? I don't know about you, but I'm tried of trying to find an answer, all I want is peace. Lets just achieve it and fuck off already.

[@frog6054]

Yeah, I'm also anti natalism and kinda angry that I was born in this world without my consent but I'm sure you have some sort of depression, my friend. Please seek therapist.

[@M0nchis]

Took me around 7 years to finish collage now i sell NSFW Artwork instead of working on my degree.

[@kilgoretrout3]

It's going to take me longer than scheduled to graduate and I don't know what to do.

[@M0nchis]

@@kilgoretrout3 just like everyone else, i don't know what was i doing but i keep doing it.

[@existinginaspace8347]

Furrys are really bad with their money and will shell out entire paychecks for some good quality lewds. Especially if your willing to draw extreme kinks.

[@kilgoretrout3]

@@existinginaspace8347 What are you up to

[@primo4915]

The grindset

[@personneici2595]

College is inaccessible to people without the means to pay for it. I can't afford to get a degree because I need to work full time to support my spouse who can't work and myself. I know this is directed at young people who maybe don't have people to support yet but just sharing my perspective. I'm hoping getting into hobbies I can share might lead to creative work I actually care about, tho, we'll see.

[@ky_kartikey]

The whole video was good but all throughout I had the question stuck in my mind that I don't know what I am passionate about. But that last bit really helped!!! I know you probably won't read this Dr. K, but you have really helped me out. Although I am a lazy fucker and I don't really practice most of what you teach, but even just listening to your wisdom on a regular basis has helped change my mindset to a more healthier one.

[@BruceCarbonLakeriver]

Passion is the thing you're getting mad if you are not being able to do it. Like getting ill. (I got covid during starting off my passion and I cannot describe how frustrating it was xD) Passion is the thing which still intrests you even if you end up in a big struggle with the thing. (I failed horribly twice and it didn't made me even mad, I just started the 3rd attempt) Passion is the thing where no problems exists but challenges for you. (Since I have a ton to learn about it, I'm still sittin' there like a monkey but every new thing I found made me hyper xD) That is what I've found out after 10 years of doing 3 different carriers and nothing lit my passion but just interest. passion > interest. //important note! I'm now 31, Engineer, Physicist, Mathematician xD Sounds great but it is a pile of crap to me xD My passion came out at making film based on journalism. Which ends up in making documentaries and dissasemble things to make them digestable. Which in the end leads to a study in philosophy, which I'd love to persue if the covid crap ends^^. (You can see with maths and physics I was pretty close xD) I hope that's helpfull to you, just consider it as my personal experience I just shared for good :) Good Luck! (I seriously mean it - I know it is tough... ) p.s.: Pro Tipp: Maintain a healthy sleep circle. Bad sleep might be unrecognized until you get the "you can't finish anything..."-problem. ^^

[@CZEPolice]

I have opposite problem, I am like a child (even that I am 28) I just love everything, everything is fascination for me. But in last job interview it looked like they dont want me because I dont dig deep into staff that I am interested in. (how could I if I love sports, military, chemistry, psychology, cooking, history....) I dont have enought time and energy to have masters from all of it.

[@tuningsnow]

Maybe youre a vata dosha type of person

[@SkyTheGuy8]

if there are so many things you are interested in, THEN i think you can start considering financial payout, how good you are at it or if education is available cheap enough, job availabilities, etc. to narrow down to 1 profession you can pursue

[@ColbyJacked]

@@tuningsnow I have never heard of that before but I looked it up and it accurately represents me

[@fascher_]

what helped me is write down all the stuff I love, and combine it together. then you're learning two or three things at the same time by doing the same thing. (like chem, cooking and psychology could go together) or (sports, military, history). Combining interests helps get more specific skills out of them that less ppl have. You've got range

[@farfa2937]

I kind of had the opposite problem, I can be passionate about pretty much anything at all. So for me it was more a process of what to leave behind and how many things I can manage to mesh together and make it easier. It might inspire someone, so this is what my life looks like now: - I work as a software developer. - I'm finishing my bioinformatics degree. - I'm self studying physics (which implies I'm studying math too that I also really like). - I'm aiming at a PhD in systems biology (which requires knowledge in biology, computer science, math and physics). - I'm studying digital drawing (100% unrelated to all of the above).

[@aey8737]

I totally get this

[@nezunish-2-824]

I can relate , except how do you even manage all of this ? I have more than 1 passion but managing it is a big struggle .

[@farfa2937]

@@nezunish-2-824 I have a very rough schedule of what I do each day of the week, and try to follow it. I’m aware I’d improve faster in any one thing if I focused solely on it, but that’d be boring wouldn’t it?

[@aey8737]

@@nezunish-2-824 relate to this too!

[@hakin8026]

@@farfa2937 Not necessarily. If you would focus on just one thing it is possible that you would burn out, loose interest, procrastinate, start questioning why do you even do this and end up sitting on your ass watching Netflix. Rotating keeps you interested and going. Just like Doctor K. He talked about it in one of his videos

[@bardson]

Like what you explained described my experiences from this year and my PLans for the upcomming year perfectly. RIght now my Life isn't going so well. I feel empty, bored and lonely. And ofc I struggle with some other things as well but this is sorta the most important for me. After watching some of your videos it started clicking. "Oh I understand this, this is exactly how I feel this is what I struggle with" And while your life advice doesn't replace going to actual therapy I think your videos will be greatly appreciated by my future therapist because thanks to you I'm able to explain my problems in greater detail. But for the content of this Video; For the longest time I've been in this mess that my mother threw me in. I had no Idea about finances and when I got my first part time job a lot went wrong which caused me to be in depth. So after a mental breakdown last year (funny because it's still this year) I decided to change a couple of things, I stopped gravitating towards school and towards education because I didn't have the luxary to do so I had a depth to pay. So I took the first things that were available to me. Yeah the jobs were boring and one dimensional as fuck but I always had this goal in mind, being depth free. After achieving my goal now, I felt more and more bored of my job, and along with other problems at the job and the company I was thinking more and more "this is not worth it" despite the money it got me. So I started thinking....And I thought maybe it's time to actually take some time off. I quit my job to find something that I want to do. Because whenever I asked that question I just took the first thing available and felt stressed out if it turned out to be boring. SO my Plan for next year is working at different part time jobs to figure out what it is that I want and to have some more time to build healthy habits.

[@lesil1000]

To me this sounds like the advice you hear in elementary school: follow your dreams. But it fails to help people determine what they’re passionate about enough to make into a career. Not to mention that turning your hobby into a career can ruin your hobby. Tim Minchin’s 9 life lessons takes a slightly different approach that has personally helped me.

[@Yoshimitsu882]

Right now I'm on the fence about making a big switch in what I'm doing because what I've been preparing for the past few years is really soul crushing and not what I thought it would be. I literally made the jump today to seriously consider quitting and here this video is uploaded when I get home lol

[@daliborjaksic8528]

Like Nietzsche said: "He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how"

[@Puudee]

I know words can’t solve the problems in your life but hearing a few external guiding words from a person with ideas and dialogue that I respect makes me feel like everything is ok. I have the time and the power to make the change in life I want to see. Just hearing the words “let’s take a big step back” put me at ease as I came to this video I saved for when I was feeling worthless or useless.

[@mars2366]

And what are you supposed to do if you have no hobbies, interests or passions, I can't remember the last time I had a lot of fun, I don't care about anything, I'm just rotting away in my room working from home as a customer service rep

[@starvinmarvin9489]

It's like he literally just made the video for me, didn't get accepted in a job yesterday and I can't seem to find a job i enjoy working at, and I was just scrolling trough jobs right now, was just about to close the youtube tab as I saw it was open and there he was

[@KampfspieleTV]

Very helpful. I wished I came across something like this 7 years earlier. But of course it's never to late to take a different path

[@tiellochridge]

What if you've already spent several years actively trying to find what you enjoy and you still can't figure it out? How do you find an end goal?

[@Solo_Dohlo]

Nothing is for sure. Some reach their goals and most of us don't. Timing and luck is a factor

[@sarahs.6377]

Here are the 10 unique questions to ask yourself: 1. What am I genuinely interested in? 2. What's some that I enjoy doing? 3. What am I passionate about? 4. When was the last time I had a lot of fun doing something? 5. When is the last time I was intellectually engaged? 6. What do I care about? 7. What do I think I can do to make the world a better place? 8. What's some kind of problem in the world that I would like to have an impact on? 9. What am I attracted to? 10. What do I gravitate towards? Make sure you watch the full video for the how and why and all the good stuff.

[@Rodpod]

In the end, hard work means nothing. Luck is all that matters in this world. You can work your damnest but if you're unlucky then too bad. Even he said that finding a passion and striving for it will somehow get the world to reward you for it. He basically just admitted that everything is luck. Also when he mentioned that he just started streaming one day and then his viewers just happened to rise quickly. He's just one of the lucky ones. Imagine all the other people out there striving for streaming that are also extremely passionate and have been working at it for years but they stay with zero viewers. Then there's this guy who already has a successful and fulfilling career but decides that's not enough and just starts streaming on a whim and in a matter of months he's already ahead of the streamer who spent years trying to build something up. Unlucky. Not only just that, his parents are doctors which led him to incline more into the medical field. And he's even lucky to have found the job he likes on the career he basically did on a whim. There's nothing more precious in this world than the uncontrollable factor of luck. Passion can only go so far without luck doing most of the legwork.

[@ElmStreet]

when it comes to streaming i agree but i wouldnt say that applies to all other careers/trades im sure hard work could go a long way in many other fields.

[@Rodpod]

@@ElmStreet it's definitely a slightly different case with the traditional career setting in mind. I was just talking about the streaming/entertainment side of things because that's the direction he went in his life and he used it as an example.

[@ElmStreet]

@@Rodpod you are right tho some people are fortunate enough to have wealthy parents with good careers which gives them sort of an advantage over those who aren’t so lucky who’ve grown up in poverty and aren’t given the same opportunities.

[@tobe.moemeka]

Ba humbug

[@aigoated]

Well you can't have any luck if you don't put in any work. As my basketball coach said, the more you improve your skill the luckier your shots will be and he is not wrong. The same goes with streaming, those who put in effort will learn there's an element to streaming, many beginners don't understand there's seo optimization, thumbnails and other management behind the scenes. Although there is an element of luck those who are truly unlucky are the ones who use it as an excuse to give up. The luckiest trait to have is believing luck can be improved and that it doesn't determine anything, because you will persevere. Most people put in work but it's not done correctly, you can put in lots of work, but you also need to analyze what you can change to optimize your yield. By your standards someone is always luckier than others in some way, the strategy is to know what your strength is. I started a KZbin and I was able to grow in followers, I can see where newer streamer will go wrong because there is an algorithm. You simply just have to put in smart work and understand what you're going into. In other words if you are reading this you are lucky.

[@ashleyashley9008]

You're the person we all wish we'd had to guide us through adolescence, finding you as lost adults.

[@khaledyasser8293]

What if you are interested in something or two, but don’t have the motivation to pursue them as a career. Like, just because I like video games doesn’t mean I wanna be a streamer.

[@Sergiopoo]

You start narrowing down your goal through what you like. Liking videogames can lead you to be a streamer, or a programmer, 2d artist, 3d artist, musician, vfx artist, voice actor, etc. a lot of different skills are involved when making a videogame and you can provide one of those skills for example. It can also take you to other paths, look at Dr. K. even though he is not playing videogames on his streams it was through the videogame lens that his skills caught our attention

[@thoughtfulluis6202]

As @AceRolls has stated you can find subcategories, so perhaps try to analyze what specifically attracts you to the game. What is it that has to be in a game for you to have fun? Locate that element and study it. It's possible to find a long list of careers based off that alone.

[@existinginaspace8347]

@@thoughtfulluis6202 Allot of people who have a passion for games do actually just want to play though. Even if it's your own project, money involved or otherwise some people just can't derive joy or sense of accomplishment from going from hurdle to hurdle. There often isn't anything in particular that someone who's "passionate" about playing video games beyond playing the finished product and just having a good time with it. This is pretty evident by the amount of burnout and misery there is in the game development world and most indies won't ever see any profits from their works. So your still stuck wage slaving while you plink away developing in what hours you can muster. Dr K is severely underestimating the amount of people who outright do not want to work or face hurdles/challenges. The ones who's only passion or thing they can derive joy from are being a "good time Charlie's" or B: sleep

[@nezunish-2-824]

I mean you could try playing as an eSports player , but it not gonna be easy since the skillset is really high , but you technically play game to win and get paid for it .Again hard as many player play competitively

[@praetentious2925]

Yeah, like I think all jobs suck and don’t want one. What then?

[@duvade1]

Damn, the person who asked the question is in my position. Switched colleges/universities so many times. So many majors. Finally been focusing on something that interests me, which is film/screenwriting. It’s gonna be a long road, but I now enjoy the walk

[@Fwibos]

I am not passionate about anything anymore. I am just so goddamned tired.

[@ThatGuyPandy]

This video really opened my eyes, even though I generally knew what I wanted to have as a career this really helped me change my view on it. Thank Dr. K!

[@countrysister700]

Most professionals diagnose ADHD, give you pills and say good luck, but he fills every issue in my brain with a tool or new insight to get traction and gain hope

[@vanillafoodie]

What I learn from this is that oddly I just love to type, so I am now looking in probably jobs that involve typing like transcripts or maybe a writer one day. All the best everyone! It took me awhile, but how I found out is to just be bored, I noticed whenever I am bored I would go to typing tests and spent hours on it which made me realize typing is my sweet spot, I like testing new keyboards and I love to type on keyboards whether the computer is off or on, the topic can be about anything. It shuts my brain off and I always thought it's an easy skill so it can't be a job but turns out not everyone likes to type like I do. I never once thought it could be a job as well, wish you all well in finding what works for you and not to limit the potential of that skill becoming a job.

[@BimmerWon]

Originally I wanted to be an astronaut but one I realized how slim those odds were I decided to become an engineer instead since people said I’d be good at it. Now I realize I want to be a rally car driver.

[@komranbehbehani6379]

You sound like me 😂