how to forgive yourself + own your mistakes | don't prove, just be | feat. Skillshare

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so this video started around the idea of being okay with being the villain in some people's story, and it evolved to something way deeper: the power of accepting your mistakes + truly forgiving yourself... then you never have to worry about what people think.... it was something I needed to hear. grab your bevvys + lets heal a little more 🍷
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[@charniesemiller696]

Be ok with being the villain in someone else’s story. A gift. Thank you 🙏🏾

[@TiffanyTV]

it was what I needed to hear too sis 😘

[@elvia3068]

Thankyou for this comment I gaved myself that permission in 2020

[@who.kayyyy6896]

Factssss

[@sagittariusbeauty]

❤ Thank you for reminding me!

[@itstinamichelle]

My whole life depended on pleasing people until 2016 when I had no one to lean to at my worst but God

[@444erna]

amen 🤍❤️‍🩹

[@kayyrachelle9]

Girl well said because that’s what it sounds like I’m going through. I’m trying not to come off so angry about it but I’m mad I allowed this to happen .

[@ajohonly3721]

@@kayyrachelle9 I’m currently had broken from people pleasing one sided friendships. And they don’t even know because that’s how much they don’t care,I’m so mad at myself 😢.

[@whomadeherqueenie]

amen girl, same. but Jesus is enough ❤

[@estheradao]

Woaw same

[@goldensparklingparticles]

"Don't prove, just BE" EXACTLY. Making this my mantra for the month.

[@TiffanyTV]

🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@f4llenstarr]

Never delete this video I need to rewatch again

[@user-gd7yx2kb7r]

You have autonomous- protected rights to be happy and healthy In whatever your "pursuit of happiness" acknowledges.

[@Krisyyyyy937]

So true.

[@ShibiviaDempress]

"Relax in yourself" That part hit me deep.

[@TaptheSoul]

I wrote in my journal the other day that some people need a villain in their story. I have played villain/victim in my own story for so long until I realized that I take accountability for my mess but I need not keep the mess of others. So I'm ok being a villain in someone's story as long as I stay true to being accountable to my part...and let the rest of it go. (work in progress on letting go).

[@prettiBlaccScorpio]

Well said 😊❤😊❤😊❤😊❤

[@ForeverFahari]

“Allow some things to be messy” I loveeee that because it’s so true.

[@chanelxrenee]

the goal is to stay away from those who think the worst of others. definitely if they claim they’re a Christian. you’re supposed to see the best in everyone and treat others kindly.

[@theimanb]

I needed this! Being a people pleaser or caring too much about your image is so draining. Knowing who you are is truly freeing.

[@Kaneshaa]

Amen

[@musewounded]

another aspect of forgiving yourself which i think would be a great addition to the tips alongside this video : is believe in your capacity for goodness, your capacity for growth and your capacity to resist the impulses of your past self

[@andreajones-lang2760]

I wonder how many others get as excited as I do whenever I see you post a new video. Thank you for operating as an artist -- true authenticity!!! Your insight is soooooo refreshing.❤❤✨✨💖💖

[@f4llenstarr]

This video is like personal to me. Figuring it out. I feel like I've changed so much just hitting 30. I've definitely tried to fit in in my 20s and as you say "wanting people to see you a certain way, vs knowing who you are and being it" Now I feel I'm in that more centred self but it's like I've created a trail behind me (and life/relationships/experiences etc) of this false persona of me trying to fit in. Now that I've detached from it more it feels messy. Like people questioning me and my life change but it's like shit I just am who I really am now and need to go for it. One life and it's short. Feels good and bad.

[@MissLeaaaaa]

This video is right on time! I have been struggling with this for the past few months due to a bad breakup. Part of me has been wanting to prove that I’m worthy to this man… but I know better. It’s just been a struggle. 😭

[@TiffanyTV]

take your time girl. as you can see, I’m reflecting on things from yearrssss ago. so it really takes time… just know, what you think about you really is most important. seeing myself through peoples eyes has me seeing myself as the old version of me, when I was no longer her.

[@ariahcurry1748]

This video couldn’t have came at a better time

[@acarol3875]

I swear she always dropping the message I need to hear.

[@dawnanderson5611]

Omg you hit the nail on the head, this current journey I am on I so okay with being the Villain. I’m not clearing up NOTHING 🙅🏽‍♀️🙅🏽‍♀️🙅🏽‍♀️🙅🏽‍♀️. Say it loud for the people in the cheap seats you are not always right and it’s not everyone else’s fault

[@user-sm7oh5pm7l]

EVERY SINGLE WORD. thank you so much. i appreciate this so much you wouldn’t even understand! i relate 1000% i have severe anxiety ptsd and depression and i constantly replay my past in my head and the trauma i’ve been through. im stuck in the victim mindset and i run away from people when issues arise i block them out and damn near never speak to them again. i have my guard up so much cause of my anxiety and it’s just too much. i wanna do better im 23 and can’t continue playing the victim overthinking about my past. i gotta move on and do better. thanks girl. this video means everything to me.

[@nicolew5526]

Miss Tiffany, you are such a gem! I definitely understand that creativity shouldn’t be forced but this video hit the nail on the head. Thank you so much for sharing, you have no idea how much this topic has helped me. Sending much love 🫶🏾

[@reneeortiz421]

1:09 that’s how you make quality content and not just throwing out watered down whatever. I Love your content !

[@alyssiaraye]

Tiffany you said something just then 🙌🏼 the goal is to actually change omg not for prove to someone that you are that omg I love thatttt!!!!

[@caramel8907]

I loved this video. I'm the same age as you and have recently done ALOT of work let go of overly criticizing my younger, insecure self. It's so hard sometimes to not go back to that mindset but the growing pains have been worth it! Your videos are always so timely and relatable💕

[@taliajournee212]

I'm late to this video, but there were so many gems you mentioned in here. As black women (and even girls) I feel like we are not given the space to be 'messy'. In the last five years I've had to prune many relationships, people and places that were trying to tie me down to a version of myself I had outgrown many years ago. Thank you for the wisdom and encouragement 💓

[@atasteofeswatini4822]

Sometimes I don’t listen to learn or grow but your voice and demeanor baby it’s soothing to my soul, thank you so much sis. Much love 🫂

[@user-lg4uf2uf3h]

Thank you so much I am coming out of this cycle and you right it is hard and I am 39 years old and will be 40 this year now I can give myself credit for my growth because trust me I have came along way but I do have few triggers sis that i must have suppersed but thank you

[@TiffanyTV]

yes… keep giving yourself grace + acknowledging your growth! we’re not perfect… we never will be.. growth + being able to call ourselves out when we’re triggered is what we celebrate!

[@weaveaholic101]

Girl I clicked on your video by accident and I am SO HAPPY I listened to this message while cleaning! Very inspiring! You just gained a follower ❤

[@EcomCarl]

Taking time to reflect and be true to yourself is key. Your focus on balancing growth, creativity, and family while staying clear on your vision is inspiring! 🌟

[@simplylobudgets]

Girl, you put so much in words that I couldn't find the words for myself and my experience. Especially when you spoke about how you showed up in your past and that people may only know you as that past version of yourself. That one hit me so hard. I wish I could go back and adjust how I showed up in MANY situations. I can't change my past, but I can do better now and in the future... that I can and will do.

[@sadiyaibrahim8574]

Love this so much. So relatable, this is your calling don’t stop pls👏🏽💫

[@RiriLove88]

Thank you! I cried listening to this. I’ve been ruminating on past mistakes. I was also dwelling on the hurt others caused me specifically with a past lover, to the point I wanted to speak my piece about the situation although it happened 11 years ago. I thought I already let this go. It was so random and I didn’t realize how impacted I was by it. I guess I never dealt with my emotions regarding this situation so I had to work through that. I was struggling to let it go and forgive myself for it as well as forgive them but you gave me great perspective. I really appreciate this video and it was such perfect timing. 🙏🏽💗💕

[@TiffanyTV]

🥹🫂 sending you so much love mama

[@RiriLove88]

@@TiffanyTV Thank you ❤️

[@geegee27]

Thank you for sharing ❤I needed this so badly.

[@rdaliz]

This hit home. I'm speechless.

[@HiddenObjectsFoundSubjects]

Thank you for this wisdoms ❤ definitely needed it today ✨

[@vivianbell205]

So Happy to see a new video... Ive Been binge watching all week. You are the best. ❤

[@afernandez0183]

This whole video is powerful. Thank you for posting/sharing.💕

[@ChiamakaUkoha]

girl...... This resonated with me so much. You are a blessing to this world, just know you are helping so many people.

[@Ms.DeLisM]

I’ve been living by this philosophy for a while know so it’s refreshing to hear you encourage others to do it too! Thank you for sharing! 😊

[@RiecesPeace]

Thank you for sharing! This is gold. You being proud of you is like no other feeling indeed. Resonated perfectly this way - thanks again 🙏🏽

[@NaturalButterfly94]

Wow. It’s not a mistake that I followed you randomly one day & am now seeing this video. This message is TIMELY. Thank God for using you to get this message to us ♥️

[@rhondahud88]

Tiffany, you did your big one with this video! Thank you for this ❤

[@joannaherrera8065]

I really need this. Thank for sharing.

[@xylaroyals9030]

I love Tiffany she really be caring not just talking

[@Dass1996]

Your videos always come at the right time. I really needed this. Thank you. ❤

[@consapevolmente_te]

Thank you Tiffany !You are wise and the world needs your words.

[@Beautifultome1221]

Wow I’ve been in hermit mode healing .. and you helped me realize I was attracted to people who I felt like I could or or needed it the most this video helped me so much !

[@BehindtheSceneswithCi]

I resonate with this so much like you mentioned I had only showed myself in a survival state and I’m now starting to really blossom into who I’ve always been and I’m very grateful for the path that have led me to this moment ❤

[@JadeLeanneMusic]

I needed this video! I relate heavy to this thank you for putting this out

[@millym9414]

This is EXACTLY what I needed in this very moment…you spoke what I needed to hear…Thank you 🙏

[@FruitofMyBranches]

This is so good & I absolutely needed it…Thank you 💜

[@amrzlack3506]

Wow I needed this, you are powerful ❤ thank you love your content.

[@audacein5063]

Thank you❤we are so connected. That’s what I am working on !

[@JazUpMyStyle]

Yooo the way this spoke to my SOUL .:. Like my WHOLE SOUL! You talked about not caring about random people not seeing you for who you truly are and know how much you changed but what if it’s a family member that you love dearly? I’m working so hard on being okay with being content with who I am with the hope that those I love will see.

[@MannerofMagi007]

It’s true the insidious distraction of performing for haters will highjack your goals… especially budget for investment. I remember the times I was always overspending and dressed to the nines it was because I knew I would be working around haters or visiting hater family members. They want to use status to hold it over your head. Just be yourself. It’s the most personally enriching thing you can ever do! Much more empowering to attract those that truly like and want the best for YOU. The real YOU.

[@michellepereda9916]

That is amazing and definitely what i needed to hear!

[@ramonalisa4187]

WHEWWW! This video hits home on soooo many levels

[@taerobinson3965]

You have no idea how much your video has helped me. You have no idea 😢

[@TiffanyTV]

🥹🫂

[@laurynfolker5136]

Thank you for the content you produce it is so insightful and done with such passion. Your videos have pushed me to make necessary changes in my life that have brought so much peace in my life ❤ thanks for being you !

[@AlwaysSpoilt]

Thank you for this video - I was just having this thought to myself about an hour ago, as I shine myself through divorce, thrive and sparkle like never before, but I do worry that I’m partially doing it for the other party to regret treating me as they did and I don’t want any change to be seeking validation, and then I see this video…when it’s meant to be seen it will appear ❤❤

[@onthisjoyride]

This video was is so helpful, clear & right on time! Thank you so much love! 💛🫶🏻

[@luxurylivingwithkelly]

I remember a situation (25:00) where I had someone cut into me so deep where I struggle to hold back the tears and not give it back to them. But I remembered the work I’ve done and the amount of anger this person displayed after 10 years couldn’t possibly be about me. I listened and said good night at the end. It actually a couple days to gather my self and thoughts and I moved on. Thanks for this video and the work you’re doing. 🙏🏾

[@Nn-db6tw]

I literally have goosebumps, I feel like this video was made specifically for me. The way you touched on everything I’m going through currently, I know for sure that God is real. I attracted this video into my life and walking away with a breath of fresh air feeling. New insight. Thannnnnnkkkkk you so much for this. Thank you for showing up like this, so genuine ❤

[@-Marshy-725]

Right, I feel so seen in this and I've been searching for what's been going on around me lately so glad God delivered this in time. Really gives me a breather ❤

[@liciakeshunna]

THISSS, is the message i have been looking for! thank you so much for helping me come to a realization that it’s okay to not be perfect all the time❤

[@Daisysbasic]

Thank you so much for this video Tiffany it was very helpful and inspiring, and sometimes we do feel like we need validation from others to love ourselves. And sometimes we have to just listen to ourselves. 💗

[@Naty-qr4bg]

This channel is a breath of fresh air 🧘‍♀️🙏✨️

[@Tx_Nay]

🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 You really have perfect timing.

[@maggsfedrick3115]

I needed this. Thank you ❤

[@Zhane_la]

I needed to hear this message. I even took notes! 🤍Thank you so much for sharing.

[@InTheKnowwithCass]

Recently got my "On Purpose" sweatshirt in the mail and by the way you and your mom are gorgeous. I literally said "they are beautiful" out loud.

[@reneew06294]

Thank you for this video! I definitely needed to hear every word. This felt like a friend speaking to me. I love your videos 🩷

[@jamielianne]

Loved this ❤ replayed it twice xx

[@user-wp3it7ww4b]

You are absolutely my favorite KZbinr. You have so many points that had me life - damn I’m guilty of this lol. Thank you so much for your insight.

[@missaquarius8363]

I am so happy that this video was suggested because I struggle with beating myself up for who I was while in survival mode.

[@poshposh7609]

Looved this ❤Thank you.

[@turquoiselangston8543]

This message was for me. Thank you!

[@beautyfrmwithin]

Ma’am!!! When you said you were trying to fix the people AND the revelation of you trying to fix something in yourself (that was a Gasp)! I was/am on a similar path of healing, learning, growing, loving, and accepting. We are enough. This video is a word. ❤

[@rushmoreweingar7339]

This is such legit advice thank you

[@anna_wairimu]

i love you thankyou for your light😍

[@Iambellarayne]

This came up in perfect timing for me. I've been wanting to myself out there more but struggle with not being as "cool." Trying to not come as "too much" or "too prissy." I am in the position to be able to have things a certain way for myself, and that's okay, at least in my personal space. ❤

[@jhaslett03]

Thank you for this amazing message ❤ 🎉

[@MsNikki35]

Thanks i needed this especially for a Monday

[@nanaadjoaboamah1019]

Thank you very much, this video helped a lot.

[@kimonatomlin9825]

@Tiffany Tv always speaking what is synchronizing with my thoughts. Thank you for always sharing your wisdom. It is very nice to know that I am not alone!

[@sabrellelewis9167]

This was great! Spot on!

[@rachaeladol7688]

Thank you, Tiff❤❤❤❤

[@tiffanyrobinson4719]

Tiffany, you are in my head more than I like😒🤔You have truly touched on where I have been for a while now and it is a internal struggle but I'm working thru it!

[@thecassandrahenderson]

This is the one ☝🏾sis! Thank you 🙏🏾

[@truelivingp]

I loved this video so much. I spend so much time replaying my past mistakes and wondering what others think of me and if I’m making my parents proud. But I’m ready to start living for me. Truly showing up for myself and making myself proud. I saw this question floating around on Instagram “Do you actually want it or do you just want others to see that you have it?” And it’s make me go back and reevaluate some of thing goals I’ve set for myself. I think sometimes I strive to do things just to make others proud. But here’s to giving myself grace and living for me ❤ Your videos have helped me so much, that you for being for authentic

[@reemshaaban6023]

Same,I'm only 20 years old and I made a big mistake from almost a year ago.You see I don't go out and communicate with people that often so one day a veryyy hurtful situation happened to me and started laughing and smiling like a stupid person and something else happened but all i'm gonna say is that looking back i find it EXTREMELY offensive.And now I think about that over and over and over and over again.I can't help but cry everyday bcz i still go to this place bcz i'm dead serious about learning.Although ppl changed and now they respect me there so much and love me and even clap for me but i constantly think about what happened and i feel like i just can't forgive myself bcz i feel like i lost my self worth infront of these people back then.can you give me some advice please bcz i know that they don't think about what happened as much as i do and i know that i can't change the past please i'm tired of repeating the same scenario over and over in my mind 24/7.I can't and won't ever tell my parents bcz i don't want them to judge me also i'm so ashamed to talk about what happened.i don't want to be depressed anymore i want to be happy

[@reemshaaban6023]

If i stop going there now it's pointless because almost a year have passed now like i should have removed myself back then but now it's too late so yeah i prefer to go,learn self-defense bcz ot has ALWAYS been my dream to do that and try to ignore what happened even if it hurts me everytime

[@twonrichpo1126]

So relatable. So deep. So real. Thanks Tiff.

[@TiffanyTV]

🥹 my pleasure

[@siphofati]

Thnx, I watch your channel🙂🙌🏾

[@Modelmodel4]

Gworrrlll! 😢😮The way you spoke my life EXACTLY in parts of this video!!!!!🙌🏽 Please continue doing God’s work! Absolutely amazing🤗🙏🏽

[@shanaesmith112]

Congrats on 100k!

[@TiffanyTV]

thank you!!

[@myrafiacco306]

Mmmmmm you helped heal a part of me today. Thank you for your words 💕

[@TiffanyTV]

🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@michellebrown572]

I needed to hear this

[@sanotaparks]

Omg New Subscriber here 🙋🏾‍♀️!! Wow, when I say this video was God sent, I so needed to be reminded of this. Girl everything you said I agree 💯!! I pray you are blessed pretty lady and I'm sooo happy I stumbled across this video!! ❤️🙏🏾

[@TiffanyTV]

received girl 😌 welcome to the familyyyy!

[@tiannaannenicole]

This is so good ❤

[@UndressWithEmpress]

Only God alone must of bought me to this video because I was scrolling looking for any vid to pass the time whilst I cooked but this was perfect. I’ve been a people pleaser and found myself in cycles where I felt always like a victim but I was contributing to it and accountability is everything I’m still learning. It’s ok to be human and trying to prove yourself is really not it. Thankyou so much resonated

[@annalisarossi9584]

I needed this

[@LynAllure]

Such a beautiful, refreshing conversation! New subbie 🙋🏾‍♀️💕🥂

[@bonemonroe]

I love listening to you. ❤❤

[@essence____beauty_92]

Yes yes this is it right here ❤❤❤❤thank you 💁🏽‍♀️💁🏽‍♀️💯💯

[@melaniewolf7244]

love this