How To Gain and Maintain Self-Esteem- The Key To Overcoming Dating Drama and Remaining Confident

[@jnc3880]

Dating is hell. There are too many options with all the dating apps and the current technological advancements. Ghosting is 100% guaranteed. There are land mines EVERYWHERE! We become overly picky and superficial and then factor in when the honeymoon phase bubble pops….and the cycle repeats. These issues are amplified tenfold in the gay community (I happen to be gay). I also forgot to mention non-monogamy and the rampant bread-crumbing and collecting of potential backups (ugh). I’m completely jaded and feel much safer (and more SANE) SINGLE. I’ve redirected that focus/energy on myself for personal growth and hope to become the best and most elevated version. As you can tell, I’ve been through it. When something special comes along, cherish it because that only happens once or twice in one’s lifetime.

[@SusanWinter]

J NC, there is nothing wrong with being single if your experience has been horrific. I think it's wise to take a time out or even create a life choice that works for you where you are your own partner. Single by choice is a huge category that is evolving because people such as yourself have just become so fed up and tired with the nonsense, that they fall in love with their own lives.

[@ButchersNailsEnjoyer]

To me it feels like a job interview more than a normal conversation or being on the same emotional level. Like you’re trying not to slip up or say the wrong thing cuz just like job interviews, you’re probably not the only one going for it and there’s more than likely someone better than you so at a certain point your could be explaining why they dont want you without knowing it

[@stephenn77]

Also, it’s important to remember that if someone chooses to walk away from a relationship it’s really on them! If they’re unwilling to work things out, talk things through and meet in the middle somewhere it’s really a reflection of them! I’m tired of feeling bad over people who exist in a paradigm of throwing things (and people) away! The people that truly care for you will stay!!

[@SusanWinter]

Yes and yes!

[@mariad1151]

Smartest woman on KZbin! Keep on keeping on, Susan. You're head & shoulders above the rest.👍

[@SusanWinter]

Aww shucks! What a compliment! Thank you!

[@mariad1151]

@@SusanWinter 😘 no joke.... so smart 🤓

[@Iris11music]

... You have helped me coming back to myself. I can't thank you enough Susan.

[@Diabeteslovewithdee]

Dear Susan, This is exactly what I needed to hear today! Thank You! I have been working on becoming the best version of myself. I can only do this during my solitude when I have time to think and self reflect. You are so right! Twin Flames relationship often doesn’t work out. I believe my twin has left me for good this time. He has packed all his clothes and poof, gone. This is okay. I have learned to better communicate my needs and set healthy boundaries for myself. I need peace, freedom and contentment. I need my partner to accept me for who I am. I am now fearless because I’ve been afraid. Thank you again Susan for being the BEST relationship coach out there. You have no idea how many millions of people you have saved them from mental suffering with the modern life dating.

[@SusanWinter]

This makes me so happy to read. Thank you for your excellent commentary!

[@jeanp.1303]

Yes!! Self esteem starts from the best version of yourself.

[@SusanWinter]

JEAN P!!!!!! WE LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@E_Tea]

"I'd love to be the person I wished I've met here in this life" 💖 Oooh this is so beautiful Susan! I recently started to paint again, haven't done this in around 15 years. Felt like myself again 💛 Helping animals gives me the same feeling 🐱🐶💛

[@SusanWinter]

Hello dear ET! It’s always great to hear from you and see how involved you are with Gwyneth and Bea. I truly enjoyed meeting you in Munich and I’m happy to hear that you’re enjoying yourself painting and helping animals. Two beautiful expressions of love.

[@E_Tea]

@@SusanWinter Arwwww, I keep the day we all met close to my heart, Susan 💜 Bea & Gwyneth are gonna visit me this month, I can't wait 🌻

[@rinishan]

I'm so happy to be myself these days. I've invested a lot of time on becoming a better person, not just for others but also for myself. I'm a much kinder friend to myself these days. Thank you Susan for helping me on my way to liking myself more ❤ your videos are amazing!

[@SusanWinter]

ohhhh. I love your commentary. Thank you for this inspiring message!!

[@GuineaPigReviews]

My mother always says there's no sense of accomplishment anymore. As usual, you're on it!

[@sarahillingworth9257]

These videos have a positive impact on me in lots of ways but this one hits home truly. Thank you Susan!!

[@miyhanii3735]

i have a habit of feeling as if i need someone to pass time so i don’t feel lonely and im going to change that . thank you susan !

[@perfboi69]

I am from Perth, Australia and gay. Your videos resonate with me so much, as I have been going through some heartbreak for the last 6 or more months. Thank you so much ❤ I have doubted my self worth so much during this period.

[@d33an14]

love you so much for putting this out into the world, Susan! it is by fate that i have stumbled upon the goldmine that your channel is. sending you loads of love and wishes on behalf of all of the lives you've helped change through what may seem pretty mundane. thank you!

[@stacyfelton5588]

please can you do some more videos on this kind of topic. I have just finished at a really bad job that I had. Managed to get myself another job role and I still feel that it has knocked my confidence with the people/bullying/bad atmosphere there was.

[@SusanWinter]

Stacy. that will happen naturally. Now that you know what you don't want, you will be choosing only those jobs with a nice environment and warm people!

[@ShawnaNowaMedium]

Thank you Susan learning that myself worth comes from myself! More of these videos of self love would be appreciated ❤

[@batoolh9457]

so appreciative of you, thank you x

[@BryanPablo6270]

Love receiving your weekly points Susan ❤❤

[@SusanWinter]

Bryan!! hello dear man. Thank you for that great comment. And thank you for being such a positive supporter and kind human being.

[@genevaelyse1918]

Thank you, I needed that. You always give me and for sure many other people good vibes.❤

[@SusanWinter]

This is fantastic to read. I am sending you tons of positive vibes today, and I hope you feel them resonating through you where ever you are in this world.❤❤❤

[@blissbased]

You are wonderful, Susan!

[@NadiaPanettieriOz]

That was brilliantly said!! Thank you Susan and perfect timing 🙏

[@SusanWinter]

Oh, I love it when that happens. Synchronicity is so beautiful. Thank you for your note.

[@PinkHypatia]

This is so true and very helpful. Thank you.

[@SusanWinter]

I’m pleased to read this. Thank you so much for your comment.

[@TofuTeo]

I needed this, thank you :')

[@catherinegardener9511]

Oh my gosh Susan Thank you so much❤

[@SusanWinter]

You’re welcome!!

[@paredescax]

What a beautiful piece of advice a life coach could give, Susan! ❤ So thoughtful of you to share this with all of us walking life on our own while healing and struggling to become better ourselves. This one really hit home!

[@SusanWinter]

Carlos, I’m thrilled to read your comment. Thank you for this. I’m so happy that it resonated for you.

[@MadawaskaObservatory]

this is really good susan. fantastic

[@SusanWinter]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@elizabethmccaul2223]

I like to think of it as "healthy " esteem. Think of it as...less than & better than. Neither is healthy.

[@elizabethmccaul2223]

There's a big difference between outer esteem and inner esteem.

[@petervanderlind]

Great video 🎉

[@SusanWinter]

Thank you, Peter!

[@rachelmoore5079]

Amazing thank you ❤

[@tjsharpgirl8060]

Thank You

[@SusanWinter]

🤗

[@jollymollyramram9702]

Hmm🤔Maybe I’m missing something but I completely disagree. I’ve always thought you gain confidence by achieving goals etc but that self esteem is much deeper and harder to rock, no matter your external world. To me a healthy self esteem is knowing you’re alright - even without degrees etc. It’s accepting that you make mistakes, not comparing yourself to others, treating your body well, setting boundaries to name some. To me that’s self esteem because it’s not dependent on “doing” and if it is then it’s about doing inner work - not reaching outside yourself to feel good. That’s just what I’ve always believed😊

[@sarahillingworth9257]

I agree, the things you've mentioned are paramount to self esteem but going through challenging times and overcoming them also supports self esteem like you know you can cope with difficult situations.

[@lyndamcmullen5506]

❤❤❤

[@SusanWinter]

HI LYNDA!!

[@vikashbhawani8112]

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[@vikashbhawani8112]

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[@aliciav63]

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