How To Get In Your Ex's Head

[@sesenwingtips]

"... They don't deserve the details of your emotions." I needed to hear that. Thanks Coach Lee!

[@christopherlanders1931]

Yes! I loved that!

[@itz_a_beautiful_life4075]

Yessss i needed to hear that too

[@rociotorres8541]

Too late :(

[@LabradoodleTofuBoy]

it's ok for them to put you through shit & then ask that. The more space I gave him, the more clarity I have actually.

[@jessicahume680]

❤

[@Marvin_TheGreat]

When you feel like you are going through something painful in life all alone remember that there are millions of us just like you 💯

[@stevedavetas1059]

This just brought me to tears!

[@shuntaepickett]

Amen

[@LorieThornton72]

That’s right!

[@shivamthakur8148]

So true

[@tammycain8421]

Marvin what a genuinely kind thing to say

[@rw1557]

If you listen to this man I can promise you that things will play out exactly like he says. It might not be in the timeline that you want but it will happen. When my ex started making movement towards me I was so done and over her I realized I never would want her back. Whether the person comes back to you or not, you will heal. And that's what coach Lee helps you do, heal and get your self-respect back.

[@sunjoy6858]

But that can not works if he start new relation? I think thats over for good than.

[@lutaayam]

@@sunjoy6858 anything is possible

[@normanperry4336]

Sometimes it takes time just believing and moving forward you will be better just give it time

[@user-cv2hh2gf8g]

Got betrayed , after 3 year of his promises , horrible traumatic time ! And plus a got all the blame! Can't deal with cowards, and we work together! recently he wanted to be friends !! no thank you , too his friendship, , I am walking away now , and not looking back, and I don't want him back, good luck everyone 👍

[@myrthehens7266]

Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together????

[@bakwoludovic117]

This man’s videos are like martial art. The more you’re into it, the more you forget about the pain.

[@Nyumc99]

Only if you entered the relationship/ dojo, as a voluntary participant versus a naieve participant. The two look similar. The devil is in the details 👌

[@elizasimon4112]

I cannot agree more…….

[@outroseok]

if I didn’t find coach lee’s channel I would literally be crying myself to sleep every night, his videos are so therapeutic.

[@toddschaefer1884]

Keep your chin up… you’ve got this!!

[@karenjohnson5976]

Kept me from doing something psycho I'm sure!!!

[@Praaaise]

How do you feel now?

[@Dj-vu2vu]

So helpful!

[@maciekk3452]

Notes for the ones that have seen the video: 1. 0:17 - Give them the break up! (Don’t chase them. No contact, meaning you are not contacting them but you answer politely if they contact them) 2. Control the momentum ( when your ex starts to run away, stop chasing them, don’t look obsessed , the other way around, if they reach out , match their energy, don’t be over enthusiastic , show reserve when they ask about you missing them etc. ) 3. 10:15 - don’t be angry, anger shows pain, people instinctively know that. Focus on the good in your life. Your ex is probably not a bad person, the breakup wasn’t to hurt you, 4. 13:32 - don’t fix it for them, they could try to bait you to ask to get back together, don’t! They messed it up, they should to do it. If they are not willing, they are not ready, they still have a lot of ego . Doesn’t mean you can’t ask the out for coffee if they keep reaching out etc. just don’t do the hard part for them ) 5. 17:21 - don’t rush. It deals with attraction details, so if you are rushing you will act as they are much more attractive. Also if they ask to get back together, don’t just accept it straight away, say something like, I’m open to it but I want to take things one day at the time, it’s self respect and you should be cautious as they broke up with you before!

[@fj4731]

#4 alot more are said at the end where ex will break up again ...I dont understand

[@ejmalik3993]

I am currently in no contact with my Ex! We are in the same circle of Friends! So how should I approach this situation? Should I stay away while in no contact or still see my friends with my SP and act as if nothing is happening and show no emotion? I dont know exactly what to do. TIA

[@viktor2915]

I did everything wrong it seems, but I did absolutely zero contact for 2-3 months now and she started unblocking me to watch my stories quite often. I just hope I didnt mess up too much in the beginning

[@dm904]

​@@viktor2915good news

[@lubnatafzeel4613]

@@ejmalik3993don’t approach stay in no contact, happened with me aswell, i had only those friends at that time, and it was hard, but my friends did make plans accordingly one person at a time like one weekend they made plans with me and the next weekend with him, and no discussions about him with me,after a certain time when we moved on after 6-7 years we started getting along with each other with the same group and with each ithers partners as well so don’t do it don’t make plans with your friends when your ex is around, give yourself time to heal and grieve, feel what you wanna feel, cry let your heart out but just don’t break the no contact, it’s the best for now

[@stevedavetas1059]

Reality is that no one that puts us through this misery deserves our time ever again!

[@curiousc9259]

Yet I keep giving it 🥺

[@DanielDiaz-mk1hs]

But you gotta remember as well , the misery you put them through, I’ve been dumped and I’ve been the dumper as well and sometimes when you’re the dumper you tried everything to not brake up and some people don’t realize what we have until it’s gone and it helps a lot to break up

[@linahfinegirl]

Thats true

[@sunrise7244]

That’s exactly how I feel however I feel that if my ex comes to a point of realizing that he really wants to get back together I would keep the family unity for our son

[@Pinhigh1982]

Anybody reading this, please know that it does in fact get easier. I was with my girl for 16 years, she left me on Christmas Eve of all days. I was absolutely crushed in every way. Without a doubt it was the toughest time of my life. I used the opportunity to work on myself, I am able to say I’m extremely proud of the person I’ve become and I honestly don’t want her back. YOU WILL MAKE IT THROUGH THIS. One day at a time guys, you’ve got this.

[@noelcorlett4893]

May I ask how old u are Iam 40 with gf for 7 years left me the same day and Iam still devastated thanks

[@Pinhigh1982]

@@noelcorlett4893 I’m 40 also, devastated sums it up. The best thing u can do is focus on yourself and give her space. I promise it gets better. Do not give up on yourself, you’ll be pleasantly surprised what you can achieve in the face of adversity. Reach out to me if you need someone🤘

[@noelcorlett4893]

@ThisChris thanks man she hates me she said I did everything ur not supposed to do begging constant texts etc hate my self for that felt has if she was the one but her loss I guess just so hard to move on I have a anxious attachment dislike alone time etc have to work on that all my family are 13 hr away to which I never see them. Makes it harder to

[@applesnicolle5144]

@@noelcorlett4893 / 🌷🔆Hang on NOEL! It’ll get so much better once 2 months go by on NC - Work on your spiritual life…

[@kiavang8658]

Thx

No contact works. My ex dumped me, kicked me out of our apartment, and found a new guy Instantly. I stopped talking to her, got shredded, and she’s called me 3 nights in a row crying and pleading to see me. I casually told her that when the moment is right, we’ll see each other soon enough. Wow I can’t believe this worked because it was so hard. Also, at this point I’m totally okay never getting back together so it’s like a win-win.

[@julzb6409]

I hope you never went back to her. Good for you brother 👍👍

[@layla7497]

That’s awesome good for you!!!! how long did it take ?

@@layla7497 3 weeks no contact, then talking 1-2 times a week when she messaged me after for anothe couple weeks. Meanwhile I was seeing another girl (I didn't love the new girl, just enjoyed our time) and my ex sensed it.. So after 7 weeks total she had her birthday and I surprised her and she confessed she still loved me and missed me and we've been together since last June and never been better. Those weeks o fno contact were hard.

[@nicksamuel8324]

I'm not even desperate to get her back, I just love how comforting this man is lol

[@RealCoachLee]

Nick, thank you for your kind words. I have another channel that is about overcoming anxiety. It’s at youtube.com/@AnxietyPeace

[@Jarr25395]

No matter how much I wanted her back, I know it won't work anymore. I'm gonna enjoy my life with or without her

[@GH-xq4lp]

I'm currently on 60 days no contact after a ten year relationship where I got dumped and heartbroken. And its still hard everyday, and at times your videos were the only thing that kept me going. Every time I feel like I wanna contact her and feel bad, I watch one of your videos to get me back on track. I know that one day I will get completely over them, and they might contact me, even though its not today... Thanks Coach Lee ❤️

[@dpwood420]

I going through it to man, mine left 3 months ago after 14yrs together, we have a 12yr old daughter. She got into a rebound basically the next day. I went modified no contact cause we have a kid so I couldn't not speak to her at all. For the past couple weeks she's been contacting me everyday, she's asking me if I'm dating, had sex with anyone, if the chick I went on a date with was getting serious, she was asking all kinda shit 😆. All she's taken from the house is some cloths and shoes, all her stuff is still in my name, car, car insurance, cell phone, she gets pissed of I bring up changing everything over to her name. It's like she's doesn't know what she wants.

[@rana.5655]

@@dpwood420 Take it easy, take it slow. Don't be angry or emotional.

[@owen3937]

@@dpwood420 You say she got into a rebound the next day after the break up could it be that she was already seeing the rebound guy while you were together?

[@elenavobornik7060]

i know is hard, my heart is broken, i thought he was the one too, im still dealing with this, and coach Lee is helping me, the think is if he left me, why i want him back, theres a lot of men for me to find, and i know that. but for now, i feel that i need to heal and love myself.😊

[@celtekrider2]

For all of you please listen to me closely. DO NOT CHASE, CALL, CONTACT THEM. OR YOU WILL LOSE THEM FOREVER. THE MORE YOU MOVE ON, THE CLOSER THEY WILL COME BACK. IT IS THE ONLY FUCKING WAY! I WANT YOU TO GET THEM BACK SO FUCKING LISTEN TO ME!!!!! IM 2 YEARS IN TRY8MG TO FIND WHO I AM STILL BECAUSE I MADE ALL THE WRONG MOVES AND I SUFFER AND LIVE IN THE PAST ALL BECAUSE I CHASED HER OUT OF MY LIFE. THE PUZZLE MADE SENSE LATER AND NOW I KNOW FOR A FACT I MESSED IT UP! .... I'm 33, i beg you don't end up like me. Because I don't want to hurt anymore.

[@phishphood423]

You gotta determine where that anger is coming from. Anger can be a response to hurt, but it can also be a response do having your dignity crushed. This is why reflecting and introspection is so key. If you realize that you’re livid because of how they belittled you or how they hurt you during the breakup, then it’s a good sign that you probably should stay far, far away. Let that anger fuel your initial recovery and push you to take care of yourself. If it’s just anger to cover up the sad, process it and let it fade.

[@moniquelampkin7212]

Agree Phish to a degree we need to acknowledge internally how we may feel; anger is a natural emotion which must be managed (control) regardless of the EX. I feel we need to be honest with ourselves; may need time to heal and process the anger and not downplay or deny. Perhaps we should let them know we are disappointed. Dr. Lee I agree its also about timing (momentum,pace) I just do not want to be a imposter. Contingencies may need to be added " one day at a time."

[@starttakinnotez]

My ex cheated on me 4 days ago. I asked her if she would rather be with that person. She said yes. I said "okay thank you for telling me. I want you to be happy so go ahead and be with that person". Two days later she comes back telling me that person didn't want anything serious and that she seriously fucked up and is sorry. She is trying to make me her back up plan. Shit is hilarious. I told her I was done because it's the second time she has done something like this. I told her she probably has more than bi polar disorder and to go see a psychiatrist and a therapist that can help her with the consistent narcissistic tendencies she displays. She got upset and blocked me in hopes I would chase after her. I'm absolutely done. SHE BELONGS TO THE STREETS!

[@elclassico0193]

You should’ve left after the first time

[@ceemorales3648]

It has been almost half a year since my ex and I broke up, she dumped me brutally, blocked me on everything lol, but I saved my dignity and never chased her again. Thank you very much for your inspiring videos @Coach Lee, your emergency break up kit also helped me a lot. I am in much better situation now. Truly, no contact and the power of silence is the best medicine to heal ourselves. :)

[@NomadUrpagi]

My man, ive been in nc here 2 years bro. Although she slowly keeps blocking unblocking me she is still bitter that she once madly madly loved me.

[@lexicon4u]

Did she come back?

[@frankyvilla7789]

I didnt save my dignity i chased her a little and she fully blocked me everywhere i’m doing no contact now but i’m scared highkey i really want this girl again

[@joshp146]

@@NomadUrpagi why did y’all break up ??

[@Crm.xcviii]

@@NomadUrpagi you need to do radio silence it’ll work that means disappear for awhile and make them think and reflect

[@bellaleenat6096]

Every video you make brings some new element. Even although there is some repetition, that just shows how true and important the facts that you say are. Plus, reinforcement drills the message in but also offers great comfort. You’re amazing Coach Lee!

[@vanilla9928]

Three weeks no contact I feel better, he breadcrumbed me and took me for granted. I deserve so much better than a guy playing these childish mind games and wanting his ego stroken.

[@carlafenwick709]

Yes 🙌 I’m in the same situation it’s been 2 weeks for me in no contact. And he’s the same took me for granted breadcrumbed me it’s there loss

[@oklahomaswangin5256]

You bring SO MUCH peace to so many people. I hope you know that, buddy. Thank you.

[@ef439]

If someone makes you wait and look at your phone every 3 seconds and you think its the only thing i need now that i can breathe ! that's the sign - you need to move on !

[@tercsi1]

not necessary to move on. Our grandparents or great grandparents the silent generation used to stay together for 50 and 65 years. People need to be patient

[@BjManberries]

Assign them their own ringtone and notification sound. Keeps you from being a slave to your phone.

[@amiahdasiah5872]

thank you for putting my head on straight. i wish i saw these videos when the breakup initially happened. but today is the day is stop and start worrying about me.

[@DeepakKumar-dt8zc]

His voice is soo soothing that alone enough to heal ur broken heart

[@shawneelawrence8667]

Talk is cheap !! Actions are not! Love it

[@stevet3449]

My ex and I broke up 4 months ago. I started listening to coach Lee and his advise was right on. After 6 weeks of no contact. My ex contacted me to exchange belongings. Upon on meeting, I walked in and gave her a huge kiss. We've been happily together ever since. Listen to coach Lee he knows what he's talking about. Thanks so much Coach.

[@terael5637]

Bold strat, I'll try that if I ever see her again, wish me luck!

[@stevet3449]

@@terael5637 Hang tough man. If she doesn't come back to you , you will have retained your dignity and will have already started to "move on".

[@stevet3449]

@@terael5637 Keep watching the Coach's videos, stay busy, exercise a ton, sign up for Match , buy some new clothes to make yourself as attractive as possible, get a break up buddy and you'll be fine. Believe me, I've been where you are now several times it's no fun but loosing your dignity is 100 times worse. Good luck

[@terael5637]

@@stevet3449 Thanks for the advice! That's what I've been doing so far, it's not easy but as you said losing one's dignity is way worse than to lose someone else. Wish you all the best, Steve!

[@shandy41709]

I hope that happeneds. He's gone 're bound. Just hope he comes back x

[@UstashaMe84]

Also remember for my bros going through it at the moment. When a girl tells you who she is, you damn well pay attention. Don’t try to change someone that doesn’t want to be changed. If it seems like a bad idea, run away. Yeah I’m going through it myself but she played so many mind games I could just care now. I made the mistake of losing my composure and putting her ego way up in the clouds, which you should never do. She came at me first so I should have remembered that and stayed cool and collected. Onward and upwards fellas. I’m taking my value back with both hands.

[@winfield841]

He knows exactly what he’s talking about! Every point. For the person who instigated the breakup to think that someone should want to reach out or send gifts etc to get them back is so egotistical.after When they realize that you won’t do that, you instantly become more attractive & valuable in their eyes and they sink back down from their temporary pedestal. You can’t seem mad when they call, be cheerful and calm. That will eat them up inside, and will be more receptive to your demands moving forward. The power shifts.

[@ShellyStarTan]

Thank you coach lee ❤I will get back my Mr Lee to me for not temporary because of you’re advice I know and prepared now when the time comes they test the water. Even there are around if they’re not fully ready yet I will not give in because I will be the biggest lesson they ever had in their life and yes I’m already are because I’m there twin flame but it will be mind blowing to them when they try me. They will said to themselves, I had a huge mistake by giving up on me and will never fucking repeat it because it’s better Il be patient and be disciplined rather than to do it all over again. I have the key now and the balls are turning around. Nobody’s can mess up with me especially if I have offer you all my soul and heart and loyalty.

[@marislee3941]

I just found your readings and have already listened to two of them plus this one twice!! I’m a teacher, & I’m thinking this is more than coaching…you’re an incredibly intuitive insightful therapist!! I’m taking notes about about a lifetime flame w/a huge ego, & in & out of my life. I gave enough to this relationship for a lifetime & always only got breadcrumbs & being juggled. I finally went into hermit mode-silent last fall. No animosity, just quiet, to recalibrate my boundaries. This connection goes all the waaaay back to high school. And we’re sooo much older now. I hope to sit down & speak w/him when I’m in town. I care, I’ll listen & hope he’s made some changes. Now I found your channel, & again taking notes. THANK YOU for these thoughtful words & meaningful messages.

[@Jason-im3mf]

If your goal is to "get in their head" you are already losing as you are allowing them to still be a focus in your thoughts. The best thing one can do is to focus on their own growth thru ACTIONS. Don't THINK and instead ACT, ACT, ACT toward your happiness. Workout, develop new social groups, date, whatever. Just keep busy. With time the mind's thoughts will be focused on the results your actions are producing and replace the thoughts of the ex.

[@kyjack3721]

Honestly, Coach Lee. You are a God send. Everything you say makes sense. This is the Class I needed to take and study. You have helped me understand So much.

[@nv9767]

No contact works trust the process.. It took 3 weeks of not contact and he reached out and now we are back on talking terms Most importantly focus on your self yes it is nice to have the loved one back but also remember that you are important and need love and work too!

[@victoriadaoana3055]

Pride is what's in their heart and mind.Give them the moral lesson.Give them what they want and deserve.These kinds of people are immature and love attention( attention difficiency).

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Victoria, I believe they CRAVE attention, and are like grown children. Their upbringing is what makes them what they are. My ex narc was spoiled rotten! He got anything he wanted, and if not, he would rant and rave. Also, did you notice they rarely if ever, compliment you? I was with him for 5 years and I can count 3 compliments he gave me in all that time. Complimenting you TAKES AWAY FROM THEM! I am so glad I escaped him over 11.8 years ago. They don't LOVE you! They USE you. They ask you to marry them, when they have no intentions of getting married. Finally, RUN from them. Follow your GUT feeling bcse it never lies to you. Take care of yourself! ⚘️

[@ilir4186]

​@@jannlewandowski5540 think ur the narc

[@ghassenbelaoun5565]

Advice from experience: don’t go back to your ex, work on yourself for 6 months and trust me she or he will beg you to comeback, but don’t do it she or he will change his mind after period if u agree, so only time and change will heal you, and u will feel free after u change ur self, u will know what u are looking for and meet someone who love you

[@jannlewandowski5540]

ghassen, I understand what you are saying. Sometimes the 2nd time around doesn't work. Trust is lost, feelings change, and love is NOT the same. Other times, it works out better. You never know. Good luck to you..⚘️

[@jaydub7386]

Silence is golden. I'm in my 3rd month. I am working on appreciating the good in my life. I can't control anyone but me. I'll watch Coach Lee or Coach Ken when I doubt the power I have using no-contact.

[@marguskiis7711]

I can drink and do drugs, the friends of a lonely man.

[@lidyatheauditor57]

My ex blocked me 3 weeks ago. This morning when I wake up, I saw a message from him. Thank you Coach Lee all the advices. You are super!

[@TEUTONIC__ORDER699]

Lidya 3 weeks? I blocked my ex for al week after an Argument and she already was sleeping with another guy

[@SirValeous]

Why did they block you? Were you begging?

[@kelisrobinsonmalcolm7853]

@@SirValeous I was

[@beverlybarter8452]

My ex broke up with me. Day before telling me he loves me, making plans. 24 hrs later, breaks up no reason given and blocked me within the hour.??

[@joannegregory3024]

I m sorry if someone doesnt want you let them go, never ever beg or give someone the satisfaction of seeing they’ve got to you

[@teem5945]

Probably one of the best videos of Coach Lee I've ever watched. Thank you so much for being a voice of hope to the broken hearted.

[@marymccormack2317]

A guy told me the relationship wasn't working. I said thank u 4 ur honesty and he got got angry with me he probably wanted me to plead with. 😂

[@skincarerainbow4950]

That's the spirit 😂

[@Pepsiisgood]

You should write a story book cause the way you play with the words makes me feel comfortable.

[@Elise_1704]

5 days into NC and my mood has been up and down. Tonight i feel so down. Missing him so much. He is not posting in social media at all or he hides me idk. Please pray that he’ll come back 🙏🏻💪🏻 i miss him so much, i just know he is the man for me

[@yuvanshi2171]

Did he come back?

[@st6887]

In one of your videos you said “they feel the pain you are feeling now, later.” You were right! After a year when I’m happily engaged to someone else she is back, but I can’t anymore. She is begging now. I feel very bad but it’s too late.

[@dinosauce8097]

Didn’t chase my ex and went into no contact , he reached out 3 times . The first time after 3 months, then 6 months, then 1 week after that. It works but I end up knowing my worth and walked away.

[@nitahudson5109]

Great analogy with the rolling ball; if you stop chasing, it will stop rolling. Then they will look behind them and realize you’re not chasing them - it’s a surprise.

[@user-tx8jt9qx9r]

It’s work for me, at first she said she wanted to break up and need to take a break from love but after one week she back. She called me and ask if I’m still single and she said she was really sad while she was away from me. And she says she sorry all she wanted to do was just playing around with me but the fact is that she found someone else while she broke up with me. After she came back to me and she said that she made a mistake for choosing otter than me and now she doesn’t know what to do to break up with the other person because she said she wants to be with me more. Thank you so much for your help, I was really sad at the start but after watching your video it heal my feelings a lot.

[@aminatacieri5623]

I just wanna say thank you to you Coach Lee. I did all those big mistakes such as begging and pleading but I went to NC when I came across your videos. After 3 months, my ex/husband reached out and we met for a lunch this week and want to get back together. he said he could not stop thinking of me and that he did not realize how much value I was adding to his life until I was gone. i was very sweet and confident, I'm going to move very slow just as you recommend in your Break-up kit!

[@layla7497]

My ex ended things a week ago, he’s already reached out twice! I let him go, didn’t argue and started no contact immediately. He’s begging for me, crawling back as we speak. He is going to earn a place in my life again!

[@marguskiis7711]

Thats the men do.

[@elizabethoeansky]

I’m on NC now with my ex while my ex ex reached out lol. What a wonderful life 😆

[@tamaramoni6767]

👌😅

[@affrobetty]

I know!! Me too. How does that happen??

[@jasonorent4371]

Same here. Was just dumped after 5 years. In the meantime an ex that dumped me 10 years ago reached out to me after she found out from her kids that I was single again. She and I dated for 10 years. She now says that she always thought that we would be together again someday. So right now I am really trying to process everything. Who I want to be with and what I need to do for myself. I never thought I would be in this situation.

[@ags835]

Same thing happened to me

[@ef439]

HOW MUCH TIME ? This is the question !? And the answer - when you have already suffered, you cried, you waited for every beep of a message that did not come… and you decided to move on... Then it will happen ! Too late …!

[@stevedavetas1059]

100% true and sad reality!!! That's how we get older, grayer and more mature.., going through coldness and harshness and heartlessness. Learning that we as people have the ability to make life better and happier, but unfortunately end up only hurting one another!!!

[@stevedavetas1059]

@@maryamabubakar8775 IRS scams got too old...?!?!

[@Candy_Mountain]

My ex was the one lying & betraying… so I broke up with him. Maybe one day he’ll realize that he had one of the few loyal ppl out there

[@marjiebayerapsay4454]

Same with me. Just broke up with him 5 days ago after I found out that his been fooling me for 5 months 😢. It's my day 1 of no contact. After all the pleading and bargaining. It's hard 😪 but good days will come ahead of me soon.

[@chazgeorgebatmanhotline7069]

Coach Lee, You can say what you want, you're a great salesman for Snickers. You're the best man.

[@katerynapoydyuk3925]

Coach Lee, you are so right and so wise. Very helpful tips on every subject! When someone takes you for granted, it’s never too late to turn things around and remind yourself how priceless you are! Keeping standards and healthy boundaries- is a MUST! At times it’s all about their ego, only ego, when they are suddenly so sweet and nice, and then……. Back to the cycle. SO AS SOON AS OUR BOUNDARIES ARE CROSSED- THATS IT.

[@brazilgrl571]

I know he’s not the one for me! I still care like crazy, but we’re not the best match. I know this logically! Emotionally, I’m still prepping my Cinderella castle for us! With coach Lee’s info, it calms all the emotional by tricking my brain that there’s still a chance. However, I know as time passes w/no contact I will likely only be lead by the logical and get over it. Essentially, setting myself up to be forever done! We all have our twisted rationale that works, right! Ty coach Lee ❤

[@leahritchie370]

I went on one date with a guy 4 years ago. We had fun and there was definitely a connection. We stayed in touch for a short time after that, but never had a second date. He just friend requested me today! We haven't spoken in 4 years and I am absolutely not interested now. If you had a genuine connection with someone I think it is rare and people don't forget about that! Guys circle back around at some point :)

[@doublea125]

Okay coach. Long story short: Reasonably concluded I was the one who broke things off (details are too long) and went back. She rejected me saying she never wanted me, but a friend of ours later said she didn't intend to say that, she just didn't know how to say she wasn't ready. So this is it, coach. I won't need to see anymore videos; she's not the ex, I am. All I need to do is wait for her to be ready and we can begin again. I am turning off notifications but will stay subscribed. Hopefully I won't need to come back here.

[@k.p.9701]

Yayyyy 😊 new video from the Coach. Gonna first workout and then watch and listen 😄

[@Lara-j3f]

The only good thing I got from my ex boyfriend , was my determination of losing 13 pound 😀. I was 138 when I met him on Feb/5/2023 now I am 126 Ib ! Yay 😃

[@robbillington1982]

Coach Corey Wayne - work on your purpose as a man and if you got ditched let them chase you, date others, get on with your life.

[@nalinidubay414]

I feel as I you're talking to me directly. Everything you're saying is what's happening to me right now . My bf broke up with me and I was being obsessed and now I'm just taking a step back and he's the one who's contacting me for silly things

[@calosthabede4280]

2 years ago my fiance left me, I was watched one of your video, I stayed at no contact for 2 years I eventually moved on I find someone. Thanks coach Lee.

[@myrnagrijalva3042]

" Sneaky little rats, aren't they?" I'd translate as: leave me alone..(chase me, chase me) pretty much as I used to have my childhood crush chase me in grammar school. It makes me smile while tears run down my face

[@Heather-nt7ol]

I don’t want an ex back but I still Love your videos and advice. I agree with all of it. Shows a lot of self worth and should be taught to teens who are new to dating. Thanks for posting…🤗

[@riyavinnie6861]

Ex always comes back when we avoided them.

[@chankrisnachea7083]

I don’t think it will work in my case. She’s gone, dating a new person. She’s made a decision and I’ve made mine to get out of her life completely. I’m going thru the painful heartbreak, focusing on improving myself. The pain is the price I pay for who im about to become, a better and stronger version of myself.

[@DT-kl7uf]

Its not a lot, but thanks for providing advice for us people going through tough times.

[@breaking_brad9981]

It has been a year for me since me and my Ex broke up… and 7months since I started no contact, I never chased and I never initiated contact with her, stick to your guns guys, it will all be worth it in the end

[@bosslady991]

I absolutely love the counseling here..you are by far the best I’ve listened to.. this type of counseling is for mature only..

[@angelawheeler7693]

Ahhh I see you did actually see my comment on your last video about the closing statement. 😂 That made me feel special. It really is the little things. ❤️

[@rainbowbright922]

The human experience is simply to find the greatest love of all which is self love. Others need only amplify this self love. The best filter is simply to observe and intuitively know if a person loves their self. Life becomes much simpler. 💕

[@sawomirantoskiewicz9540]

Thank you coach. Short term fairytale relationship ended overnight is my story. Very intimate, beautiful words were said, great moments. She ended it all within a day and I keep crying to my pillow not knowing WHY. 4 weeks of NC in 3 days... I never felt such pain , being abandoned by person who said " I love you" day before.... Words cannot express. Your videos keep me going... Thank you

[@Crm.xcviii]

Don’t let that crown fall 👑 just because one person couldn’t see your worth doesn’t mean someone else won’t, you deserve the world just remember that and don’t forget who you are. Keep that crown up high king, you got this I promise 😁👍🏻

[@harekrishna8604]

Any updates ?

[@edrserviceshernandez]

Honestly after 11 months she texted me saying if I ever think of what happened to us, so I reply the next day and I was blocked but honestly I don’t care anymore I suffered and was shattered but listening all the time I was lost and in such a crazy pain I would listen to you coach and make me sooth my pain I thank you can’t thank you enough

[@NA-gn5lb]

I’m coming up to 3 weeks of no contact, and for some reason this last week has been SO hard. I wanted to talk to him & I even missed him a little bit even though I am very sure I don’t want to be with him again. I’ve been having vivid dreams/nightmares about him and I’m struggling to keep him off my mind. I didn’t feel like this at all the first 2 weeks so I’m kinda surprised

[@emulate7455]

Same thing happened to me week 2 was easier than week 3 and 4 and been having those nightmares every night about her breaking up with me again or having someone new or she doesn’t care about me or a combination of everything

[@danmaertens7872]

I’ve had this too! I agreed to the breakup and felt no sadness and then two months later It was like the first two weeks for her.

[@alequintana1208]

This can be the same when you’re the one who broke up with them but it was a head over heart thing where you know you’re not getting what you deserve. Especially when you were in love with that person.

[@stephaniekoenig5237]

i did this and 5 months later we meet up for a date. turns out he had a gf i didnt know about and cheated on her with me. so, careful of that possibility.

[@mrmanta6581]

hearing this explains so much of why, she's been treating me the way she has. thanks coach lee

[@royromero5329]

Thank you Coach Lee, my ex contacted me after 16 days ❤😊

[@dm904]

So happy for u

[@phishphood423]

Giving them the breakup is extremely effective, especially if you had a relationship where you pleaded/played the subordinate role. The sooner you do it, the better. Give their stuff back. Stop contacting them. If you post, post only updates of getting out and doing stuff, and only at a normal pace. My ex was back in six days crying and apologizing. The problem is, there’s no guarantee that you’ll keep them. If that person has little to no interest in actually addressing the reasons why you broke up, especially if they don’t want to hear your version of the truth about those things, you’re SOL. My ex hung around about 5-6 days, then out of the blue dumped me again, this time much more brutally and painfully. Less than a week after that she ghosted, and I never heard from her again. It’s been a year.

[@auds_e7]

Same thing happened to me but he stuck around for a couple months still dumped me after a couple fights (maybe 2) in between though

[@phishphood423]

@@notmars77 Sorry to hear that :/ I feel mostly the same -- some amount of disgust, still confused, and honestly just bummed. Like what a waste -- a breakup doesn't have to mean that one person gets shit on and you never speak again. It's not mature and it's a great way to make sure that the person dumped feels like a worthless POS for a while.

[@auds_e7]

@@phishphood423 exactly just because you breakup doesn’t mean you get to treat the person that loved u like shit. Makes them feel like shit & unloveable.

[@dotatalove]

Narcisistic behavior. 😮

[@donshifty]

@@phishphood423 she blocked u on everything?

[@idontkare20011]

I’m in such a bad state right now. I don’t think she is ever coming back. In away she ain’t right for me but I still am hurt. I just listen to these videos over and over for comfort.

[@Praaaise]

Did she ever come back

[@SurajMishra-wg9rx]

No contact is not getting Ex back but getting u back

[@keepgrowing9941]

I really woke up early for this. 😄 cause i saw the post that there’s a new vid coming up. Time check: 5:43 am here. 😄 Done liking already. Perfect attendance here 🙋🏻‍♀️😄

[@gamingodriscoll5714]

On day 5 of no contact. She’s posting all over social media how happy she is. Just waiting and seeing what’s gonna happen.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Gaming O'Driscoll, don't fall for it. My ex did the same thing! They make fools of themselves..

[@gamingodriscoll5714]

@@jannlewandowski5540 I wish I knew exactly she was trying to accomplish by doing that

[@terezavalencia2908]

She’s in the relief stage, the switch will flip and they will feel the break up sooner or later. And when they do feel it they reach out. Im waiting on that moment.

[@ankrinkaewpralom6053]

Thanks!

[@psalms1163]

No contact is real torture..

[@marguskiis7711]

Yes

[@caroliner2029]

I'm Day 10 of no contact today and I'm feeling the dopamine withdrawal. I feel slightly depressed. I'm going for a long walk tomorrow, in sunshine, and I'll pray and allow the Lord God to comfort me. And I'm going to smile at every attractive man that I see 🤓

[@taetae4508]

It's been solid 7 months since my break up! I can't believe it's already 7 months haha I don't care about him & I don't want to get back with him,I'm actually open to new things ...

[@FirstLast-tn5dc]

Thank you coach Lee, you've really raised the levels of my awareness and comprehension of the complexities relationships

Coach, long story short: Reasonably concluded I was the one who broke things off (details are too long) and returned; she rejected me, saying she never wanted me, but a friend of ours later said she didn't mean to say that, she just didn't know how to say she wasn't ready. So this is it, coach; I won't need to see any more videos; she isn't the ex, I am. All I have to do now is wait for her to be ready

[@tammycain8421]

Let her go.

[@LorieThornton72]

@@tammycain8421 that’s kinda easier said than done lol

[@tammycain8421]

@@LorieThornton72 absolutely agreed Lorie! It IS much easier to say it then to do it. But I am living proof that it CAN be done. All the best💪

[@LorieThornton72]

@@tammycain8421 that’s great! Wish u all the best, u have a strong will power and unfortunately some don’t. We gonna all be ok one way or another. We gotta stick together and keep watching our man COACH LEE 💜

[@annerivas1155]

​@@LorieThornton72 yep...listen C....although you broke it off what happened was that she gave you the break up...so you have to switch places and then....follow Coach Lee advices....go on NC...give her space...let her reach out...she will after a couple of weeks...when she is sure she will come to you and reach out...YOU then must be casual, positive, and polite....you must mirror her actions and messages so you dont act more interested than her let her reach out until you meet in person....(this is where I am at with my ex)..best of luck

[@tweedybird025]

I’ve been in no contact since January. He reached out to me last week Sunday. I waited two days to open it. Wasn’t anything great, just a picture of him and his team just saying champs. I responded saying hey I’ve been pretty busy but congrats. He opened it and didn’t respond until an hour later saying thank you! I opened it and didn’t say anything as there was nothing to continue the conversation. So just trying to have a little fun with him and see if he will reach out again. Hasn’t blocked me on Snapchat so every now and then I will post on my story and he does open it. But once they reach out and I didn’t say anything I feel like he will reach out again. Thanks so much!

[@literallyheather]

Delayed is not denied.

[@Leaveitalone1382]

He didn’t break up. He cut off all communication out of the blue. Monday he said I looked hot. Never heard from him again. It’s been 1 week NC and I’m sure that’s over

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Leaveitalone13 That is really a mean thing to do. How can anyone be that way? You're better off, and, you can do better! ❤

[@Leaveitalone1382]

@@jannlewandowski5540 it really sucks.

[@InoKanzakii]

I love your way of analysing and seeing things! Much respect and love 💗

[@GAMESTERVISION]

you know coach Lee went and got a snickers fight after filming this for sure!

[@saharabejarano4354]

Hi from Colombia, just got dumped, this man is SAVING ME just wish he uploaded more podcasts lol

[@gabbymontoya2085]

I broke up with him because he was toxic and neglectful.. so I never felt sexy or egoistic.. & still regret meeting him.. thank you for your videos

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[@rasmuswellejus2809]

It’s not always a good thing to be in your ex’s head at least in my case it’s for all the wrong reasons 😅

[@ctgeorgia]

Wife of 4 years... She started crying on Sunday and said she was leaving. Within minutes she turned ice cold and hasn't spoken a word to me since. Treats me like a ghost in my house and stays gone as much as possible until bedtime. Then when I enter the bedroom she gets out of the bed and goes and sleeps on the couch until morning and then disappears for the day. Hurts so bad....I don't know how to act in the house with her there.

[@eduardoguevara012]

Damn dude divorced yet?

[@ctgeorgia]

@eduardoguevara012 No. One day it's good and the next it's a nightmare. For example, she hates my ex that I've got a 13 yr old daughter with. My ex is a huge pain in ass and sometimes comes up with excuses to not watch our daughter on her weekends. New wife refuses to allow my daughter to come home during weekends she's supposed to be with her mom because she thinks daughter's mom takes advantage of us. As you can imagine, it puts me in a really tough position because it's my daughter. Not sure what to do in those situations...

[@eduardoguevara012]

@@ctgeorgia I see. Good luck brother

[@Bmr1997]

Coach Lee helped me through so much. Everytime I wanna text her I watch this. And decide not to.

[@karenjohnson5976]

How's it going? I binge watch all day, when I'm not working.. 6 weeks in

[@Bmr1997]

@@karenjohnson5976 yeah it is going, still no contact but going strong. Her birthday was a few weeks ago, didn’t text her. Work on yourself, hit the gym, get that awesome job.

[@terezavalencia2908]

She broke up with u?

[@Bmr1997]

@@terezavalencia2908 over 3 months no contact. At this point I kinda have realized she will not be messaging me, continuing to work on myself

[@terezavalencia2908]

@@Bmr1997 it’s been about 10 days NC for me. I was always loyal never cheated but I was a ball of emotion. I think to myself who wants to go back to that? Feel like the odds are stacked against me.

[@jannatbeegun6280]

Im watching this video today.. I am a disable person since birth. I got into relationship after 37 years. He is my first love i accepted him even if he was married. Everything went well for 1 year until i met with a road accident. While I was in hospital he cheated on me. His wife is now pregnant. He dump me. I lost trust in man..

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Jannat, never date a married man. They always go back to their wives. So sorry about your accident. ❤

[@ladiebugs]

Never date a married man. I am sorry about your accident.❤

[@Someone-lc6dc]

My ex doesn’t expect me to fight for her… She said she’d like to remain friends and that’s it. Besides, she’s moving to another country, so there’s no way we will ever have a chance to see each other. Would love to hear your insights, Lee @Coach Lee

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Someone, if you love her, you cannot be just friends. It doesn't work. She's moving to another country, so I would bow out. Sorry this happened to you. Best wishes always.

[@PinoyRedditTales]

I made all these mistakes and now I'm blocked, I was strong at first with no contact and my ex is in the curious/concern stage, and after a month I called her on her birthday and begged and pleaded, we had a daughter and she is in the rebound and talking with different guys, we had a big fight prior to the break and our relationship is overall good, we live together for 2 years and we have 4 years together, even though I'm hurting right now, some part of me wants her because of my daughter but the disrespect and rejection made my heart froze.

[@davidwestonline]

I really don't care what's going on in her head. There is a reason why she is an X. Don't waste time on Xes, forget them, move on and make yourself happy. :)

[@joemaz188]

Don’t ever go back they’ll do it again wait a few months get yourself back and be happy and peaceful its the best feeling. No contact works btw

[@KH-fv3vq]

He is right. I kept begging and pleading her to stay even though she said no over and over again. I ended up being called mentally unstable and selfish then she blocked my number right away. Never seen her since that day. I guess she already ran so far away lol

[@Shon9tilR]

My ex broke up with me a year ago because he said he needed therapy. I did no contact the entire time. Now he texts me regular and I don’t know what he wants. He hasn’t asked me out or over. He just randomly text to see what I’m up too.

[@nicoleflusk5434]

I love your videos! You are soothing, reassuring and encouraging in multiple ways! Yes it’s a similar theme with most videos and yet I don’t mind at all. I can’t explain it but you are truly gifted Coach Lee!! Thank you! Can you talk more about long distance relationships and can you talk about if we dumped someone and regret it?

[@umaruahmadu6942]

I'm enjoying a passionate loving and committed relationship with my lover again after 3_years of seperation, I got my help from a psychic reader who brought us back with the help of his spell.