What happens When You Don't Chase Your Ex

Coach Lee explains what happens when you don't chase your ex even though you want to get back together with them. Often times people think they need to pursue and chase after they have been dumped in order to get their ex back but as Coach Lee reveals, that is not the case.
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[@mrf4308]

This man speaks facts. For the 3rd time my ex has just reached out, telling me she loves me and letting me go was the biggest mistake. What did I do after she ended us? I worked on myself, went to the gym, closed my social media, hung out with friends, family, and stopped worrying about my ex, what she was doing, just got on with my life. She started sending little messges, like hey, hows it going. I got back with short polite responses, and this clearly frustrated her, that i wasn't begging, that i came across as stong and okay. She wants to meet, has begged for anoter chance, but whats strange is now im not sure I want her or us any more.

[@iamjason1279]

How long y’all date and how long was NC?

[@proudmasculine]

🙏

[@JoMama123451234]

Update?

[@mrf4308]

We dated for 2.5 years when I wrote the above. NC was around 4-6 weeks. She followed all the patterns coach Lee described, and we ended up trying again. Took things super slow, and are still together as I write this. It's not perfect, it's not always easy, but we've had a pretty good year so far, so fingers crossed for the future.

[@saritaoftheopera]

@@mrf4308good for you hoping for the same thing

[@ruthankers7680]

This works. This man is a ledgend. My ex came back, apologised for everything and now messages everyday. Stay strong. It will work. Trust the process!!!

[@ramyarangan9451]

If I blocked my ex😂what to do

[@ruthankers7680]

@@jjjmusic333 it took about 4months

[@ruthankers7680]

Absolutely 0 contact and I worked my ass off on myself!

[@diegoothman5223]

@@ramyarangan9451how do you expect her to reach out if you blocked your ex?

[@Ericgodisgood]

@ruthankers7680 did u hurt your ex or say mean things

[@cubbman79cubster37]

Do no contact with the intention of letting go. My sincere advise. Don’t hold on to hope if they do not return within a month. Life is too short. The pain only gets deeper. If it’s meant to be, it will happen. But it’s not your responsibility if you have been dumped to make things right (unless you did something really bad). Breathe. Exhale. Live again.

[@radar4536]

Shut up with your nonsense about 1 month.

[@mea24palustre3]

Awesome advice

[@cubbman79cubster37]

@@radar4536 good luck with your life then

[@octavioginer6824]

Every relationship is different. What applies to one couple may not apply to the next. There’s no set date. Coach Lee talks about 45-60 days all the time.

[@dhingdhing8257]

Agree

[@Dru2maBoii]

You have to trust time. It will do all of the work. You just gotta get better, while you wait. It works.

[@bomicsbha6483]

Tq so much

[@noelcorlett4893]

Sure hope so!

[@bomicsbha6483]

@@MarceloHenriqueAlmeida works,just trust your self

[@Dru2maBoii]

@@MarceloHenriqueAlmeida yea. Yesterday after 10 months, ex hit me up after deleting everything she had of me. Found my number in a screenshot of a pic that she was looking for, by accident. She said, she didn't know why she chose to reach out but felt the want. Admitted she overreacted by deleting everything, and had been trying to hit me up, by guessing my number. Lol. Went out yesterday, and talked like time didn't pass,, and jumped right back onto each other.. We're meeting at a hotel, later today, to do more "catching up"....😎

[@nocontactwarrior2993]

@@Dru2maBoii don’t go too fast! You can give them buyers remorse if you give everything back too fast. Make her earn it. You’re worth it. :)

[@alexk.9642]

Dated my long term partner for 6 years. We were planning marriage and the future when she got cold feet and broke up with me 7 months ago. We spoke back and forth a little bit before I went into no contact with her for 6 months. Trust Coach Lee. She found out I was going to this concert with some mutual friends, bought a ticket and showed up to speak to me. I'm at a point now where I'm not interested in getting back together with her. The week before I went on a date and possibly found someone more compatible. Focus on yourself, work on your inner game, everything will work itself out.

[@Mike-mt5yb]

Thanks Alex

[@retard_activated]

It's true! My ex texted me on the one year and one day "anniversary" of him ghosting me (there was no break up). Throughout that year he did a bunch of dumb shit to try and get a reaction out of me. Nope. 366 days of no contact. I'm still single but talking to someone.... And now my ex texts me all the time (and he does not know that I'm getting to know someone else). I'm not interested in getting him back anymore, but we are working on our friendship, which is how we began initially. I'm in a lot better place, mentally, with Coach's help over the last year. 💖💖💖

[@jeanboy8322]

This gives me hope, thanks Alex.

[@alexk.9642]

@Mike don't give up hope! I was blindsided by the breakup too! Focus on yourself!

[@alexk.9642]

@Jean Boy Focus on yourself! It was super difficult to not depend on alcohol, drugs or rebounds to get through the breakup.

[@CurtisBuilds]

Trust me when I say that you need to trust time and allow space. It does work! It took a little over 2 months. Don’t beg, don’t try and be logical and reason with her/him, accept the breakup, don’t chase and focus on yourself and everything will fall into place. You’re all kings, remember that! And thank you Coach Lee, you’re the best!

[@danielbrown8602]

Do you have a positive story?

[@lateashaevans4579]

Did it work

[@Nimbus3690]

Did you have a long relationship?

[@lisabaughn]

It doesn't always work. As coach Lee has said, about 70% of exes come back, the rest do not.

[@Crm.xcviii]

@@danielbrown8602 yes there’s many cases towards it I had three different girls that came back after they broke up with me one was 4years, 1 year & 8 months and they all have similar personality is where they’re stubborn, prideful, immature, & arrogant but during those times I didn’t knew I was doing the no contact rule I was honestly just vibing and enjoyed life I moved on and they all came back the same way but different text my high school sweet heart texted me after she left me for another guy happy 21st birthday I miss you the 1 year she told me she cared and wrote this whole letter and when I met up with her she kept everything I gave to her and told me I was probably the best bf she ever had and there was always going to be a place in her heart the last one 8 months she message me about a spoon from a party I threw when I was with her then later told I fucked up in this relationship but it didn’t last because I was stupid I jumped back instantly expecting her to change she respected boundaries and everything she was more scared but I found myself still not happy with it so I ended it and she still came back and I tell everyone I still could’ve been with her but I moved on

[@evanfarrow9877]

When you don’t chase you see who they really are let them show you and it’s really eye opening…

[@pat2398]

It’s true ..!!

[@Meruffy]

Good point!

[@chrissams88888882]

Agreed; don’t be needy. Use the energy to work on yourself, and make your partner feel they have lost you

[@alhassanfirrdous7292]

Exactly what I am doing, now I have joined a Jim class

[@MegaDECCANCHARGER]

@@alhassanfirrdous7292 you mean gym ?

[@WillOfICT]

@@MegaDECCANCHARGER probably a class for people named Jim

[@ufink]

@@WillOfICT 😂😂😅😂😂😂🤣

[@redline350zHR]

@@WillOfICT shorty somehow managed to pass as a jim & became a member

[@Xscape128]

I'm telling you, they always come back in some way shape or form. Whether it's weeks, months, even years later, but only if you cut all contact and focus on your own life

[@marilyncruz6106]

@@jetfire931 why is it a scam?

[@jetfire931]

@@marilyncruz6106 Would you honestly trust a random number posted by a bot?

[@albertodeulofeu5277]

No they don’t. Men come back. Women don’t.

[@davidj5425]

@@albertodeulofeu5277 Don't listen to blanket statements like this. Every situation is circumstantial.

[@mrsherwood2599]

I think it's funny when they fake dump you and you never, ever communicate with them again 😅

[@ivy3839]

I can relate 😅

[@4669Mikehines]

Facts

[@marcelarojas9094]

Up 🤣

[@sarahsummers4093]

This will be the reality for my ex 😂 thank u I needed to hear this!

[@lorrainadennis2652]

Yea exactly.

[@marks5740]

If they don't love you they don't love you. If they are happier with out you. . they are happier without you. No contact with someone who doesn't love you just lets them get on with their life in peace and gives you time to work on yourself ! Stop focusing on them . Change yourself and if the change is to late , accept it .. can't turn the clock back

[@aishamohammedaliyu8639]

I can recommend you to (Mr Ose )who was able to bring back my ex husband and it works, I believe he can solve your relationship problems.......

[@tiffanypr.9448]

My ex broke up with me and reached out a few months later saying he misses me and apologizing. He didn't say he wanted to get back together though, he said that the past is in the past... I told him I have accepted the break up and that I intend to move on and it has now been weeks of radio silence. I do wish to get back with him but I am afraid I have messed things up and there is no chance now. That he is happier without me... Was this then the only stage of 'reaching out'? UPDATE!! WE ARE BACK TOGETHER :D

[@sharc.9259]

Yay!

[@freedomfinancial]

how is it going now?

[@tiffanypr.9448]

@@freedomfinancial I broke up with him. And I am very happy :D I think once you realize that you love the idea of the person that he isn't, well... it's game over. He is too unavailable and I deserve better. There is no time for questioning constantly whether someone loves you. If they do, you won't have doubts, if you are questioning everything, it's time to pack your bags and never waste another second with the person. Just leave respectfully.

[@zs9720]

@@tiffanypr.9448 Tiffany!! I am so proud and happy for you 🙏 You have done the work, you’re strong, you are healing and you are a better person and a partner for it! Don’t you dare go back to someone like that ever again! Stay 👸

[@josephconradie5935]

@tiffanypr.9448 sorry to hear about the break up again,it seems you did all the work on yourselve and he didn't but ultimately I'm so happy you got him back it's proof the process work

[@bayliechase4100]

I HARDCORE chased my ex for 4 months after he dumped me. He cheated on me and ended our relationship to pursue other women. I hard core chased him, endlessly for months, called from 10 numbers a day begged cried nothing worked. I went no contact 15 days ago. He's now hard core chasing me and I don't even want him back. This is a horrendous game. It's terrifying the psychology behind this. I think we are both avoidment attatchment style.

[@obiej17]

I chased for 5 weeks. But I said stupid stuff. Accusations, assumptions etc. She went from pure love to complete hatres towards me. It sucks

[@natashadickson4819]

Yeah. Never chase someone who cheated on you. If you have to chase, at least go after someone who treated you well. 🌷

[@serenitygilles7064]

if you chase your anxious style

[@FarkasRenata-lp4tr]

this comment gives me so much hope 😅❤

[@yowhatupmain]

I came back here to pay my respects to Coach Lee. In my case I followed your advice to the T and it worked. You have me strength when I was weak. Thank you Coach you the man

[@freedomfinancial]

how long did it take your ex to come back?

[@ags835]

Happy for you, good luck!

[@giovannimorgan8728]

Update?

[@Rottimail]

This man speaks logically and intelligently. That's what I like the most. He gets right down to what is actually happening. He teaches the dynamics.

[@Nurofenication]

Coach Lee is so polite, and this is how it should be, being dumped you practically feel physical pain. He comforts you and brings back to life and it's good. But for those men who kinda got their sh't together: Pain is good, it opens your eyes. I read so many comments where men just refuse to accept the break up. Guys the only way for you to make ur ex feel the real loss is to move on. It's so backwards but that's how that sh't works. It means no birthday presents, no "pillow talking" with ex. You ain't gonna get neither new SO nor ur ex coz you behave like addicts. Your ex destroyed your relationship, it's a disrespect and if you swallow it, she ain't gonna respect you as much. Between a man and a woman there's only one dynamic, it's who is taking the lead. If it's her, she ain't gonna respect you thus she ll leave you. So be strong, please

[@jeanboy8322]

Thank you

[@joanoroni4462]

True

[@fiona1407]

People make wrong move when you chase something your acting in lack.

[@freakynikki08]

Been five months since my ex left our 3-year relationship and 3 months since NC. I still feel sad from time to time, but I can finally say I'm at a better place than I was the past months. I'm doing good at work, getting more physically active and setting hang-outs w/ friends. Not thinking about getting back in the dating game yet--- would rather sit in the discomfort to get out of my comfort zone than seek comfort from someone else. Your weakest point is a great catalyst for the strongest version of yourself---use it as fuel! ❤ For everyone still in the most painful part of the journey, I see you and I believe in you. Wishing for everyone's healing and happiness here!

[@thegriefspot1107]

This is great to hear! I'm on month 2 and looking forward to being in that stronger place we got this 💪

[@terrylantz2831]

@N in that boat right now,about 3 weeks in and agreed it’s difficult. I hope to be where you are soon.

[@sharc.9259]

Thank you 😊

[@Oh6Torch]

The minute I starting dating after our divorce was the minute my ex started wanting to meet up and planning outings with me. We’d talk about the good ol’ days. She started rehashing what happened in the relationship. She even asked me if I wanted back into our relationship. But I was already gone. I had moved on. I think in my mind, I couldn’t get past the fact that this woman wanted to divorce me in the first place. So, I turned her down. That was 4 years ago. I’ve been living with my girlfriend for almost 3 years now and my ex is still alone. I wish her the best.

[@Oh6Torch]

@Lei Won ???

[@ReginaEzzougay]

Thank you so much Coach Lee! Because of this channel my husband came back today! 🙏🙏🙏

[@RealCoachLee]

Wonderful news! Please email us at [e-mail] and tell us the story!

[@kathyagalidis8822]

Yeahhhhhhh!!!!

[@lisabaughn]

I'm so excited for you! Tell us what happened! 🎉🎉🎉

[@BiZkiT410]

@@RealCoachLee I need to talk asap!

[@abh1899]

how long it took to bring him back?

[@faithandaccelerationjesus4037]

Everything coach Lee is saying is true. I went into NC after my partner and I broke up 3 weeks ago. Was doing everything wrong at first but I stopped and let him go. He called me today and said he wants to try again with me. Thank you for your advice! Very helpful and valuable!

[@jacqui8392]

How you guys getting on now?

[@johanvanderlinden4331]

Coach Lee, I can't thank you enough. I went into no contact and stopped chasing a month ago. The last week has been really difficult, because I kept thinking it would feel better to just reach out to her. But I followed your advice, held on and kept working on myself. Yesterday, my ex contacted me. Nothing big, not "I want to reconsider," but just enough to let me know she has moved from relief to curiosity. And thanks to you, I knew how to respond. Casual and polite. Didn't give anything away, and didn't move back toward her. I'm learning to trust the process. This information is golden.

[@0lupinthe3rd]

Update?

[@johanvanderlinden4331]

@@0lupinthe3rd Four more weeks of no contact. The thing is, the more I spend this time working on myself, the less I care whether we end up back together or not. At first, I just wanted her to feel like I might be moving on. Now I'm the one who feels like I really am moving on.

[@0lupinthe3rd]

@@johanvanderlinden4331 the funny thing Is that you Just describe my situation. And probably the situation of half a billion people on this Planet. The human condition. Stay strong, be good to yourself. You are understood. One day we Will see that all we Need to do to feel truely Happy Is to love ourself and the people that deserve our love. Thank you for answering me

[@johanvanderlinden4331]

@Meg Reese About 5 weeks.

[@giovannimorgan8728]

@@johanvanderlinden4331 update?

[@georginabrigs1891]

The moment that ive finally waited. After 1.5yrs he just suddenly texted me. I asked him why then he just suddenly said that he was still thinking about me. Well in that span of time i really took care of my self workedout, i am sexier than before, i did upgrade my style, more sexy and beautiful. I did it for myself and not for him. Very sure he was stalking my soc med. Lol. But im not thinking and not expecting of getting us back together because im already ok without him. If destiny allows to give us a chance, i wouldnt mind because we ended everything mutually. But for now i am enjoying my life. So listen to coach lee guys. Dont beg and chase! That's what i did and the NC rule.

[@RaZoRBeLtRaN]

My gf broke up with me earlier December last year. So I did the no contact rule for 2 months. Found out she was dating someone who cheated on her and got her pregnant. rebound left her and now she comes back crawling back but now beside she being pregnant by someone else something deep inside me tells me i dodge a bullet.

[@fleadoggreen9062]

Wow yea,that’s a tough one,thanks for sharing

[@Silver-Lining1111]

Karma✨♾️

[@christopherlanders1931]

Run she did you a favor

[@sayitloudblcknproud]

Do NOT take her back.

[@brendanhiggins3442]

Dodged a rocket give her nothing karma

[@HakaseYuki]

I don’t really want to believe this and get my hopes up in rekindling with my ex. But listening to coach calms me for some reason. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@kaybase6967]

I don’t want him back then. If the only time he’s going to display interest in me is when I pull away or become “mysterious” then being with him again is not worth it. What happens when I’m no longer a mystery again. Will he lose interest? No thanks. That’s why exes are exes for a reason. Use the time on this earth to work on being emotionally and mentally healthy and find someone who doesn’t play games.

[@w2sgang104]

my ex said “I don’t want to hear from you again” this was after 3 months of no contact. idk what i’ve done so bad for her to be like that. honestly

[@Heart3577]

Coz she went all crazy and hurt while you're not chasing hahaha! Do what she said... To make her feel that you no longer need her. This only works for the dumpees. But if you're the dumper, she has moved on already. Female dumpees will not wait for you to reappear after 3 months!

[@w2sgang104]

@@Heart3577 ye i dumped her to work on myself because i was going through depression. i did not want her to feel pain. so i did treat her badly for a while. was not the real me but she has moved on after 2 months when being together for 2 years

[@countcrow]

@@w2sgang104 see, here's the thing with women guys. If he dumps us or ghosts us then comes back 2 MONTHS LATER OR 3 , does that sound like a man that loves us? Would we be able to depend on him ever again? Or might he just do it again? Mmm... right.

[@w2sgang104]

@@countcrow ye i understand where ur coming from. i promised i wouldn’t do it again because i’ll never let myself be in that position ever again. i’m physically great and i’m mentally strong rn. but it’s life ppl do change but csnt do much now

[@princess7469]

Hey Coach! I have learned a cold hard lesson in this lifetime because I know where I come from and and things I have been through which are lessons. Never chase a man & Never beg a man back in my life. I refuse to do that. Begging is a sign of weakness and vulnerability. Time will tell but when he returns I don't argue. We have to discuss things, forgive each other no matter the condition, no third parties. Focus on burying the past and moving forward together to a new beginning in our life. Honesty is very important. No double standards. We two must walk together and support one another.

[@phillyd6302]

It’s been six months since my ex left. There’s been no contact from either of us. I’m good without them now. He wasn’t the right person for me. I’ve realised how cold he could be and he doesn’t have a good track record of staying in relationships. So, I’ve been concentrating on myself and when I’m ready, I will look to finding someone who shares my values and is prepared to work at a relationship. We parted on good terms, no recriminations. So he will no longer take up precious space in my heart and mind.

[@edgarsserugo2436]

Just been cheated on, and she moved away minus an apology but instead playing the victimization game! All I'm doing is NO CONTACT

[@1324Hairdoist]

Why is it that although all of these videos are extremely similar I still feel like I need to watch all of them!!

[@terrylantz2831]

@Courtney Manley Right!!!??? Lol

[@roberts5368]

I miss her so bad that I'm always getting the urge to send her a text etc to ask if she's maybe ready to talk (but I don't)... This is possibly one of the hardest things I have ever been through, I'm so depressed, low and broken. And all I think ABOUT on a daily basis is her.

[@johnc8350]

Do something else instead. Know your worth. Start reaching out to other females. You might just find better! I know I did and I thought my ex was my soulmate. Oh how wrong I was! 😂

[@stephanesylvestre7143]

@Meg Reese The same for you Meg lets meet up somewhere with John c on the net around a tea and cheer ourselves up during this no contact phase ;-)

[@ninjarose5991]

I'm going through the same but it hasn't been a full month yet.. I know he doesn't care about me and has been really toxic to me and disrespected me but I miss him and want to reach out 💔I'm literally being wrong to myself but trying to be strong and not reach out

[@roberts5368]

@@ninjarose5991 I felt the exact same as you (only over a month ago) continued doing NC and now I don't have any form of feelings for her whatsoever. I kept getting the urge to reach out, and when I did I felt like an idiot. Just keep hanging in there Mrs & time will do it's thing! Don't give up.

[@ninjarose5991]

@@roberts5368 you did reach out before she do? Tell me more please I have been crying at night for the past three days.. I really could use a friend advice

[@dwightpiper9712]

I did no contact to get my ex back..best thing that ever happened to me I got myself back and got better than my ex back..I found out I want no one who dumped me...I must say she seeks my validation tho.

[@davidbradley0477]

Broken up for seven weeks,two weeks into now contact. Did all the mistakes after the break up. Wish I found this earlier. I am back on my feet and taking care of myself. We had a great relationship,but life,both of us business owners,and the past kicked us in the ass. Time will tell and thank you for the Help Coach Lee 👍

[@dennisray8904]

Any updates?

[@priscillasmith9309]

I'm NOT PLAYING THESE GAMES IF SOMEONE BACKS OFF KEEP GOING BECAUSE A GROWN ADULT HEALTHY PERSON SHOULD NO WHAT THEY WANT PERIOD!😒😐

[@pj8624]

Awesome video!! Coach Lee; you're been my rock since early December of 21. Been listening to you everyday and given me so much strength. Thank you and Bless you!

[@RealCoachLee]

PJ, also see my channel on anxiety at kzbin.info/door/yE_SDnJbEvJxGbM7OZr6_w

[@niayurukova3600]

Same!!!!

[@XxJustinxx88]

I know this will probably sound crazy but my ex and I was together for 4 years and have a two year old son together. She kicked me out the day after Christmas. Just feels comforting to know that you and I both were going through the same things at the same time together lol. How are you doing? I still think about her a lot but I don't cry as much If at all. I just think about her often and wish I could go back home and be with her and my son. It's just frustrating! Honestly every single guy she was with before me she had to be both the man and woman of the relationship and her ex before me stalked us for two whole years. I'm the only guy she's dated that she wanted a kid with and was able to rely on for everything while she stayed home with our son. Yet I'm the one she's treated the worse! I swear I think she wasn't as mean to the guy who stalked us for two years....

[@mbroughton038]

All too similar here…My ex kicked me out (physically) also 21Dec last year I had literally just moved in after 2 years of dating. Coach Lee yr videos have taught me so much about the no contact and getting through a broken heart. It’s been 3 months now and no has has made contact so I guess we move on which is still painful as I loved her deeply.You’re the man and thank you so much for all that you do!

[@ameliel8792]

@@XxJustinxx88 oh damn I'm so sorry this happened to you. Speaking from experience of being that girl who's only had men treat her badly, it sucks to be the first decent guy... I have many regrets about how I behaved with my first good, decent guy but you have to live and learn. It wasn't you, it was probably the damage of past relationships unless you did something really bad. Did she say why she ended it? I'm wishing you all the best.

[@staceyboyfield9796]

I don't want my husband to stop running. That asshole can run and then run some more. Walked out on me after 20 years together. Ugh. Coach Lee your videos are keeping me strong. Thank you. I'm just binge watching like netflix 🤣

[@RealCoachLee]

Hi Stacey, you might also benefit from my new channel on anxiety at kzbin.info/door/yE_SDnJbEvJxGbM7OZr6_w

[@markhook9449]

🤣🤣

[@applesnicolle5144]

Stacy - do you have kids together? Just stay in NC

[@Mags765]

🙏🏼

[@JenNy-zi8px]

🤣

[@irina.o.]

For those who do not feel as "la femme fatale" or "homme fatal" type of person: listen to this coach's words. If you had a relationship that was truly enriching for both of the partners, but for certain reasons the ties got (temporarily) broken, there are two main rules to follow that this coach (not all of them) is promoting: 1) don't chase 2) when the other side reaches out, don't play the silence game. From my personal experience, I would also add: (if you consider your partner was a quality person - which is important to be sure of, to avoid falling into narcissist games) ask yourself if some of your own weaknesses (that need to be healed) caused or at least influenced your partner's reactions and loosening of those ties. In my case the reason were my weaknesses.

[@jeanboy8322]

So what eventually happened to that relationship?

[@irina.o.]

@@jeanboy8322 We both improved our personalities and we no longer take each other for granted.

[@terael5637]

@@irina.o. Heya! Are you still together? I hope you are doing well!

[@chrismartindrummer]

3months after a breakup, did all the wrong things but have decided to go no contact and give her what she asked for. Brought the breakup kit and am working on myself and my life. We are still connected on all social media, I don’t follow hers tho. She still likes my posts and texts me about some stuff she still has of mine. I want her back but a better version that matches the better version of myself. No anger, still friendly. Moving on, not chasing.

[@babydii3487]

To Know, Understand, and Realize When someone doesn't want you is the most powerful thing to adhere

[@Johno143]

I don't want my ex back...I have dignity .

[@nickf9392]

She finds someone else and you both live happily ever after. I'm good.

[@ovigavril7191]

I won’t get the people that want revenge on the dumpers and so on! Just move on !Just because they decided to break up doesn’t make them bad people ,everyone is free of choice !yes ,I know it sucks to be dumbed and hurts like hell,but don’t look for revenge ,what you will achieve ? Boosting your ego?What then ? Just accept the situation and move on ,stop living in that imaginary prison where you can’t live without them!Adapt ,improve yourself and I guarantee you that In some time you ll be ok ! Maybe the breakup was indeed a blessing!

[@loredanamunteanu5834]

Doing nothing is soooo powerful .... thanks ✨✨✨

[@natashahubbert4438]

Wow! So simple yet so profound … doing nothing is power.🤔

[@pepperjack6421]

Be proud coach, I did 22 days before she reached out, we talked a bit casually which was fine but going nowhere, she was just checking in to see what I was up to clearly. She said she would talk to me later and then poof, it’s been 26 days since that. I’m not really feeling things between us anymore, and that hurts in it’s own way. I do miss her, deeply I do, but I’ve come to grips with reality I think. She’s not for me, she’s for herself and that’s exactly how she acts. I deserve better and she will never have better so I guess it’s a win win. I get healthier and better in every way, she gets to continue down her life of her own choices. Like you said, don’t clean up their messes. She’s on her own, I have no clue what’s going on in her life and that’s ok, she’s the one that cut the ties and is free to try and navigate life without me….. she did a stellar job of that before meeting me haha, I’m sure she will excel on her own again. Thanks for all you do Lee, your videos are a gift to humanity.

[@dannycolwell8028]

I don’t want to hope. I want my hopes crushed, I want to move on. I want to let go. But it feels impossible not to obsess and cry and wallow right now

[@Drip04]

Listen to coach lee..been no contact for 8 months she reaches out continuously here and there came Back apologizing and after i keep going no contact and she STILL keeps reaching out ..basically breadcrumbing tells me she misses me and but wants to continue being alone for awhile And work on herself so I continue to no contact and she’s always curious btw as she s told me and looks for me at work ..DO NOT CHASE continue being you and carry on as time as gone on and my guess is by the time she actually figures her stuff out ill be on my way and not want her back …not once have i contacted her ..just walk away take your self respect and realize your worth and find someone who is actually mature enough to understand your value and worth and that u are not an OPTION !!

[@aishamohammedaliyu8639]

I can recommend you to (Mr Ose )who was able to bring back my ex husband and it works, I believe he can solve your relationship problems....

[@aishamohammedaliyu8639]

Whatsazzz him👇👇👇

[@jaimequintana7041]

Scorpio ♏️ love is not complicated, it's about being honest and having respect for yourself and other involved, but we overthink!

[@carmillemajors2141]

Yes we do🤣

[@melilopez6663]

So true. We have to re train o it brain 🧠

[@lorrainadennis2652]

Yea we do indeed!

[@SundayCookingRemix]

I don't want my ex 💯 No one should They're your EX for a reason Stand on your own 2 feet And handle thaT

[@kimmichaud4064]

After ghosting me for a month he sent me a happy Easter text this morning I didn't answer

[@normaleonce4546]

I might be a few months late seeing this video but I am learning so much from coach Lee! My ex stood me up twice the day we were suppose to get married. The first one he told me he was scared.. then we put it for December 28th last year and he never showed up, never returned my text nor calls! He ghosts me and now I went into NC mood! I am in 2 weeks of NC he is very prideful and stubborn! We had no arguments or nothing the day before the wedding. He just never showed up and stood me up a second time! As much as it sucks I am definitely doing the NC ! I am feeling much better . Reading some of the comments gives me hope! Coach Lee you are the best!

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Hi Norma. While I was reading your comment, it reminded me of myself. Coach Lee helped me nearly 5 years ago, and I still listen and LEARN from him everday. I like to even help some people if I can. No, I an NOT a Therapist or Social Worker, but I only give my opinion from MY past experience. So good to see you in here. God bless and keep listening. ❤️⚘️💙

[@normaleonce4546]

@@jannlewandowski5540 thanks ! Yes I keep listening to and taking heed! We still haven't spoken yet I am still is NC of course he is toooo prideful to reach out and I will NOT reach out to him! I'm feeling alot better and i am considering moving on! God bless you as well❤️

[@tiffanyjohnson135]

I’m at the point that I don’t care. I’ll get someone better. I’m excited about dating other guys.

[@aishaatere3945]

I can recommend you to (Mr Ose )who was able to bring back my ex husband and it works, I believe he can solve your relationship problems....

[@aishaatere3945]

Whatsazzz him👇👇👇

[@lydiabaez5855]

Thank you Coach Lee for your encouragement of the no contact rule! It’s been 3 months since my ex broke up with me and I’ve been feeling so much better mentally and physically. I implemented the no contact rule the minute he broke it off. However, there are still times when he crosses my mind and I get so tempted to look at his ig stories etc… but everytime I have that urge i just watch one of your videos. After the break up, my ex did watch my ig stories ALOT but now he stops watching them. Not sure what that means but maybe it’s a sign that he’s moving on? I honestly don’t know if I would want him back if he ever decides to reach out….. I just want him to regret his decision lol

[@jasongabb1671]

Same with me Lydia, on day 88. Last text was two weeks ago...

[@BushidoVXX]

Don’t fool yourself, you want him back.

[@cassey143mj]

I think he already moved on..he is already seeing someone else..

[@paulballard4243]

If we broke up we weren’t meant to be together at all. I don’t chase, I keep moving forward. Taking her back is like shoving shyte back up your a$$. She’s an ex for a reason so move on. Nobody needs that negativity in our short lives

[@antonioanderson3939]

I'm with you 💯 %

[@Clarissa-lm5rj]

I wish you could write up a program that could be given in all schools and people could get the chance to know this information and save their selves so much pain the future. That is my wish.

[@hermitsoul8465]

agreed, many young people commit suicide from heartbreak, this things should be thought in school

[@Jarr25395]

If ex date with someone else, I'm done. Dont wanna be a second choice

[@jannlewandowski5540]

vengeance2023 If she's going out during NO Contact, then don't take her back. Let me recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which is excellent. It has strategies for every situation including yours. myexbackcoach.com/ebk

[@davidkool5131]

Honestly...at first you feel miserable sad depressed asking questions why...but time goes on and you start to realize that you better of being alone than with person who dumped you and has no feelings for you...stop proving yourself to them...save your precious energy...with time you will realize that being with out that person is awesome pacification vibe...in the state of tranquility....than being together with them and still feel lonely and disrespected👊👍🏼✨🤙

[@jannlewandowski5540]

David, I can recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which will help you feel better. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation including yours. myexbackcoach.com/ebk

[@vickyblahh]

Coach Lee is a real professional. I am apllying NC just as he told in the videos and the website. Yesterday, I caught her stalking my spotify list whlist listening to sad love songs which are about mostly missing and guilt. And when she realized she got caught, she just disappeared and today she tried to make me jealous over some instagram story. It really gave me anxiety and tried hard to feel better again. But the more I think logically, the more I see the power I've started to gain over her. Which I'm not going to use to do anything bad surely. I just want us together and equally. Anyways. Thank you Coach Lee, I hope one day, I'll come here and tell you my success story. Take care.

[@joekelvin7286]

Wh'tsapp him for help 🆘👇👇

[@nickcourinos9607]

This works dudes don’t be needy. Focus on you they always come back

[@Evangelistzayyy]

Thx. Nick brother

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Hello Lee, I want you to know that I still watch all your videos, and YOU were the first one to help me realize my situation with your videos on the narc. I still feel the need to listen to you even though I am over him. It's been 10.6 yrs already. I told my friends about you and I know of 2 who always listen to you. Once again, you're the BEST. I am dating again, and keeping my eyes and ears open this time...😀

[@kerry-annbailey2119]

You better do that

[@agneslaufer9579]

I don't chase a narcissist.

[@sarahmiles892]

No contact from November 21, I haven't heard from him since. We were together for 8 years, his last words to me were he “has moved on from the relationship”. It’s hard to accept but I’m doing my best xx

[@ivy3839]

Funny , as soon as I got new serious relationship and happy , all my exes came out of the woodwork . One after 2 year silence , another on after 6 months (both dumped me ) now they are very concerned if I am ok due to the madness what’s happening in the world …go figure …. Both at the same time , just few days apart .Life is strange . When you cry your eyes out because of them , there is crickets as soon as you happy , they are back in contact . It’s like they can smell it 😅

[@lateashaevans4579]

Really

[@Dad_Brad]

So you’ve been abandoned and you’re lost at sea. Stop chasing. Disappear like the Red October. Total rebuild while you’re in the blackness. Six months later they send out one ping only. It isn’t chess, it’s poker.

[@aishaatere3945]

I can recommend you to (Mr Ose )who was able to bring back my ex husband and it works, I believe he can solve your relationship problems.......

[@meryshinoda9248]

Why all of the comments in here are SO BEAUTIFUL AND AMAZINGLY INSPIRING??? LOVE YOU ALL! ❤️🥰 And to coach lee, your words of wisdom are realistic, time bound, clever, and so beneficial for one's self!

[@d0n315]

I’ve watched all your videos shortly after our breakup. At this moment, I’ve realized that my ex is truly gone. We split in early January 2022 and haven’t spoke since. Oddly I’ve gone through the motions and I’m not sad. I find myself being angry just at the thought of her. It’s finally a chapter that has come to close. I don’t hold hatred and do wish her nothing but the best.

[@Siegfrief0217]

If she /he doesn't love you anymore it doesn't matter if you leave. Don't give people false hope. Move on Stay strong someone better is coming

[@Brhrhfjfjkfngbfndoo384]

Make these videos = “how to do no contact when your ex won’t leave you alone” . & more building attraction videos and keeping it in relationships

[@abangmaureen9928]

I can recommend you to (Mr Ose )who was able to bring back my ex husband and it works, I believe he can solve your relationship problems.......

[@MrMrFishtacos]

Lmao she’s texting me rn while I’m watching this, respect yourself and walk away fellas

[@colleenwilliamson8429]

Thank you Coach Lee. He made a start at a simple message on fb after 6 months silence.

[@xaiphonphianhavong2936]

Almost a year since we broken up or “ separated “ whenever i do no contact, she ALWAYS reaches out for whatever reason. I respond casually. It’s always every week she comes back and texts me. Her mail, memes, whatever. 😊 💪. Thank You Coach Lee. You are truly appreciated.

[@deepakanjna2722]

I'm so grateful that I have found you in these agonizing times. Thank you!

[@grimmlock25]

You know what happens when you don’t chase your ex? Nothing. Nothing happens. Not a damn thing. That’s what happens.

[@mutechannel13]

Very true I think all these ( how to get your ex back is all Bull$#!+ ) lol If someone wants to be gone they will be gone. If they want to come back they will.... No tricks or games will play a part in that lol

[@jintumoninath8435]

@@mutechannel13 sometimes it works .I think they come back when their rebound relationship don't work as their desired way . But what will we do after that . Can we accept them after knowing that they were in relationship . We don't need that type of girl .life is too messy after that.

[@mutechannel13]

@@jintumoninath8435 Now your talking. No man in his right mind would want an ex back after thier rebound bounced away 🤣. If u take her back you will become the rebound and she will be bouncing both of you and other men back and forth 🤣

[@jintumoninath8435]

@@mutechannel13 right .my ex is now posting her rebound bfs pics on social media.god save her 😂 . She don't know what's coming on her way . This type of genjutsu don't last long 😂

[@daniwarren2955]

That hurt!!! But it's the cold hard truth!😓

[@martinhunter8671]

I'm 70 days no contact and she feels further away than ever. I think it's time for me to give up and move on. Maybe this works for younger people but I don't think it does anything for older people except making them move on.

[@martinhunter8671]

@@Kay-zu5xd I'm 54 ex 55

[@oldgoat5589]

My wife left last June - not a word, since. Said she hated me. Hurtful, and unnecessary. I am seventy four, she is seventy, so it is certainly not a problem solely for the young.

[@Alessia_2029]

Just wait and accept the Break up their all come back!!!! Trust ne

[@musclebender]

This coach and no contact are RIGHT ON THE MONEY! I have been married for 5 years, separated for 6 months. Guilty of it all… pleading, anger, emotional instability. All I got was “I’m not in love with you, I’ve moved on.” After 3 days of NC, and telling I’m going to focus on my “manhood”… she text saying “You know, I’ve thought about us working things out, but you always try to control things.” BLOWN. AWAY. Knock off the neediness, BE ATTRACTIVE. Let them come to you. Real truth. Thank you for the video!

[@jannlewandowski5540]

musclebender, I don't know where the two of you stand now, but if you care about each other even a "spark" then by all means join Coach Lee's Workshop. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.

[@louieavila3987]

My ex GF dumped me and said it was for the best. We argued too much but i always apologized to her. We both kind of lost who we were in the relationship like staying super healthy and going outdoors. Today is day 4 of NC and i am being tortured on the inside. I cry every night and play sad music and think about her. She watches my SC stories still though. She did also tell me she wanted to be friends. I hope to god that she comes back to me😢😥 im already working on the diet again so hopefully she sees😢😢😢

[@jacqui8392]

Stay strong and in NC, I am in a very similar situation, except I'm about 2 months in - everything plays out like coach Lee says if you stay in NC, it's all happened to me, just make sure you are well equipped for your response - She will reach out. Go watch the stages your ex goes though, you got this.

[@louieavila3987]

@@lilmel2871 I’m currently working on the diet and already look different and doing things. I am seeing her tomorrow so we can talk about things. I had begged her like four days ago and she said we can talk on Tuesday. I know begging wasn’t what I was supposed to do but it was killing me on the inside and I couldn’t hold it in…. But when I see her tomorrow, I am bringing her a promise ring, some of her favorite things, Chick-fil-A and I’m also singing her a Bruno Mars song at the end. I hope just hope that she gives us another chance. This is my last fight to win her back, so I’m going all out.

[@eternallearner8185]

Women despise clingy or needy men. Have had this discussion with a number of smart women. Sadly too many men don't understand this and suffer the consequences of being a fool chasing a "dream".

[@maciej3734]

I've been doing exactly what you're saying for the last 5 months. We didn't really break up, things had been just slowly fading before she once told me I'm more like a friend and she didn't see our future in a serious relationship. After that I walked away, no contact, even though I didn't know it's a thing back then. Now, for the whole time she's been watching my stories, sometimes replying, sharing things about her personal life which I can easily say you don't tell someone you feel nothing to, BUT that's all. Never suggested hanging out, dinner or whatever. I'm thinking wheter it would be okay if I did that after all this time?

[@synopticcobra8605]

I think if she sends something personal to you, you should text “hey we should grab coffee and catch up”

[@maciej3734]

@@synopticcobra8605 I just casually replied like Coach Lee suggests sometimes. I'm gonna try sth like that next time :)

[@splitzyentertainment7995]

@@maciej3734 any progress?

[@bernieoconnell5515]

No way. She’s not interested

[@25th-wonder]

I really want to do this no contact but we work together though remotely. Every time I avoid working with him directly, he finds a way to bring jobs that we will have to do together. What I have done is, limit my interaction with him. Working towards finding more solo clients so that I can leave those for him. I really want to heal and move on. Our issue is mostly family not being receptive of our relationship. So, I don't want to push it.

[@RidaBenelcaid-wu9sp]

5 month nc now, I've already surpassed her, I am mentally financially physically better, u thank her for that push i need it, I am ready to fall in love again

[@cindyanderson5272]

Yes I agree. I was ghosted after our last friendly texts. My last text was friendly then no reply. It’s been a month now. I’m learning to go on with my life. I know what he does for a living. Yes I was very hurt and cried. Yet, I’m not angry just disappointed and I know he needs to change certain aspects of his personal life before I will go back should he contact me. I’m praying for his own sake and health. I’m in a dating relationship at the moment so will see

[@milagrosrodriguez4136]

Most likely like it always happens they come back when you over them n yes it sucks but mostly that's always the case.

[@caesar848]

Ex contact worked for me, she broke up with me suddenly during the spring of 2022 and by the fall of 2022 she came back tried for reconciliation but i maintained by distance. It works guys. Self respect> EX

[@lindokuhlejele4627]

3 weeks of the break up.. I initiated the contact rule... 9 months..My innocence... Toxicity... ANXIETY... LIES... DENIAL...There was no real closure. Just drama.. Closure for me is all the things he did to break my heart over and over... I had to quit .And there is no chasing ...I will not chase him ever again. It's over and I'm smiling again..ya I cry and get angry from time to time but I won't ask him why he did the things he did.. or the lies and misrepresentation of his personality..Why put me through all that... I loved him🤦But now I love myself... Way more than I will ever another human being... Gosh let him move on and forget about me...Let him live his life... I wish him well... I don't want to close him again.

[@andrewcruz7595]

*A lot of good things happen because when you stop chasing. You'll begin getting better and continue with your purpose. You start seeing progress but very subtitled progress . In the end .... Aim high*

[@mariahangolaellen836]

You Are My Coach, and I love your contents. Thanks for teaching me more about self respect and Love Maturity.😊😊

[@SuperQdaddy]

they usually leave for someone else...so why bother with them especially if u already put in the work..move on to higher ground

[@Brhrhfjfjkfngbfndoo384]

can you do more videos on the topic of attracting the right person, how to find good, committed relationships that work. i trust your wisdom coach lee thats why i watch you a lot.

[@diz0973ify]

I say; Screw them move on. She or he’s NOT 4U it will always be drama if you hook back up

[@morganmorgan2966]

Great stuff - you just get to the point . Not a lot of talk about who you are and what you are go to dip. You just get to the point. You are an action man.

[@jaimequintana7041]

Listen I'm not afraid of a x not returning, I'm afraid if she returns, with the seat all torn up the dashboard all cracked up,and airbags all blown out.

[@michaelmorris9007]

Omg. I almost gave up hope on no contact or I wanted so bad to break contact. But i stayed the course and continued to listen To coach Lees videos everyday and all day long to help me stay strong while that cake continued to bake. And after 35 days of no contact my ex reached out. I just hope I don’t blow it. Thanks again Coach Lee.

[@realmsofthespiritarts8557]

Update :)

[@absolutemonkey]

Update?

[@michaelmorris9007]

@@absolutemonkey I don’t know if I blew it or not. But coach Lee warned not to give yourself back to them so quickly and I did. Ex was seemingly doing fine then once everything was seemingly back to normal she faded away again. This time no face to face breakup or text messages just went ghost. I texted once and called twice just to try. So that means that appreciation is low. Currently I’m back in no contact.

[@absolutemonkey]

@@michaelmorris9007 damn that must’ve been so confusing. I hate these psychology games but it seems like it really has to be done. Hope it goes well for you!

[@chavelle9130]

If u message him still nothing it's useless to force someone if they don't want, more painful more hurts my feeling,, if I do it!

[@dingiswayomakukula4118]

Number 4 has made me laugh so hard. I totally agree because I kind of relate. Great video

[@Sunitha001]

Tired of everything now. Don't even have a count of months in no contact period. Anyways, closed off Social Media (gave me so much peace), I hit the gym and just decided that I have my family to take care of! Well, Yes - memories haunt and it's frigging hard, but nothing that I cannot overcome. Moving on is by and large the best option. Where one is not valued and respected, distance yourself from it and build a better version of you. Be You! What is destined to happen will happen. Also - Dumpers are not Tom Cruises, they are after all puny humans. So, on a lighter note - To hell with them. Listen to Coach Lee, the man makes so much sense and instills that feeling of self worth right away!

[@SuperVib3]

35 days of NC, i had a break on day 17 and called her crying, she was cold and said that she was fine and moving on with her life. My heart is broken and it hurts everyday, im losing hope and i believe she’s not going to reach at all…

[@5stargaminentertainment879]

She’ll reach out bro stay strong 💯 In the mean time do everything you can to better yourself , and when she does finally reach out , don’t cling on to her . You got this !!!

[@LY-pk7zy]

Keep going nc and if you feel like contacting them come back here and watch his videos, they definitely put sense back and give hope that is good for you in the moment and after 💝

[@Xscape128]

Crying?..If anything you pushed her away even more. Assuming you're a grown man, you can't be doing that. You need to seek counseling to see why you react that way, you might have attachment issues.

[@SavvyVyxen]

Coach Lee, you are the BEST 🔥❤️🔥. It’s been a year and my ex and I are back together stronger than ever! I followed your page and took your advice, while also learning more about LAW OF ATTRACTION and its utterly MAGICAL 🥰🥰🥰 Folks, listen to Coach Lee and become more attractive to allow all that you want to manifest!❤️

[@xeanvalenzuela8451]

What if my x is also watching this video?😂😂😂

[@vanitymoore5613]

I miss him so much I’ve been working so much on myself it’s crazy but I still love him ugh 😩

[@virginiashepard3232]

This is so hard to do but you are 100% right. Thank you.

[@giusepperomano5660]

Does that including checking your Instagram stories like my wife has been even tho we’re not friends she always looking at my story’s and we’ve been in no contact but she’s always been reaching out and even telling me what she’s doing and all I say is do u!

[@kimberlylentz515]

Agree!!!

[@lilasteeves3693]

I don't chase. He always walks. Scared of getting to close to me. He is a gemeni and can't stick to one woman. Thank you.