How To Change My Ex's Mind About Me

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Coach Lee

Coach Lee

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@ryanjames3260
@ryanjames3260 2 жыл бұрын
I swear listening to you would stop some men just ending their life.
@Wildanimal864.
@Wildanimal864. 8 ай бұрын
Only when you get the ex back.
@fancycanuck
@fancycanuck 7 ай бұрын
agree
@Rambo4President
@Rambo4President 6 ай бұрын
yes. they would make no contact with death.
@rxsx123
@rxsx123 5 ай бұрын
@@Rambo4Presidentlol 😂 that made me laugh
@mihaiandreianghel8999
@mihaiandreianghel8999 Жыл бұрын
"How can I make them see I have changed? Well, the first step is to change" - so obvious yet most of us miss this part.
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Mihai Andrei Anghei. It depends on what you need to change about yourself. Physically, mentally, etc..then I would recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you immensely. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
@1226summer
@1226summer 2 жыл бұрын
1.save( protect) attraction 2.Defy their expectations 3.Don’t talk about the breakup 4.keep the inside jokes and stories 5.improve yourself
@nidgeontour257
@nidgeontour257 Жыл бұрын
I'd want to know why she broke up with me, That conversation needs to happen for clarity. I'm not going to tread on eggshells so as not to upset her after she upset me. If we say nothing and carry on she could dump me again. Once bitten twice shy as they say.
@allencantcap1977
@allencantcap1977 Жыл бұрын
@@nidgeontour257 You should go into no contact. I tried to get closure and I can tell you it did not work. It makes them repel you more and makes them think they’re more attractive than you, that they don’t need you around.
@marcusmagellan
@marcusmagellan Жыл бұрын
⁠ If you ask why they broke up with you they’ll probably not be honest with you, they might give you some white lies to spare your feelings. Edit; asking for closure usually doesn’t work.
@royromero5329
@royromero5329 9 ай бұрын
@@nidgeontour257Women don’t think like men, they go base on their feeelings. We’re logical people. “Women fall in love in your absence”
@benjaminhies
@benjaminhies 10 ай бұрын
This is one of the best videos I’ve seen so far. I‘m in no contact for 8 days now, and I‘m struggling. But every day, I push myself physically, emotionally and mentally. I‘m in the gym daily, I’m working on my business daily, I‘m eating healthy, and I’m reflecting on what makes a great relationship. Thanks Coach Lee for guiding me through those dark times!
@Samx838
@Samx838 7 ай бұрын
update?
@benjaminhies
@benjaminhies 7 ай бұрын
@@Samx838 it’s been 3 months, still no contact.
@Talkwithdulci
@Talkwithdulci 6 ай бұрын
Try 30😢
@elvisgitonga1627
@elvisgitonga1627 Жыл бұрын
One moment I'm okay next i feel like I'm punched on the throat! I have now employed NC day 1 after two weeks of chasing. Wish me luck guys
@vincentbryan1962
@vincentbryan1962 5 ай бұрын
How are you doing? I wish people gave updates after leaving comments like this
@victoriaalonso9127
@victoriaalonso9127 3 ай бұрын
I have felt the same and done the same chasing for two weeks. And here I am three weeks later feeling so much better. He contacted me a few times. I am still in NC as it is not the right timing right now.
@stephenbotwe1992
@stephenbotwe1992 2 жыл бұрын
She came back after more than 5 months of no contact. After her new relationship didn't work for her. But I'm over it. No more interested. Don't won't someone who will leave me for another guy and then when things don't work for her she wants to come back. That is not loyalty
@asmrsleep3079
@asmrsleep3079 2 жыл бұрын
So if she didn't see anyone else, would you have tried again? Tried again even if most of the feelings went away?
@stephenbotwe1992
@stephenbotwe1992 2 жыл бұрын
@@asmrsleep3079 I would have given it a try. But the fact that she left because she taught she got someone better than me is a no nonsense for me to tolerate it
@SurrealisticSlumbers
@SurrealisticSlumbers 2 жыл бұрын
@@stephenbotwe1992 good for you... you deserve better
@Wolf.88
@Wolf.88 9 ай бұрын
Awesome 😎
@damientheomentrites6463
@damientheomentrites6463 2 жыл бұрын
At the end of the day you should not think about your ex coming back I know it’s hard but the path to getting your ex back and the path to moving on is the same. Walk away and don’t turn around to see if she’s following you
@MonkeyDLuffy60073
@MonkeyDLuffy60073 2 жыл бұрын
You're right man, it's hard. A part of me can't believe that it has been 3 months since our break up and about 30 days since we last had a conversation.. I still have dreams and it sucks, I'm confused and traumatised.
@damientheomentrites6463
@damientheomentrites6463 2 жыл бұрын
@@MonkeyDLuffy60073 Bro I’m in the exact same boat I broke up with my ex girlfriend for months ago but we really only stopped talking three months ago it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to Indore other than losing a family member
@damientheomentrites6463
@damientheomentrites6463 2 жыл бұрын
@@kcash6359 Listen brother I feel your pain but don’t hate her if you love her you want what’s best for her even if she was wrong I think my ex has someone else abs to be honest I was so angry at the beginning but holding on to anger makes the pain worse and it creates deep resentment. Let it go pray for her and become the best version of yourself so when the right person comes you don’t carry on the same traits that ended this relationship. Look in the mirror and ask yourself what you need to change and change it . Because I can promise you if she don’t change too she will never be happy eaither 🙏🏻❤️ best of luck pal
@gramafrita
@gramafrita 2 жыл бұрын
@@damientheomentrites6463 your comment made me feel way better, thank you for the words 🥰
@damientheomentrites6463
@damientheomentrites6463 2 жыл бұрын
@@gramafrita my pleasure I’m fighting the heartbreak as we speak it’s the hardest pain to endure besides losing a loved one I was with my ex 8 years. Good luck
@slyptutorial4942
@slyptutorial4942 2 жыл бұрын
This comment section feels like family❤️
@cooldad895hess8
@cooldad895hess8 7 ай бұрын
We are like family. We’re all the less attractive people. So there’s gotta be some relation 😂😂😂😂.
@jackdoe4632
@jackdoe4632 2 жыл бұрын
No contact works! After six months, I got an email today. Many thanks Coach Lee. But it ain't easy.
@SurrealisticSlumbers
@SurrealisticSlumbers 2 жыл бұрын
My three-month anniversary of being dumped was just a few days ago. Thanks for your comment.
@RathwulvenBushcraft
@RathwulvenBushcraft 2 жыл бұрын
It is more than 12 months for me now and recently a mutual friend of ours told me that she just engaged with another dude. I was so heartbroken the day I heard that and lost my momentum I built in a year. Then again this very incident sparked my pride in a way I could not spark it myself: It really is about finding my own way, regardless of what happens outside of me. Because life is short and if I am not fighting for my future, who else will? All the people that turned their back on me, including several ex partners? Hell no. To all of you people out there who are suffering from a breakup: Keep fighting! Don’t give up because you never know what will be around the next corner.
@Helpingbos
@Helpingbos 10 ай бұрын
I can only imagine the pain you have gone through. Be strong 💪
@kkmrj5
@kkmrj5 4 ай бұрын
NC working after 9 weeks. Fortunately, he realized he had issues too through his Own self reflection and was listening to relationship podcasts! The growth both of us had and our whirlwind past has brought us back ❤. These videos were almost a blueprint !
@sarakiara3470
@sarakiara3470 2 жыл бұрын
Guys !! Listen and believe to evry word coach lee says I suffered from a breakup and i followed him blindly.. i also made many mistakes after breakup but no contact really works .. he is back!!! And ik this phase was so bad for me too but it will get better eventually. If you really wnt him back .. and you guys are meant to be.. HE WILL COME BACK JUST STAY STRONG GUYS❤
@Carlywind
@Carlywind 2 жыл бұрын
How long did that take? Happy for your success by the way ❤
@m1ll1on4r3
@m1ll1on4r3 Жыл бұрын
Some more informations would be nice. How long did you guys were together, how long did you break up. How long was the no contact time and what is the current situation?
@bellahernandez544
@bellahernandez544 Жыл бұрын
I just successfully finished my first month of no contact 😊
@bellahernandez544
@bellahernandez544 Жыл бұрын
Congratulations btw
@lucacapobianco3156
@lucacapobianco3156 2 жыл бұрын
hello coach and viewers, it's been a while since I watched one of your videos... just wanted to comeback and thank you for your helpful advices for the after breakup period. I'm currently back with my ex since 4 months (after three of no contact) and we are happier than ever. So guys pls, even tho this period might feel like shit keep on going and you will either heal and move on or get your ex back TRUST ME 🙏. I wish the best for all of you and remember that you're not alone. Breakups are an important step in everyone's life!
@kealebogamosu7055
@kealebogamosu7055 2 жыл бұрын
I'm using NC but she keeps on calling me then after conversation she'll ask for apologies for calling.. it's hard for me to understand because I stay with our daughter..I sometimes think she's calling because the of child .. even though she sometimes prefer talking to me not the child even if she's around?
@michaelvega3669
@michaelvega3669 2 жыл бұрын
Damn that’s awesome! I rarely see people return to his channel to give updates after getting their partner back. I’m doing no contact with my ex of 11 years, was about to married and depression hit her. Hopefully she comes back. I’m barely on day 7 of NC 🤣
@brandonohara4122
@brandonohara4122 2 жыл бұрын
Did she reach out?
@thegrinch3691
@thegrinch3691 2 жыл бұрын
How do you feel about the possibility that she may have slept with someone else during that period of no contact with her before you guys got back together?
@michaelvega3669
@michaelvega3669 2 жыл бұрын
@@thegrinch3691 I wouldn’t be able to take her back…
@hashy8739
@hashy8739 2 жыл бұрын
I can't focus on anything else after breakup. It was so sudden and I can't stop thinking about him. Even when I sleep, my heart feels so heavy and feel like it's going to explode.
@hm3622
@hm3622 2 жыл бұрын
You’re not alone. It is so painful. It just shows us how capable we are of loving others and how big our hearts are. Stay strong ❤️
@justinclark1182
@justinclark1182 Жыл бұрын
Same 😔
@healthholistics369
@healthholistics369 Жыл бұрын
It only hurts in the beginning, you'll get used to be on yourself and big hope for new beginning with new people
@suetoohey3139
@suetoohey3139 Жыл бұрын
Same 😢 just happened today
@hashy8739
@hashy8739 Жыл бұрын
@@suetoohey3139 don't worry dear... U might be feel like lost ur apetite, don't want to talk to anyone or feel like no one can make you happy... But let me tell you, u will get out of all these maximum of 2 months.. And also, my ex did texted me after 2 months... I was listening to some manifestation those times. However, God blessed me with another amazing guy who treating me like a queen. So, when my ex texted me i was in a state where I don't need him. In other words, I was completely detached from that person.. Love u dear☺❤u deserve better... Take care.. Don't hurt ur self for some asshole who don't value u.. 😌👍
@dianeblake3645
@dianeblake3645 Жыл бұрын
I can’t believe this actually worked 😮 My ex reached out after 10 days nc. It was so hard to not tell him how much I missed him but I took your advice and played it cool. I even waited a bit to reply to not look like I was desperately waiting by the phone. This conversation was light but he was the one who kept it going. He was so curious about what I had been up to. Hoping he will reach out again but back to no contact for now.
@susanarsoniadou
@susanarsoniadou Жыл бұрын
It is amazing how anger can help you get over someone. Someone who ghosts is cruel.Why go back to a sadist. It is over.Case closed.Do not want them back.
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Susan Ars, Anger is Hurt turned inside out. I understand the feeling. You will be fine. Sometimes we let people annoy us, but this will pass. We've ALL been there. Take care of yourself. I can recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which has EVERYTHING in it. It even has strategies for every situation. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
@cosminmoraru9179
@cosminmoraru9179 8 күн бұрын
I’ve been using this kind of videos as a bandaid for my broken heart and I’m guessing you guys are doing as well but the truth is that time will make it better, it’s actually amazing how at first you think you’re going to die without this person but after some time you realize you’re fine by yourself. You never stop loving them or missing them but you learn to live with those feelings and be just fine. Stay strong, this will pass!
@joncarbone
@joncarbone 2 жыл бұрын
I wanna say thanks for all your help getting through a breakup. In the past I made mistakes during a breakup. This time I employed no contact. Sure enough she wouldn’t leave me alone. In the end decided against taking her back. Your videos helped me realize my strength and value. Now I’m seeing someone else, big upgrade.
@nosolja9
@nosolja9 2 жыл бұрын
Good for you bro... I need your strength 💪🏽 🙏🏼
@rxsx123
@rxsx123 5 ай бұрын
How long did you do no contact?
@rockergirl4936
@rockergirl4936 2 жыл бұрын
I know these videos are generally “ how to get your ex back “ but I still find them soothing to watch even tho I know I could never get back with a cheating ex. I feel like a sucker for even still feeling hurt despite the massive disrespect that comes from cheating . And wished they reach out but for what
@theizza68
@theizza68 Жыл бұрын
Your videos have replaced my workout songs. It's been 8 days since the breakup. 11 years of relationship. I'm hoping to come back with a success story in a few months.
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
theizza68. I can recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which is excellent and it will help you immensely. It's a POWERFUL Kit that has strategies for every situation. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
@sukritinigam
@sukritinigam Жыл бұрын
update?
@Samx838
@Samx838 7 ай бұрын
Any update?
@theizza68
@theizza68 7 ай бұрын
@sukritinigam yea. It ended in a divorce and it's best for me and her. I'm about to start my own business I'm dating someone much better looking and nicer now and I'm absolutely obsessed.
@bizarrenessa
@bizarrenessa 2 жыл бұрын
It worked!!! I did everything what you said and it worked!! We were only on a break, but still. It wasn’t sure if he wanted to continue or not, and first he wanted to break up, but he saw that I worked on myself and developed a lot in the break, and now he wants to continue our relationship! I instantly started to work on myself, so I recommend everyone to not give up and put yourself first, be your own priority! I send positive energy to everyone here, keep going!!🥰❤️🥳
@feliciakent9628
@feliciakent9628 2 жыл бұрын
I’m going through that now...on a break because they need to get over something to more forward into a relationship...it’s been 6 days nc for me...prior I asked her did she not wanna speak to me during the break.,and she told me not rn...
@Carlywind
@Carlywind 2 жыл бұрын
That’s wonderful . How long was your break?
@feliciakent9628
@feliciakent9628 2 жыл бұрын
@@Carlywind didn’t really have a time frame for the break we haven’t seen each other in two weeks hoping that the time away brings us closer it’s hard to go from talking daily to not talking at all
@Carlywind
@Carlywind 2 жыл бұрын
@@feliciakent9628 oh I see, are you back together now or still feeling things out?
@feliciakent9628
@feliciakent9628 2 жыл бұрын
@@Carlywind we spoke on Wednesday and she said she still was in the same feeling and it’s something she has to get past to move forward so like now everything is at standstill
@Mewmew023
@Mewmew023 Жыл бұрын
You're an angel 😭 I cannot ever explain how you saved me from being doomed
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing those kind words. I appreciate it. I thought I'd just mention that I'm doing a workshop soon where you get 12 hours with me. It's limited in number so that you can get the most help possible and includes "after care" of 6 months of coaching. You can get more information on that at RelationshipReignite.com.
@MetaPhysStore0770
@MetaPhysStore0770 2 жыл бұрын
77 days of n.c. and he just tried to talk to me, HAHAHAHAHAHA, TOO BAD IM OVER HIM!!!!!! But i learned SOOOO MUCH COACH LEE, thx!!!!
@MetaPhysStore0770
@MetaPhysStore0770 2 жыл бұрын
@@fj4731 i think she is "bread crumbing" you, with little tid bits of contact, i suggest try to be secure with yourself that you are the quality person that she does want, but show you are strong, and only make small conversation, then pull back again in no contact for a week or two, or til she gives in to sends a bit of talk, but dont over do it on your side, pull back for two weeks and see what her move is, keep doing this, for two weeks every time, it makes you look strong in my opinion
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 2 жыл бұрын
@@fj4731 WE spoke before. I suggested that you NOT associate with her. I will tell you again. NO CONTACT is the best solution for you. Even though she contacted you, avoid her. I would BLOCK HER, and not attend anything that she's involved in. You need to GROW- MOVE FORWARD. Do this for your own peace of mind. Good luck, fj...⚘️
@MichaelPipinias
@MichaelPipinias 6 ай бұрын
He realised his loss❤
@melany.muraour
@melany.muraour 2 жыл бұрын
This is the best advice ever!!! 💯 percent to the inside jokes... my ex and I shared great laughs and I still make him laugh by bringing up some past comments or allude to the jokes we shared. I can still make him blush. Humour is a major part of building intimacy and attraction. New or old
@Goosebumps871
@Goosebumps871 2 жыл бұрын
Listening to you soothes my heart. Just your tone and your voice is so comforting. I’m so grateful for your amazing videos.
@pamwoods9367
@pamwoods9367 2 жыл бұрын
I want to say thank you to Coach Lee and offer some encouragement to viewers that NC works if you follow his instructions. My fiancé and I have been together for 4 years. About 2 weeks ago we had a HUGE blow up. He left and went to his parent’s house and did not communicate with me. I cried, I begged, and called repeatedly. I found Coach Lee and tried to follow NC but kept reaching out. Yesterday was Day 4 of NC and early this morning he came home. We spoke and agreed to start counseling next week to work on our issues before they become major again. Coach Lee, I’ve learned a lot about myself from discovering your channel. ❤❤❤
@innocent411
@innocent411 2 жыл бұрын
You're so lucky! This is similar to my case but I left for my parents & came back 2 weeks after. We talked about counselling too and he was down for it. I was shocked and heartbroken when he called me a couple of days after to change his mind and he's gone radio silence ever since. I've never been so heartbroken in my life... and worse I feel terrible & guilty for leaving but smth was always off and I needed us to sort it out no matter what it took. He was stubborn and in denial
@m.alexander7865
@m.alexander7865 2 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee It's been 5 weeks and I'm doing my best to work on myself .. we had a strong love an a good thing for the most part ...I have a tendency to let the little things bother me some but I was never abusive to her ...I DID give her respectful love ... I could use a little encouragement looking forward to this one .. I'm very grateful I found your channel as are many ...
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 2 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee is the BEST! He can help you. Good luck to you...
@m.alexander7865
@m.alexander7865 2 жыл бұрын
Why can't I see these replies ? Lol only one of three
@chriscoleman8015
@chriscoleman8015 2 жыл бұрын
M. Alexander, it’s been 7 weeks of No Contact for me.. and i just won’t break it.. the more i think about it, the more i realize i know I’m doing what is right.. stay strong man.. if she wants to walk, let her walk man.. trust me, i know it hurts.. hurt me too.. but i am worth more than that.. you are too.. i know..
@m.alexander7865
@m.alexander7865 2 жыл бұрын
@@chriscoleman8015 thank you, bro.. the ironic part is when I look back? There times when I knew I was feeling disregarded by her emotionally anyway.. coach says seperate the loss from the relationship.. thank you for the kind words . Hang in there Chris ..
@BH-bp9it
@BH-bp9it 2 жыл бұрын
@@m.alexander7865 because you got a lot of spam responses. Love spells etc. Stay in no contact. Listen to videos. If you had a good relationship, time will be your friend
@Socoolral
@Socoolral 2 жыл бұрын
I believe she thinks I will reach out to her because she absolutely knows how much I love and care about her. I won’t give in though. As much as it hurts and it painful it is, this is all I feel I have left and that’s my self respect. Besides it’s not in my heart to go where I’m not welcomed. Thanks Coach Lee. I’m learning
@annemarie7203
@annemarie7203 2 жыл бұрын
Same here, it wasn’t easy especially since we talked almost everyday for so long it felt like I was going through a withdrawal 😭 but time heals and by staying away from someone who doesn’t care to leave and hurt you, you got your self respect intact. So far it’s been 2 months for me of no contact.
@os3688
@os3688 2 жыл бұрын
Its tough the first few months but im on a year and like 4 months of NC and gets way easier. You realize your value and become more confident and end up enjoying being single… you end up thinking people in relationships are weak… GL
@brandonohara4122
@brandonohara4122 2 жыл бұрын
2 months in here and some days are good, others not as much. But I do know one thing and that is if I could see my future I'd be smiling ear to ear. Stay strong and you're absolutely right to stay away
@sergeodon5450
@sergeodon5450 2 жыл бұрын
Same here. its been almost 3 months of no contact and I'm sure she thinks I will reach out. I was so needy and clingy that I begged, cried spoke to her parents and brothers and she couldn't care. I'm regretting doing all of that but my emotions were all over the place. It's hard to throw 7 years just like that. Now I'm rebuilding myself even though I'm still not ok and I won't reach out to save the little respect I have.
@sarakiara3470
@sarakiara3470 2 жыл бұрын
NC WORKS .. let her go and she will come back
@urienswolfeson3065
@urienswolfeson3065 2 жыл бұрын
She left me in February after 10 years of what I believed and was told by her was a beautiful marriage. I have sense learned She is a narcissist, she was cheating, using me, planned on taking everything from me because she had gotten all she could. Therapy, and listening to Coach Lee... growing and working on me, staying in no contact, learning and so much more. Coach Lee's advice and videos has helped me to become a better man. I have more growth and healing to do. Living my life as I choose. She threw us away, she is a full blown narcissist, why would I ever allow that back in my life. I didn't do what she expected. I didn't contact, didn't block her on social media. I did not prove her right. I am better than what I have ever known.
@burglar7523
@burglar7523 Жыл бұрын
she’s a trifling friend in need
@urienswolfeson3065
@urienswolfeson3065 Жыл бұрын
I wouldn't call her a friend. She is a clinical narcissist. A scammer. The plot from the beginning was to take away all she could. In my own blindness, I ignored the signs, I wanted to believe the best. Coach Lee's advice of no contact and self focus gave me the tools to see the truth. This was an experience i had to go through ti learn and embrace myself. To find my self respect without disrespecting others. Coach Lee is absolutely spot on.
@Dzeko_87
@Dzeko_87 Жыл бұрын
this video is too much important, should go viral with 1M views
@JCanucks30
@JCanucks30 11 ай бұрын
I've been studying your videos the past while, hoping to get back to things and get her back. Thank you so much for this information, this is gonna work.
@anairaham
@anairaham 2 жыл бұрын
I will never reach out. I reached out the first time we broke up and we got back together. But since he broke my heart a second time, it’s not my job to fix what he broke again
@fj4731
@fj4731 2 жыл бұрын
Hi I need women advice if can help me out I am in Day 38 No Contact I cant take NC no more .I need to seek advice 3 weeks ago she forwarded a church activity zoom talk to me without saying Hi….I didn't reply since she didnt "How are you " would I regret Not replying to her forwarded email? I am so weak man Can I ask should I reach out and apologise I am the root cause of her mental illness and to agree to her term to meet her Less frequently so that she has more time on her own or is this Bad idea to be apologise and accepting her condition ..giving her the power she has me under her power? So dont break No contact to outwait her let her miss me ..If I want to get her back
@lisamorales3914
@lisamorales3914 Жыл бұрын
I got through the hardest part. I’m satisfied with a friendship knowing there are no bad terms between us. I think I wanted things to progress more quickly and pulled back on having sex. It was very difficult but I couldn’t compromise my values and my faith. I was miserable. Knowing I can be friends and only that eases my inner turmoil. He did try to engage romantically in his texts but I changed the subject or ignored them. I don’t reply immediately and can actually step back and see things for what they really were. I’m so much in a better place. I do have a major surgery coming up, he seems very concerned. That was touching. My health is my priority. I gave it to God. ❤
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Lisa Morales, GOOD LUCK with your surgery.🙏 You take care of YOU! ❤
@losbanos999
@losbanos999 Жыл бұрын
My ex said...I expected you to chase me! Lol. She was used to that from past relationships. Not this guy sister!!! This is a great video. 90 days no contact and she came back.
@rxsx123
@rxsx123 5 ай бұрын
Complete no contact for 90 days?
@losbanos999
@losbanos999 5 ай бұрын
@@rxsx123 however long it takes....6 months, 9 months....or forever. It's about showing that you respect yourself. Good luck.
@rxsx123
@rxsx123 5 ай бұрын
@@losbanos999 thanks bro, I was just wondering if she reached out any time within that 90 days with other stuff like getting her stuff back or getting closure etc. before she fully came back? And are yall still together now?
@losbanos999
@losbanos999 5 ай бұрын
@@rxsx123 she did reach out, then left again .. breadcrumbs. She just wanted to know that I'm still there. So we are not together. A month ago I told her I am blocking her everywhere and have a nice life. I must keep her blocked now and try to move on. It sucks bad. If she really wanted me, she could email me or come see me. She doesn't respect me enough. You have to really show them that you are moving on, or they won't get scared and fear losing you. Go watch Lucia of The Art of Love. She shows you how to stay in no contact and wait for something significant from your ex. Lucia's way is the only way for most couples. Sorry coach Lee.
@CREDMANSR
@CREDMANSR Жыл бұрын
Yes they think you'll reach out as most of us do to try and save things. 🤷🏾‍♂️🤷🏾‍♂️🤷🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️
@panduh5480
@panduh5480 2 жыл бұрын
Today I hit my 30 days of no contact. After two years I was ghosted. After a few days I called and called and all I got was her degrading me and screaming attention me. I cried for days and days. But what I realized is nobody should be called the horrible things she called. And in front of co-workers. I would never do that to anybody. I know I am a kind, loving, and giving person. I will never let anybody make me think differently about my self-worth. And if somebody does not want to be with me then let them go.
@MichaelChibueze-d3o
@MichaelChibueze-d3o 8 ай бұрын
U are the best coach ever I followed ur teachings and I stayed strong she watch her beg for me to take her back... We are now together again and so happy together thank u so much once again coach Lee 💪💪🙌
@Samx838
@Samx838 7 ай бұрын
After how much of nc?
@lga2331
@lga2331 2 жыл бұрын
Did no contact my ex came back twice the third time I told him to leave me alone. I knew a cycle was beginning and I deserve better I was in a better place mentally and physically
@raytooskilled
@raytooskilled 2 жыл бұрын
Defy their expectations I love that! I’m definitely sure she believes I will reach out . Imma hold off and give my ex what she wanted . I won’t hit her up , I’ll be back with an update
@sebastiantejada6216
@sebastiantejada6216 10 ай бұрын
Anything ?
@auronguy
@auronguy 2 жыл бұрын
I know how dire this situation is for some of you, because of how it was for me. For me, it was early October 3 years ago in 2019. I am not back with my ex. And it is NOT because I didn't want to get back with her. I followed Coach Lee like a lifeline for quite some time. It DID help with certain things. One big thing I noticed for the longest time was that I was dangerously balancing between severe anxiety and severe depression. The anxiety EVENTUALLY eased off somewhat. It does get easier. Not perfect or great, but better.
@livbeyond
@livbeyond 2 жыл бұрын
Listen to Coach Lee, beautiful people, and take notes at the same time. Everything he explains happened exactly as he said it would. It was very difficult because in my case it took quite a bit of time - but it was worth being patient for months. Good luck!
@livbeyond
@livbeyond 2 жыл бұрын
@@mamoud6648 In short, he wanted the break-up last November, I tried to fight to save it for two weeks or so, but then went NC - as advised by Coach Lee, only replying when he would ask me for something, being polite, positive and keeping messages short. He kept in touch this way ever since then - sometimes only once in two weeks but no more than that. By 6th month, he said he wanted to meet up - which was a bit shocking and unexpected to me - and I said (honestly) that I couldn't. We finally had a phone conversation by the 10th month. He admitted (just as Coach Lee said) that only after 3 months, all the negativity disappeared and he could only remember the good stuff, and he would have wanted to reconnect earlier. However, he realised that would ruin my process of finding my peace, so he tried to approach carefully. We are still at that stage. I appreciate him for being slow - perhaps a bit too slow but... hey! - I admit that it is better this way. Every relationship has its own dynamics. At first, I was really against the idea of meeting him - after such a long time - but I am gradually warming up to it, as we communicate a lot more via text and phone. Our lives are quite busy at the moment, too, so that is a bit in the way as well - but in a way, it also works for us, keeping us occupied. Not sure if it helps - but this is my experience: I feel that in some cases, a lot of time and distance is needed to process our feelings, both as a dumper and as a dumpee. In my case, NC cleared up what was cloudy between us, gave me back my dignity and peace, and helped him clarify what he feared. A win-win. Not sure where this will go now, as this clarification also made me see why we are not good for each other - but not worried about it either. Hope this makes sense.
@mamoud6648
@mamoud6648 2 жыл бұрын
@@livbeyond that’s awesome I hope things work out either way
@livbeyond
@livbeyond 2 жыл бұрын
@@mamoud6648 Thanks, same to you! 💫
@mamoud6648
@mamoud6648 2 жыл бұрын
@@livbeyond I’m just curious so I’m the dumper and I recently told my ex at the six months of trying to get her back. That I’m moving on and if she considers working things out she can contact me but her birthday is in a few weeks. She did send me a little gift, on my birthday. Should I send her something for her birthday we recently stopped talking, but still on good terms. What’s your thoughts
@livbeyond
@livbeyond 2 жыл бұрын
@@mamoud6648 I cannot remember what Coach Lee says that the dumper should do. In a way, after 6 months of trying to get her back, the situation is changed a bit. But are you sure you did everything you could? As I said, sometimes things take more time than we think. But ... if you have initiated NC, then the rules of NC say 'No Happy Birthday, no gifts'. You said you want to move on. Perhaps not sending a gift would be the proof of that? I did not wish my ex Happy Birthday back in September, I was super quiet on social media, too.I know it hurt him quite a lot but he also understood why I had to do it. I really don't know what is best as your situation is a bit different - are you aware of her feelings? What did she say? Why can't she give another try ?
@andreah.6432
@andreah.6432 2 жыл бұрын
Best coach on this platform, very direct, rational and realistic advice ❤️
@mdags3202
@mdags3202 2 жыл бұрын
It feels like all the work has to be done by the dumpee. At what point do they ever have to do the work and heal all the parts of themselves that need healing? They are not perfect but they are quick to judge. And yet we stayed because we still loved them through all their imperfections. I am ready to give up. If they do not see our worth now, they never will
@DF-te2vm
@DF-te2vm Жыл бұрын
Your insight is becoming more and more clear for me. I don't know what the future holds, but I know I tried with the best methods and goals. (Thanks to you)
@c-fo3335
@c-fo3335 2 жыл бұрын
Been separated over 2 yrs, and I all about my son now. I just got home from over seas work and she went off on telling me how we are never getting back together and to move on and how I broke her heart. She even said she can not be my wife-i said ok. I said yeah sorry it wasn’t intentional, but why is she still telling me all this now?? I know this already. Im not perfect but on my purpose and did the work to fix me 💪🏻.
@SolidusRob45
@SolidusRob45 2 жыл бұрын
Came here for break up advice, learned the quarterback throws the ball. Thank you, coach.
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee 2 жыл бұрын
I do what I can. And the QB info was at no additional charge.
@scootknight
@scootknight 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks coach Lee, your videos have helped me through depression. Me and my ex split a week ago after almost 4 years. It’s been extremely tough. We had some ugly moments but never nothing physical or cheating. She has a daughter and she allowed me to come to her softball game and her daughter cried in my arms saying she missed me. I just pray we can fix this for good. I still want the relationship but she wants the space. She says she needs time to process.
@pm1361
@pm1361 2 жыл бұрын
Omg Im literally going thru the same thing at the same time Scott. I hope it all works out for you 🙏
@scootknight
@scootknight 2 жыл бұрын
@@pm1361 it sucks, how are you coping through this. What do you do to keep your mind busy?
@JKNat9004
@JKNat9004 2 жыл бұрын
You sound like a good person. Sending positive vibes your way.
@pm1361
@pm1361 2 жыл бұрын
Im literally trying to keep myself busy at all times lol like go to the gym, clean, stay busy with work, or even sometimes I have to let it out and cry but becoming a better version of myself is priority !
@scootknight
@scootknight 2 жыл бұрын
@@pm1361 I like that answer!
@marianunn2853
@marianunn2853 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you, your advice makes loads of sense. The break up has been a wake up call on how much I have to learn about relationships and how much I have room for improvement I need to do on myself. Thank you soooooo much again 😃
@brandonohara4122
@brandonohara4122 2 жыл бұрын
Same.....same
@marcnotrica7234
@marcnotrica7234 Жыл бұрын
Leading to the break up my wife of 27 years recently started calling me all kinds of names, accusing me of being a narcissist and continuing bringing up things from the past. No real forgiveness no letting go. That’s not to say she’s completely innocent put I chose to not go into the garbage can. I’ve supported her through her MS and multiple surgeries for amputation, with trips to NYC hospitals, Baltimore and most recently Mayo Clinic. I’ve been ghosted by her and until I found your videos, I had made the mistake of sending her flowers calling her and texting her. Now I’ve gone no contact and will continue to stay that way, because I totally agree with you that it is the mature way to handle this situation it’s not like I don’t have other options, if she wants to leave, I’m gonna let her go in peace. If she comes back, we will obviously need some counseling and therapy. As for myself, I’m going to continue to work on being the best human being, I can possibly be. strength, courage and faith in the process. Thank you for this solid advice. I will continue to listen to your suggestions and follow through with them.
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
marcnotrica72, Marc, I suggest you book a Coaching session with Coach Lee or a coach on his staff myexbackcoach.com/book-with-coach-lee/
@Lirambo74
@Lirambo74 2 жыл бұрын
Not gone lie I been on your videos ever since January when I got dumped, I started taking your advice and giving no contact. After 3 months of no contact she video chatted me randomly on messenger even though she has another man. We were on the phone for about 40 mins I wasn't tryna to give her much attention bc I'm sure that's what she expected but she was asking how was my well being and it surprised me bc of all the hurt she caused me I never expected
@justiceforall3973
@justiceforall3973 2 жыл бұрын
It’s been the same time for me, we talked before but I totally messed up. She lured me into arguments and like a dummy I fell for it. Got even so far as to calling her new guy a POS! Yea, I messed up there. But that’s the guy she monkey branched with. But I’m happy for you and I hope you do get your ex back…
@T1000-z1t
@T1000-z1t 2 жыл бұрын
Your guidance is on point. She has broken up with me twice. The first time, I gave her the break. Pretty much told her. thank for the time we had and ill see ya around. 2 days later she was back. The 2nd time she called it off. I implemented NC. She's been texting with just normal hi, how are you. It was nice to see you today you look great in passing. One month to the day she broke up with me, she's wanting to meet. I'm skeptical but still want her back. I've been told that break ups where a defense mechanism because of commitment issues. She's had some pretty bad relationships and break ups. She's told others that it's not me and that she has f***** up.
@sharon2785
@sharon2785 2 жыл бұрын
I could beat myself up for nor knowing these information long time ago. I had a very short term relationship but it meant so much to me. I made all the mistakes you pointed out when my partner stopped taking my calls or returning my text messages. Because I wanted to know why. This was since the beginning of Nov it was just last Monday that he actually tells me why and told me to moved on. I was still begging from a place of emotional weakness. Until I finally decided to go NC a week now. I am in live with him and want him back. I cried every day. We spent every weekend together since we met going out having lots of laughter and non stop fun A silly business difference of opinion cause him to just walked away without even discussing it. It hurts
@NMTDelightfulMusic
@NMTDelightfulMusic 2 жыл бұрын
He is narcissist
@guillermomendez2525
@guillermomendez2525 Жыл бұрын
My Ex Reach out to me last saturday, she say hello and told me that she hope i can find peace, and that she doesnt hate me, that she only have great memories! I replied with the same nothing more and nothing less!
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Guillermo Mendez, at least you are both on speaking terms, and are respectful to each other.
@godwinjohn5712
@godwinjohn5712 2 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee, thanks for your help you have really saved a lot of relationship,God will continue to give you more wisdom.
@SongSingsSoprano
@SongSingsSoprano 2 жыл бұрын
17:45 had me rolling.😂😂😂😂😂 It's been 3 days. Should I call him and tell him I've changed?
@jayjaytornea7132
@jayjaytornea7132 Жыл бұрын
After a few months of NC I just contacted my ex yesterday and she replied that she was surprised and assumed I already moved on and appreciate my message reaching out now Im on the stage of getting her back again and taking it one day at a time. I think the timing is crucial after the NC and when is the right time to talk to your ex. I just watched all the videos of coach lee and I hope this works out this time. Thank you coach lee
@a.cryptoneur3469
@a.cryptoneur3469 Жыл бұрын
Update?
@RandyLos1994
@RandyLos1994 Жыл бұрын
Updateeee
@MissCryptoNL
@MissCryptoNL Жыл бұрын
Update? 🙂
@MissCryptoNL
@MissCryptoNL Жыл бұрын
How it's going?
@roachofdoom1234
@roachofdoom1234 2 жыл бұрын
I definitely made some of the mistakes during the break up itself that you mention like arguing and crying but we lived together at the time so I guess it was unavoidable. I quickly searched for help from sources like you and then gave her the breakup and have been in no contact for over a month. I’m hoping she’s thought about me and missed me during this time.
@lisabaughn
@lisabaughn 2 жыл бұрын
Good job!
@nardo34480
@nardo34480 2 жыл бұрын
Going through the same thing
@JT-hj6uz
@JT-hj6uz 2 жыл бұрын
Keep going. And don’t just do it for getting her back. You need to grow alone. I’ve been through it and we all been there. Same thing happened to me last week. Haven’t talked since. But therapy and being honest with yourself will help and do things for you and work on yourself. You may end up not wanting her after you build up yourself.
@EmSquareTheProdigaldaughter
@EmSquareTheProdigaldaughter 2 жыл бұрын
@Thomas Fanelli, yes, she thinks about you and misses you. I broke up with my boyfriend because he hurt me. He was having lunch with a woman who has proven to be an enemy of mine and lied about it and was exposed. SO, even though HE was in the wrong and hurt me, my pride would not allow me to stay. YES, I broke up with him, went no contact, and have not reached out since, but I love and miss him dearly. I think about him, I cry about our relationship, and I think about him every single day. So, YES, she thinks about you and she misses you. That's just how women are...even if we have been hurt by the man we love and left.
@po5541
@po5541 2 жыл бұрын
She probably does miss u!! Keep on moving forward
@walkertranger5746
@walkertranger5746 2 жыл бұрын
Perfect timing! Another great one Coach. My ex is back Just not at a slow pace
@beloved9222
@beloved9222 2 жыл бұрын
It’s been 6 month’s no contact. I been working on my self. I miss him a little. I realize now we were never meant to be together. I’m moving on. I don’t want him back. It’s not worth it to me anymore.
@fraspqr
@fraspqr 2 жыл бұрын
The great Jacko willinx, i suggest all of us heart broken men go watch him as well. He said after a break up wish them well, turn around and don't look back. If she wants to or needs to she will reach out to you.. eventually. Hard pill to swallow but it's the only road to go down.
@allthatisunsaid9030
@allthatisunsaid9030 Жыл бұрын
Hi from India. Met in sept 22 on tinder. 2 months bliss. Never met physically. I was head over heels. He sd he loved me too. He was egoistic but genuine person as he never backed out from reprimanding when I was at fault. Then after 2 months his attraction fell. Then he sd he doesn't have free time for me as with family. Work etc..then asked for time. I gave a month. Then he sd he cant take it forward but never ever told me the reason for breakup apart from saying I was going crazy in love he only wanted "good time". Stopped taking my calls. Just answered to my txt readily. I stopped pursuing 10 days ago after watching your videos. I love him and want him back. He is lonely n sad I know that.
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
All That is Unsaid, I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which will help you immensely. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
@AngiePyott
@AngiePyott 2 жыл бұрын
I reconnected with my ex after 30 years! We lived together back then and had loving relationship that organically ended can we were young. Over calls we vowed rekindled everything through memories and residual love felt. Imagine then that after a meeting and a couple of lovely days spent together he’s gone again. Not through emotional connection I genuinely feel but perhaps the physical attraction dropping through ageing I guess. I’ve texted but had them ignored. I’m broken but I know that no contact is the only way forward 😢
@igakoperska9082
@igakoperska9082 2 жыл бұрын
My ex is a narcissist witch I recently discovered and I am grateful that they are out of my life. I had a wish of them reaching out, but that was my ego talking. Now No Contact all the way! 🙂
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 2 жыл бұрын
I broke up with my narc after 5 years. I was FUTURE FAKED, Gaslighted, etc. I ended up in the Hospital. I found Coach Lee's 2 videos on Narcissists, he opened my eyes. I went into Therapy and read a lot of books. This was over 11 years ago. Coach Lee explained what a narc is in his 2 videos. Good luck to you..♥️
@igakoperska9082
@igakoperska9082 2 жыл бұрын
@@jannlewandowski5540 Thank you for your message. It maybe a scar for life but I am dedicated to healing and day by day I feel better. Understanding what was a real cause of relationship failure really helped me to cope. Hope you are fully recovered by now and thriving! ❤️
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 2 жыл бұрын
@@igakoperska9082 it takes TIME to get over them, and I did it. So many years went by. I never saw him again. He probably has many supplies. I wish you well also. ⚘️
@anastasiyazhmaidziak105
@anastasiyazhmaidziak105 Жыл бұрын
My former fiancé is well aware that I will NEVER contact him and attempt to get him back. After proposing and living together for 5 months, he suggested that we “date” and exclusively for the next 2-3 years and live in our own places… That was equivalent to disrespect by going back on his immense wish to be with me through thick and thin.. He said he has lots of fears and financially not in the best place and it stresses him out.
@Chadx81
@Chadx81 2 жыл бұрын
I don’t care about my ex anymore. Wish him the best find someone new. I wait for years begging. I’m moving on with my life.
@Ravid394
@Ravid394 16 күн бұрын
We broke up on a trip and had 36 hours of together time before we parted ways...she told me that my ex-girlfriends were low quality and that I should aim higher, that if I wanted another GF like her, that she assumed I would reach out for this, that and the other thing, was amazing how high she was on how amazing she felt she was. She was a good GF but was she ever high on herself during that last day and half!
@keepgrowing9941
@keepgrowing9941 2 жыл бұрын
Rewatching this video 5x since the last night i saw this post until now it is morning. Cause i really wanna absorb all the information and insights of coach Lee. I really admire how he put all his heart into explaining why is it important to prioritize your well being. That is why he is my fave and only one fave out of the coaches here in youtube. The explanation is always on point, very informative and realistic. I cant describe well enough how coach Lee helps me to thrive and stay in NC…. Thank you so mucj, Coach Lee. If im not here in the 🇵🇭 and if we live in the same country i will really do mu best to have an appointment with you in person. ✨
@sarakiara3470
@sarakiara3470 2 жыл бұрын
Hey just dont give up… and i used to do the same and wanted to come here again and tell ppl that it works .. im back with my ex .. all thanks to coach lee advice
@keepgrowing9941
@keepgrowing9941 2 жыл бұрын
@@sarakiara3470 thank you. But recently i’ve found out that he has a new partner 🙃 so im not waiting anymore. But still rewatching coach lee’s vids to make me stronger
@sarakiara3470
@sarakiara3470 2 жыл бұрын
@@keepgrowing9941 you never know what future holds. So stay strong and love yourself. Realise your value! :)
@debraabshire9291
@debraabshire9291 2 жыл бұрын
Yes I’m sure he does. And I refuse to chase anyone.
@Garmoo5600
@Garmoo5600 2 жыл бұрын
Since my ex (10years and 2 kids) broke up with me I have been trying to eat better, drink more water and exercise more; I feel like I'm in good shape physically but mentally it's quite rough!
@metonicycle6294
@metonicycle6294 Жыл бұрын
No contact works well for me. They always come back. It is extremely difficult but it works magnificently. Through experience, I have realized that if you break up during the silent treatment, and then go straight to no contact, within a short period they will be contacting you. This time around it took 7 days with that strategy for her to contact me. No attempt to make up, but I can see she is feeling less attractive already and she is definitely beginning to question the breakup. It's unbelievable how it works and very predictable. Some may take much longer to contact. I would say the average is 60-90 days no contact. Almost guaranteed to show up somewhere, probably knocking on your door with a sad face. Unbelievable stuff.
@bakwoludovic117
@bakwoludovic117 2 жыл бұрын
I always give a like before watching
@Layla-hg4ux
@Layla-hg4ux Жыл бұрын
He broke up with me, I went NC, he broke NC a week later but I remained NC and told him I couldn't see him, a few weeks later, I broke NC indirectly but continued with NC for my own sake. He reached out to me during festive holiday (total of 6 weeks of NC). He apologized and ready to be in a relationship but I'm scared to give him the access after he has hurt my feelings.
@JenniferGriffin-n2g
@JenniferGriffin-n2g Жыл бұрын
But I usually don’t talk to him and he works with me and he feels bad about it but I am giving him space and leaving him alone with his thoughts
@dingiswayomakukula4118
@dingiswayomakukula4118 2 жыл бұрын
The goat of relationships , coach Lee
@nakiyacooke8840
@nakiyacooke8840 2 ай бұрын
The football analogy!! 👌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾💯
@brandonohara4122
@brandonohara4122 2 жыл бұрын
Been 4 calendar months since the breakup and 3 in a half months since NC. Lol she ain't coming back 🤣 It's all good, I've learned alot and I know that just because was good for me doesn't mean she was right for me in the longterm. Had to accept but it's for the best. She set me free. I honestly hope she's happy and is safe ❤ I will always carry a piece of her with me.
@jumpedintheriverwhatdidise5499
@jumpedintheriverwhatdidise5499 Жыл бұрын
I agree. The thing if she doesn't break down soon after NC and get in touch, if it goes longer than say a few weeks I wouldn't be interested in getting back anyway. I had a woman try to get in touch like a year later, I just blocked her without hesitation. As time apart increases, attraction decreases. At least after the initial break up phase where emotions are high.
@dangrdangrdangr
@dangrdangrdangr 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks!
@richardsullivan2749
@richardsullivan2749 11 ай бұрын
My ex definitely expects me to reach out and when I stopped she reached out 2 weeks later after I started strategic contact wanting to know if I was ok because I hadn't been contacting her
@rajwinderkaur7786
@rajwinderkaur7786 3 ай бұрын
I know wanna hears my call ,today i went to see the chapar function and i did some shopping in Mandi city.this is his city but also my City In my childhood and young age i often go for shopping with my parents I don't went to his village whether my relatives are living there.they are not so good .once he came to my house ,he told me this thing. I gave hlm advice in future you should not do like this. He said to me okay. I have not any contact with them. I noted that he is naughty boy. Perhaps he or any other boy would be broken the window of their house.
@scourgeWZ
@scourgeWZ 2 жыл бұрын
I was trying NC after a few days of the break-up and thought it was going as planned. But all of a sudden, she decided to add her ex on IG again, so I'm assuming she either wanted me to get jealous or wanted me to get mad. We were 4,5 years together, and she disrespected me like that, we had no fights after our break-up, but it felt like a knife against my back. I decided on that day to burn all our photo books, block her and just move on.
@xxxxxchanelb
@xxxxxchanelb 2 жыл бұрын
He added TONS ANS TONS OF PICS OF EX and Super Fit Models and said he was dating Rhianna publicly BUT after 3 months has taken them down during two weeks no contact and currently everything is in ashes btw us but I'm hopeful. I had to start over NC
@IlariaJZen
@IlariaJZen 8 ай бұрын
Since I went into nc, he always reached out every 4/5 days. At first it was to take his stuff back, then it was to say hello, then to talk about us, then to see if we can save the 7 years relationship, BUT he said is not ready to commit 100% yet. I told him that I don’t want friendship or halfways (one of our problems was that he was never 100% sure about us),so I asked him not to reach out again since I don’t deserve his doubts anymore. I think that once they come back it’s okay to take it slowly, but don’t ignore your needs in order to have them back. If they don’t want to do the work, let them have the break up again
@MojRa
@MojRa 2 жыл бұрын
Yes, I think ex is expecting me to reach out. For 3 years I invested in relationship more then him. I was always for him, made him a priority with honest intentions. He decided to breakup out of the blue. I was in shock, calling him 9 times that night and he didn’t answer. My world fall apart. After he told me, he can’t love me (can’t? What a excuse) I went totally in NC. It’s more then 3 months. A month ago I meet younger man, warm and caring. We slowly start spending time together and he’s so lovely. I go step by step. I’m focused on my work and spending great time with my friends and family. I started to travel after many years. I’m learning new things and discovering world. I slowly feel I’m getting stronger. And let my ex sit down with his decision. I will never reach out and fix his mess!
@curtisbeasley3443
@curtisbeasley3443 2 жыл бұрын
This channel kicks so much ass.
@northstargaming2363
@northstargaming2363 Жыл бұрын
I think she will think that I'd reach out. But I don't know for sure
@raquelbopp6669
@raquelbopp6669 Жыл бұрын
Yes, he does. I divorced him because he asked for the divorce and told me after the divorce that he wasn’t ready. Then I move out of state and came back thinking I was over it. Also we have children together. He was already living with someone whom he cheated on me many years ago. Hid it from me to make sure I didn’t change my mind about living in the same state as him. It got ugly and after 3 months I left. He expect s me to call because of our children. I get that but he can communicate directly with them because they have phones. So I’m doing my best not to contact him even if I have the urge.
@keepgrowing9941
@keepgrowing9941 2 жыл бұрын
Philippines 🇵🇭 present 🙋🏻‍♀️
@hm3622
@hm3622 2 жыл бұрын
Did anyone else really mess up during the break up event? 😔 I was so emotional, crying, I got angry, I said things I don’t mean such as I don’t even want to be here anymore. I feel so ashamed for saying those things but it was such a blindside and I couldn’t control myself at the time. I went straight into NC since then and am on day 45 but now worried I should have apologised sooner for saying those things but jeez I was just in a total state of shock and despair. I hope he understands that too😣 I know I did the right thing by going into NC straight away, but so worried I damaged my chances.
@Markdaamannn
@Markdaamannn 2 жыл бұрын
I have to don’t feel bad , I look back and still can’t believe I acted that way and said all those things
@Arashenstein
@Arashenstein 2 жыл бұрын
As a man who was a victim of such a girl's behaviour, you only destroy your chances if you don't go back to truly show you are sorry for what you did to him (unless he is a narcissistic). We get hurt way worse than what you can imagine when the girl brings us down and the only way to get healed is to self improve and truly move on from that girl and most men fail to do this and fall for depression.
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 2 жыл бұрын
A lot of people don't know that crying & begging belittles you. It makes you look weak. DON'T BEG THEM! As hard as it may be, stay strong!
@elly6136
@elly6136 2 жыл бұрын
Yes i messed it all up 😢 he gave me the silent treatment and ghosting and i went so mad.... It took me a few months to calm down. I felt used by him and then dumped. He had a rebound very soon... I went to a coach for help. After two years we met again and had a good talk about it. We are in contact again. He looks after my dog one day a week, he wants that... I didn't ask for it... So he jumped back into my life himself. But he is too scared to be more connected to me. He is avoidant... Push and pull at the same time. I am giving him space now. Oh, and he lives almost next door to me... Two houses between us. That made it so hard all these years.
@cap5762
@cap5762 2 жыл бұрын
I’m nearly 100 days in NC. It will get better
@LOVEandPEACEandLOVE
@LOVEandPEACEandLOVE 2 жыл бұрын
After 7 months of NC, nothing changed. It feels and it hurts like first day. Life will never be the same anymore. My heart is completely broken, and I can’t do anything about it…. True love will never pass.
@musicmostah
@musicmostah 2 жыл бұрын
I feel you. Even if you see no light..be strong!!
@katiestrombeck5703
@katiestrombeck5703 2 жыл бұрын
I just hit 2 months and I feel the same. Everyone just says that time will heal everything, but I don’t think they meant losing the love of your life
@MissSarahGM
@MissSarahGM 2 жыл бұрын
I feel you at 10 months, and other losses in my life. Not like first day though but still painful and missing him. I feel like I will always love him.
@Liz-dragon-street.
@Liz-dragon-street. Жыл бұрын
Just K how are you 2day? I had the same problem, lost everything in one year. My job(15 years) Friends A good friend of mine died in front of me... I felt sad Than my lover (2 and half years) broke up with me. I am always in the light and love life .. but at that time (last year) i had a nerveus break down. Couldn't eat, Couldn't sleep! I started 2 write everyday the last couple of weeks .. about how i feel, what in want in life and what i deserve. I am taking walks, start with a new job in a month and i found peace in Robert who has the you tube channel law of atraction. And yes off course Coach Lee!! Find out what the other person did 2 lower you.. but even more important.. find out what you are that you allowing them 2 give you rhis feeling! What happend in you past... I also had a psychologist and a therapist that gave me the strenght 2 move forword. When you are dealing with a fight in life... understand you will be better afther the victory 🎉 Hang in there lovley people ❤❤
@danhann6598
@danhann6598 Жыл бұрын
“Their breath is bad…” 😂 you made my day coach Lee with that one. Thank you
@jblasutavario9549
@jblasutavario9549 2 жыл бұрын
5:30 this is key 🔑 👌 🙌 💯 👏
@JenniferGriffin-n2g
@JenniferGriffin-n2g Жыл бұрын
But I have been just trying to keep moving forward with my life and trying not to think about him or anything else talking on the phone with friends
@coreylavars6274
@coreylavars6274 Жыл бұрын
Somebody help. Me and my ex girlfriend have been together 4 years 2 months. On January 1st 2023 I basically caught her talking to other men on her phone. She was deleting the messages but I found them in her recently deleted. She said they were friends and she knew I wouldn’t like if she was texting them. I said absolutely not. I have boundaries and especially that you hid them from me. Anyways I told her to delete them and block them if you want to continue the relationship. Apparently she did but after that I had issues and not believing her. I constantly asking her if they reached out or if she did. We basically would get into fights about little stuff laundry and not cleaning etc. we do have a 6 month year old boy together and yeah we were fighting and arguing a lot lately after I found that out. Well she decided to finally end the relationship and said I was just cornering her and everytime we argued she would say stop and I would keep going. We lived in UTAH together and both came out here for our careers. We had no help with the baby and she was slowly losing her mind being home all day and not working. I was at work constantly and hardly home. Someone has to make the money. It’s just been stressful with life and struggles. She decided she’s packing up and moving back to CA and I’m just stuck out here am trying to get a transfer. I’m so broken. I love her so much and she said sorry we’ve tried many times and this time I’m done. I said you wouldn’t like to try and give it 1 more try and get couples therapy and I’ll pay. She said no it’s to far gone now:/ can someone guide me please. I’m lost and confused. I love her so much. She said she still loves me but think that this is the best thing because we aren’t healthy. We still talk and can make each other laugh over text. She seems happy to be going back and I’m just so broken on the inside. I did express my feelings to her and said I accept that you would like to go separate ways. We had sex like 3 times that night and it felt so right.absolute love making. After that the next day she went cold out of nowhere and said we’re done and and there’s nothing left to talk about. Are we really done? Is there any way this can be fixed. I’m gonna give her the space and stay in limited contact for the baby’s sake. Someone please help me 😢
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
coreylavars6274, I suggest you book a Coaching session with Coach Lee or a coach on his staff myexbackcoach.com/book-with-coach-lee/
@Ranee1866
@Ranee1866 Жыл бұрын
He said we can be friends but acts cold when I call and hangs up after 30 seconds
@kevinkoperniak7062
@kevinkoperniak7062 Жыл бұрын
Feb 9th will be a year.. I made the mistakes of contacting her and it backfiring. I’ve dated since then, but it’s still not the same. I don’t think I will ever hear from her again.
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Kevin Koperniak, you never know. I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which will help you. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
@anthonymclean4225
@anthonymclean4225 Жыл бұрын
For truth I would but I've learn from you not to I've change my mind
@SimonChristoff
@SimonChristoff 9 ай бұрын
Oooo abselutly, my GF actually tried to train met to know that if we have a problem I need to come to her and we fix me.....
@brendamedema9911
@brendamedema9911 Жыл бұрын
i did that, I stopped doing that, spending time on myself
@shunmugavelp3366
@shunmugavelp3366 2 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee guided me during my tough times......... 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 thank you leeeeeeeeee
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 2 жыл бұрын
He's the BEST!
@_Palmi
@_Palmi Жыл бұрын
yes i think he expects me to reach out because he knows i usually break off fights and i am the one who try to handle things without arguements
@MM-kf3gq
@MM-kf3gq 2 жыл бұрын
I don’t think she thought I was above her…. She didn’t know what she brought to the table
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