How To Get Kids To Listen And Respect

[@staceywilliams1624]

7:46 earning respect by staying calm, staying positive and finding something she can enforce. Whew! Easier said than done but worth a shot. Thanks.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Stacey Williams, yes, simple is not always easy. Stick with it. You can do this.

[@jayjordan9275]

You clearly sound like you were getting over a cold, yet you still are providing us all knowledge. A thank isn’t gracious enough to give you, Dr. Paul. ❤️

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Jay Jordan, I was, can't cancel on a filming day.

[@zr8393]

Why doesn't this guy have more views?

[@tecumseha]

I wonder the same thing! But I've been watching Dr. Paul for a few months, & when I started he had 38K subscribers. Now he has 44K+. He's definitely gaining popularity w/ his extremely valuable content, but why each video doesn't get more views is beyond me. 🤔

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thanks Tecumseh, it takes a while to get going and I am very grateful for you and all others who are viewing and sharing,

[@saramichael3837]

I think cause what dr Paul is saying requires work. people, I’m included, prefer quick fixes. When everything fails we parents turn inwardly and try to change our side of the conversation.

[@linardzb]

Thank you kind sir! I can see the improvement in the relationships with my wife and son, thanks to your videos. Thousand times THANK YOU.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

That is wonderful to hear, linardzb. You made my day.

[@karlozlunna3883]

i was always getting hit growing up . im glad i can turn to your chanel for the questions and concerns that i have so i dont repeat the cycle!!!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Karloz Lunna, so grateful that you aren't continuing the cycle.

[@VeroNika-gc7mb]

Love your videos! I want to suggest the topic for the video :"How to not raise a narcissistic child, especially when one of the parent is". I know it is not easy to discuss, but there is very little information about this, which I am sure many would find helpful. Thank you!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

This is a tough topic, Nichka and I will add it to the list. I think there are things we can do to deal with some of the attributes of a true narcissist.

[@Flaca.602]

I also would LOVE this 💝

[@EugenePivnev]

I think teaching a child to be grateful and humble (with own example, and discussions) will keep them from becoming narcissistic and feeling entitled.

[@sharonbale3329]

Or psychopathic

[@alcaloidedoergot]

Greetings from a Brazilian father. Love your videos, your expressiveness and the confidence you transmit. Keep on!!!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Hello, alcaloideboergot. I love that I hear from people all over the world. Please share any videos you think would be helpful for someone else.

[@venussemmens4124]

Encouraging changes for a parent who needs to make these changes. Love you Dr. Paul

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

That is awesome to hear, Venus Semmens. You are a great support.

[@melly2547]

I can tell your sick. Hope you feel better thanks for the advice

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you, Life With Melly. It was a tough day. I feel much better.

[@ruibaeta2789]

Thank you very much! You have been an inspiration to me. When you talk everything seems so clear and easy... then I go back to real life and I don't know what to do... I can't even do the calm voice/body thing, yet. That's why I love those examples you share with us so that we try to fit them to our kids. You know, sometimes it's easier to learn by others experiences. Thank you again.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are welcome, Rui Baeta and it does take practice and time. You will get the hang of it. Look for the principle.

[@marwagad3034]

I am glad that you can make several videos explaining one top ...this makes life easier for us ..I appreciate your effort ..

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Marwa Gad, I have heard the need for another video. Thanks for commenting.

[@marwagad3034]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV yes ...God bless you ..

[@perryh.5306]

I'm 15 and I obey my mom to the max, she is the one that is in total control. Everyday, I come home from school and the 1 st thing I do, is give her my phone...don't want any distractions, then I do my homework, then all the chores for that day, which must be done to my moms satisfaction. Then I do whatever she tells me to do with no back talk or arguing. On the weekends, I do want she wants me to do, Before I have my " Free Time"!!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

perry halstead, I hope with your responsible behavior, she has given you more freedom and privileges.

[@perryh.5306]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV no, I get the same privileges....I don't desire anymore freedom than she allows me to have. My mom is great this! She works very hard....so anything I can do to relieve her stress, I gladly do it!

[@--LamMyLinh-A]

Stay calm,positive and find st you can enforce

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Yes, you got it.

[@ashleykindheartministries]

I love your videos!!! You are helping me navigate not only parenting, but also dealing with the culture of my husband’s family here in India where we live. God bless you!!❤️ Ashley Walker Kind Heart Ministries

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you, Ashley.

[@lyndsiemmiles]

Ok, that was a great example! Thank you for sharing that. I cannot wait to apply this with my own children.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are welcome, Lyndsie Miles. You are filling your toolbox with new skills all the time.

[@JessicaTang9202019]

Get well soon Dr.Paul,thank you for sharing you’re great idea.😊😊😊

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Already feeling 100%, Jessica Ilano. Thanks.

[@JessicaTang9202019]

You’re welcome Dr.Paul 😊

[@lvlc5]

the key comment... she found something that worked for her... that's our challenge... to find that thing...

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

YES! You got it Leyda Leon. Sometimes we just try things until we find something that works. That's when parents wish they just had a manual they could refer to.

[@TOON.MUSIC.503]

Hey! Hope you understand that you are helping change lives!! You will thrive in the next life bruddah

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thanks, TOONSMIND503 MUSIC. If you ever have any topic ideas, let me know.

[@human1505]

I am watching at 1.5x speed and it's still good.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Human, that is awesome.

[@alyc5504]

Love love this!! What a great way to see things!! You always amaze and teach me a whole lot throughout your videos more than you’ll ever know🙏🏼🙏🏼!!! Thanks a lot Dr.Paul

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Aly C, Thank you for watching and being open to some new ideas. When we do, we are the ones that benefit. Hope this helps your family.

[@mediocrefloridaman]

I'm glad your on my team. Thank you!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Our pleasure! Honored to partnering with you.

[@euavalos2433]

Amazing as always!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thanks, Eu Avalos.

[@ethanolintoxication]

Thank you so much for this video. Bless you for your parenting guidance.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you for your kind words, Beatriz Alicia Palacio Jaramillo. Honored to be on your team.

[@desereekjersem7614]

Thank you alwayz for another awsome message 😀 I am so grateful and appreciative for all that you are and do 👍😂 Have a wonderful day everyone filled with lots of laughter and unconditional lovez 😊👍👍💕💞💝💖💓💫🌠🌟✨🔥🍀☀🌈🌹🌼🌻🌺🎆🎊🎉💰💵💰💵

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you, Deseree Kjersem. It is gratifying to hear that the videos are getting the message out.

[@violettebakom9770]

Ah!!! Big heart to this mum AMAZING

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you, good luck to you.

[@eleisharuiz2057]

I have a fully verbal nearly 3 year old girl. We have tried to stop this, but essentially have allowed her to speak rudely to us and others, look at us with contempt and rudeness and now (more recently) defiance. Neither my husband or I were raised with Positive Parenting, and we just are not sure how to stop this behavior. We get the implementing family rules part, and we have done that. We role model the respect as well. We never raise our voices at her and we are calm and we listen to her. My grandmother one time looked at her in an angry way and spoke angrily to her, and since then, this is how she regularly speaks to us (telling us off or just getting really angry). We try and give her a full sense of positive power wherever possible. She just had little to no respect for us. We cannot come up with a logical consequence for the disrespect, and we don’t know how to enforce treating people with respect at this age. A video on it would be amazing!!!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Consequences when she speaks rudely will get her attention. Be consistent and she will understand. Praise and reward when she is modeling the behavior you want to see.

[@insankamil2909]

Feel her(love). If kid need goodthings ofcourse parent Will give to the kid, (at kid's consent). Note: taking care of external influence, like media, kid's friend, clinical problem, etc

[@WatersTube08]

Love your videos! You inspire me to be a better mum! I hope you feel better soon though!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I already do, Fun Tube. Thanks for the kind words.

[@josemejia9739]

My first time here I love the info will definitely tune in to more content blessings

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Jose Mejia, thank you, please share away with your friends.

[@ankitagupta2755]

Another eye opening video.. Thank you so much...love from India..

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Hello Ankita Gupta. Great to hear from you. KZbin is awesome, we can meet and communicate even though we are continents apart.

[@davidwebb5367]

Loved this! Very insightful...I loved the story with the mom and her big and disrespectful sons.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

David Webb, thanks, glad you are here.

[@Мамавкубенаютубе]

Dear Dr. Paul, I love the lesson, thanks! I wanted to ask you, quite a while... the age gap between my children just a year. They’re team against us, parents 🤔 And they’re missbehaving always when they’re together, but never when they’re apart ))) It seems they’re deaf... Is there difference, how to act with one or more children?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

The dynamic definitely changes when their is more than one child. Sounds like they play off of one another. I will consider this topic. Thanks for asking.

[@amc903]

grateful for your time.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you for your time in watching the video and commenting, A Mc. I truly appreciate you.

[@noconspiracytheoriesplease.745]

I've recently discovered and subscribed to your channel and appreciate your approach. I especially enjoy hearing the applied examples to make these lessons more memorable i.e. story of mom dealing with teenagers using disrespectful language. Thank you.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Cory Baron, honored to be on our time. Thanks for subscribing.

[@jenndob3865]

I wish you would have a chat about grandparents raising grandchildren. How to keep my lil nuggets emotionally stable. I would like to hear your take on this. ❤🧓👵🙋‍♂️🙋‍♀️❤

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Jennifer Dobrosielski, great idea, added to the list.

[@omnificent22]

You are awesome. I have watched many of your videos on youtube. I havent found specific advice for seperated families though all your videos that I've seen help anyways. If there is any more input or links you reccomend on this topic, Im all ears. My children's dad has done horrible things to me that he denies and we dont communicate unless nessesary. My kids are 4 and 3 and they see him every other weekend. If there is any extra advice you have I would greatly appreciate it. You and your teams have already helped me so much though, thank you!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Raquel Bequito, I will consider this for a future video. Thank you for the idea and if you come up with anything that will help our community, let us know.

[@patriciaschexnaildre336]

You are Awesome Dr. Paul...thank you!!! Do you have any videos about potty training? My 3-1/2 year old grand daughter is so not interested in the potty at all, even with stickers to get a surprise....

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I will have to add the idea to my KZbin video list. If I do something, it won't be for next month, that is coming out soon, Patricia Schexaildre. If you are thinking about it, others must be also.

[@patriciaschexnaildre336]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank You so much!!!

[@halokit9000]

Thank you for this! What do you think of single mothers by choice? I’m going to be one soon and I’ve been called selfish and ignorant over it and have had such horrible seeds of doubt planted in my mind about possibly messing up my child’s development by intentionally having her only grow up with one parent, any input would be greatly appreciated. Quick edit: I would never regret having my child or anything like that, I waited until I was financially and emotionally stable enough to raise a child off of one income and she will always be loved and cared for beyond belief no mater what life throws at us. My issue is the moral dilemma of knowingly having my daughter without a second parent.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Halo Kit, you will need to build a strong team, like anyone else. That might be friends, caregivers, family, your doctor, us. You can do this.

[@sabahkatib9784]

I like your analysis, please keep up the good work, I enjoy the examples you give , it’s down to earth 👍🏾

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I appreciate that!

[@Antyweszka]

I was praying to God how can I be a better parent an He sent you Sir😍❤️

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I love it when help arrives on time.

[@Chrisnethツ]

I am a big sister and I want my lil brother to respect and listen to me like mom.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Hopefully you are modeling the behavior you want to see.

[@snezanastefanovic8370]

You are great

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Glad you are finding the videos helpful, Snezana Stefanovic. Thank you for watching.

[@tjbfjagw]

So glad I found your videos, it's been a lifesaver for me. Thank you for sharing your knowledge!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are welcome, Alexis Gallagher. I'm glad you found us, too. It's an honor to have you here.

[@richardhernandez1854]

Really appreciate your time and efforts!! God bless! 😎👶

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Richard Hernandez, thank you for watching, Viewers make it all worth it.

[@jauvairiaali]

My 8 year old is really out of control, he is disrespectful to the teachers, calls them name, does not listen and do the class work, annoys other kids. He gets sent home every other day. He does not call us names but he gets really difficult talks back non stop. Some times he is calm and listens and some times he is totally A big No for whatever is being said or asked of him. I am A very sad and tired mom and totally lost as to what should I do. He is going through psychological therapy but I don't know what are the triggers and he gets silly and laughs and laughs and jokes about everything and anything non stop for hours. He does not stop when is asked to stop. He does not understand rules and does not follow them. It's a struggle and fight most of the time with him about pretty much everything that has to do with him. He can be very kind and considerate at times. He can do anything for his friends but is quite rough with girls. He has had listening issues since long. He cannot accept a No for an answer and expects to get things done his way.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

SJay Bokhari, thank you for watching, it's an honor to be a part of your positive parenting team. There are a few things I can think of. Remember, helping a child is a process and we hope to see progress over time. I encourage you to keep watching, especially videos from the Positive Parenting playlist at kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPCclxt6agg3wrLBRkL7CCwU. Some particular videos that you may find useful are: "Teaching Kids Responsibility - Positive Parenting" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z4SpepZogdh7r6M "How To Discipline Your Child With Love" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/m5arZKSvitZ-mNU "Healthy Ways To Discipline Your Child" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/noDMdmyXqdCejLs "How To Help Kids With Listening Skills" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/nZLOknVqYpKAm6M "How To Talk To Your Child's Teacher About A Problem" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/ppCni3l-ocSYppo A video that would be good for your son to watch is "How To Convince Your Parents To Get You A Dog" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/rF7SaH-VgtyVndk. Don't be distracted by the word dog! You can substitute it for something else that your son has expressed interest in. When you 2 are done watching it, maybe you can make a list of things you control that he likes (treats, screen time, friend time, his favorite meals, parent-son outing, small prizes/toys, etc.), and then make a list of things your son controls. In this list, it would be behavior at school, behavior at home, with people (you can narrow it down to girls), doing homework, doing chores, etc. Then explain to him that he can have access to the things you control if he does the things on his list to your satisfaction. To keep it simple, I would assign one thing on your list to one thing on his list (ie., he can have screen time if he behaves at school that day). Another great video for your son to watch is "How To Do Hard Things For Older Kids And Teens" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/a53XinuuaZuGrrc Some other options for you are a free 25 minute call with one of our Live On Purpose coaches. If you would like to take advantage of that, please go here: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall We also have a Parenting Power-Up program available for purchase here: www.parentingpowerup.com/optin-33156182

[@sultanamarzia9883]

Thank you for this video. Can you share your views on how to be with a child when the father/mother is emotionally unavailable or with personality disorder?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I can put it on the list, Sultana Marzia. That is a difficult one. Be there for your child as much as possible and as they grow they will understand the limitations.

[@mariakeenan4908]

I have a disrespectful 15 year old daughter close to getting expelled from school. How can I teach her to speak to me and others respectfully? I've limited the main thing which she wants (internet). Any other suggestions?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Try taping her so she can hear what she sounds like. It may not be that bad in her head but if she heard it, might sound a little different, Maria Keenan.

[@mariakeenan4908]

Thank you so much for all of your responses. If I can just keep my cool and stick to my guns we may just get a reformed child. She already asked why I was talking different and she preferred the old me!:-)

[@GBY301]

Greetings from Scotland, UK. I enjoyed listening to this! I'm still struggling with my 5 (soon to be 6) son's cheek and disrespect towards me. Nothing seems to work so I end up ignoring it but then I don't want him to feel he's getting away with it. He seems to almost like the attention of a row if I take that route. What do you suggest Dr Paul? It's been 2 years now and it doesn't seem to improve!!!!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Gabrielle Smith, he probably won't stop if he isn't given consequences. The consequences should be given in a calm manner, and explained before. Just an example, give your son 30 minutes of screen time a day. When he cheeks, 5 minutes is taken off the total. I don't know if he even likes electronics or what you are comfortable with, so tailor it to your child. Hope this helps.

[@GBY301]

Live On Purpose TV That's a great idea- I'll try that. Thank you for your response.

[@riri9134]

My kids aren’t rude nor disrespectful Children however they don’t listen to me when we’re home. They have manners and use them everywhere they go! I just don’t know what else to do to get them to listen.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You might benefit from a membership to our platform at go.liveonpurposecentral.com or our Parenting Power-Up Program. We talk about stages, not ages and what works with children at different stages.

[@marianamartinez4106]

Thank you ♥️🙏♥️🙏♥️🙏♥️🙏

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Hey, Marian Medina, love the emojis.

[@letyourlightshine7131]

Even when kids are trying to get you to listen to the fact that they're mad at me due to me taking a device from them bc they were on it inappropriately and past bed time? What am I listening to?.... Rules are b broken...yet I'm always wrong as the parent. I yell out of frustration...and it's a waste. I'm writing a book. Things i wish i knew before becoming a parent. Adam n Eve didn't listen...its not easy to get anyone to listen. Even when I'm not yelling...no one is listening... there is no respect... I would advise against having kids especially if you're likely to be single.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Erica M and Kiddos, Once the rules are broken and the device is taken away, there is no more talk about it. If they try to talk, ignore or walk away after letting them know the discussion is done. They will say things to try to make you angry and lash out. Just smile at them.

[@nvaranavage]

So I have to ask the question: Is what that parent did legal? Could it be considered child neglect? I am only asking because where I live it could be a possible lawsuit. So I guess it is more a question of where does positive parenting end and the child neglect/abuse begin?! Could this be material for a video you do?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

nvaranavage, I don't think it could be considered child neglect. Positive parenting is when discipline is motivated by love for the child. I could possibly work this into another video.

[@luzyp9516]

Love all your videos. I have learned so much. Thank you for all you do!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Luzy P, honored to be on your team.

[@preetikulkarni5722]

Wonderful👌

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you, Preeti.

[@brightpage1020]

Ok, so, with potty training toddlers: how to get them to stop grabbing and smearing poo all over everything? Besides keeping them in back-zipping jammies 24/7? The rewards for them for doing that right now are: 1) it feels gooey and fun 2) curiosity - what is this and why is it so important to drop in the potty instead of the bed/sofa/dining table... 3) Mom and Dad have a big reaction! 4) Big sister says, “Eeeeeww Gross!” Ha Ha HA! This makes “me” a superhero! 5) um. What? 6) because he wants a toddler bed, not a crib 7) because he’s mad mom put him in there so she could get dressed in privacy without worrying about him. Ha ha Ha HA! 8) because he’d rather be free to be getting into trouble everywhere else. It’s just more fun. 9) because big sis and little brother are in the other room!!!! That’s too exciting and he’s jealous. 10) why not? 11) because Mommy has to clean it up and cancel our trip to the park. Ha ha! Look how powerful the 3 y/o is!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

It does seem like a power play, doesn't it brightpage1020? Don't hesitate to implement direct consequences for his actions. Also, and I say this with much compassion because I know how important privacy is, see if an older sibling can help watch him while you are doing what you need to do. Thanks for continuing to watch Live On Purpose TV.

[@Espresskonbansu900]

Please help I have a whiner . how do I deal with a whining child. I have 2 kids they are so different . when it comes to us doing anything the whiner will always end up saying "no" to everything we try to do with her . she's 10. and her brother is 7 he is the calm kid

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Kids do not come in one size fits all. Your daughter is getting older and needs to understand what her whining does to everyone else. You may need to get real with your feelings with her and model what you hear when she talks and what you would like to hear. I will add this topic to the list of future videos, Greensista27.

[@le_th_]

I can only imagine the legal ramifications if a caregiver did this. They'd be arrested and charged with neglect and/or endangerment. In theory, it sounds funny...to just leave them in the car...but it better not be on the side of the road. It had better be in a well-lit parking lot, and they better have access to sidewalks to walk home and not have to walk along a freeway or busy street without sidewalks to wherever it is your home is. Can you imagine what would happen if a nanny/family assistant did something like this? They'd likely have child neglect charges brought against them and might even end up on the evening news. I agree with modeling listening and respectful behavior. I cannot get behind leaving minors in a parked car and expecting them to walk 2 miles home. I mean what are you going to tell the police if something happens to them while walking home? How are you going to explain that to your spouse? How are you then going to live with yourself? ...and would you ever in your right mind do this with your daughters? What fool would employ this with female teenagers? You'd just be asking for them to be abducted, raped, and left face down in an empty field somewhere. I really appreciate most of your videos, but this one is so colossally ill-advised I can hardly believe you've posted it. It would likely be more impactful to pull over, stop the car, get out your phone and call your cell phone carrier and immediately suspend both teens cell service. (and then you won't end up with a dead, injured, or missing child).

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

le th, you are not taking into account that everything was well-thought out and I am not advocating everyone do this. The community was safe and the boys were used to walking long distances. Sometimes you need to think outside the box, the mom and kids were happy.

[@le_th_]

​@@LiveOnPurposeTV I understand that it turned out well, and that mom and kids were happy. I also understand that sometimes one must think outside the box. However, I do disagree with the assumption that the community was safe. Certainly, there are some communities that are safer than others statistically. However, predatory individuals can be extraordinarily stealth and skilled at remaining undetected, especially those who are cunning, cool-headed, and opportunistic. Most predators are not abducting teenage boys, but a serial killer that's just driving by might. I'm glad that, in this case, it turned out well and was a teaching moment. It's great when things work out that way.

[@myloveema9262]

Woow mashalh

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you for watching.

[@excellentchoices]

Thank you so much 💜 you help me so much !!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Susan Cunning, I am so glad, this makes my day.

[@lunamoonlunamoon8340]

I am a single mother of two. I feel like my patience is, well as if i lost it. My patience threshold doesn’t have enough time in between meltdowns and fights, to replenish. They fight almost all day and definitely every single day. I need help. We’ve done therapy twice (not two sessions, for a period of time twice), i took a parenting class to see if i could get extra pointers, I’m not sure what else to do. Please help me. I feel like they need someone else to lol o them firmly. I don’t understand why they respect their teachers more than me. They don’t respect each other nor anyone else in the house (adults).

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

msmoon xo, are you following through with consequences? Are you praising them when they do something right and looking for the things they do right? It is hard to say when I have never talk to you. We do have coaches who are having great success working with parents, especially now. www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.

[@Bulbulsvegkitchen]

Thats awesome, 👍 i loved the mom example ❤

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are so kind, Bulbul's veg kitchen.

[@Bulbulsvegkitchen]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV ❤love frm India

[@richardbennett8906]

Are you a Christian? Also, have any videos to help me keep my emotions in check? I'm very self defensive, my wife and I have a problem with anger. I feel disrespected a lot but my wife tells me I dont show respect. I am quick to anger and raise my voice. I keep praying about it but I definitely feel helpless. I want a peaceful household and family

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

That is a great goal, Richard Bennett and you are doing something about it, getting perspective and ideas from others, so congrats to you. I have lots of videos about anger management. There is one for fathers, one for mothers, and several for dealing with children. Try this one and then take a look at the parenting playlist. kzbin.info/www/bejne/gWGndpuNp72tb7c

[@RachelBuxton]

Thank you for the video, Dr Paul. I have a question, we are a blended family, with 4 kids from 8 to 16, and whilst this theory would work for our oldest two, at stage 2/3, how could we incorporate this for the youngest in stage 1/2. As tempting as it would be at times, I just can’t drive off and leave him 😂. So how would the stage 2 version go? Much love from the UK

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

In that stage, Rachel Dawson, we need to pick them up and take them along. Thanks for watching.

[@syedahamid3380]

Thanks you so much

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are welcome, Syed Hamid. Thank you for watching.

[@lavanyarajeswari3238]

you videos r really awesome and helpful.. could u please tell some ideas for a kid who is always in a tendency to throw something

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I will think about that topic, Lavanya Rajeswari. I would hope you are talking about a young child who would outgrow the behavior.

[@zohraimam4120]

Thank You Sir GOOD JOB !

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are welcome, Zohra Imam. Honored to be on your team!

[@Nkhetan29]

My kids are 8 and 10 years old. They are badly attracted towards gadgets. I don’t know how to handle it. Out of 14 hours of the day they are onscreen for atleast 10 hours. Either for their school, or for their own entertainment. What to do please suggest

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Nkhetan29, if they are addictive, then you need to limit the screen time and get them involved in other activities. Think outside the box.

[@santan2313]

Thanks for the video. Can you talk about Social anxiety disorder?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Yes, LUÂN PHƯỢNG, I will add it to the list. Thank you for suggesting.

[@FrancesShear]

Can you please tell me how to get much younger relatives to listen when there is way more than only one person like yourself in the mix with a lot more resources to offer calling themselves an authority in that much younger relative of your's life without doing something dramatic to make things a little more inconvenient for them all? What a coincidence. Almost the same thing happened to me once. When a big teenage boy riding in the back of our car while I was in the front passenger seat nest to my husband driving started running me down and swearing at me I asked him first if he had any money in his pocket. When he said, "Yes, why?" Then when I asked if he had $1.30 or more and he said yes -- Then I told him to get out of the car and take the bus home in the winter while we were driving around in the city. LAter when having time to think as my husbnad's cousin he was so polite to me I was delighted.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Frances Bernard, thank you for watching Live On Purpose TV. It is best if all authority figures are on the same page when it comes to disciplining children. If different adults are allowing various behaviors, then it is confusing to the child and they are unsure how to behave. If possible, have a meeting with all adults involved in the disciplining of the children you have authority over. Discuss which behaviors are acceptable and which are not, then come up with consequences for those behaviors. We have a lot of videos on parenting, and even have a playlist for that particular subject. If they are willing, check it out: kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPCclxt6agg3wrLBRkL7CCwU. These 2 videos are the ones I recommend first: "Teaching Kids Responsibility - Positive Parenting" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z4SpepZogdh7r6M "Consequences For Misbehavior | 6 Specific Examples" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/fJPGqKNvo8Zjars If no other adult wants to have this meeting, then just do the best you can. That may not seem helpful, but the only person you control is yourself.

[@angelique1795]

I work at a child care center. Some of the children struggle with bad language. It's especially hard when some of them have parents using the same bad language, and do not care if their children do. I calmly tell them that language is inappropriate at school, and tell them better and appropriate ways to express how they are feeling. Is there anything else I can do?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Angelique Burke, thank you for watching and for the work that you do with children. It sounds like you are already handling this situation very well. If you feel comfortable conversing with the parents (or perhaps writing a letter to the parents), it might be beneficial to ask them to talk to their children about not use such language in the school setting. Don't expect too much out of it, but it's a start. My only other suggestion is to have a consequence for inappropriate language and a reward for better language. A consequence might be not allowing them to play with a desired toy or not participating in a non-essential - yet fun - activity; a reward would be a sticker or time with an special toy. Of course, you would need to make sure these things are cleared by the care center management.

[@joelmatroiani3916]

Love this! Thank you 🙏

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are welcome, Joelma Troiani. Honored to be on your team!

[@Flaca.602]

How would I discipline 3 different children in different stages? As a single mother of 3 boys (9,7&6 ) with my 7yr old having a Sensory processing disorder also bring on the spectrum. It's difficult to find a consequence that fits equally to all of them. I recently put up a physical rule board but still have trouble establishing equal consequences. 🤷🤷☹️ I need help 😭

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Flaca .B, thank you for watching Live On Purpose TV - I am honored to have you here. Each child needs to have their own consequences, as not everything works the same for all the children. Maybe one child enjoys screen time but the other prefers video games, so you use screen time as motivation for the one and video games for the other child. We have a few videos that discuss discipline and consequences, here are 2 of them: "7 Ways To Discipline Your Child" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/fWTRpmSHm7SIp6c "Consequences For Misbehavior | 6 Specific Examples" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/fJPGqKNvo8Zjars We also have that free 25 minute breakthrough call I mentioned before: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall Lastly, (this starts tomorrow) we are offering free coaching group events for this month, as a community service during the current challenges our world faces. If you wish to sign up, go here: DrPaulJenkins.info/MayDiscussionGroups

[@augustagootee6254]

Way to go mom I need that here shew boys they really try push hou

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you for watching.

[@sierrahaq5151]

Hi Dr Paul, suggest me a video, I have an anger problem I end up with beating my toddler really hard also she is 2 only and my younger daughter she is 7 months old ... She is always messing around the younger one that makes me so angry at times

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you for reaching out, Sierra Haq. We have many videos on a variety of topics in our Positive Parenting playlist - kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPCclxt6agg3wrLBRkL7CCwU Some specific videos to start with are: "Anger Management For Mothers" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/lYmloJiCZrZooLc "How To Manage Anger Towards A Child" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/b6fKqKRjpLqJfM0 "Anger Management For Mothers | 6 Thoughts To Replace" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/o4SqZGWIrZV7qpY "Consequences For Misbehavior | 6 Specific Examples" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/fJPGqKNvo8Zjars "How To Use Natural And Logical Consequences" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/kHe9enyrpqqJmrs You are not alone in this. Many parents here are the channel are looking to be more calm and positive in their families. We have an additional resource for you. We are offering a free 25 minute call with one of our Live On Purpose coaches. If you would like to take advantage of that, please go here to schedule: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall

[@sierrahaq5151]

Thank you so much will definitely look out for these video may help me soon

[@sigridkutz4468]

I would like a talk about why some parents force their kids to work hard at a sport they hate, but love a different one. The " little " guy told me: " I don't want to live my father's dream, but want my own." I know sports are great for kids, but what can I do as his grandmother?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Sigrid Kutz, get clear on what you control and what you don't. Hopefully you have the relationship where you can talk to your son and ask if he knows what his child said, just informing him. You can support your grandchild and make sure they know you are there for them whenever they want to talk.

[@jewelthompson6248]

My 16 year old is always in stage 1... how do I get him out of it?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Jewel Thompson, the only thing that works with stage 1 are consequences, natural ones are best. You can't make someone change, just give nudges.

[@tristanostman7661]

What if your 5 year old doesn't listen after the 12 time what if your child doesn't listen at all?? I'm struggling and I really need help.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Tristan Ostman, Why are you giving them 12 times? Give the consequence after one time. Warn them what is happening.

[@tristanostman7661]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you!!! So much 🙏

[@icarojose6316]

Has anyone tried and was successful with such methods ? I mean in the long run, adter 2 year aplying this methods have you seen your child behavior improve significantly? Or the changes was marginal ?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I hope people respond. I wish I could give you testimonials from people who I have worked with.

[@sandyheath7560]

If child is 3years old state had child I grandmomma just got her stop yelling for her way still helping her learn to listen to me time out is hard if child can't sit still I put her take nap 😴

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Sandy Heath, sounds like you are a wonderful help to the child. I wish you the best.

[@CrochetDigitalAndMore]

What if I have a 6yr old that is still in stage 1?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

K B, that is o.k. with stage 1 you work with consequences and give positive reinforcement for anything you would like to see more of. It is about stage, not age.

[@dreamtoonofficialchannel]

Whoever is reading this I just want to say that hey you're not alone. Stay connected 🍉🍉🍉

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thanks for your support.

[@lbettag4797]

I was wondering if there is a negative effect on a child that receives gifts from a perent and then they get taken away by the same parent due to misbehavior.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Not if it is clear why the thing is being taken away. There should also be a way given to earn the item back to encourage good behavior.

[@lbettag4797]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you so much for your quick response. Your videos have helped me so much with my kids. Thank you for putting out this great content for all us to learn. God blessed you.

[@amandaarya2188]

What if something happened to them ? What if they never came back??? How come anyone leave their child on the road ?. I am so confused

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Amanda Arya, it is best if there is a plan for those things first. These were not young children and the parent knows what their child is capable of. It also depends on where you live. That was just one example, fit the principle to your child. Thanks for commenting.

[@hildamaclean2763]

This is exactly what I did…took the keys and walked away.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you for watching and taking the time to comment.

[@amiadaron]

The link given is not working: (!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I just tried it, and it worked. Give it another shot and if it doesn't work for you, google or find it on the parenting playlist.

[@kellyerwin3558]

i can't have the kids walk back with such a bad neighborhood

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Safety is important believe inBIBLE. Thank you for taking care of your children and watching the video. I appreciate you.

[@cstephen4695]

sorry can't all agree with this, it's not going to work well if the kids not going to listen, they still won't listen. there is a premise is that they able to understand what they did is wrong. If they don't think they did wrong, there won't be a nice educational dinner conversation, there only more rebel. Cause they are at the 'only me me me me' stage.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Hi C Stephen. It sounds like you are talking about a specific child rebelling. This does work for most children who are not oppositional defiant. Thanks for watching.

[@MsCinnamonRose]

Those kids just take consistency. I have one. He will push you as far as you are willing to go, so you really do need to know what your limit is and he will often act as though the walk home in this scenario, didn't bother him, but if I do that every time, he will come up with his own reason to do things differently. Also, knowing the law well so that your child can't try to use it against you is important. That was a game changer for me. He used to make me worried that I would get charged with child endangerment or neglect for trying to teach him respect.

[@ayeshafatima1587]

Thank you. I wish I could just show all your videos to my kid and be done with it. Jk

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Ayesha Fatima, wouldn't that be great! I love it, but then reality hits and we have to do the hard work of parenting. Hang in there.

[@danhelpsyoubuysell7064]

‼ I disagree on the method that was used. She abandoned the kids and something could have happened to them. This is total B/S and don't ever leave your kids like that!!! ‼

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Everyone makes their own choice, but it was effective and everyone is safe.

[@sonyagonsalves3807]

Oh no about this one the kids could get hit by a car somebody to kidnap them I don’t know

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

sonya gonsalves, not very likely to happen.

[@chiefskingdom8983]

The thumbnail made me kinda sad for real 🥲

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Itz_ Violet, I am not sure why. My grandkids play cleaning up and it is good for kids to learn to take care of themselves and their environment.

[@charl7508]

Hmm, from british parents....staying calm??? Hahaa next joke. Can't go anywhere without seeing a random mother screaming at her children for no apparent reason. 👍

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Really? Stiff upper lip and all that? I will have to get over there and do some workshops, Charlotte Markham. Thanks for watching.

[@charl7508]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV That would be great if you did! Not sure the parents who are shouting would turn up though...😂 but definantly worth it!!!!!! Thank you for helping to educate parents!