How to Get Out of Ego, Given How Intrusive it Always Is

[@dvash6231]

This helped me so much. Thank you so much.

[@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy]

You are so welcome!

[@MarleyLeMar]

This is transcendent. Exactly what I need in my C-PTSD recovery process, and rare. Thank you.

[@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy]

Really glad you found it insightful Marley 🙏🙏

[@its_me5939]

How do I stop self-sabotaging myself? The issue is that I feel like I don’t deserve anything. This mindset affects every aspect of my life. For example, my exams are coming up, and everything seems to be falling into place as I prepare. But then, a thought creeps in: I don’t deserve this. This makes me feel like there’s no pleasure or reward in the process-it all starts to feel monotonous and boring. As a result, I slack off, regret it, and end up punishing myself through self-sabotage, making things worse. On top of this, I also struggle with OCD. It makes me feel like I don’t have control over my life. For instance, I genuinely want to score well, but some part of me believes I don’t deserve to succeed. This fear leads to thoughts like, What if I don’t complete my paper on time or don’t study well? Unfortunately, these thoughts sometimes turn into self-fulfilling prophecies. Another layer of this is ego. When I see my friends not studying, I sometimes feel superior for putting in the effort. During exams, if I finish a question faster than others, I slow down out of ego. This backfires because I end up missing questions and regret it later. When the results come, the regretful side of me resurfaces, saying I should have worked harder, that I deserved full marks. It’s an endless cycle of regret, self-doubt, and punishment. I also feel anxious when things in my life are going well. It’s like I’m waiting for something to go wrong, and it ruins my peace. My questions: 1. How do I overcome self-sabotage? 2. Regarding social media and mobile usage: I know I should limit it because it’s a major distraction. When I start watching videos, I lose control and can’t stop, leaving me unsatisfied. People often say balance is key and suggest using it as a reward, but that approach hasn’t worked for me. Should I completely eliminate it? Or is there another way to manage it?

[@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy]

Great questions. I'll hopefully get to address them in upcoming videos 🙏

[@its_me5939]

@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy Thanks a lot 🙏🙏

[@ari_doubleu]

Very helpful as always, thank you doc! Please keep doing videos, your channel will definitely blow up one random day

[@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy]

Thanks, will do!

[@douglasmclean3723]

that was absolutely excellent no ifs no buts no maybes clear & concise. i always used to say "no reaction no response to myself"when i went on to Sertraline PTSD OCD depressive medication it reduced the anxiety to the flashbacks but i still felt like a puppet on a string to them they were controlling me. i am gald you did that video

[@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy]

Thanks Douglas 🙏

[@havadatequila]

"getting out of ego" is what people ask for when they're avoiding pain.

[@KevlarKoat]

To be human provides win-some lose-some situations. To support presumed ego provides the perception of increasingly prevalent no-win situations. To dismantle presumed ego provides the perception of increasingly prevalent no-lose situations.

[@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy]

Perfectly said 🙏🙏