Why you are so overwhelmed in your new job or role.

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[@LalaLarrieux]

This is me. I started a new job today, and I started to question my decision to change careers. I was thinking of not coming back, that's how overwhelmed I feel. I think I'm extremely hard on myself, and expect that I should automatically know the job, or I feel like the people I work for feel that I should know it already. I'm used to "knowing" what to do and how to do it, I hate making mistakes and I will beat myself up about it for days.

[@madziajedrzejewska5610]

100% me now 😪

[@ronnies.3440]

Just described my exact situation. Therefore, you are not alone!

[@lawrencelatrelljacksonmckn2932]

That's me right now ,too!! I hate feeling lost at a new job and not feeling good enough.

[@AAA-hz7fh]

That’s how I feel now! How are you now?

[@JessicaTorres-zz4fe]

I can relate very much to this. It sucks cuz I never had a job until now and they are sticking me into the offices and it's extremely overwhelming at the moment.

[@ShyyRonniee]

The hardest part has to be the unfamiliar people and having to make friends that can help you out without feeling judged. As a suuuuper introvert / perfectionist this makes it 100x worse

[@erinMfoley]

Hi Russell--Thanks for sharing! The brain def panics when joining a new group. It helps to remember that when it comes to judgement--people think about us MUCH less then we realize. Most people spend most of their brain power worrying about themselves. So even in a moment when someone might judge you--it's fleeting. Within moments they go right back to thinking about themselves. Give yourself time to adjust and make friends. Since you are deeply introverted--make a goal to connect with 1 person a day at work. That way you don't get so overwhelmed thinking about all the new people.

[@kentalk6671]

Sometimes we feel like we are not good enough, sometimes we feel like we are not worth doing something .We need to overcome such fears . I hope this video speaks to you ,your friend and family .Enjoy. kzbin.info/www/bejne/q5qweWadgZumoqs

[@helenarichard]

Jep, people are nice and all but ask one thing too much and I feel like they are tired of me. I think the issue is that coworkers don't get informed well that they have to train you. Well, that is not my fault

[@marisolargueta3562]

Me too, I isolate and my coworkers have lunch together every Wednesday and I'm so nervous to join but I actually did have an appointment so I wasn't able to go. I just feel like I'm not going to be able to fit in? Hope everything is going well for you!

[@kpopqn]

​@@marisolargueta3562 same thing is happening to me right now? Any improvement about you? Please response..

[@ronnies.3440]

Great video. I’m one week in at my new job. The first few days were horrible. I was so stressed, anxious about the next day, and felt so incompetent. Everything is a new process and there is still so much to learn. I can almost hear my boss getting frustrated as she’s training me on simple things. It’s not that I don’t know; it’s just that I am so overwhelmed that I can’t think straight.

[@citydweller99]

My former boss was like that...when I left the company, her boss asked me for feedback..and all I said was that my co worker (who was fab) should do trainings of new employees because she had the ability to adjust her training based on the person's learning style

[@ronnies.3440]

@@citydweller99 thanks for your reply. Yes, someone on my team is a lot more patient and better at training. I’m 3 months in now and the job has definitely gotten a lot easier. But, a good chunk of it was me bombarding my entire team with questions. I accepted the fact that although they may perceive me as dumb, I honestly don’t care.

[@JJ-rz3ci]

@@purpleskies1 goodluck with your new job, I am starting my new job soon too ! Imposter syndrome can get the f outta here !

[@Cracktune]

@@JJ-rz3ci thats the correct way to think about it! Lets GO

[@a.k5631]

This is me right now. It's Sunday and tomorrow Gonna start my second week and I can literally see them as if they're judging me when I walk in to mark my attendance. Lots and lots of new info and not being able to keep up with my superiors are sort of becoming a blow to my self esteem and is making me really insecure. Top of that I'm really shy and awkward so I fear that too is gonna make me physically look like a dweeb.

[@walpoleandworcester]

The worst part having that feeling in your stomach that you’re not good enough and you end up making more careless mistakes too.

[@NickolasFuentes]

The comments in this chat! Praying for everyone with anxiety for starting a higher role and feeling overwhelmed. God will give us the strength to overcome! 🙌🏻

[@ssyynnn]

I needed to see this…Thank you!

[@0hMiri]

Amen!

[@deedee6074]

❤

[@felixjune]

I can do all thing through Christ who gives me strength! Amen!

[@bryanpineda9150]

Thank you. I just started as a heavy duty mechanic and I'm having the hardest time adjusting and I'm missing my coworkers and everything. Even tho I'm performing really well

[@neiljohnson5351]

"Let everything happen to you, beauty and terror. Just keep going, no feeling is final".

[@cristinafrw]

Fresh out of college & officially at a full time job. I feel like I am dying with anxiety & come home super depressed/ super drained. Can’t even sleep fully...the stress is on going. I am usually fairly social & I am so tense & quiet at my job. People dont even know me well yet. Dont feel like I am behaving like myself... & im not even hungry anymore. This full shift of change is overwhelming since I also have person things in my life going on along with the job😭😭😭🤦‍♀️.

[@erinMfoley]

Hi Christina! So sorry to hear that you are feeling so much anxiety. I would suggest you start to write out the anxiety at night. List out the fears. What are you really afraid will happen? Failing, making a mistake, being judged....Then sit with those fears and play them through. What if it's true that even if worst case scenario happens you will be 100% fine. Look for evidence that this is true. Your brain is likely creating catastrophes so you want to become really aware of the specific fears and challenge them. If you haven't already hop over to my website (ErinMFoley.com). I have a free training on how to stop feeling so insecure in your new job. I would suggest you grab it and really work through the worksheet I created. This will help you get some relief!

[@cristinafrw]

Erin Foley Thank you for the advice. I’ll try this exercise soon. I think it comes down to fear of making mistakes or not fitting into the job culture since I am the newbie & everyone already has close relationships for years. Its all good, I will try to stay true to me & make connections. Thanks again!🙏

[@emilyfeeney8143]

@@cristinafrw how are you now?

[@startingtech3900]

We all have person things too keep at it!

[@kimiyarahmani4322]

Are u feeling better now?

[@Emily-us4gq]

literally all my thoughts, they have the shittest "training" and i have no idea what im doing because they cant even be bothered to train me properly.

[@Butter43fly]

Same here....

[@ticiao]

Same here and Covid is going on.

[@magicallyme96]

I can’t stand when training is literally non existent they just expect us to know everything while we are still new?

[@cathym7071]

Started a new job today. The girl training me went so fast , that I couldn’t write everything down. It’s frustrating.

[@JessicaTorres-zz4fe]

Same!!! It's annoying amd frustrating!

[@fitri1026]

Just started a new job a month ago. Feeling like this every single day. Some days the anxiety gets so bad I just wanna throw up. I don’t wanna quit though because I know how amazing this opportunity is but I wonder if I’ll be able to survive this. I know it’s all in my head and that God gave me this job because He knows I’m capable. But for some reason it’s just so difficult to shake off the anxiety. I hope to come back to this comment a year from now and update that things are going better.

[@kavitabirbal3182]

It has been 2 months. How is it now? :)

[@crow4834]

Hows it going?

[@jhonardnorcio1531]

How its going im feeling the same way rn.

[@kaii3519]

Hope you’re doing better now

[@faithrose2070]

how is the going? I am also in the exact same situation

[@nvk30494]

Exactly my situation. I joined this new job and after 2-3 days, the only thing I could think in my mind was - "This profile is not for me. I dont have the required aptitude to work for this company." I actually had sleepless nights for the first week. I used to wakeup 3-4 times in night. Solution- Just stick there. Realise that new things take time. We cannot eat the elephant in one day. Recall your bicycle learning days. You might be riding motorbikes with clutch and gears today. Imagine if someone would have told you in your childhood that you have to drive complex motorbikes. For this you have to learn bicycle today. I am pretty much sure you would have ran away leaving that bicycle there only. The thing is good things take time. Stick there. Start from the basics. DONT JUST LISTEN. WRITE EVERYTHING IN A NOTEBOOK. See what you have written after coming home. Slowly and steadily, once agaib you will be the master or your work. Stick there.

[@ladymercury7042]

Thank you so much for your insight!! I just started a new job, in a new field, and I am feeling my anxiety hit the ceiling!😥😐 But I am pushing through...💪

[@rominagracevera6896]

Thank you for this!!! I needed to hear this!

[@helenarichard]

Jep for a solide month at a job, I came home kicking things, crying, angry at myself, stressed. All because I THOUGHT that I had fucked up multiple times per day at an alarm central. In reality, I was making huge progress and despite thinking daily that I would be let go, I got really good and one of the best callers at the alarm central despite no experience and a deadly fear of phone calls. Alarm centrals are actually pretty cool places for introverts, cause you actually, ya know, get a chance to learn how to use a damn landline and microphone, transfer, hold calls.

[@rokiikor9270]

Great reaction!

[@eagle7619]

This helped, I relate 100%. First week in the books and I’m super anxious about the complex processes I’m watching ppl do, always seem to get anxious when I’m not “in control” with something new and cant understand everything I need to do right away. I know it takes time though

[@Daddy-O2024]

I am 58 years old. Four years ago, I was laid off from a company I had worked at for 27 years. I was making a six-figure salary and loved the job I was doing. I wound up accepting a job in a totally different career for less money in another state. My world was turned upside down and shaken violently. It was a tremendous amount of stress during that time having to adjust to so many different changes. Four years later, I find myself living in a much better city and loving the job I am in more than the previous career. There definitely was a period of adjustment and during the period you question your decisions, whether you made the right moves and took the right job but just know there is an adjustment period to any new phase of life, and those periods can be rocky. But for me, it wound up being the best series of decisions I ever made. Whenever there is a storm, there is a point when the rain stops, the clouds part and the sun shines through. It happened for me, and it will happen for you.

[@BigE-qx1jb]

Thank you!!!

[@charfitz2230]

This is me RIGHT NOW!!!! Promotion job and I’m struggling, but after listening to this video this morning before work I had the BEST day ever! I CAN DO THIS JOB! GOD GAVE IT TO ME SO I KNOW HE’LL BE RIGHT THERE WITH ME WHEN THE ENEMY STRIKES! I’m NOT BOWING DOWN TO THE IMPOSTER SYNDROME NO MORE EVER! If GOD GIVES IT TO YOU, he WILL PULL YOU THROUGH.....let FAITH BE YOUR SHIELD!

[@khalid9085]

Well said, hope you’re doing great!

[@cathym7071]

Amen

[@DZJ0595]

Thank u so much, im on day 2 of a promotion, feeling overwhelmed and like fish out of water but HIS MERCY NEVER FAILS ME. I keep repeating to myself, HE WILL NOT TAKE ME TO SOMETHING HE CANNOT TAKE ME THROUGH 🙏🏾💪🏾

[@melanyandrea8685]

Going through exactly the same thing right now!

[@zleviz3376]

Thank you for the reminder

[@zoeng9026]

First week at my new job after staying at my previous job for about 3 years. It feels so overwhelming. I always feel like I need to know more than I do. I can’t help but be extremely hard on myself. I really miss the calmness and familiarity at my previous job. But this is a choice I’ve made.

[@ria6271]

Same feeling. 3 years in my previous job, and currently 2 months in my new job today. I often forgot that I am a newbie that whenever mistakes are committed, I felt overwhelmed. I hope we can both make this through.

[@marisolargueta3562]

Me too I'm at my 3-4 week now hope you're feeling better. I'm still kinda second guessing stuff but one step at a time we'll be pros.

[@CheriseW-yt6gx]

I'm feeling the same way. I'm only a month into the job.

[@toowhiteboy18]

Just started a new gig last week and feel like I'm drowning from the fear of failure and not meeting deadlines, quality of work, etc

[@fallenaeon7084]

Same here and its my 4th day on job and if there is anyone here who no longer feel anxious in their new work. How did you guys manage to make peace with your anxiety?

[@user-gz5mx2nd5p]

I know it but my head does not accept it.

[@kentalk6671]

Sometimes we feel like we are not good enough, sometimes we feel like we are not worth doing something .We need to overcome such fears . I hope this video speaks to you ,your friend and family .Enjoy. kzbin.info/www/bejne/q5qweWadgZumoqs

[@user-gz5mx2nd5p]

KEN TALK I feel so much more settled since I put in this comment and took an active role in changing my situation. That helped. I was passively waiting for things to improve before.

[@TiGGowich]

that is the worst feeling. Totally agree. Everyone around me - and myself - are telling me all the things I already know, yet I cannot stop my brain from throwing these thoughts around. They are paralyzing and distracting. they make the underlying anxiety worse.

[@79bigmacs]

Recently got a new job in an office. It’s overwhelming. I feel dumb. I’ve learned many things in the span of one month but I’m not fast enough. The person training me accuses me for mistakes that I did not make myself. She micromanages me and it makes me second guess myself on every little thing even if the answer is right in my face. One day she wasn’t in the office and I felt so relaxed and actually got my work done. She’s very picky even on how you staple paper together. As long as the papers information is correct and is neatly organized I don’t think the boss cares if you staple diagonally or straight. Its been a month and I’m starting to wonder if I want to stay. I want to, but I dread getting up in the morning just to be nagged at work and feel anxious for 8 hours.

[@razelsarmiento6463]

Same feeling.

[@Jasmin3G]

I hope things are going better now🥺🥺

[@ria6271]

I hope your doing well now. I am currently facing same situation.

[@listentomyheartbeat]

6 months in my role and I'm feeling this! It's to the point where my boss nitpicks everything I do! When I wrote a speech for a topic and he said "this isn't good enough". But when I send it over to my colleague, she said it looks fine. Like... I feel sad.. It got the point where I'm second guessing myself and I'm a failure 😔

[@janemargaretmceachin6398]

THIS IS ME!! I'm 6 months into my job, and I constantly feel like not good enough, regardless of how hard i try

[@Marcel-no9ps]

Sameee

[@kimiyarahmani4322]

This was exactly me... And honestly I'm just crying thinking will I ever be normal and ok...?

[@bmkprod2240]

How are you finding work so far now?

[@kimiyarahmani4322]

@@bmkprod2240 Oh hi! Thanks for asking! I'm feeling so much better actually. It gradually got better, and now I'm confident and comfortable at my job. I realized that "the monsters turned out to be just trees" ( :)) ), and I was terrified for no reason! I'm so happy that those days are gone, and thank you again for making me come back to this comment and tell anyone who's reading: it always gets better!

[@ArifMohammedAk]

@@kimiyarahmani4322 this gives me confidence to stick to my job!

[@kimiyarahmani4322]

@@ArifMohammedAk YEAH 👏🏻

[@jokesonyou222]

@@kimiyarahmani4322 awe i love the way you said the monsters are just trees thank you this helps me a lot

[@liltimi]

Just started my new job working in a hotel... you have to do literally everything: cook, clean, make coffees, be a waiter, clean the jacuzzi's, be a receptionist, weird booking system, talk in different languages, the Italians are complaining about cold water, print the bills, so many keys, excel, count the money, know the prices... like wtf I feel stupid I kinda wanna quit on day 3. I took the job just cuz it's a 2 min drive from home😅

[@xane1990]

Anyone going through the same in 2020?

[@khuzemakhalid6825]

Me. It's killing me. I have no one

[@tanairigonzalez9793]

Me, having headaches everyday

[@kreeostsphere7265]

actually me either but just recently

[@DZJ0595]

@@tanairigonzalez9793 the headaches 😩😩😩😩😩😩

[@christinegreen3974]

Yes - hired in a virtual position that is not actually supposed to be virtual. Fum times.

[@johnleehancong]

Yes this! I’ve just started a new job 4 days ago after being employed for close to 3 years in another place. Everyday I feel bad and empty and lost and down at work and I dread every morning. I feel like someday I’ll breakdown. Glad I’ve watch this and to know it’s normal to feel this way. Thanks for making this video!

[@tasnim8186]

Hope things are improving at the new job! 🌻

[@johnleehancong]

@@tasnim8186 well it’s been more then a week, I think things are getting better! I am actually starting to do some work and it keeps my mind of negative thoughts!

[@vrintige]

This month marks 2 years at my job. And I am STILL dealing with this. Everyday I have multiple moments that I feel so lost. And I find myself realizing I should know these by now. I’ve already self-sabotaged my competency and confidence, and it feels daunting to try and turn it around from here.

[@lizziemiss945]

You made it that far for a reason. Take the experience and go to the next job

[@user-of7pt2qn8j]

I'm currently on the 1.5years of my current position and felt exactly the same😭

[@oliviaolivia8397]

Same here one year in and I am not getting anything. What do we do I can't deal anymore

[@inayatraana4178]

@@oliviaolivia8397seek professional help please, i hope you're doing well.

[@MsPinkAndBlack]

❤

[@SuperMariposa91]

I feel this way right now ☹️ yet I desire success. I feel overwhelmed, and incompetent. You are literally saying what I’m feeling. 😭

[@erinMfoley]

Check out the book The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women. It will def help you!

[@sherryminh]

The comments here are everything. I read a comment exactly like what I’m currently going through. It’s comforting knowing you’re not the only one experiencing impostor syndrome in this context. Tomorrow’s the beginning of my second week at work as a legal exec in an insurance company and I’ve been freaking out the past week. I underestimate my ability and I’m always overthinking after making dumb mistakes eventhough I know I’m naturally bright. I keep wondering whether I’m suitable for this role but if I don’t do this, idk what I’ll be doing, at least for now. I’ve already decided to not practice law so I went in-house. My boss loved me during the interview but I feel like I’m letting her down now and thinking that she may have regretted hiring me. Maybe it’s all just a perpetuation. I really hope things get better from here on. Sending all the positivity I could muster to everyone going through the same ❤️

[@ria6271]

I am the same with my job, i am currently 2 months. It is really difficult at times to accept mistakes at work when you have this syndrome. I hope we can make it through, wishing the best

[@BeautyBuzzyBee]

@@ria6271 I’m one week in to starting a new role (promotion in the same company). This first week has been exhausting to day the least. I’ve had to liaise with people I’ve never worked with before, some of whom had prior expectations of what I should be doing, which I’ve failed to deliver. I miss my old team a lot and am second guessing whether this is the right role for me. But the stigma of quitting after telling others/celebrating a promotion makes me feel like an absolute failure. Unsure what to do!

[@Sabinalucky]

Thank u so much for ur message. It is so helpful. I makes me feel less alone. I hqve the same fears and feelings.

[@G.T.F.0]

what helps me is to think how these issues are nothing compared to what other people have to deal with like being on a battlefield or being a cop and having to deal with some real crazy shit or being a doctor and having to make life and death decisions...suddenly your problems seem small and insignificant compared to that, a piece of cake

[@helenarichard]

Exactly! Sometimes I read that a lawyer forget to do a formality, and made his client lose the case for millions of dollars. Or a gynaecologist who didn't want to tell her patient she had cancer. Or a woman who does because the alarm central made a mistake. I am sooo glad it is not me and never will be.

[@helenarichard]

Woman who dies

[@lizziemiss945]

I was thinking this exact same thing today. I'd rather have office stress than having to stop someone to give them a ticket stress or getting killed in the line of duty stress.

[@thesunris]

This doesn't work when I work in the hospital 😭😭

[@chrismacheras8714]

Ok this is me. 110% me...ugh so happy I found this...

[@erinMfoley]

Hey Chris! I have some more videos that may be helpful here on my resources page- www.erinmfoley.com/iaminanewroleresources

[@erinMfoley]

So glad you tuned in Chris!

[@meganmartians8372]

My job is overwhelming too. And my boss is on my ass every 5 seconds and im always late to work.

[@chrismacheras8714]

@@erinMfoley a year later and you really helped me. Ultimately that wasn’t the job for me and I’ve been in a new role for 6 months and your advice really helped me and now I’m comfortable and enjoying myself!

[@styledbyviivii7403]

I just started a new job a week ago and I’m currently still being trained. I’ve realised that during the course of the day I zone out and I’m not retaining all the information that’s being given to me. I feel as though I sometimes as for things to be repeated so much that it’s embarrassing. As I mentioned it has only been 1 week but I find myself questioning why I’m there. The passion that other colleagues have for the role I don’t have it and the pay is why I’m really doing it. I don’t know if it’s just a case of me changing my mindset or if this is a sign that the role isn’t for me

[@AuthorJanaeMarie]

Hey Sista! I feel the exact same way with what I’m doing at the moment. I wonder did you stay with it? Or did you leave?

[@purpleskies1]

How are you doing now? I can relate.

[@nhr27]

Same. Two weeks in and it’s information overload. How are you now?

[@paraluman6447]

Same thoughts and feelings. There's just TOO much info and work instruction that we have to learn, adjust and apply at the same time.

[@victoriaa1889]

Exactly the same thing happened to me, stay strong sister

[@lindseywood1421]

These comments are my thoughts and feelings exactly! I just started a new job as a hospital pharmacy technician, and it’s so much to learn in such a short amount of time. You have to move quickly, but that’s so hard to do when you’re not sure of what you’re doing. You don’t want to make mistakes because people’s lives could be on the line. There’s also not much time to train you because everyone else is busy doing their own jobs. I’m stressed and overwhelmed to say the least. 😔

[@thenattybeastt]

How's it going now ?

[@saraamrani7043]

You re definitely right when people are busy with their work and they don't have enough time to train you , it makes it mor difficult for you . i am in the same situation, how is it going with you now ?

[@ria6271]

Same as me, just too fast paced in working environment and they dont have much time to train you dutifully. How are you doing now? I hope we can make it through

[@BloomsArchitect]

I have never feared the job or the difficulty and learning curve of it. It's dealing with new people and having to quickly learn who is an ally and who is not. I am not a people pleaser, but I am also aware how important 1st impressions are. It sucks finding that balance.

[@cindyc6153]

I’m starting a new job at 63, not by choice (Covid lay off). It’s a daunting task! You validated what I’m feeling!! Thank you for video 😊

[@cathym7071]

I'm starting a new job on Monday, and I'm 63 too!

[@ticiao]

I’m 45 and I feel the same. 🙃

[@GrizzlyUrsusArctos]

I quit my 20 year job and started new one age 62. I feel so overwhelmed and under appreciated. The girl training me has 3 years experience and treats me like I’m stupid plus she’s 30 years younger. I’m so stressed I’ve almost quit 3 times now. The training is terrible. Basically walking me through something once or twice without explaining variables then asking why I forgot. I feel like an outsider. It’s only a temp job til end of year but it’s almost too much.

[@cheshire_skatkat9093]

I'm 41. I only been at my new job for 2 weeks and am ready to quit. We are still in classes and job training but I can't process or follow along with the training.

[@makeupgirl8886]

I'm 49, and I'm completely overwhelmed in my new job. I've been there 2 weeks, and I know I'm going to be asked to perform soon, but I am struggling with knowing what to do at all. I feel like I accepted a job outside my skillset, and I'm supposed to be a consultant and a Senior/expert. I keep wishing I hadn't taken the job. I want to run away because I'm scared to death. I feel like I'm going to throw up all the time or have a heart attack. I know God is in control, but I can't stop thinking that I'm going to be fired, and then what will happen to me? I'm single - no spouse to help with the burden. I beg Jesus & the Holy Spirit daily to give me wisdom to know what to do and the ability to do it. I beg for another idea/option if I made a mistake. My family is sick of hearing me talk about it. I know God can give me the strength and power to pull through, and I know that I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. I'm asking for that strength and wisdom daily.

[@natashakalanda622]

This is ME December 2020 and pretty much since I was a kid. Been battling anxiety tied to my performance either at school or work. Started a new manager role, and I've never been this stressed. I'm so afraid this could somehow kill me coz of stress. But seeing all the comments tells me I am not alone. I pray for us all, that we are gonna be okay!

[@diva8025]

Same boat. How did it go

[@thandekamentoor8706]

This is currently me right now 😢 i feel totally stupid and incompetent. Im freaking out...i have been working at this company for a month and i cant afford to fail because this job will put me on the map in career. So many questions...OMW🙆‍♂️

[@mrsmdub259]

Thandeka Mentoor me too I just started a new career in insurance on Monday. I have no idea what I’m doing and I feel like I’m freaking out. Everything they are teaching me, plus going to school to pass my license is too much in my brain right now! 😩😩

[@thandekamentoor8706]

@@mrsmdub259 im told i need to give myself 6 months and i will be fine. 6 months is a long time...OMG🙆‍♂️ Whats worse is my colleage feels threatened by me and shes sabotaging me to work me out. I need to grow a thick skin for her cz i cant afford to loose this job. Its a biggie for me right now. Its so hard,im mentally exhausted cz of overthinking. These videos help console me to get some strength .

[@erinMfoley]

@@thandekamentoor8706 Hey Thandeka! I am sorry to hear you are struggling. Def check out my other videos. I have one on dealing with a co-worker. When we are feeling insecure about our competencies it can heighten everything else. The key is getting more secure in your job, allowing yourself time to learn, and easing any reactions to your co-worker.

[@layla5312]

Thandeka Mentoor hey, how are you doing now? Hope youre ok xx

[@Emily-us4gq]

@Thankdeka Mentoor how did it all work out? its been a year now I'm reading your comment :)

[@makeupgirl8886]

I'm 49, and I'm completely overwhelmed in my new job. I've been there 2 weeks, and I know I'm going to be asked to perform soon, but I am struggling with knowing what to do at all. I feel like I accepted a job outside my skillset, and I'm supposed to be a consultant and a Senior/expert. I keep wishing I hadn't taken the job. I want to run away because I'm scared to death. I feel like I'm going to throw up all the time or have a heart attack. I know God is in control, but I can't stop thinking that I'm going to be fired, and then what will happen to me? I'm single - no spouse to help with the burden. I beg Jesus & the Holy Spirit daily to give me wisdom to know what to do and the ability to do it. I beg for another idea/option if I made a mistake. My family (mom/sister) is sick of hearing me talk about it. I know God can give me the strength and power to pull through, and I know that I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. I'm asking for that strength and wisdom daily.

[@hayateaxel5380]

Hey how are you doing now? Is it all better now?

[@CheriseW-yt6gx]

I hope all is well. I'm experiencing the same thing.

[@abhisheky9312]

God please give us strength

[@amor4dior169]

🙏 Amen

[@stephmcsteph4324]

Had my first training session today at my new job and it was extremely busy. I got the hang of it after a while but it was still so overwhelming that I’ve been crying for hours since I got home. Doesn’t help that I have social anxiety and had to be around so many new co-workers today. But this video does help put things into perspective a little

[@najwawatson55]

Sending you hugs!!! Hope all is better now ❤

[@MNAZ480]

This is literally me. No one I’ve talked to about this understands. You’ve listed everything I’m going through perfectly.

[@erinMfoley]

Thanks for tuning in Mike! I hope things have eased for you!

[@veronicalynn1493]

Wow.. I feel so seen. Started a new job this week (my first job out of grad school), and I’m having terrible anxiety and panic attacks when I get home everyday. I’m questioning my entire career choice and it’s terrifying

[@Tina805647293]

Me too

[@desirearaumaker1810]

I started a new job a month and a half ago it is something completely new to me. I have been struggling with is this job a fit for me and did I make the right choice

[@erinMfoley]

Hi desirea! I have some more resources that might help and a coaching program for this .www.erinmfoley.com/iaminanewroleresources

[@potatoships9379]

How does it feel now?

[@niiico2351]

Thank you Erin. I started my first 9 - 5 office job a few weeks ago and as someone who is very anxious. It hasn't been easy. But this video is pretty much the embodiment of "we suffer more from imagination than from reality" thank you :)

[@patrickrutherford8400]

In a new job now. Terrible onboarding experience. Has set me up for humiliation and failure. Trying my best to make up for the lack of training.

[@sreeanilkumar3333]

This is my present condition.I changed job.I was an expert in my old job and I feel like this.Exactly what I am going through.

[@erinMfoley]

sreedavi pottekkat glad you found my video!

[@kenchan9026]

This is me right now

[@karthickdevarajan2102]

@@kenchan9026 How are you feeling now Ken :)

[@kenchan9026]

@@karthickdevarajan2102 eh slightly better. Riding out the year. I can do the work but have no interest in the subject matter.

[@karthickdevarajan2102]

@@kenchan9026 Thanks for your reply. Hang in there and keep looking out. The world is full of opportunities. Wish you good luck buddy :)

[@erikaeyasvergara6175]

I just retracted my contract on the 2nd day of work. I extremely felt so anxious because on the first day the client was expecting me to do a particular job right away. Without a clear process, no short detailed training. It was right off the bat. The next day, i felt totally bad that i questioned my ability so i decided not to push through. It was horrible and one of the worst feeling!

[@Blah-blah-blah79]

This is me right now..... Confidence is so low, this video is spot on as to how im feeling right now

[@mj-fc3ci]

I’m experiencing this right now. Although I don’t think all the other workers are judging me or that I made any huge mistakes, my mind is tricking me of doing so. I worked at my previous job for the past 3 years and that place and people felt almost like my family. I feel so lost at the new place, I don’t feel like I belong even tho it’s been 3 days. I feel hopeful when I see that I’m not the only one struggling with it.

[@davidkeller9862]

In 2015 in quit a network support role after a year due to imposter syndrome. Thing is, the imposter syndrome isn't what caused me to fail. What caused me to fail was that I allowed the imposter syndrome to take over and made me believe I couldn't perform the job. Ultimately, I ended up showing up and watching KZbin for 8 hours everyday until I quit. It took 3 years of delivering pizza until I recently found a help desk job (I'm 27), and I'm giving this career thing another shot. Been there 3 weeks so far, and it's been difficult. The imposter syndrome has even resurfaced! But this time...I will not allow the imposter syndrome to bring me down.

[@idrathernotsay6016]

Hang in there with all your might! I'm struggling too with my job. I don't think my boss likes me which makes me very nervous and I can't focus when he is around me.

[@davidkeller9862]

@@idrathernotsay6016 My main boss is pretty cool so far, but when his boss is in the office, I have the same problem. Embarrassing yourself is one thing, but embarrassing myself in front of higher ups is not fun at all. Thank you for the words of encouragement. In response, I'll say..anything that takes time and effort will be worth it in the long run. What's the alternative? Give up and work minimum wage?

[@idrathernotsay6016]

@@davidkeller9862 Exactly. I know that this is an opportunity of a lifetime. And I am 51 years old so I have worked hard to get this position. I come from a family I am the only one that graduated high school out of 6 kids. We were all in foster homes by the age of 11. And I was raped by my foster dad repeatedly. But, I have never given up and now I just need to show up on time at my work and try to do my best. 😰

[@lena9724]

Commenting 3 years later, I’m currently a network engineer and I absolutely know how you feel. I feel it every single day. I want to change my career and move out of tech. Don’t know my careers decision though..

[@alicesullivan001]

Everything you said is what I'm dealing with. Started a new job a month ago and every day I feel overwhelmed. I'm crying every day and I think Im being so silly. I got so much to learn and it's like why am I trying to learn it all at once? I dread going in every day and I don't want to be like it but my feelings just overcome me and I was crying on the front desk yesterday. Having no training doesn't help and I'm always left on my own .I've always been confident so I don't know what's happened. I've got a fear of people I want to just stay at home. But your video was really informative so thank you ❤

[@farisarif9275]

u got this. i hope u bounce back and be as good as u already are!

[@cindyl760]

Currently going through this right now . HELP!

[@alicesullivan001]

@@cindyl760 I left in the end I was getting to bad hope you're ok . It's awful

[@dotunn]

This is me, so stressed it woke me up and now I can’t sleep and have to be in the office in a few hours. Started new job 2 weeks in and I’m panicking. Been dreaming of this type of job for years, and now it’s here I feel like an imposter, the anxiety is so bad I have a headache. I just don’t like people thinking of me as incompetent. I’m. Still new no one has said anything probably just me being hard on myself. But I worry knowing all I have to learn. Everyone in the comment section sounds like me. Good luck everyone.

[@calicoc1335]

So glad for all these comments. It's nice to know I'm not alone

[@eliamartinez9141]

Oh my Goddess!!!!🥺. This is exactly how I am feeling right now. I read all the comments and its like everyone is talking about me. I need some advice anyone, please help me break free from this feeling!!!😢

[@robevans4032]

Wow, I've only just come across this video and it marched me 100% I feel better already that what I'm experiencing I'm not alone. Being ambitious and string in a lot of ways can also be your nemesis I think. Thank you for putting this video together in a clear understanding way

[@JacindaNeal]

Started a new job on Tuesday. This is a huge promotion for me. A lot of high expectations. I feel like I’m overwhelmed and I’m afraid of failing. I know that it’s a new position and I need to learn. So I’m dedicated to making myself the best in my industry. I just need to breath and get out my own head. Going to relax this weekend.

[@joanapisan5433]

Hi.. I'm in the same situation as yours, but I noticed this response is a year ago so I'm just wondering what happened to you now? Did u manage to overcome those anxiety and if you meet the expectation?

[@JacindaNeal]

Jj Filipina Hello! Yes I did overcome my anxiety, I’m still in the same position and had a good first year! I’ve actually been recruited for even higher positions from some competitors. I forget I even wrote this comment. Wow a year later and I can’t even believe I had all this anxiety in the beginning LOL. My advice is to not over think it. Become a subject expert in your field and always be willing to learn. You will do just fine! Now my goals are even better for this year and going forward!

[@ahmootharamachandran1882]

@@JacindaNeal this is so encouraging to hear!!All the best.

[@zoeng9026]

Thank you. This gives me hope. I am really suffering from imposter syndrome after being at my previous job for close to 3 years, this switch felt super overwhelming to me. I went from private to public sector and it’s a whole different world for me. I can’t help but feel like I should know more than I already do. I’m one week in and still feel like I should be doing more already. Not sure why but I feel sad thinking about it.

[@jims1114]

Yeah I’m struggling a fair bit.. I started my new job today and it’s a job I’ve wanted for a while now but I’m not sure how I’m feeling. I don’t know if I’m just overwhelmed or something but as soon as I finished and I got home I just felt lonely, empty and sad, if that makes any sense. I’m hard on myself because I do know deep down that things just take time and you need to learn the process but I can’t tell myself that and actually believe it. I feel like being sick a lot too which is affecting my mood. I struggle with the fact I don’t know what I’m doing on daily or that I don’t know my way around, the correct way of doing things or even knowing my colleagues. I’m stressing about tomorrow but I know I’m just gonna have to ride it out

[@Nikki.L.L]

I totally relate. I had this job i’ve been wanting for a while and now i have finally gotten it, i feel so so overwhelmed and i start to question was the change really right for me.

[@jims1114]

@@Nikki.L.L I’m nearly one month in and it’s going well. Look sometimes it’s going to feel hard and no matter what anyone says it’s genuinely hard to just carry on but all I can say is give it a go. All You can do is try just don’t be hard on yourself because it’s your life at the end of the day. Do what feels right for you :)

[@socalfaithfuls4020]

@@jims1114 I hope all is well with you

[@ParasBorgohain]

I know this, and it can feel so overwhelming, your body starts to hurt in ways you try not to remember!

[@DaughterOfZionLebo]

I have been getting promoted since I started working at my job. I got promoted to a senior role and theres no where to go from there. I am the youngest and the only woman. I am so overwhelmed, at first it was exciting. Now all I am dealing with is stress and anxiety. I feel like such a fraud. I feel like an imposter. I feel so inadequate. 😢 I don't enjoy waking up for work anymore. I feel so overwhelmed and very stressed.

[@AnnaSzabo]

Thank you for sharing

[@BaderAlbadrany502]

I have changed jobs. it is totally different and extremely stressful! i suffer from clinical depression. I am really anxious

[@erinMfoley]

BaderAlbadrany502 I’m so sorry to hear that you are feeling anxious. Being in a new role can feel very disorienting. Make sure to reach out to a counselor or therapist for extra support.

[@idrathernotsay6016]

Me too! I've been in a new position for a month. How are you now?

[@idrathernotsay6016]

Maybe we can be each other's support team?

[@boayoon8715]

I'd rather not say support me!!!!! Same is happening to me ffs 🤦‍♂️

[@idrathernotsay6016]

@@boayoon8715 I definitely will! So, I've been in my job for about 3 months. It's so hard from day one even now! So, now my boss expects me to know things I may not even been taught through training. But I'm the kind of person that it takes three or four times before I actually get it! And everything is so new that I can't remember shit. I mean, I'm learning a little as the days go by but the anxiety of having to fully understand everything is overwhelming.

[@xbrendax82]

Hi all! Im leaving my job after almost 11 years because im bored, not challenged and want better benefits with opportunity to advance. I went in to my new job this weekend to train with lady im replacing. I felt good and confident in the beginning but as day went on i felt soooo overwhelmed, so much information and lots of deadlines and babysitting other coworkers. I started to question myself. Im leaving a good job, i love my job just wanted more. The feeling of going to a job where you are not an expert is so scary. My official start date is next week and i told myself i can do this, i wanted something new and here it is. I cant be scared. The new job needs me. But i definitely have jitters of not being perfect.

[@cheyenneabba9315]

Your situation matches mine to a T. How are you doing now? Hoping for a happy ending here.

[@amylewis4510]

This is definitely me at the moment! Changing career path completely, feeling pressure to learn new information and skills. I am very hard on myself and self confidence!

[@Sabinalucky]

I am the same! Thank u for ur experience. It is so helpful.🙏🏻🙏🏻good luck to both of us🙏🏻😘big hugs from Russia 🇷🇺😘😘😘

[@MeetTheGays]

This is me. I’m so unsure about my choices. But it’s a great job great pay, and love the job and opportunity. But I’m so overwhelmed and so sick to my stomach somedays. I pray each night for god to give me the strength to continue.

[@nehamehta789]

I under your situation and I’m going through the same right now.. I hope things get better soon

[@ToniaStrong]

This is me all day i landed the position of my career goal and I am really going through it mentally as if I cant do it and I know I cant I'm just a bit overwhelmed with this nonsense mental talking smh 🙏🏽

[@joshuaadao4087]

This is me now. I just started on my very first job a week ago. My heart is always pounding too fast whenever I'm about to come to work. I know I have a trainer. I know that my trainer is already feeling pissed on me. I think I'm a very slow learner. I'm hoping to be better in the next coming days.

[@Jirou_Ryusaki]

This is so me right now. I got a new job offer wherein I will be handling a group of people and it is my first time tbh. I am not even sure how to do it smooth once I get onboard. Plus the kind of work in a daily basis. It really freaks me out. So help me God to overcome this anxiety attack. 🙏🏻😭

[@letmein_5959]

Well glad I’m not the only one

[@atlsongbyrd6084]

I looked up imposters syndrome and I didn't fit the description. However, everything in your video described me. I was ok and relaxed on the job when my supervisor wasn't there.

[@777ter]

Fake it until you make it. Everything is possible in the right environment.

[@Hestereliz]

I cant tell you how helpful this video is. It’s as if you’re speaking directly to my situation! I’ve been a mess since starting a new job last month and this helps so much. Thank you!

[@kareemahh]

Literally me right now

[@keisha8190]

This is literally me right now just got a new job and i feel so overwhelmed with the work plus there’s things I don’t know and the people i work with just leave me hanging.... i always thinking maybe i can’t do this and I should quit but I’m hanging in there

[@mollymc]

I'm going through the same thing! Hang in there and see if it gets better :)

[@Peace-lt8bc]

I do understand 100%... I'm hanging in there too. Is there a support group for this?

[@themaverick8648]

2 months in the new firm and i still have this feeling of overwhelmed. In tech, Reality is, you are given some ppt or video to go thru, people usually don’t like to connect and discuss (because they have enough of their own problems) and no body actually cares if you come upto speed or not. After few days all of sudden you will be given some task and your manager will tell you how critical and time bound activity is. They will go ahead and also say, we wanted niche skills which you have for this assignment only. At the end, You will have to dance on the stage even if the steps are wrong.

[@hanoi97]

I feel so overwhelmed. I never had so much doubt in my ability, as right now I feel so shit though :(

[@emmajuday]

I just graduated college and am now going into a supervisor role, this video was so so so helpful, thank you!

[@lorlast5204]

i can relate to what your saying and it is affecting my well being.. you are right on the dot about what you said.. kind of want to cry because i feel so helpless.. i want it to stop.

[@erinMfoley]

Lor--I hope the video helped you feel less helpless. I know it's been a bit since you posted this comment so I hope things have improved for you.

[@jasminkovanen4083]

Thank you so much! This helped me a lot 💚

[@disneyplannerlisa]

Wow here I am on a Sunday night just dreading another week and all of the anxiety that comes with it....this video is everything I am going through! You have a new subscriber for sure!

[@michelleb5535]

This is so helpful, thank you!!

[@ayonnazglam9050]

Thank you for this video!!

[@gracecase998]

Thanks needed this video so bad. Changed jobs after 7 years. So many of these thoughts and anxiety. I am type A 110%, so I feel useless.

[@ellenvaas7208]

😵‍💫 5 months in and still suffocating. Subscribed. Thank you

[@eddiewright5921]

This was very helpful! Thank you!

[@annaemilyhernandez718]

Thank you so much for the video! ❤️

[@rozahreddine7585]

Thank you for this. I am a bit of a perfectionist when it comes to my professional relations and I've been feeling entirely out of my element. I really needed to hear this!

[@nataliadosreis10]

Thank you so much for this video!!

[@LisaMosele]

I can resonate with this, thank you. 🙏

[@artactually5318]

Oh. My. Goodness. I felt like you were talking directly to me!!!! Thank you!

[@stasia9904]

Thank you so much for this and for your resource 🙏

[@kreeostsphere7265]

so happy to bump into this, was having anxiety problems with my current situation at work

[@RyanCoyer]

Thank you so much! I needed this.

[@erinMfoley]

Ryan Coyer you are so welcome!!!

[@destinyemcgill4621]

This video was right on time. Thank you

[@FatimaT714]

This video was so helpful, thank you

[@mrsmdub259]

Every word is exactly what I am going through! Changed careers completely in May 2019. Then 10 months later as I am still learning this new job, we’re quarantined at home for the past 9 months making this career transition sooooo difficult to do while you’re all by yourself. I pray every day for confidence, but half the time I’m still so unsure if I’m the right fit.

[@AaronHernandez-xv4qh]

Thank you, I needed this. Been very stressed with the new position and going crazy .

[@fabiandouglas3982]

Thank you so much for this video! And the people in this chat.. YOU ARE AMAZING! And YOUR words helped me feel better 💚

[@jmm7992]

You are literally saving me right now. Thank you

[@christinegreen3974]

Speaking to my soul right now!

[@BrookedeRosa]

This was really helpful today thanks!

[@devyangel77]

This really makes sense to me .. I feel like it describes what I am going through now . So true I am subscribing

[@valerieh5400]

Thank you for sharing this video. It is helping me.

[@hlb0111]

This really hits home.

[@lozzamozza8471]

This is legit me right now! Started a new job at a dog groomers and I have been like this my whole starting new things, I always have those thoughts, I’m so glad I found this because I thought what I was feeling was normal.

[@frankzandi4480]

Exactly my feelings at my current job. At least I am glad that others can feel similarly. Very informative and well explained. Thanks 😊

[@ghostdeal.7292]

I'm so late but i feel so grateful to have found this video. you helped me understanding what I'm feeling right now and how should I make up my mind

[@yurianrd]

this is me right now!!!!! thank you for the video!!!

[@seramarie76]

Thank you. Validating.