How to get over a breakup based on psychology | Thriving after my own breakup

I know how hard breakups can be. From long-term relationships to even situationships, they all hurt in their own ways-BUT you can get over them by using the same methods I've gone through in this video. I want to help you not just get over them, but to build yourself up to THRIVE.
You owe it to yourself to live your best life and have the best experiences the world has to offer. Don't let anyone take that away from you.
To know love is a blessing, and it all starts from within you.
Here's a list of my favorite self-help books that helped me get through my most difficult times: www.amazon.co.uk/shop/teresam...
Video chapters:
00:00 Intro
00:21 My breakup
01:56 Part 1: Grieve
02:05 Feel your feelings
03:17 Get support
04:14 Move forward
05:49 Abundance mindset
06:32 Part 2. Healing
06:38 Out of sight, out of mind
07:49 Reflect on the relationship
09:15 Read self-help books
10:22 Nurture yourself
11:35 Journal
13:18 Part 3. Thrive
13:23 Reassess your values
14:02 Work on yourself
16:21 Create space for the new
17:12 Fall in love with yourself
17:56 Important advice
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All-time FAVORITE self-help books I’ve read: www.amazon.co.uk/shop/teresam...
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💖 ABOUT ME:
I talk about self-development, holistic wellness (mental, physical, spiritual), and a little bit of everything regarding life in general. By sharing my experiences and life lessons, I hope they'll help you in some way, or bring you a sense of comfort. :)
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#howtogetoverabreakup #breakup #breakupadvice

[@cherryblossom7340]

i can relate sm, it has the first time for me to be loved and treated so gently like that, all pure and healthy type of relationship, i had to go study abroad and we couldnt do it, but its even harder moving on when its noone’s fault

[@TeresaMayKoh]

Thank you for sharing your experience too angel ❤️ I hope you’re healing well.

[@ACTHEMOGUL]

Thank you this is a good video I’m 2 months into a break up trying to date and still hurting

[@-DikshantWankhede]

Excellent stage wise process & advice. I love it❤

[@TeresaMayKoh]

Thank you for watching! I'm glad you enjoyed it. ☺

[@arpitabiswas2884]

Thank you Teresa❤

[@TeresaMayKoh]

Thank you for watching! ❤️ I’m so glad you enjoyed it ☺️

[@vikawhy]

this is such a good video! thankyou teresa!

[@TeresaMayKoh]

I’m glad you found it helpful 🫶🏻

[@kai9528]

I was friends with this girl for years, then we started liking each other and got together. Unfortunately though it brought about a lot of things within ourselves that we needed to figure out despite how loving and healing the relationship was for both of us. She ultimately felt like she wasn't ready for a relationship and I tried to bend to what I could to fix what she needed, but there's nothing I could've done to change her feelings so I ultimately respected that and offered her a way out to let her go. It was really hard and we love each other a lot, but I know logically it was the right thing to do and now I'm on my journey of healing and figuring myself out more and more. I wish her nothing but happiness and success in her future as well.

[@jpmikylla]

love this!

[@TeresaMayKoh]

Thank you angel 💗

[@user-xj2md9ti5z]

I had nearly 1 year relationship it just ended 4 days back …..I just got dumped….he left me because I am ugly and weak minded person….I have to build myself again it’s difficult for person like me

[@TeresaMayKoh]

Hi my lovely, I’m so sorry you were made to feel like you weren’t good enough by someone else. It sucks and you didn’t deserve that. Please remember that your value isn’t determined by anyone else’s approval of you! Building yourself up is a difficult task for everybody, so please don’t be too hard on yourself. Take it one day at a time, aiming for a tiny bit of improvement everyday. You are strong and beautiful, and you’ll get to where you want to be. I believe in you ❤️

[@user-xj2md9ti5z]

Tqs 😭😭😭😭

[@PriemSR]

You're making a lot of sense-thank you.

[@TeresaMayKoh]

I’m happy you liked it! Thanks for watching 🫶🏻

[@troyzaw1130]

i feel like this was meant for me ❤

[@TeresaMayKoh]

💓💓

[@AltheaMaximo]

Hi Teresa! Watching this vid made me think you're my virtual bestie lol. Thank you so muuuch for this wonderful vid. You helped me.

[@TeresaMayKoh]

Awnnn I'm happy you think that way! Hahaha I'll always be here to be your virtual bestie. 🥰 I'm glad I could help you 💗

[@MrMeme66]

Thank god, I might have a chance 🤪

[@diyoraaminbayeva_khamidovna]

Useful ❤

[@TeresaMayKoh]

Glad you think so! ☺️

[@candaceshelton1898]

my boyfriend of 4.5 years left me 4 days ago. At first, he wanted a break. He wanted space, to be alone, to figure some stuff out. After just 3 days of not contacting him, he made it official and broke up with me. He said he would never ever see me as anything but a friend. He’s telling people that what we had wasn’t a real relationship, but an attachment. How can you say that about someone you’ve been with for so long? I thought we were so happy.

[@TeresaMayKoh]

Hi angel, I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Please take the time you need to grieve the relationship. It may have ended in a painful way, but it’s okay to not let it taint the happy memories you hold about the relationship. The person who will love you the way you love them will come to you. ❤️ Until then, keep pouring that love into yourself. I’m sending you so much strength. 🫶🏻

[@marysolguitar]

Hiya. My ex basically said he "never loved me" during the break up, but then said he fucked up and his feelings for me weren't actually gone later on. It took him half a year to tell me... Sometimes people just misunderstand their own feelings or they're too scared to acknowledge what's really happening. I think in time you'll get a more objective look at the relationship and then you might be able to tell whether it was your idea of love. For now, he probably chose the easy way out and his "truth" doesn't have to be your truth, especially not at this point in time. But someone who disregards your relationship like that for whatever reason may not be someone you wanna stay with, no matter whether there was love or not at any point. Some people don't know how to love others or themselves. And you cannot make anyone change. Let them figure their life out. Maybe that helps

[@user-gj7rj8dk3p]

Bro you really spot on with this break up thing lol

[@TeresaMayKoh]

I'm glad you found my video relatable! Hope you're doing well though!

[@user-gj7rj8dk3p]

@@TeresaMayKoh I’m ok thanks 😊

[@illishikachophy6030]

Recently got cheated on... My biggest mistake was forgiving him not once but multiple times for cheating Finally moving on though I loved him❤ not loosing myself for a guy

[@TeresaMayKoh]

I know it’s not easy to leave situations like that. I’m proud of you for choosing yourself! You are the only person who can love yourself to the fullest- never let anyone take that away from you 🫶🏻 One day, you’ll meet someone who will love you the way you love them. Until then, keep on choosing yourself ❤️

[@cashandramara2867]

I deleted my ex out of my life, then he contacted me on Facebook. For some time I was hoping we could work something out and started chatting again. When we finally met, he told me it was over. I feel like he enjoyed feeling that he could reject me, after he gave me false hope.

[@TeresaMayKoh]

I’m sorry you had to go through that! Some people find enjoyment out of getting a reaction from others or knowing they had the last say because they aren’t able to find others way to feel a sense of worth or value in themselves. Please remember that it’s not because of you! You deserve the best type of love and I hope it comes to you one day 🫶🏻

[@zgsile]

Thank you

[@TeresaMayKoh]

Thank you for watching as well 💗

[@LetiziaFrigerio]

7:10 lol

[@TeresaMayKoh]

Hahaha I'm glad you liked it!

[@abhinashgarg9922]

I loved a lady who was married..she was not emotionally connected to her husband and so we started liking...when I ask her to come to me, she refused and both left the city..!! Heartbroken but an idiot

[@TeresaMayKoh]

I'm sorry it didn't work out for you. Please don't be too hard on yourself! That lady was just not the one for you, and I'm sure if you keep your heart open, and as you continue to focus on yourself, the right one will come to you in due time. :)

[@abhinashgarg9922]

@@TeresaMayKoh she told me one day she will come..but didn't tell me when...gave me her ring...um just emotionally devasted..I don't know what to do now... sometimes feel like end this life or sometimes feel like do something world will remember

[@lyricalstyles]

What if you work with your ex? I see her 5 days a week and its making it harder to heal and move on.

[@TeresaMayKoh]

Oh that must be pretty hard! I think learning to detach and accept that fact that this person is no longer for you would help a lot. Don’t try to actively avoid her or unconsciously seek her out. Try to be indifferent and focus on your work and the new life you’re creating for yourself. I know it’s easier said than done, and I’m sorry there’s no better advice I can give you!

[@lyricalstyles]

@@TeresaMayKoh its terrible. I watched countless videos and still can’t function. I do act unfazed but deep down its killing me inside. Anyways thanks for the advice

[@magdalena9346]

I would just quit. I think there is no better solution otherwise it will be terribly painful for much longer than it needs to be

[@Candyway31]

I can feel you, even me we're working in the same office same team which is very hard to pretend, I'm struggling each and every single day trying to pretend that i don't care i can Live without him. But at end of the day i have to talk to him

[@Candyway31]

I can't stop looking at him and i can't hate him too, we did end up in a bad term i was blocked from everywhere but when I get to see him in the office i would constantly look at him and falling in love with him more and more , which i hate the most i cannot hate him at all.

[@hyperion752]

My ex-girlfriend still hates me now that im seeing a new gurl

[@TeresaMayKoh]

All that matters is that you’re happy! :)