How to Get Over the Fear of Talking to Women | Jordan B Peterson

A discussion on tinder, speed dating, male aggression, 50 shades of grey, and campus sex. From an interview with Porden B Jeterson (Andrew).
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[@JOXCY]

Exposure is truly the only way you can develop your social skills

[@project-pe6ly]

"go on 25 tinder dates" JP is such a comedian

[@Bolter024]

project 2501 agree 😂

[@johnx4891]

Why's that so impossible? I've been on far more tinder dates than that.

[@Bolter024]

John X because u look good, thats why..

[@Bolter024]

S C it is impossible son..

[@project-pe6ly]

you just have to stop being ugly.. it's that simple

[@gradydyck3684]

Make masculinity great again.

[@bernardhargreaves9009]

grow some balls, fight for your country or fuck off

[@davidsirmons]

Grady Dyck dude, that slogan needs to be on a shirt!!! Hell yes!

[@brucewayne3069]

Real Man=The Embodiment Of Masculinity. Don't Fear It, Instead....Embrace it.

[@xav6050]

im a pussy. prob not getting anywhere unfortunately

[@firstnamelastname9219]

Wasn't it always great though?

[@Timx5599]

25 dates? I can't even get 25 matches.

[@tarael86]

I couldnt even get a single match lmao

[@drksimi3]

Dusty Pines i cant get even one match

[@BenterKoux]

Yeah I guess we're just ugly af hahaha

[@lavieja7938]

once i had 1 match, ty god, that was the best 5 min talk of my entire life :D

[@ikenosis8160]

No worries. I sincerely think that Tinder is effectively dominated by fake profiles now anyway. I have over 200 likes from women and have NEVER met a single woman from Tinder. Terrible service for me personally.

[@joewesterland5697]

I'm 22 and I definitely fltt intense guilt and fear when interacting with women that they might think I'm trying to "come on" to them. It took a long time to get over.

[@yinyang9882]

Their should be no guilt I’m just a little anxious when talking to girls but over a period of time I get comfortable but I would like to speed date I think it would help me alot

[@joewesterland5697]

@@yinyang9882 Good luck! Slow exposure to anything will dedinitelly cause improvement. Just have to be careful of burn out.

[@dragonchr15]

in the old days, women EXPECTED this, and they knew that a part of you wanted to f them, but as long as you didn't come off like a complete jerk, they were fine with it.... nowadays, you have to be careful where you do it and also learn to take a hint...remember, HR departments are stacked with females so you are fighting a losing battle if it is her word against yours in a sexual harassment scenario.... and finally, good hygiene, grooming, and fitness go a long way even if you are not a good looking guy....

[@Jedilord882]

Im a scary black guy so I don’t even bother 😂

[@joewesterland5697]

@@Jedilord882 Man, There are a lot of girls I've met who ONLY date black men ;)

[@combatboots3517]

Honestly, go to the gym, volunteer at a soup kitchen, basically expose yourself in good environments where you would expect to find good women.

[@frostywasp1743]

Combat Boots you've done the same ?

[@dochmbi]

Go to yoga, imo. 90% women there

[@bdb5678]

running marathons

[@maxd2215]

@@dochmbi yeah but mostly made of landwales.

[@GinoNL]

You won’t find your girlfriend at the gym. Well, the chances are very slim.

[@carlotapuig]

JBP finally giving pick-up advice.

[@hawleyrigsby3123]

carlotapuig Nope, not what he's doing at all

[@Paakku97]

Hawley Rigsby This is pretty much exactly what modern pickup theory teaches

[@welcum2zawarudo986]

carlotapuig jjjjjp

[@user-xy1ov7dq1y]

ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ

[@jianquanma]

technically he has been doing dating advice all the time, be a better man and women come to you

[@amacnaughton85]

Hey man, props for trying to turn your life around and putting your renaissance online for others to see and maybe benefit from. Good luck!

[@marcovortexbohler]

"I'm Chris Hansen." "No you're not." "Yes I am" "No you're not"

[@hardthrowingrighty]

Marcos Bohler he looks like Mancini

[@kevinvargas8697]

Bro 😂😂😂

[@gallicus]

Dude!!!!! That’s why he looked so familiar lmao 😂

[@jernyx9139]

dudeeeeeeeeeeeeeee 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯

[@dannygallivan8693]

Haha I know I really thought it was him that’s why I clicked on the video in the first place.

[@annemoeller9478]

Came across Peterson some weeks ago. Got conscious that men are not that bad and why. He is doing a great job explaining and helping. Thank you.

[@IsraelCountryCube]

Firstly how the hell does a privileged woman such as yourself assume wrongly that men are bad at all? Because if you put more than 2 men you don't know in that category you're wrong and deserve hell

[@spartan539]

RSD Peterson

[@briankaul1201]

lol

[@MohamedAhmed-ms9eu]

Brian Kaul haha

[@talon45100]

HEY it's Jordan, coming at you from city of TORONTO, CANADAAAA with JUUUUULIEN my son, and today, we are going to talk about cleaning your room.

[@danieljonespt2876]

Someone from RSD needs to interview him!

[@hawleyrigsby3123]

Daniel JonesPT They'll quickly realize that there is no match in values

[@requiem418]

He's just spot on everything he says. FACTS.

[@ronniemartillo]

The strongest negotiating position is being able to walk away and mean it. Nothing a woman says or does should effect you emotionally. Take it or leave it, you have nothing to prove, don’t spend time with someone who puts up fences with you. Instead, spend time with someone who jumps over fences for you.

[@justinkim7202]

He's absolutely right about the society where men feel like they need to become powerless instead of being powerful but well controlled. I've certainly felt this from the society as I was growing up and I had a feeling that it wasn't right to feel this way. It felt unnatural to me that I had to be a powerless "rabbit". Once I discovered Dr. Peterson and his discussion on this topic, I had that "aha!" moment, and I could say it has changed a lot about me.

[@chefboiardeeznutz9881]

What amazes me sometimes is how someone can be good looking and have a good head on their shoulders and still have a hard time taking to people. Like this guy and woman. That's crazy.

[@chefboiardeeznutz9881]

@Sinterklaas in other words not having the right amount of belief in yourself, your capabilities etc to move forward in the most positive and improving way you can for yourself?

[@chefboiardeeznutz9881]

@Sinterklaas right like self forgiveness for ones misgivings. Choices that you've made that when looked back on, you understand how the choice you made was wrong or maybe wasn't exactly a good approach. I'd say it makes it more difficult, at least for me and the way I see it, to try and be genuine with that forgiveness because that other part of telling you that you shouldnt forgive. Convincing yourself that the choices you made were so unforgivable, at from your rational part of you, that you convince yourself that you're not worth being forgiven, even by yourself.

[@tommore3263]

I really admire the great humility, integrity and strength of Andrew.

[@javiermgtaoism5702]

Humility, integrity and strength won't get him any sex. "The meek shall inherent the world" but they won't get any pussy. Most modern day, feminists, Western women want men who display the Dark Triad 1. Sociopath 2. Narcissistic 3. Machiavellian-ism.

[@MinadR92]

@@javiermgtaoism5702 thankgod not all of them. Some still admire qualities like humility and integrity.

[@krakosekrumpa]

'Women generally like men with power but that don't need to use it', that's just spot on! They're instinctively attracted to the feeling of safety, that their man can defend them and the family if it would be necessary.

[@1594simonsays]

While also having a fat bank account

[@JamesSmith-cm7sg]

Best thing you can do is stop trying and start living.

[@natas4301]

The full video is actually really good

[@WestofWonder]

The most helpful man alive.

[@davidsirmons]

I get that it's difficult. The guy's nature seems a bit timid, despite his imposing appearance. Gotta build up that inner nature to match the outer presence.

[@PatrickPierceBateman]

The shaved head/unshaved face combo isn't helping.

[@Nhleko9303]

Patrick Bateman lol what? There’s a lot of bald guys with beards and a lot of girls like that.

[@sean3533]

Yeah he looks jacked. “Just be large” is a good theory about female attraction

[@Alzbeta7]

Hello, as a woman, I just want to say please embrace your masculinity fully. There are feminine women out there that will love and appreciate you for it. This new wave of feminism is really damaging and unhealthy and I think as much as the media loves to push it, it's making it sooo hard to date. Hang in there! and don't get discouraged by the women who bought into it and will get offended if you offer to hold a door.

[@danielgraham5199]

Thanks for putting this comment here because as a man being on social media definitely ruined my view of women and really caused me problems. I would believe all women hate men and are all “modern feminists” and that still makes me really cautious around them in order or not come across as creepy or weird by doing something wrong. So many times I find it awkward and don’t know what to say so it ends up being awkward in itself because I worry lots. After talking to a girl I usually always overthink what I did and worry that I was too much. I just never see the signs they like me and when I do like them I don’t know how to flirt without being feeing stupid or weird.

[@jakejeanes6946]

@@danielgraham5199 exactly the same for me bro. I want to meet a women and start a family and all that good stuff but because I’m an active gym goer I feel like I get judged and stereotyped into being a dickhead…. I get guys saying I bet you get loads of girls but in reality I’m very lonely and no one wants to speak to me

[@danielgraham5199]

@@jakejeanes6946 yeah I’m the exact same

[@archerbaca1572]

@@jakejeanes6946 felt

[@flyingdutchdan]

@@danielgraham5199 i feel the same bro

[@gearoidwalsh8606]

a lot of truth bombs here, thanks for sharing. just realizing how much of this "toxic masculinity" narrative I've internalized. kinda knew it already and have been observing it, but this really put a name and a face on it. this is something that I need to work on - on a subconscious and behavioural level.

[@dochmbi]

Good luck Gearoid! It's going to be a hard road. I'd recommend you go to a place like yoga class or meditation. You'll meet many warm and kind people there. Also, working out daily, taking cold showers! Cold showers are amazing, really strengthening.

[@galaxytraveler5779]

I have very bad luck with that sort of thing. I have tried many times and it went bad, for someone who is not into love or romance in the first place it just makes me angry and not want to bother again. Now that I am in my 30's, i don't even bother anymore and fully embrace the idea of dying alone. Actually the thought of getting old with someone else is what scares me.

[@kuenringeling]

I can totally identify... I'm still not sure if should become a husband and father... I'm a highly sensitive person and I know some of these kind of people who are quite ok becoming old as single.

[@Dixon_Cider]

It's terrifying!!!!! That churning feeling in the gut, the sweaty palms, shortness of breath & not knowing what to talk about makes some bros just buy a Fleshlight instead.

[@mochamommyATX]

Thank you for being honest

[@stickaround7990]

Well said mate. That pretty much sums up the anxiety. In two words I'd call it 'social paralysis'. Incredible that a deep rooted sense of 'I'm not enough' is so engrained in the collective consciousness of men who fall into the group of sufferers when it comes to trying to attract someone. I think the cultural narrative of men is fed by the mainstream as toxic and exacerbates our internal shame to the point of 'ah what's the point we're all going to end up tired drained old farts anyway'. A kind of sexual nihilism.

[@rockyp32]

That’s why no fap helps so much

[@jermaineayivoh8263]

Ben Diaz The way it works is, you do the thing you're scared shitless of, and you get the courage AFTER you do it, not before you do it. The problem with most of you lot is you have been conditioned to try and please women and to fear their judgement. Let me explain something to you, a woman’s judgement of you as a man can never live up to and compete with a man of real integrity. Man was created first and out of man, the woman was formed. Women were created to help US not the other way around. We lead and women will follow, this has been true since the dawn of mankind. Work on and improve yourself first. Physically, mentally, financially etc. When you make gains in these areas women will start taking more notice of you and come flocking. They will be more discreet in most cases because that is their nature. But if you learn to read body language, you will be able to tell if a woman likes you and then make your move if the opportunity arises. Stop acting like you are not enough or have nothing to offer. BULLSHIT!!! You are the prize! Women need men a heck of a lot more than we need them. It has always been this way. Another thing nobody may have ever told you, WOMEN CRAVE SEX MORE THAN WE DO! Think about it....What exactly is the cliterous for ? What is its purpose ? It’s only purpose is for the sexual gratification of women, nothing more. It has no function in terms reproduction. ZERO! We don’t even have a sexual organ that only exists for gratification yet we are apparently the one’s who only think about sex. Most of the time when a woman pretends like sex isn’t important to her she will do it mainly for 3 reasons: 1)She isn’t interested in sex with YOU because she simply isn’t attracted to you. 2)She tries to hide her true nature because she doesn’t want to be judged as a slut. 3)And this happens a lot more than guys think, she is using the allure of “potential” sex as a semblance of control over the man. Stop listening to what society says you should be doing to please women. FUCK PLEASING THEM. When you have something to offer, they will come after you (most women’s way of making a “move” is giving you prolonged eye contact, a smile or even striking up what seems like a completely innocuous conversation). The majority of them will NOT be more upfront than that. Only a few will get straight to the point of what they really want. The majority of them just like hanging around at the finish line and fuck the winner. They always have and they always will. That means YOU AS THE MAN ARE THE ONE WHO IS IN CHARGE. SO GO AHEAD AND FORGE YOUR DESTINY!

[@vedangarekar1390]

@@stickaround7990 Sexual nihilism I'm going to use that now that's the word.

[@Vicenteelcaliente]

RSD Peterson - effortlessly deals with inner game issues (+Infield)

[@mosternag7664]

You made my night at 5am😂😂👏

[@Dooger111]

Men do NoFap and work on yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, financially. Learn game and get yourself out of your comfort zone. Expose yourself to the feminine energy and be masculine

[@rover5058]

i was on nofap for 4 months,wasn't worth it at all.I didn't feel higher energy,the only benefit i got from nofap was the ability to do alot more things in a day.As far as women and my surroundings go,nothing changed.If you masturbate once a day its fine,i have a girlfriend and surprisingly enough i still masturbate once a day right before i go to sleep.

[@Nyconbr]

@@rover5058 if you did nofap expecting miracles, then you wasted your time. NoFap is recommended for people whose PMO is affecting his personal life, so they can develop a healthier and productive routine. Period.

[@davideb.4290]

@@rover5058 yeah actually if fapping Is the only way for you to cum ( you are not sexually active) After 4 month of not cuming you will have a hell of a cum, that's the only benefit of nofap if you masturbate once a day. One fap a day Keeps the doctor away

[@TheMrDuckyG]

all i needed to hear, thank you.

[@kevin15776]

I think no-fap would make many inexperienced men so desperate that they'll just end up paying for sex

[@gambit_toys6554]

542 approaches to women for me. The diversity of personality is soo true! You have to meet to learn.

[@hxhxhx91]

great stuff

[@ehsan74827]

jordan you go man!

[@TM0R]

Thank you

[@maranathashalom9402]

Jordan Peterson for president!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@joshforde698]

I'm 28 years old, I know no women, haven't had a girlfriend since I was 22, not been interested in a woman for about three years, there is no end in site, never fall into such a rut where you fear interacting with women, it fucking sucks.

[@hawleyrigsby3123]

Josh Forde Have you considered joining some co-ed activities?

[@joshforde698]

I haven't thought of anything that would increase my contact with women, zero confidence, I've essentially given up on women and dating, at least for the foreseeable future.

[@parthsood3039]

Josh Forde You're not alone. Afraid to reveal my status.

[@joshforde698]

The few friends I have know that I'm completely hopeless with women, responses are part-joke, part-advice (which never gets put to use), it's far from the end of the world but not exactly something I'd recommend to others as a lifestyle.

[@breakingthemasks]

Josh Forde... it's not a bad thing to give up on dating per se... Situation you're describing calls, not for dating, but for contact. that's kind of the point of this video, to have random contact with females in order to understand that they are humans more than they are sexual prospects. Peterson had another video on this somewhere that was great. so bottom line? find a way to interact with females, and completely ignore any possibility of relationship... Just interact with them as fellow humans on this Earth Ship. if you can do this enough your internal attitude towards women will change and you won't be afraid of them.

[@FDonovan1979]

Seems like a good guy. Hope it all works out for him.

[@Pagode923]

Start giving zero fucks to what she thinks about you and you are good to go.

[@Balloonbot]

You're right, but that has to be learned. I only got my first girlfriend at 26 years old, and now when i talk to other women, while being in said relationship i truly dont care - and i can already see they're more interested - but i'm only just realising this.

[@MrAngrybaldguy]

Son of Arathorn best advice and not a BS 20 minute JP wordsalad.

[@TheFatAmericans1]

This can be applied to people in general

[@acs197]

It's a numbers game. So true.

[@lukash.6551]

Love it

[@onthearth1]

This guy amazes me, he's been with wife since +46 years and yet he know about all the tinder/hook-up and pick up game! Amazing!

[@dank2804]

Well, he is a psychologist after all. Understanding modern human mating rituals is part of the course :)

[@onthearth1]

@@dank2804 i know I know, but you'd be surprized by how conventional and closedminded most psychologist are. This guy has a level of openmindedness that is above most psychologist( I work with some) and I appreciate. He's basically much more than a psychologist( obviously). Another thing is that there is a difference between between being an expert in the concept of an subject(keayboard jokeys) for ex relationships and being prctically good at something. Basically theory vs practice. Most people need to go through things to understand and to grow, some people( and I suspect Jordan to be liek that) have the ability to leanr through other peoples's mistakes or experiences. He really do speak as he' been on tinder or as if he knew what it feels like to be a man and millenial. Very convincing. And that's is talent in a way. I appreciate it. And yet he's there having an incredible and exemplar relationship with his wife.. I applauf that!

[@dank2804]

@@onthearth1 Very true. I don't he would've been able to attain such a tremendous amount of popular traction if he wasn't a special breed of psychologist. I think what you say about the discrepancy between theory and practice has a lot of truth. I've met a lot of psychologists who had a very rigid and inflexible way of treating people. Even though their heart was in the right place, they lacked a certain something that Jordan peterson displays in the videos that I watched. His strong sense of curiosity in societal mechanisms, philosophy and very importantly people makes him very endearing to me.( and likely others such as yourself too) He very much feels Like a healer in the traditional sense ( medicin men ect) in terms of his openess/curiosity. Although I'm personally not really a Fan of his theological arguments necessarily :) Are you a psychologist yourself? Just curious because you mentioned working in the same field.

[@onthearth1]

@@dank2804 I agree, he is in the top percentile of psychologists. I'm not familiar with his work in theology, but I would'nt be surprized if it was shit. Obviously this guy is a dabbler in theology and is trying to be the modern Jung. He's self-educated and any academic theologian would laugh at his face. Btw I'm not a psychologist but I'm in healthcare and I have a high interest for psychological matters. I'm also a fan of Jung, so it make sense that I have high interest in the work of Peterson.

[@onthearth1]

@@dank2804 All in all, I find him to have that extra that many great historical figures had. That little madness or x-factor. He's not your average professor of psychology. Hebis involved in societal matters and is not afraid to put himself on the line and to be vulnerable. Also his life is fascinating. The dude has stellar IQ, but fails law school; his academic parcour is incredible. The story of how he met his wife at age 7 is also incredible. The disease of his daughter. Or the love he had for his parents. Or maybe how he rose to the challenge and despite not having stellar mental health- prone to depression, alcoolism and loving the party- he became one of the most notable modern figure and a best selling author. And now his wife almost died and he is/was in rehab. All in all a fascinating life and person/example.

[@Fnelrbnef]

Where I'm at, my whole system is convinced I'll never succeed with women, and how can that be wrong when that's the energy I bring? They notice it instantly. And weirdly, how I'm wired is - the first approach is easy. It's the second and third one that is difficult. After you know the basic stuff about them, you've got nothing more to ask or say.

[@vishwanathranjansharma566]

Good idea..

[@casaamaril]

The hardest part is overcoming rejection, it's all part of the experience of what it is tio be a man in a world of women, if you have wanted women and they have wanted you, it's hard to accept rejection later on in life. You end up basically rejecting yourself and spending too much time on KZbin instead of having the courage and the desire to meet interesting women again.

[@IsraelCountryCube]

Yep I've spent too much time on KZbin thanks man! I was gonna curse you little shit! But nevermind thanks I need to stop spending meaningless hours as if it were a job much worse a career wow I'm sad!

[@kevinpasricha9329]

Amen

[@chbrules]

I'm a long-term dating kind of person. I usually get 3+ year relationships going. My shortest was my last one at 8mo, but it's because the chick was kinda a wreck. I kept using online dating sites to find chicks, but it always ended up horrible. I tried a new app where there weren't so many predatory peeps on, and I found a "traditional" kind of woman who is religious and conservative, grew up in a wholesome household with a nuclear family. She has her life together, private uni grad and a nice job; not necessarily a career. She's more interested in being a mother than a career woman. It's incredibly satisfying meeting someone who has their life together and was raised well. We didn't get to sex until a few months in. Definitely marriage material. I'm only 5mo in so far, and it's great!

[@alanm6o9]

chbrules good for you man living the dream. Proud of u

[@jenn151337]

What dating site?

[@milo6308]

what site

[@galaxytraveler5779]

my longest relationship was 3 years but that ended when i was 10 years old and haven't had anything since. That was 25 years ago :)

[@Joshua-hz3cl]

How's it going?

[@ainslieberrafella]

That "Sort yourself out" annotation linking to the Self Authoring website at 5:30 should really read "Clean up your room:"

[@nathanpeacock9978]

This dating thing is really not hard for men. It just seems hard. Here is the key; Work on yourself. Improve yourself in every way possible. Read the books on Jordan Peterson's book list. It will really improve your vocabulary and comprehension. Go to the gym. The social interaction will come as you get more and more fit. Women notice fit guys even more than men notice fit women. Be kind. Being kind is not a weakness. Being kind out of fear is a weakness. Strength under control is the formula Peterson teaches. Be the man that can potentially be dangerous but keep it under control. Don't live in your mom's basement. Women are seeking safety and security in a long-term relationship. If you cannot provide those two things, women seem to know it instinctively. Relax, be yourself, do not present yourself as something that you are not. Women will love to be around you.

[@to6ko9913]

Jordan out there thinking we can get 27 matches and actually go out with them 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 lmao

[@GMOLINA00]

Nice beard Dana White

[@UrbanKizBeast]

Haha gold

[@UrbanKizBeast]

Dana White in rehab after Connorrrr lost his fight

[@c-jayjames7316]

Aspergers dana white maybe

[@QuintusBatiatus]

Afraid to talk to woman = afraid of rejections ? Best way to get raid of it is to get rejected so much you don't care anymore... Go out and get rejected 5 times a day minimum and you'll loose this fear. Question is how motivated are you ?

[@angelus_solus]

I saw your comment and I have to say, I've found it doesn't work like that. After enough rejection, you end up deciding it's not worth it anymore. If you keep burning your fingers when you reach for the fire to get warm, you end up deciding it's better to just deal with the cold. It's less painful that way.

[@QuintusBatiatus]

@@angelus_solus that's how It works, for sales as well ( I've learnt this method for sales) go out and be like I have to be rejected 5 times trying to get a number. The goal is to get rejected so you don't get burn in your head. You're manipulating your brain

[@angelus_solus]

@@QuintusBatiatus Out of all the women I tried talking to, I did get one person's phone number when I was active, but she later told me my social awkwardness was cute. I just don't have the desire or energy anymore to walk up to some stranger and try striking up a conversation.

[@QuintusBatiatus]

@@angelus_solus yeah I feel you bro, this was when I was around 20, had the energy for it. Nowadays I'm even lazy to talk to tinder matches... Focus on securing the bag💰.

[@prozombie6768]

That toxic masculinity shit actually confused me in my younger years and didn’t know how to act lol. Jordan is so right when he said that.

[@AlanWatts23]

If you are dating women through apps you won't ever be able to get past approach anxiety and cold approach. However, if you stumble upon you ego and be "present" and not in your head whenever talking to a stranger and have the notion of " No-Mind " only then would you be able to talk to any girl and get over that illusion of AA.

[@Un1234l]

And put yourself on risk of a police report, social media shaming, or whatever because the woman you happened to approach is a thin skinned whamen.

[@GodricThe]

Peculiar thing is that if you go on YT specifically looking guides how to attract women you'll find most of "gurus" are women telling men to be more confident, essentially everything you are saying, Jordan. Also there are many videos on differentiating between good and nice. As you said, nice is not equivalent of good. I actually wanted to write my experience, but it you be an essay, not a comment. Basically it is what Jordan said. Identifying goal and steps towards the goal.

[@jcalz216]

"You don't need to be so afraid of your own shadow."

[@kilimli8824]

After all its the shadow

[@agee7777]

seems im lucky after reading the comments as iv'e had quite a few tinder dates.

[@luizmarinho6138]

To me, the best way to find a girlfriend is to be in a place where you see women on a regular basis, like music classes or a sport. You grow comfortable around each other and the connection is built gradually, with no pressure to impress her immediately.

[@GOLDENEYEAL]

That Probably the best advice

[@nicksblog5226]

Faccccccttttttssssss

[@GiaNNhSRocKaSsS]

I wish I could get at least ONE date on tinder...

[@madssacre1]

Does anyone have a link to the full podcast? The original has been taking down.

[@robmiester]

25 tinder dates!? wtf I couldn't even get one. It is merely a conflict between what we want 'now' and in the 'future'. Eventually something will line up, Trust me I've tried countless times, and continually doing so. It is the same result every time, I'm not lucky enough to get attention back. Each day is more tiring, so you focus on the important stuff. Which is to save up and eventually look to start a family. Most girls have the freedom to have all the fun they want, and preparing for the future is never fun.

[@ingridp4457]

Ultimate Warrior that's strange because you are not bad looking at all, maybe fix up your profile and pic to make it look more interesting

[@robmiester]

It's not just tinder, it's PoF, its Bumble, I've narrowed it down to it just being me. Over the good 8 years so far of using dating sites, across sending literally hundreds of messages over time, I've had one date which turned out to be the worst day of my life. One girl responded back and she was the worst piece of shit I've ever seen in my life. She would eat chocolate cake for dinner, Believed in polyamory and told me she had already been on 3 dates with 3 different guys that same week. It's not a matter of being mad at women anymore, just extremely disappointed.

[@yotube161]

Ultimate Warrior So, do you find you get matches on Tinder but when it comes to getting a date, that part ends in disaster?

[@robmiester]

I'll maybe get 3 matches a year across every dating platform and they all lead to nothing. The girl will either say "hey" or nothing. The 2 dates I've had from online dating over the course of my life had both been absolute disasters. I've sent 100's of messages over the years, to no avail. It would be nice if they could at least respond 'hey sorry I'm not interested" instead of nothing. But they don't they message you a year after you respond to them. What kind of message is it, perhaps a deep thought provoking question that could lead into a real conversation? No, its , 'sup', 'nmu', 'k'. The whole thing is a disaster.

[@travisdressels2204]

check out based zeus and alpha m on KZbin to find out what your doing wrong, then start making your move in person not online

[@xfaroutzx3637]

I’ve been pondering on why men and women have the issues that currently exist. Men are been shamed with accusations of toxic masculinity. Women have anger towards men. They become angry if a guy acts chivalrous. They have become confused with the difference between being equal to men and being the same as men. Men are angry, frustrated and fed up with women’s attitudes. My theory is that underneath it all we’re all scared of being hurt and rather than being open and vulnerable to allowing someone into our lives, we’re projecting our fears into the opposite sex. We’re all starving for connection, love and acceptance. It has to start with ourselves internally. There’s too many people walking around with major self esteem issues.

[@SerenityNow331]

Late comment here but, ding ding ding. We have a winner. You've described most people who are struggling in this area (including me) to a 'T', especially in your second paragraph.

[@Lightnings]

After all, practice makes perfect.

[@Kiw4765]

Masculinity is awesome 👏🏻 there’s so much less of it which is why so many relationships failing

[@nisk.nielsen9051]

Is the full video available anywhere?

[@LadHusbandDad]

I would love to watch the full version of this video. The link in the bio is not working.

[@paulkiggwe3513]

It's really not something to "get over". It's often a very natural & helpful fear for men. It's supposed to help us think w/ our big heads and look to what's important first.

[@robertramos1297]

This guy is agreable reply if you remember a lecture of the DR Peterson that leads me to believe that

[@silverd20]

The problem is when trying to pursue a woman is you have to figure out if she it one of the 50 shades types who won't see you sexually unless you are confident and forward, or a hardcore femenist who will see confident and forward as sexual assault.

[@silverd20]

I had a similar experience. I went out for drinks with a "Strong Independent woman" who would not stop talking about gender stereotypes were the main evil of our time. until I brought up paying for dates that is.... then she said, and I quote. "if the man doesn't pay, how do you know it was a date?" Now I also know women(both modern and traditional. ) who have integrity in spades, and would never expect something from a partner without expecting the same (modern) or the equivalent (traditional) from themselves. the trick is you have to forget about "scoring" and actually get to know people before you try and push anything.

[@hawleyrigsby3123]

AdrunkChangeling Such wise words from a drunk changeling

[@silverd20]

Hawley Rigsby I drink a lot of Sake. The confusious wisdom gets absorbed through my liver

[@hawleyrigsby3123]

AdrunkChangeling As for the 50 Shades types and the heavy-handed so-called feminists (feminism to me is equality, not special treatment for women), I struggle to deal with either. The 50 shades type do propagate assaults against women who are able to be open and communicate. The heavy-handed women have their own hurt that they are dealing with, presumably, and should be given space to heal. I say that having been in a position of healing from an abusive relationship and not being able to handle any attention from men. The abuse made me hyper aware of male presence at times where I had no protection and the sense of vulnerability is overwhelming. That said, there are also men out there claiming "women are all feminazi man haters" who are just too thick to take a hint when you try to politely let them know that you're not interested...then less politely...then...?

[@silverd20]

Whoever said I would change my personality?

[@SillyGoose2024]

i hear speed dating and all I can think of is that scene is 40 year old virgin when steve carrell meets Gina (pronounced Gyna). speed dating is tough because the results are right in your face for everyone to see, if it doesnt work out you;ll see others paired up while you leave your hands in your pockets making you worse off than before you entered the place

[@frankengelhardt6766]

Does anyone know if the original video is available somewhere?

[@gerzy1190]

Real Power is Power over oneself. Not power over others. Conquer your fears , anger , hatred and pain. Power comes from Self discipline of body and mind

[@nickmagrick7702]

how do I get a 1 on 1 personal conversation with Jordan Peterson. Id love to ask some questions and visa versa

[@laxfich_gecko]

go on his patreon and read the offers

[@Lyotac]

Whats the piano song at the end?

[@user36401]

Lmao at the beginning he's talking about 1.) Open all 2.) Reduce time between sets

[@luciennederooy7153]

If you are genuinely interested in this topic, what i’m about to say might seem weird, but i only stumbled upon this video after jordan peterson was discussed in my philosophy course. Is this fear of talking to women a common thing? Because i had honestly never heard of it before.

[@kevin15776]

Absolutely. Why wouldn't it be? I think a lot of women have this idea that "men love the chase" and "if he won't approach you, he isn't interested". Nothing could be farther from the truth for many men out there.

[@luciennederooy7153]

@@kevin15776 I think that as a woman, my interactions are mostly with men who don't have this fear (or have overcome it, I wouldn't know), so this feeling of fear is not something I'm very familiar with. I find it very interesting though to learn more about other people's points of view.

[@houssammekki404]

l started thinking how to get over the Fear of Talking to Women, the problem is why we can't be natural with them ! why you can't show who you are ! At first they want to discover your mystery and get closer to you when they find out who you are and you're just shy person , the mission is completed they go to find someone else .

[@almedogjurgji]

I’m not gay but i feel to love this man J.P. ✌️

[@Janne-k-]

what's that classical pice at the end?

[@Sakura2387]

I am very intimidated by men in an open environment .. but once I talk to them I can relax and be confortable... but Ive had this struggle all my life .. I try to push myself to look at ppl specially men at the eyes in public.. but I feel scared and intimidated... how can I solve this.. I feel many woman have this problem too.. I want to feel open and friendly .. so I can be approachable.. but this fear of having the possibility of being assaulted mess up my social life

[@SerenityNow331]

Late comment here but I guess I didn't realize that women go through this problem too. It's messed up because it's all driven by (irrational) fear. I don't approach women because I've always had this fear that they would slap me and call me a pervert. Could that happen? Possibly, but the likelihood of it happening is very very minimal. I know all of this but the fear is still there. Just like your fear of being assaulted is very small as well. So, how do we get over our fears? I have no clue... Just wanted to say my piece. Anyway, good luck :)

[@thethinker4048]

what is the last piece of music called?

[@afterift]

Ayy my mans from Brampton!

[@CaptCutler]

I think it would be great if you took one of Pordan B Jetersons videos and gave it the "Cocaine" treatment. All in the same good fun, of course.

[@FlyingwithFire]

check pordan's video about Jordan b peterson on cocaine

[@melvinjansen2338]

Capt. Cutler he should just change himself already

[@avery3741]

Dang the full video is gone!!

[@anderpuig1442]

Whats the song at the end?

[@tk657797]

Thought it was Johnny Sins

[@dochmbi]

Hey there RSDPeterson

[@adamcollins8907]

I am 34 about to be 35 I have had one girlfriend for two weeks (she was a good woman but I broke up with her). Even before this I was and still am scared to talk to women. I have never even kissed a girl. But I feel like women find me creepy. I would never hurt anyone but they most often see me as a predator. I am terrified of them (probably far more than they are of me) and I don't know how to handle it or have a relationship. I want to be a husband and a father but I don't know where to even start. Haven't been on a date in over a year. What do I do?

[@akshat159]

Get out of your comfort zone

[@monkymind4316]

I started telling myself that I am just as good as anybody else and that I am a worthy and deserving person. It hasnt gotten me dates because I still dont ask women out but i feel much better about myself and am learning to be a friend to myself. It is a process.

[@kuenringeling]

"I feel like women find me creepy" - I think that's just in your fantasy!

[@mohsenalbo5533]

what about countrys with restricted low ?

[@Adjag2Studios]

Better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war

[@markf3521]

What happened to the full video?

[@henriqueyoh]

name of the song at the end?

[@bestnottoknow]

for me I just don't want to bother anyone. I can talk to women i associate with but approaching women I really just don't want to bother them.

[@BernardTheMandeville]

Coach Corey Wayne is also a good guy to help with this stuff

[@krakosekrumpa]

His book 'How to be a 3% man' is one of the best books on the subject I've ever read

[@drksimi3]

I prefer to watch alpha male strategies on youtube..If you looking for to bang.

[@JesusChrist-hr7dg]

This guy looks like an angel from Preacher

[@patyson5823]

Who know name of music in the end ?!

[@melktert1763]

What i find most interesting about women are the differences in personality

[@PulpHouseHorror]

Brave New World by Aldous Huxley

[@scatchef]

Anyone looking for advice on how to talk to women JAMES TUSK IS A PICK UP GENIUS!!!

[@kimmyqueen8009]

Chill you don’t go through all this to be scared. You’re pretty darn confident here! Ha!

[@abdocreed8183]

Everyone:"watching the video" Me:Pordan Jeterson hhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

[@audrichvuneo181]

This guy looks like the math tutor from To Catch a Predator lol

[@comicstwisted]

Good luck getting matches on tinder unless ur atleast an 8/10

[@arthurjackson8302]

I'm gonna look at your picture and tell you if you're an 8. I'll be back in a second with the answer

[@arthurjackson8302]

Yeah you are an 8. Maybe even a 8.5. Yeah, it doesn't work that way though.

[@davidschumann9903]

@@arthurjackson8302 fuck that's creepy

[@emirmaslo4054]

Women spam right on everyone nowdays just to proove to themselves that everyone likes them(well atleast 1000 people) they dont care about meeting

[@nenadzivanov6974]

What if i refuse to have social media of any kind including Tinder? So my chances are near zero to overcome fears nowadays?

[@Joe_baba]

Start slowly. First start trying to look at women from a distance, a few days later try eye contact. After a few weeks try smiling with eye contact, but only if you feel like it. After that try greeting with eye contact. A few days after that try small talk.

[@Razdanilo]

definitely not by having this video posted on KZbin :’)