How to Get Teens to Love Prayer and the Qur'an | Hina Khan-Mukhtar

Sister Hina Khan-Mukhtar answers a parent's question about how to get teenagers to love the prayer and the Qur'an and how to encourage them to come to the mosque without being "forced" to be there by their parents.
This was in response to a question online from a parent during a teen-parent forum at the MCC. Watch that insightful panel: • "My Parents Just Don't...
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This panel was delivered at the Muslim Community Center - East Bay (MCC East Bay) in Pleasanton, California on November 1, 2019.
Hina Khan-Mukhtar is a married mother of three young men and one of the founders of the homeschooling co-operative known as ILM Tree in Lafayette, California, which now serves over 35 homeschooling families in the East Bay. In addition to having taught Language Arts to elementary, middle school, and high school students, she is also involved in interfaith dialogue. Hina was a monthly contributor to The Muslim Observer’s “Raising Our Ummah” column and also writes for Seeker’s Guidance where she shares parenting advice and ideas for nurturing spiritual traditions in childhood. Learn more about her at hinakm.com
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[@dinaf.k5372]

I'm 17 and ever since when I was a little the reason why I love praying and reading Qur'an (alhamdulillah) because of Allah and because my mom used to recite the whole juz of the Qur'an when she was still carrying me during her pregnancy. Perhaps thats a little tip for those mothers out there 😊

[@mohammedibrahim43]

My mother too She loves reading Quran , she always says that if she kept Niyyah for reciting ayatul qurzy and ask Allah for her wish to come true , Allah always accept her dua . Subhanallah Great know

[@ashaqhussain6902]

Subhan’Allah

[@noreensalem7620]

Another tip is to make Islam part of the family culture. My mom used to read to me about the Prophets’ lives as my bedtime stories and have Quran play in the car or on the radio in the kitchen as she cooked. This made me have fond memories related to the Quran because it was tied to so many sentimental things and established Islamic basics for me because of the bedtime stories.

[@mohammedibrahim43]

❤

[@user-mv4hj4dh2i]

so true some parents didn't care to teach their kids at age 7 but when they reach 15 years old and older they see their children on the wrong path and they start going crazy. In first place teaching children at age seven as the prophet Muhammad pbuh told Muslims to do

[@karimnazari1349]

I’ve been encouraging my daughter to pray, since she was 4 years old now she is 14 but she never prays. Please pray for her to be guided and the right path and never misses her sallah...

[@MomoMomo-qm2bo]

Karim Nazari may Allah accept your prayers. In Sha Allah your duas will be answered and your effort rewarded. May Allah guide us all .

[@xSunnyDaysx]

Karim Nazari Did you pray together regularly? Or did you go to the masjid and expected her to pray alone home? Look back at how you brought her up. Kids need guiding. Like literally doing the act together. Taking them by the hands and doing it together.

[@NajmaFazalqfk]

Ameen Sum Ameen

[@TheMr82k]

Be a role model for her Karim. If you and her mother are on routine on of Namaz and Islamic values, she will eventually turn into deen and be a practicing Muslim. The constant reminder of our mistakes makes us regret and change for good. Also show interest in her things too. So it will be interactive and a friendly relationship instead of one way master and slave feeling.

[@asma24]

I guess you should motivate her to do the right things. Like if you work all the time, maybe take days off to stay with her and have fun. Make scenarios of good things and bad things and see what she thinks of them; then later discuss about it together. Talk to her as much as you can, so that later when she's all grown up, you and her won't feel awkward when talking. My point is to motivate her through different ways, but think about your decisions carefully as well. I don't know if that helped but I'll make dua for her.

[@emranhotak2835]

Inshallah we will not force our children like the way we were. YA ALLAH give us the ability to protect our self from haram

[@mohammedibrahim43]

Ameen Ameen Ameen

[@rafayshakeel4812]

Ms. Hina Khan is a very profound speaker mashallah. May Allah grant you Jannat and Happiness in this world, as well as the Hereafter.

[@mehedi479]

Honestly, in order for your children to love praying and to love the quran. It something that you should teach them as they are young toddlers and get them to start then. So it becomes a natural part of life to them.

[@UswaeZainab]

Ma Sha Allah.The way you educate the youth about the Deen is exemplary indeed.

[@sagalmusse6977]

MashaAllah, this is the best advice ever for parents with teenagers. My Allah rewards you for this sister!

[@asmamuse6325]

Aamin

[@fayaqun0]

Ameen

[@MohamedAli-rd7rn]

Mashallah not only best of the best mother!but the very best mother! Best advice for parents! You really talked about the the MOTIVATION! Good deeds!$1 4 5 salat! I got a way out of challenges!! Thank you so much for sharing this wonderful experience in bringing up children! Great adviser! Best mother! A role model lady! Obedient spouse! May Allah forgive you and your family! Amen May Allah make your family pious! May Allah reward you all of you his jannah alferdowsa ala amen! Your brother in Islam from Somalia! 🇸🇴🇺🇸

[@sumbulasad7023]

Wise advice....I too pray that Allah SWT gives hidayat to my daughter in my lifetime. Jazak Allah Khairan

[@syedalmas97]

Sumbul Asad Aameen please pray for my kids too

[@adaali7214]

Making habits is incredibly important! I have read that it takes around 66 days to make a habit (before you need to fight with yourself to achieve a thing). Praying with your kid 5 times a day, encouraging them to do it helps them to keep it up once they grow up because thats something they have always been doing then rather that a new thing they have to get used to

[@worshipthecreator9081]

May Allah swt guide us all Ameen

[@sagalmusse6977]

Ameen YARABB

[@ImranKhan-xt8oj]

Ameen

[@zainhottson7393]

I wish i had such an understanding educated mother... My mother with all due respect and appreciation has the desire to direct me to the right path but by force and screaming and yelling all fay long. May God bless our mothers

[@fayaqun0]

Ameen

[@fayaqun0]

Su Bhan Allah

[@xSunnyDaysx]

Zain Hottson That’s what happens in a lot of households. Culture tops religion. No more sweetness and patience. All harsh words. I’m sorry to hear that. I hope you bring up your (future) children with Islam and with a lot of rahma

[@abdullahiosman1485]

Masha Allah. You're a good person. May Allah increase

[@sarah-amena]

Omg I just adore this sister

[@adamayakubu582]

Alhamdulillah! This is sooo....... inspiring and motivating! Jazakallahu khair sis! May Allah reward u for this🤗

[@summayasylvia4640]

MashaAllah ,that is inspirational to all Muslims.

[@FoodBlend]

Nice saying thank you for such a great motivational talk

[@samdarren50]

This is so beautiful

[@xxdizannyxx]

What a wonderful sister.

[@NajmaFazalqfk]

Thank you dear I Loved the wordings *early taught we will be maintaining later* MashALLAH May Allah SWT Bless u dear Ameen

[@alhassanefofana3751]

Thanks you my best sister may God bless you and your family

[@Siddiqa_h]

I am sitting here crying because suddenly my husband has stopped praying 😞

[@davidnewsham6860]

Siddiqa Hasham. Salaam my niece, , with a such beautiful name as Siddiqa you shouldn’t be crying, Inshaa’Allah Allah SWT will make your affairs easy. Remember, this is a test and is it a case that, my nephew has “ stopped praying” or the case that Allah has taken away the ability to stand before Him SWT in prayer! Please remember that Emaan increases and decreases, but as a spouse we need to keep calm, pray for him and keep communicating and remain supportive whilst seeking help from the local Imam. I ask Allah SWT to make things easy for you both and restore my nephews ability to worship Him SWT in the best way possible, Aameen.

[@shahnazmaryam3542]

May Allah grant u patience and guide him back to the right path. Perhaps you can give him small reminders and talks. Or encourage someone talk to him and reming him of the reasons we pray.

[@MomoMomo-qm2bo]

Siddiqa Hasham , Keep making Dua for him. Prayers are his responsibility, some encouragements are good . May Allah guide us all. , Make it easy for you. Ameen

[@ayshaamjad289]

@@davidnewsham6860 , your beautiful words of advice and the love and understanding with which they have been offered is truly heart warming . As we know good advice is also sadaqa . May Allah S.W.T fill our hearts with HIS love and guide us all to pray on time and may HE bless you for your wisdom and compassion 🌷 Ameen

[@oemadam]

Fight against the shaytan wil makes you lazy. Allah sees you and He knows So ask Him to help you..He is the Most High the Most Mercyfull

[@sm6927]

Awesome mashaAllah!

[@samarah.2945]

Glad I had this recommended to me.

[@shaistascooking8823]

Wow this is helpful!

[@abuahmed6058]

sister ,it is a good lecture .

[@FromTheHeart2]

Masha'Allah!!!!

[@travelerport9107]

Well advice

[@SalmaAli-ev3yp]

So true!

[@hafiz5001]

Nice

[@ImranKhan-xt8oj]

Mashaa Allah

[@mohammedibrahim43]

In my case , I call them for Salah , if they did , I thank Allah by saying Alhamdhullillah and sujood shukr . If they not then I say la hawla walakoowatha illabillah . Thahjood prayer time I ask Allah to guide them , keep on the track of guidance. May Allah bless all our kids on the sirat ul musthaqeem . Ameen Ameen Ameen

[@nihalvallath7302]

Good

[@sarah-amena]

I think if families are able, they should try and homeschool so that they can set the foundation of the Islamic principles

[@johanesismail4986]

Asslm'alaikum... Mohon dibikinkan Indonesian sub title untuk semua vidio nya,, thank you.......

[@motivatedmuslim_Talks]

Motivation is important, we need to encourage the children

[@mohammednettey5744]

Allahu Akbar ❤️

[@kumuduniarachchi2524]

I am Sri lankan woman. I love one Pakistan. I want to come in Islam.

[@shafquechshafquech9954]

Love

[@ramshafatima7178]

Mash'Allah great talk sister

[@fc849]

May I please re upload this. Jzk

[@sciencesonline3751]

subhan Allah

[@Salambrothersister]

Assalamualikum sister hina, Thank you for making the educational clip, sister hina, is it ok to download your story clip and than upload it to our channel. Thank you

[@Salambrothersister]

@@MCCEastBay May Allah reward you sister Hina khan for the good work that you do in the community, muslim community needs more videos like yours, sothat the parents will learn from them insha'allah

[@saadarashid8174]

Mashallah beautiful msg .Allah give ours kids strength to learn our religion 🙏

[@Alimoh786]

Prayer is wrong when you make it a habit. Make it with conscience and everyday is a day of heavenly peace.

[@violettepetals9931]

this is really helpful , especially for us reverts who came to Islam with children of older ages. most advice is given to people who don't yet have children, people who were already raised in a Muslim family , or those with young children . teens get left out on a lot of issues

[@shkonlesh2323]

i am a muslim, have a son who is over 20, but i have the same problem how should i make him or start listening to Allah's words and read the quran, he is not a believer every time he comes to visit me, i talk to him but he does not listen, until one day he told me, I do not believe in anything, it made me sad and worried. please can someone give me tips what should i do and how? thanks

[@SM-qx5he]

Iam very sorry about what happened to your son please take him vacation to The house of Allah Meka

[@myluckytofu]

I think it's important to ask him why and how he came to his decision. You have to understand where he's coming from and then from there on you can educate him and guide him with proofs from the deen. You yourself must be strong in your deen though.

[@heenashabbir4133]

mam i want to talk with you

[@akabbaka4886]

Actually try to make your child understand on how Allah gave us so much example the air we breath in and out and feel shy and ashame to Allah living in this world and yet disobey his comandment.

[@SuperTehri]

Quran: And in no way did I create the jinn and humankind except to worship Me. 51:56 The word for worship is Ibadah. Its such a shame that I see lots of parents who have moulded Islam into praying. Ibadah is so much more than that. The parents need to live Islam and the children will see the values of the way of life. Not just get them to do things out of habit because there will be no love attached to it. We have internalised Islam and this will lead to our destruction as a society as we would not care about our neighbour.

[@afnanj]

being forced isn’t necessarily bad

[@aziza4654]

It’s haram to force it on your children.

[@wantojannah]

Assalamu aleikum. The first thing we should do for our children to pray, read Quran and other religious practices is making dua to Allah Subhaana wo Taala.

[@tanveerfatima6048]

I think forcing works mostly with Asians

[@Lolleka]

Poor kids. I'm sure the parents are loving and caring. That's how it should be, after all. Still, poor kids.

[@Glosiam]

Wonderful content i must say, but let me be very honest, the beauty of this speaker is a distraction, try wearing a complete niqab imho

[@MCCEastBay]

We encourage you to lower your gaze if you can’t handle the distraction. You can also just listen to this video and not watch it.