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So how do we handle a child with autism having a tantrum? And I think the way to look at it is how do we handle a tantrum firstly? You know some of those techniques are ignoring for example, or holding. Actually most importantly is getting down to why this child is having a tantrum for example. And I think with children with autism, because they have social and language communication issues, they are more easily frustrated. And that is a huge piece of the reason why they are having a tantrum or a possible reason.
So preempting it or getting to understand what is causing the tantrum. Is it a valid communication issue? Is there discomfort? Is it when a child who wants sameness and you're changing their behavior in a way that they don't want changed, they want to stay with the activity for example. Or is it just being oppositional, which is what a lot of kids do. They want what they want. And how do we work with redirecting them. Well as I have said get to what is bothering your child and then there are strategies based on that. That you can possibly- for example re-directing them, having a timer, and seeing you know giving them transition time. Helping them sensory regulate.
A lot of times kids having tantrums just need to be held tightly and some kids need to be ignored. Let them have their meltdown as long as they're not hurting themselves. That's the typical way that parents are told about tantrums. That is really considered bad behavior. But with kids with the autism, I would be a little bit more sensitive to the fact that a lot of these kids have communication issues and a lot of the tantrums comes from frustration and not just a matter of being oppositional. Sometimes a tantrum can be pain. And they're having reflux and something is hurting them.
And you know we can misunderstand this as a tantrum. You know it's a matter of analyzing each behavior. Seeing what is causing it. What made it go away and that will help you prepare for next time preventing that happening possibly. Some kids just get soothed by rocking and holding. And you have to know your child individually to see what works with that tantrum. Because a tantrum I hear is like a cry for help or frustration. It is a communication and we need to understand that communication. It is uncomfortable.
You want to make sure the child is safe and people around are safe. Children often having tantrums not only can throw themselves on the floor, start self mutilating and hurting themselves or throwing chairs and toys or hurting other siblings for example. I think that is where limit setting is important. Holding the child so that he is safe or she is safe. And being very clear and structured so you can help the child calm themselves down and self regulate and actually deal with what the issue is. You know if it is a tantrum about wanting more of that ice cream for example or something that the child wants, well you know you deal with your regular child and you sort of have to deal with frustration that is a part of life. But as long as you are not missing out on some discomfort or frustration, that can really be addressed and the tantrums can hence be minimized.
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[@quinziemayne9704]

Easy said than done. Show a video of a child being helped by you and walk us through.

[@CrazieFrogz]

Exactly

[@CrazieFrogz]

When i go see my nephew if mom allows i might put up videos. He finally said 2 clear words today. " you tube" I'm so happy for him.

[@kellyrose3213]

😂 I know right well said. I get frustrated with these doctors telling us parents with autistic children that this is how we are supposed to do things why because they read it in a book give me a break. 🤹

[@BasheerAlBdairy1]

As a teacher first doctors and teachers not allowed to record their patients or their students and second there are no ways but these things to deal with kids having autism and i just saw this video and i really doing as she said now and it works sometimes and sometimes you have just to leave the kid and walk away to show him that when he talk loads he will be alone and you will not have a communication with him so he will feel more save and more calm

[@seifalah0626]

As a teacher I can attest that it really does depend on the child (which is mentioned here). The best way to handle it is to try and prevent it. Know the warning signs with your child (body language, stims etc). You won't always catch the sign and you may not always be able to prevent but knowing when to intervene before it gets full blown is helpful. During, as she said you use whatever strategy works best. The best advice any professional can give (based on experience) is know your kid: sensitivities, calming methods etc . It's not easy but not impossible either

[@picachew6890]

calling it a "tantrum" is not quite right. i am lucky that i am verbal. imagine being non-verbal, and not being able to say "help me, the lights in this shop are so bright they feel like my eyes are burning/ the itching of the seam in my sock is driving me crazy/ the smell of that floor cleaner is overwhelming, etc" and the screaming that happens is not a tantrum , it us a response to the stimuli or upsetting thing that is freaking the person with asd out. sometimes if i have a bad meltdown (though mine are more like freeze-ups, i go inside of myself, frozen, mute, was s.m/ selective mutism for a year or two as a young kid.) i can't speak. maybe a word or two,a sentence, if am lucky. people see that as being rude ,i'm sure. it's not. i like politeness, kindness, overall just plain decency like. 'scuse the long comment , just wanted to point that out, how it is not the same, at all, as a tantrum. thatsa behavioural response to not getting one's own way. a meltdown is very different.

[@krystalrussell2308]

I agree I'd rather use meltdown.

[@krystalrussell2308]

They need to use more items that'll help in communication.

[@nathanalves3284]

the trick is to know how to differentiate between tantrums and crises because parents often end up confused with each other

[@TrevorDuran3390]

I hate you

[@juniormako6184]

With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on KZbin, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏🙏 thank God kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

[@andyvan5692]

I have Autism, and this IS the right way to deal with it, not a tantrum, but a 'Meltdown", our senses/ informational load have gone overboard, and we don't know how we are feeling, how to express it to others, or even how we "calm ourselves". we are Learners too, we BOTH need to find ourselves in the journey, work out what calms us, how to avoid triggers, what they are, early recognition of these, stress, extra calm time in routines, for expected stressful events to cope better with it ( know it is coming, and calm well before the storm). we are NOT BAD children, just a brain that has overloaded, and doesn't know what to do :-)

[@juniormako6184]

With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on KZbin, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏🙏 thank God kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

[@pizzabagelzmanning7277]

I have autism and I often freak out and I am trying to learn how to be calm

[@dennycorsa5760]

I'm glad you commented correcting the term "tantrum." I wanted to do the same.

[@andyvan5692]

@@pizzabagelzmanning7277 a few things that helped me are: music (tapping your hands and feet ARE Neurotypical behaviours :-) ); chocolate, esp the dark or White kind, peppermint tea, or peppermint icecream; hobbies (any fidget toy, book relating to interests), at home, esp. at night after a long day having some "isolation" time, to cool off; if you are invited to a party\ event which is expected to be crowded, having 1-2 hours of "hobby time" to slow right down to keep any anxiety to minimum (may still feel it, but not at meltdown\shutdown levels); if going to important appointments, have a trial run with a family member, or support worker, this puts the Anxiety in the meeting itself, not that + getting there on time!; if you have anything you like the touch, smell of, then bring it with you (have a standard "kit" bag, you take with you to events, with basics, not just keys, wallet, purse, but to have these sensory things with you to); keep a diary, or callender, and plan 1-2 weeks ahead, esp. if a lot of stuff is going on, this allows you to factor in breaks, or hobby time to keep anxiety in check.

[@andyvan5692]

@JulieHalo great to hear, but this is Management of the stress, NOT a 'cure' for the Autism itself!!, what the herbs are likely doing is acting on the gut or brain chemicals ( I am no scientist, doctor, etc, just a pwld), like the chocolate, I described in the posts above, it allows distraction( on the good taste,texture, or the 'dopamine' hit, this positive stimulus gives you), and gives you (the asd person) control of your response to this stress, by "controlling the stimulus"( the herbs, in this case) and making it positive, that your brain WANTS, not what it hates!, and by controlling this, the brain is dealing with less input, so can redirect this power to more constructive activities.

[@tinker_lol]

I’m autistic myself and these meltdowns happen a lot combing my anger issues with my sensitivity is the worst mix ever to get me into

[@rileybentley6644]

What really needs to happen is for parents AND teachers to be on the same page, by teaching self regulation skills. It's called "conscious discipline." You see your child is having a hard time. You get down to their level and "listen to them" (if they're capable of talking, and "study their body behavior." Tell them what their facial expressions look like ("I see your face is frowning and your eye brows are lowered. You must be having a really hard time. Let's show that we can be STARs (Stop, Take a deep breath, And Relax). Do you remember how we can be STAR's? Let's do it together. We are calming our bodies. Breathe in.... Breathe out. You are a STAR. You are Important. You are SAFE.") Repeat the breathing exercises until they are no longer needed. If they like hugs, ask them if they need one. Do not tell them how they are feeling because you may misinterpret their face. When they've calmed down, do not punish them. They have already had their consequence. The true consequence is the emotional feeling they've already felt. In their mind, they're probably thinking, "I shouldn't have drawn on the wall, but I did it anyway. Now I have to clean it up." Follow through with the clean up process, once the child has calmed their body. This technique should be used with parents of all sorts of children because self-regulation, just isn't taught or practiced at typical preschools and public schools. When children learn to sooth themselves and can say, "I feel mad, but I know I can handle this," you've created a confident child, AND a happy home.

[@Amysbiblereads]

Thank you so much for this x

[@7kings41]

Riley Bentley that maybe work when there younger but when they grow up you talk to them like that they'll think you're calling them a baby if they see you talk to then differently they'll get mad (but clearly they all react differently not all of them get mad or yell at small things).

[@bbqueenyourobots5253]

I agree teachers and parents should be on the same page.

[@spellingwithmatteo]

Beautifully said! We have a similar take on it, my son, Matteo has autism and he has changed so much with many similar techniques. See his progress...www.matteomusso.com or our channel here on youtube. Thanks for writing!!!!! LOVE!

[@IR0N1]

To much reading plz next time make it shorter for the simple minded thanks

[@eljoemissiletoe3438]

Thank you lady . Single father have 9 year old in the spectrum and you are explaining alot!!! God bless you! Understanding our condition allows us to help ourselves and each other

[@juniormako6184]

With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on KZbin, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏🙏 thank God kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

[@lunazeismann5253]

This lady is missinformed your child is having autistic meltdowns not tantrums theres a huge difference.

[@ajarofworms7]

“Tantrum” is not the right wording “Sensory overload leading to a meltdown” or just “a meltdown” is better wording It’s great! But as an autistic person, don’t call it a tantrum

[@joanofarcreal]

yesyes this exactly!! i hate people calling it a tantrum, it makes me feel like i'm just a toddler who can't control my emotions. also nice pfp :D

[@acdsvm4685]

My 5 yr old had a tantrum / meltdown because she wanted to hop on the bus after dark in the cold and go to mall ( closed) I couldn’t talk her through it she was t hearing me but was crying screaming “please mommy continuously... I stayed quiet close to her but she gets more worked up saying I’m ignoring her ? She wants a response yet isn’t happy with the answer which was no we can’t go right now it’s dark cold and late .... what do you do ? I was very overwhelmed so I gave in because she’s autistic she just wouldn’t understand why we couldn’t go

[@juniormako6184]

With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on KZbin, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏🙏 thank God kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

[@ajarofworms7]

@pristinejoel8802 where these prescribed to you by a licensed doctor or psychiatrist? (genuine question, not meaning to sound rude!)

[@dragonflysagatiaej4833]

It’s NOT a tantrum. You don’t know what you’re talking about. Fear, sensory, anxiety overwhelmed etc. Those cause meltowns. It’s not a tantrum.

[@juniormako6184]

With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on KZbin, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏🙏 thank God kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

[@hannahj9575]

When an autistic kid is in sensory overload IGNORING THEM IS THE ABSOLUTE WORST THING TO DO instead give them stim toys (blocks, playdogh etc)

[@njrvlogs9916]

If we don't ignore my son when he has a breakdown he will continue on his path of rejecting everything and everybody to no end. The only thing that worked for us was to leave him be to calm down from the situation. I would have a certain toy he likes waiting for him to discover and he would play with that until he fully calmed down, then he would approach us and we could discuss his feelings. This is the only method that ever worked for us.

[@juniormako6184]

I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now

[@fortheladies771]

@@njrvlogs9916 Same here with my daughter

[@alleycat616]

Depends on the is which she talked about

[@bbqueenyourobots5253]

I have Autism and it's not always the case of some bothering me at the moment, it could be something that is from a week or few days after the trauma has happened. That cause to tantrum.

[@thefemalethunderbirdsnerd4068]

Bbqueen Yourobots, me too

[@jerrysmith8326]

I don't believe you.

[@pamelabibby8642]

i get like that aswell and i scream due to bad thoughts i have aspergers syndrome I scream because of times I was bullied or when I was in a abusive relationship im in a care home now where im safe but I still get tired and scream out I don't get violant thou

[@anabar4411]

@@thefemalethunderbirdsnerd4068 do you think there is anything someone could do to help, especially if a child is feeling that way?

[@joanofarcreal]

@@anabar4411 hi, sorry for replying a few months late! if an autistic child is having a meltdown it's almost like having a psychosis-induced panic attack - there's no way to stop it, you just have to take them somewhere where they'll be safer and can't physically hurt themselves or others and sit with them (if they want you to) until they feel better.

[@lumenpierce8583]

Tantrum? You mean MELTDOWN.

[@maiyapercy]

Yes, exactly.

[@beauke41]

@@maiyapercy Also can be called an emotional outburst.

[@alleycat616]

Same thing different word

[@BecR-R]

I believe this video is relating to toddlers with autism that also have tantrums that progress to meltdown? I’m not sure but that’s the vibe I got from the thumbnail

[@notserenity]

Redirect- distraction. Ask what they want. Remain calm. Encourage an activity that calms. Music, books, bubbles. Ask them if they nedd a hug, a touch. Let them know it's ok to be mad- sad. Use words. Take a break. Alone or with you. Reward desired behavior! ABA in every day language.

[@niceguy6064]

1. Bring out the belt 2. Let them notice it 3. If tantrum consists strike with the belt

[@juniormako6184]

I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now

[@newbeginning981]

It is really hard I wish I could understand my daughter she's only 3 but I am trying and not giving up on her ever 🙏🏾

[@parentingbeyondbehaviours6382]

It’s so hard, we wish we could see into the brains. ❤️

[@juniormako6184]

With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on KZbin, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏🙏 thank God kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

[@Charlotte49]

Just know that you're not alone, we're struggling with our 4 year old, but we love him so much!!!

[@user-ev9sw4ee8j]

I get the herbs too and it has been helpful on my child autism spectrum. All traits are gone with her speech and focus and attention is good to talk about.

[@zeldapope1563]

Yes I agree

[@poppandabebo9672]

I know this video is old but I'm going to put my two cents in As someone who lives with kids with autism there is a complete difference between memorizing some textbook passages about autism tantrums or "meltdowns" whatever Than actually dealing with the child going through the act . Anybody with a doctorate or degree can memorize a bunch of words , passages and pages but until you're actually with that child Hands-On seeing and dealing with it you will never understand. No amount of test books articles can ever prepare you for the real thing. If anybody really wants to learn tips or tricks on how to handle a child with autism who's having a upset moment find a channel dedicated to autism like real family channels with autistic children and how they handle it.

[@juniormako6184]

With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on KZbin, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏🙏 thank God kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

[@lunazeismann5253]

Just to add to this, asking autistic people about autism is another great resource for your child, there are a lot of adults on youtube that talk about their experiences, some have kids with autism too. but I would stay away from any aspergers channels that is a nazi term and its insensitive to jewish autistic and autistic poeple with high support. needs

[@srldwg]

​@@lunazeismann5253asperger's channels have relevant information too. Someone who uses the term asperger's is not bad because of Hans Asperger's acts.🙄 There is no such thing as high functioning autism. You need to educate yourself. The beginning of this comment was great and extremely helpful though!

[@WilliamsLovesToLearn]

i agree. its best to have both information🙏

[@melricho6934]

i think it's called a meltdown, not a tantrum

[@bigboibigboi8326]

Mel Richardson no it's both

[@chelsealaverick6300]

Tantrums and sensory meltdowns are not the same thing. A tanturm is caused by a child wamting something and they can ve stoped or contorlled by the child or paremt at any tome however meltdowns can not and oftem leed to blackout (spaces of time where the child is unable to contoll thier actions and after are unabel to recall thier actions) this of coures form personal experiance

[@jinnymudlark1815]

Please do not let's get hung up on terminology - the child is extremely upset and is unable to communicate with the spectrum of actions that is available to non-affected children - importantly, including speech and even shouting. They can hurt themselves or others; damage property, etc. Two things needs to happen - one is that the explosive behaviour needs to be contained and calmed (effectively, and by a person or persons who is/are calm) -- and the second thing is that the child needs, to the best extent possible, involving patience and time, to be taught that the behaviour is not alright. However, before these two things, distressed-based extreme behaviour in a child with autism might well be predictable and there are almost always signs - and ways to avoid trauma and distress for the child, and ultimately for others. Thank you (from Australia).

[@BLsKLs]

@@chelsealaverick6300 They don't often lead to blackout. That's actually not super common. It's usually the case that a meltdown is just extremely distressing and causes burnout, but most people can remember their thoughts and actions.

[@thomaskang9382]

how i started to deal with my 4 year old autistic kid in public was to take him out every day, rather it was a local park, a mall or a zoo... i had always taken him to an open environment with lots of people so that he can learn to interact with people correctly..

[@stevenbuell5387]

Very good i done the same it works over time

[@stfuyoutube423]

don’t try to “fix” your child and who cares about what you think is “interacting correctly”

[@juniormako6184]

I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now

[@alleycat616]

@@stfuyoutube423all of the people they will interact with throughout life will care. The child turned adult will care. The better and more normally functioning they are is better. Reduces chances of getting bullied, socially isolated, not being picked for a job and having other negative issues throughout life. Sadly the world at large outside of their school teachers aren’t going to care that they have autism (most likely won’t even know because They are ignorant to recognize it) and will just consider them “weird”. Most aren’t going to get “accommodations” and catered to as adults especially the higher functioning ones. So yes we must do all we can to try and socialize them and get them functioning as best as we can, for their own sake to have the best chance at life. Obviously this is going to be a lot harder for some on the spectrum than others, but let’s not pretend that the real world doesn’t work the way it does.

[@janetaguilar1]

What happens when aggressive behaviors are activated when another family member is present?

[@maryellenthompson8261]

Good question.

[@juniormako6184]

With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on KZbin, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏🙏 thank God kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

[@Strikerkong]

fight back or avoid the situation if untrained on such a situation.

[@apples7361]

I'm an adult with autism and I had a sort of tantrum in a and e because I could not get home. The nurses were really helpful to me

[@juniormako6184]

With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on KZbin, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏🙏 thank God kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

[@user-ev9sw4ee8j]

I get the herbs too and it has been helpful on my child autism spectrum. All traits are gone with her speech and focus and attention is good to talk about.

[@des1859]

How’d you go about it

[@user-ev9sw4ee8j]

I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now as his speech and social skill has improved

[@user-ev9sw4ee8j]

@@des1859 I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now as his speech and social skill has improved

[@acdsvm4685]

What to do when 6 yr old continuously throws whatever is next to them when having a meltdown? She flipped the coffee table and threw the remote 😫 how do I get her to stop the throwing or hitting ?

[@cindylambert6333]

My grandson doesn't want to obey but have his own way

[@amberallen4181]

i learn by seeing and doing so i need someone to show me what to do. My son screams if i don't let him play with my phone, once he gets the phone he throws it when he gets frustrated with, its a cycle that repeats so if i stop giving him the phone its not going to stop the screaming.

[@juniormako6184]

With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on KZbin, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏🙏 thank God kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

[@YuliyaValnytska]

Try giving him a stress ball to squeeze and or throw.

[@paigeditchburn2440]

There not tantrums , there more meltdowns

[@Joey-lq1xk]

I took away my son's my little pony privileges and he flipped put. Thanks a ton

[@Joey-lq1xk]

LittleBot It was a joke

[@LucysLifeInTheBabyAliveWorld]

Guys like my little pony apparently.... So I don't think you were joking 😂

[@netty1221]

🤦🏻‍♀️

[@cadanboynton860]

very epic

[@Sailormoonfan88]

Joey next time take away minutes from an activity he likes for example playing on a i-pad. When he is acting aggressive or not okay say, "if you continue this behavior you lose 1 minute of playing on the I-pad" Walk away but stay where you can see and hear him. If he continues say okay daddy has to take away one minutes of you getting the I-pad. Make a visual so he can see it and they may help as well since most autistic children are visual learners.

[@stfuyoutube423]

they’re not “tantrums”, they’re meltdowns

[@juniormako6184]

With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on KZbin, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏🙏 thank God kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

[@stfuyoutube423]

And exactly why is youtube hiding the 2 replies?

[@bipolartorecovery1485]

what if you have "tantrums" as an adult? i wish that there were more examples and resources for adults on the spectrum, especially for females of all ages.

[@howtoteachscience]

I like that you put tantrums in quotes. They're meltdowns and adults on the spectrum have them. Meltdown and overload just is. You can go on Facebook and find many wonderful groups for adults on the spectrum :)

[@richardsequeirateixeira]

Tantrums are tantrums. It's like disagreeing with the colour red when everyone else is saying it's red.

[@lynild]

Richard Sequeira a Tantrum and a meltdown is two different things imho. As I see it a tantrum is due to something not going like a person wants it to go, and a more or less concious reaction to try and change that, somewhat of a try to control by manipulation. Whereas a meltdown is due to some sensory overload, that the person cannot control and was not prepared for, or a build up of many things, that simply is filling up the cup, till it cannot hold anymore, and it has to spill over. Most people probably have meltdowns sometimes, but it’s more likely that people with asd’s cup simply fill up easier, and they don’t have the ability to see it comming and retreat to a place of privacy, like most people prefer.

[@luciusrex6709]

Why especially for females ?

[@Kendorable]

@@richardsequeirateixeira calling an autistic meltdown a behavioral tantrum is like calling the color blue as the color 7.

[@ikelove.]

Video did nothing for me

[@queenjillian3995]

I’m 21 years old and I sometimes have anger issues and my goal is not throwing a tantrum when I get mad my other goals are to not hit or punch myself and not pull my own my hair and most of all not carrying on

[@queenjillian3995]

I also am learning just how to deal with things that don’t always go my way and I also learn that i need to understand more important things

[@juniormako6184]

With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on KZbin, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏🙏 thank God kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

[@lunazeismann5253]

You are having meltdowns they are not tantrums. you cant help it, your body is having a natural response to being overwelmed, this lady is misinformed. The way to help your self is to accommodate yourself and meet your needs. Please dont feel bad for something that is out of your control. Im 24 and still have meltdowns because my needs arent met

[@vikaskhantwal]

My son is 6 year old, has autism and right after school when we pick him up, he would run towards train station which is close by, he has great liking for trains, earlier we used to take him to train station within the city was ok, but now he would like to take train to the airport and would like to fly, if we dont do and tell him no, he would have ''tantrums'' he would go to extent of pulling our hair, sometime we have to lure him by telling him that we would give him candy or mobile phone to play with etc. but this has started causing problem now. Does anyone have any suggestions? my son has very limited verbal skills, we have several time used cards, but he would not look at them, would throw them in the air.

[@betsyforever32]

My son was recently diagnosed with Autism

[@sirenmoth]

betsyforever32 Aw I'm sorry,but you'll handle this out.I'll pray for you and your son 🙏🏼I have a brother which has autism and I can't even handle him I didn't have time to become a kid nor teen I had to grow up already and my mom is a single parent again well shes not single but my dad is gone rn.

[@netty1221]

Mine too...it is not easy at 2 and a half...my son is unruly but so sweet at the same time!🤷🏻‍♀️

[@TorontoChick25]

@@sirenmoth this is what I'm dealing with right now. My oldest child's life has been drastically effected by his younger brother and his behaviour. I'm unable to do much, if any thing, with my older child because my younger son can't handle public situations or even activities at home. I love them both so so much, but I can't help but feel kinda guilty for how it's effected my older son's life. It's not easy being a single mother of an ASD child, but it's even harder for an older sibling to handle it at times. My ex husband couldn't handle any of it and abandoned us all recently. I would never give up on my child, but it's definitely not an easy life by any means for any of us.

[@chloeann2641]

Make sure it's not a meltdown tantrums are different but can be mixed upped and most of what your saying is symptoms of a meltdown and can't be helped it's not like when a kid misbehave it's uncomfortable and awful so make Sure you work out if it's a meltdown or a tantrum 😣

[@howtoteachscience]

EXACTLY! I thought that before even seeing the video.

[@Vylsith]

Even using the term tantrum with autism is somewhat awkward. Not that autistic children can't have tantrums, but tantrums aren't the problem. They're really easy to deal with compared to meltdowns. It's like the entire video is just obviously not made by someone who has been around autism much. It's pretty annoying.

[@juniormako6184]

I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now

[@GamingPenis]

there should be a tantrum counter in this video

[@tastybite195]

Give pratical video

[@jaimiec3233]

my wee nephew has autism he threw 2 tantrums he hit my sister my dad and he was going mad he was wanting to get out the car,from what my young 6 year old niece said (his twin sister) said he bit her when he got mad and just threw a tantrum and he climbed over the seat and tried to get out the door. The 2nd one We didn't go on the motorway so he threw a tantrum saying "mum, i'm taking off my seat-belt" and then my sis said go on but you will get me thrown in jail. I told her to pull over because i felt sick. My very young niece aged 4 was at the front window while my sister was in the middle controlling my nephew and he bit her arm and my 4 r old niece was just crying at the window it was rolled down so dad carried her out she was cuddling his legs ;( we where both crying it was so scary, at one point my dad had to hold him when he was trying to get out the car and my sis pulled him down back into the car and rolled up the window enough so he can't get out and hurt himself he sat in the front seat and that makes him calm down. When he calms down my sis will usually try to make him laugh and make him happy and when we get back he runs to his room it's like his house my 6 yr old niece told me. I don't mind it all and I know he doesn't mean it and it's not his fault at all.

[@Joey-lq1xk]

Little Anime Gamer weeaboooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

[@jaimiec3233]

Joey ?

[@Joey-lq1xk]

Little Anime Gamer k

[@jaimiec3233]

Joey ?

[@milkncookies4632]

Five years later you’ll never know what they meant

[@chelsealaverick6300]

dont know what this ls lady is talking about but we do not have tamtrems we have sensery overload and that is what causes the blackouts

[@howtoteachscience]

THANK YOU for saying this. My first thought at the title was woman, they're not tantrums, they're meltdowns. There's a huge difference. Typical of an MD. I wonder if she even has a child on the spectrum.

[@madhumitachakraborty8540]

My 5yrs old is verbal. & his common tantrum is he wants to bath for long hours like 2hrs & more. Sometimes he want to get shower for thrice a day for long hours. If we stopped him he started to cry. & that also for long hours. I feel helpless.

[@StijnHommes]

This is so offensive. When a child with autism acts up like this, it is not a tantrum. They are not trying to get their own way like a child with a tantrum would. They are frustrated at being unable to communicate what they're feeling. It's more accurate to call it a sensory meltdown.

[@juniormako6184]

With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on KZbin, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏🙏 thank God kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

[@a13xlaircey666]

I have learned to just say "My emotional state is extremely hectic, I have alexithymia and cannot pinpoint exactly what I feel but I believe it is either frustration or rage, but is definitely on the "fear" end of the "love/fear" continuum. I HAVE no coping skills left am completely drained, and I DESPERATELY need a solution NOW!!"

[@juniormako6184]

With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on KZbin, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏🙏 thank God kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

[@LAURENTI98]

I have aspergers syndrome and my son is 3 showing signs of some kind of autism, he hurts other's and every day is a challenge.

[@LAURENTI98]

@Sean Gloria Ty we have tried chamomile tea before bed, it actually makes him hyper instead of calm. We do give him melatonin before bed so that he can get a good night's rest.

[@KXKURT_kuro]

2/17/22 February ((This happened today in school I got a new IEP Chromebook and my teacher didn't know about it I have autism I'm in 9th grade and the teacher didn't know how to react with autism kids and she yelled at me and I freaked out So this video should help some of the teachers in my school TYSM!!!

[@juniormako6184]

With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on KZbin, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏🙏 thank God kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

[@browntownasmr2001]

Sister*

[@MrDude-so3jg]

Very unhelpful my autistic person won’t stop having tantrum :(

[@myworldautistic670]

Maybe it's not a tantrum. Ever think of that? I love that she is explaining that it might not be bad behavior or defiance. But this is why we have to use the correct terms, tantrum vs neurological meltdown.

[@ThaliaEatsDonuts]

She literally put quotation marks on the word Tantrum

[@mailitedd185]

@@ThaliaEatsDonuts Yes. She did. But because people still often think it's a behavioral issue, it's really important that the definitions of the words are made clear.

[@ThaliaEatsDonuts]

@@mailitedd185 right this video is for people who wrongly use the word tantrum It got people to correct their thinking :)

[@juniormako6184]

With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on KZbin, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏🙏 thank God kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

[@CatholicOnTheSpectrum]

The first step is realizing it’s not a “tantrum”. It’s an autistic meltdown and there is a significant difference between the two.

[@alleycat616]

Not really. Just a different word essentially meaning the same thing. One just has the context of having autism as the cause. It’s just semantics.

[@vanessabayardo9788]

My boy tells me to go away. Obviously I am not going to go away and leave him there in the front yard.

[@Sailormoonfan88]

If you son is on the swing set or in a safe area going away could mean let him have some space. Sitting on the porch or a chair where you can see him is a better solution. He may not like you hovering over him.

[@vanessabayardo9788]

@@Sailormoonfan88 it's my nephew. My mom says I am overprotective. XD!

[@Sailormoonfan88]

@@vanessabayardo9788 I get it. You just want him to be safe and not all autistic children understand you are watching them for their safety. Have you tried a social story with him to explain why you can leave him outside by himself?

[@vanessabayardo9788]

@@Sailormoonfan88 he is 3 and a half. I am not sure he understands. I know he understands pizza, outside, etc. Idk if he would understand storytime. Edit: I am still going to try. Thank you!

[@ZombieMan1997]

Mine wanted a Walmart cart and I said no. He's been screaming for almost ten minutes now.

[@TorontoChick25]

Mine will scream until someone calls the police.

[@alleycat616]

@@TorontoChick25honestly I’d just do a curbside grocery order or leave them at home with other parent I wouldn’t be dealing with that but that’s just me.

[@EyesOfByes]

Give the person a really heavy object to throw, punch, bend or smash (into pieces, for best physical relief). That or distract him/her, kind of like Inception you plant another thought. It's the same action and chaos in the brain in both cases 😏 And equally difficult to change it.

[@milkncookies4632]

EyesOfByes I have meltdowns and yeah that really helps, I throw stuff and I rip stuff apart, I once ripped my favorite drawing (at the time, it’s really bad to me now lol) and I was so sad after, I also ruined something else I made out of toilet paper tubes. It’s kind of like I’m not myself.. like something chaotic takes over me in a blink of an eye and I can see what’s going on and I feel the anger and I know I’ll regret the stuff I do but I do it anyway, I have no self control and I fear hurting people. I’ve hit my sister but not to hard thankfully. I’ve ruined stuff I’ve really like and messed up my bed and cried and screamed in to pillows, sorry for ranting here-

[@juniormako6184]

With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on KZbin, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏🙏 thank God kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

[@Reema006]

My son is this with transitioning 😡 he flies off easily when transitioning and starts targeting others immediately

[@howtoteachscience]

Yeah my son still does. He's 17. We've had to learn to set a timer and give advance notice every time. "Hey son, we're leaving to go get groceries in 30 mins." Meltdown prevented.

[@stevenbuell5387]

My son does tbat at times. When at home we send him to his room to cool off there than allow him out. Rocking and holding on a tantrum no. Lady you or a idot

[@juniormako6184]

With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on KZbin, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏🙏 thank God kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

[@YuliyaValnytska]

You can try showing him a visual/physical schedule which adds predictability and can help a lot!

[@julieclifford7698]

Why are they having the meltdown…? Something changed? Being Oppositional? Redirecting them.. some held .. some need to be given their own time (rather than ignored) A cry for help.. to be safe or what is bothering them.. sensory emotional overload Discomfort or frustration.. give them something to do..

[@mysticqueen3551]

*Meltdown.

[@UrLocalTrainLover2K8]

I have Autism.

[@kylekuchinski281]

I have Autism, and I don’t think it’s a blessing because I hate how I’ve been having disabilities and how I act and I’M SEVENTEEN YEARS OLD! 😢

[@charlenepym8398]

My child who is 4 Years old is non verbal and always tantrum when we are in the shops food court section. Whenever we go there to eat, our son always cries. It's so frustrating

[@charlenepym8398]

@@Joesgamesntech that's the truth.

[@charlenepym8398]

@@Joesgamesntech but I am hoping my son will get better as soon as he gets help from our NDIS.

[@Sailormoonfan88]

CharmingCha,Try seeing the world through his eyes you have no idea how it feels to see hear smell everything all at once and have your brain process it all at once. So try being a little more patient and understanding!!

[@acdsvm4685]

Maybe because foodcourt lots of noise and people is too much for him...

[@juniormako6184]

I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now

[@sparta944]

this cured my meme addiction

[@sparta944]

no wait it made it worse

[@marymackay9582]

Woll Smoth

[@zenfitnutrition8908]

Change the vibration down on your knees Eye level with child make the child feel safe ,hug the child ,light tapping on the child’s head causing vibration massaging the shoulders arms hands .getting the trapped energy in the head to flow from the head to the feet 💪🏽✝️💪🏽 Faith Prayer believe and love ❤️The healing powers from Jesus are Glorious blessings ..

[@ruthrosey9220]

Have you come across Alternative Herbal supplement on youtube, it did alot for my non verbal son who was diagnosed with Austin..

[@jacobfoss1944]

Does xanaxx work to make them quiet

[@mistyfullmer6120]

You handle it by telling your kid to be humble.

[@sirenmoth]

Misty Fullmer lol it looks way be its not its like training a tigger....but I still love my bro but sometimes O want to abuse him

[@TorontoChick25]

What? I'm gonna tell my 6 year old autistic child to be humble and all will be well? Lol Okie Dokie! That's great advice...right up there with "pray for him". Geeeeez people you can't be serious.

[@charlee8082]

thats worse than the ol "ill pray for you" or "calm down"

[@Zackislivid]

Idiot

[@colleenc1993]

I have high functioning Autism 😀👍

[@browntownasmr2001]

I'm 10 and watching this for my teacher😑

[@helloimnormalright9873]

When my sister have a tantrum it's like she's jumping and screaming, but it only stays for a few seconds

[@juniormako6184]

I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now

[@FilthySoapCore]

Its hard when the normal rythm (or what was predicted in the head) is disrupted, that causes panic attacks. At least with me

[@ashleymurphy1485]

Best way I’ve heard it explained!

[@juniormako6184]

I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now

[@maiyapercy]

Stop saying tantrum when you are talking about a meltdown.

[@CommanderGreex]

Show him sonic videos. Gotta go fast.

[@IRL1v1s]

R8 gr8 m8 b8 I 8/8

[@ryancarpentier3408]

IRL1v1's GR8 B8 M8 10/10

[@mrgiraffemanwithaguitar6660]

CommanderGreex how about girls?

[@juniormako6184]

I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now

[@MissPinkapples]

Tantrum’s/ meltdowns whatever its the same ppl.. yes I’m a therapist don’t come for me..

[@swissarmyknight4306]

Well then "therapist" you shouldn't be working with any autistic people because you're incompetent.

[@thefemalethunderbirdsnerd4068]

I have autism and this actually quite useful. I get frustrated quite easily and before I went to a autistic-friendly school I was an easy target for bullies. Not only do I find letting my frustrations out hard, I also find decisions hard too! Trust me!

[@juniormako6184]

I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now

[@maryellenthompson8261]

These strategies may be good for young children on the spectrum, but what about an oversized eleven year old with tantrums and aggression?

[@juniormako6184]

With the gradual using of dr Oyalo herbal recommendation for autism, whom I met on KZbin, my son is totally free from Autism with his speech cleared and behavior ok as he now respond to orders and act right. Thank you doc Oyalo for your help. I am Greatful 🙏🙏 thank God kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

[@rbc7497]

How to sensibly buy LEGAL cbd oil that can help manage autism symptoms? Because I got a letter saying customs has confiscated my package two times already and I’m pissed.

[@allisonclark2290]

Been there done that. The only place where I was able to purchase cbd legally was this verified place here bit.ly/2AqEi2r Fast shipping, great quality.

[@punk3388]

The correct term is meltdown. Not Tantrum.

[@petafraser1639]

This is too vague sorry

[@gp4310]

Sometimes it’s not really a tantrum it’s more like a meltdown but like same thing ?

[@mannyperez1890]

Sike I'm kidding I got no daughter 😂

[@GROZNAYA]

Give that kid some weed.

[@ablockofcole]

It’s Not A Tantrum It’s Meltdown It’s More Of A Sensory Overloads Or Social Barriers So If You Take Your Child To A Store And They Break Into Pieces It’s Either They Are Spoilt Or Their social overloads get to the best of them

[@Igloodawg]

nice meme

[@charlee8082]

@@Joesgamesntech probably, hes clearly an "edgy" 13 year old white boy

[@jenbustos830]

OMG I just saw the doctor on this video for my son's consult all she does is to yawn in front of me like really she should take a nap or something! lol

[@TorontoChick25]

I had a doctor tell me to give my child benadryl. Like here just drug him and put him to bed. Smdh

[@bashkillszombies]

"Getting down to why the child has autism." Ooosh, she slipped there. She knows it's your fault for drinking while pregnant! :O

[@goldengaming0818]

Autism isn't caused by drinking during pregnancy..

[@milkncookies4632]

Okay sometimes most likely, caused by Drinking Smoking Any drugs in general while pregnant leads to higher risk of autism in your child, but even if you don’t you could still have an autistic child, but if you do drugs it’s more likely to happen :^

[@cherieuk4488]

@@milkncookies4632 crikey if that were true I think that there would be a whole lot more autistic children in the world. It isn't.

[@lewisgamer637]

@@milkncookies4632 other causes: genetics higher than average testosterone in the womb older parents

[@provenhardcore8702]

Try vaccines!

[@GN_ZA_Novachrono]

No help at all, could of read this on a google search and limit setting…. You do that with a 2 - 3 year old with high functioning that doesn’t understand why or why not he can’t get something or do something.

[@pamelabibby8642]

i like nice smells aswell I scream when I feel people are depriving me off something just because they thing im disabled is it always a trantrum is that fair even when the autism person or aspie person like me feels there being tormented

[@bkackmagic555]

photoshop super sayian hair on thumbnail

[@sarahgallucci8550]

This only works if they are not a teenager.

[@francescabragalone7577]

In italiano

[@kelvin3280]

The woman at the beginning looks like faze rugs mom

[@Eshx8]

It's not a tantrum, it's a meltdown. Geez, such ignorant

[@kek-vy1fu]

00:20😂

[@erikacontreras7320]

*MELTDOWN*

[@sarahgirl50]

Who is this woman.........were arent tantrums they are sensory overloads. ..... What she's talking about is not autism!

[@screenapple1660]

Need Application that removes harmful contents on autism. I don't like KZbin. I need FTC and COPPA kick in the system. What happened? Ads screwing kid's minds.

[@BLsKLs]

This woman has no idea what she's talking about. What the hell, Howcast? This is so effed up.

[@stevenbuell5387]

Let her deal with it i say lol she has no idea of it as will

[@Wrightley]

??? Great advice.

[@od3910]

It's not a tantrum it's a meltdown. Learn the difference before acting high and mighty

[@alleycat616]

🙄

[@tytyiska13]

This advice is not for children on the spectrum. Who is this person? Howcast needs to re-do this video with someone who specializes in ABA therapy or a child neurologist who specializes in autism.

[@jinnymudlark1815]

ABA is just 'dog-training'. It is an important component part of the whole way in which children with autism are helped. However, it should be known for exactly what it is. It is not 'therapy' - it does not cure anything. Also, it has been subject to considerable questioning and criticism.

[@antoniocollazo2021]

tytyiska13 a tantrum is when your kid wants something a meldown is when your kid gets overwhelmed and becomes unstable a kid can control a tantrum he just cant control a meltdown

[@sarahstrong7174]

Janine Mudaliar It can help to facilitate interaction and build usefull neural pathways to enable the sufferer to extend their abilities. A lot can be done with ABA.

[@freepublicity467]

Janine Mudaliar you know there is no cure for autism, right? However, behavior analysis is the most empirically backed method to treat autism. And do you realize that you learn the same way that dogs learn? Fun fact.

[@howtoteachscience]

EXACTLY!

[@mannyperez1890]

I just give my daughter a bottle of NyQuil

[@sarahstrong7174]

manny perez Thus building substance dependency. Thats actually child abuse.

[@alleycat616]

Hope you’re joking, otherwise way to announce yo everyone that you’re not only an idiot but engage in child abuse/drugging…

[@WibbsTheAwesomeGamerHD]

They won’t help

[@nataliekresse7869]

Not helpful at all!

[@ponca14635]

The answer is beatings

[@goldengaming0818]

No, that would make the meltdown worse and trigger a panic attack making the child be timid and nonverbal.

[@TKDCuber]

This person has no idea what she's talking about.

[@coco_b]

I have tried watching this a couple times but can’t get through because you are calling it a tantrum. This video is just not helpful, “see what works and do that”??? okay thanks🤦🏻‍♀️

[@OmEgA766]

Nobody understands but the parents that deal with it! Doctors read books and give you there opinion but the fact is the parents that deal with this 24/7 are the true heroes . We live it daily hourly minute by minute second by second . Only way is through prayer and the Lord he will answer all your questions seek and ye shall find believe on him and he will take you through the fire!

[@WibbsTheAwesomeGamerHD]

😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡 oh my goodness other people are so rude