Don't Give Up: Raising a Child with Autism - Julie Hornok

Julie Hornok’s daughter, Lizzie, was diagnosed with autism at age 2. As a self-proclaimed “fixer,” Julie automatically dove into 30 hours of therapy per week trying to connect with her daughter. Julie considered her faith strong when Lizzie was born, but she relied on herself completely instead of relying on God. Evenutally Julie realized Lizzie’s autism was something she could not fix, no matter how hard she worked. As a result, Julie learned to find her strength in God and rely on prayer. Julie went on to help other mothers walking this same journey, and she wrote a book, United in Autism, to provide a resource she desperately wishes she would have had when Lizzie was diagnosed. In this interview, Julie will provide hope and encouragement to parents of children diagnosed with autism.
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[@bjemaja]

My child is special needs. This message is for all parents who have a child or children who are special needs.

[@beauty2193]

My son is diagnosed with autism. It is really painful and hard to raise an autistic child.

[@DillonColtMusic]

Try being an autistic child. I find it funny that you parents can only talk about how hard it is to raise an autistic kid. It's like you have no empathy for your own children.

[@Hobbit2024]

Do not give up

[@booksquidadventuresinhomet6856]

There is no final grieving stage. It isn't actually just about getting over your child not having a typical life or being their longterm caregiver. There is constant trauma to grieve...every day your chold bites themselves or smashes their head into a wall or suddenly comes out of nowhere to try to strangulate you. There is the grief of seeing your child suffer severe gastrointestinal pain that no supplements you try no matter how expensive can seem to alleviate. There is the grief of seeing your child get weird stares and overhear rude comments while they stim, the grief of seeing in their tear-filled eyes the frustration of wanting to communicate better. Day and night, on and on. Nope this isn't something that improves just by gaining acceptance of a challenge. It is ongoing torture.

[@Knowledgeispower444]

I give my son probiotics and it has help him with his stomach problems. Just do ur research and choose the right one

[@DillonColtMusic]

You think it hard being a parent of an autistic kid? Try actually being the autistic kid.

[@bethr8756]

Wow your post left me speechless! Do you get any relief?? Does she go to school??

[@bethr8756]

Difficult?? It sounds horrifying

[@user-ev9sw4ee8j]

Your herbs has work wonders in my family. Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.

[@Scrumptious7]

I am a homeschooling mother of several special needs children. This was amazing to hear, but I am struggling everyday. I have no help or anything. So it's a blessing you have the help. I have my husband, but he works.

[@dontlosehope4937]

I'm really sorry, I pray for strength for you. They need you be strong my sister

[@booksquidadventuresinhomet6856]

Having help is the elusive remedy that so many of us simply do not have.

[@kathyandrews6808]

I’m a divorced mom of two. My son is on the spectrum and my daughter is diagnosed with ADD/ADHD combined type. I homeschooled after watching the public school and a private school fail them both. After two years of me failing to educate them at home I again enrolled them in school. This time we tried a school that specialized in dealing with children who have special needs. They have thrived and I’m so glad I have found this school! I pray you are able to find the right balance for your family.

[@user-ev9sw4ee8j]

Your herbs has work wonders in my family. Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.

[@hadast3806]

I have no issues with my son having autism. My issue is the fear of IF he will be self sufficient once he is an adult. The fear of if he will not be able to work and take care of himself, who will take care of him when I am gone? 😢 That’s what scares me, not s person whose brain is wired differently.

[@miffedcuttlefish6139]

Me too. I feel it with you. But we have to pray that the Lord will keep ours. That he will protect them and help them now as children and when we're gone. I SO feel you. I have accepted this life, but I cry whenever that thought comes back.

[@hadast3806]

@@miffedcuttlefish6139 yes you are so right we need to pray for peace and wisdom and prepare our children the best we can for life in the real world.

[@miffedcuttlefish6139]

@@hadast3806 i don't think it's wrong to feel sad and scared, but I think it's always important to remember that prayer is the way to peace and to teach our little ones to do the same. The Heavenly Father is the one who grabs peace beyond means comprehension.

[@hadast3806]

@@miffedcuttlefish6139 it’s so hard sometimes - my son completely changed right around turning 4. 🥲 I never noticed anything else going on that gave me concern except a speech delay.

[@resolute1922]

You are not alone. I'm scared, too.

[@sharonhill318]

This bought tears to my eyes ... thank you. I have a 5 yr old waiting for an assessment and at times it feels a struggle. Keep doing God's work.

[@user-ev9sw4ee8j]

Your herbs has work wonders in my family. Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.

[@jaysonphillips6899]

I am a single dad raising a son with Autism and I feel like I did ok getting him to 18 but I have no clue what's next for him as an adult. I worry all the time about him and what will happen when i'm gone? I just wish I had more help from the government, I am trying my best to give him a normal life (driver's license, job...etc)

[@nancyk5203]

Same here. It's scary.

[@cilikponpon]

Same here too, single parenting for a special need kid, always worrying

[@eunicetwum-osene2699]

My heart goes to you. I'm praying for you three 🙏 ❤️

[@user-ev9sw4ee8j]

Your herbs has work wonders in my family. Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.

[@vynedvyne59]

Thank you for acknowledging that the crushing had nothing to do with her. I am her I am 45 I live to share Jesus Thank you all for this blessing 💜

[@thedruiddiaries6378]

Many children are simply developing landmarks in a different order. Never 'assume' simply start exploring the possibilities. None verbal people learn to speak and sometime the stress around speaking is too much. There are infanit possibilities. Find what is, the right food, right environment and find ways to ask your child regardless of your religious/spiritual beliefs. ❤

[@user-ev9sw4ee8j]

Your herbs has work wonders in my family. Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.

[@roxannacontreras8021]

I needed to hear this today. Thank you.

[@DillonColtMusic]

I just thank yall for helping to reinforce the fear that i as an autistic person may never get married or even have a girlfriend.

[@ndivhuwonengovhela6279]

Thank you so much for this. I’m going through the grief and total surrender of my will and vision for God’s will and vision over my 2 year old recently diagnosed son. Thank you for the clarity regarding the suffering, that always gets to me, but I’m truly encouraged to learn that it has everything to do with Gods will and not punishment to my baby

[@focusonthefamily]

Hello, friend. We value your interest in our broadcast, and appreciate your sharing with us about your son’s recent diagnosis. Please be assured of our prayers for your and your child. We’d like to make ourselves available to discuss your situation with you over the phone. If you’d like to speak with a member of our staff, Focus on the Family has a team of professional counselors available who would be pleased to take your call. They can also provide you with referrals to qualified Christian therapists practicing in your area. If this option appeals to you, contact our Counseling Department for a free consultation Monday through Friday between 6:00 A.M. and 8:00 P.M. (MT) at 1-800-A-FAMILY (232-6459). May the Lord's wisdom and hand of grace direct your steps in the days ahead.

[@bolinhong2598]

This doc helped my son improve and get over autism with his herbs His name is Dr Oyalo on channel on KZbin My son has improved and completely responds to his name with lots of understanding like never before Thank you Dr Oyalo

[@briellemills8716]

😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

[@user-ev9sw4ee8j]

Your herbs has work wonders in my family. Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

❤️much needed message especially for back to school for those who struggle and have to go the alternative route .

[@user-ev9sw4ee8j]

Your herbs has work wonders in my family. Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.

[@roviellelinao]

This is such a wonderful video. The wisdom is truly amazing. It gives comfort and hope. Praying that all Moms in here will have all the strength and wisdom to raise these amazing kids. 🙏

[@user-ev9sw4ee8j]

Your herbs has work wonders in my family. Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.

[@deerich09]

Thanks for this video gives me hope for my daughter

[@TheStevenstv]

We have 2 girls ages 8 and 9. The 8 year old has NF1, had open heart surgery, had a feeding tube, 10 months of chemo and autistic. It’s very tough on our other daughter. Therapy and help is very sparse. It does not get better. We are always told, your the parents, deal with it. We are in a small town. Her doctors and specialists are in 2 large towns, each hour and a half away, different directions. We are so tired!! She also only sleeps 3 hours a night, all she needs for her day. This is killing my health. We are told it will not get better. The struggle will continue with more challenges added on. I have lost hope. Each day is just struggling to maintain as much normalcy as possible as our other daughter hates her sister because she is so different. She has therapy, not helping in any way. Even have tried different therapists etc. we are so tired, don’t feel this is a gift at all, I’m sorry to say!!

[@nancypone5854]

I'm so sorry to hear this. I have 7 chikdren and several of them are very high functioning asd...and just that has nearly destroyed our families life and nearly our marriage. Until Christians can have compassion on families who have kids with disabilities the same way thry do for the poor and hungry and unborn, I don't see how special needs families can ever be a part if thr church. We struggle to just make daily life work at all, much less tolerable. Policies like uniforms and behavior constantly eschew us from participating in church education and fellowship. Then we're expected to serve others in some aspect of traditional church ministry and volunteer roles. Wake up church.

[@angelamgray8255]

⁠​⁠​⁠@@nancypone5854On my gosh. Ive seven chikdren too and I’ve five with ADHD and three getting tested for high functioning ASD. I’m also getting evaluated myself. I cannot find any support church-wise. We either are not believed or have people who say we want attention or excuses for their behavior. Or most just leave us alone. I feel like an outcast. I’m also a sped teacher. I have seen how we’re so much better at diagnosing and understanding the general differences of even diff levels of autism. But the services and ways to get diagnosed are severely lacking. It’s not a disease or a sickness..it’s a different type of wiring and brain type that goes across every race, ethnicity and human out there. We are better at understanding what Autism is but we still have a long ways to go. This is esp true of support of ND and NT parents who are raising autistic and ND children. This also needs to include special needs and children with mental health issues too. Different behaviors, outbursts, emotional regulation, sensory overloads are due to different wiring and nervous systems. Depression and anxiety go hand in hand with these because as ND individuals it is truly hard to survive in world where you are square peg fitting in a round hole. But where are secular understanding of autism is, the Christian support and understanding is very much lacking. 😔

[@marjoriebennett8443]

Julie, what an awesome "MoM" you are.

[@marjoriebennett8443]

that is SO noteworthy. "There was a struggle within him, that we just couldn't figure out"!!!!!!

[@estherjoseph8011]

Thank you for sharing

[@elseach6005]

I had 3 kids. 1st - middle difficulty to get to cooperate and do homework and whatever we needed 2nd - the MOST difficult to get to study, learn or cooperate with the family so I finally had him tested and he was diagnosed being boarder line ADD . They were going to allow him to do only 1/2 of his homework accommodate him but I chose not to do that because even though it would have made both of our lives easier, I couldn’t allow him too learn only 20 out of 40 weekly vocabulary words. I’m so grateful that I made that choice now because my son just last month, thanked me for not putting me in special ED and for not giving up on him by taking him to regular schools, adult schools and finally Jobcorp to get his GED and CDL at age 23 but he DID it and I’m so proud of him, working a job FT in his own apartment and trying to start his own business. 😎😘 3rd- EASIEST to get to cooperate study, learn and do what we needed her to do , but she might have been motivated by two things: 1- her extreme love for 🏀 2- she watched my struggle with her brother and decided that she wasn’t going to go through his struggles. She did ALL homework the minute that she got home from school and started practicing her dribbling and shooting hoops. Thanks

[@bjemaja]

Thank you for your words.

[@JeanjeanBautista-ct2qd]

I have also my only boy an autism... I love him so much

[@marjoriebennett8443]

I used to think it was about "me" too!

[@justmorenoise]

Surrender is a powerful thing. God’s will God’s way.. it’s nice to see people value the broken just the way they are

[@Scrumptious7]

They are not broken, so please don't use that term. I will never see my children as broken.

[@bjemaja]

Sanchez is right. They aren't broken. What we think they lack, they make up in other areas.

[@bethr8756]

There is no one answer. Each situation is Unique

[@elnedalimi590]

😢😢😢 I have my son with autism I am so sad and I cry evry day but only one thing doesn't let me go down than I am I can't wait for him to talk to me 😢😢😢

[@harlandfriendofgod6108]

I like the new Jim; but the old James "Jim" Dobson was better at books; What wives wish their Husbands Knew about women; What Men wish Women knew about Men,. The Strong willed child, etc. the best of the best in books. But this talk is one of the best I have ever heard : as an adult this is making me feel like someone is hitting a nerve, congrats!

[@user-ev9sw4ee8j]

Your herbs has work wonders in my family. Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.

[@sashasun596]

It’s hard for me cause I not only have an add teen but I’m do it as a single parent w out the spiritual financial or help from a career by partner instead I have added pain for my teen and me is that the father fights us in court it’s hard enough and see the families that struggle with ads have a good relationship and money it is so hard for me

[@user-ev9sw4ee8j]

Your herbs has work wonders in my family. Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.

[@My3.Boys.]

As a parent of an asd child, how do you even take your asd child to church? It’s a complete struggle for us. Its easier for over come this disability if your asd child can communicate.

[@booksquidadventuresinhomet6856]

Yep. The vast majority of families with special needs kids do not attend religious services. It can be an insurmountable challenge to participate.

[@user-ev9sw4ee8j]

Your herbs has work wonders in my family. Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.

[@lemt.6753]

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@JeanjeanBautista-ct2qd]

He is 4 years old now but we don't have enough money to send him for theraphy😭

[@hadast3806]

Watch as many autistic related channels - KZbin and TikTok and try to do the therapies yourself at home. Remove the child from bread entirely - the gluten turns into sugar in the blood and can make them more hyperactive. I don’t care what anyone says stop vaccinations - the chemicals worsen them as they go straight to the brain - my son got much worse after second mmr/tdap - took almost 1 1/2 year to being him back to normalcy. Give lots of vegetables in his foods (chop tiny) Lots of water Help child with sensory needs - if sensitive on head massage/comb area gently to get them used to. Pray and don’t give up!

[@swastikamahatmarani4674]

Try to learn the VBMAPP. You can do home-based therapy by yourself with ABA-Verbal Behavior technique.

[@edveengreen8744]

Same

[@zaemc8254]

I am at the end of the rope. I keep on questioning why my child had to be born this way. I really have given up. To the point I am looking towards giving her up it pains me but i can’t continue like this. I’m tired of the screaming. I don’t even understand why she is always screaming I’m tired so tired

[@farrynmonet4639]

I'm going through the same thing. Sitting here looking at KZbin videos to cope with this pain and know that I'm not alone😢

[@user-ev9sw4ee8j]

Your herbs has work wonders in my family. Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.

[@vorpalinferno9711]

Tell that to Bob and Barbara Chandler.

[@bethr8756]

Who are they?

[@user-py2lh7zv3h]

Your herbs has work wonders in my family. Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best

[@Tanyaarmstrong]

Sickness - IS NOT GOD'S WILL....Pray, and seek guidance from the Holy Spirit. And see what the Word (bible) say's about God's Will. Step out in Faith, and see what God's word say's about infirmaties....it hurts me that "we unite in Autism" like...NOOOOOOOOO don't unite with imfirmaties...Fight it! With God's words - Mark 11:22, 1st Peter 2:24

[@TTG1973]

First…autism is not a “sickness” your brain is wired differently than the typical person. Secondly those, including myself, are God’s creations. Yes unite in autism b/c a support system is necessary. This comment is nonsense.

[@Tanyaarmstrong]

@@TTG1973 I could say so much about your comment but it would take up my entire day. 1. When your brain is wired differently its called a disease (sickness) unnatural, not normal...etc etc... 2. There shud only be a support group uniting in prayer for deliverance...etc etc... 3. Because what I said didn't line up with your normal beliefs does not make my comment non sence...think b4 you speak, or better yet, seek b4 you speak.

[@bolinhong2598]

This doc helped my son improve and get over autism with his herbs His name is Dr Oyalo on channel on KZbin My son has improved and completely responds to his name with lots of understanding like never before Thank you Dr Oyalo

[@nataliecole9472]

Obviously you haven’t had a child that is autistic. So super spiritual, you are out of touch. That’s the failure of the church. Rather than loving and embracing people with neurodivergence, you choose to pray against the non existent devil.

[@ema3852]

​@@pristinejoel8802😅

[@bethr8756]

Kinda sounds like a demonic spirit

[@manuelmedina4617]

I hope mime never comes out like this. Such weakness and a burden to both parents

[@MN-it3tv]

Weakness lot of them are super intelligent and with the right supports they can thrive and about burden.. I love my son and no amount of burden will stop me fighting for him

[@miffedcuttlefish6139]

It is a burden, but it's not FOR the weak. The weak falter and shy from this life, even their own. The strong face it bead on with faith.

[@thetexastradesmenmorningsh2969]

The richest man in the world, Elon Musk, has Asbergers (a form of Autism). He sends rockets to space. He has created electric cars. If what he has is considered weak, then I HAVE GOT to see your resume😀