How to have a conversation

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I used to be completely unable to hold a normal conversation for longer than five minutes. I would constantly run out of things to say and feel overcome with crushing anxiety as I clamoured to string together a passable sentence.
I was one of those "I hate small talk" guys... not ideal.
While this video is kind of me just making fun of myself, I squeezed in some actual lessons that I've learned over the years of becoming something resembling a normal person.
Hope you find it funny or useful.
Channel overview:
A few years ago, I was stuck in bed, hating the universe for subjecting me to the 'sick and twisted game of life' without my consent. I was pathetic.
It was only after I realized something very important that things began getting better... life didn't suck; I did.
In the absence of friction, my mind was conjuring its own, so life was hard, yes, but it didn't have to be. The suffering was unnecessary. After a few years of incremental progress, I'm having the time of my life. I've never been in better shape, my mind has never been sharper, I've never experienced so much happiness, and it's all rooted in a deep sense of meaning that was once absent.
I had to shake myself of lots of old beliefs and patterns to get to where I am, and I believe there are millions of other people who feel stuck and could learn from my mistakes. So that's why I'm starting this channel: to share some of the insights that formed the foundation of the psychological habitat I now occupy.
I don't know exactly how the channel will develop but I'm going to start by posting my raw ideas as that's the only thing I can consistently do at this point in time.
I hope it helps!
Socials:
Instagram: @angelo.somers
twitter: @angelo_somers
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[@slimysoap966]

I see you going down the same line of many self-improvement KZbinrs. I would say that you're approach is different and more natural, but definitely headed towards the same direction. You have changed your life; other people see that and therefore heed your advice. You are creating a community around yourself, which isn't bad, but it causes people to put you on a sort of pedestal. With great power comes great responsibility sorta thing, don't lose yourself

[@Mishaalikka]

Interesting

[@heroicdragon]

this guy is hilarious

[@quasar8589]

This is why Angelo is the goat, he doesn’t lie, he’s just real and real helpful

[@Anuhumn]

An accountable soul. Noble you are!

[@JanEisJan]

Very good video! I like your style and overall layout. And thanks for making the community free 👍

[@alphanomega888]

Bro, love the choice of Gnossiene no 1 in the background

[@lmao_tse_tung]

Thanks for saving me a search lol

[@Jj1312jj]

You are my new favourite youtuber.

[@VishalPatel-yt9ut]

This content is like food for my soul. Proper sharp comedy. Keep it real, your videos may not always get the view count they 'deserve' but just keep it real because youtube is slowly fading into a realm where being genuine and authentic is fking rare

[@PantsFN]

Great video! Very funny.

[@niklaskox8408]

If you need examples for bad conversation just take the three conversation I had in the last 2 months that weren't with my parents or my sister.

[@Just-chilling978]

What’s your method of measuring those things, and where would you place those “good” “great” “bad” “terrible” conversations, and why? And could it be that you misinterpreted the actual experience of it? And could it be that the results of the conversation was not in line with what the moment demanded for it to result in a not so pleasant outcome?

[@Just-chilling978]

From trying to understand to leading to a desire to be heard, those two things can affect how you interpret and interact with someone

[@Oluwatobi_21]

No way I'm the first to get here... I love your stuff man

[@AngeloSomers]

my guyyy

[@Oluwatobi_21]

@@AngeloSomers you actually legit inspire me to start a KZbin channel talking about stuff like this ... I've got the whole idea for the first video down. You may not know it but thank you.

[@TheMediti]

Bro .... ❤

[@TheoSomers]

Let’s gooo 🎉🎉🎉

[@LaytonObserves]

Deadpan British humour make my brain go brrrr

[@EddieTuckerIV]

You are fucking incredible

[@Wasaby50312]

I love your Exurb1a style videos. And you're hilarious too

[@a-craft6978]

The thing is I can have so good conversation irl. But when it comes to chatting via text i am so deeply lost. But nowadays it's impossible to just not chat. It gets even worse with Girls. Online I'm missing out on the ability to use nonverbal communication. So if any of you had the same problem regarding online communication please let me know if theres anything i can do better...

[@AnthonyWasiukiewicz]

This is a conflict between haha and care emoji time.

[@zye__]

glad you got this far bro, hope you remember me

[@playpal9950]

Basically, try to be natural which could include silence without feeling the need to be a try hard or fill every silence with dialogue. Also, try to be self reflective on how cringy what you say is. If it sounds like it’ll be weird or inappropriate, don’t say it.

[@mrsmart6638]

What quarter zip/ zip sweater are you wearing? Looks great

[@Just-chilling978]

Those metrics are “perceived metrics” leading to a false perception of what truly happened in the moment of measured moment, it’s not easy to measure the outside of the house when you’re not leaving the room, the rule of the obvious observation is just being in the moment and act accordingly to what’s appropriate for the moment, yet don’t contradict your values, also if you make a mistake, it’s usually how you react that can either save or kill a moment, especially how you present the situation, even if you make the mistake of saying something that might hurt someone who’s unable to do those things, like the simple act of walking, one who’s in a wheelchair, well one would probably apologise or say no offence, would emphasise the idea of what the other person lacks or lost, or you might try and make a joke, yet the way you said it, or your words choice with the emphasis on some words lead you to be not just rejected but meet by becoming one of them, or the joke went well, it’s also a question of knowing the person and knowing what they would like for a joke or a tease, saying what you think is less about your thoughts, and more of “admitting the reality of your experience” it’s less about just sharing what you thought about this and that, and more of sharing what your thoughts are on those things and why they would make you like and dislike those things, awkward science is more of a perspective and a discomfort of the absence of movement, yet silence is what can cause more movement in most things or situations, from knowing if the opposite is interested to finding a moment to observe others and suddenly find a new thing to converse about, sharing your perspective, and why one thing in such a way, yet one cannot deny that silence can help clear up your thoughts, it’s like having sand in your glass of water, the kore you still, the more cloudy it becomes, yet the moment of silence can allow it to calm down and clear up the thoughts and ideas being shared and expressed by the other, silence is the loudest yet most important part of a conversation

[@Just-chilling978]

Take note that all this was for various sections of the video

[@thedeaner3117]

Ain't reading allat. Learn how to use a period.

[@ekzoskelitN]

how... did you max tizm into conversation. this is game breaking

[@AlterAbility]

Hi. How do we access Compass?

[@Oluwatobi_21]

The one thing affecting your views for these really good videos is your thumbnail... I just analyzed the first video of you channel I ever watched "a video for when you doubt yourself" and I came to a conclusion that may reveal why it's the most watched on your channel... The thumbnail... Then there the one about life.... They're all simple and convey the story hidden within the video... These ... Aren't Just advice tho, and yes, I'm watching this video again!(Don't judge me)

[@Ernesto_pestocubes]

I findtheidea of nottryong to fill silences intresting

[@sebalondon73]

Be careful of the Messiah complex, there's a book of Collin Wilson that I really urge you to read. Rough Messiah, it's widely available online 😉

[@vfxstar7019]

wow wow wow what's with the Batman hate, that's me

[@AngeloSomers]

Was waiting for this comment hahahha

[@SuperKrischan]

Holy crap, this was hilarious. Love your Humor, but I think you're going a tiny little bit too hard with the humor, toning that down to about 70% would improve the video even more.

[@kurChina_pg]

Thinking the same thing

[@replicant357]

0:33 .. Clearly millennials are not the brightest of people, that song chosen for the Batman clip was originally done by “Nirvana”. Not to many to people who DONT like Nirvana or at least a few of there songs.. hmmm

[@AngeloSomers]

Bruh chill, I love divorced dad rock 🤘

[@ketz_165]

Found the divorced dad

[@replicant357]

@@ketz_165 .. hahaha .. What can I even say back to that.. well played sir. 🤝🏼 Checkmate.. damn!! 😁😁

[@lmao_tse_tung]

Pretty sure Angelo isn't a millennial lol

[@vengxance]

u cute asf